HellaSober Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Inner Game for Men - In A Nutshell No advice is going to work for everyone - he's obviously writing this more for people who resemble his high school friends than he is for someone like you. There is a chance that you give off a vibe that you are going to judge people - maybe they are tease you about being serious because they feel like they have to be serious around you or they risk being judged for goofing off/relaxing/etc? I don't know you, but I know that there have been times when I've given off that type of vibe and it is d…	/r/seduction	11/10/14 06:05 AM
1	[FR] Was I in the wrong? If you asked her out, be prepared to pay. (There are ways to also set expectations towards splitting bills and such, but if you are asking about what specifically to say then it's a better bet to just avoid the awkwardness and confidently take action.) Because of that, don't take a girl on a first date to that nice a place, since being used for free dinners/drinks by people who aren't really interested in you isn't a fun or healthy pattern.	/r/seduction	11/05/14 06:44 PM
1	New study: Men With Attractive Wives Report Higher Levels Of Marital Satisfaction; Women Aren't Affected By Husband Attractiveness We are playing telephone here (news articles on studies are rarely accurate in the first place) and the person posting the article is either bad at this game or likes sensationalism enough to put an outright lie in the title. Here is the relevant quote from the article from the study: "The significant effect of wives’ attractiveness on husbands’ satisfaction was significantly stronger than the nonsignificant effect of husbands’ attractiveness on wives’ satisfaction, indicating that partner physi…	/r/seduction	21/11/13 12:02 AM
1	How do you differentiate between not wanting to do something because it's out of your comfort zone or because you genuinely don't want to? The whole point of what you are trying to learn is to enjoy interacting socially with people (specifically attractive girls, but they are a subset of the broader category of people). You aren't committing to 30 minutes or even 5 minutes of conversation with these girls, but being able to have fun walking around and making small talk with others and then going back to hanging out with your friends for most of the night without it ruining the vibe of your night is an important muscle for you to fl…	/r/seduction	19/10/13 05:59 AM
4	I interviewed a group of 10 girls about their dating/sexual history and preferences... Here's some of what I learned. Okay, so the selection bias is slightly smaller than what you'd find at a Tucker Max fun club gathering. ( =	/r/seduction	16/08/13 04:22 PM
5	I interviewed a group of 10 girls about their dating/sexual history and preferences... Here's some of what I learned. But I figured, since I'm visiting these cities, why not use this as an opportunity to learn more about women too? Riding the coattails of my internet infamy, I organized a women's focus group in NYC last weekend. Relax. This is massive selection bias. If these girls are his fans they are not normal girls. Think of it this way: Would you generalize from a questionnaire filled out by a bunch of girls at a Tucker Max event?	/r/seduction	16/08/13 07:24 AM
5	PUA has destroyed my trust in women, but I still want to settle down with someone The problem is still the same. They operate by the same rules. It's more that you operate by the same rules, so you'll meet similar girls.	/r/seduction	28/07/13 10:29 AM
2	Be Sober! There are ways...	/r/seduction	27/01/13 06:02 AM
2	Why Yoga will help your game That's really weird that they made such a big deal out of touching your toes before you could do the other class. I've been told to just bend my knees if I can't touch my toes without bending my legs - and this is in a somewhat "hard" class (power flow).	/r/seduction	11/09/12 07:24 PM
1	My girlfriend asked me to hit on someone else to prove I had game. In a situation where you asked her to do this to get you a free drink, yes. But not acting at all is still acting. If she stays with the guy for what seems to you to be too long maybe she is expecting you to come up and rescue her so she can eject with less awkwardness.	/r/seduction	11/07/12 06:31 PM
1	My girlfriend asked me to hit on someone else to prove I had game. There are various ways to act on things. Not acting at all by never discussing it or alleviating the situation also seems bad.	/r/seduction	11/07/12 05:51 PM
5	Remember, never take girls' advice on picking up girls This depends on the age and the girl. This was very true in high school, mostly true in college and slightly less true in my mid to late 20s as the girls I hang out with have become progressively more cynical about other women.	/r/seduction	02/07/12 06:06 AM
12	What's your best response to the "I have a boyfriend" line? There is such a thing as time inconsistent preferences. You don't think for a minute that you are causing the girl to do something that they will regret? This is especially sketchy since a lot of "PUAs" go out to bars sober and try to pick up girls who have been drinking. Maybe those girls shouldn't be putting themselves in that situation, but they don't have to learn the lesson that way and it's your choice to turn a bad decision on their part into a worse situation.	/r/seduction	25/05/12 06:16 AM
1	So lame but I'm having trouble with other dudes.. I merely found the truth by being bluntly honest in my question / introduction. So it sounds like you get a kick out of being tactless. I tend to try to get the girl to hang with the guy. And from what you know on seddit do you really think that your "help" is actually effective or is it more for your own amusement? Human nature is pretty amusing. Cheers.	/r/seduction	24/05/12 12:29 AM
2	So lame but I'm having trouble with other dudes.. You really can't tell the difference between what you described above and asking a blonde girl to do a black girl impression? Here's a hint: then the guy looks sad as shit There is a difference between being random and laughing with people and making everyone happy versus creating awkwardness and laughing at someone with your friend.	/r/seduction	23/05/12 11:33 PM
14	So lame but I'm having trouble with other dudes.. Maybe you should figure out ways to have a good time that don't depend on needlessly hurting other people. Just a thought.	/r/seduction	23/05/12 09:56 PM
2	So lame but I'm having trouble with other dudes.. Too many guy friends? Really? That shouldn't be a problem. It doesn't translate to the other in some cases (maybe if you know them all through a really male centric activity) but one does not preclude the other either (unless you are spending all of your social time only interacting with them in a male centric activity).	/r/seduction	23/05/12 09:49 PM
5	Are there still crazy parties after college? As along as it is an apartment-mate and not a true roommate like in college then you are fine.	/r/seduction	18/05/12 04:33 PM
1	A word of caution Isn't this one of the reasons that seddit/etc. is needed? You can't just ask girls what they want (and pop culture had been too helpful for guys in figuring out what they want either). It wouldn't be too surprising if that was also the case for many of its members.	/r/seduction	15/05/12 05:44 AM
1	A word of caution If x% of all guys wrote field reports, we'd still hear more about crazy parties because the guys who get into relationships would stop writing them and the guys who don't want relationships would keep writing about their good times. And then there is the other question. "If you were honest with the girl and told her you wrote a FR about your interaction with her, how would she react?" There are certainly some girls who would think that's cool, but many would not want that part of their private l…	/r/seduction	15/05/12 05:40 AM
1	Female redditor here who just stumbled across this subreddit... Don't women have Cosmo and all of their clones? And then there are "The Rules," "He's Just Not Into You" and those self help books that are largely bought by women. This community is the equivalent of the advice in those types of books and magazines except it's a little more grounded because there is an iterative process of trial and error behind the general themes. That said, it's only something guys have to study hard when they've never been exposed to it before and they've grown up watching m…	/r/seduction	27/04/12 06:30 AM
2	Undergoing self-improvement - How do you change who you are in front of people who have known you for a long time? People act differently around different people. It's just a fact of life. If you don't like the way you act around a group, avoid situations where it matters. If you can't change your behavior around them at all, a compromise would be to still join them for a game of touch football/board games/video games but avoid hanging out around them when they are going somewhere more social and you want to meet new people. If the behavior is worse because of how they treat you, then maybe they aren't your …	/r/seduction	24/02/12 09:29 PM
3	Really Neil? A board game? :facepalm: Well, I like boardgames. If this turned out to be a good alternative to casual games like Cards Against Humanity it could be quite interesting. Why is this automatically bad? Edit - Looked at some of the cards. It seems way too cheesy.	/r/seduction	27/01/12 10:01 PM
5	The OkCupid Calibration Project (Part Two) Okay, so you are changing around your profile and then trying to see how many views you get? How do you think this is getting them to click your profile in the first place? Generally, girls will pay more attention to new photos. I read this elsewhere (maybe even in seddit) and noticed that it worked - rotate your main profile picture and more girls will click through. It doesn't even have to be a new picture, you can change between three pictures, deleting one of them and then uploading it again…	/r/seduction	11/01/12 03:37 AM
5	Guys, we need to talk about this. It's time for some hard reflection. Your post is giving me mixed messages!	/r/seduction	15/12/11 06:52 AM
2	Got turned down for a job because I'm a dude. If I bug your phone then neither you nor the person you call knows.	/r/MensRights	27/05/11 05:51 AM