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I’d reckon the vast majority of men cannot emulate your experience on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:09 PM
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Men who have been single too long or haven’t gotten laid for a long time develop a very warped perspective on sex and relationships. They’d easily feel attached to a woman who pays attention to them and could easily just start a relationship without evaluating whether they like the person fully.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:13 AM
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Women will simply be commodities for rich and powerful men lmao. They’d be collected like how Dubai sheikhs collect tigers and the like. The men who work for these rich men would get to have turns with the women so that they have an incentive to keep doing what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:33 PM
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This doesn’t make sense at all. Women aren’t thirsty like men so if there’s a 1000 women per man most women will be happy to chill single in female communities. With too many men you would simply have so much war and rape. Women will just become commodities to be fought over and then raped
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:11 PM
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test suppressed men are also less productive and driven. Test is a double edged sword. We just need less men in the world. A very lopsided male to female ratio would be good for both men and women. There will be less crime and violence against women and fewer (if any) sexually frustrated men. I don’t think basically chemically castrated men are going to be very useful to have in society. Rather replace those men with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:51 AM
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If even 50% of people stopped reproducing the world will be in big trouble. I’d guess we would have to cull a lot of old people to the economy from collapsing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:18 AM
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Really the only solution is to engineer male to female ratios of like 1 to 1000.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:11 AM
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Gay men pursue risky sex with other men despite high risks in gay sex. It’s not really about risks it’s about sexual desire
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:09 AM
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Well testosterone is falling rapidly so your wish may come true… what we need is a better sex ratio though. No society should have an equal number of men and women. Women should outnumber men by at least 10x
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:24 PM
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Ultimately men are horny enough to overcome fears of safety. I’ve hooked up with dudes twice as large as me as a receptive partner and horniness just overcomes fear. This is why gay men are such an easy target for serial killers and such
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:18 AM
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Men just wanna get laid sometimes. Mediocre sex is better than no sex, a thing women don’t seem to get
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:01 AM
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So men can’t all be shit if men like other men no?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 08:26 AM
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Not really. Because men are happy to pick other men (see the stats on gay men swiping on other men)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 07:42 AM
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I’m talking about dating apps where both parties are presumably actively looking. I’m bi and it’s like 20x easier to get with a man on an app despite the number of bi and gay guys being far far lower than the number of straight women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:00 AM
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I mean it’s true though (it shouldn’t be surprising that it’s true; women are far far more selective than men and have always been so).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:45 AM
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Bizarre take. I know swipe left on less than 40% women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 04:19 PM
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Women don’t sleep with mid guys lol. They just have a harder time being into guys enough to sleep with them. I see this all the time as a bi man who hooks up with dudes with utmost ease (despite the fact there’s so few bi/gay men) vs with women I gotta do a whole song and dance. Men are harder to keep around if I want to date them though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 09:25 AM
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Where do you meet people after University?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:49 AM
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I think before the apps it was just more acceptable to ask people out at random encounters cause that’s how people met. I think with the apps, it’s easier to deprecate other approaches as bordering harassment. I don’t think I’ve met a stranger woman in a context she’d be open to even have a chat lol, let alone be hit on. Maybe I’m just not that attractive haha (thank god men aren’t picky lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 06:40 AM
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This is true not just with women but in success at the workplace. If the tech explosion had not happened, the successful people would be MBA jock types not nerds
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:42 AM
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This is true. It’s just that women can be losers and still have a good life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:35 AM
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You can go on dates to figure out compatibility, both sexual and personality wise. Women are less willing to “experiment” in this sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 05:01 AM
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On average women don’t have as much of a sex drive. Im bi and the number of men who want to fuck me is like 10x the number of women despite the fact that there are 1/10x gay/bi men than straight women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:27 AM
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I mean cmon, dudes are swiping all day to no avail. Thank god that I’m bi cause I get dick on the apps easy, but women are just much much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 04:01 AM
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End almost every woman I know in her twenties has used the apps at some point or the other to great success. I do think women spend far less time on the apps though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 08:04 AM
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The minimum wage typically does not bind for most workers. Roughly 1.4 percent of hourly workers made minimum wage or less (see BLS 2021 report); this excludes salaried workers which would make this a very small proportion of workers. https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/MEPAINUSA672N Look at this chart of real (inflation adjusted) personal income over time. Seems like this is the best time to be an American.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:20 AM
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Wages and employment for low-wage jobs are growing faster than the wages and employment for high-skilled jobs in this current inflationary period.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:18 PM
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I don't think most "incels" could open tinder and get with any woman, even a woman they do not find attractive in the least. That said, they could get a gay or bi man, and yes they do choose not to. Women often point out that them hooking up with an unattractive man is not analogous to a (straight) man hookup with an unattractive women, but more with a straight man hooking up with another man, in terms of the level of revulsion the act generates. I cannot empathize since I'm bi, but it does make…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:17 PM
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Yeah its probably for damaging for virgins/incels whatever to see escorts but historically most johns are not virgins; in fact most are married men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:23 PM
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The only way I can imagine this happening is with lesbian women who don't have a large enough pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:18 PM
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I don't think many women exist who couldn't get a partner on tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:14 PM
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Single older men just die too early to be miserable for too long hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 11:11 PM
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Very successful men tend to be very well educated and want partners who are very well educated. Men from Ivy league schools want to marry women from Ivy league schools.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:55 PM
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Male preferences have look like they have high sample correlation because they like more women, so the chances that some of the women they like would be the same is higher. Even then, men have attraction for so many types of women (chubby chasers are almost exclusively men). If you look at who women "like" on dating apps, you can see that the vast majority of likes go to a tiny proportion of men, suggesting that women actually have highly correlated preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:36 PM
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These days I don't but 10 years earlier women were easy (I'm 27 now for context)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 09:19 PM
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Yeah I mean people become especially closed off in this digital age once they leave college. If you move to a new city, it's practically impossible to make new friends since you're not supposed to be friends with/date people at work (at least for white collar jobs).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:13 PM
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I have the sense that a lot of women are extra fed up with dudes and just won't bother dating after 35+ if they are single because the supply of good dudes would simply be locked up in marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:02 PM
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The economy is not in the shitter modulo inflation. Unemployment is very low, the labor market is very tight, and the (real) wages are higher than prepandemic levels
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:01 PM
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well I am bi so dating apps are great for finding men (dating apps in general are great for queer relationships/hookups). But in the straight dating world, dating apps engineer a winner-takes-all type of deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:59 PM
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What systematic changes would you want to see? The elimination of dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:57 PM
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Dating apps reflect the innate dynamics of the dating "market". And there, it's absolutely a winner takes all game for attractive men (most people who didn't find their life partner in school or college use dating apps to get there).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:56 PM
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I think if you're like an Uber celeb with women throwing themselves at you, then perhaps you get sick if sleeping around eventually and might wanna commit to a relationship with a special woman, especially if you're family minded. I feel like dudes like Chris Hemsworth and Hugh Jackman are not cheaters because they probably had all the fun they could imagine in their teens and early twenties and sleeping with random girls got old.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:18 PM
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Yeah this is obviously true. Dudes are dudes. Very few gay relationships don't have open phases, for instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:16 PM
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I would reckon for the straight median normal weight and fat man, both numbers are practically zero. For gay men it actually makes a huge difference though. If you're fat you usually get interest from guys who are into fat guys or bears, if you are fit you get general interest. Regardless though, for gay and bi guys male interest is in plentiful supply.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:14 PM
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For women this is sound advice. For men you have to go a lot further than being normal weight to get matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:09 PM
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Switch teams is the best option. Gay and bi men are so horny for the other men, in a way that women are generally not (women have to be REALLY into a guy to act that way).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:49 PM
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Most mainstream and popular subreddit lean left and feminist. TwoX is one of the largest subs on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 10:47 PM
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Because rich people tend to move (either themselves or their assets) offshore to places with more favorable tax regimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:36 PM
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Unless you globally enforce a harsh tax regime for the rich, something which would require unprecedented international cooperation, this would not work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 08:49 AM
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Yeah for men who are looking for other men, dating apps are a gold mine since both sides are so sexually charged.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:36 PM
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Dating apps work best for gay men (or generally men looking for men). Next best is straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:34 PM
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It's a hangover from pre app dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 04:53 PM
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Dating apps have changed the world... But tbf it's the best time to get with guys. guys are so easy on dating apps it's like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 04:36 PM
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Dating apps have changed the world... But tbf it's the best time to get with guys. guys are so easy on dating apps it's like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 04:36 PM
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That man doesn't get matches on hinge or whatever is the most appropriate way to meet women. That man will get some attention on gay tinder though!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 04:34 PM
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Nah man the football and hockey teams in my D3 school had tons of sexual assault complaints and expulsions but women never stopped flocking to their parties. They'd only steer clear of weirdo loner types. i remember my friends and I were talking about a hockey player getting expelled for rape and how my female friends would still go to hockey parties because "but they are hot though". On Reddit subs like 2x or whatever, women complain about STEM nerds being misogynists in college but not a pipsq…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 04:30 PM
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Lol this is silly. Robotics is too far away from that reality. And honestly, why would you need "female" robotic home assistants?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:37 AM
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Lol and why would this be the case?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:04 AM
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Well we diagnose more now so it's hard to say. It's also easier to ruminate when your other needs are taken care of. That said, it might be objectively harder to get laid today than at most other times, because we get married very late and many don't get married at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:28 AM
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Standards are an equilibrium object set by supply and demand. They are basically like prices. When lots of women were into me like around 2013 or so I was insanely picky and only slept with really hot chicks. Now I mostly sleep with men or whatever women will have me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:18 AM
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I absolutely believe that even a 10 to 1 female to male ratio in modern western societies can be stable. Women don't need men but men seem to need women. The surplus women would be happy doing their own thing without men in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:15 AM
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It's easier in aggregate. Perhaps the era from the 90s on till like 2014 was better because of less social media but overall we are healthier, healthier, and -- dare I say -- happier than eher.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:13 AM
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Got to India
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 11:34 PM
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Being a human is easier than ever. 200 years ago you'd have died in childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 11:30 PM
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It's not just the financial aspect though. I find that women outside of the super rich countries just have lower standards for looks as well. I'm not rich but I do far better with one night stands in Colombia or Mexico than in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:23 PM
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Dude most incels couldn't get a match from even one woman on a dating app. How are they hypergamous?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:09 PM
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On dating apps it's certainly true. I'd be hard pressed to find a woman who doesn't get inundated with invitations to dates on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:07 PM
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There's probably unattractive men who would want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:02 PM
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But why aren't you like we men are with each other (i.e. for men who have sex with men). We fire up the apps and get some randoms to come over all the time. Don't even have to be hot to find a taker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:51 AM
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Money only helps after a certain threshold. A vanilla 150k won't do much. But 600k+ can certainly compensate for many shortcomings.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:55 PM
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We live in the most peaceful and stable times in history lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:49 AM
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Being gay as a man is just easier in 2023. All the apps actually work. Sure, men don't commit but who cares! We get laid more than straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:55 AM
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Oh I'd pay a man to penetrate me hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:09 PM
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Hahaha men and women seem to have a very hard time understanding each other's situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:04 PM
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Why don't women wanna fuck random dudes though? I thought women liked sex as much as men? Or was that a lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:01 PM
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Nah sexual orientation is not a choice. What will happen is that the pickier women will just decide to be alone and the more desperate women will pair up. It's actually quite optimal since crime will go down, there will be no weird incels types shooting up schools etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:17 PM
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Why will women care about finances when they make as much as men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:57 AM
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Yeah I think we need to engineer future generations in western countries to not have male babies. A ratio of 10 women to one man in a liberated society is ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:45 AM
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Hahaha oh man you really don't know how much people in top tech and finance make, even as relatively junior staff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:28 AM
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That's only on Reddit. IRL most young women have used dating apps with great success
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:25 AM
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Women are so selective that not playing a numbers game would leave most men alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 08:17 PM
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Insecure yes. Controlling no. Don't get me wrong. Jonah is a mess. But nothing he did seems remotely abusive. He just seems like a super insecure dude who most well adjusted girls wouldn't wanna date. But he's famous so he will never not have takers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 08:15 PM
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Enh I have a lot of money and no family and it's like what is this money even for lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:56 PM
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Here's one well-known PNAS paper that looks at the rise of online dating and how it specifically displaces one main way people used to meet earlier: through friends. Anecdotally, almost all single people I knew from the past 2 years used online dating to meet their partners; the women found long term partners within 2 months and the men had variable success. One couple got together through being in the same grad school cohort. They were the only couple with an offline providence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:28 AM
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Online dating affects the in-person dating market by making OLD the one acceptable venue to approach people, effectively making a lot of offline options seem creepy or predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:52 PM
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I reckon this is falling since offline relationships can only basically happen in college or highschool. If your college or highschool relationships don't last you gotta go online. I'm guessing most people probably won't marry their college or high school partners, so my guess is more and more people would meet partners online
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:51 PM
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People will never complain about this stuff in person. If anything, people might make up stories about how they are getting so much pussy or whatever. Who wants to out themselves as a loser who doesn't get any.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:42 PM
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Blue collar guys also have an old school mentality to dating. They don't feel afraid of asking girls out, they don't worry about getting me too'd or whatever. Working class women are also less likely to be super sensitive than college educated women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:17 AM
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Aren't most athletes in baseball and stuff conservative? I doubt they have a hard time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 10:26 PM
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Don't listen to this guy. Steroids fuck up your fertility so unless you've already had all the kids you were planning to have, don't do steroids. You can't usually undo the damage even with PCT.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:19 PM
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You know Kobe Bryant raped a woman while he was married to his wife? Can't believe you picked up this guy as your example of all things. Just about all famous athletes cheat on their partners, most of the time with an implicit kind of understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:05 PM
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Hahahaha 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:58 PM
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Unfortunately, with all things in this world, might is right. Women have now won the battle against the average man in western countries, but they will never win against the men at the top and I don't believe they even want to. Women enable the concentration of power in the hands of these men, not curtail it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:44 PM
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It depends. For men who are able to delay gratification, their testosterone and sex drive allow them to work and think harder. For men who have self control issues, their sex drive makes them dysfunctional.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:41 PM
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People are richer than they have even been (median real wages peaked in 2020). Idk where you people get these idiotic ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:33 PM
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When people move to new cities after graduating, they often get stumped because they don't have a preexisting group and they don't go to school anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:01 PM
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It's all part of the anatomical and hormonal differences between men and women that make women less into sex than men. You should hear trans men and women talk about the difference in sex drives after hormonal therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:42 PM
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Women don't have orgasms as reliably as men even while masturbating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:19 PM
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It seems, in your last paragraph, like you're insinuating that men are responsible for mediocre heyerosexual sex when really women are anatomically less predisposed to achieving orgasm: several women seem to have trouble reaching orgasm easily even from masturbation (clitoral or penetrative), which is hardly ever the concern for men . Gay men have a blast having sex and they never complain about men being bad at sex. In fact they have so many more sex clubs and orgies and what not than straight …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:50 PM
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I saw this post on r/dataisbeautiful and I remember posters there commented that the excess single women shown in some cities were largely widowed/divorced women above 50 who were not interested in dating. Women in their 20s and 30s were almost entirely not single.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:58 AM
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Why does mainstream media fight tooth and nail to convince people that women really enjoy sex as much as men when basically every post I see on Reddit seems.to confirm that ultimately women don't like sex much at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:41 AM
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But the number of single men always exceeds the number of single women. Are you suggesting that more women partner up with women than men do with men? That's plausible, although the magnitudes are important here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:36 AM
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This excludes sexually inexperienced people. I wonder if there are.more male or female virgins between 15 and 40. Id reckon male...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:34 AM
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Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:26 AM
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Dating apps is my guess. Men rarely ever get matches with women (but easily get matches with gay men) which suggests that women have high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:56 AM
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They'd still happily fuck a hairy woman. Do you honestly believe a woman could advertise being hairy on tinder and not have a horde of dudes trying to fuck her? I bet there fetish subs on Reddit itself which cater to people who are into that. Men are into all sorts of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:55 AM
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No dating apps have ever released stats on gender ratios. That will be a PR disaster and terrible for their stock.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:51 AM
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I had some of the best friends in the world from college and high school. They live all over the world though. The world has become more atomized. I'd love if we could all live in like a giant commune (kind of what high school and college were like for me, since they both involved living on campus). But most people are in long term relationships and careers and spread apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:49 PM
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Friends will never provide that kind of deep intimacy and bond in a world that is so focused on nuclear families. There would have to be a critical mass of people who eschew relationships and commit to living in some sort of communal setting in order to provide the kind of socialization that actually can be a substitute in some sense to the degree of human contact that a romantic relationship provides even outside of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:20 PM
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people stop living with their friends as they get older, precisely because they get into romantic relationships and move away from their friends because of their careers. So many people are willing to move locations for romantic relationships but very few people move for their best friend. Goes to show how much people really value friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 10:15 PM
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My principal point is that BECAUSE everyone makes romantic relationships the cornerstone of fulfilling their intimacy needs, single people become even more isolated. Coupled up individuals generally are the least prone to socialization and they settle into a type of domesticity that single people don't. The older you get, the more you are surrounded by people in relationships who practically only rely on their partners and a few old friends for socialization (this is particularly true for men). …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:44 PM
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Smoking and drinking are lower than ever and so is testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:38 PM
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I can't imagine women getting married in 2023 doing laundry for their husbands. If anything, couples these days are more like roommates who share a bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 12:15 AM
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Hmm, idk men tend to be romantics more than women these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:20 PM
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I see so basically an incels woman would succeed in the early stage of the relationship but then their partners would bail because they were annoying? That sounds like an annoying person in general, not necessarily incels behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:18 PM
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At least on Reddit this is how it works. Women on 2X etc never talk about the campus rape culture perpetuated by fraternities and athletes. They only talk about weirdo loner types creeping them out...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:09 AM
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Take the college example: we know most of the rapes on campus happen due to fratboys and athletes. Yet women make out the weirdo loner incel-types on campus to be the potential rapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 06:06 AM
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Western society is badly set up if one is to rely on these other relationships to fulfill their intimacy needs. People after college really drop off socially/become not open to finding new friends precisely because they get busy with their romantic partners and children. Thus those without romantic partners get even more isolated. Like it or not, there's a degree of intimacy that romantic partners are willing to undertake which friends, for whatever reason, are unlikely to engage in, and I'm not…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:55 AM
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yeah it took me a long time to understand (I'm bi so I see how gay men behave with me vis-a-vis women) but straight women aren't really straight. It's more like they are elite sexual. There's a top percent of dude they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:32 AM
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yes I do think for women 40+ that dating is probably very low priority for them. I mean women's sex drive also craters to a far greater extent than men's sex drive as they get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:23 AM
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A lot of this also selection: the men who get married are the richer, physically better off. The men who are poorer, sicker etc of course have a harder time getting married. If you believe that marriage is what causes men to be richer and healthier, then you have to find some quasi-random variation in marriage in men. Similarly, married women may be the lower earning women simply because richer, more educated women have higher standards for partners and thus might be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:21 AM
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for the women who don't want children it certainly does not exist. for those who do its a mixed bag, depending on how susceptible they are to social pressure from family/friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:09 AM
1

many people have friends throughout college and school but move away and then never make friends again. There's certainly a structural issue whereby people become closed off to friendships after graduating from college. They wanna just keep the few friends they have and their partner and not deal with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:07 AM
6

tattoo artistry requires innate talent with drawing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:06 AM
6

many dudes can't lower their standards: they get 0 matches on dating apps; there's nowhere lower to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:04 AM
0

its also hard to get hooker lmao. they charge like 5000 bucks an hour in the US anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:02 AM
1

Men are just about as happy as women being single IF they can get sex reliably.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:44 AM
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The problem isnt personality or desperation. It's hard for many people to meet people after they graduate college. And the people they would meet are not gonna be single. The only way to reliably find single people is dating apps and there the percentage of dudes who could get laid drops sharply.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:40 AM
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If that was the case more women would match with average dudes on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:37 AM
1

Yes but the difference is women may prefer nothing at all to casual sex, while men would prefer getting some to just their hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:36 AM
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Hahaha. I actually like this idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:31 PM
2

The only real solution to all of these issues in the long run is for people to stop having male children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:29 PM
4

They really don't care. I don't know why this sub makes this out to be some big gotcha that "ohh you American women are so picky and entitled! Fuck you, I'm going to Thailand". Like literally no woman gives a fuck if they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:23 PM
-1

I don't think any American/ Western women give two hoots about whether dudes are going to Thailand or whatever to find sex/girlfriends. I doubt it ever crosses their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 11:20 PM
1

This is true. Which is why for society it is optimal that we select for female children in a way to engineer the sex ratio to be 10-20 women for each man. That way everyone would be happy , the world would have less violence, the women who dont pair up would be happy being single, and there would virtually no incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:08 AM
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Nah black women probably still do better than the average white man, at least when it comes to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:00 AM
3

Good God this terminology is so annoying. God damn incels. Really ruin the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:44 AM
1

I mean, usually asking people out IS awkward for any gender. Usually we get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:43 AM
2

This is from 2005. A lot has changed since then...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:45 PM
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Nah women have more partners these days. I remember that sexual study from 2018 which has shown a big reversal in number of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:45 PM
2

There are tons of guys who love fat girls and would date them publicly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:24 AM
2

The point is just that men and women are intrinsically different sexually. It's not conditioning, or the orgasm gap or whatever (if anything, women's fewer and harder to achieve orgasms seem to be a symptom of their lower sex drives)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:47 AM
1

Most bi women end up with men. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:46 AM
2

I think it's actually optimal for there to be a male to female ratio of like 1 to 50 or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:43 AM
2

I'm talking about dates. Dates don't have to lead to casual sex. I'm not the biggest fan of casual sex either. But casual sex with men is what I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:40 AM
2

Why should men close the orgasm gap? Women have problems cumming on their own as well. Men don't blame women when they can't cum or can't get hard or whatever. In fact, there are super upvoted twoX posts where women complain about how their dude can't cum and how it's probably because he has "death grip" or some other speculative problem. And women are upvoting it and saying how the dude is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:38 AM
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Women have trouble orgasming even on their own in a far greater degree than so men ( I have two female friends who have never had an orgasm despite being sexually active and super sex positive)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:36 AM
1

I get way more dates and sex from men than women from dating apps despite the fact that there are probably 30x more straight women in my area than gay and bi men. Tinder simultaneously tells me that I'm not hot enough for women but plenty hot enough for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:33 AM
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I think old women are still very popular and get hit on a lot. Go see threads on twoX where they talk about this a lot. What happens is that old women are particularly fed up with relationships and want to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:29 PM
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Don't most women say they'd rather stay single and have casual sex every now and then than get tied down to non-ideal guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:43 AM
3

Women don't want to be approached by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:42 AM
3

I see virtually no single women 20-29 but loads of single men. idk how it works but maybe its just my type of demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:40 AM
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I'm saying even the casual sex market is easier. Women see western dudes and are attracted to them because Hollywood has made eurocentric beauty standards ingrained in us. I'm actually an Asian dude from an Asian country. I have seen this mentality. It's not really about the money in a lot of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:28 PM
0

Forget all the financial stuff. It's even tinder that's easier over there. I.e. the physical standards are lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:22 PM
1

Have you met indian Americans? Lmao. Chasing approval from white people is a large part of that social experience growing up. And then learning to let go of that and finding an identity independent of it. I'm actually jealous of how African Americans don't idolize white people the way we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:24 AM
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Yes totally depends on which country you are in and their history with the colonization.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:22 AM
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I mean dating is really hard in rich countries for these guys. Women have exceptional standards. Go on FDS and see all the talk about how "6666" guys are the only guys who are worth it etc. What are these guys gonna do? Sit with their dicks in their hands?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:18 AM
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It's not the rarity per se. It's this weird post-colonial type fetishization of white people. Many Asians have a bad mentality which sometimes borders on white worship. We see them as smarter, cooler, more beautiful, handsome whatever. Of course, not everyone or every Asian culture is like this but many are and it is definitely a phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:16 AM
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To be fair, Asians just generally fetishize and look up to white people so Asian woman would see a white man who is likely to look more traditionally masculine, taller etc and feel like he's a much better alternative to the short skinny guys around.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:13 AM
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The competition is way easier are you kidding? White men are loved worldwide so I'd they go to some Asian country where local men are shorter, less muscular, less educated and well-traveled, they are going to be outcompeted. Dating in America is hard because the average guy here is actually much more masculine and attractive than in the rest of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:10 AM
1

Yeah women being less "reliably ready to roll" is really the crux of most of these issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:38 PM
1

Are you a bi woman?if so, Can you describe this adjustment period?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:46 AM
2

What? Nursing homes are bangfests. Women of all ages receive attention from men. Men don't receive much attention from women at all unless they are very high status in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:44 AM
2

I mean, are 99% of lesbians single?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 05:41 AM
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Hahahaha. There's no chance this works.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:56 PM
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Men admit to everything. Yes many of us will fuck anything that moves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:56 PM
2

John krasinski is average? What are you smoking?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:55 PM
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Nah as far as I can tell those two had no interest in women. Perhaps they were gay or asexual, who knows? The point is that, work of the type that newton or Einstein or Tesla did is of course intrinsically motivating; however most people's jobs are not interesting or stimulating and thus you need extrinsic reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:11 PM
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I mean women are safer than they have ever been. I watch FBI files and women were actually insanely trusting in the 80s, willing to go to random strangers apartments for parties and what not, despite all the serial killers and psychos everywhere. Hitchhiking with truck drivers, getting into random cars, all when our phones weren't literally tracking us and we could disappear without a trace. I think people are a lot more careful these days in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:12 PM
1

Almost all these couples started dating before swipe apps became a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:07 PM
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I mean I know some practically virgin tech bros with tons of money. They date single mothers in their 40s and what not these days. The bay area is rough with gender ratios to begin with. And they are not lookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 01:36 AM
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1 is the main reason for this demographic. 3 is a minority of men. 2. Is kinda dumb because if men do have options and they keep not getting laid they will eventually sleep with those options.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:06 AM
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I think college aged/up to 25 years type women don't care, they simply go for the hottest/coolest guy. But 35+ women definitely do care about finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:04 AM
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Men turn to porn BECAUSE no woman will have them in relationships. If anything, women seem to be sick of being in relationships with men since all the household work falls on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 12:01 AM
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But if commitment nad sharing a household with a man is so bad, wouldn't you prefer just casual sex to relationships? Yet women keep claiming they prefer relationships to casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:57 PM
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I mean, meh women get to be with top men, cause men love variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:24 AM
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This guy said he asked women out IRL. Look, the truth is many guys won't find anyone. They just have to learn to be ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:03 PM
1

Well looks like you didnt even match with anyone morbidly obese so even those women think you aren't good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:00 PM
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Not really. Women basically have a large upper hand in both markets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 10:56 PM
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Yeah men these days are becoming better and less gross not more. But I think a lot of the gross stuff has gone online. Are you on dating apps? You might get blatantly sexual attention there. But you'd also get a good amount of genuine interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:31 PM
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Men here want relationships too. Hell relationships are the only realistic way these men would get consistent sex. But to get into relationships one actually needs to get dates and have sex, both of which seems insurmountable challenges to a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 07:29 PM
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1s and 2s don't want 5s lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:25 PM
1

Hunh? Women in the west actually prefer Western men since they tend to be progressive. American women even complain about Italian men who are apparently too pushy and sexual. Do you really think that American women are going to Thailand or Phillipines to get some strange? American men go abroad simply because they don't have options at home, not because they don't find the women attractive. Women have tons of great options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:23 PM
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But there's a reason why there's fewer women. It's because they hop on, find what they want, then hop off. For most women dating apps have been an absolute boon for finding partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:16 PM
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Nope. Where are all the "thirsty ugly " girls chasing after average men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:49 PM
1

Lol I can't think of any econ PhD cohorts that have any single women at all hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:43 PM
1

Yes testosterone and fertility levels are falling in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:38 PM
1

There's a difference between average and median.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:37 PM
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Nah I somehow can't square this. The number of young single women is kind of low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:01 PM
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Women do use dating apps but quicky find what they want and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:59 PM
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Right but women are naturally picky whereas men are not. So the top men would happily sleep with 100s of girls -- many of whom are very average -- with this new found social media access. Women are not likely to use social media to sleep with average men. Average dudes are just not their cup of tea. They only put up with them earlier because of social pressure, lack of options, and lack of financial freedom. In the state of nature, women would exclusively want to be with the few top dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:58 PM
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Right but women are naturally picky whereas men are not. So the top men would happily sleep with 100s of girls -- many of whom are very average -- with this new found social media access. Women are not likely to use social media to sleep with average men. Average dudes are just not their cup of tea. They only put up with them earlier because of social pressure, lack of options, and lack of financial freedom. In the state of nature, women would exclusively want to be with the few top dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:58 PM
1

America needs to open its borders.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:28 PM
5

Male prostitutes largely serve male clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 03:02 AM
0

The older women are single by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 02:36 AM
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Romeo Juliet laws dude. They don't criminalize sex between people where the age gap is small.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 02:35 AM
1

no more men being single seems to suggest that women are somehow joining harems around the top men, rather than actually being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:14 AM
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enh I dunno there are far more single men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 02:55 AM
1

What is a 304??
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 02:48 AM
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It's still rapidly become the only acceptable venue to ask women out since most other places have become inappropriate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:32 PM
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I can't think of a single woman who can't get 7 dates in 7 days on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:22 PM
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How do people find a community after college? Everybody seems busy getting married and dealing with kids so nobody really has time after work etc. If more people were single, being single would actually be fun (as is the case when we are in high school/college). When you're one of the few single people around, it becomes extremely difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:40 AM
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But of course men can't afford the 2000 an hour that Vegas brothels charge. I don't think Romania or Croatia are truly representative of consenting women. Eastern European women have been fetishized by many as being "easy" but this is because they are largely the poorest of white women. If you ever survey sex workers like those who work on cam sites, you often see that the vast majority of cam girls are working in some studio in Romania or Ukraine and they largely hate their jobs. The only ones …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 04:25 PM
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That doesn't mean you should act like some unhinged psycho asshole, unless you want to attract mentally damaged women. Be slightly provocative, show that you are not risk averse. Do and say shit that makes people go "oh my god who is he to do that". But also remember to be nice to be people. A boisterous asshole being nice is infinitely more interesting than some meek beta being. Of course, it's a fine line to walk and most of you autists will fail unless you do some serious social calibration. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:43 AM
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Why do women have options and men don't? Last I check there were roughly equal numbers of both...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:47 AM
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We can (and should) love our children unconditionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:41 AM
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If women were as horny as men they'd be as willing to fuck random men as men are willing to fuck random women. Ive never seen a woman who has a completely indiscriminate "a dick is a dick" philosophy whereas Ibe met plenty of men with a "hole is a hole" philosophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:40 AM
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I'm sorry but it is extremely hard to meet women outside of dating apps after graduating from college.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:35 AM
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That's good. I've also mostly been alone. The point is to get good at going through life alone. Dating is only going to get harder over time as women's boundaries become sharper. The last time in your life when you can just date people in your proximity is like college or if you're in a professional degree like an MBA which is just a degree for networking and partying anyway. Otherwise, you can't date colleagues (which includes PhD students if you're in a grad program) which is the only other hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:14 AM
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Believing that would only make many people who are struggling to find partners immensely miserable and thus even less likely find partners. One has to enjoy life in other ways to even be attractive to other people. It's weirdly paradoxical, but good things do happen to people who seem to crave them the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:50 PM
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Yeah. Honestly more men need to develop their lives in a way where a romantic or sexual partner is not integral to fulfilling their intimacy needs. Male friendships just do not fulfill that role currently (whereas female-female friendships DO). men are just so so thirsty it's ridiculously sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:46 PM
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Most people date online now. It's easier for women to vet /and or ghost without explanation if they sense any red flags. When you meet through friends or through a class or work you may get "trapped" together and thus end up with a person who you don't REALLY vibe with. For men this is valuable since it gives them access to sex, but for women it's not a good deal. Online dating really improved women's dating lives tremendously by giving them access to quality men not in their immediate circle, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:41 PM
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You go online and swipe right like everyone else. This is not 2012 anymore. You don't "approach" women as they usually don't want to be bothered while going about their day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:35 PM
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I mean that just begs the question as to why online dating is such a shit show for men. Isn't it BECAUSE men are thirsty AF and would do F anything. Or at least, there's a large enough mass of men who would do so who impose externalities on normal well adjusted men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:21 PM
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The point is that a number of men are actually willing to put up with women they are not attracted to for access to sex and intimacy. Men generally find it hard to fulfill their needs for intimacy without having a sexual partner. Women generally are not likely to be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:10 PM
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It's empirically true. If you do a data task for tinder (for a job application) they give you swipe data from a number of countries to analyse and make a markdown report. That data shows how remarkably unselective men are in both messaging and swiping vis a vis women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:05 PM
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What on EARTH are you denying this for. Men are soooo thirsty in aggregate that they have ruined dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:58 PM
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By "hot" the OP means that they are willing to date or at least bang them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:58 PM
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What bollocks. Why do men swipe right on everyone then? Why does every woman who looks a troll still get invited to nice restaurants for dates on bumble or whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:57 PM
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I think fi you're a woman you're much more likely to find a partner. But as a man you certainly are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:36 PM
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India is a really really terrible country for women. Reproductive rights are already good in most liberal US states. Abortion is not a big deal in India because India doesn't subscribe to abrahamic religions which talk about abortion as murder etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:33 PM
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Yeah the other apps are definitely the problem. The this kind of app had a monopoly and the equilibrium effect actually was that women started going out more, that would be very helpful for the average man. The more women meet men "in the wild", the more likely the search frictions would induce them to actually couple up with average guys they vibe with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:55 PM
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But women's standards actually get inflated due to the online market. Women find men attractive irl they wouldn't have swiped on online because online the competition is that much tougher
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:38 PM
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Why would average dudes not get matches? If women don't get matches they would be incentivise to keep searching. Their standards would get lower (this is true because many women find men acceptable IRL when they wouldn't have swiped on him on the app due to the insane competition).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:03 PM
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This is actually a good design but I suspect women won't actually want to use such an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:00 PM
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Just go on the apps. People are scared to ask people out in person these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:03 PM
1

Have you tried using dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:01 PM
1

Enh not really. Men are usually lonelier and have fewer friends so they need romantic companionship more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 09:21 PM
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Good God first world women complaining about their "risk" is rich. You people will never be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:30 PM
1

Wow this just seems like evidence that women don't desire romantic and sexual companionship as much as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:20 AM
1

Are you ace/aro,?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:53 AM
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People go to OLD because it's hard to meet single women elsewhere. I mean, where do people meet people after college? Work is usually off limits and that's where most people spend their time. Most young women are already in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:50 AM
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Online dating is the way most couples meet now. And likes are necessary but not sufficient for dates and many men don't get likes at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:08 AM
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The same set of men seem to get most of the "likes" on dating apps which seems to suggest that women's tastes are highly correlated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:01 AM
1

Do you date, are you in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:55 AM
2

Everything is about sex. Except sex, which is about power.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 07:30 PM
3

People may or may not like their jobs, they certainly don't like the interview to get the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 07:25 PM
2

None of the women in my circle are single. There are just way fewer single women in my age range than single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:34 AM
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Dude it's a social faux pas to ask women out when you don't even if know if she's gonna be into you or not. Word spreads around and you'll be labelled creepy and what not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:00 AM
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I think the solution is to incentivise people to not have male children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:53 PM
2

Ugly means not getting matches on dating apps. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:50 PM
2

How does one even get a date lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:20 AM
2

I think most of the women on these subs are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:16 AM
1

They usually have headphones in when alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 06:30 PM
1

Women are never out and about without a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 04:46 PM
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Good jobs are often hard and require you to be competitive and hard working and smart. Most people are not passionate about work (and the things they may be passionate about don't pay well). Do you think men will strive to become consultants or whatever if it didn't give them status (and thus access to sex)? No they won't. Maybe more will become musicians artists or whatever since many people (men and women) are willing to do that type of work just because the work itself gives them joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:20 AM
2

No one really loves unconditionally. People love their children unconditionally... sometimes...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:38 PM
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It's not a deep shift in preferences or anything. It's mostly that women were constrained in their choices before (both due to medical technology and due to the patriarchy). The pill revolutionized the latter half of the 20th century. The dating app revolutionized the post 2015 dating world. These two together lead to the spiraling inequality in who wants whom.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:36 PM
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Incels don't empathize with that because in their mind, they think "well I wouldn't mind if a woman used me for sex but was too ashamed to introduce me to her friends or family. After all, it's better than being completely alone and sexless". The key difference here is in the value that sex has for men vs women. Men love sex, they usually get off, they masturbate more etc. Women don't like sex nearly that much. They even masturbate far less than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:32 PM
2

I'd be happy if women would use me for sex but would be too ashamed to introduce me to their friends and family. Most men don't even get that!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:30 PM
1

Your league is precisely who you can match with on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:25 PM
1

Most college educated guys don't get matches
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:13 AM
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Hard to get laid without a relationship these days. Women probably gravitate to top 2% for casual sex rather than just top 20% for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:00 AM
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No most men can't reasonably figure it out your "n count" lol. And fat women have plenty of love; many men specifically prefer it. I think only severely mentally ill women or like really unpleasant women would have a tough time finding a guy who really likes them for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:58 AM
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You seem like a very reasonable person who seems perplexed by the data. The point is, most of these inequalities the data show come out of dating apps. Most men barely get any matches! Most women are flooded with likes from the best of men! Since online dating is how most couples meet now, this just implies that a few men are "dating" many women at any given time, some of whom may think things are exclusive. Online dating is winner takes all! And why wouldn't it be; it was the patriarchy that en…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:56 AM
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Men are just too thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:02 AM
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Cause it's easier to date men duh. It's not that women find men plain, they are not attracted to most women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:10 AM
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Finally a woman who speaks the truth. Women just don't like men (except the top whatever percent). Men like women. The only equilibrium which works for humanity is having a sex ratio of 10 women to each man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:04 AM
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Have you seen the matches a man would get on an app vs a woman? Do you think it's re.otely feasible for a man to keep up with women in the amount interest they generate from the opposite sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 07:00 AM
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Men take shit personally about themselves all the time, all though I must say that on Reddit more people talk shit about women than men, at least on the r/all adjacent subs. But men are fragile AF and lash out whenever they are called out. That said, I agree that men are just far less likely to generally associate with men as a group; women are far more likely to trust stranger women than men and I guess men also trust stranger women than men. Men a year just dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 08:31 AM
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Because it's weakly better. You at least have a chance to go from hookup --> relationship. Men simply get ignored and don't have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:41 AM
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There's an economics paper which rationalizes this behavior, the author later won a nobel prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:09 PM
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95% of men are unattractive dude. What are they gonna do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:04 PM
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There will be no breaking point. Just decay. Growth with a below replacement fertility is not going to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:03 PM
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Women are happy to be single because they a) know they can get into a relationship when they feel like b) can get sex from hot guys pretty much whenever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:01 PM
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Go on a dating app and make a profile with conventionally unattractive women and then do one with a conventionally unattractive man. Who do you think will get more matches/messages/date requests?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 10:57 PM
1

This is increasingly becoming less common. Have you even been on a dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 11:25 PM
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They think this way because men treat women that way. They just assume there's some sort of symmetry in the way women would treat men. Honestly all these problems would be solved with having women outpopulate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:28 PM
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Yeah fake friends is silly. But I see the point that poster is making; my guess is that friends beget friends and dates and nobody wants to hang out with that loser who seems to be friendless to begin with since it's a red flag. It's all a signaling mechanism and also a mechanism by which u hang out with these fake friends just to get out of the house and find a chance to meet people you actually connect with...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:14 AM
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Men have huge advantages in the world at larger if they top 0.0001% males. Like I'd rather be Chris Hemsworth than Scarlett Johansson 1000% of the time. The very top men have more power than the top women. It's in the middle where women these days seem to be getting away from the men. At the bottom, there are usually strong structural barriers against women that again push them down although men do seem to have natural tendencies to be more "loser ish" than women and so are more likely to be bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:09 AM
1

It's not like women on Reddit claim to be interested in most dudes. They just say that women have very diverse preferences (which I disagree with since dating apps show female interest is VERY concentrated)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:04 AM
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Immigration is the solution to this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:51 AM
1

Idk man, most men barely get matches let alone dates. See all the data from tinder experiments/ job market interview data tasks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:57 AM
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Have you been on a dating app? Lol. And before you stop me. Yes, dating apps are a representative sample. Most people dating in 2023 meet prospective partners over apps, at least in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:48 AM
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Women only have deal breakers that are so severe b cause they have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:46 AM
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Exactly. Most men would be more like "meh" rather than "eww", and would probably be willing to bang if it took not much effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:43 AM
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This is some stupid shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:41 AM
1

Honestly queer people are much more open minded about sex stuff. Harder to find that amongst straight folk
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:40 AM
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I think women know given that there's such a big market for paid dom type of stuff. I think generally women are not into it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:43 AM
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I have no idea. All I can say is that being a straight male sub is pretty much kills compatibility with most straight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:37 AM
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Older women are less interested in being on the dating market. But conditional on being in the dating market, they get a lot of interest, usually from men around their age or up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:31 AM
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Of course men don't care about other men. Men have a competitive mindset in a way that women just don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:27 AM
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Yeah they don't. Men in general don't think of other strange men as trustworthy or safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:26 AM
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I think as the gaps and inequality become wider, not just in wealth but along most dimensions (including general attractiveness; men just tend to be higher variance and this only increasing) more women will hold out on marriage since they will have option value: they could potentially snag one of the really good ones by waiting, rather than commit to an average man. In the meanwhile they could get sex whenever they need from hot dudes. Men don't have option value since most become celibate when …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:21 AM
1

This is very very common. Like someone else said, it's a sub/dom thing. Almost all straight women are subs, they want a man who is dominant in bed, who can literally sweep her off her feet etc. Of course, some small number of straight women are Dom but they are very very hard to find (far more straight men are sub than straight women are Dom)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:12 AM
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Yeah a submissive straight male is dead meat. It's rather unfortunate. If they were gay they'd have so many takers! (Although I know finding tops is harder than finding bottoms)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 02:10 AM
1

Yet a very hungry person would eat that shitty food. Women just aren't that hungry.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 06:21 PM
1

Those couples probably met before 2018.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:45 PM
1

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:08 AM
1

Unattractive women match with hot guys on dating apps all the time...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:50 PM
0

Love of variety
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:49 PM
1

Why do men want to have sex with random people more than women? It's because they are far far far thirstier/hornier than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:58 PM
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I can assure there are dudes who have swiped right on the entire catalogue of women on all the dating apps there are and not gotten a single date out of this experience. How much lower can a guy go? Asking out women in person is a risk these days so they don't do it .
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:23 PM
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I don't know what you mean by the least attractive women. Ask permission from one of your friends and take her photo and put it on tinder and then make one of a decently attractive guy and put him on tinder and see who does better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:18 PM
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Spoken the truth. Idk why liberal women, in their crusade for equality, just wanna claim that men and women are exactly the same including in their desire for sex. Men are way way way thirstier and horny than women are. Women may have strong arousal with a partner whom they trust and are very attracted to, but they don't get horny the way dudes do for impersonal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:03 PM
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Most of the couples I see who don't follow my pattern met and got together before 2017 or so.. post metoo and pandemic it has become more and more taboo to approach women outside the apps and the relationships I see coming out of that era follow this pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 08:47 PM
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My point is that the dating app revolution has created this false sense of access for the hottest dudes amongst women. They think basically casual sex will eventually translate into relationships. And since.most relationships these days start over apps, it basically means that average looking men get ignored by unattractive women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 08:41 PM
1

Really? Then why are dudes so much more willing to have sex with a random girl of the street than vice versa? Even if take out all the gendered dynamics around safety etc, we see this behavior i.e see the dynamics between lesbian women vs gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 08:25 PM
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Why would a conventionally unattractive woman who has been with hot men settle for less? Women already have this ongoing belief that they don't need men in their lives and if they need sex they can just fire up tinder and get the hottest man on it because they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:05 PM
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Of course that's not true. But most women who would be willing would have bad outside options. Like pretty much any half decent white dude can go to Asia and get a girlfriend just because in those countries the quality of men (especially like South Asia) is so low. But arguably these kind of relationships are exploitative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:02 PM
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Nope even conventionally unattractive women have a super high threshold to wanting to date someone, especially since they can get with super hot dudes for drunk one night stands and what not which raises their expectations. I mean, have you seen the Tinder of an unattractive woman? It's blowing up way more than that of a median man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:00 PM
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Women don't really have to be good looking to get positive male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:19 PM
1

I don't know if keeping things separate is cool or not. Our society is very atomized in that almost all dating has become online post "me too" (where women seem to have an overwhelming advantage, given that men are thirsty af, especially online); its silly to make friendships this sort of online marketplace activity too where one has to go one friend dates and impress potential friends. People used to just fall into friendships built out of proximity and repeated contact but now everyone wants t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:20 AM
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It's weird because in America, coworkers and colleagues tend to be less interested in being friends with one another because they want to keep work and "life" separate or whatever. It makes it really difficult to make new friends when you move to a new city. I had a colleague who literally used dating apps to find a girlfriend whose friends he became friends with because he was new to the city.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:56 PM
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