HerMotive Archive

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1	Would you apply the same standards to your friends as you do to men? No I don’t apply the same standards for friends. I have three very close friends that are extremely reliable and my go to for life. But I also have a friend I grew up with who is extremely unreliable and comes to me for advice she never takes. The rest of my friendships serve a purpose and I don’t have much expectations outside is the scope. Like my homeschool moms, church friends, active friends, hubs work wives etc. i have a problem opening up much with any new friends; so it’s possible I’m ke…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/21 11:31 AM
1	How would you navigate this situation? For clarification my meltdown happened prior to the surprise party in private. I would never speak ill of him or be harsh to him in anyones presence. You say this is the first time this has happened. But a partner taking a poll on how annoying I am with a future in-law is beyond disrespectful. Maybe this why his sister feels confident to label you as a weirdo in her phone and throw shade at you in your presence. If any of my sister in laws dislike me I wouldn’t know. My husband has made sure his…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/21 10:30 PM
1	How would you navigate this situation? The right man for you loves to see you enjoying yourself. They also don’t speak ill of you EVER. I grew up in a very critical household. It’s extremely important for me to trust my partner and this situation makes me uncomfortable. My hubs gave a glowing speech to a room full of our family and friends after I had a meltdown and yelled at him (I hate surprises). If he is willing to speak poorly of you (in your presence)for simply enjoying yourself then what else is he saying about you? Maybe ther…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/21 07:04 PM
6	How much childcare should I expect my husband to do? I think you need to hire some help, part time nanny at minimum. If you were not also studying I would suggest you join a club, they have certified childcare providers on site. You’re able to work out, have lunch etc. this would allow you some personal time. If you don’t have inlaws or family close by. Joining a playgroup or homeschooling group has been beneficial. And I think an oncall babysitter for date nights etc. is essential , this is WITHOUT being a student. Rotating sleeping in on the wee…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/11/21 05:50 PM
5	is it a problem if i only start dating at 22 I did read it all. And I feel that you are taking a very logical approach. But I would advise you to start dating now. Dating doesn’t equal a loss of innocence. I have been dating in some form since I was 15 or so and It was mostly awkward at first. And these were guys I actually liked and knew a great deal about. I think you should consider the fact that it may take you many many dates to meet the right guy for you. Don’t you think it’s best to start now?	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/21 02:33 AM
1	Engaged and married women, how did you get aligned on timeline for marriage? Like others have mentioned. I also brought my intentions up earlier in the relationship and waited until engagement to start looking for homes. But in your current situation. I’d let my intentions be known as soon as possible. Maybe use your anniversary as an opportunity to let him know. Something like, “I am so thankful for you, and I love our relationship and this life we have made together. When I look into the future ___ is what id like.” Then ask him what his thoughts and plans are. I think…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/21 02:07 AM
6	19 and the maternal instincts are kicking in Totally normal. Honestly I had stronger baby fever at 17/18 than before I had my first at 22. I still have it sometimes! I just take it as a sign that we are not done growing our family.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/11/21 01:34 AM
1	Regarding parenting - What led you to be an RPW? This is amazing. I worry about this so much for my daughter for the future (she’s 1). I have to work very hard to stay lean and unfortunately my daughter has my body type. Unlike my son who is constantly snacking and naturally lean. I model this for her but don’t deny the men.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/21 09:33 PM
1	Is it too late to start over at 27f? Start over! Take it from me. You shouldn’t be feeling this way. I am extremely indecisive, it takes me lots of research and thought to pick out the simplest things. I’m certain this is annoying to others, but I’m fortunate to have a great circle. However, when it came to my marriage, I felt so certain and secure. I know “cold feet” is hyped up. But in my experience with friends, the hesitation often was due to them arguing with husbands about wedding details. You mention him making you feel guil…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/21 03:41 AM