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RANTHengroenAndLlamrei/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:26 AM
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STRATEGYHengroenAndLlamrei/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:04 PM
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I respect that you feel that way. Personally, I think you can be there for someone emotionally without it being romantic, that the relationship can change into one of platonic love/support. I just know for me personally, if I was the one with that disease wasting away, while I would certainly hope my loved ones continued to visit and care for me in whatever capacity they were able, I would want my romantic partner to grieve me and find a new person to love romantically. Because I don’t think it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 11:20 PM
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Different sides of the same scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:25 PM
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I have to disagree. His spouse was gone a long time ago. When you’ve dealt with these types of diseases, you mourn the person you’ve lost long before their body is gone. The mind, the person, is at some point tragically no longer there. If your partner is in full-time care and no longer recognizes you, I’m not sure it’s healthy to put your life on pause until their death. I wouldn’t want that for my partner. I’d want them to mourn who I was and move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:28 PM
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I’m hesitant to place judgment on this. Dementia and Alzheimer’s are brutal, horrible diseases and being a caregiver is a hell all it’s own. Like, I get it. It sounds super crappy and some will die on the hill that it is. Black and white, no grey area. I see the grey on this on. At some point full-time care really is the best/only choice. It’s just a painful situation all the way around. His wife was significantly older than him. Unless there is other information about him treating her terribly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:57 PM
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I have a type I’m attracted to. It’s is what it is. I can’t help it. Not something to feel good or guilty about. It just is. It’s not a value judgment against a man, obviously his HV or LV behavior will dictate the ultimate outcome after the looks stage. But if the fundamental attraction isn’t there, I can’t force it. And honestly the rhetoric that ‘lust fades’ and ‘you can grow to love someone’ is so disingenuous. Like, sure, to a degree those things are true. But too often it’s used to gasligh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:18 AM
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That vet is an idiot who doesn’t know shit about dogs aside from maybe how to operate on them (jury’s out). He probably recommends Science Diet or Purena too. OP, many actual dog people recommend waiting until 2 to neuter since the puppy is still growing and the hormones impact bone development, height, muscle growth, weight, etc. Vets push for earlier because of money and also TBF irresponsible people who contribute to accidental breedings. The aggression issue is so overblown and a scapegoat u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:53 PM
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If plant sentience becomes confirmed one day that’s really going to mess up a lot of vegans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:17 PM
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Studio Ghibli films typically have very wonderful female protagonists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:18 PM
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Hello darkness my old friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:52 PM
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Nope. It’s all free love and shit with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 05:15 AM
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Hermione deserved better than Ron. Movie and book Ron to be clear. Ron was a great dude, but a terrible boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:59 AM
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This MUST be satire. Must be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:48 AM
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Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:46 PM
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Considering it’s like $6 for one I don’t blame you. Much cheaper to make yourself long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:10 AM
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It’s a pretty excellent dupe for Starbucks’ brown sugar oat milk shaken espresso drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:44 AM
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That sounds similar to my coffee I make! Half almond milk, half oat milk, light ice, cold brew powder or espresso, pure vanilla extract, brown sugar syrup, light cinnamon powder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:18 AM
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The whole show is trash and please don’t pose Katie as an FDS role model. She is a peak Pick-Me who repeatedly promised to change her whole life to fit the goals of whatever man she ended up with and over promised them unrealistic things, not to mention the toxic ‘sex positivity’ nonsense. I actually respect Greg a little bit for leaving as Katie was a mess the entire show and a LVW. (An argument could be made even going on such a show makes you LV, women and men alike—the literal premise being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:56 PM
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I was never told the ‘hit by the bus’ part, only the ‘just in case’ part. I’m case of what? Severe injury? R*pe? I randomly decide to have sex with a stranger? All either horrific or impossible. Let me tell you, the ONLY way I would ever decide to randomly drop trow for a strange man I met on the street is if he was the incarnation of a romance novel hero and a mythical elvin king of a magical land in another dimension with a killer six pack and tree trunk arms who declares his undying love and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:08 PM
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Forget the gas. Grammar like that tells you all you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:12 AM
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They can find the +5 Legacy Power Gem at the end of the Master Mode Maze after doing a 30 man raid for 2 weeks straight using a player guide and hand annotated map while simultaneously strategically building their Fantasy Football rosters based on states and bragging about how they sniped someone from a hidden location in COD. They are LYING when they say they can’t find the clit or figure out how to finger you. They are just unmotivated and don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:34 PM
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Interior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:14 AM
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Oh, I totally agree. I just made a comment about it on this thread. I’d be very interested to read studies on the differences in male and female video game usage and addiction rates. I suspect the results would speak for themselves. Men seem to have a harder time regulating themselves when it comes to any extreme stimuli: drugs, sex, video games, etc. Maybe due to testosterone and other biological differences in the brain? Plus, the communities they cultivate are typically far more toxic. IE Ani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:36 AM
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Me: an Animal Crossing player during quarantine. 4+ hours a day? Oh yeah, totally unhealthy. Who, uh, would do that… sweats nervously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:26 AM
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It’s really very sad how women blame other women instead of their unfaithful spouse. A woman once called me out of the blue sobbing and begging me to stop sleeping with her husband because ‘think of the children.’ She had found my number by going through his work book. Because I was a client of his at one point. I couldn’t even remember what the man looked like, let alone some torrid affair. She WOULD NOT believe me. Why she selected me out of what I presume to be many clients is beyond me. How …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:25 AM
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“Off the streets” WTF, why is that even on the table? Lol. Look, I enjoy video games. They’re fun. The problem with men playing video games is so often it’s an addiction, like porn. It comes before hygiene, before work, before building quality relationships, hell even before sex with a real person. It can distort the brain (like porn). Make people impatient, short tempered, acclimatized to toxic verbally abusive environments, etc. It’s TOO stimulating and too much if it rots the brain. I’m not s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:19 AM
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‘I discovered the girl I’m dating has standards and now I’m scerd.’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:05 AM
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I’m getting some Game of Thrones vibes from this, and not the dragon part of the show if you know what I mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:11 PM
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Unfortunately, I don’t know many. Most of my acquaintances and coworkers are pick-mes who are married to or pursuing NVM/LVM and constantly bemoan how difficult their lives are and how little these men do/contribute. Thank God for my mother. She’s a HVW goddess who takes shit from no one and served as an excellent role model. Fun story. My co-workers and I were actually at lunch last week and relationships came up. The ladies were talking about their useless husbands and I said that’s why I’m st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:54 PM
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They can look up and figure out how to get the level 63 DPS gem for the super ultra power slot of their ultimate dragon blade they had to spend 45 hours grinding for in coordinated group dungeons and win a high roll. If they cared, they could find the clit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:40 AM
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I’ve heard he put a curse on his name and every time someone says it the studio lets him make another movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:08 PM
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You can’t ever really know the truth of someone’s heart and mind. Be a ruthless pirate. “Take what you can, give nothing back.” And leave at the first betrayal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:49 PM
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Ugh. I hate whenever trailers for this pop up. Especially the unskippable ones. The ONLY thing I will give it credit for is it doesn’t portray pregnancy as the typical happy miracle most media does, it acknowledges there are horrific aspects about it. But even then, the overall message is distorted because it’s not about the potential health risks to the woman, it’s all about her body not being appealing anymore. The whole movie is super misogynistic and gross, especially the emphasis on loss of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:57 PM
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Avatar community: We do not speak his name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:51 PM
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I can confidently say I… do not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:36 AM
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My dear friend is married to a LVM bordering on NVM. Alcoholic, narc, manipulative, emotionally and financially abusive. I’ve tried for years to get her to leave him. She’s thought about it, but ultimately, he funds her lifestyle and she doesn’t want to give that up. She has a long history of being with ‘fixer uppers’ (that of course she never fixes.) Her husband is ‘in therapy’ now and ‘trying’. Right. Sure. Whatever. He never hit her at least, which, the bar is in hell. This woman has a Master…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:31 PM
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‘Nerds’ are more likely to be incels with deeply ingrained resentment towards women and disturbed misogynistic tendencies influenced by porn. ‘Chads’ are more likely to have healthy relationships and socialization, both from confidence and positive reinforcement. Chads can still be NVM/LVM (and usually are because most men are) but at least you can enjoy the six pack until you’ve vetted them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:59 PM
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If I legitimately forgot my wallet when out with friends I’d be mortified and insist on paying them back as soon as possible and follow through immediately, and my friends being the amazing people that they are, would spot me without question because we surprise treat each other all the time and it all ‘comes out in the wash’ so to speak. Any guy who ‘forgets’ his wallet and then sheepishly/charmingly asks you to cover him in a ‘cute’ way is a manipulator 100% of the time. No shame. Wants a free…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:14 PM
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It’s equal, it’s not equitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:22 PM
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“Provider.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:59 AM
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This fool is jealous of a tampon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:53 AM
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Sadly, many PickMes accept $100 Pandora rings, so not much financial security there. LVM often give LV rings. But yes, if a LVM happens to drop 20 large on a rock, keep that sucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:05 PM
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TBF, I’d take 4 Jason Mamoas...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:55 AM
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Tried it. Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:56 PM
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All these boys afraid women are trying to golddig for money they don’t even have! $5 (the cost the coffee lol) says she makes more than him. Edit: And don’t you just love how men set up a system where women were dependent on them (voting, jobs, bank accounts, etc.) and then have the audacity to be butthurt when some women continue to chose to assess part of the man’s value based on what he can provide? Like, YOU WANTED THIS JERRY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:51 PM
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Because if they didn’t lie to you and make weddings and babies look like so much FUN then women wouldn’t do it. Billions of dollars are pumped into the scam. Barbie, cakes, dresses, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:36 PM
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It was the partner, obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:06 AM
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This reminds me of a post on a housing sub. Girl was with her boyfriend for 5 years (but he wants to get married ‘one day’ and they’re ‘on the same page’), made more money than him, and was considering paying off HIS mortgage but was posting for ideas on how to protect herself financially ‘just in case’. Of course when I questioned their relationship, I was downvoted into oblivion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:20 PM
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Gross. Also, am I the only one who read it as second-day instead of today, like, three times?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:49 PM
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Or how he left Anya—another women way too good for him who had the right idea being a vengeance demon against LVM!—at the alter only to go crawling back. And what does she get for her trouble? Chopped in half. And he gets a cool eyepatch. Typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:33 AM
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Ah that old chestnut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:30 AM
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I have a lot of trouble with Xander’s character on rewatches. As a kid I found him funny and endearing, so it’s hard to realize how much I dislike him. The way he talks about women, the dickish way he deals with his crush on Buffy and jealousy of Angel (who he literally lied about which led to Buffy in agony, sending the guy to a hell dimension for centuries, and almost ended the world), chasing Willow after rejecting her for years once she got Oz while simultaneously cheating on Cordy who—as wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:15 AM
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“Tact is just not saying true stuff.” What an icon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:09 AM
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That’s why their opinions don’t matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:45 PM
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Why can’t HE move closer to YOU if it’s so important to him? Because you’re a convenience, not a priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:59 PM
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The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:42 PM
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I agree with everything, with the caveat that Marvel and other children’s/young adult media can be really good and deep. The issue is the type of LVM you describe typically focuses on all the wrong parts (skin-tight costumes and explosions for example), or focuses on it solely in lieu of other also good and deep media. A fixation on Star Wars, Marvel, etc. can definitely indicate a guy prone to Peter Pan syndrome or other escapism (like porn) because they are unhappy in their own life and feel i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:07 PM
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Eeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:32 PM
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I’ve turned down 3 marriage proposals. Men love high maintenance bitches. Makes them feel all warm and fuzzy in their nether regions when they finally earn your approval and they put in real effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:47 PM
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I have a soft spot for Swan Lake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:26 AM
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Totally disagree. They are a style that holds your hair back. They are practical in the workplace, particularly at my job where I move around a lot and don’t want to push hair out of my face or get it caught in things. I have very long hair (hip) and it’s heavy. Ponytails and single buns are nice but my scalp gets soar spots wearing them too often. Braids make my hair tangle and knot (layers). Pigtails and space buns are a way to distribute the weight more evenly. There is nothing unprofessional…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:05 PM
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Someone tried to tell me wearing pigtails to work was inappropriate. Why? Because men have sexualized a common hairstyle of children? GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:00 PM
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Ugh. This makes me sad. I frequented a few long hair forums back in the day and the ladies there were so supportive and wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:59 PM
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I got banned from AITA for calling her husband a loser in my reply. Lol. Edit: Apparently calling a duck a duck isn’t ‘civil’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:55 PM
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I agree, though perception takes a roll. For example, Henry Cavil was objectively better looking during parts of his 20’s, however, my attraction to him increased with his broadening roles and cosmetic choices. (Black leather and fantasy garb is my jam... ) Also, I’m just not attracted to men younger than myself because the immaturity issues and slew of other reasons. So while objectively men may be more handsome when younger, their presence, personality, etc. can impact how much that handsomene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:57 PM
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No one, in the history of the world, man or women has ever been ‘confused’. If they want to date/marry you, they WILL. ‘Confused’ is code for backup plan until what they really want comes along. Always. Full stop. No exceptions. Even if that person eventually comes around and decides you’re the one, you WERE NOT when they were ‘confused’. You were actively the placeholder unless they could find XYZ or you somehow proved yourself and they have a revelation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:19 AM
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You advised them to be patient, focus on quality, and prioritize their own growth? You monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:33 AM
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I’m not interested in giving brownie points to LVM who are less crappy than other LVM. They’re a HVM or they’re not. Everything else is white noise. HVM doesn’t mean perfect/never makes mistakes. It’s means a man who consistently doesn’t engage in LVM behaviors and personality traits that are CHOICES that indicate lack of worth. I don’t care how ‘great’ a dude is, if he does any LVM shit consistently (constantly changes plans last minute, doesn’t contribute financially or emotionally, watches po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:26 PM
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I sincerely believe the only women for whom it’s safe to breed are the ones who are independently wealthy and go the donor route, or the ‘gold diggers’ married to billionaires who are well taken care of, contractually, after the inevitable planned divorce (basically they went into it like a job, planning to provide a service for x amount of years until they are let go with a nice benefits package, and both parties are well aware this is the plan). I could never breed with an actual romantic part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:55 PM
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It’s hot today and I decided to wear a shorter dress to work to be cooler, then realized I hadn’t shaved in a couple days so had some stubble. I almost elected to be uncomfortable wearing hotter clothes to cover up the ‘unsightly’ barely visible blonde leg hairs. Then I checked myself, recalled internalized cultural misogyny, and remembered how stupid that is and wore the dang dress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:00 PM
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Not many. But HVM are rare in general. Teaching and nursing is full of LVM, but so is tech (incels), law (power trips), law enforcement (aggression), finance (greedy narcs), doctors (God complexes) etc. LVM are everywhere. I think you’re more likely to find an actual HVM in teaching or nursing since they are service professions (surrounded by the majority who are LV) rather than many other professions were it’s easier for LVM to hide and pretend to be HVM (like in law or finance). Those two prof…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:35 AM
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I tend to think the professions attracts either the truly HV ones (public service minded, want to give back, humble, caregivers who put the needs of others first, hardworking, etc.) OR—and more usually—yes, the sus LV ones who have ulterior motives, or at the very least, see the clients as a side perk and enjoy the lopsided power dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:44 AM
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That’s exactly what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:40 AM
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Look, not everyone is blessed with Henry Caville’s bone structure. But that’s not this dudes problem. His problem is being 45 and looking for a 30 year old 15 years his junior (HALF her age), using a lazy selfie showing off the zit he just picked with a door as scenery, yet has the gall to want a thin sexy sensual goddess when he obviously doesn’t work out and maintain a healthy physic himself. Like... brah.... This ain’t about leagues or shaming someone for their looks. It’s about wanting the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:36 AM
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Jokes on them! I’m not married. Ain’t no husband to give me ‘permission’ to do shit. Edit: I’m aware it’s common practice for providers to still decline over a future hypothetical husband’s wishes which, the AUDACITY that a MAKE BELIEVE person’s IMAGINARY opinion matters more than women’s’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:25 PM
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Ehhh. In my experience that’s an excuse overweight dudes say a lot. ‘Yeah I’m ‘swol’ and can dead lift XYZ so I’m fit’. No George, you drink too much and eat all fast good and just have a pot belly and your swollen ankles indicate early onset diabetes. I’m not saying a dude needs to be a body builder, but most reasonably fit men have a degree of muscle definition I’d define as decently buff. Maybe lanky, maybe not an 8-pack, but still defined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:00 PM
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I’m only attracted to fit guys. But I’ve also found most decently buff guys are gym rats with the personality of expired chocolate. Looks good until you take a bite... And they’re more often than not narcs. I got tired of all that so removed myself from the dating scene, but best of luck to ladies still fighting the good fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:46 PM
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I hadn’t had a crush in almost a decade (7 years.) Late last year I developed a crush on a colleague. It was hell. Oh my gawd. Besides the whole colleague part, just having a crush was such a PITA. It was a constant distraction and took attention away from actual stuff that mattered to me. It totally derailed a creative project I’d dedicated the prior year to because I simply, couldn’t muster the required focus. Thankfully it’s burned itself out. I’m so glad I’ve elected to be single forever. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:24 AM
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That’s gonna be a no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:18 AM
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They clearly didn’t see the post about the woman who bit off a guy’s nose for kissing her without consent in ye olden times, and the court backing her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:43 PM
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I agree but also don’t. Because more often than not I see other women doing this. Urging other women to become moms and decrying how it’s so great, while simultaneously complaining about how tired they are, how stressed, how they need more help, etc. I hesitate to call it ‘misery loves company’ because some women truly do love being a mom (not just the child), but it seems like a lot are trying to sabotage other women. The sort who encourages someone to get a bad haircut or discourages them from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:18 PM
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Most people don’t understand the responsibility/time commitment of children until after they already have them. Society romanticizes having them and minimizes all the labor, stress, financial commitment, and sacrifice. Anyone thinking they want kids (women AND men) should volunteer in public elementary, middle school, and high school classrooms, daycares, and sports to get a real idea of what it’s like. People say ‘it’s different when you have your own’ but... it’s really not. It’s constant. Som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:20 PM
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100%, the least gay guy in the group is the one who uses the 24 candle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:51 PM
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Haters gonna hate. The people who hate on FDS are the ones put on the defensive because the truth hurts. Pickme ladies who don’t want to admit how much they’ve been screwed over because it’s too painful/embarrassing (I have sympathy for them), and LVM who are scared shitless more women will wise up and stop putting up with their low effort ass. The longer I live, the more FDS rings true. Every time I’ve given the benefit of the doubt to a guy, he’s shown why FDS exists in the first place. Most r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:35 PM
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I can’t rub my own back effectively, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:48 AM
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Never choose someone who doesn’t treat you even better than you treat yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:56 AM
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I actually mind generic stuff less on Valentine’s Day. It’s a themed day so getting themed stuff to play along doesn’t ruffle my feathers. Like, if we’re both in on the corniness/joke together. I would find it hilarious if a guy hauled some 8ft teddy bear up to my doorstep (that we then donated to a children’s hospital or something). I expect personal gifts for birthday, Christmas, random because-I-care, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:14 PM
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This is a whole mood. Patterns of behavior don’t lie. Intentions don’t matter, actions do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:08 AM
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Damn it Tyrone! Not again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:05 AM
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I was more thinking him including that implied he expected sex out of her but the friend being home was an obstacle to that. Can’t have spontaneous sex on the couch while homie is playing COD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:55 AM
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“But I live with a friend.” Yikes. We all know why that tidbit matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:51 AM
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This reminds me of a post from a few years ago some dude made. He got his girlfriend pregnant, and she wanted an abortion. He begged and pleaded about how much he wanted to be a father, so she agreed to carry to term, but told him they were breaking up and she was signing away all her rights and would not be involved at all. He was convinced she would change her mind. She didn’t. She left him as a single father. His whole post was whining about how hard it was to be a single dad, how much he had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:40 PM
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How is it their fallback is ‘we’re too stupid’ and yet, simultaneously, they seek positions of power and perpetuate the idea that women aren’t good enough? Like, how does society let them get away with that shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:59 PM
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“This one time when I dated a sociopath...” I... what!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:08 PM
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I snorted my coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:49 PM
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You: So, I have this kink. Him: (Excited) Yeah? That’s amazing I love kinks. Tell me about it. You: Well, it’s kinda embarrassing. Him: That’s, ok, tell me. I want to hear it. You: Ok, so, it’s that a guy comes into my place... Him: (More excited) Yeah? You: And I lead him into the kitchen... Him: Yeah yeah? You: And he turns me around... Him: Keep going!! You: And then this 6ft4 jacked man with a symmetrical face and well-endowed package pulls out a chair for me and starts cooking! Him: Wait. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:07 AM
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When we do it it’s EUgeNiCs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:58 PM
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The guy is an HGTV house flipper host who got divorced from his wife (co-host) a few years ago. Lots of drama in the show and off. You’re not missing much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:28 PM
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Oh my gosh I am so tired of this eugenics crap being thrown out every time women have standards. Then the inevitable comparisons to Nazis and Hitler. The degree of false equivalency is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:05 PM
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You’re assuming I haven’t. It’s ok to agree with most things FDS and disagree with others. It’s a wonderful resource, but it’s not a bible to a religion. Edit: It’s not even that I disagree. As I noted, I totally get the rational. Just for me personally, it’s something I’m ok with, as someone else stated, as a ‘screener’ with a stranger. It’s about my comfort level, which I think should always take priority. If the guy is high value or low value, one coffee date isn’t going to change that. If it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:24 PM
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This. They are so good at hiding it. I’ve had male friends in the past that I called ride or die friends. I truly thought we were platonic. They all, every single one, eventually made a move. Are they bad people? No. I still think they are good guys and I’m even ‘friends’ with a few of them still. But, the ulterior motive is always there. Always. And because of that, I can never truly let my guard down with them and trust in the same way I do my female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:38 AM
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I see SO MANY unhappy women at work who are married with kids, stressed out, showing up with stained, wrinkled clothes, and you can tell they are just barely getting by. They look like shells of people! It’s terrifying. No thank you! Being single is so much better than being saddled with the wrong partner who doesn’t contribute and only drains your energy. And most women I’ve talked to tell, nay warn, me not to get married and have kids, that it’s a trap, and openly admit to being envious of my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:13 PM
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Men aren’t only competing for women with other men, they are competing with how content she is being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:00 PM
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You are the FIRST person to ever recognize the handle. Of course it would be an FDS woman. I’m so proud to be a part of this community of observant, clever ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:36 PM
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Dude, during the New Year and weeks after, every other commercial was for ED and testosterone replacement pills! And the guys in the commercial were, at most, late thirties early forties. Men don’t age better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:11 AM
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The media that depicts average or less than average women being the strong protagonist and saving men is YA literature (that usually has a romance sub-plot) and of course that genre is panned as stupid by society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:23 PM
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That’s awesome! It’s the little things that brighten a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:06 PM
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Look, I can see (if it’s been discussed previously) proposing with a handmade or daily wear ring (silicon or other material worn at work so the nice ring doesn’t get damaged, typical if your job involves lots of hand washing or machinery) so the couple can shop for the REAL ring together and she can pick out hers when he picks out his. I’m pretty picky and would want to pick out my own ring. Of course, since engagements should never come as a total surprise, he could ask for her preferences in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:58 PM
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Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:50 PM
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PSA: Don’t flush baby wipes! Even the ones labeled flushable! They clog up the pipes and can cause major back ups. Bag and throw them away. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:05 AM
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Did Lois Lane become Lois Kent? No. Superman gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:01 AM
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Workplace dating is a risk, certainly, but I don’t think it’s a hard no. Obviously you should tread carefully. If they are married or in a relationship that should be a no-go regardless. But, sometimes you meet someone and the chemistry is just there. It’s very situation dependent. What’s the workplace culture like? Are there rules against it? How much do you have to see each other at work? Etc. I work in an industry where almost literally everyone is married to other people in that industry. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:31 PM
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I actually think the boyfriend saying that flirty thing about her is cute. I don’t think telling your partner you find them sexually attractive is a bad thing. Him ‘pretending not to know her’ reads bad, but that’s like if your guy walks up to you at a planned date spot and goes ‘Hey, come here often sexy lady?’ He’s not ACTUALLY pretending not to know you. He’s just being flirty with his partner who, presumably, welcomes his flirtations (unless that’s a boundary she’s set that she doesn’t like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:22 PM
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Very thoughtful of him. And you picked a great color! The silver glitter matches your ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:17 PM
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Lol, this brings back memories! I was hanging out with the guy I was super into my senior year of high school and he told me he wanted a dvd of his favorite band in concert, which I—of course—procured and gave him as an early Christmas present. After holiday break he casually mentioned he got me a book. In a twist that I am sure will surprise eeevvveeryone on this sub, I have yet to receive this alleged book (it’s been a decade, not really holding my breath). I, of course, dated him anyway. And,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 10:36 PM
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TBF, an engagement should never be a surprise. It shouldn’t be a dangled carrot either, but constructive conversations (about logistics, future plans, etc.) are healthy and I’d see it as a major red flag if someone popped the question without ever having discussed marriage beforehand. But the rest of the post (minus dad) sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:01 PM
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I don’t see the point in dating someone if there isn’t an intense spark/chemistry/attraction. It’s what separates a platonic friend from a lover. And I’ve always felt it right away, or not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:08 PM
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I agree. Some people genuinely like gift cards. My mother is obsessed with them. She is very picky about what she likes and wants to personally pick it out and inspect it for condition even if it’s new from the store. She asks for gift cards every year and every time myself or others have deviated, it inevitably gets returned... for a gift card, lol. I do understand that gift cards are a default low effort gift in the context of a relationship where you should know more about a person. But some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:39 PM
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Something about this just doesn’t make sense. Why didn’t the cop do a breathalyzer or other sobriety test? Why couldn’t the cop drive the date home? What would have happened if you’d refused to drive the guy? I’d report that cop. He put you in a compromising position with no evidence. The whole thing sounds sketchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:04 PM
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With the exception of happily married co-workers, this has unfortunately been my experience as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:14 AM
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Totally agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:24 PM
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WTF did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:11 PM
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When you have a crush, I personally agree (in the beginning stages) it’s sexy and exciting when they use your name. I never hear my name, I rarely use other people’s, and I think if most people think about it, they’ll realize people don’t use their name often either unless they’re at Starbucks. Usually with my friends, family, and colleagues, we just start talking to one another, no calling by names necessary. For example, I say ‘How are you?’ not ‘How are you, ‘name’?”. It’s more natural and le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:53 PM
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It’s all about how you position it. Do as much other physical stuff as you’re comfortable with, but when sex is brought up, just say “I don’t have casual sex with the guys I’m dating. My past sexual relationships have all been monogamous* and I don’t want casual sex with multiple guys, I want meaningful sex with one man.” You’ve made your standards clear, positioned yourself as in demand, and made him feel like only a real MAN gets you, not just any guy. Which is all true. *You can leave out thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:16 AM
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Oh for sure. InuYasha has some very problematic elements. But those aside, it’s a fantastic adventure story that doesn’t fall into the more typical and severe anime pitfalls. To some extent it was also a product of it’s time. It’s 20 years old. And given the era, the female leads have more agency than many others during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:00 PM
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Hulu has the English dub of the first season. Funimation has it. The Season 2 English dub got postponed due to covid. But the sub is mostly out. Also it can be purchased on iTunes or Amazon. I believe a S3 is also coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:05 PM
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They’ve rebooted it! Same voice actors but more accurate to the manga and improved art. We even get a season 2!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:32 PM
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But a man who is older and not a physical Adonis but makes a good income is a ‘catch’ who is both wary of gold diggers yet simultaneously courts them due to their looks and youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:23 PM
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I would highly recommend watching Howl’s Moving Castle. It’s a treat. The premise is a girl who thinks she isn’t pretty and how low confidence gets turned into an old crone by a vengeful witch. She ultimately wins the heart of a handsome wizard with her courage and intellect and hard work, which he comes to value over physical beauty (he starts out lazy and shallow and useless). As the show goes on, she grows into herself and stops putting up with other people’s bullshit. It also has great comme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:50 PM
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Ghibli films are phenomenal. Howl’s Moving Castle, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Kiki, and Castle in the Sky are my absolute favorites. Anime isn’t the problem guys. There are some truly fantastic animes out there. Fruit’s Basket is so wholesome. InuYasha is awesome!! Devils’ Line is romantic and sexy and great. I totally understand why anime and manga get a bad reputation. There is some disturbing and disgusting stuff out there. But that stuff exists in some American media too. It’s not ani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:36 PM
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I typically wear long pants and long skirts so I rarely shave my legs. I do when I know I’m wearing shorts or short dresses because it does make me feel sexier and I like the smoothness and silhouette. Is it internalized misogyny or genuinely my preference? Who knows. All behavior is, to some degree, influenced by societal standards and norms. But I enjoy it so that’s enough for me. I’ve never shaved my arms though. I tried waxing my face once and wasn’t into it. I do shave my armpits but the ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:59 PM
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I believe he hired a company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:41 PM
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When my friend proposed to his girl, he took her on a hiking trip to a spectacular location (they are outdoorsy) and asked her while overlooking a stunning view with a drone prepared to film the whole moment cinematically. The proposal video is epic looking and you can see her joy as she jumps on him and he spins her around and they kiss with a vista backdrop. It’s a video I’m sure they’ll both revisit and cherish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:46 PM
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A proposal should never be a surprise. The execution of it, sure, but not that’s it’s happening at all. The couple should have discussed kids, marriage, finances, goals, etc. In a healthy relationship, when marriage is coming, both people know about it. It’s dangerous Hallmark/Lifetime movie stuff that some dude you’ve known a week surprises you by popping the question. What on earth do you know about the guy you’re going to be legally committed to??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:42 PM
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I learned this the hard way today! I’m very new to this sub. I subscribe to a few dating subs for fun and because I like discussions about human nature and relationships. I found this sub because some dude was trashing one of its ideas and I was like ‘huh, sounds reasonable to me!’ So anyway, I was giving advice to someone and some of the jargon from here slipped into my response. Not only did multiple incel types chime in and a few cool girls, one guy called me an FDS c-word! I was shocked. Iro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:31 AM
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As we keep telling men though, withholding sex is not a punishment. No one is entitled to sex or another person’s body. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Now, if some dude intentionally brings a woman close only to intentionally leave her high and dry and get a kick out of it and controlling her in that way? Sure, that’s cruel and no ok at all. But ‘withholding sex’ needs some big qualifiers next to it and is not a stand alone abusive trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:11 AM
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The issue here isn’t the handmade nature of the gift, it’s the low effort. I make handmade gifts on occasion. I do embroidery and other stuff. But, the gifts take a HUGE amount of time and effort and I give them to people who are also crafty and actually, you know, want those things! If a guy handmade me a custom stitching floss box or something else uniquely tailored to me that took effort I’d be over the moon! Even if it was ‘free’ and made from stuff he already had from a hobby he did (like w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:01 PM
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A loled at the nice coins analogy! And it’s extra funny because they accuse us of being transactional when we want them to pay for dates. They always think it’s about the sex as an end goal, not, you know, getting to know the person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:26 PM
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Yup. A family member dated a guy for over 3 years. She had to push him to propose because ‘waaaa my ex wife was crazy and screwed me over and marriage is scary’. They finally got married after she compromised and agreed not to have children despite dreaming of them her whole life. A MONTH after the wedding she came home and found a woman’s skirt on the floor and he handed her a glass of wine and told her he was leaving her. Plot twist that NO ONE saw coming (eye roll)? I met the ex wife at the w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:14 PM
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Yes! I had a male friend who pursued me (despite my turning him down repeatedly; yes, I should have ended the friendship, I was very young and naive) and every year I saw him at an annual event he’d tell me how he was ‘getting in shape now’ because of a ‘bet with his buddies’ or ‘to prove he could’ or some other bullshit. Basically, he didn’t care about being in shape and only ever used words to talk about it because he thought, I don’t know, it would ensnare me or tempt me or something? That I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:29 PM
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