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| 1 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.As a woman with autism I definitely find that neurotypical guys see my diagnosis as a ‘quirky’ trait (tho I do mask well and am self sufficient) while I know most neurotypical women don’t consider autistic men the same. That said I do get on great w other neurodivergent people, and tend to have better compatibility w neurodivergent men (primarily autistic and adhd men). So it might be a good idea to seek out women of the same neurotype to you - just to see if they ‘get you’ easier? I’m not a wor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 08:06 PM |
| – | Any women here..I’ve never dated a dude I found ugly, I have however dated a guy everyone else around me basically universally found unattractive. My tastes are a touch unusual. He’s pretty short (5’5”, I’m 5’8”), I’ve never cared about height, and he’s got pretty feminine features which I was drawn to (rounded face, had pretty long hair when we met). Also a nervous energy about him, pretty bad anxiety. I pursued him cause I liked how fem he looked, this is what put most other girls off but I’m fond of it (I’m … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Personality can't compensate for looksI do agree w the threshold thing. That said my looks threshold for if we really click personality wise is pretty low. Like, might only exclude 20% of men. Those mostly being the thick bodybuilder types cause for some reason I’ve always found bulging muscles grotesque looking (no shade - I know women who Love that look). But it’s a spectrum. Amazing dynamic chemistry = care the least about looks. By dynamic I’m mostly talking about energy. So personality but also the role the dude wants to play i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | To what extent being rich helps in gettingPersonally being rich isn’t a turn on at all for me (it will be for some, Ive been told before that I care about it less than most, & had a bf who was without a set address for a few months - v sweet dude). But, I can say that education, class and self assurance is a turn on for me. I like educated people who I can banter with and enter fancy places in, even if it’s just for $5 coffee at a fancy cocktail bar. My ex who was homeless for a while actually fitted that category well, was just down on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Are women hornier in a different way than men?Ngl local BDSM clubs are pretty much that - tight knit communities, everyone knows everyone so there’s a factor of safety w it. As long as people take it seriously I cant rlly say anything definitive on rates of libido. There’s so much variation in each group & I can only go off my own experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 09:31 PM |
| 7 | Are women hornier in a different way than men?Yh but it’s different play offs for women. Most men on hook ups are selfish lovers - they just wanna get off & they don’t know the girl so often don’t care if she gets off. Not all ofc but a large amount. Since it’s harder for most women to orgasm they often don’t climax from these scenarios. Then on top of that women face more STI risk, pregnancy risk, threat of harm from someone likely to be physically bigger etc. Doesn’t seem worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 08:57 PM |
| 2 | If men want to be successful with women, they should listen to other men that are successful with women. They should NOT listen to women.I agree to an extent. There’s certainly been ppl who weren’t my type that I’ve grown attracted to after getting to know them. Likely doesn’t work if you’re actively turned off from them from the get go but neutrality can swing towards attraction if ur rlly into them as a person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 03:33 PM |
| 3 | The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signallingI maybe should’ve clarified: amateur runners or gymnasts - ppl who do it as a hobby or for fun, not Olympians/ professionals I like running but I look completely different to a professional runner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 01:21 PM |
| 12 | The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signallingDad bods aren’t my personal preference - but neither is the ultra jacked muscular type that guys seem to think I must want. Ppl like what they like & it’s not all the same. Personally I like ppl who are physically a bit smaller than me or around the same size. before ppl come at me for that being unusual, & thus call me a liar, I’m bisexual & this likely links to me not being into ultra masculine ppl. I’m not into v muscular folk be they men or women, tho lithe or toned forms are nice (eg: runne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 12:21 PM |
| 2 | If men want to be successful with women, they should listen to other men that are successful with women. They should NOT listen to women.Yh, but your personality, perception of life etc certainly matters a lil less if a woman’s just looking for a hookup I’ve been w ppl I’d never be able to actually live with (different philosophies, different outlooks on life, different life goals etc) just cause we mutually found each other attractive and it works for a ‘just sex’ situation. Attraction & safety are the most important things for a hookup to me cause there’s nothing else to the relationship than sex, so they’re the only things I r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/22 11:59 AM |
| 1 | How important is income for a man? Is frugality a turn off? Does a man need to make a lot to be date-able?Depends on the woman. I don’t rlly care, but I want my partner to pull his weight, i.e. be employed, preferably in something he enjoys (passion is attractive) but I don’t mind how much he makes. I’m frugal by nature though so it fits my lifestyle. I’m in a decent career now but grew up solidly working class & we had times of struggle. I know how to get by. And I don’t relate money to self worth like ppl of higher class backgrounds tend to do more often. However, I couldn’t be with someone who bl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.Yh, more women are out as bi currently than men are so there is that, but I also think women tend to get less social backlash for being out since it’s often sexualised so it’s a tricky topic to assess | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 05:38 PM |
| 6 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.So u just think that some women that call themselves straight are bi? That’s fair, tbh I think way more ppl in general (men as well as women) are bi than those who are out. It’s a lot of stigma to face when you can still have a fulfilling relationship without needing to come out. We’re the biggest part of the lgbt community as it is already But yh, for lots of ppl exploring same sex dating options isn’t worth the risk of family abandoning you or whatever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.You said straight women are available to gay women tho? Why isn’t that saying that straight women should date ppl they’re not attracted to? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Women don't need marriage in 2022I’m bisexual so have 2 sides of the perspective here. Since I could choose to only date women & still have a romantic relationship regardless. But the truth of it is that men & women are all just people, they’re all the same when taken as individuals. Sure, men w red pill psychology have in the past made me feel like they don’t see me as human, so I don’t date ppl who do that. But men in general are the same as women in general, some are clean, and kind, and make hella good pasta, and some are l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 09:02 AM |
| 7 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.??? Straight women aren’t sexually attracted to us. At all. By the very definition. By that logic why don’t you (assuming you’re a straight man?) go find a lovely gay man as a partner to have a relationship with? Sure, you won’t be attracted to him but he’ll treat you well and will pursue you. It’s the same scenario as a lesbian/ straight relationship. Straight women might find it funny or ‘wild’ to kiss a girl once. But that doesn’t change the fact that they’re not attracted to women. Ofc women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 08:51 AM |
| 2 | Why are you still single?But it’s accurate to call herself single? Just as it’s accurate that a guy w a fwb is single. Sure, it’d be misleading for them to say they’re single in a dating scenario / implying they aren’t sleeping w others, but in other situations (eg on the internet) neither a woman or a man in a fwb dynamic is in a romantic relationship & can thus be said to be single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSome ppl definitely follow the trend of being attracted to traits similar to family, I’m pretty sure there’s some psychology studies on it. I’ve just never been into that. My own dad’s 6’5” & my brother’s are 6’6” / 6’8”, so anyone above 6’3” makes me mentally shout “sibling??” At first glance. I am bisexual tho, so not being exclusively attracted to ‘masculine’ traits might have something to do w it. E.g. I prefer people who I view as ‘pretty’ regardless of sex, more than ‘handsome’ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYea, but good looking is relative & while height is preferred by most women, it’s not all. E.g. I prefer ppl around my height +/- 3 inches, guys that are too tall remind me of family members since they’re all incredibly tall & I’ve mentally linked that trait w them. Facial symmetry & societal beauty standards are gonna be preferred by most, that’s true, but some women like specific traits, e.g. almond eyes, or delicate hands, blond hair or round faces - all traits that aren’t unattractive societ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathread? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 04:58 PM |
| 2 | What is the worst thing about being a woman?Honestly? The sheer amount attention from men. Guys staring at you on the street, men following me, being wolf whistled as an 11 year old Child. It all makes me feel incredibly unsafe in public. My flatmate frets about me if I so much as pick up food at 7pm when it’s dark in winter. Travelling alone would stress my dad out so much he’d probably track me down to bring me home. It’s a lack of freedom. I’d take periods, and pain and childbirth over what feels like such a lack of autonomy in public … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 04:37 PM |
| 4 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNot all girls like that type of stereotype of a guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat Megathread🎂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?What’s the situation like in America w conscription? Could u feasibly be sent to war at any moment? My country doesn’t have anything in place so it’d theoretically be equally likely for conscription to affect women if it was put into place anyhow | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?But should this compensation happen Before we know it conscription is happening? Like the original post argued for. Then people may just get benefits but not ever go through conscription. And ofc if the benefits are high, as the original post argued it’d be (lifelong higher pay, earlier retirement etc) you’d get women wanting to take that deal. It’d have to be very finely balanced | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?The goal is to argue that all men getting more rights because they could theoretically be drafted at some point in their lives (on a Big maybe) is morally wrong. I wasn’t arguing that women should get more rights - I was making a comparison. If men are conscripted I’m fully for women Also being conscripted. But a male centred government choosing to only conscript men, and then men getting lifelong extra rights (for something that probably won’t happen), a choice women had no say in, is unjust | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Rough sexI don’t like it. I’m not vanilla by any regard. But any degradation or humiliation kinks are a Hard no from me. If I don’t feel like my partner respects me I’m not down. Idm what other ppl like but it’s one of those ‘your kink is not my kink’ situations. And Rough sex in so far as I’ve come across it usually means men jackhammering into you without much else. That’s… fine. But it doesn’t do anything for me. But bdsm wise I’m more of a switch, not a pure submissive for sure, so I like power plays… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Would you say it's more common for a guy to ruin his chances by being too "hot" or too "cold"?Too cold. I once cut things off w a guy who said when it was over that he was purposely covering up his personality/ opinions because he wanted me to be ‘bonded’ first so he could get away w shit that I might not stand if I wasn’t fully emotionally invested. But I just thought he was distant, a bit uninterested, a bit boring and didn’t feel any sort of spark as a result. I’ve never come across a guy I was interested in being ‘too hot’. Some guys have been but I wasn’t interested in them to start… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?The post is about men being forced to risk their lives giving them the right to higher pay, earlier retirement, and less tax. I was comparing it to the fact that women risk their lives to maintain the population levels but no one’s arguing that women should get more rights than men for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | If you think people cannot distinguish high/low n-count people apart. There is a good chance you may be on the autism spectrum.Umm, what?? I certainly can’t even tell which if my friends are even virgins or not unless they tell me that info | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?I don’t believe conscription should exist for anyone but if it has to exist I’m ok with it extending to women. It’s men going “u can’t fight, we’re keeping you safe, but I’m better than you because I have to do it” that I can’t stand. More women die from childbirth than man die by war. And it’s a deep societal pressure for many. But it’s not true all women choose it, rape and denial of abortion services very much exist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?She is saying that right now many women die from childbirth. In red states many were forced to carry it by being denied a termination. That is the current day. But the current day does not force men into actual war in America. So if you want to compare government forced health threats rn, the odds are worse for women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 06:50 PM |
| 8 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?If we’re talking right now when when have you personally been forced to go to war? Sure they might bring those conscription laws back, just like they might legalise spousal rape again. Neither of us can take it for granted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 06:47 PM |
| 9 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?Artificial wombs are incredibly cool, and unfortunately incredibly complicated. There’s some work in the Netherlands which might get somewhere in 10 years or so but it’ll be v v expensive for a long while even when it becomes successful https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/health-50056405 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right?Who decides that only men fight?? The government. Made primarily of men. Men decide that women won’t be conscripted and then say they’re superior because they’re forced to fight. As a woman I would choose to fight for my country should it be attacked. Not all women would but not all men would either. Fighting in a war is a legal obligation that can change. By your own logic because there’s things women do to continue society (ie: carrying children) which men cannot do, we should get more rights … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 06:37 PM |
| 6 | Is having platonic female friends as a man a good or a bad thing for dating???? 60% of my friend group is dudes. It just happened like that. We were housemates & it snowballed as the group expanded. The dudes are as much my friends as the gals. I wouldn’t want to date any of them (we really wouldn’t be compatible as partners) but they make great friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 07:29 PM |
| 10 | Is having platonic female friends as a man a good or a bad thing for dating?100%. The majority of my past relationships were ppl who were friends of friends, meeting ppl in group environments is wayy more relaxing. Guys who’ve got the Ok from friends I trust are immediately more trustworthy in my eyes cause I trust the judgement of my mates | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Treating your partner differentMate, I’m Really not having trouble for options. We see sex differently, and that’s ok, but you don’t have to sarcastically insult me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Treating your partner differentNo. Sex doesn’t innately show intimacy. It can if I’m catching feelings for someone. Which means it can speed up a new relationship (not necessarily a bad thing but it might not be desired if I’m being careful to see if we’re compatible first). Sex without feelings can be fun but only if I have a desire for sex at the time. That isn’t that often. Sex without an innate desire for sex can still be desirable because it can share intimacy. If it’s w someone I don’t care for this is moot since it won… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Treating your partner differentYea, it doesn’t have to be. But it’s able to be with a close partner, and if I’m not in the mood for sex I won’t have sex with a hookup but I might have sex with a close partner Cause I can have sex for the sake of it or for emotional closeness So when I start dating a guy if I don’t know him well enough to enjoy sharing intimacy w him then sex is only good for me if I’m in the mood. It changes down the line | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Treating your partner differentCause it can also be fun. Making love is different to fucking, not all sex is created equal. Sex is fun to me but it’s not the be all and end all. It’s also often messy, awkward and not worth the effort. If I’m particularly horny then a hook up is worth it, cause then it’s more enjoyable, if I’m not then the odds that I’ll enjoy it for the sake of it go down since I’m not in the mood. So on a regular day when I’m not wanting to seek out sex I won’t unless I specifically want to with a specific p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Treating your partner differentEh, I don’t really care about the sex personally. I’d prefer to have it than not but it’s not as big of a thing to me than it is to most dudes so I’m not gonna rush into it if I don’t want to. If I don’t feel comfy sleeping with a guy right away and he doesn’t like that he can cut off the dynamic & that’s totally cool. He’s Well within his right to do that. And I’m within my right to do as I do. Sex to me is intimate & a show of trust but it’s not the Ultimate thing in a relationship. And I woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Treating your partner differentSex when I’m seeking a relationship with that specific guy is likely to make me feel emotionally closer to the guy - which inserts rose tinted glasses to the scenario. If we’ve already decided we’re not meeting again that’s not an issue. It doesn’t bond us in a ‘painful if separated way’, just in a ‘I trust and like this person more’ way which can blind you to red flags ?? I’m confused about your second bit. Why wouldn’t testing compatibility/ commitment to getting to know each other be more imp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Treating your partner differentMaybe I don’t like their personality enough to want them for a life partner, maybe we have different life plans, or goals (eg: they want to move to X country or don’t want kids when I want the opposite) If so a relationship’s off the cards. So if we both happen to want sex then why not? But if I’m looking to enter a relationship I want to be able to logically see if there Could be something there, so I would prioritise building and Assessing a relationship. Sex makes me feel more bonded to a per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 06:04 PM |
| 10 | Treating your partner differentThere’s too many factors to use blanket terms tho What if my date w guy A morphed into spending a whole 12 hours together cause we really clicked + say they’re a student at the same uni so feel safer due to shared environment 3 different 45min coffee/ cinema dates won’t let me get the same level of closeness even though I’ve technically known guy B for 2/3 weeks. The actual time we’ve spent together is much less. Maybe guy C is hot but not relationship material so I just want to hook up & then g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 05:54 PM |
| 15 | Would you prefer to have a single monogamous sexual relationship for your entire life with somebody you loved but only found moderately attractive. Or would be prefer to have an endless supply of causal sex with people you found extremely attractive but never formed an emotional bound with?Monogamy. I could even happily handle sexual desires alone if my partner was asexual but emotional compatibility is very important to me. That said, love isn’t enough to keep a relationship together if there’s too many life incompatibilities (differences in what ppl want in life, or how they view the world) so I wouldn’t be down if it was a ‘u love this person but that’s it, who they are is random’ sort of situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 12:04 AM |
| 6 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?TW So take this scenario. A girl asks a guy out, they go to his, it’s going well, they’re gonna have sex and he pressures her for anal. She’s firmly against it. Says no, says she just wants to do oral stuff because she wants them both to be STI checked beforehand. Says she doesn’t like anal, it’s painful, she doesn’t want to . He pressures her. She says she wants to leave and isn’t comfortable with this anymore because he’s being very forceful. He grabs her, doesn’t let her leave and anally rape… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 07:15 PM |
| 9 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?Happened twice in the past year to the closest city near me Absolutely awful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 07:06 PM |
| 9 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?I think I keep myself pretty happy tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 07:04 PM |
| 10 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?U really think all men will ever agree to stop approaching women ever & just placidly wait to be approached & not care if women never approach or want them in particular? Women are reactionary in dating because in a time when men had all the power, men caused the cultural standard that women should be quiet & submissive & coy & Not approach men. This was passed on over generations & mixed with the fact that loud/ assertive women are named bitchy/ sluts/ whores etc, I don’t think it’s on the wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 07:02 PM |
| 7 | Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women.Sure, but if a small number of men legitimately sleep w a high number it explains the average skew. & yea, gay men totally find it easier to get casual sex, if you’re decently attractive in a big city you’ll pretty much be able to find another guy who wants casual sex whenever u want. They’re more on the same wavelength since guys typically get more pleasure & less risk from casual sex. In contrast lesbians/sapphics really don’t have a hook up culture, sometimes they get together in clubs but it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 04:31 PM |
| 7 | Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women.When aren’t we all for scientific studies? I study in a scientific field, they’re my jam, I just like them properly peer reviewed from good sources | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 04:26 PM |
| 8 | Why do modern studies show that men have more sexual partners than women.I have a gay male friend who’s recently celebrated sleeping w 70 guys, I’m bi & sure sex can be nice but I don’t have interest having it for the sake of it, so I mostly only sleep w ppl I’m in relationships w & I’ve slept w like 5 ppl as a result. It’s just a different outlook. Could I get up to his number? Very very easily (given a year or two). Do I want that? Absolutely not. I’m v glad he loves it but I’d just find it exhausting, stressful, painful (physically) at times and a bit boring. I’ve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | The Hi ruleDifferent in diff situations. As strangers just about, I wouldn’t approach anyone. In the workplace/ in a society place I’d approach ppl I thought seemed nice - not linked to being attracted to them at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 06:43 PM |
| 1 | He didn't use you for sex. Sex as a female resource for social exchange in hetero interactionsVery well said | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 05:57 PM |
| -1 | Young women encourage toxic masculinityI’m sorry you’ve not met good ones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Young women encourage toxic masculinityDecent people care. Not everyone’s decent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 09:36 AM |
| -2 | Young women encourage toxic masculinitySure, but some women in these situations are naïve and don’t understand what the guy’s like, while some are dicks themselves (there’s equal assholes in life regardless of gender or country or anything else). It may be their choices that got them into the situation but, especially for the truly naive ones, it seems kinda cruel to say they must accept they’ll be hurt because they did it to themselves. They’ll deal w it as it comes but that doesn’t mean we can’t feel sorry for those hurt. Just like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 09:12 AM |
| 8 | Young women encourage toxic masculinityEh, the fact that confidence is sexy is likely behind a lot of that. Being the one to approach (especially if you’re already conventionally attracting) and being confident talking to girls does a lot, especially for those wanting a more submissive role in a relationship dynamic (which isn’t for everyone) Sometimes girls gloss over issues like that w an optimistic view of ‘he’s really kind to me, he’s changing’. It’s not innately malicious on her part, she just wants to feel wanted, like everyone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 09:03 AM |
| 3 | Young women encourage toxic masculinityPersonally I consider there to be no call for bigotry and wouldn’t date a guy who was. But for the ppl who do, I think the issue is that morality by itself isn’t innately attractive if that’s the main positive about a guy, u know? Like, kindness, empathy (to the girl herself) is attractive. But even tho I way prefer spending time w moral ppl it won’t be what draws me to a person initially (tho not being moral is a dealbreaker for me - it isn’t for everyone). Traits like attractiveness, humour, f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | A common response to criticizing the current state of dating is “they want us to just fuck ugly dudes” when literally no one is suggesting that. Suggesting average women date in their league or slightly above is not the same as telling them to fuck fat guys.Ppl aren’t all attracted to the same traits tho too. Like I definitely have a ‘type’, or a set of characteristics that I find most attractive but only 50%, maybe less are objective beauty standards. The rest is just things I personally think are hot. I’ve dated guys who looked hot - to me - but my friends weren’t keen on them & they’ve dated ppl they’ve worried they weren’t not enough for when I totally did not see the guy as attractive at all. Lots of ppl assume beauty is objective, and ofc som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | What were the qualities of "alpha males" in the evolutionary past?Personally, I’m not arguing that they follow any sort of morality. Animals make choices which benefit them. Maybe it has backlash, maybe it doesn’t. Maybe they select their behaviour based on the potential for backlash. That’s about it Morality is a whole other can of worms | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 02:46 PM |
| 1 | What were the qualities of "alpha males" in the evolutionary past?It is pretty normal but depending on the females can be cause to fight off a new lion - particularly if he’s not established as a head yet but is a rogue looking to become one. But yh, lions aren’t the best example for behaviour selection, partly cause they don’t come across big populations of each other in the wild so can’t be as selective as other animals https://youtu.be/yXb4XUi8ubg https://youtu.be/9y5eeVKz-00 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 01:02 PM |
| 1 | What were the qualities of "alpha males" in the evolutionary past?I don’t think they’re killed out of spite, more as a ‘male cubs which are not mine aren’t useful’ sort of way, they take up resources, when it’s one male lion taking over a new pride of females But ofc those cubs are the female’s offspring so they’ll defend them against the new male Most of the time it’s not worth it for a new male to kill the offspring if it’ll likely mean the females will turn on them but if they can get away with it they will So there’s trade offs on both sides that must be b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 12:44 PM |
| 1 | "Nice Guy" is just a strawman women use to describe men they don't likeHard agree here. I can mask super well when needed, to the point where I’m now learning to unmask in my day to day life for the first time & it’s so much less stressful. It was exhausting for me growing up but I can pretty easily read ppl now (not intuitively but from a more psychological point of - they likely want this/ mean this because I’ve seen it before, because I was expected to always help others emotionally when I was younger) I only became like this from expectations of who I was growi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 11:35 AM |
| 1 | "Nice Guy" is just a strawman women use to describe men they don't likeIt’s just another term for it, sort of like a shorthand Lots of folk don’t distinguish between autism and Asperger’s anymore since the guy who made Asperger’s it’s own category was literally a nazi choosing which autistic kids had the potential to add value to society vs which he’d sent to concentration camps. So ASD likely arrived in the confusion within autistic groups for how to refer to ourselves. to note some ppl w Asperger’s still refer to themselves as such & that’s chill cause that’s the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 11:26 AM |
| 2 | "Nice Guy" is just a strawman women use to describe men they don't likeAs an autistic woman I face similar things but it’s easier since men don’t seem to mind if I’m quite direct while that can come across as too aggressive / assertive if a man did it to a woman. Partnering w other autistics helps (or ppl w adhd - so many of my friends have adhd & the bond between the communities is beautiful). It means you’re not expected to be neurotypical and I’ve found the wavelengths click better Even then though I agree that don’t want to be corrected still the time (like the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 11:20 AM |
| 1 | What were the qualities of "alpha males" in the evolutionary past?Male lions are only really killed for murdering young but it does happen - especially if they’re integrate to a new pack they kill the existing young so the females are ready to mate sooner The females often fight this off viscously | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 11:15 AM |
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