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What does that have to do with your question?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 11:17 PM
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Same as what it would take you as the man I’d assume? Weird question
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/25 09:46 PM
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And that’s a good outlook to have: you did. And so did she. And that’s the critical part: don’t put all blame on either party. You both made different choices throughout your time together, and now you’re here. Best of luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 06:35 PM
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A few things that come to the front, from your text: you entered willingly into something not knowing what you wanted, you willingly moved in together after 2 months, you willingly tried to change a person from who they are (weird behavior and major red flag), you willingly had expectations on/ of her that had nothing to do with her
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 03:07 PM
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That you need to be accountable for yourself and blaming your ex for everything is childish and immature. And if you’re still doing that post divorce, especially years later: you’re a child.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 06:09 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 05:38 AM
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You sound like a real jerk. In sickness and health right? Unless they get fat. Gotcha.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:46 PM
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Not alone man! Best advice I could give: don’t run away from any feelings that come up. If you’re angry, feel the anger. If you’re sad, feel that sadness. All important part of the process. Also celebrate the little victories: a movie that makes you laugh, a song that makes you want to dance around the house, etc. Feel all the shit that is going through something like this, and then get back up. The worlds needs you bro. And you’ll both find happiness again if you want to.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 02:37 PM
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Because your view of the world is flawed. People change bro. It sucks sometimes. But that doesn’t make them bad people. If you’re a single adult person - male or female - and you want to sleep around: go for it! Being married doesn’t negate your sexual feelings. And if you’re not happy with your current spouse AND you’re already separated, why the hell would you be shamed for wanting to have sex with other people. Ultimately dude, we’re all trying our best. Sometimes we fall short. Sometimes our…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 05:14 AM
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Couldn’t agree more🙌🏼 It’s a sad reality. One they could get out of, but it’ll take so much work.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:27 PM
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This line of argument suddenly got profoundly boring. Good luck with your misogyny. I’m sure you’ll live a super happy life with that mentality.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:27 PM
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I’m gay🙄 lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:19 PM
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Let me educate you: she’s now a single adult woman that’s choosing to do with her life whatever she pleases. Her being a mother does not negate her ability to be a free sexual being. She’s more than able to do with her life whatever makes her the happiest. He has the ability to do the same.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:12 PM
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He needs to grow up then. his religious views should not supersede what other free people want to do with their lives. She’s a grown woman. However she chooses to carry her life has nothing to do with him. Again: it has nothing to do with him.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 06:11 PM
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Dude, I have zero interest in engaging someone this deranged. Again, big yikes. Seek help. You need it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 04:24 PM
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The issues is you’re taking this arbitrary “starting point” from when the separation was announced. People can start letting go way before the separation is announced, as they sort their feelings out. Meaning, what to one person felt like a month after the separation, to the other it’s been months of moving on. Hope that makes sense
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 04:21 PM
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You need so much help. Big yikes. Good luck finding a partner this way lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 04:19 PM
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But what if they weren’t pretending? What if they just changed and evolved into someone else? That’s completely valid and doesn’t immediately devolve into name calling and judgement to the partner you shared your life for so many years with. I’m recommending taking the route where you still honor that. I promise dude: it’s possible. You don’t have to leave the situation with anger or resentment. You can be on your own and still remember the good times fondly and wish your ex the best.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:44 PM
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What doesn’t make sense? That someone would go out and have sex quickly after a separation? I’d offer this: it might not make sense to you, but it sure as hell does not mean it didn’t make sense for her. And that doesn’t make it a wrong. I think so much of you carrying that same mentality has everything to do with 1. Thinking you’re owed an explanation and 2. That everyone else should operate the same way you do/ did. Both things are simply not the case. I’d offer the biggest lesson I’ve ever he…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:09 PM
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She’s a slut? lol. She’s no longer in a committed relationship and she has all the freedom to do whatever she wants. By the looks of it, she’s enjoying life. And you should strive to do the same. Especially without any judgement. Dude, it didn’t work out. It’s not anyone’s fault. It happens. Do the work (therapy, friend/ family support, etc.) and move on. This doesn’t have to be a trauma you carry on for the rest of your life. You both can make so much out of your lives still.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:05 PM
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Yikes. There’s so many red flags all over this post. I think existing in anger and a desire for revenge post-divorce is a profoundly unhealthy mode of living. I recommend therapy my guy, and lots of it (here’s hoping It’s something you’ve already been doing). Ultimately, what becomes important to understand—especially as a great way to step out of a victim mentality— is that when someone betrays their promise of faithfulness, it almost always has nothing to do with you. Once you’re able to 1) no…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 06:15 PM
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100%. Super creepy to be into that
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 06:16 PM
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Uffff. MAJOR creep vibes dude. I’ll just say this: just because something used to be the norm 50 years ago, doesn’t mean it was good. Women deserve all the autonomy, agency and independence that men have always had. PLEASE read your comment to your spouse and see how she reacts. I bet her “childish” mind will have a word or two for you haha
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 03:02 PM
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Part of reason people think badly of dating a 20 y/o when you’re old is what you described. The other part is that It’s gross and creepy. Date people your own age is the way to go dude
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 01:57 PM
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Cool for a hookup I guess? But please for the love of god, don’t become that old guy who’s into dating 20y/o
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 01:21 PM
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No dude. It’s 2023. Divorce is not taboo anymore. Over 50% of married couples will go through a divorce. Go to therapy to work on why you felt comfortable enough in cutting everyone from your life just because you were in a relationship. Don’t go looking for partnership if you don’t have the tools to be a partner yet.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 12:53 AM
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You don’t have to get it man. And you not getting it doesn’t devalue her change or growth away from you to feel and act as a new person. All this change has nothing to do with you. It’ll keep hurting as long as you keep making it about yourself. Stop it. Move onwards and forward brother. Hopefully you’ll get to a point where you don’t wish her ill, and not even good things: just the bliss of indifference.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 04:16 AM
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Hahahahahahaha this was so damn funny
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/23 04:40 AM
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What a pathetic premise to start a post with lol what a loser
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 10:41 PM
-1

Oh please…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 06:17 PM
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You’re 24. Stop it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:15 AM
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Being used to someone around =/= that you love that person, that you miss them, that you wish you were back together. That’ll take a while sink in. You’ll be ok bud. Hang in there. Feel your feelings. Again: feel your feelings. It’ll be ebbs and flows. Good days and then bad days AND THEN good days again, etc. You will be ok♥️
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 01:07 AM
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You’re such a loser. Great way to talk about your ex and her kid - of which you WILLINGLY took the responsibility for as you married her. What a dummy. I hope they take a ton of money from you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 06:22 AM
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Hahahaha so true. She really has no idea what’s waiting for her out there hahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 05:36 AM
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You sound like a pretty awful parent. I can’t imagine nothing worse in the world - as a kid - than to have your literal father force you out of your home because you acted irresponsibly, as a kid. Seems like such an excessive use of your power as a parent. You’re acting out on a kid in a very major way. Please seek out therapy, sounds like you desperately desperately need it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 04:16 AM
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Samesies✌🏻
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 10:12 PM
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You should listen to Esther Perel’s podcast “Where should we begin?” - Episode #2, season 2 [“I want to feel wanted”]. It’s very similar to your story and might provide some insight.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/20 10:13 PM
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