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The end goal is for guys not to fuck up their lives by repeating behaviors that don't serve them. Per Horns, there's a 95% failure rate here. That means the sidebar isn't the complete answer for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/26 05:59 PM
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Sounds like she used the GNO to get you to kill the puppy. This could mean she already checked out of the relationship emotionally a while ago. I doubt I've ever really helped anyone here. But I hope you read this and do something differently. Some guys can come here and work through their shit, some can't - and I don't think you're someone who can without additional help. A good friend in his 50's almost stupidly nuked his second marriage, but fortunately, he worked with a therapist using EMDR …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/26 07:51 PM
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sometime in near future she will want kids so her worry is valid Part of living with integrity is also letting her go if I know I have checked out. I have not checked out yet but I am almost getting there Sometimes it's good to remember we're dealing with actual human beings, rather than simply casting people as pet sluts. I applaud your sense of integrity and encourage you to figure out what you want and to have the guts to break it off if being with her is no longer working for you. Integrity …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 10:22 PM
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Lots of "she's" in this OYS. I’m going to lay off of immersing myself in all the MRP stuff This isn't a bad plan. Some guys try to rambo their game before they're truly ready, with predictable results. IMO, many guys in your position would benefit greatly by focusing on becoming a captain by reading up on it and working towards it. Frame, OI, leadership, lack of validation seeking, and avoiding covert contracts are side benefits of moving in that direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 10:13 PM
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Current goal: Let go of my anger Yiu can't "let go" of anger. You need to lean into it, own what you wanted but aren't getting, rage, cry, get it out of your system. I denied her the sex she wanted, so we both lost that night. I will never understand why some guys simply don't STFU and enjoy what's being offered. (except starfish).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 10:04 PM
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Doing the no-contact rule gave me some motivation to improve my life, like: “Hey ex, see what you have lost.” Well, you may want to read up on covert contracts, because it sounds exactly like you created one by going no contact.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 09:45 PM
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If she were gone tomorrow, would I be better off? Am I attached to her or the life we have built? This is about more than sex, it's about who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with Fair enough. 20+ years together with 3 kids - no need to rush.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 11:17 PM
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I continued operating under the mental model that my wife is dead Interesting way to go through life I don’t think it’s a problem I can solve in a week TBH, you've been struggling here for a while. Some progress here and there, but seems like there still are issues you haven't solved in months, let alone weeks. Perhaps some individual therapy with someone who does EMDR would help you get past the logjam.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 08:26 PM
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I’d rather blow it up and move on, than take another 24 months staying the course Yes, by all means, blow up your marriage - because hey, you're only 49 and the world is full of nubile young women just waiting for you. In 2 more years they'll be drooling for you to cold approach them. The grass definitely is greener. Your poor wife - you keep threatening to leave, no wonder she only fucks you out of desperation. Some women need a sense of connection to get wet - your constant rambo'ing has dried…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 08:11 PM
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I read through these posts a few time today. I have before but I didn’t want to accept the amount of validation I needed. I’m becoming more aware of where I am Good - you've taken the tough but necessary step of dropping your ego and owning where you're at. Some ideas for moving forward: Notice when you're in her frame looking for validation. Start to make different choices that are authentic to you. I'm guessing that most of the time, you reflexively look for her reaction when deciding (or aski…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 03:42 PM
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That night she initiated, I proposed something else which was declined You missed an opportunity to simply STFU and enjoy what she wanted to do with you. Dude, straight up, your OYS sounds exhausting. Her "shit tests" might just be her reacting out of total frustration to your constant demands for validation. u/dbmsmanagear nailed it by specifically calling out your validation seeking behaviors and also provided a valuable link to an applicable reddit post. Focus on that info rather than trying …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 12:42 AM
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Noted. I'll rephrase: OP, replies like the ones appearing in this week's OYS, such as: "you fucking idiot"..."You are a fucking pussy!!"... "Fuck you!!" can be owned or ignored as you see fit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 06:23 AM
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u/dbmsmanagear, some of the stuff you write is pretty good info, but the tone can seem a bit harsh. Not sure if it's intentional, but it reminds me a bit of me when I was being a real dick to OP's at times. No harm lightening it up a bit. Also, WTF is "Yousho hai, yai yai?"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 11:28 PM
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I’ve downloaded a grief work program to work through nightly about my marriage ending. A week into the work and I’m already feeling some peace and acceptance. This is necessary hard work and heavy lifting. Keep it up. I’ve also signed on for a therapist - I’m on the waitlist The awareness shown in your 3 concrete steps in the mental/relationships/sex section above is encouraging. A good therapist can be a valuable guide, hope you can get off the waitlist soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 10:59 PM
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it may have had a negative impact on intimacy Wild guess here, but maybe since you're effectively on step 4 of your MAP by sleeping in different rooms, maybe this is a cause of the recent shit and comfort tests (signaling that you're on your way out). Curious who initiated the separate sleeping arrangements. As captain, decide if this is working for or against you and take action to lead in a different direction if needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 11:53 PM
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Anger is a secondary emotion. Underlying that anger is almost certainly some type of fear or insecurity that you can’t pinpoint because you’re not willing to be fully honest with yourself about those fears / insecurities. Until you do, the “evasive” underlying motive that’s so powerful that it takes over your daily life will lurk just below the surface and have a disproportionate influence on your life. Pure gold. OP, do the work - it will be worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 02:20 AM
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His step dad has according to my son pushed him down the stairs...so I've decided to totally STFU about this and OODA Please discuss this with your attorney right away. The school won't help. Your son is living with this creep and has nobody to protect him as of now. Your job is to protect him. There are innumerable stories where one parent abuses a child while the other parent looks the other way and enables it. Don't be that guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 02:47 AM
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I want to be held accountable, improve myself, and improve my marriage I think u/mrpwtf nailed it - confirmed, you're 100% stupid. You've written lots of words DEERing why you should divorce your wife, yet now you say you want to save your marriage. Everyone is shitting on you, and maybe deservedly so Understatement of the year so far OYS is about disclosing weaknesses and mistakes, and taking responsibility to fix those Would be helpful if you actually posted weaknesses and mistakes during inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 02:41 AM
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My best sexual experiences were a few months ago when I had just quit watching porn and was very immersed. I was even saying stuff that didn’t really make sense but it was good at the moment. There is no way to think my way into such a state but I am worried because this effect has diminished over time. 29 Y.O. is way too young to be hamstering like this I set a stupid challenge for myself to play piano for at least 4 hours everyday Time better spent working the sidebar Something needs to change…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/26 02:16 AM
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IT is "individual therapy," which is you one on one with a therapist (not couples counseling). Glad you're making progress, but the EA shit clearly is eating you up. Talking to a professional may give you some clarity on what steps to take next.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 05:54 AM
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But only if his wife gives him permission
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 09:26 PM
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Your post history shows you've been struggling with your wife's EA for the past 2 years. I was a soft ass bag of milk, beta bitch Unfortunately, you still are. There are sidebar resources that can help you improve yourself, but seriously, you should strongly consider getting some IT to talk face to face with someone. I'm guessing your job has counseling resources available that can help you deal with what's troubling you to help you move forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 05:21 PM
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LOL, u/cavemancomfort, did your wife make you delete your original OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 05:12 PM
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DEER'ing no es bueno.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/26 02:08 AM
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(if you’re counting “she’s” you can stop, I get it 22 she/her I thought that she doesn’t want to deal with me being a bitch after rejection and she knows she doesn’t have to if she’s the only one that initiates, so she’s trying to condition me to stop initiating so she can live the comfortable pattern that she controls. You have no idea how deeply you're embedded in her frame
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 10:19 PM
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I made the mistake late last week of asking “what’s going on?” after my praise was sourly received. Missed opportunity to simply STFU and move on while saying nothing. Maybe you'll finally nail STFU sometime this century.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/26 10:22 PM
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Stop all your over-thinking about initiating. Just pick your moment based on when you want to fuck, then push her gently but firmly onto the bed without talking and get after it. You're initiating like a nice guy/woman. Time to initiate like the man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/26 07:02 PM
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On further reflection, I'm calling a Rule 3 violation on myself and I've deleted my original and follow up comments to OP. OP is facing significant challenges ahead in his personal life and I wish him all the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 06:51 AM
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Suggest finding someone who does EMDR.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 01:15 AM
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Sounds like the work you're doing is paying off. Won't ask again unless you mention it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 01:14 AM
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You're tougher than you realize.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:20 AM
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u/SuggestionVisible930, I'm extremely sorry for the shit you're going through. You're right - I can't even imagine what it's been like for you. Without more details, all we see is your wife's life, your marriage, and your kids' lives burning down, and you posting your plans to jump into another relationship: Post divorce anti-retard plan for not going from one crazy LTR to another. Seriously, and with all due respect, please get some individual therapy if you haven't already done so. You're goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:18 AM
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No matter how hard you try, I'm not going to let you rub my butthole
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:30 PM
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DEER much?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:24 PM
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Adding this: u/ThrowRA_Bear24, you've received some really good advice from the folks here. While you think about what you want moving forward, you may benefit from some suggestions on exactly how to move forward: Focus on becoming an unplugged man. This means really absorbing and consistently applying the sidebar materials. Work on becoming the best "you," regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship. Know that there is no "one" partner for you. See Rollo's post: https://therationalmal…
/r/askMRP06/01/26 11:11 PM
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1 daughter, 15 months....I am almost completely starved of entertainment, because we have stopped watching TV around the house to limit daughter's exposure to screens I'm going to take a wild guess here that you're in your wife's frame 100% of the time right now. But by all means take your time losing weight, reading WISNIFG, and working on yourself to stop DEER'ing and learnng to STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 10:59 PM
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I was having panic attacks just 2 months ago at the thought of her having an EA Since you brought this up, what's currently happening with this situation? Is she still hanging out with Kevin 1:1 whenver she wants, and hanging off of him at your group dinners?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 10:48 PM
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From your OYS #1: I am married to a woman who has severe bipolar disorder (clinically diagnosed) who has spent 50-60 percent of her waking hours in severe depression or anxiety. I’m talking multiple trips to the hospital and pyschosis. New meds every 6 months. Manic episode that nearly had cops and dhs involved. To be fair she has sought treatment and isn’t in denial about it. Un-fucking believable. Three young kids and you're suddenly on the brink of divorcing her, with no mention of anything y…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 10:41 PM
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You don't seem to really know what you want. This can be seen in your apparent indecision regarding your LTR and not being honest with her that you're unsure you want to marry her. In this situation, you've locked yourself to her by moving her in with you more than 6 months before planning to marry her. my mindset for the LTR was 'nothing lasts forever so I'll just enjoy my turn while it's here', and here I am 3.5 years later. Exactly. You're still thinking of her as a plate, just at a higher le…
/r/askMRP05/01/26 04:20 AM
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Post your relationship info - LTR, married, time together, etc. in your next OYS (if your SO allows you to do so). by the time I slid in there I was pretty backed up and having a tough time moving a millimeter WTF does that mean? Were you attempting anal, or were you getting pegged? she referenced the book "she comes first" (which had turned me into a "bedroom technician" for basically the whole time we've been together) She flirted the next day - something to the effect of "if you can keep perf…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/25 02:26 AM
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I'm open to the idea that i've been retarded, but how exactly can I lead better here? My wife simply can't stomach the idea of being separate yet. Not sure if this will help, but have you tried partnering with her to help get your daughter to sleep, or does your wife do all the work herself? When one of my infant sons cried continuously sometimes at bed time, I gladly took a turn holding him and comforting him until he dozed off. You're right, opinions differ on how to handle this period in your…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/25 01:39 AM
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My STFU skills are improving each week. I’ve reached a point now where I don’t need to try STFU and I STFU by default...I’ve slowly started adding some AA, AM, fogging, and negative inquiry into my STFU routine. Good to see this. You've put in the work, now enjoy the results.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/25 01:18 AM
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All therapists/life coaches are blue pill until proven otherwise. Their goal is to guide you toward implementing a friendly nice-guy solution that makes them feel like they're helping you. What would this coach's recommended solution sound like? "Honey, if you hide my Fleshlight again, you'll hurt my feelz and then I'll have to do something like go shopping without you for an hour to show how butthurt I am." Retarded.... There are some situations where pre-setting boundaries is a viable solution…
/r/askMRP27/12/25 10:49 PM
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I did not put up the flair, I saw it there naturally. Not sure if the mods put it. Well, if that's the case, consider it a badge of honor! It looks good on you. (Fuckin' guys, lol...)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 10:25 PM
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...ashamed to admit I am a sexual person with needs. That shame is one of the reasons my previous relationship, which was objectively healthier overall, tanked. I was afraid to express myself and be who I was. I was going to recommend this book to help you with your work on your shame issues: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown But then I thought about it and thought about it, then I second-guessed myself, then I began to worry that you'd be too embarrassed and ashamed to read it, so - never mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 03:24 AM
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I’ve realized that I tend to "reward" punish my wife’s feminine behavior by becoming a chatty validation-seeker Fixed it for you. As Horns said in your OYS #3: "It's almost as if you guys who talk don't understand everytime you open that little gayhole it sounds...... unattractive and gay. It's certainly an ego blow." Listening to TWOTSM audiobook Yessiree, OYS #4 and already onto the advanced material. Fuck working on the basics. ...the goal is 4x+...Is it too autistic to find a way to remind m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 02:12 AM
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I did not initiate. I've been losing the urge to even initiate. Could be you're just being a Good Boy who doesn't want to piss her off by expressing a desire to fuck her - OR - you're afraid to initiate due to fear of rejection. Either way, it's not going to work out for you the way you're hoping. And just a suggestion, maybe lose the "Masturbation Addicts Anonymous member" flair. We don't give a fuck. It may be great when you're doing MAA stuff with other addicts, but here it just looks retarde…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 01:32 AM
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Dealing with those waves will eventually make me a better captain No, you are the furthest thing from ever becoming a captain. To me, you're a despicable coward because you haven't had the guts to be honest with this woman. Your actions lead her to believe you plan to marry her - yet you have no plans to do so. my usual primal hunger for her turned into indifference Yeah, no shit. Pathetic use of covert dread-type behavior to manipulate her anxious response. Look, I don't give a shit if you want…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 04:55 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate you pointing all this out to me. You're stepping in the right direction by not responding with "I'm going to kill my need for external validation." There is no way to "kill" it. Like most (or all) guys here, you've likely spent a good chunk of your life involuntarily seeking external validation. Seeking external validation = seeking external reassurance: reassurance that you're "good enough," attractive, worthy of love, sex, etc. The way to work through it is doing the thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 04:34 AM
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Using time, money, and energy on hurting the mother of my beautiful children, and potentially bringing disease home for her... not appealing. Good on ya for doing you. It doesn't matter whether anyone else here cheats or why they do it. We only get small snapshots of tiny pieces of guys' lives here, so we'll never really know all the factors of what and why some guys do what they do. Only you know the full dynamic of what's going on in your life. picked up Athol Kay's MMSLP...when my body/life/w…
/r/askMRP18/12/25 10:52 PM
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Worthy of who? Of her? Of your estimation of what a 'decent captain/first mate dynamic' is? Here's a starting point for learning about the captain/.first mate dynamic: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6i4vvn/captain_rambo/ You can find more info by entering "Captain first mate" in the "Search in r/MRP" box above. Based on all your OYS's, I'd suggest focusing on this above all other reading for now. You don't do the work to become a leader/captain for her - you do it because it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 09:41 PM
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My bad, I was thinking of TWOTSM. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 12:08 AM
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I decided last week to stop caring about autistic retards here, yet here I am.... Mission: To rebuild my old life. Being a leader for my family. Your mission statement makes me sad. First, with two kids under 2 years old, trust me, that "old life" shit is gone forever. Being a leader for your family? Read on... She's 2 months post partum Two months post partum and you're reading MMSLP?!? What in the absolute fuck. Stop reading that immediately, that's on the advanced reading list for a reason. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 05:14 AM
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she said I was a lousy husband So, were you standing around with your thumb up your ass just watching her pick up all the toys? Or did you act like a captain and pitch in? If the latter, she's right. Choreplay under a covert contract is beta, but stepping up as a leader and recognizing when to assist your first mate is pretty basic stuff. So is getting your wife out of the galley and taking her out on an occasional dinner date. Absolutely start working the sidebar as has been suggested. And mayb…
/r/askMRP13/12/25 02:40 AM
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Ok, seems like you've got this. Here's an MRP post you might find interesting: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/54epus/fr_right_alpha_right_time_wrong_husband/ There are other posts here where: a. Wife actively being gamed in front of her husband and eating it up. Husband takes off wedding ring and offers it to the guy, saying "take her if you want her." Wife immediately disconnects from the flirting. b. Husband has a cool lifted pickup truck. Random guy begins admiring the truck…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 05:32 PM
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Lol, it wouldn't surprise me if I was completely wrong here. I'm not necessarily advocating that OP turn the other woman into a plate. Setting up some coffee meetings with this other woman would give OP an opportunity to step out of his oneitis, build some confidence, work on increasing his "meta-attraction," and run a little dread on his wife. So the Kevin saga continues.... I’m not going to waste any more time being emotional about it. I know that bringing up the topic in any way will be unatt…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 12:56 AM
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fear of rejection Every fucking time, for every newbie unplugging. This is a lot bigger than they think. Otherwise, why not just get going on the sidebar and start doing the work?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 11:17 PM
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Some really good comments here already. Dude - Kevin is living rent free in your (and her) head. Every fucking time she's near Kevin, you're probably thinking about how your wife is attracted to him. So do something for you - ask your wife for the contact info of the woman who finds you attractive, then ask that woman to go have coffee with you. Don't DEER what or why you want it, just ask for the number, give her a call, then see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 11:11 PM
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u/Sensitive_Yam_2957 , thanks for posting that link. I'm not aware of any other specific posts, but there was some lively discussion in a recent OYS noting that Athol Kay's recommendation to intervene when your woman clearly showed heightened interest in another man was roundly dismissed as pathetic mate guarding. In another OYS comment, it was pointed out that Athol's wife demolished his life coaching practice when he allowed her to take control of it (apparently, she had a misandrist streak). …
/r/askMRP09/12/25 01:50 AM
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Good on you for making the appointment. New guys here who say they intend to "kill validation" don't really know what that actually entails. 100% of the time it includes some version of "I have oneitis and I'm terrified my wife will leave me if I change my behavior even a tiny bit." But that's part of what needs to be owned early on to move forward.
/r/askMRP07/12/25 12:24 AM
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After reading this victim puke and your 12/2/2025 OYS, I strangely find myself wanting to give you a pat on the back just for having the guts to get up every morning. During the time you've been with your wife, you seem to have built a completely fucked-up perfect storm of a BP life for yourself. The only thing missing is whether or not she's ever cheated on you. Here's the thing: none of the experienced and knowledgable guys here (I'm not one of them) will invest their time or effort in giving …
/r/askMRP06/12/25 01:08 AM
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Good to see your progress in STFU. Generally, I liked my fiancé a little more as the week went on....From Sunday afternoon on I was back to not really liking her as much. This is an elephant in the room for me. Is getting married really wise if you regularly shift back and forth from liking to disliking her? I went down on her without being swatted away or her rolling over for the first time in two years. Scorekeeping much? It’s something I enjoy doing. I licked her till she came I used to tell …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 01:04 AM
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Everyone sees through you. This. He's been LARPing his therapy from the start. You have great future as a dancing monkey, because you are failing at respecting yourself, and doing the basics. This also. I was literally avoiding responding to the comments and avoiding journaling because I knew I'd have to accept that I am not my best-self. I've known this, but others pointing it out made me just do my best to escape the reality. So you're wasting your therapist's time, and our time, too. Stop bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/25 02:18 AM
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Stuck in anger phase and nice guy behaviors.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 05:08 PM
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So, the EA issue with Kevin has been fully resolved and you're now laying pipe with her like an old pro. Looks like your work here is done.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/25 10:48 PM
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Jesus christ... the amount of holier than thou comments on this sub reddit is annoying. Especially knowing its coming from a bunch of dorks who take red pill shit way to serious. Yet you still choose to hang out here and comment.
/r/askMRP21/11/25 10:41 PM
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Anger can be a shield to protect against grief, fear, shame, or disappointment. Figure out what pain your anger is trying to protect you against. Edited to add: Examples of an autistic and a better response. Scenario is wife just flatly rejected your initiation. Autistic (lets anger take over): "WTF! That's the third time this week! If she's gonna make me unhappy, I'm damn sure gonna make her unhappy, too! (Starts verbally berating wife. Lashes out and starts fights at random. Fails all shit tes…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/25 08:01 PM
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Several guys have told you in this and your prior OYS's that you need to learn to STFU. It hasn't stuck. Maybe this will help: next time you feel like arguing or victim puking with your wife, imagine this stainless steel dildo inches from your butthole - and it's red-hot. The moment you open your mouth, it's going in fast, and it's going in deep. Choose to STFU. Remember, arguing with your wife is like trying to teach a pig to sing (google the rest of it). It will never turn out the way you imag…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 11:11 PM
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Suggest you give your bosses your production goals as of CYE, but set a personal deadline of 10/31 to give yourself a bit of a challenge and set a clearer finish line so you can enjoy the holiday season a bit more. You also could consider setting a goal of where you want to be in your career in 5 years, then spend Nov-Dec working toward prepping yourself to get there. Your bosses appreciate the hell out of you, and rightly so - but your achievements can be a double edged sword for them. Last yea…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 03:35 PM
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The overall tone of the 11/18 OYS responses seems a lot less angry drill sergeant, and a lot more pointed, constructive feedback. Nicely done, fellas.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 03:23 PM
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OMG, you are so cute when you're angry
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:52 PM
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All metaphorical mountaintop discussion aside, u/continuous_growth posted a reply to OP that's been upvoted 17 times. A post disagreeing with u/continuous_growth only was upvoted twice. Given that OP only has 10 upvotes, seems like additional constructive discussion for a post upvoted 17 times would have been warranted. This comment in particular from u/continuous_growth mirrors what others have written elsewhere in MRP: This subreddit is built on shame. Calling men retards for not getting it, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:04 AM
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You forgot to call me a betch
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 03:02 AM
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it took years of owning and sorting my shit to get there The south climbing route up Mt. Adams in Washington State has a false summit that gives the illusion the actual summit is within reach. Guys who are doing the work to get to where Horns is would do well to recalibrate when they start to feel they're getting close to reaching their persoal "summit" goal. They may learn they're actually still engaging in dancing monkey/external validation seeking behaviors that self-sabotage their journeys. …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/25 11:00 PM
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Sounds like you gave in to the Beta Shit Goblin and took your foot off the gas after achieving pussy whisperer level: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5pzjyt/the_beta_shit_goblin/ Re-read the sidebar info on drunk captains. Stop being her bitch immediately: Wife: "Honey. bring me a glass of water," You: "I'm busy, get it yourself." Lastly, memorize and live by this phrase: "Be attractive. Don't be unattractive."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 12:24 AM
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I'm not contardicting what others have already posted, but as Horns has said, it's important to be authentic. The way I'd handle this is based on my frame and life experiences. You guys know nothing about me because I've never posted any info So here goes. I'm in my 60's. I've beaten prostate c*ncer (I refuse to say the "c" word). I've never had a dead bedroom, never been disrespected by my wife in public, I've raised some kids, and I've lived within my frame until my testosterone was reduced to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 03:08 AM
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Adding to what Environmental-Top346 and Mustang-64 already have said: Last week I mentioned I was sleeping alone in the master bedroom now. I'll admit I like this more than I thought. I get full nights sleep and not helping with the baby in the middle of the night. Congratulations, you've demoted your wife to nanny. Guess how this will play out over time? Man the fuck up and partner with your wife during this challenging time instead of taking the easy way out. Or, let her and the baby move to C…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 01:36 AM
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From your OYS #4 two weeks ago: I’m realizing I was just a validation junkie with no mission You still are. Visiting my parents for 2d, my ultimate frame battleground. Did the first part the last few years of establishing cold hard boundaries at their narcissist & codependent behavior, to the point they're both scared at me and walking on eggshells by now. Realized that actively seeking my mom's disapproval as a form of revenge is just as bad as seeking her approval. It proves I still don't own …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:41 PM
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Mission: Pour myself into creativity and sport That's one of the most rudderless mission statements I've ever read. Will rewrite the goals later today and align them with my mission Invest some time researching the sidebar for info on building a better mission statement before doubling down on nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 11:17 PM
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Dammit Horns, you make this shit look so easy. Noted and appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 12:08 AM
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Try thinking for yourself here Interesting assumption from an internet stranger. It occurs to me that we may be talking about two different things. I'm not advocating trying to control her behavior or Kevin's - I'm talking about setting some strong boundaries with both of them. Example from Practical Female Psychology, Chapter 4, Practical Advice: "A woman...will always despise a man who is unsure of himself and his standards...Therefore, as a Modern Man you need to set strong borders with a wom…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 04:06 PM
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MMSLP disagrees with you in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 04:04 PM
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I could simply write a post about any given Sunday in my life and there would probably be at least half of the comments from beta chumps saying it is made up. I'd have no reason to doubt. There are occasional reddit posts by guys that considered themselves to be excellent athletes until they faced future pro athletes (the 1% or so who make it to the pros). I'm sure some guys here are the 1%-ers when it comes to fucking. I wonder at times if some of the 1% guys here have lost touch with how diffi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 12:51 AM
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Anyway, this "talk" didn't go at all the way I thought it would. I was thinking, we pull one of those unresolved things from underneath the rug, and resolve it, leave it at that and pick another one another day. The conversation diverted really quickly back to the argument of the other day, with the same mental states as then. And this surprised you? Have you actually read the reading materials you listed above? You're applying male logic to how you expect female emotion to respond. She's dealin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 12:31 AM
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I'm just trying to work through the disappointment and having a hard time accepting that I'm just not important enough to my parents and sister to be taken seriously Two things: It's essential that you allow yourself to grieve fully over not getting the relationship you wanted and deserved from your parents and sister. Your therapist should be able to help with this. You'll go through a period of anger and sadness, but will come out okay. I need to work through these negative emotions and be in …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 12:16 AM
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I thought about myself first and was relieved when I made the choice to stay regardless of whatever her complaints would be. I did it for me Getting closer to the light at the end of the tunnel. I am more focused on my wants and needs This.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 11:53 PM
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It's not really saying much, but your dealings with your wife show a bit of progress compared to your prior OYS's, as FutileFighter pointed out. I apologized for...looking at her phone Nice Guy BS. Every beta guy who caught his SO cheating by checking the SO's phone says the same thing. Own that shit and keep the focus on her behavior. Kevin really needs a friend so she asked me if I will step in and be Kevin’s emotional support friend. Ho-ly shit. She actually tried to enlist your help in keepi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 11:43 PM
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I briefly looked through your recent OYS's. The amount of mental hamstering you do is exhausting. Had an ONS to "prove myself" after the breakup two weeks ago You're still stuck imprisoning yourself seeking validation from women Got two compliments for my new look More dancing monkey BS I'm a neurotic, anxious, deeply insecure mess...Eventually, it needs to come from within No shit. Just fucking STOP - be still for a change. Stop all the frantic, anxious approval-seeking behavior, create a MAP, …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 11:14 PM
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It’s been observed plenty of times that girls having affairs just get hornier. Kind of female version of the Coolidge Effect. Yes, this is how I interpreted her behavior, she's emotionally peaking because of the beta shit I did the week before and the validation and attention she's getting from Kevin. Even I am not deluded enough to buy into the idea that this sudden change in behavior is due to a renewal of attraction. You "lol'd" when I pointed out this possibility in your prior week's OYS. On…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/25 10:14 PM
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Killing the last part of me that is fighting for my wifes approval and validation You'll never "kill" that. You CAN replace acting on that need by developing better responses based on your own frame. I keep looking for a pat on the back for doing all the things that a normal person does Time to disarm that covert contract strategy. A good place to start is by catching yourself when you think about doing choreplay to please her. Then, decide whether it's something YOU want done - if not, don't do…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/25 10:04 PM
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You were given great advice on your OYS from last week but it sounds like you're not mentally in the right place to implement it. I'm not contradicting that advice, but IMO, there's no benefit to you LARPing something you're unable to pull off. You'd be better off just initiating a direct conversation with your wife and setting boundaries about her relationship with Kevin to gauge her reaction. Maybe you'll even get the ILYBINILWY speech, but at least you'll have a better picture of what's going…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/25 09:42 PM
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Agreed. Appreciate the clarification.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/25 12:08 AM
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Deleted original comment because I sounded like a whiny, DEERing, butthurt bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 11:25 PM
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My post was specific to OP's original post. Athol Kay has perspective applicable OP's story in MMSLP: Chapter 26 - Common Mistakes - Facilitating Her Affair: "One thing that constantly surprises me is how frequently a husband plays an active role in creating an environment where his wife is tempted to cheat on him. If you constantly leave your wife alone with a man she finds attractive, there are logical consequences that could kick in" (goes on to list four examples). Same chapter and section: …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 11:30 PM
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My daughter interrupted me a couple of times, not letting me even get a sentence out, and once she stopped to listen, my wife was cutting me off This behavior used to trigger me. It rarely happens any more because when it does, I immediately STFU and withdraw attention in a non-butthurt way. Sounds like you need to withdraw attention from wife/mini-wife for an afternoon or two next time they behave this way. She’s been outwardly expressing disgust with BP/Nice Guy™ behaviors...Maybe I want her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 01:01 AM
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Lots of really good responses already posted here. I'll add something from a slightly different perspective: I apologized for letting her down, for not acknowledging her needs and trying to fulfill them and being selfish and only focusing on my needs for the past ten years. I told her I loved her She started sobbing and I held her closely. What followed was the most emotionally charged sex I can ever recall. Sad that you see this as some sort of win for you (but not surprising). It sounds like t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 12:38 AM
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Business: I notice I keep saying I need to prioritize and organize my tasks...I was not grounded at all last week WTF - you have no frame in business or in your relationship. The two are not mutually exclusive. Stop making excuses and being a retard at work. It carries over to you being a retard at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 10:25 PM
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Benefit of a doubt that you're real (for now). I have a bad view of myself and am trying to gain more confidence. This is your #1 job right now - rebuilding your self-esteem. You did the crime, you paid the price - quit wearing it on your sleeve and put it behind you. Give yourself permission to move on and stop being afraid of what others think of you. Lift, sidebar, get after it. At my work people dislike me because I have so often been stupid and made mistakes Stop fucking up at work as a way…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 10:16 PM
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Dive into this wisdom from Horns: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dsrito/depressive_and_anxious_wives_the_power_of_your/
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 09:52 PM
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I was too busy being a high-earning slob You're her 29-year old beta bucks. Two completely different worlds, and no real communication or intimacy. She's likely monkey branching but has nothing solid to go to (for now). Forget the relationship and get to work on fixing yourself. Or not.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 01:01 AM
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I have trouble taking any question seriously from someone with a user name like yours. Have you asked your pals over on the foot fetish sub what they recommend?
/r/askMRP15/10/25 12:50 AM
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I was a frequent reader in MRP Bullshit. Your post title shows you know nothing about MRP. I am the managing partner of a law firm and make lower mid six figures. I sit on four large organizational board of directors and run a lot of events, including a miss Vietnam pageant where I’m in charge of training and helping the royal court girls learn how to network, interact with important people, politicians, and philanthropists. I frequently do the news and media appearances with them, and am well k…
/r/askMRP10/10/25 10:56 PM
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Progress definitely is more lumpy than linear - no straight line to de-programming a lifetime of blue pill shit. And the Beta Shit Goblin loves to fuck with us during the journey: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/30erpe/women_have_hamsters_ive_decided_that_rps_in/ I don't care whether you feel pressure from us or from within. Just keep doing you and pushing forward steadily. You may also want to look up captain/first mate topics here to clarify your understanding of that dynamic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/25 03:29 AM
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The handful of Drunk Captain instances were a mixed bag the last week...the other few were deferring to her. If she gave you input and you decided it was valid and chose to go with it (within your frame), that's some Captain/First Mate shit right there. The other times I SFTU were pausing and thinking before doing. Both created instances with the fiancé apologized for her behavior afterwards (ranged 2 mins to 2 hours). This was a nice change in my life. It's a nice dynamic when you avoid her ham…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 04:56 AM
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I noticed it and performed CPR (without proper knowledge), keeping her alive until the ambulance arrived. She was in a coma but survived without any brain damage. You performed CPR. It worked. I still don’t feel I did anything special (self-worth issue?) because I believe anyone should have done the same. Untrue. Lots of bystanders freeze up and do nothing. You performed CPR. It worked. That experience traumatized me. I don’t feel much most of the time now and often feel emotionally numb. It can…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 04:35 AM
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The 6-month abstinence exercise IS shit advice for someone who's not hopeless like u/oruto1058 is. One guy on another board tried it and said all it did was confirm that his wife could go without sex (with him) for 6 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 04:06 AM
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This, in response to his last week's OYS I gave you a boost after your last week's OYS, but I can see it was a waste of time. You're a huge fucking disappointment. You're not even LARP'ing this shit. You have no solid action plan and haven't really done any work to change. Consider trying the no-sex-for-six-months exercise from NMMNG to get out of your wife's frame. Also, ponder Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear Family to see if you can get off your fat ass and actually decide to do s…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 03:54 AM
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She's done the couch sleeping, cold shoulder thing in the past and I've always caved, apologized, and asked her to come back to the bed. And now she's peacocking again after signaling divorce. Smells like you're married to a narcissist. Their goal is not to love, but to control. Do some research on this.
/r/askMRP03/10/25 01:59 AM
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I need to accept her with all the imperfections of the woman she is rather than the one I imagined. This. Too many guys see their own flaws while imagining their wives are whole, perfect persons - they aren't. You don't get a do-over, just fix it moving forward.
/r/askMRP03/10/25 01:50 AM
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I think my life is the opposite of the men here. As I read through, you all seem to have easy lives but bad women. Yet you came here looking for advice. Fucking troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 09:56 PM
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No straight line from drunk captain to Captain. Your apparent self awareness helps you realize when you've fucked up - keep after it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 12:12 AM
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To make any progress here, you have an absolutely huge fucking mountain of work to do, starting with the sidebar. Are you willing to do the work? And, I don't give a shit whether you like therapy - you absolutely need to work with someone who does EMDR. Lastly, don't bullshit us or yourself - you're pushing her away before she can reject you, and you will be 100% successful.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 12:04 AM
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I gave you a boost after your last week's OYS, but I can see it was a waste of time. You're a huge fucking disappointment. You're not even LARP'ing this shit. You have no solid action plan and haven't really done any work to change. Consider trying the no-sex-for-six-months exercise from NMMNG to get out of your wife's frame. Also, ponder Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear Family to see if you can get off your fat ass and actually decide to do something about your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 11:38 PM
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I don't speak German or Ukrainian, but allow me to translate: "I’ve lost trust in you as a man to a large extent because you were talking all the time and then did nothing of what you said." Translation: "You're a weak, pathetic, insecure person who never follows through on what he says he's going to do. "So what do you want from me? Nothing ever seems right for you, all the time something is wrong, but when I ask you how you want it, you don’t even know yourself." Translation: "You bring me no …
/r/askMRP27/09/25 12:24 AM
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I asked "want to open it later when we have time or are you ok for now?". No ask. "Let's open this later when we can both enjoy the moment together." Captain, not piss boy. I want her to desire me strongly when I don't even think of myself as worthy Dude, it's in our DNA to want to be desired by women. The trick is to not allow that to define you. You decide whether you're worthy, not her. My Mission: Be the best version of myself in all areas of my life. Way to broad. Focus on building a better…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/25 11:25 PM
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I tried to apply LERP RP in my marriage and deep down still expected things to improve in return. Fixed it for you. I’m missing her feminine energy, submission. Guess it’s easy to answer, because I’m not contributing my masculine part. No shit. Stop victim puking and go back to basics - frame, NMMNG - nothing more than that because that's about all you can handle right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/25 11:16 PM
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Mission: Strive to be the most capable and competent version of myself through discipline. To pursue my new business ventures with drive, focus, and consistency. To build and lead my family in a conventional manner by being a man with frame, who fucks, and is self-accountable. Finally. Memorize so you can lean on it when needed. brought up our “love languages” to which I playfully bantered about because they’re fake and gay. Good redirect. Don't get me started on that "love language" happy horse…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 11:57 PM
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Well, of course he's gay - but it seems like he's here trying to do the work to improve. MISSION: To act with intention. To denounce external validation. To be congruent in thought and deed. Nice and succinct. Easy to recite as needed. I tend to do good with the expectation of getting good in return. Simply put: I do dishes as an offering for pussy. In my drunk captain days, I caught myself doing this and even lied to myself that I wasn't. Keep working on it. It's worth the work to get to where …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 11:41 PM
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I was never big on shark week sex. Good opportunity to practice OI if she feels like shit during that time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/25 11:34 PM
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You're kidding, right? You were 35yo when you started dating an 18yo and thought it would last? She's still way too young to commit to someone twice her age. Get on the MRP sidebar and do the work.
/r/askMRP22/09/25 12:22 AM
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Continue to meet up with friends independent of LTR. Unclear - are you referring to your wife, or do you have an LTR on the side? Our relationship was mostly pleasant this week Hmmmm...like roommates? This week, I struggled with some irrational thoughts about my LTR’s past...these useless thoughts continue to pop up in the middle of the night and it’s hard to shake them. Might be tied to a simple desire for validation, given the relationship changes over time. If so, own it. Try some light physi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 04:01 AM
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Ah, memories of the anger phase... Writing out notes on my anger and this week’s OYS have moved me to accepting that I was angry and that there is a path forward. The past is done and gone and to be learned from, not carried forward as a penance. This. The anger tends to dissipate when you own it - and when you realize there's no way to "get even" with the past. The only thing you can do is to put in the work to set up a better future. Stop hamstering about your mission statement. Read through s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 03:40 AM
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My Mission: Be the best version of myself in all areas of my life and bring out the best version in the people around me. Fixed it for you. It's not your job to bring out the best in others. Stop reading TWOTSM, that's on the advanced reading list. Focus on NMMNG, WISNIFG, frame, STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/25 03:25 AM
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From your mission statement: Build meaningful and satisfying relationships Your OYS shows you have no idea how to do this. decide if my LTR is fitting to be the mother of my future children You've never actually promoted her from being a plate, so quit lying to yourself and us. I'm done wasting my time reading your fucking bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/25 10:18 PM
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"I want to fuck you hard." Fixed it for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/25 10:01 PM
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Still way too much she/her Too much reading material. Focus on what you really need right now - NMMNG, WISNIFG. Definitely not TWOTSM, that's advanced reading you're nowhere near ready for Be the oak next time she hamsters You know what you need to work on - do it. Expecting better from you next OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/25 09:59 PM
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Adding that your entire post is a victim puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/25 03:30 AM
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my faggot ego prevented me from seeing the massive amounts of validation seeking behaviors I’ve had across my whole life. Progress. Still lots to do yet, but killing your ego and owning your shit is moving in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/25 03:11 AM
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MISSION: I will be the best writer this world has known and I commit at least two hours a day towards this. Two things wrong with your mission stsatement: It's too broad - you're statement is at the 50,000 foot level. It's equivalent to saying, " I want to land on the moon and will commit 2 hours a day towards this." How will you get there? This is MRP, not "writers red pill." What are you planning to do to fix yourself and be a better man?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/25 02:55 AM
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It's very important to include in your OYS the number of times your wife gave you permission to read the sidebar
/r/askMRP09/09/25 01:39 AM
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I'm only saying this once here on MRP - the need for validation never goes away, you just need to replace it with frame, OI, etc. until that response becomes automatic. If you haven't fully implemented the stuff in NMMNG (except the 6 months of celibacy), that's where the work is needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/25 06:31 PM
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Now I must go back to square one and get back to basics, STFU, lift, sidebar, and mainly try to become an actual authentic person unafraid to voice and pursue his needs and desires. You're a betch with no real plan for how to improve yourself and your life. Total victim puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/25 06:29 PM
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I realized my reaction was my ego defending itself Killing your ego is an important part of unplugging. finally understanding that I just didn’t/don’t get it What are 2-3 actions you can take right now to improve? If you don't have a MAP yet, that could be a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 11:06 PM
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Let me offer you a golf analogy: you're like someone who needs to focus only on putting, but you're spending your time mostly on driver, fairway woods, irons, and wedges. Frame before game. Make some solid progress on NMMNG and WISNIFG before moving on to other reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 10:52 PM
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So I had to admit to myself and to my manager that I was unable to perform at some reasonable level anymore and that I want an extended time off and he promised to get back to me with some solution. In the beginning I blamed my teammates, and especially my manager and superiors for this burnout, convincing myself that they set up unreasonable deadlines and workloads and then pushed me to fulfil them, but as I unravelled I had to confront the truth that I am ultimately responsible for this by not…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 10:40 PM
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Which part was a comfort test? You're killing me, Smalls. Wait - we'll get to that. But first, news flash: the world doesn't revolve around you. Your poor fiancee' was just trying to enjoy her arts and crafts project quietly before bed time. You didn't read the room. When she clearly wasn't thrilled at your initiation attempt, a simple "no worries, I'm going to get some shuteye" said with a smile and paired with a nice kiss on the forehead was all that was needed. Instead, your extended DEER res…
/r/askMRP29/08/25 02:43 AM
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This. Adding that you completely failed her comfort test.
/r/askMRP28/08/25 11:50 PM
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NMMNG x 1, TWOTSM x 3, MMSLP x 3, WISNIFG x 1, Pook x 1, 48 Laws x 1, SGM x 2, MRP - 100s of posts, Bang - 50%, Art of Seduction - 60% As Horns has pointed out previously, OYS 1 is way too early for someone to be reading TWOTSM. The danger is it can make you more even more beta. It's advanced reading for a reason. As a drunk captain, I eagerly read all the sidebar game/seduction stuff, thinking that if I could apply that knowledge reasonably well, unicorns would fall from the sky and shit rainbo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/25 11:13 PM
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I fucked up one night by acting butthurt when I got rejected. In hindsight I initiated when it clearly wasn’t going to go well, so that’s doubly on me. Good that you learned from this. Acting butthurt can give guys the illusion of power ("If she sees how hurt and angry I am, she'll give me what I want"). That's thinking like a man. Women only know that betas act butthurt, alphas just grab them and fuck them. I'm trying to recognize where I may be failing, which is probably not doing enough to fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/25 11:47 PM
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You've worked on your mission statement but it's still too broad. You'd benefit from creating a much more concise statement, then listing some of the things in your current statement as steps to achieve your mission. You 're someone who spreads himself too thin, which speaks to your lack of energy. Simplify and focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/25 08:09 PM
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I found it difficult to understand Glover’s phrase: “people might like them and love them just for who they are.” Your convoluted logic on this gave me an ice cream headache. It's not about building a life that offers value to society. It's about nice guys realizing they don't need to live by covert contracts in order to get people to like them.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 11:45 PM
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He should just adopt some kids and hire a nanny. Problem solved. Edited to add: I wasn't going to spend any more time on this, but here I am. Your whole premise is a giant fucking covert contract: "If I do ABC and she does XYZ, she will be deemed an appropriate mother for my children." Wrapped up in this false assumption: "Once she attains a state of acceptability, I believe she will remain exactly the same for the rest of her life." Oh, I see - women never change. You will live happily ever aft…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 11:22 PM
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"Guys, I used to spin plates, but I've contracted oneitis and I've allowed myself to become a beta shitstain." The solutions you seek are in the sidebar. Do the fuckin' work.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/25 10:41 PM
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Try EMDR therapy. Much more effective than just talk therapy. Go to the Psychology Today website and find a certified person near you. You want confidence? Then do EMDR and don't phone it in. Leave your ego at the door. Truly confront all the shit that's bothering you and don't lie to yourself or your therapist.
/r/askMRP14/08/25 10:35 PM
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I want to be a man who fucks Good, some progress. Look - I don't give a fuck whether you decide to kill the puppy or not, but right now I'd say you're in danger of being a guy who fucks himself. Stop blaming your wife for you not being the man you should be. Take your head out of your ass - she was the only one who agreed to go on that hike with you. Why do you think she did that? I'd say she wants to be with you, but only if you stop being a drunk captain. When I was a drunk captain, I thought …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/25 04:10 AM
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I’m afraid the real reason is because I’m not done with the anger phase. Spent time thinking and planning divorce. Are you seriously considering divorce, or just hamstering? WTF do you actually want? Too many guys go nuts trying to rambo the sidebar (I know I did) and it doesn't really help. Stop drifting around and deal with your anger phase. For now, you're just a drunk captain trying to decide which way to steer the ship.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/25 01:42 AM
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