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| 5 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessYou mean subjectively? I’ve been doing a lot of traveling lately, and I’ve realized just how friggin expensive everything would be if I had a kid. And how much less stuff I’d be able to do. I’m going to Japan soon. I wanna visit all the live hotels, eat anything I want, and stay out as late as I want and be intimate with my boyfriend. Throw a kid into that mix? No more love hotels, can’t stay out as late because someone has to watch the kid, usually can’t just eat whatever you want because some … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Women should admit it is kind of a privilege that they essentially control the couple's social lifeI’ll be the first to admit: In my relationship I’m the planner and my boyfriend is the “go with the flow” guy. When we planned our last trip to see each other he helped with a lot of the planning—hotels, travel info, etc. The only difference was, I was the one looking up every possible food place, attraction, hike, cultural site, etc. while he spent most of the trip helping to point out places I didn’t notice in my initial planning. Because of the mix of our combined planning styles we had an aw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | QW: For women who are against hookup culture, what made you not want casual sex and value sex as exclusively a romantic activity?I’m currently in a relationship—have been in it since I graduated high school—and I haven’t actually had experience with casual sex. Thing is though, I don’t really want to. When I have sex with my current partner I’m always 1000% satisfied at the end of every intimate engagement. I wouldn’t enjoy going through what most casuals seem to echo, which is that women are most often left unsatisfied. But like everyone else in this comment thread, I don’t care what others do, so long as they’re not har… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Why do women really live in constant fear of men?Considering I’ve had men think it was okay to hoot and holler at me as a 10-12 year old. Or that a close male friend of mine has tried to take advantage of me. I’ve been lucky enough in my life to not be a victim of rape. But it doesn’t dispel the anxiety that comes with potentially being one. Does that mean I outwardly walk faster when a man walks behind me? Does that mean I avoid eye contact or conversation with male strangers? Of course not! I’m still going to be polite to them and treat them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:38 PM |
| 0 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Hell yeah! I tend to vary in my femininity as well! I’m very much my fathers daughter, so from a somewhat young age I was helping out with yard work, building our patio, he taught me somewhat how to drive, and I’ve been brought up knowing various combat techniques. But, I am still very much a passenger princess and I love to be spoiled with stuffed animals and desserts. Beauty of feminine and masculinity, it’s a spectrum, not a yes or no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 12:22 AM |
| 1 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Hell I have a boyfriend who is probably what the men in this subreddit would consider a masculine man. If I want to do a cosplay thing with him, he will rock a maid outfit and heels any day. He’s even asked me to do his makeup and nails for him. Gender norms on clothing are always going to be ingrained in the fabric of society, but the idea that any major who goes against the grain is automatically effeminate is an awful take. Men can be masculine and pretty at the same time. Doesn’t make them l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 12:04 AM |
| – | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Then you clearly didn’t read the rest of my post. Placing the expectation on women to be available for all of men’s emotional turmoil just pushes them away. It appears the people in this subreddit don’t understand the difference between being a shoulder to cry on and being a therapist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.If you want a clear line I can come up with a few: —PTSD: I know people who have it. And they have always felt safe enough to come talk to me or to call me in the middle of the night when they need someone to speak to. It’s rough. But the calls only happen every so often and I’m okay enough mentally to offer that support to them. I would not be able to spare multiple nights a week helping them and I would certainly need a break hearing about their trauma if they were talking about it even on a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 05:53 AM |
| 0 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Except there’s a clear difference between the two. I love when my boyfriend is vulnerable around me. I love when he shares how he truly feels. But if every single day he would be crying to me, I’d recommend him to a therapist and we could go together if he needed that. We are all humans. I’d do the same and actually have done the same for my female friends. There is only so much a single person can take when it comes to being a confidant. Hell, my last gal pal had it so bad and she was constantl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 05:39 AM |
| 1 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.Funny enough language is allowed to be interpreted as we please. You may not agree with my definition, but so long as I am not using it in the context of a legal or medical discussion I am free to use language as fluidly as I like. Take for instance the word “cap”. For decades it meant a hat. Nowadays it also means “no way” or that other person is lying. I’m sorry that you got your panties in a twist over my use of the English language. Maybe therapy might help with that:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 09:04 PM |
| 2 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.To me personally compromise means that my partner and I have discussed something and we’ve come to a mutual agreement about it. Settle means that my partner and I had a disagreement, couldn’t come to an agreement but the argument or discussion is over nonetheless. Luckily in my case my partner and I haven’t had anything we disagree on, and we’ve certainly had a few compromises here and there, but nothing the both of us weren’t happy with. I think the term settle is the kind of word some people u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:20 AM |
| 2 | CMV A lot of the "toxicity" and "misogyny" are just men no longer making up lies to please womenI’ve only see posts regarding age gaps being looked down upon by the majority when it’s a man who is 23/24+ trying to date an 18/19 year old. That’s usually an issue with different life stages. A 25 year old woman who completed her bachelors would likely have already been working and financially stable for about 2 years or she’s working on another degree. The biggest issue with age gaps is life stages not the years. A 30 year old man should not be trying to go for a barely college freshman. But … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 09:17 PM |
| 3 | CMV A lot of the "toxicity" and "misogyny" are just men no longer making up lies to please womenWhy is this the automatic assumption for women? I nearly screamed out of pure joy when my boyfriend and I went shopping in Korea and he found me the perfect ring for, I think it came out to 7USD? I wear that ring every day, everywhere I go. Surprisingly it was the only ring to fit me, so I love thinking of it as my own little Cinderella story. If men want to buy their wives/girlfriends jewelry to show their affection that’s on them. If it’s expected by anyone to purchase a 5k+ ring just to be ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 09:11 PM |
| 2 | We (women) wear makeup for ourselves is not 100% falseI wear makeup for one of three reasons: I like to look at myself in the mirror after I bedazzle myself. It’s fun to just do myself up for me and put on a mini fashion show for myself. It makes me feel beautiful! I have red spots or some other blemish on my face that’s standing out too much. I normally don’t wear makeup, but I also really don’t want anyone staring too intently at my face trying to figure out what the blemish is. It’s very awkward for me. I wear it for my boyfriend. Sometimes, I w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you date a man who owns fleshlights and sex dolls?Flashlight yes—in fact I encourage it!—but no to the sex doll. I have seen how expensive they can get. Paying 30-50 for a flashlight is not the same as paying upwards of 500 for a sex doll(most range in the 1000s though which is worse) I just don’t see it as a sound investment—at least not at my age where people really shouldn’t be so downtrodden by a lack of sex that they resort to making hasty financial decisions like buying a sex doll. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 08:24 AM |
| 2 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?You’re right, would be a better world if we could all actually have decisive power over our reproductive organs. Unfortunately for now we just have paranoia and hormones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 06:01 PM |
| 5 | How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex?I desperately wish I had an off switch for my ovaries. I only have one sexual partner(my current partner)but Christ almighty the fear of getting pregnant is awful. Considering I have no STIs/STDs there’s zero risk for him. If he forgets to use his birth control he won’t get pregnant. I fortunately use multiple forms of BC but the fear of pregnancy is instilled so deep I was freaking out over it when I was still a Virgin. I’d love to just shut down my ovaries until I feel like having kids. That w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Women don't really want marriage more than men, but...Marriage is a lifelong* commitment. *Except in cases of domestic abuse, consistent dissatisfaction/disappointment(partner doesn’t hold job, doesn’t please sexually, has zero interest in being romantic, etc.)and changes in values(Example: both partners marry under the impression neither wants kids and 10 years down the line one person wants kids) Marriage is a lifelong commitment as long as both parties continue to share the same values throughout and/or discuss any major changes with their partn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:29 PM |
| 2 | What are women even expected to do during the courting phase?Even while dating my policy is usually to go Dutch. I’m not a person who feels good having others pay for her. It doesn’t matter how vehemently they insist on it I always feel like I need to pay them back somehow. I’ve never gone through the process of dating necessarily(I define dating as meeting multiple people for the purposes of finding a partner)but even amongst friends and even early on in my relationship we split the bill. Nowadays since my partner and I are more established we go based o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 09:36 PM |
| 6 | What are women even expected to do during the courting phase?Where on earth is this coming from? My boyfriend and I pay based on equity not equality. He makes more than I do at present, so for instance when we vacation together I’ll pay for our meals and he pays for our activities and the hotel. Relationships are hard to balance equally if either partner is making more or less than the other. I’ve told him time and time again, once I finish my degrees and graduate I’ll start paying a lot more towards our dates and vacations. For the time being though he’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Q4M, what romantic things (OUTSIDE OF SEX) would you like to get from your partner?My issue in my other relationships was always that I gave too much, but I can’t help that I love making my partners happy. I’m just happy that I have someone who reciprocates the same level of love and affection for me that I have for them. I don’t know if you’re with someone, but if not I hope you do find someone who can give you what you like! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:59 PM |
| 10 | Q4M, what romantic things (OUTSIDE OF SEX) would you like to get from your partner?I love doing this for my boyfriend! He has such soft, beautiful hair that I can’t help running my fingers through it. In my case he will brush my hair, put a hair accessory in for me, and/or braid it for me. I can always brush my own hair, but there’s something immensely soothing about him brushing my hair for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | What are women even expected to do during the courting phase?In my relationship currently I’m the planner and organizer and my boyfriend is the go with the flow guy. He planned our first date—but I technically initiated by very clearly and blatantly flirting with him, sending him saucy pictures of myself, etc. Nowadays, I enjoy our dynamic. If we’re walking down the street he’s the one who points out interesting places to go and I’m usually the one who plans ahead when we go to certain areas and looks up interesting places to see ahead of time. The dynami… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?My grandparents did and still do love each other, but it was different for them. My grandma had a rough life to begin with, but she never married my grandpa for financial security, safety, or any other reason. She married him out of love. My grandpa was also doing well himself. They live a wonderful life now, they’re not poor or rich. They have a garden of amazing herbs, fruits, and vegetables. They go to church together and do a lot of outdoor activities together. They just love one another. An… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 09:42 PM |
| – | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureSame here! I well and truly believe that every partner I’ve had I’ve never settled for, I truly wanted to be with them. My current partner though, he’s the best I’ll ever have. He stimulates me intellectually, makes me laugh, and while he has a dominant personality he never steps on my toes. I’ve never understood the idea of settling for a partner, because every partner ive had had wonderful qualities that made me like them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:29 PM |
| – | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureThis right here. There is no perfect human, but there are people we partner with who we consider perfect for us. My partner most definitely has flaws and I definitely have quite a few myself, but we love each other. This whole beta bux thing of people settling for people is just mind gaming people into thinking they’ll never be up to par with the high standards set by these male-dominated communities. When in reality, relationships are about recognizing what you love in a person and if they have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Dogs are messing everything up.I’ve realized in my short life—having taken part in raising two of my siblings from infancy—that I would much rather pick up dog poop or shovel horse poop than change a human diaper. I well and truly doubt I’ll ever have children given how grossed out I am by them—mainly in terms of raising them myself, I can handle a cool Aunt role and babysit for an afternoon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Dogs are messing everything up.It’s quite easy actually. While I currently am in a relationship and wouldn’t give up anything for it, were I single right now and owned a horse I wouldn’t give a rats ass about relationships. If I have friends and family, a good dog/cat/horse can easily take the place of a partner. For almost 4 years horses worked just fine for me since I still had platonic relationships. Animals don’t work for a complete substitute for humans but if I had to choose between a meh person and good animal I’d pick… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:11 PM |
| 2 | For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan?In the scenario of abuse or clear manipulation, I think hiding your assets for any party is okay. In the scenario of a loving relationship, I think personally I’d be a bit miffed if my partner didn’t trust me enough to say “Hey I have my own account with my own money” I could genuinely care less if my partner has their own savings, checking, emergency fund, etc. My partner is free to save money free of any obligation towards me. But in my current relationship my partner and I are open about fina… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Is playing video games an ick be honest?I think the hobby of video games is a lot like any hobby—take guns, cars, cosplay, makeup, clothing trends, etc. If you’re able to engage with your hobby healthily and in a way that doesn’t affect your relationships and your wellbeing then it’s just a hobby. It’s when it starts affecting your finances, affecting your relationships, etc. that it becomes an ick. My boyfriend currently plays for his university esports team. He thinks he may want to continue professionally. I don’t mind if he needs … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:17 AM |
| 35 | Women of Reddit, what is your actual body count vs. the body count you tell the men you're with when they ask?Same here. My first time doing anything sexual with a person—oral, vaginal, etc.—was with my current partner. He’s the only one I trust with it. So my body count currently—and hopefully till death do us part—is 1. Never even kissed anyone until I met my current partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:04 PM |
| 2 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?Since I moved back to the states on 3 separate occasions I’ve had guys offer me discounts or something extra with my food orders for free. They always put on a charming smile and seem to try to strike up a conversation. Im definitely not gorgeous or beautiful in a conventional way, so it’s mostly confusing to me when guys do stuff like that. Generally though, I just smile back, say thank you, and I go back to my phone call with my boyfriend. I can’t deny that there are attractive people around m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Is not dating to marry meaningless?In my current relationship(we’re both 20) I’m the one of the mindset that I want to marry. I want to marry him, settle, and travel the world while being able to return home together—we’re LDR. He knows right now that he wants me to be his endgame. We’ve discussed marriage, and in fairness to both of us, neither of us are quite ready. We’ve agreed on a few things in our relationship in particular. 1) We will fully and seriously discuss marriage again once we are 25 2) We will fully discuss if we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 06:16 AM |
| 1 | How many of you are on birth control?I’m currently on Nexplanon and Selynd. I started taking it just a week before I saw my boyfriend—the oral contraceptive not my Implant—and I mean we would be at it for hours every day for 3 weeks, so I guess it impacted my sex drive positively? I’m supposed to be on it because of my irregular periods and acne, but I realized I’m very bad at keeping track of my medication during traveling so the oral contraceptive wasn’t going to work for me when all I wanted to do with my boyfriend during my tim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Why do men assume good looking men are horrible to women and ugly men are nice to women?I mean I know both ends of the spectrum in a sense. I’ve known two different attractive men, one who is no longer in my life because he was in fact an asshole and I recognized that. The other is my current boyfriend. He is not an asshole. I have been with him for 2 years. I do agree pretty privilege is a thing. The asshole guy I let get away with quite a bit—then again, this was during a time where I’d also lost a really good friend of mine and I was afraid of losing other people so I allowed hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 07:18 AM |
| 2 | Limiting Social MediaThe language you use makes you sound like one. From all the comments and your post you seem very insecure. The comments mentioning you just leave her if you can’t deal with her social media use make sense. Your job is not to change her ways. As a partner you are allowed to communicate your insecurities and you are allowed to express your concerns, but you do go into abusive and controlling territory when your aim is to “fix” someone who doesn’t need to be fixed. Again, feel free to talk to her a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Is pre-selection actually real?I unfortunately was in this situation first hand. A really good friend of mine and I had a discussion on whether or not I was good to date this one guy—she had been close to him as friends but never expressed any interest in him. When we talked I asked her if she was 1000% sure I could pursue him romantically and she said “Oh no, I don’t care, he’s like a brother to me.” Only to a month later be getting fingered by him on my couch. I received screenshots from a conversation between her and anoth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 01:07 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on why divorce rates are so high nowIt’s just been normalized in every marriage to use those vows. Me personally, for better or for worse and in sickness and in health means I’m there to support my partner, but at the expense of my own health and safety. If my partner suddenly became an abusive alcoholic or a drug addict, or spent all of our money in Vegas why should any promise I make supersede those actions? Marriage is a partnership. In a partnership you communicate with your partner and you don’t harm them—this includes but is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 11:23 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on why divorce rates are so high nowThere’s a difference between being disappointed sometimes and being disappointed all the time. I have been disappointed a few times over the course of my current relationship, but my boyfriend learns or we communicate about what happened and how to fix it going forward. Most of the time when women are unhappy in relationships, it’s because no matter the amount of communication or therapy, their partner doesn’t want to learn or communicate. I wouldn’t expect my current partner to stay with me if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 10:56 PM |
| 0 | Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ?You’re an odd person, but think what you will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 12:20 AM |
| 0 | Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ?It’s really not, it may sound contradictory to anyone who sees us or anyone who hears about how I describe—I mean am I supposed to say he’s ugly and gross? That would be a lie. He is handsome, but again, and I hate to repeat myself, it’s not because of his looks that I fell for him. Due to the nature of our relationship—Long distance—I hadn’t seen his face for a few months while talking to him(We were friends playing games online and just chatting at the time.) My affection for him grew because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:36 PM |
| 0 | Of the guys that you have been with, what percentage were Chads ?I think the only person who fits the conventional Chad standards is my current boyfriend, out of everyone I’ve had a relationship with. The other ones I’ve been interested in or had relationships with were usually short, or chubby, or a bit of both, or didn’t really suit what the conventional Chad would be. But I liked them, because I don’t really care about it. My current partner is incredibly physically fit, he has a jawline so sharp it could cut, and he’s overall super attractive. But to be h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:15 PM |
| 4 | q4men: what contradictions do you see in women?I will say this: I’ve noticed women do sometimes refer to themselves as not being a man’s therapist when the expectation is to change the man—man is lazy because he was overworked as a child, man has no interest in helping with chores or going to work because some trauma or something is preventing him from doing so, man is constantly verbally abusive because of childhood trauma. Let me be clear, it is absolutely fine to enter a relationship when you’re still working on yourself. But again, from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Do Women have an innate desire to have children or only served their survivalIt’s the weirdest thing for me. I don’t want to have kids. I was helping raise my currently 9 year old sibling until I was out of high school. I’m turning 21 this year, and the only thing stopping me from making it impossible to have kids is my boyfriend. To be clear, he’s not making me do or not do anything. It’s more like, when he sends me photos of himself or videos—either his sister or mom took them—of him playing with his younger cousins it gives me such mad baby fever. I hate that my monke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 01:03 AM |
| 1 | You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer?Same, I only get to have sex with my boyfriend for 3 weeks out of the whole year—long distance—so I absolutely cherish the intimacy I get with him during that short period of time. Would certainly cherish it more than 1million or anything above that. I may be broke, but I have standards XD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 11:58 PM |
| 0 | How are men supposed to meet women these days?That’s how I met my boyfriend. He was introduced by a couple of other guy friends of mine and over time we got to know each other and eventually started dating. I don’t think I would’ve gone for him—especially long distance—if he wasn’t someone my friends could vouch for. He also did go to the same high school as us so that also vetted him further in my eyes(It was a private school overseas. Very hard to get into, so not that hard for me to already know he was smart, which is a quality I love in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Women need to experience a strenuous job at least once in their livesI mean, the whistling bullshit and shoe shoving I usually just took as my cue to go to the back and bullshit. The yelling is what sucks. It’s not really a choice if it ruins my mood, it’s more like, “Fuck this person is so deeply exhausting I’d rather shoot myself than listen to them scream.” That’s the mood ruiner. Now, on the bright side, I do get plenty of customers who come in with dogs and will ask if I’d like to pet them and it instantly makes my day. Dogs are much better customers than mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Women need to experience a strenuous job at least once in their livesMy current job is shoe retail. It’s pretty easy labor wise—aside from the cramped spaces and moving shelves and ladder safety issues but eh I’ll live(probably). The worst thing for me has been customers. Majority of the time I luckily get customers who are neutral or kind, but those times I get the shitty customers are enough to ruin my mood for the rest of my shift. Had a customer the other day yell at me and call me pathetic because I asked for his email so I could send his receipt. He kept as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 07:33 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age differenceIt’s great that it works for you, but statistically it doesn’t. And again, it depends on when the age gap relationship takes place. In much older couples it doesn’t matter much. It matters in couples where the person has just becomes of level age or is in a state of their life where are more heavily reliant on another partner. That opens the gates to manipulation and abuse. It hasn’t happened to you and thats great. It doesn’t override the fact that it happens significantly more in relationships… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age differenceI mean you won’t find me caterwauling on Twitter about age gap relationships, but I do think that there’s certainly reasons why they’re so frowned upon. Do I care if a 30 and 50 year old get together? Not really. Both at that point would have established careers, would generally be financially capable, and would have somewhat enough experience in life to make sound judgement. Of course, you’ll always find that large rage gaps do come with issues like a discrepancy in experience—20 years can be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 05:45 AM |
| 2 | Who is your most unsuccessful (romantically and sexually) guy you know? Describe himAn ex of mine. I liked him because I found him adorable and funny and he was a great listener—so long as he liked me. He was pudgy, a chubby dude, had a very feminine appearance and his voice was, I guess higher in pitch? Like the kind of voice you’d hear out of a comedic take on a gay man. What made me realize I didn’t like him was his indecisiveness—we dated for all of 14 hours? Before he texted me saying he couldn’t do long distance.(Would like to note I was literally only visiting and I made… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Does it make me a misogynist if I hate only certain women?Here’s the thing, the definition of misogyny is “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.” Do you hate these women because they’re women? Or do you hate them for other reasons? I don’t think having the amount of hatred you do is healthy in any regard and you could speak to someone about it, but by definition no you are not a misogynist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Describe the physical characteristics of your ideal partner for sex and relationships.My ideal partner would be my current partner. 1) He’s 6ft 1 inch. Didn’t really matter to me, but I did come to enjoy it when we’re together because he likes to use his height to make fun of me. I enjoy the banter! Makes me feel small and adorable, yet safe. 2) Due to reasons he has a sharper jawline. I love to say he had a perfect square face. I’ve dubbed him Handsome Squidward many a time XD 3/5) He’s actually on the skinnier side, but he can lift a pretty decent weight. I suppose that’s the p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/23 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Purge week makes it all clearI don’t quite understand what you’re saying, would it not be good to have caretaker robots that can fulfill every need for a person? I don’t know anything about feminist podcasts, but mental health services would be great for robots of that capacity to have for people who are lashing out for multiple reasons. Was just a thought, probably won’t happen and if they were invented it would likely be extremely expensive and likely only be geared towards its namesake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Purge week makes it all clearHonestly, don’t think sex bots are a bad idea for people. Though if they were going to have something of the sort it would be better to make them fully automated with the ability to care for people—in the event of disabilities/emergencies—and to be able to provide mental health services. Feel like a lot incels could use therapy. Couple that with a robot that looks like the object of their desire and you essentially have a way to curb the inceldom and create people who are more empathetic and ope… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Rising women's complains today about dating do not add up to the reality of their sexual privilegeI don’t understand the people here arguing that love doesn’t exist or it makes relationships worse. Happy for your LTR, mines currently 2 years strong. We’re both broke “barely out of our teens” adults, both in university classes, Long distance, but we always manage to keep our relationship fun and exciting. If love didn’t exist in our relationship, there would be no other reason for us to be together. Because again, no financial incentive for either of us, no sexual incentive. It’s just us, wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 05:04 PM |
| 9 | Rising women's complains today about dating do not add up to the reality of their sexual privilegeEven a relationship with your perfect significant other can have issues, but the point of being in a healthy relationship is that you can discuss them and fix them. My boyfriend and I personally have learned that our secret to maintaining a healthy relationship is that we are allowed to get angry and upset and cry. We let ourselves feel our feelings, and once all the emotions have run their course we discuss it like civil adults. You can be happy about everything in your relationship and still h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 05:01 PM |
| 5 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themThen again, that sounds like a them issue. People like that should be seeking professional help. Being dishonest with people like that to say “Yeah no women aren’t sexual and they don’t like sex as much as men” still wouldn’t deter men like this. If people feel they need to resort to rape to achieve having sex, they won’t care whether women are sexual or celibate. So again, it sounds like an issue with the group of men who think this way, not with the information regarding women are or can be as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 02:39 AM |
| 11 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themThen is that not men’s issue? Women love CONSENTUAL sex. I fixed it for ya. Anyone who believes “I love sex” is an open invitation to rape someone has issues and should honestly be seeking professional help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Are women more superstitious?In a way I like the manifesting trend happening lately. I know for a fact that if I don’t study for a test “manifesting” a good grade isn’t going to necessarily give me one. I just do it because it’s like a tiny ritual for my brain, if I think positively about a goal I hope to achieve I’m more likely to achieve—it doesn’t mean I don’t have to put the work towards making sure I do achieve what I want. In the same way I also like to “manifest” that I won’t get pregnant whenever I have sex with my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/22 08:59 PM |
| 1 | CMV: You can't get an LTR if you can't get casual sexI certainly have no reason to lie, but sure I grew up partly in Germany, then in Arizona, then in the Middle East for a bit, and now I’m Texas | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/22 09:33 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You can't get an LTR if you can't get casual sexI think a good lot of them do, not to say you aren’t correct. Some relationships do start out as sex and evolve into dating. My experience and the experiences of pretty much 80-90% of people I have met and been acquainted with are that we dated first and had sex after. It could also vary by region. You might have grown up or experience a lot of people who had sex before dating. I grew up with the opposite experience. Pretty sure a lot of the debates here revolve around experiences people had | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/22 08:45 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You can't get an LTR if you can't get casual sexYes, happily dating before we had sex. Don’t think we had sex for over a year. We just wanted to date, get to know each other, be romantic. I loved every second of it. No pressure, no expectations, just us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/22 08:35 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You can't get an LTR if you can't get casual sexAnecdotally, I didn’t have sex with my boyfriend first before we started dating and fell in love. And neither did any of the people I consider friends. It always started as date first and have sex later. None of us are religious or practicing, none of us follow “no sex before marriage”. Just normal 20 somethings who decided a relationship was more than just sex. Sex is important, but it’s not the reason my relationship today is thriving. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Womens body countThey wouldn’t. Which is far from naivety speaking, it comes from a place of trust and a place of respect for each other. My guy friends know if I ever was desperate enough to go to them for a screw somethings severely wrong with me and wouldn’t take advantage of it. Like I’ve said before, I’m lucky to have great guy friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Womens body countIf the gal has in fact screwed all of her guy friends that’s far different from just having a group of guy friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Womens body countK | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Womens body countRight back at ya pal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Womens body countAww boohoo, the guy on Reddit who thinks all men are somehow imminent rapists or something is gonna be right? Sure dude, again, I surround myself with people who know something about respect. Maybe you should learn about respect too! We learn about that in kindergarten buddy<3 Anyway this discussion is pretty much just me arguing with an overly confident egomaniac so I’ll just end this here and be on my way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countLmao wdym? Also what does my age have to do with my guys not being horny pricks? Like again dude, I get that you probably can’t handle being around women because you’ll go batshit but I’m lucky enough to know people who can contain themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countWhy would I run to my guy friends after an argument? Unlike you I like to handle my arguments by having civilized discussion that end in compromise. Why argue when we can use our words? My guy friends are there to be my bros, my buds, but hey if you wanna live your life as a hermit because being friends with the opposite sex is akin to the devils dance apparently then be my guest. I’m gonna continue having mixed gender friend groups and enjoy the fact that I get to be surrounded by people of all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countI don’t make friends with guys because I’m desperate for male attention. If I want attention I’ll just get it from my boyfriend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countThe projection is always hilarious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countIt’s the implication since apparently given the opportunity they’ll just go for it. Again, considering they’re my friends, I know for a fact that they would not do so. I guess I’m just lucky I found people who don’t think with their dicks all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countDude again, why is the assumption that every single male and every single female are carbon copied? Yes,biology exists, guess what? So does autonomy. I don’t think I’m ugly by any means, not good looking either just average. Doesn’t mean my guy friends are looking to screw me nor I them. Again, people can have normal relationships without being pulled around like a sock puppet by their sex drives. You assuming they’d be mindless zombies to their sex drives is actually rather insulting. Seriously… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countYes I am telling you they would all say no. And this isn’t really some red pill ideology thing where my guy friends are suddenly gorillas with zero brain cells. I wouldn’t screw them, they wouldn’t screw me, we keep it chill amongst ourselves. We have this thing called a friendship, it’s where people stay platonic and don’t try to make attempts at the other. We just play MMORPGs together and watch anime. Now my gal pals on the other hands, they’d definitely fuck me if given the opportunity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Womens body countYes I do believe they wouldn’t screw me if given the opportunity. Guys will have horny thoughts, I don’t deny they might have thoughts about it, but I know for a fact that none of them would take action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 12:25 AM |
| 2 | Womens body countEasy to say but not necessarily always the truth. I’m a gal with lots of guy friends, I mainly like their friendship because they: 1) offer decent advice sometimes 2) are the most comedic group of people I know 3) I love our banter in our friend group Idk man I mean they’re also a cool nerdy bunch. Couple of athletes but the kind who are addicted to computers in their free time. Love those guys tho, it’s like having a group of younger older siblings I can always rely on. Dudes are cool when they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Womens body countSo having lots of guy friends automatically means you’ve screwed them at one point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 09:40 PM |
| 2 | The elephant in the room that women have attempted to get us to ignore: women are not attracted to genuinely nice guysI was gonna say I disagree, but genuinely, my boyfriend and I wouldn’t have a relationship if we couldn’t banter. We play video games together, if he was always nice and never insulted me—playfully—while gaming it wouldn’t make the game fun. We banter. Banter is such a huge part of our relationship and it makes for a good time when we tease each other and make jabs at one another. It makes our relationship exciting! I’m not sure what your descriptor of a nice guy is, my boyfriend is a genuinely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4W Can you describe/show what “attractive men” look like to you?For me, looks is one thing, but it doesn’t and hasn’t ever made my heart race looking at a guy. For me it’s mostly about personality, if the first thing I hear out of a potential dates mouth is something intellectual and sincere then looks come into play. Before I get the usual “You’ve probably only ever liked chads” spiel I always get whenever I post here, let me clarify: My first long term relationship was with a guy who was slightly chubby, not enough to show much but still slightly more of r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?I think it depends a lot on the woman. I don’t believe video games are childish—have you seen the God of War games? I don’t think those are for kids! But I do believe that if someone plays excessively it can lead to resentment from the other partner. In my relationship my boyfriend is a computer engineer, so a lot of his life revolves around computers! He’s also an avid gamer, streamer, and does a lot of coding as a hobby. A lot of this takes time. A lot of time. And sometimes I do feel like I’m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDI remember my first time posting on PPD was to a post wherein the OP wondered if women liked nerds at all. I responded that I was in fact dating a huge nerd/geek and that I enjoyed being with him because he was kind, extremely well educated, always willing to listen and learn, and held steadfast in his opinions but was willing to change them if the opposing side had a great argument. In turn, I received comments on my thread from one user who harassed me and stated I didn’t know what I wanted, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you expect a man to meet a woman?I go to them regularly and see men there pretty much every time I go. Some men enjoy educating themselves through a good book and I think that’s an attractive quality. Anyone can look up crap on the internet and say they researched something. But to pick up a book and really be able to discuss the contents of it or understand the symbolism and nuance of what your reading is just amazing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you expect a man to meet a woman?So now we’re gendering activities? Does he have to participate in wrestling or the gym to be noticed? A bookstore can be enjoyed by anyone! It’d a bookstore. Flea market? There’s cool stuff there and many men go to flea markets. And horse riding? As someone who eagerly participates in the sport it has a huge population of men who are straight/married/dating | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you expect a man to meet a woman?Huh? How on earth do you get that from the activities I enjoy doing? If you also read I said in MY case that’s what I enjoy doing. I don’t speak for all women. Women are everywhere, doing all kinds of activities. How you choose to meet them is solely up to the discretion of the one seeking companionship. It can be anywhere, and it’s usually better meeting them where you might understand them better. Reading at a coffee shop might say she’s educated or at the very least might have a wider vocabul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you expect a man to meet a woman?For me, I’m the kind of woman who would normally like meeting men enjoying the same stuff I do. For me that horse riding, looking for a book at the library/bookstore, or if I’m at a flea market. Another thing though is I don’t abide by the Chad rule. A man’s objectively handsome looks aren’t going to do shit for him if he’s an Asshole and I know a lot of women who wouldn’t be okay with it either. I’m not saying you’re gonna suddenly have all the luck with women if you’re a nice dude and respectf… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 06:34 AM |
| 19 | What's wrong with being cautious in a world where you're on your own?I love guys. I have always had guy friends for as long as I’ve lived. I’ve had guy friends who had crushes on me. One guy friend who for some reason stabbed a guy for me—I had moved right before it happened thank god. I’ve had guy friends who were gay, guy friends who I would wingman for, and guy friends who have hurt me bad. My father taught me to look out for other men because he knew they posed more of a danger to me as a woman. He signed me up for martial arts, taught me ways to take down pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 02:26 AM |
| 0 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Neither my boyfriend nor I subscribe to any particular political side. We’re pro-choice, LGBTQ+ positive, not very religious—I’m catholic but I’m more so the “Ill get married in the church for my family but don’t subscribe to the teachings” type, and we were both really into the debates about the vaccines for COVID—both STEM majors and both for the vaccine. We’ve had debates before on topics where we somehow meet halfway or just agree to disagree. Can’t remember what topics. We work. I don’t hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 01:58 AM |
| 1 | should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one?Okay speaking from mostly personal experience: I love my boyfriend. Seriously, wouldn’t give him up for anyone. I peruse social media often, and tend to have a crap ton of “Couple Goals” posts pop up on my pages. That being said, I do envy those girls sometimes. I think “Why can’t my boyfriend take me on a lavish vacation and take cute photos of me to put in an equally cute photo album that we show our kids years later?” Yes, I desire that. Difference being, I’m not dumping him because I want th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?When I was single I knew what was objectively attractive. I went to a school in a different continent where obesity didn’t plague the halls, so most people there were attractive. Did I look at them and think immediately I wanted to date them? No. My personal attraction isn’t based on that. Even lust wise. I see a person and I just think “they look great” and move on. For some context on that, I used to work at a library. I saw so many people coming and going, using the computers or attending eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Would you hookup with your past partners, today?I wouldn’t. One because right now the only man I desire is my boyfriend so I’ve lost all attraction for anyone else. Two, because many of the guys I was with turned out to be jerks. You’d think when you’re desperate for women you’d be intent to keep one, but there’s a reason they didn’t have girlfriends. But I do know that the guys from my past would at the very least consider having me. Again, no girlfriends to this day, or the girls are equally psycho and abusive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Women, how often are you approached by men? How do you usually react when it happens?No dude, I won’t let men have a shot with me because I have a boyfriend😂 And as for the whole AWALT thing—don’t know what that means? I subscribe to basically being vigilant of the men and even the women I meet—women can sex traffic too after all. I’ve seen a lot of serial killer documentaries. Most of them were men, and some were handsome and charming and others worked in careers that made them seem friendly(Police, Social workers, animal doctors, etc.) I assume everyone I meet has an underlyin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 07:52 PM |
| 0 | Women, how often are you approached by men? How do you usually react when it happens?I can’t remember all, or if there even were more, but when I was in high school dual enrolling at a nearby CC, several older men tried hitting on me. I had one man who, while I was walking with my friend, starting complimenting us and calling us angels. Never seen the man, I was wearing all black and tired. Nothing remotely angelic. Another instance was scarier because it was in a group setting. I had been originally sitting alone, having finished my studies and just relaxing in the student loun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 05:14 AM |
| 1 | What sports or hobbies that a potential relationship partner might have attract you the most?My partner and I love cooking and baking respectively. I like to think he’s the savory to my sweet. And on top of that I like walking outside and hiking, so does he. We also both love video games. That’s one of the ways we relax, especially when it’s me trying to out do him in the game. We also love watching shows and movies together and analyzing it—I excel at English so analyzing and explaining symbolism is one of my favorite pastimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Question for coupled people: Where did you meet your partner?We met online after we graduated. We’re both hardcore gamers and I met him through a group of our mutual friends. All I knew when I first met him was he played the same games I did, so I wasn’t even sure what he looked like IRL. But his very first interaction with me was giving me a gift box—in game—with normal items that he renamed as NSFW items. I got a laugh out of it, thought it was cute, but never got to talk to him much until a few months later when he started really interacting with mysel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/22 05:47 PM |
| 2 | I’ve seen this claim on PPD. Women of PPD, if abortions were banned tomorrow, would you keep having casual sex?I agree that banning abortion would lead to women making access to sex more limiting. Think about it like this. I live in Texas, so I’ll take this state as an example. They’ve practically already banned abortion here, just with loopholes so that they’re not technically passing unlawful bills. But here’s the thing: I can’t even get BC or Plan B freely here without having a prescription, which means having to set up appointments with doctors who are usually booked months in advance. Women here als… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 06:33 AM |
| 6 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?I’m mentioning what I wouldn’t allow whilst a person was in a relationship with me. If they watched porn in the past I could give less of a crap. If they paid for porn or a porn actress I’m not sure I could have a relationship with someone who did. But that’s personal preference. And as for the all the “wild flavors of Chad” you assume I’ve experienced. I’m a maiden ship who has yet to see her first voyage. But I’ve seen you comment on my comments before. You’ve harassed me about wanting Chads a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?Thank you for the article sir. I’ll go on ahead and read this real quick. A lot of my argument is also motivated by what I’ve surveyed myself in my social circles, which many women tend to just be too unsatisfied to act upon their libido. But once again, thank you for the article. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:11 AM |
| 0 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?In my current relationship I draw the line at all realistic porn. Hentai, cartoon, animated, etc. I could usually care less. Why? They have no realistic features. You look at other women/ men long enough in porn and start building subconscious expectations for future relationships. It’s why I see so many posts here on Reddit of men wondering why they’re girlfriends don’t like their sex technique when they’ve only really learned it from porn, or why women complain so often about men(on here and i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?I wanna laugh at this. “You are low libido anyways, most women are” I would love to read articles on that assumption of yours. Because I think there’s definitely a stark contrast between the libido of a 20 year old and the libido of a 40-50 year old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Should men start wearing makeup? Should women stop?I do my makeup to compete with my boyfriend For some reason all the men in my life(father, brothers, boyfriend, uncles, etc.) have dark thick lashes. Then there’s me feverishly applying mascara so I can have the pretty dark family lashes. Sigh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 0 | Q4Men: what did you open up to her about?I may have insight on two different scenarios, though they are purely anecdotal. One relationship I had a few years ago was with a guy I was very supportive of even through friendship—like attending 8 AM sports games on a weekend and almost midnight games when I’d have school the next day type support. He seemed like a great guy and I found him attractive. He would talk to me a lot about past exes and how they hurt him, and I listened and offered my sympathies on the situation. When we eventuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | If men are the problem in western dating then why aren't women leaving the country to find other men?If you’re referring to the American Western world then yeah many want to leave it. I already got me a European man, but then again I’m German so I’m not sure that counts lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?Sorry I’m just going to reply again, in your case I do think you leaving was completely justified. I’m only referring to the scenarios wherein is a woman has genuine intentions and feels genuine concern, guilt, etc. In that event I recommend being emotionally available. In the event they are being rude, crass, manipulative, etc. you are free to leave whenever you please. I don’t advocate for anyone staying in a situation where they are made to be uncomfortable or being abused. So if a woman is p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?See, I’m having a discussion with another person and he’s been rather professional about the discussion. But you seem to have a very clear hatred for women in general and for me making a point on a discussion on manipulation where I provided a definition for you to bette understand. It seems this discussion is leading nowhere and I am unwilling to continue when you have no talking points but ad hominems and twisting the context of my words to suit your narrative. If you continue to berate me aft… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?Okay, I’m just going to reiterate again. It takes communication, and I mean on both ends. If a woman is in a relationship and has done this more than once it’s important for both parties to communicate on the matter. Again, woman also need to share responsibility but I’m just providing reasoning for why sex itself can be scary and reasoning for why it’s difficult for women(and men) to communicate needs. When I say manipulation I mean hanging the relationship in the balance. And of course I don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?I never stated that men have to be emotionless and put on a strong face when facing any emotion. But my specific scenario is on the matter of if this is a woman’s first time with you. You forget that you’re not the one being penetrated. Sometimes you think you’re ready and then the moment comes and you realize you’re not. Another thing too is, depending on the woman, they can feel guilty about not being able to put out, and walking out of the room without an explanation just shows immaturity. Li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?Okay, I don’t know how I can make this any clearer. Manipulation: Manipulation or emotional manipulation is the use of devious means to exploit, control, or otherwise influence others to one’s advantage. In the extreme it is a stratagem of tricksters, swindlers, and impostors who disrespect moral principles, deceive and take advantage of others’ frailty and gullibility. Boundaries are personal and they are not manipulation. If I say I don’t want you to wear dirty shoes when entering my home, cho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?Okay I’m standing in a circle right now. A circle where my argument lies, And you have decided to venture into deep space. We were discussing sex, so let’s stay on topic yes? If a woman feels uncomfortable or doesn’t feel ready for sex you should not be pressuring her by simply leaving or ending the relationship. If you never get sex, or you’ve communicated that sex is a need for you in the relationship and only after you’ve communicated that fact, are still not receiving it, you are free to lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?If you end an entire relationship over one or two nights of blue balls, you’re not cut out for any kind of LTR. <sup>Thats</sup> manipulation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 04:55 AM |
| 0 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?Of course everyone uses manipulation in their day to day. Again, it’s a matter of when and where you use it. If a woman decides against having sex she’s allowed to do so. Same way that a man is allowed to also decide he doesn’t want sex. What isn’t okay is basically using sex as a tool. Using it as “If you don’t give me what I want now then I don’t want you.” And before you start, I’m not saying it’s okay for ANYONE to do this. It’s wrong no matter what gender you are. But it’s clear you feel ve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/22 09:01 PM |
| -1 | Where does Red Pill stand on consent definition?All of this just sounds extremely manipulative. People are allowed to have boundaries on when they choose to have sex. But the way you’ve written is it that essentially if a woman leaves you sexually frustrates you’re no longer interested and will instead find another woman to vent your frustrations to. It’s manipulative because you’re not just establishing boundaries or something. You are literally saying “I’m no longer interested because you won’t have sex when I want to have sex.” Again, it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/22 11:21 AM |
| 1 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsIm not saying being used. There’s a difference between realizing you want something else and really working to get it and just wanting a guy to be Plan B. Huge difference. I get where you’re coming from but someone who wants to be committed isn’t going to make you Plan B. People prioritize different things at different stages. Much like you wouldn’t shun someone for wanting to be career focused and never wanting children or just having children way later. You don’t shun people for their choices,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsI mean if it’s in the triple digits you have a point that they may not seek commitment, but still. I wouldn’t shame someone for it. If they want to have sex with 300 men then I say go for it. As long as they’re safe and not being forced to do so. I just genuinely could care less about what people do with their lives or their sexual past—excluding sexual crimes committed. I would take major issue with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 04:32 PM |
| 1 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsOkay yes, different sexual encounters awaken different parts of people. Sometimes you find out things you hate and sometimes you find out there’s a magical orgasm button inside you that no one but one partner managed to find. It’s not about having a high n-count. It’s about having the maturity to realize that you can’t mold someone into that magical orgasm button presser. Everyone’s going to have experiences that were different and changed them. You say you don’t look at n-count because you’ve d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 03:59 PM |
| 2 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsOnce again, you don’t know my male friends. They could give less of a crap what they say around me even if it’s sexist. And once again, treating every woman that has slept with say 10 or more men as a “hoe” is childish. Like I said, have your preferences, but I draw the line at people like you shaming women for wanting more out of line than going the traditional monogamy route at first. Not everyone wants to settle down right away, and having a high n-count can also mean a woman hasn’t found som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 12:17 PM |
| 3 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsSounds more like a personal problem than one anyone else should be concerned with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 12:09 PM |
| 1 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsOkay you make some valid points. Except for you somehow thinking you know my friend group better than I do. And except for the fact that having a low n-count automatically makes you a catch. You know what I love about human biology? The only thing I really love about it. Humans ability to regenerate. If I were a woman with a high n-count and I stopped for, let’s say three years, my body would only have the mere flickers of memory from my old encounters, but there would be no physical remnant. A … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 04:07 AM |
| 2 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsI’ve had six boyfriends. No sex, but none of the relationships lasted. Am I used? No longer worth keeping? And why are you using reviews? Am I to expect that if I date someone they have to go to each of my ex’s and provide a survey rating me on my ability to be a good girlfriend? Not everyone is capable of forming relationships. Not everyone is capable of commitment. But to write off people as used and essentially worthless because they wanted to have fun early on or be casual and eventually mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 03:59 AM |
| 6 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsCan they not? Because I’ve know plenty of average men that if they managed to stand on the tips of their toes and look past their insecurities they’d find women who liked them and wanted them. And no I’m not referring to men with six packs and tight glutes. I mean men who are chubby, men who are shy, men who weird but interesting hobbies, men who love being educated. And not every woman can just have sex at the snap of her fingers. Because you’re not accounting for the women who physically canno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/22 03:52 AM |
| 15 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsI’ve noticed that often. These men tend to be very hypocritical and tend to always assume the worst of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 06:53 PM |
| 21 | With access to easy sex, it is up to women to control their n countsI have a lot of guy friends, some who’ve moved on, but I think out of the majority in the group only one person seemed to care about n-count. The way I see it, if a woman gets consistently tested I wouldn’t care about who she has slept with. If you’re religious it could be a reason for you not to date a promiscuous woman, but some religious men do. It’s a matter of principle and shouldn’t be generalized. Some women have high n-counts early on and then mature and realize they want to settle down,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Average and Below Women of PPD: How often do you get approached?I’m just gonna give a vague description of myself to help I guess; I’m average height, round face, on the chubbier side but wearing certain clothes just makes me look curvy, I don’t dress particularly stylishly though I’m more of a black jeans goes with everything type, I don’t wear makeup, have a decent amount of acne that comes and goes, but I guess I have boobs and a butt that looks above average in jeans. Given all that, I don’t get approached often, and with my personality I’m usually the o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 06:48 PM |
| 5 | TRP and FDS both seem to really hate men and women, yet they still want the very people they hateI find that a lot of the time when I post on this sub, despite not caring or being apart of any of the ideologies of the pills or FDS, I find that many TRP men like to comment on my comments and tell me that “You don’t actually love your bf” “it’s all fake” and other dreadful comments about how I somehow lack the ability to truly love someone. I have had one decent conversation with someone, but most often it’s TRP men trying to justify that women are bad. It’s sort of Tiring when you’re trying … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Straight women (or women that like men), can you name some examples of what makes a man "exciting?"I get that, it’s never easy and sometimes, yeah it feels like women cracked the formula for how to win men. But you also have to remember that not every women is able to achieve men as easily as some. It’s a bit similar on both sides. I for one have a droopy eye. Don’t know why, but I also have very small eyes too. So when my face is relaxed it looks a bit odd. I tend to usually keep my eyes bright and alert in order to look better. On top of that, I could definitely stand to lose some weight. A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Straight women (or women that like men), can you name some examples of what makes a man "exciting?"In my personal experience I never just went for conventionally attractive men. It was always someone I could compete with. For some it was on an intellectual level, some it was physical, at one point it was video games. Now for me it’s back in intellect and career success. I won’t like just any guy, and no it’s not Chad “I-go-to-the-gym-and-drink-protein-shakes”. I’m specific and I have a particular taste but I don’t rule out guys for being chubby or short. With a lot of the guys I liked they we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?You done yet? XD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 03:42 PM |
| 1 | If you could describe what sexually turns you on in one short sentence. What would it be?For me it’s always been intellect and I don’t mean strictly academically smart. It’s extremely attractive when I can hold a conversation or debate with someone and they can actual refute my points. My current bf is extremely intelligent. He loves to code, so sometimes when he shows me what he’s working on I feel like a toddler(I’m more biology/animal science/book smart). But he will explain it to me as many times as need be until I have a grasp on what it is. And it’s absolutely sexy when he pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 03:10 PM |
| 2 | If you could describe what sexually turns you on in one short sentence. What would it be?Hey same here! I have to build an emotional connection with someone before a sexual attraction is formed. It’s how I build lasting relationships. The guy who keeps replying to you doesn’t get it and that’s fine. He probably never will. You know what you like and what attracts you and your boyfriend knows that too. Doesn’t make any of it any less valid because you’re not going into extreme detail. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?I understand, I just also happen to enjoy knowing I’ve screwed with their mindset of “All women are bad” It’s like finding a loose string and pulling at it until it unravels. Very fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?Oh sure like I’ll believe that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 02:51 PM |
| 4 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?Wait…so it’s not normal to not want a family? What is this? The baby boomer age? Men who don’t want families are completely normal. Everyone has different life goals and some don’t involve children. Lifestyle choices are personal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?Yes like I’m gonna take any advice from a man who literally screams incel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 02:49 PM |
| 6 | Would you date, marry or even consider a relationship with a single father?I probably wouldn’t and for several reasons: —I’m a very career oriented woman so when that part of my life comes to fruition I won’t have time to be the SAHM if dad feels like going back to work. I went crazy during the pandemic staying home most of the time! —Kids from another marriage tend to bring heavy baggage. Either mom died, mom divorced, or moms still somewhat in the picture, and while I appreciate what the dad may be going through I would like to not deal with either the child being sp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/22 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Would you be okay with being a forever girlfriend/boyfriend? Why or why not?I don’t think I could be a forever girlfriend. I get what everyone’s saying “Marriage is just a piece of paper” “It’s a scam for men” etc etc But I want to get married. I want to have that moment in my life where the only thing that matters as I walk down the aisle is my husband. I want to have that moment of him seeing me in that big white dress and thinking how beautiful I am and how much he loves me in that moment. Sure, love like that should last forever. But you don’t recreate special momen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Awww alright! Nice studying your abhorrent behavior! Bye! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Awww we got him to insult me! Yay! Keep going please! This is great for my psych piece on “Incels in their Natural Habitat” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Makes sense, you attract what you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Awww you do care! You read my post and comment history! I’m so flattered, really, no incel I’ve ever spoken to has cared about women so much! Oh wait! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Mhmm, am I getting paid for this therapy session or…? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?It’s okay if you’ve never felt loved before. I’d bring that up with your therapist not with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Prove what to you? I genuinely don’t have to prove how I felt. It’s all gonna be completely anecdotal unless you hook me up to a lie detector or some sort of brain scanner. Again you don’t know me. You saw I was a female, saw my comment which stated I loved and will love my bf no matter what and basically said “So your feelings are wrong because I said so.” It’s absolutely hilarious that you think you did something or won the argument…of a post pretty much reliant on anecdotal evidence. Go on in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Sure sure sure. I don’t really wanna argue with someone who’s as arrogant and narcissistic as you because I’m at least 95% sure you’re just an incel who won’t believe that I did fall in love because of his personality. Hope you’re happy being proven wrong :-) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?I just chalk it up to incels who can’t accept that some women actually like men for their personalities and not just because they’re six feet tall, earn six figures, and are hung like a horse. It’s sad, but we have to accept that some people can’t never be happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Except you’re not right? I get biology plays a part but we also have autonomy. Sure he had charisma, that’s part of his personality. I’m charismatic as well. We meshed well on a deeper level. Again I started dating him before I saw what he looked like so there was no “cementing” anything. I knew I liked him. I knew I’d like the man I saw regardless if he was 6 ft tall or 5’5. Regardless if he’d been fat or had a six pack. I do have preferences. All women do. But how he looked did not cement anyt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Considering your top post is literally how much you hate women I don’t think I’ll be regarding your opinions on my relationship or what I’m most attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?Actually Mr.Know it all, he was my gaming buddy first. Literally never saw his face until we both admitted we liked each other. But hey since you know everything I guess it was all just superficial huh? Women can’t POSSIBLY fall for a man based on his intelligence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?Asking out is the first move? Since when? What happened to getting to know people and building something of an attraction? Again, most of my current experiences were from high school and the years before. My first college experience and I get a LTR. Same thing I always did. Make friends, flirt lightly, increase the intensity of my flirting once I recognized the signs of attraction, and this time I ended up with him. I prefer to work like this. And while it’s never, until presently, gotten me a b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?Except I coupled that with presenting romantic gifts and such. It wasn’t just watching sports games. But all of that led to either me asking them out and getting rejected or never asking. Dependent on how badly I was crushing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?It’s honestly my pleasure! In my current relationship the only arguments I’ve had my with my bf thus far were all debates on controversial topics😂It’s super educational for me and I get to be competitive with him on who has learned the most | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/22 12:15 AM |
| 6 | Do a lot of nerdy stem/white collar men fail to meet woman's attraction threshold?This sort of get a giggle out of me. I’m a woman in Vet Med and my boyfriend at the moment is currently in Computer Engineering and a Twitch Streamer. Out of all the men I have liked and dated, he is, I gotta say, light years more attractive than any of them. And despite the fact that I think he could be on the front page of Vogue, I love him for his brains. There’s no shame in me loving his body, but wow is he just insanely smart. Sometimes, as someone who was always told they were gonna be the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever asked a guy out or made the first move?Pretty much every man I’ve ever liked I asked out or first or made my feelings for them as obvious as possible—think valentines gifts and staying to watch their sports games. My issue when I was younger was basically that I had a bad habit of becoming obsessive and competitive with liking people. Basically for me, it was very much the thrill of the chase. (I look back on that and cringe so please don’t roast me in the comments. I know how it sounds and I hate it but it’s true.) My current relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/22 04:59 PM |
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