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Whatever you described, that’s been the transition the past year for me
/r/askTRP01/06/21 10:11 PM
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Should you be satisfied with lifting 135 bench and maintain from there? Should you be satisfied with 70k salary and do enough to keep your job? Only you can answer when you want to settle and when you want more.
/r/askTRP01/06/21 03:20 AM
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Therapy works if you find the right person. May take multiple first time visits. You want someone that will challenge you but can prove what they are saying makes sense in a respectful, logically appealing way. The therapist I have now is effective by simply asking me questions and allowing me to arrive to conclusions myself which is definitely something I have found to be most effective in a lot of aspects of life too.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:08 AM
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Figure out what your values are and find like minded people who are think similarly. Live those values to the fullest. If you are like me and are constantly trying to define yourself and challenge your belief systems, you will find new values that may change priorities. Once you know what those values are you can be fully confident in how you act around others. Your friend pulls because he is being his truest self and knows he wants and doesn’t. Do some introspection so you can find that confide…
/r/askTRP16/05/21 04:19 PM
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Yes they all do. Practice and experience is the only resolution
/r/askTRP26/04/21 02:37 AM
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The only way I was convinced to stop playing video games was seeing how my life changed and the results achieved when I spend my time doing “other things”. Things like reading, going out with friends or girls on weeknights, lifting, preparing better meals.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 12:57 AM
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Careful with SSRI’s bro. Any ED issues?
/r/askTRP20/04/21 12:52 AM
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Fair question. Maybe I’m not lookin out for the right ones. Are there any in particular I need to look out for? Only ones that come to mind are eye contact for longer periods of time with smiles, inching in closer to me. But all the times I’ve went for the kiss and it worked I was pushing through 100% and was not going off any cues other than them not retracting when I tried something (grabbing their legs, rubbing their shoulder, complimenting some article or accessory until I just went for it).…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 02:42 PM
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When do you initiate the kiss tho?
/r/askTRP13/04/21 10:11 AM
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It sucks if you believe it sucks. It won’t if you have a growth mindset and if you believe your our potential is limitless. Are you always refining your weaknesses? Do you understand your strengths and make sure you use them as often as possible to solve problems you encounter? Are you learning from every possible angle of all of your mistakes to understand root cause and the actions to fix? Are you finding mentors and friends who have traits and lifestyles you want to live? Are you actively try…
/r/askTRP11/04/21 10:18 PM
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This sounds very similar to what’s prescribed by Roosh in “Bang”. Either way, well said.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/21 03:44 PM
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Sounds like the consensus is suck it up, adapt, overcome. 10/4
/r/askTRP20/03/21 12:34 PM
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It’s a cycle. Life turns to shit, lose confidence until eventually you overcome using lessons learned, then life turns to shit again from another tragedy, lose confidence until you overcome using lessons learned. Rinse and repeat. I believe the most confident people are those who have challenged themselves sooner and more often rather than later and less often
/r/askTRP15/03/21 08:54 PM
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I’m 26 but I really wish I figured this out when I was your age. Believe it or not this concept did not internalize for me until this year. Best time to start is now. Good luck
/r/askTRP15/03/21 08:51 PM
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I’ll echo what others have said to make sure you really understand this. You need to spend a long period of reflection. A weekend, maybe even a week, to figure out where you want to be in the future. Based on where you want to be, you need to find out what are the top priorities in your life you need to get there. Rank them in order of how much time and energy you may need to see those outputs from the priorities. I would start with 3 future out puts. It could be for example “find a career where…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 02:34 PM
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Believe it or not, Mark is not right about everything. Brilliant writer, but that still doesn’t mean the red pill is all bad. Something something logical fallacy. Here is something else that may be hard to believe, not everyone on trp has the same exact worldview. I agree there are certain sects of the red pill that are toxic, out of touch with the real world, and borderline trolling. But many of the nuggets I got from that sub shaped me to who I am today, including finding the book Models. It h…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/21 05:23 PM
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It’s a movement “against red pill” technically. I think both sides are right and both sides are wrong. I think the extremes of both sides are what people attribute to either. Mark Manson to me is the compromise of both sides. At each of their core beliefs, I believe red pill preaches taking ownership for yourself to get results you want and “exredpill” teaches to not be a sexist ass hole Spoiler alert: red pill subreddit was who showed me his first book “models” I’m subbed to both to keep myself…
/r/ExRedPill09/02/21 05:41 PM
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Truly believe Mark Manson is the ultimate example of finding the balance between red pill and ex-red pill.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/21 05:20 PM
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Witch hazel wipes This guy fucks
/r/askTRP25/10/20 05:01 PM
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Are you trying to say we shouldn’t base LTR requirements on chubbiness?
/r/askTRP09/09/20 09:16 AM
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Read the book “when I say no I feel guilty”
/r/askTRP17/08/20 02:24 AM
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I need you to really think how the conversation went from first interaction to that moment. You can’t say cocky phrases like that out of nowhere when you started the conversation being “nice”. These type of jokes come off better if you have been throwing light humor and teasing throughout.
/r/askTRP01/08/20 01:21 PM
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I don’t quite know why but this might be one of the best arguments for why “being disciplined” will help you exponentially...not just in your habits but in the actions you say you want to do but let fear prevent you from doing.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 02:15 AM
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As an Asian male with probably the biggest turn around with my luck with women, I gotta attribute it all to the following: -LIFT! Lift consistently and eat consistently. Progressive overload. Prioritize time so you can consistently eat and lift well. Do not compromise on this. If your routine is one you can’t do consistently then don’t even bother. After you lift for over a year, you will see people will start treating you differently. But lifting is not enough. -get out of your comfort zone oft…
/r/askTRP02/06/20 01:25 AM
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This is it, OP
/r/askTRP21/05/20 02:06 AM
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Maybe you don’t want to see your sister used and abused by a potential fuck boy like the girls we hook up with until we get bored.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 12:50 AM
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One of the quotes I remember my first boss for. And one I seem reminded too often of how true it is, even 5 years later in my career.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:26 AM
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Don’t listen to this guy. Terrible analogy. Red pill reading at your age is no more destructive than reading To Kill a Mockingbird in high school..
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:17 AM
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Free advice with discernment has more ROI than advice you pay for
/r/askTRP16/05/20 04:06 PM
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Do you think it’s okay for guys to call girls out on hypocrisy like this then? You don’t believe there is an invisible wall where women get away with freaking out more since girls will bitch out more while guys have to be steadfast?
/r/askTRP20/04/20 02:20 PM
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Right, I really don’t mind that she missed the commitment. Really, I don’t. It’s more of the fact that she freaked out that I missed her’s. To her, when she missed mine it is acceptable. I wanted her to realize we are all imperfect and we shouldn’t be freaking out for missing commitments when things come up and we don’t show a habit of missing commitments often. (I said “we” but I truly meant “she” because I know that things happen to prevent us from making commitments)
/r/askTRP19/04/20 01:38 PM
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What would you have done differently? Was my mistake not calling her out when she first freaked out for me not making a commitment?
/r/askTRP19/04/20 05:06 AM
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Ya man I’m 5’10 and 170. I’m imagining you are VERY skinny, almost borderline unhealthy...cause I feel skinny still
/r/askTRP08/03/20 09:21 PM
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She ain’t event hot bro. Wtf
/r/askTRP05/03/20 10:33 PM
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I did CrossFit for three months then went back to my normal routine at another gym. The shoulder dislocation during skull crushers was a symptom of damage on my shoulder prior to the skull crusher. I’ve done skull crushers for four years prior to CrossFit and all of a sudden I had the dislocation
/r/askTRP27/02/20 05:35 PM
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Listen to this guy. I did CrossFit for three months and stopped but ended up tearing my labrum from tricep barbell skull crushers a couple weeks after. There was definitely a correlation with the injury and my shoulder work with CrossFit.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 03:57 AM
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Where do you go for public speaking
/r/askTRP12/02/20 12:42 PM
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This guy is actually bigger and taller than me. That might be part of why I was intimidated by him screaming all of a sudden
/r/askTRP08/02/20 07:55 AM
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I think you nailed it. Looking back I was definitely being more pushy than persistent. He asked me to let it go and “we aren’t going to agree on this” in a calmer demeanor but I kept pressing. Honestly this is a new team so I wasn’t sure what were the sensitive points with some individuals on my team. This instance certainly taught me one of them. Thank you
/r/askTRP08/02/20 07:53 AM
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Luckily I have enough experience in my career where the respect between my subordinates and I are mutual. When they do speak out of turn I can keep a level head and speak to the deeper issues they may be screaming about. My problem is with people on my team at my level who work with me to set direction for the subordinates.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 07:49 AM
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Interesting take.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 04:38 AM
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Not getting yelled at by subordinates. When I do I can handle those better now. My issue is with people my level or above.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 02:56 AM
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A long time ago. I’ll have to re read that too then
/r/askTRP08/02/20 02:55 AM
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Honestly laughing to their face would be the ultimate end goal for me when that happens. I don’t know how to get out of “deer in headlights mode”
/r/askTRP08/02/20 02:15 AM
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I need to re-read this. I actually did use broken record. And I spoke calmly the entire time but I was not expecting him to scream at that level. I know now that he is potential to scream like that so I’ll for sure be better next time. But sometimes the heat of the moment gets to me.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 01:58 AM
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Normally I would but what I realized while dating her was that I wasn’t being clear with my boundaries. Since I have been clear she has been a lot better at not flirting like that. I established a lot of other boundaries since then too. Now if she breaks them again, i won’t feel bad about nexting or downgrading to plate. Until then I am in it for the ride.
/r/askTRP03/02/20 09:45 PM
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If she is willing that easily I just want it confirmed. That way I don’t feel as bad about downgrading her to a plate. That’s the main issue I have.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 10:50 PM
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You’re right I am wasting a lot of time. I wish there was an easier way to just get the anxiety out of my head but no matter how I rationalize it I can’t. It eats away at free time I could be using building my skills. One poster recommended just casually dropping how I’m free that weekend for the festival and see how it goes from there. If she starts back pedaling or making excuses why I can’t go then at least I will have solace knowing I was right with my suspicions. Again this is all to help m…
/r/askTRP02/02/20 10:47 PM
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What do ya mean when you use hamster in my case?
/r/askTRP02/02/20 10:03 PM
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Find a couple niches and hone them to the best of your ability. Find a group of men or even a few male companions. For a lot of people they start with lifting. After a year they will almost certainly notice the difference in how people treat them (guys and girls) with the newfound build. But you can’t rely on lifting alone. This is where it gets hard. You need to start putting yourself out there. Talking to people at social events. Talking to girls. From here it is a lot of trial and error. You …
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:52 AM
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I know her well enough to know she is relatively shy normally but when alcohol is involved she is a lot more flirty. Among other boundaries I established, I called her out on it the next day and she has been better since. I like how you simplified the three main expectations girls have on us tho to stay with us: Loyal take care of them defeat their boredom
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:32 AM
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I may need to frame this comment cause really this is the root cause of my issues here. I hate to admit it but my answer is (i and ii). I’m confident in the sense that I know I am more secure than I was last year, but I have a ways to go. And yes there were some red flags that I ignored because I didn’t have true abundance mentality. I have more of it now tho. That I am sure of. I have laid out more boundaries later in the LTR and a lot of the red flags diminished. That’s what kept me staying
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:18 AM
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As an attempt to subtly invite myself? It sounds better than the other ways I’d ask so why not!
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:15 AM
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All good questions. They all know I am dating her including her sister. One has a bf I think. I don’t know her friends enough to know if any are into her. I know guys will be going in the group too. Usually she will invite me to stuff if she wants me to go but this time she didn’t extend an invite which caught me off guard. I didn’t want to probe to deep to make me think I was jealous. I’m strongly considering just asking why I didn’t get invited but I fear I might have let it past for too long
/r/askTRP02/02/20 02:59 AM
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you need to understand what matters in life and you need that perspective. Got damn it, you’re right. I get busy with my career and it occupies my worrying...until I have free time with my thoughts. All comes back to finding other hobbies to occupy myself. Other than lifting and reading. Thank you for this.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 01:33 AM
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PPLPPL isn’t sustainable for the average joe. Try Upper Lower rest Push Pull Legs rest But ONLY when you stall after multiple plateaus followed by resets of stronglifts while on a caloric surplus diet.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 10:29 AM
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TRP advises you to hard next when they cheat. Soft next when you feel they are disrespecting you, not showing interest in the early stages of dating, or holding you back from your other goals in life. I sub both of these because I like getting my viewpoints challenged and I have to say you are wrong.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/20 02:17 AM
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With his history, he would be lucky to get anything else. Unless he has connections who are willing to give him a chance, he needs to start from the bottom again.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 11:11 AM
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What you described is literal climaxing because it only goes down hill from there. You like the chase/pursuit of goals.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 01:59 AM
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If you don’t like coding or software developing then you need to get the fuck out of computer science yesterday! Find out what you do like fast.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 01:49 AM
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Kohl’s has plain colored t shirts (urban pipeline brand) that fit my medium sized upper body better than any other t shirt I’ve bought. They are incredibly cheap too. You could prob do a medium or large
/r/askTRP27/01/20 12:49 AM
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Buy a nice suit. Then apply to fast food or retail. Then figure out what you want to do for more money and what it will take to get there.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 12:47 AM
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Don’t know why this is getting downvoted. 3-6 months of expenses should be saved for emergencies that can be retrieved easily and still give some cash gains. Worst case if there is a market downturn and your investments fall hard AND you have a major car payment you need to make, the extra money comes in handy. Everyone else is spot on with index funds and tax advantaged accounts. I’d add by saying get an HSA if your company sponsors one for medical emergencies. Look them up for more details.
/r/askTRP27/01/20 12:37 AM
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You completely missed the point with my reply. You even admitted my point when you said “with certain groups” Let me repeat it for you a second time. Some people, when all else equal, won’t factor in race, but majority of white girls want to be with a white guy. Same race relations is the norm. No matter how much television now tries to change that paradigm. If you haven’t realized this yet, then your self-awareness needs some fine tuning. Your comments make it clear discussions with you further…
/r/askTRP26/01/20 08:44 PM
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You’re south Asian, he is white. You can’t have the same SMV as him if he is white and you are Asian, even if all else are equal. White girls like white guys more often than other races. It is really that simple. Not saying you can’t find white girls into other races, but there are so many factors in how these girls were raised that influence this. How many famous movie characters do you remember are white and blonde hair and are alpha? Okay, now how many can you remember that are Asian and not …
/r/askTRP26/01/20 06:22 PM
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You and this LTR are toxic and deserve each other
/r/askTRP18/01/20 04:00 PM
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There’s no way to just create an alpha frame around the fact that you are confident in your passion about the “deeper side” of the world? Your rule of thumb makes sense in general tho
/r/askTRP18/01/20 05:57 AM
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You wrote that post very well. You do much blogging?
/r/askTRP18/01/20 05:55 AM
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Now you’re making me wonder: What should a woman provide for you other than sex and “not hurt you from reaching your goals” cause the second aspect has a large spread of traits
/r/askTRP18/01/20 01:16 AM
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You got it CHAD
/r/askTRP18/01/20 12:54 AM
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Your call. Actually just go out with your other Asian friends at the bars. That will do the trick 👌🏾
/r/askTRP17/01/20 12:00 AM
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Join a frat
/r/askTRP15/01/20 04:36 PM
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No need to break up. Just treat her as a plate from here on out. Have her available for you but continue searching
/r/askTRP15/01/20 03:17 PM
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How do you talk? Are you witty? Do you stutter a lot or backpedal? Do you have a very self-deprecative humor? Can you make eye contact? Are you afraid to touch them? What’s your body language with them? I don’t see those mentioned in that vomit of information because really the stuff I mentioned are what help the most.
/r/askTRP14/01/20 04:54 PM
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Girls aren’t attracted to blue pilled men. So acting blue pilled a little bit will cause her to be a little less attracted. He’s assuming those are directly correlated tho. I see a little bit of blue pill causing a lot of drop in attraction.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 11:25 PM
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It’s something they talk about in no more mr.nice guy, which is supposed to be “essential side bar reading material”
/r/askTRP12/01/20 09:56 PM
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I think we are saying the same thing, I just shouldn’t have used street. I see it as a dynamic interaction where both parties are giving and gaining something. Like in your example, one person is giving advice but they get satisfaction when the other person enjoys hearing that advice. Why not take that one level more? One person is giving advice and willing to be an ear and in exchange that other person acts as an ear and gives advice when necessary. May not be the same day but in the lifetime o…
/r/askTRP12/01/20 09:35 PM
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An invitation can be as simple as “let’s set up sometime to grab a drink”. I’ve been the first to initiate on occasion too. But if I’m always the one initiating in said relation, I don’t feel it’s in my self interest to continue inviting them. Because I can’t help but feel like I am being used
/r/askTRP12/01/20 09:29 PM
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I think I do a good job of “pulling away” when I don’t get anything in return. I’m actually re-reading this book and see that I am a lot better than when I read this book years ago. I request things from others when it aligns when my self interest and I help others because keeping them in my life helps my self-interest of having good people in my life who help me grow. We say we don’t owe people anything but aren’t all relationships two way streets in the end? This is where I struggle internaliz…
/r/askTRP12/01/20 08:28 PM
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Lot of insecure folks in the comment section here. Good on you, OP. You escalated and didn’t give up. Most of the autists here would have stopped at “I’m okay here” because further texting would involve texting outside of logistics. I’ll definitely take note of how you interacted here. You used a lot of pressure flip, agree&amplify, and sometimes blatantly ignored her tests whether you meant to or not.
/r/askTRP11/01/20 03:30 AM
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Merely trying to understand the motives of some people. If the most successful have reasons for commiting ones life to the sluttiest, they must have some logic? Or they are completely foolish.. that’s what I am trying to speculate
/r/askTRP10/01/20 02:07 AM
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Why would you be? Was there risk of the job going away? That sounds like a dream work life balance situation.
/r/askTRP09/01/20 04:16 PM
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You also need to keep in mind how many hours he is actually working a week to get 5k per month. I’d leave my job in a heartbeat if it was guaranteed 5k a month for 20 years with flexible 30-40 hours per week, for example.
/r/askTRP09/01/20 03:48 PM
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My best guess is become self-aware when you act anxious or avoidant and get to the point where you are aware of your anxious/avoidant tendencies BEFORE you take action.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 09:47 PM
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You’re a fool if you believe your SMV has peaked only now. If you don’t make improvements or learn new things for the remainder of your lifetime then yes you’re right.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 09:46 PM
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Yes, do give this book a shot!
/r/askTRP05/01/20 09:14 AM
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Believe me when I say I am still a greenhorn on this journey like you, but I will say this. When I look back at my more successful nights, it’s with smaller company at someone’s house or a private event. Much smaller company than a crowded bar or night club. I’m with a mix of guy and girlfriends and we are in a small enough area where others outside of our party can see us. I usually have a good story or anecdote that’s captured everyone’s attention in my group once or twice. I am loud and artic…
/r/askTRP29/12/19 01:51 PM
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Then I go back to the first question. Are you putting yourself into situations where you are seen as high value or are you seen as average or even below average where you go? Remember that ladies at bars, clubs, or coffee shops have to see you as a prize just as much as you are seeing them as one. Really does come down to practice. If you really are going out twice a week and trying day/night game you are ahead of most people on this sub. Just internalize what works and what doesn’t for each per…
/r/askTRP29/12/19 11:07 AM
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Find a way to make yourself magnetic wherever you are. Don’t expect results right away. Build a strong, consistent lifting routine. Get nice fitting clothes. Tailored if you have to. Learn how to tell stories well. Learn how to listen to those you talk to and continue a conversation. Everything after that will be trial and error and will be case by case depending on who you meet. But you won’t have an opportunity for that part of the game until you learn the fundamentals. Get started
/r/askTRP28/12/19 09:41 PM
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I would wait until she posts something on her story or via a post. Don’t slide in COMPLETELY out of the blue.
/r/askTRP28/12/19 09:36 PM
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Start with becoming aware of when you are in those moments. Start looking in the past of when those have happened and eventually you’ll trigger on those moments when they happen in real time. From that point, you just gotta remember to apply the teachings you see here every day.
/r/askTRP15/12/19 03:36 PM
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Realize that all relationships are give and take. If you do this, you’d only be looking to hold on to relationships where the other party gives. You’d be selfish and losing out on true networking. A better exercise would be to reach out to contacts, see how they reciprocate, and then see over the course of a year where each of those relations go. See if they will initiate once in a while or not. If you don’t hear back from any of them by that point, move on. If you are high value though, I guara…
/r/askTRP15/12/19 03:18 PM
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