HerrMitzerschmidt Archive

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1	Why do we feel mad about the word patriarchy? It’s a convenient word, but of course it implies blame. I try to use “traditional society” in its place for that reason. I think of it in reference to western societies, from the last few centuries. And with that in mind, I think women had many ways to impose their influences on their societies, even if they weren’t allowed (or expected) to participate in official governance. They’ve always enjoyed a distinct advantage in sexual politics, and they would leverage that as always to get their ways,…	/r/MensRights	09/03/25 05:08 PM
1	Why the Left has Anti-Male Rhetoric and Policies State level, OK. So…how exactly does that apply? Was the initial law discriminatory against men, or the attempt to repeal? Yes, there are concerns that are addressed by both parties regarding discrimination. If legislators are legitimately attempting to correct discrimination, then fine. If their law oversteps, or creates significant discrimination itself, then it needs to be repealed or corrected. But so far, I haven’t heard of any egregious legislation against men, especially by the Democratic…	/r/MensRights	05/03/25 05:12 PM
1	Why the Left has Anti-Male Rhetoric and Policies Name one Democratic proposal to abolish speech. It’s about legislation, not leftists online or in the classrooms. No one’s stopping you from saying Merry Christmas, no one’s trying to take away your hunting or self-protection weapons. And the women in vagina hats were only concerned about their (our) fundamental rights, and they were proven correct in their concerns.	/r/MensRights	05/03/25 05:01 PM
-3	Why the Left has Anti-Male Rhetoric and Policies I don’t agree. When it comes to gender politics, I think what’s happened is social media has created pockets of grievance that play off each other. The worst issues get magnified and the loudest (and most aggrieved) voices get heard. So each side hears shit that justifies their grievances even more. The Democratic Party does respond a little on behalf of women, but overturning Roe vs Wade was a big deal. It’s not like they’re trying to force men to do anything. The anti-male rhetoric you hear is…	/r/MensRights	04/03/25 08:34 PM
-3	Any arguments against "Misandry annoys, Misogyny kills"? “Misandry makes misogyny much worse.”	/r/MensRights	28/02/25 02:52 PM
2	Hello, is it normal for male bosses to shout at ther male employees but kinder to female employees? I would think so. I think this is one that gets turned around in feminist perspective to be the opposite way: i.e., women get treated worse, (because of course they’d see it that way). But I think in the workplace, and many places for that matter, men are conditioned to be competitive and harsh to each other while feeling they have to be gentle with women. If they try to treat women the same they get accused of sexism/misogyny. I think that’s been a big issue in the workplace for at least a cent…	/r/MensRights	11/02/25 02:25 PM
-1	How do Democrats win back white men? I’ve written a few emails to political podcasters about this issue (ALL men trending Right) because I think modern men are caught between old school pressures and expectations and a modern society that labels them unduly privileged, selfishly entitled, and to blame for practically everything. And, I think, because of old school expectations of stoicism and self-reliance, much of the frustration is subconscious. Enter: the manipulative Right, interested more in division, anger, and regressive rhe…	/r/MensRights	10/02/25 12:27 AM
1	Women in emergency services refuse to do their job and call men, while the victim suffers and waits. Only if it wasn’t too dangerous: he slipped on a rock, so as long as she was more careful, it sounds as if she could’ve managed it. Of course, it depends on whether he tumbled further down . In either case, it sounds as if she could’ve assessed the situation, saw the other path, and got to him.	/r/MensRights	22/01/25 11:04 PM
3	Women in emergency services refuse to do their job and call men, while the victim suffers and waits. I can understand such a thing in a situation that’s truly dangerous, but by the description, this clearly wasn’t that. Even if the OP was a little reckless in deciding it was safe for him, he wouldn’t have done so if it were obviously dangerous; his injury was more a matter of not being especially careful of loose rocks. The EMT should always be ready to assist anyone even before the arrival of rescue; of course, it’s up their discretion to decide if a situation is too dangerous, or in this case…	/r/MensRights	22/01/25 04:53 PM
1	What is your response to the “men’s problems are caused by men!” bullshit? I’m pro-feminism, as feminism used to be: about equal opportunity, respect, encouragement, empowerment, etc. Because our traditional society was fucked up: it insisted women and men into strict gender roles they weren’t necessarily meant for, often crippling their best humanity, and creating a lot of psychological stress. Women’s oppression was easier to see in this way because it resulted in overt legal restrictions. But many men also suffer greatly from this culture; unfortunately, our sufferi…	/r/MensRights	21/01/25 02:47 PM
5	Woman asks to split the bill, is offended and rude when man splits the bill This is one of the things that many women/feminists just blindly ignore. When it comes to any aspect of the “patriarchy” that benefits them, or hurts men (or both), if they notice it at all, they either consider it to be minor, a little payback for ALL their oppression 🙄, or that it’s just natural or preferred by men. Like men being expected to make the first move, and ask the woman out: they rely on the false idea that men are just naturally programmed for it, as opposed to considering what it …	/r/MensRights	14/12/24 03:28 PM
5	Attacked and downvoted in an unrelated sub because they went through my history and found that I post here. Yeah, I don’t quite get it. I mean, some of them are probably just white-knighting, but when they get really intense about defending women I wonder if they grew up in a home where their dad happened to be abusive or something. Or they used to use women and now they’re turning their inner guilt onto all men.	/r/MensRights	12/12/24 06:05 PM
2	"Your body my choice" Well said. The world is becoming more extreme, in both directions. To me, it’s a product of human evolution: that the majority of humans simply aren’t wired well enough to function properly under technologies that are improving and societies that are changing so rapidly. Social media access has allowed some of our worse and less-evolved instincts to come to the forefront of discussion, with the loudest, most (overly)confident, and aggrieved/oversensitive/selfish voices to dominate, leading to bo…	/r/MensRights	09/12/24 04:03 PM
-2	Why do men dont support men's rights and men's issues the way women support women's rights? I think it’s all due to allowing the “patriarchy” to keep us in its grasp. Even as we watch women evolve away from it, we fail to REALLY acknowledge what it’s done to us. It holds men down in many ways, making it SO important for us to live up to its definition of manhood that we find it hard to escape, for fear that we will be ridiculed, and lose any self esteem we have. And of course, the biggest way to feel worthy in all of it is through women: they validate your manhood. Plus, the patriarchy…	/r/MensRights	07/12/24 03:50 PM
1	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? I don’t know about those figures, although I heard about Kamala’s $1billion, but in Trump’s case, there are two factors: one, is that I believe most of his money comes from extremely wealthy donors, (e.g., Musk) and I suspect much of his support is funded by undisclosed dark money and foreign interests: he’s all but admitted he’s beholden to Russian oligarchs, Saudi billionaires, etc. $300million is probably not the actual amount. Besides, he gets so much of his advertising by being so continual…	/r/MensRights	02/12/24 03:03 PM
1	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? Pelosi’s husband is a wealthy businessman, so…Also, yes, like I said, Democrats have to play the game to some extent to compete: money wins elections because stupid/lazy voters rely on ads/exposure for their information, and that money is allowed to come from wealthy corporate donors because of REPUBLICANS. The reason it IS like it is because American voters are willfully ignorant, overly proud, and impatient; and the Republicans with their (many more) wealthy donors, and right wing media, have …	/r/MensRights	29/11/24 02:44 PM
0	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? What I mean by blue? That’s a bit presumptive, and therefore telltale. And your argument following that reveals more of the same. No, although there are definitely some instances and people you can point to within the Democratic Party, they are not nearly as guilty of corporate corruption, or wars. Unfortunately, because of the regressive policies of Republicans, and their media outlets that spin their bullshit for them, the electorate is ignorant and misinformed. In order for the Democrats to h…	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 07:46 PM
-3	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? Once again, a childish response, with no substance.	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 05:20 PM
-10	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? The distinction, in any case, is important: “anti-choice” people (<-example) use the word baby to make their poor argument more emotional and justify it with “they want to kill babies,” which is absolutely bullshit. And your inability to understand precise words is on you: maybe this lack of ability applies to your supporting a terrible argument.	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 03:56 PM
-17	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? You might as well have said, “Nuh-uh.” Whattayu, like 8 years old?	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 03:47 PM
2	Is there something wrong with being very sensitive as a man? I think you’re great. Traditional masculinity is fine to a point, but parts of it are ugly and dehumanizing. Encouraging the ability to have control of your emotions is fine, because it can be useful (more women should learn it), but shaming them, and calling them unmanly, is bullshit. Having emotions is a generally good and essential part of humanity, and men who deny them too much are just stunting their own full humanity. Men should feel free to express themselves: it’s part of being better p…	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 02:38 PM
-28	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? Fetuses, not “babies”. I think it’s a price of nature: women are naturally burdened with the task of being pregnant and giving birth, and it’s certainly a difficult, dangerous, and extremely inconvenient burden. At least until they give birth, since it’s their body (and culturally, a bit more of their future) at stake, we can, as men, accept the price of having no control over their choice. Besides, the truth is that men are often more guilty of the irresponsible decisions that lead to unwanted …	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 02:24 PM
-5	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? …”white knight” status and desperately needed self esteem.	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 02:08 PM
-9	Anyone else notice how since Trumps election slander towards men has increased exponentially? I DO think that Trump’s election, and the predominance of men voting for him, is in part due to this issue of men feeling accused, disrespected, etc. It’s reflected in the man-o-sphere and bro-culture that’s arisen in the social media era, harkening back to an ultra version of patriarchal bullshit that seems the only way for them to create self respect. It’s fucked up, as far as I’m concerned, because for one thing fuck bro culture: I never liked that angry pseudo macho dominance crap. But I und…	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 02:06 PM
11	Women in Male Advocacy? Thank you. There’s nothing that makes me feel loved and validated more than a woman who bucks the trend of absolute “sisterhood” in favor of concern for men. I’m probably more sensitive than the average man, and I probably tend to rely too much on validation from women, but I’m guessing A LOT of men do. Recently, being deeply upset at Trump’s re-election, and getting some angry words from an old female friend who misinterpreted my comment, my wife defended me, knowing the angry words and the his…	/r/MensRights	18/11/24 06:43 PM
2	Where did all this hatred for men start? Hatred for others, no matter who, has been a staple of the human condition since we had a condition. But yeah, I think it became more significantly anti-male with the rise of third wave feminism, which found its voice at the same time social media became a thing. As an old GenXer, my childhood was filled with “women’s liberation,” and it seemed fair and reasonable to me: that women wanted equality of opportunity and respect for their abilities. It seemed to be about empowerment to become all tha…	/r/MensRights	18/11/24 06:27 PM
4	Are there any trans men in this sub? If yes, what made you an MRA? Do you feel welcomed? P.S.: either way, rock on 🤘	/r/MensRights	03/03/23 03:39 PM
0	Are there any trans men in this sub? If yes, what made you an MRA? Do you feel welcomed? Interesting question. I’m very interested in the whole subject, although I identify as a straight cis man. I’m all for however anyone wants to live, identify, express themselves: if you’re human, you deserve equal basic rights and respect, and my intentions are always to treat you so, unless I find you’re an asshole: even then I factor in a little bit of lenience based on what I imagine you’ve endured. That said, I find the concept of trans perplexing, in that I believe strongly that men and wom…	/r/MensRights	03/03/23 03:37 PM
2	It seems like many people misuse the words incel and misogynist online. I’ve never really understood the hostile reaction, myself, maybe because I’m old and the evolution of terminology and internet savvy is so fast and changing. Anyway, for someone to refer to themselves as an incel, to me, sounds like a plea for understanding, akin to Black Lives Matter. Even if it’s accompanied by bitterness towards women in general, at least a non incel could try to understand the underlying frustration that might lead someone to claim such a dubious (socially shameful) title. I…	/r/MensRights	03/03/23 03:17 PM
-6	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. Ah, hence your name, I guess. Anyway, here’s something to think about: the internet is littered with angry people, with their own selfish agendas, who just want to bitch and be bitchy. And yes, a lot of them ain’t too bright. Which is why they show up, to find other bitches to validate their ignorant bitchiness. The angry misandrist feminists are definitely this type. They screw up their own agenda, because they bitch unreasonably to the point that people don’t like them and discount their entir…	/r/MensRights	03/03/23 12:04 AM
1	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. Nah. And when you retain this kind of inability to look at the issue objectively, and insist instead on succumbing to your own victimization, you do exactly what the worst of them do, you give others a reason to not listen to you, and you damage your overall cause.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 09:22 PM
-5	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. No, if they do so, then they’re misusing the term because they’re not bright enough to understand it, or they’re not bright enough to determine what really constitutes “toxic.” If they mean to demean all masculinity, then that’s the term they should be using.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 07:44 PM
-1	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. I’m sorry you feel like this. We are definitely in a state of maximum cultural turbulence now, with men feeling lost, slowly looking inward and realizing their own oppressions. There are women out there, though, who are better than the angry crowd of victims, who are decent enough to listen and care. Sometimes they’re hard to find, especially online where people insist on being their worst selves. Good luck.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 07:39 PM
-2	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. It also doesn’t imply that women can’t also exhibit and suffer from toxic behaviors and pressures. Toxic femininity, as a term, is a perfectly valid counterpart, and women exhibit it a lot, towards each other and towards men. It’s what leads to some women using such terms in a derogatory way.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 07:34 PM
-12	How can people so clearly see discrimination in history, but not see how they are doing it to men right now? I give up. Well, first of all, toxic masculinity is a term meant to define behaviors that are generally considered destructive and harmful, not just to women, or society, but to men themselves. It’s created by unfair societal pressures and expectations directed at men. It purposely doesn’t include traditionally masculine behavior that’s beneficial and healthy.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 07:30 PM
2	Hello fellow MRA. Im doing a project about suicide in my psychopathology class. As its mostly male suicides, do any of you have any good studies that explain this without accusing the “patriarchy” or “toxic masculinity”? I try to use the term “traditional society” in place of the patriarchy. [Of course, because the term patriarchy has male-blaming implications; I assume that’s part of the objection to the term). I’m not sure how to say toxic masculinity without using the term, except just not to use it; just indicate the pressures society puts on men and some of the unfortunate things some men resort to in their frustrations.	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 04:38 PM
2	"Men should be drafted/conscripted because they are more capable fighter, not because of their sex" is the dumbest argument I agree with your points overall, especially #1, military capability, like all physical and psychological characteristics, has a bell curve distribution, and men’s and women’s bell curves have significant overlap. #2, also true: forced servitude, at its worst, should be equally applied. Unfortunately, you used wealthy people paying more taxes as an example. This is no longer a matter of reasonable debate: progressive taxation in a primarily capitalist economy, is essential for equality itself. R…	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 04:22 PM
2	What can me and other women do to help? Asking and caring is exactly the right thing; thanks 🙏. I’m sorry you often feel unsafe around men, but it’s understandable, and common. Unfortunately, a lot of men turn their frustrations into negative behavior; they are a problem for other men, too, but understandably scary for gentle women. I think men have a lot of work to do for themselves, but we’re not as well equipped by society to understand even our own emotions and psychology, so we’re only beginning to examine our pressures and frust…	/r/MensRights	02/03/23 12:45 AM
-6	Why do men feel like no one care about how they feel? Men are caught between the patriarchy and modern feminism. The patriarchy is most of our problem. It funnels us into competition with other men, without much cooperation, and stifles our emotional understanding and empathetic nature, making us afraid of our true inner selves, and into lousy supporters of each other. At the same time, the patriarchy instructs women to be afraid of men, and coldly dependent and demanding of them. And then there’s feminism, which, when it’s geared toward empowering…	/r/MensRights	01/03/23 03:03 PM
1	How many of you are left wingers? I’m fairly left as well: don’t give up! The lefty left are an insufferable bunch of megaphonies, yes. And feminism has spent a while wallowing in victimization instead of empowerment for a while now. But these things take time, because people as a whole are kinda stupid and slow. Men’s issues will become a significant topic in the not too distant future. In the meantime, left-of-center is an absolute must for any progress at all.	/r/MensRights	28/02/23 05:54 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? OK. So Democrats had issues with the Bush administration’s NSA overreach: they should have. The Bush admin had already proven itself underhanded and criminal, by ignoring Clinton era warnings that could have prevented 9/11, by starting a huge war on false pretenses, by hiring out torturous mercenary and “nation rebuilding” contracts to money-connected friends, by allowing torture at Guantanamo, etc. Obama let them skate as a gesture of national healing, BTW, while reversing the nosedive economy …	/r/MensRights	28/02/23 04:27 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? I wouldn’t have a problem with the “both sides” argument if it were even remotely balanced. It probably has been at certain times. I’m not a huge fan of parties myself. But unless I’m missing some huge salient facts, for the past few decades, the exact things that you suggested above about following an agreed set of (secular) values, equitable wealth distribution, ensured inclusivity, and NOT promoting division, have been the direct mission of the Democratic Party and its policies, while at the …	/r/MensRights	27/02/23 08:17 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? …his space lasers, or is that Jewish cabal headed up by a new antisemitic target?): these are all ridiculous or unfounded talking points sold to people from the right as a defensive deflection to the real issues. Meanwhile the Democrats have been all business, proposing solutions to all our legitimate problems, while doing their best to compromise with mostly blind obstructionists in order to get anything done on behalf of the people. And they’re not adopting or legislating any of the left wing …	/r/MensRights	27/02/23 04:01 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? For the most part I agree. But I get the sense that while we probably share a very similar view of how most things are and how they should be, we have a different sense of America’s current political imbalance and blame. I mean, Paul Pelosi would be the last example of political malfeasance to enter my mind. Not that he might actually be guilty of using insider information—it’s certainly possible—but singling out him in our current political division seems, well, a clear indication of where you …	/r/MensRights	27/02/23 03:34 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? Wow! A detailed intelligent answer! Cool. I’ve always pegged myself as a cynic, but I’ve found in many ways by comparison to others I definitely have an optimistic side: possibly, it’s naïveté, but whatever. Maybe that’s why I never bought the idea that “absolute power corrupts.” Although I think there’s usually something eminently corruptible in those that seek power in the first place, I don’t think it’s necessarily a given that everyone would succumb to it, e. g., Nelson Mandela. I get your p…	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 03:10 PM
1	Why is discrimination everywhere? I agree. But I’d suggest you’re a little too ready to surrender to biological evolution, and it’s hard-wired influence. Biology works in conjunction with social evolution, even in the animal world, to the point that, eventually, biology evolves in accordance with social evolution. For example, it may be that the men and women evolve to become more equal in stature and strength in response to the societal shift towards preferring equality. Of course, this takes many, many generations (ignoring th…	/r/MensRights	24/02/23 03:27 PM
3	What is sexual harassment? So many people seem to have no ability to think even slightly past the surface of any issue; they insist on simplistic black or white definitions. Any true assessment of such a thing as harassment or even assault requires more than a definition of what constitutes it. It requires circumstantial facts, tone, etc. And besides the actual speech and behavior of the accused, the speech and behavior of the accuser are also critical. Did they make their dislike/discomfort clear, and allow the accusee t…	/r/MensRights	21/02/23 07:06 PM
1	In The White Lotus, a female prostitute scams an innocent man. She is almost universally praised online. Poster point out that if sexes were reversed, the gigolo wouldn't be praised. Poster gets downvoted to hell. The subject of sex (the physical act) is so central to the whole issue of gender equity, playing a huge part in every way. It’s fundamental, underlying practically every dynamic between men and women, and it’s complicated. But it’s treated with such dismissiveness, as if it’s secondary. Comparative sex drive is inescapably natural, and has had enormous consequences on our culture and gender roles since forever. Some people, particularly feminists (and men who want to imagine they’re such great l…	/r/MensRights	21/02/23 05:24 PM
2	CLEAREST evidence that reddit and society in general have more empathy for women This was supposed to be a response to someone who claimed the patriarchy was a BS term.	/r/MensRights	20/02/23 09:08 PM
2	CLEAREST evidence that reddit and society in general have more empathy for women Disagree. The patriarchy (or traditional society, to substitute a less accusative term) is a reasonable term to identify the gendered society which we are evolving from. How feminists often use it is the problem: many of them demonize men and masculinity, and blame men for all of it. The truth is, traditional society is a mixed bag of privileges, responsibilities, and gendered unfairness, some of it derived from natural differences, but a lot of it strained through religious garbage and capitali…	/r/MensRights	20/02/23 09:06 PM
-1	About the patriarchy, and how it causes men's rights issues (by a feminist) Yeah, I’m sorry you’re facing aggression on this. I’m new to this Reddit; I came to see if the characterization of MRA’s as woman-hating groups was correct. Sadly, it seems at least partially true. It seems the sad nature of too many people to angrily defend their own victimhood, without the logic or empathy to understand the other side. It gives me hope to know there are people who rise above such primitive defensiveness. Especially being from a particularly patriarchal society, I’m impressed t…	/r/MensRights	27/07/21 05:24 PM
-2	About the patriarchy, and how it causes men's rights issues (by a feminist) Marxist? Please. Sounds like you have a full-on agenda to defend your personality type. And no one said “toxic masculinity,” so you reveal your presumptive nature. Your definition of feminism is inductive (from experience), which is fine for discussion as long as you recognize it. In other words, you may encounter a lot of self-described feminists, and even feminist dogma, that is actively anti-male, and your pushback is understandable, but that doesn’t mean that this anti-male attitude defines …	/r/MensRights	27/07/21 04:56 PM
-1	About the patriarchy, and how it causes men's rights issues (by a feminist) Brilliant, and absolutely correct in my opinion. I always find it such a relief to hear such understanding from a woman. Sadly, it’s rare, not because women are particularly incapable of anything, but because humans in general are often way too wrapped up in their own justifications and psychological dysfunction that they fail to even attempt to understand the other side of issues, especially when, as in the case of masculism, it’s not academically sanctioned and firmly established dogma. A lot …	/r/MensRights	27/07/21 03:27 PM