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I was taught that Valentine's Day is for the women and sweetests day is for the men. So in my personal relationship, yes. My partner accepts this. Edit to add a quote that shows the way I celebrate isn't weird🥲 -> "Over the years, Sweetest Day has become a romantic holiday, where women are encouraged to buy candy and show romantic gestures towards their male partners. Many people consider the day as the reverse of Valentine's Day, where historically men have been expected to do romantic things f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:34 PM
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As a woman in the US, I personally only expect my man to plan things on days meant to celebrate "me" (ie. My birthday, Valentine's Day, and mother's Day.) and I plan on his days(ie. Sweetests day, his birthday (unless he wants to do something alone- he likes to go up north alone alot), and father's day) all others are family things or cooperative planning.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:15 PM
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Just because you want to sleep with every woman you see does not mean every guy has that problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:44 PM
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No, but it gives incentive to at least say hi and see how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:40 PM
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I've gone and done quite a few hobby stuff, but most of them were male dominated and the few women there seemed mad that I was joining. They avoided me like the plague, sneered, and talked shit(some of the guys I talked to told me that one) that was honestly the place I thought would work best, but ig they like being the only women there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:36 PM
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I said I had no problem with how I am. The post is about how women treat me, not about how I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:25 PM
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Our conversation was about the approaching, so naturally I assumed you were still talking about initial responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:24 PM
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The individual/immediate rejections are nothing to care about. It's the fact that even those that engage to the point of giving me or taking my contact info always ghost after.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:20 PM
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so maybe hinge bff would help here, Not this, but a similar app. Got to chat with some but they never wanted to meet. join some hobby groups or classes that meet regularly, do some volunteering etc. I have but always left because of how negative everyone was towards me. I've done almost anything you can think of to try to make some female friends. Women just don't like me and at this point I'm really starting not to care about making female friends. It's been 7 years of trying, and I'm honestly …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:16 PM
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Them staring at me shows some sort of interest in me, whether it's good or bad, I won't know until I approach. Once I find out, I'll continue from there. I'm not harming anyone by just saying hi.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:11 PM
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I have no problem with how I am, I just don't want to label it. You know that as long as you're stable and functional, you don't need meds for any mental ailment, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:09 PM
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Then don't stare at someone you don't want talking to you? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:00 PM
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To clarify, I don't just walk up to people. I'll only "approach" someone after there's already been some form of interaction or visual cue of some sort of interest in me(multiple cases of eye contact in a short amount of time, they laughed at something I said to someone else, they start up a conversation after I approached them for something entirely different, Ect.) I promise I'm not just pulling up beside someone and just being like "hey let's be friends" that just sounds creepy 😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:55 PM
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I have not, but Ive always thought I might have ADD/ADHD. I just don't think I want a diagnosis, I don't want to be viewed as my ailments.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:50 PM
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if a woman approached me for a chat and asked me for my socials while I was at the store or the gym, I get the store sounds weird, but that only happened once. It was just a memorable moment for me because she was very verbally mean just from me saying hi🥲 I "approached" her because we had passed each other multiple times already and made eye contact every single time, so I said "hello again" with a little chuckle as we were crossing paths again cause I thought it was funny. As for the gym, thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:47 PM
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It's less of "cold approaching" and more of "we've made eye contact more than a few times, might as well say hi this time."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:39 PM
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I said if he tells me to choose. Not if he just expresses discomfort. My words mean exactly what they say, not what fits your narrative. It's not an ultimatum, it's doing exactly what he'd be telling me to do. We have in fact had a couple of spits about guys he didn't like me having 1:1 time with. But he never requested that I cut them out of my life. We came up with a compromise that I was only allowed to hang out with them in group settings with trusted people or with him. And I'm still able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 11:41 PM
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You're doing the same. But instead of defending yourself, your defending manipulators. no, my friends are not more important than my partner on a general level. But if he were to start telling me it's them or him, I will choose them. Ultimatums are a huge manipulation tactic and I will not stand for it, nor will I allow that behavior around my son for him to learn. My interactions with my friends are already as limited as they can or will get. He has every day with me, and at the end of the nigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:41 PM
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You’re framing any boundary around opposite-sex one-on-ones as rooted in insecurity or control, but that’s not fair or accurate You also say insecurities are normal, but then dismiss any boundary based on them as disrespectful. That’s contradictory. Respecting a partner’s discomfort and agreeing on boundaries before they become a problem is often how people build trust. It only becomes manipulative when it’s one-sided or forced. Not every boundary. But literally telling them who they can and can…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:19 PM
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Lots of assumptions in that. To clarify, I used "you" as a general term. None of it was supposed to be directly pointed. I apologize if that caused confusion. So for context, my partner and I both feel that 1:1's with the other gender is wrong. If you read the last line I wrote, that's the only time I feel like it's not disrespectful. She is socially aware enough to know that her orbiters just wanted to fuck her, and I am socially aware enough to know that if a woman is in your vicinity and make…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:31 PM
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How is it not about control? you'd be making her get rid of people she knew before she even met you. How is it not about trust? You just said it's insecurity. That is literally a trust issue. Implementing the rule after entering a relationship is disrespectful to your partner. It's manipulating them, giving an ultimatum of you or her friends. You're stripping away her support system. Who is she gonna lean on when you guys are having problems? Who is she gonna call when you leave her? Unless you …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:43 PM
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Well that last part is really my point. Why do people who don't agree with the rule go into relationships with people who have that rule? And why do people who have that role stay in relationships with people who don't want to follow that rule? I see so many people complaining about it and I'm just wondering, why? Why are you going to complain that your partner is different from you? why didn't you realize that you guys are incompatible and find someone who is?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 06:24 PM
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I prefer men for the reason that women never text me back😂 I only see my friends like once a month, 90% of the time it's at my house. No one sees me out with guys unless it's my bf or the one guy I still work with. Girls just don't like me enough to text me back, in turn I'm tired of trying to get female friends. It's not "pick-me-up energy" or main character syndrome, it's wanting to make female friends and being excited when they actually acknowledge me approaching them just to be ghosted the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:37 PM
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Is this a new friend or a friend you’ve always known? Friends I've already known. I met them all at work(bf included) and was friends with them before bf started there. Are you meeting them 1 on 1 that can be interpreted as a date (i.e. like a movie, late night talk, candlelit dinner)? Depends on the plan, I went out drinking with one of the guys I trust the most the other day because I wanted to experience getting drunk at a bar(been drunk before, never at a bar. Was always the dd) and my bf is…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:27 PM
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Why anyone would entertain someone like that is just beyond me, if you don't have it easy form relationships with ppl of your own gender, you have a lot more issues than you realize. Well, it'd be easiest just to say I've had my fair share of conniving girls already and men just click. No ulterior motives(at least in the beginning) and if they ever developed, I'd drop them. I've done it before. Plus I've tried even recently to make female friends while out with the boys and each one I got a cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:06 PM
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Also if your brain is making "pussy" a synonym of Love, companionship, and family There's an "if" in this statement. I didn't make any lies about you, I only stated an "IF this were true....." Statement. By the same logic freedom is not a need You're correct, freedom is not a need. But taking away freedom then changes what you need. If you were to take freedom away, then love, care, and companionship do become a need. Even you should know that things held in captivity cannot survive without thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:58 PM
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The original comment you responded to was talking about men crying over a lack of pussy (Crying over not getting sex) and your response called it a biological need. So that's logically assuming that you're talking about sex, and responded with sex is not a biological need. Apparently you just had no reading comprehension skills when it came to that original comment so that's my fault. Didn't realize I was dealing with a spot reader. Also.. love, companionship, and family are also not biological …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:42 PM
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My dude... My comment was about sex not being a need. Calm down 😂 Your response covers nothing that I said anything about. Everything you wrote is pointless 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:19 PM
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Probably should have XD
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:22 PM
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Yeah, but I've also never heard money be called bread, But have heard it called dough ALOT
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:21 PM
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Body language. Avoiding eye contact, fidgeting, pointing her body towards you, when she speaks, she could either speak pretty quietly, or be awkward laughing at herself, or even just short and sweet. Smiling and/or looking away immediately when you guys make accidental eye contact, treats you differently than other people (does not have to be a significant difference) that's just everything off the top of my head. Good luck ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 04:55 PM
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Young people in general have no social skills. Did you know that over 50% of men my age, (in their twenties) have never approached a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 04:50 PM
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That was exactly my point. That the taxes aren't keeping us safe, it's for after our safety has been broken. It wasn't a gender thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:13 PM
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Sex is nothing but a tool for reproduction, and as an evolved species that has the choice of being child-free, sex and/or reproduction is not a need but a choice. sure, us as a species need to reproduce to not go extinct, but the point is we have the choice to decide what we want. Hell! some people actually want to extinct our species! Take away that choice, and you take away a piece of our rights and free will and are no better than animals. Side note, did you know animals also rape? mainly bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:25 AM
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Paying those taxes isn't for safety, it's for after our right to safety has been broken. For example, you get some very obviously threatening letters, call the cops, they investigate, find nothing or can do nothing, so nothing happens. The next day, the person who sent the letters attacks you. Now if you're not already dead, you can call the cops AGAIN and FINALLY they can do something. or for other types cases, specifically like rape, nothing happens because it's all word of mouth and can very …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:58 AM
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He works so much it's actually usually me inviting, but I see your point😅 I don't have any personal friends (only mutual with my bf) so again, usually me inviting🥲 I actually pay for a decent amount of time that I spend out with people, including with my own family(the family part actually kinda bums me out, I'd like my mom and dad to still offer to pay sometimes🥲😅)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:09 AM
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I didn't know that was a thing! I've baked brioche, but never twice baked. Glad to be proven wrong for this new information, I will now be looking for twice baked brioche recipes🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:04 AM
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I can agree on that. I personally believe the person who did the inviting pays(tho my man usually steals my wallet when I go to pay, he likes paying☺️) but like I said, humans are inherently selfish and there will always be a piece of contradiction somewhere from everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 10:01 AM
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You're on the Internet too much. Yes, there are women who contradict themselves. Same goes for men who want traditional but can't meet the traditional criteria themselves. But most "progressive" people, are as equal as can possibly be expected. Humans are inherently selfish, so there will always be some piece of contradiction on all ends
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:17 PM
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You mean you earn the dough, and she bakes the bread? She can't bake bread into bread🤪😂☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:12 PM
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Imo, up to 9 years until it gets a bit weird(5 years if one or both parties are under 30), and once they get close to the age of being able to be their parent(16+ year difference) it's just straight up creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:09 PM
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Yeah, I became pro-life when I realized that less than 15% of abortions were medically necessary. Crazy how selfish other women are, imo we already have all the rights we need(though I'd still like the free the nipple movement to succeed😂) they're all out here trying to fix something not broken, instead of focusing on the stuff that may need just a couple adjustments. I already know I'm going to get a lot of hate on this comment but idrc, go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:43 PM
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1 in 4 or 5 trad women are abused Let me clarify since context clues aren't enough for you. 1 in 4-5 traditional women in a marriage/relationship get abused. Do a deep dive into the research if you don't believe it. That is just ridiculous and on par of those crazies saying that 1 in 3 women are raped because a research once said women are touched without verbal consent. It's not 1 in 3 raped, it's 1 in 3 sexually assaulted/harassed at least once in their life. That includes cat calls, sexual co…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:51 PM
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To me, having a celebrity crush is pretty much the same as having a crush on an anime character. It's never going to happen but a person can dream 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:46 PM
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If you think the facts that I've extensively researched are outlandish claims, maybe you're one of the men that women should be looking out to avoid. Please seek medical support. have a good one. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:38 PM
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It can be said it is women abusing men (which is my and many other non trad mens view), as they can at any point take everything and just go to work. And how is she going to do that? With what money? What divorce lawyer? What car? What house? She has nothing to her name. but I would consider that it is not specific to traditionalism, if anything the number of young women who are just office bunnies/casual hookups in harems without even noticing and end up almost unemployable/unlovable late in li…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:51 PM
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I never said it was under duress willingly become like slaves Meaning the willingly giving up their freedom. They cook, clean, pleasure their man at HIS every whim, have kids, care for the kids, almost never go out without them or their man, the man always has final say, a lot end up being abused and unable to leave due to not having a dime to their name, end up with Stockholm syndrome, or end up dead. Are you going to tell me this doesn't happen? When a whole slew of nontraditional men want tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 09:40 PM
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You're saying "us". I asked for what YOU like specifically. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 02:04 PM
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When I say traditional, I mean the women who willingly become like slaves to their man. I understand everyone has at least one thing that could be considered traditional, but I meant the whole package kind of traditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 01:57 PM
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I know, I'm just saying that men who are soft with their women should be coveted instead of shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 01:41 PM
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Unicorn?! Where?!😶😶 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 01:38 PM
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Actually since dating apps became a thing marriages have dropped significantly. And I'm not saying that men have to do all the approaching, in fact I think that women should become more accustomed to initiating. Even if they think that the man should take the lead, he can do that after they initiate and make it clear that they are interested. Men aren't losing the ability to approach women in public, approaching women in public has never been a working strategy, and now women are pushing back ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:31 PM
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I wasn't looking for too much detail, so that's perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:26 PM
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I'm definitely talking relationship-wise, not hookups. And by social status it was just something I threw in there because I've noticed women say something about it. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:52 PM
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Well what does healthy and self-aware mean to you? Loyalty and fertility kind of don't have much to expand upon them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:49 PM
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My question wasn't what other men find high value, it was what do YOU find high value? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:30 PM
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Well at least you know what kind of woman is attracted to you, but what are you attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:24 PM
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This made me chuckle, but I'm interested to know what is actually your type of woman :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:22 PM
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I always feel weird about my answers to these questions, because I always feel like a massive pussy when I think about it. Be kind to me, and gentle. As in, like, make me feel like, safe and... I don't know how to put it. Mentally comfortable? It's embarrassing, but just hold me every now and again. Play with my hair. You shouldn't be embarrassed or feel like a 'pussy'. My man loves being held and loves his hair being played with. it doesn't make you or him any less of a man, in fact I feel like…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:19 PM
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I would love to hear your expanded version
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:15 PM
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Thank you, you are the first person that I've seen (so far) that actually gave the detailing that I was looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:15 PM
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That's fair honestly, but I was hoping for specifics. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:45 PM
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But what about those things? What kind of education, what kind of looks, what kind of personality, Ect.?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:44 PM
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Obviously women are gonna be most of the people who fight you on this, but you can put me in the 'women who agree' category.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:21 PM
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I couldn't care less about birth rate when divorce rate is so high. Before dating apps most couples met through family, friends, or work. Couples who met through friends or family had lower divorce rates. Couples who met at work had a higher chance of staying together past 10 years With dating apps couples who meet online are more likely to get divorced within a few years or may report less satisfaction and stability in their marriages and couples who meet online may feel less supported by socie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:42 PM
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I also don't think they think about the fact women could be used as lures to bad men and/or do the things they're scared of men doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:44 PM
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I'm not entirely sure as my mind doesn't tend to think like other women's minds do, but I think it comes down to the media causing women to fear men and think that saying she's hot is objectifying and sexualizing(which oddly enough isn't when a woman says it even though it's literally for a hookup?) All I know is when a man tells me I'm hot, I laugh it off and tell them I'm taken(cause I am) if I wasn't, I'd be flattered and definitely continue the conversation. It's a compliment as an icebreake…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:04 PM
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Oh, you're looking at dating and LTRs as two separate things😂 I was stating that as though they're the same cause I only "date" for a LTR. And yeah, dating apps are hard for anyone. I prefer in-person interactions and think dating apps are the main reason dating is ruined. I also didn't think about FWBs, I was just stating for ONS and not much else
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:06 PM
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If you're specifically talking LTRs, yes. But women pulling women for a ONS is pretty easy(at least it has been for me). Just be straight up, "hey, I think you're hot and I was wondering if you were interested in women?" If yes, the rest of the conversation begins and usually leads itself down the right road.(Should clarify that this has always been an in-person interaction and it was a few years ago so might not work anymore) but It's definitely a lot harder for men to pull women for a ONS
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:47 PM
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I should clarify, physical and financial attraction is not a must. I was not physically attracted to my boyfriend when we started dating. I did not know his financial status when we started dating. I started dating him because he had the qualities that I stated before. And it is the best relationship I have ever had. So again, physical and financial attraction is not a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 06:05 PM
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Fuck attraction(Physical and financial attraction). The person you're getting with should be someone who elevates you. Someone who makes you laugh, and makes you feel safe being vulnerable. Someone who makes you feel like a child again. Someone who understands you and knows how to communicate efficiently with you. They should be someone who makes you feel loved even before you get together. I personally don't think anyone should be getting with someone that they haven't had at least one fight wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:56 PM
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I never said men get apprehensive. I just was saying that I see what OP is talking about when they say Valentine's day has little to no benefits for men. but some people (if they were raised similar to me) celebrate sweetest's day for the men, so it's an equal exchange just on different days of the year.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 02:36 AM
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And that doesn't change the fact that it does happen
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:04 PM
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I have dated people that aren't typically considered attractive. And it happens quite a lot more than you think. Sorry*, that's just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:56 PM
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I guess you're just too slow to understand that I lived it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:54 PM
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And I would argue that deciding whether or not getting to know someone is worth it, based on how attractive they are, IS choosing partners based on looks only. I was saying that's what this was. Not what the entire decision is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:53 PM
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Well, no matter what you choose to believe, it did and it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:48 PM
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That is not at all what I said. We can choose who we want to give potential to. whether you are attractive or not, if we're watching you from afar and you're an asshole, we aren't choosing you. Whether you are attractive or not, if you are a good person and have your shit together, you've got a chance. Maybe instead of pulling words out of your ass, try reading it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 07:45 PM
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That is not choosing on looks only, that is choosing to offer them potential based on looks. Looks don't even immediately put them as a potential partner. Sometimes we'll watch from afar to see if we even want to give them potential. Then the potentiality diminishes or increases as we talk to them. If their personality sucks, they don't even have potential anymore. if their personality is good, they're now an official potential partner. That's when the dating starts, and if they prove themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:13 PM
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You can put one mark in your box for that. But I do think it's more common than you think. it usually starts off as a loooong friendship (5+ years) but it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:01 PM
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Could you dm me a link? I'd love to read it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:03 PM
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You should find one on ethnicity. I don't remember where it was but I actually saw a study that black women with white men have the lowest divorce rate out of every other combined ethnicities. And I'm curious where I lie in that as an american-born Mexican. If you could find a link to a study that goes more into that, I'd be grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 09:14 PM
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I was raised that Valentine's Day is for women and sweetest's day is for men, and have followed that all my life. So while Valentine's Day not being an equal exchange in itself is still true for me, it is also still equal in the fact that I shower my man with gifts on sweetest's day, while I get nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:54 PM
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It's usually no longer than 2 weeks, but yes. It's not all do to body functions and moods tho. We have a 9m/o and with our opposing work schedules, it's hard to find time even when we want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:59 PM
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I don't cheat because it's selfish, immature, and deeply hurtful behavior If you're also against cheating, why are you fighting me? My point is just to prove that cheating is wrong to OP and you're just defending his unethical and immoral behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:44 AM
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but that's just "ethical non-monogamy" Exactly why I like the phrase. No one's getting hurt and it's all out in the open.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:49 PM
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I didn't say it was a crime if one of the party wasn't married. In fact I specifically said it's illegal only when one of the party is married. And it is only enforced if the spouse presses charges. That doesn't make it any less of a crime. It's also illegal in Alabama, Arizona, Florida, Illinois, and Oklahoma. Article 134 of the UCMJ makes it illegal for members of the armed forces to engage in extramarital sexual conduct. So it's also illegal for anyone in the military to have sex with anyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 11:48 PM
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Let's get one thing straight, I am the woman in MY relationship, I know how MY body works, I know how MY feelings work, I know that I LOVE and AM ATTRACTED to my man, and I know that I don't need to have sex with him everyday for him to know that. Maybe try going back to biology, sex ed, and anatomy. Try therapy while you're at it, you'll learn that gaslighting is manipulation and abuse😊
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:40 PM
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750.30 Adultery; punishment. Sec. 30. Punishment—Any person who shall commit adultery shall be guilty of a felony; and when the crime is committed between a married woman and a man who is unmarried, the man shall be guilty of adultery, and liable to the same punishment. https://www.legislature.mi.gov/Laws/MCL?objectName=mcl-750-30
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:29 PM
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Speaking as a woman, I love my man IMMENSELY and find him extremely attractive most of the time. I WOULD NOT have sex everyday. Or even every other day. Hell, we go weeks without sex because I just don't want to, then have a small 4-5 day spurt of having sex once a day and go back to none. In fact, it would be this way for most women. Especially women who have a consistent 28day cycle. It is SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN that women tend to have a higher libido during ovulation. (You know... That time wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:26 PM
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People who stop sexually satisfying their partner should be cheated on People who aren't being sexually satisfied should learn to communicate on what they need in order to be satisfied. And if they can't, or still aren't satisfied, they should leave the relationship before getting it on with someone else . Cheaters deserve cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:45 PM
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I get it, with relationships, feelings get involved, but that doesn't strip an individual of their autonomy and right to pursue their interests. with relationships, feelings get involved Exactly why it's a failure of character. You are intentionally stringing someone who loves you along, because you lack the decency to cut the cord before parking your buggy in another garage. that doesn't strip an individual of their autonomy and right to pursue their interests. Infidelity is a crime. Albeit onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:41 PM
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How many couples that you personally know are having sex an average of three times per day after EIGHT years together? I don't know any relationships that have lasted 8 years yet, BUT I know two that are 4+ and have sex 3+ times a day. And I know this because, 1 just likes to brag(could be lying, sure. But why would she?)and I was unfortunate enough to need to stay a week with the other🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 04:46 PM
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I figured you had a source, I just didn't want you to be using an unreliable source. So saying it was a made-up percentage probably wasn't the right wording. But in the end I was wrong anyways so no hard feelings towards any of it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:52 PM
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My concern is with misinformation, but also with that being said, I'm wrong. I was calculating it as though the percentage of men watching wasn't independent of the women watching. 113% is definitely possible in the way they're describing it. Basically if 30% of men watch it, and women are 113% more likely to watch it, that means 63.9% of women watch it.(Made up percentages just for an example) So again, I was wrong and I apologize for the inaccurate assertions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:44 PM
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Stats from Pornhub’s 2015 “What Women Watch” report A website where anyone can lie about their gender, and most definitely does not have an equal distribution of men to women, still making it an unreliable source. Again, not fighting against or with your point. Just helping you make sure your sources are reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:16 PM
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In fact, women are 113% more likely to seek out rough pornography then men. This is a made up number as it is physically impossible that, in example, if 100 men and 100 women were interviewed, 113 women and 0 men said yes to watching rough porn. This is only possible if they interviewed more women than they did men, which would then make it an unreliable source as it was not an equal test. This is not arguing with or agreeing with any point, just informing you that you should choose a reliable s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:42 PM
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You can never trust a woman who doesn't have intense lust for you nearly immediately That is not saying it's "preferable." That is saying it is a necessity, as most of the rest of your post insinuates as well. And my point of it being extremely difficult to find a woman who immediately lusts for you AND is compatible for a long term relationship, still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:29 PM
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I wouldn't call it "fairly normal" but I also wouldn't call it rare or a lie. Just pretty uncommon and your man is very lucky to have a woman with a sex drive like yours. Most women just don't have that kind of sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:22 PM
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It's not hypocrisy to point out that the majority don't put out on the first date. just because "many" do, doesn't mean she's wrong or being hypocritical. And "many" does not mean "most." there are many serial killers but that doesn't mean most people are serial killers. Also, she never said anything about other women. She spoke of her own preference and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:12 PM
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Lust and attraction are 2 different things. The definition of lust is literally "a very strong sexual desire." The definition of attraction is "the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something." Most women are NOT going to immediately lust for someone, but they can immediately become attracted to someone, and it doesn't have to be on a sexual level. If you believe that your woman NEEDS to, even at least want to jump your bones at first sight, you will likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:01 PM
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Yes it does. I weighed 105lbs and one of my ex's told me I needed to gain weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:59 PM
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Because when boomers were young, fat men were more accepted than fat women. They've just swapped roles now, but boomers will stand by what they were taught. Once boomers die out, I'm sure the trope will soon after.(Morbid but true)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:50 AM
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What you said is very true and people do change, but my main point was, very close to everything can be compromised on, and anything that could make or break a relationship should be discussed beforehand, making the original comment I replied to wrong in option 1 being the only correct answer as option 1 should never be the answer. No one person should be able to control another adult person's life(unless that adult is medically incapable of living alone and making their own decisions) making op…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 06:20 PM
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That should be known before even getting together. If neither of you asked beforehand, that's on both of you and the relationship was doomed from the start. And if y'all got together knowing that difference, one or both of you are delusional in thinking neither will build resentment or expecting the other will change their mind (not saying people don't change their minds, but expecting it is dumb) this goes for any potential BIG life changes, such as marriage, moving long distances, dream jobs r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:12 PM
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And what exactly is an example of something that cannot be compromised on? I feel like 99.9% of things can, so much so that there is no obvious example I can even think of that couldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:00 AM
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Supersedes having a partner. It is this fact, that makes the first option, the only correct choice. This contradicts Most things can be compromised upon, As the second one was about compromise. Not about you giving up everything. If you want someone who gives up everything for you and becomes miserable, that's your choice. But a relationship is about compromise, not control, especially on important decisions. You will never have a successful relationship without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:48 PM
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This is definitely a better way to put what I was saying. I agree with everything you've just said, thank you for putting more definition into my answer😊
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 08:40 PM
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I believe purple is seeing both blue and red sides and mostly agreeing with the in-between. I'm not entirely sure as I just joined the pill circle. That's just what I assumed based on the description I read.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:20 PM
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I believe it's unreal expectation too, but I believe it's because they, subconsciously, never fully let go of how women were meant to social climb, and tend to hold themselves to a higher standard. in turn they expect their men/partner to see their "worth" and meet that standard as well, which is an unreal expectation and love should never be about worth or meeting standards. I believe this, mainly because it's what I've observed in other women, both online and offline. I, myself, sometimes catc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 03:40 PM
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I believe it's because they, subconsciously, never fully let go of how women were meant to social climb, and tend to hold themselves to a higher standard. in turn they expect their men/partner to see their "worth" and meet that standard as well, which is an unreal expectation and love should never be about worth or meeting standards. I believe this, mainly because it's what I've observed in other women, both online and offline. I, myself, sometimes catch myself expecting too much. I also believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 03:38 PM
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I think it's because most women want to get married, and relationships are supposed to be a partnership, making things "easier", but women tend to have too high of expectations, making it "harder" because the other isn't meeting those expectations, so the woman leaves to find someone who will meet those expectations. But it'll most likely never happen, hence the high divorce rate. Also "harder" and "easier" are in quotes because, really, in a relationship everything should pretty much just stay …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 03:18 AM
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Not saying what you're saying isn't true, my hubby and I are definitely outliers but my hubby insisted on paying for a dinner on our first date. I prefer the first date is free and offers a lot of time to talk, ie. A walk through a park, stargazing, picnic (we'd both bring something to eat), or even just chilling at one of our places. So while a lot of women do hold on to this tradition, I think a decent amount of men prefer it too. And a decent amount of women don't. Change is happening, but on…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:20 PM
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What about sex? That's not even 18 and most places, it's younger 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:52 PM
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A is only true because they are new drivers(and boys dont care about safety really, girls are less likely to pull stunts, but mostly because they're new), if we took that away then it'd be 21-25ish year olds being new and terrible drivers. You can't get rid of bad drivers by upping the age of driving, some people are just stupid..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:28 PM
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All? Or most? I think working and driving should stay at the age they're at, but everything else, I've got no problem with going up to 21. But that's probably because I'm already 21
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:22 PM
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She never specified rape, she said SA which entails any kind of sexual interaction without consent from either gender, ie. Groping, unsolicited genitalia revealing, Ect. Rape is thankfully low, but half the population of women have or will be sexually assaulted at least once in their lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:07 PM
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there are no real advatages of a SAHM. This contradicts A big reasons women give for letting them be SAHMs is that it's good for the kids. That may be true Also it's not a maybe, it's factually proven that it's best for the kids to have a stay-at-home mother. It's best for them to have both parents all the time, but that's obviously not possible. That may be true but a SAHM can cheat on their husband and she will get primary custody A motherless child is far worse than a fatherless child, and ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:55 PM
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I wore makeup more often, but other than that I never really changed anything to try and fit with what anyone finds attractive, from what I remember. I haven't been single in a while, but that's what I do if I was single now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:09 PM
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I think it might also be because men with average size still think that big dick dudes please women like a one-hit wonder, so they're competing with them and in turn actually do better than them.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:01 PM
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So the actual points don't mean anything even though they add more depth and information than the title? Even with the title as context, everything I said still stands. Also in a debate setting, the title is almost never the context. it's the main point, and the body is the context
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:07 PM
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Read points 1, 3, and 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:55 PM
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It is not irrelevant because he said women are incapable of loving, women being more empathetic and emotional is biological proof that we are capable of loving. So no I will not delete it. Yeah they don't feel empathy, they feel good for themselves because they're "showing empathy", just like women do. Narcissists do feel empathy, just very limited. What you're trying to compare women to is sociopaths. And absolutely not, most women are not sociopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:36 PM
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I didn't say it makes us love a person more, I said we're more emotional and empathetic and therefore are capable and do love as much as a man loves. Also narcissists are almost incapable of feeling empathy. What they most likely feel is jealousy and envy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:25 PM
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This way, less cheatings will happen, divorces will be less damaging because wife would already know that she is not good enough, so no one is blindsided. I don't disagree that men should be able to leave for not having their needs met, but there's got to be a better way to word this instead of saying she's "not good enough". Such as: the wife would already know that their libido's are incompatible. If she's done everything else right, but she doesn't have a high enough sex drive for him, that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:22 PM
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Or just don't nag and pick fights over simple jobs she could easily do herself. Especially when the mess she's moaning about is 90% of her own making (somehow my place magically became much tidier when I was between girlfriends...). Maybe you should reevaluate the type of women that you're getting with? I agree that it's not just men creating a mess and leaving it, my man enjoys cleaning the house. But if you look at most hetero relationships, it's the woman doing the cleaning, and the man usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:17 AM
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Yes, and no? because if a woman wants biological children,and he has no testicles, he can't give her biological children. so she would turn to sperm donors, but if he doesn't want her having "someone else's" children, then they're not compatible. but if she's willing to not have biological children, and choose to adopt, or he's okay with her using a sperm donor, or neither of them want children in general, then it really doesn't matter. I guess really the only thing that matters is their positio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 02:04 AM
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My man's money doesn't turn me on, but my own financial success sometimes does. Does that count? 😂 To elaborate it has to be a financial success that is big enough to make me extremely happy or excited ie: paying off my credit card debt, buying my own car, being able to spend spare money on a gift for my man, ect.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:43 AM
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1) women dont love the man, they love themselves throught their man. Factually untrue, woman are more emotional and empathetic than men and are capable of loving their partner. Yes we do love ourselves through* our men, because when we love our partners and the partners show appreciation for it, it makes us happy that our partners appreciate what we do for them. whatever it may be. 2) thats why they cant pick a low value man, but must always try to get the best for their buck. they cant "love" a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:25 AM
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Humans aren't strictly monogamous, that's a societal structure. Human nature trends towards men being attracted to women that are younger and more capable of having children. Actually monogamy would be the most likely standard that humans would have. Societal monogamy in nature is not technically considered one mate for life. Even in species considered monogamous, extra-pair copulations are a thing, meaning individuals may mate with others outside their primary pair which is common in primates. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:09 PM
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That's fair, it's not a black and white question. But we don't have a set cultural beauty standard, it's constantly changing. And woman are constantly changing with it, so why don't we just do what we think is beautiful for ourselves, instead of what other people want?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:40 PM
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So a man can't be attracted to a woman if she doesn't follow societal beauty standards? If the man didn't think she was attractive why would he "mate" with her in the first place? There are other factors that define beauty besides physical appearance. If you're in a relationship with someone, and you love everything non-physical about them, but they get physically uglier with age, are you going to leave them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:36 PM
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We aren’t even allowed to just “wear our own skin” in US, clothing is required. HA! I definitely wasn't expecting this response. and if you think that was literal, it wasn't it was a metaphor. I am following the beauty standards of our culture, and not even checking who came up with the original idea. Well, if you look up American culture beauty standards, it actually says that the standard is embracing natural beauty (at least for 2024). So... no makeup, no hair styling, and most likely some re…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:27 PM
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Look, this wasn't even the main point of my post. My main point was why women who hate men adhere to the beauty standards of men, ie. Wearing makeup, getting plastic surgery, starving themselves to be skinnier, Ect. You can still adhere to the standards of society without changing yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:09 PM
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So you think women who hate men should not follow the standards of beauty of the country they live in No. My original post was to question why they adhere to the beauty standards of men, ie. Wearing makeup, getting implants, Getting reconstructive surgery, starving themselves to be skinnier, Ect. Basically just asking why don't they wear their own skin? You can still be attractive and fit societal standards without appealing to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:02 PM
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Birds are not mammals, and most mammals have the same "attraction standards", mostly being strong genetics ie. Strength, speed, intelligence, agility, ect. Now I'm not saying that we need to be more like animals, but most of us women are perfectly capable of choosing and approaching our male counterparts that we deem "attractive", instead of waiting for them to approach us, even if we don't adhere to the beauty standards of society.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:54 PM
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Probably not as a server, but your question was would you get hired for a job. And yes they would still most likely get hired somewhere. It could be a job completely out of sight of client's eyes, but it's still a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:44 PM
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I didn't say that it doesn't happen, but most likely you will be hired somewhere. And if a job doesn't hire you and they can't give you a reason that's not discrimination, you can sue. And that's why your husband has a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:43 PM
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That's interesting to know that lesbians have a whole different beauty standards, would you say it's more masculine or more gender neutral?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:40 PM
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I would say how we put ourselves out there is the chase, certainly not going to attract anyone sitting at home all day. But how are we not doing this already, at least in western society? I would say making ourselves known is one thing, but actively going up to the men that we have an interest in and actually trying to get with them (not just a hookup) would be something that not a lot of women do, but I feel like we should. Mostly because women tend to have an easier time getting a male's atten…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:48 PM
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I said that females select the males? And you're right I shouldn't have said we're supposed to be chasing the males. I should have said we SHOULD be chasing the males, meaning selecting who we find most fitting and acting on it, instead of waiting for them to come to us. And yes a lot of what we do doesn't match other mammals, but that's also because we evolved to be able to have more complicated thoughts and emotions than animals do. If we were as "simple minded" as most animals we would most l…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:41 PM
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If I dressed in the culture of some obscure lesbian tribe with totally different standards of beauty rather than an American, would I still get hired or promoted at my American company? I would probably say hired, yes. Discrimination because of any kind of belief when hiring is against the law. Promoted, pretty iffy. Mostly because most companies are also owned by men, and if they don't see you as an attractive fit then they're probably going to be less likely to promote you. Would clients be as…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:30 PM
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I'm a little confused right now, just because it seems like you're trying to argue with me by agreeing with me? I said that females should be chasing the males, meaning we should be choosing which males are our potential partners and acting on it, instead of waiting for them to come to us. As for sexual dimorphism, a lot of mammals don't show much difference between genders in terms of size. You're right, it's not that common I should have put sometimes in front of it. There are more mammal spec…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:14 PM
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As a mammal species, females are "less attractive" or sometimes bigger,(because it's the males with the sexual ornamentation) because they don't need to attract. And male selection is generally considered more common than female selection in mammals. Even if the males are fighting for the female, ultimately the female chooses their mate based on genetic strength. As a biologist, you should know that already.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:05 PM
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Yes, they are societal beauty standards, but they only became societal beauty standards after they started as the standards of men. not to mention that it's mostly men that own these companies, producing the media for women's beauty standards still. Women are tearing into women because they don't fit the standards. as to why? I couldn't tell you that's what I'm trying to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:53 PM
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As a mammal species, females are often less attractive or bigger than their male counterparts, Because they don't need to attract. While the males do go to the female in some cases, ultimately it is the female choosing which male to mate with, based on genetic strength. This doesn't go with the beauty standards but I also found that some mammal species have recently been adopting social monogamy, I just wanted to add that because I thought it was cool 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:40 PM
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Thank you for the detailed answer, well it is difficult to refute any of these. I'd like to ask your opinion on why we should even need to adhere to social norms (on a physical level) in order to get something that's needed or wanted?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:37 PM
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But why do we need to adhere to social standards either? At least on a physical level. Why do I need to change how I look to be accepted? to be respected? to be promoted?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:35 PM
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This is the best answer I've seen so far, but to also get further into the conversation, why do you think we ever needed to follow beauty standards? And why is it important that we follow social norms?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:32 PM
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As a mammal species, the females are often less attractive or bigger than the men because, they don't need to attract. Yes the males come to them but ultimately the female chooses which male that they are going to mate with based on genetic strength, ie. Which one is smarter? which one is stronger? which one is faster? Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:29 PM
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Clothes are definitely a standard part of social norms, but are you going to trust someone less just because they don't wear makeup, or because they don't have implants giving them bigger breasts or a bigger butt? Changing ourselves to follow "social norms" shouldn't be a norm. That's really all I was getting at. And for the biology, the proof is all in nature. and you can look it up if you would like too. humans are a mammal species, and if you look at a majority of mammals, the female are ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:25 PM
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Okay, I'll try to find some information on it somewhere. I was trying to figure It out by just going into the red pill subreddit but it wouldn't let me enter.😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:55 PM
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I don't usually project myself as feminine, most guys I know agree with my position on things, and most women I know do not. Having said that I don't really fear I'll be socially rejected because, the guys that do get to know me tend to like me a lot more than most other women they know, but romantic rejection is a slight fear because, so many of the guys that I know most likely just see me as one of the boys, instead of as a woman myself. But it's also not something I need to worry about right …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:38 PM
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Could you explain to me how this is red pill? I'm new to the whole pill thing, but I thought red was woman-hating but not exactly a misogynistic(?) and I didn't read anything woman hating in this original comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:20 PM
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