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Also read the "New Here?" stuff in the side bar.
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:45 AM
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DO IT.
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:44 AM
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Looks like there's only one in active use right now. :)
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:43 AM
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But the girls I really like, the ones I feel an incredibly deep connection with, the ones I start to love, put me into the friend zone. Well my guess is that once you fall in love, you come off as needy and clingy, possibly a try-hard. Girls hate needy and clingy. It turns them off BIG TIME. You don't come off as needy with the girls you aren't that interested in because there isn't much there for you to lose. But when it comes to a girl you actually care for, you become needy because you cant s…
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:42 AM
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Yeah, you definitely need to read those books asap. Read them before you read those other PUA books. Like someone else said, you need to work on your inner game and those books address that.
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:24 AM
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Add Models by Mark Manson to that reading list. Also No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. You sound pretty needy and overly invested judging by your post, a huge topic that is addressed in depth in the former books mentioned.
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:08 AM
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There is a fine line between listing useful materials, and endorsing commercial products. Okay, here is a possible solution: take the two links that are in the sidebar: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ero8h/new_to_seddit_a_concise_guide_for_recovering_afcs/ https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_seddit_check_here_first/ and sticky a post with a short introduction to Seddit with those links attached, including why those links are so important to read. This solves the…
/r/seduction07/05/16 04:01 AM
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Don't get dependent on that shit though. Also, read Models by Mark Manson. Just do it, you won't regret it and it will help your game immensely.
/r/seduction07/05/16 03:50 AM
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Unleash your verbal dragon on her bro. There is no other way. Say something, ANYTHING, related to the class and take it from there. Try not to worry about what she wants you to say or what you can impress her with. Just worry about what you are interested in talking about. If it doesn't work out, move on. There will always be other girls who are just as beautiful and charming, if not more, that you will meet later on.
/r/seduction06/05/16 05:04 PM
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Definitely. After reading "Models," gaming actually made sense to me. All the other PUA shit out there seemed really hokey and fake from the get-go and I wasn't really into it. Some of it works, I'm sure. However, Mark's approach is honest and resonates with the type of person I am and is probably really good for anyone, long time player or noobie.
/r/seduction06/05/16 04:51 PM
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Read Models by Mark Manson. That's the best advice I can give you. And the sidebar.
/r/seduction06/05/16 04:27 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oz4VgFMp324#t=12s
/r/seduction05/05/16 05:28 AM
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I feel like I'm becoming a sales rep for Mark Manson I've said this so many times, but have you read Models by Mark Manson? Absolutely changed my life. How to Win Friends and Influence People is also a good one. I'm currently in the middle of No More Mr. Nice Guy and it also seems like a winner. I approached a few girls at the bar completely sober the other night. It went very well even though it led nowhere. I was satisfied in just having the balls to go spark up a conversation with two beautif…
/r/seduction04/05/16 04:22 AM
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Yeah man, being vulnerable is really important. Every time I make myself aware that it's okay to be vulnerable, it just brightens up my day and makes all my interactions more pleasant. It's really quite amazing. Great post.
/r/seduction04/05/16 02:24 AM
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Mark Manson'll teach you some swagger boi.
/r/seduction01/05/16 06:37 AM
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28Hamster here. Read Models by Mark Manson and apply his techniques to how you feel it will fit your personality.
/r/seduction01/05/16 06:37 AM
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I would say most girls like their guys fit. 130 at 6'1 you're basically a stick. 162 at least you look like you're in shape. I would say this makes a huge difference.
/r/seduction28/04/16 02:51 AM
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I second Models and How to Win Friends. Can't believe someone downvoted you for those suggestions.
/r/seduction28/04/16 02:34 AM
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Nice job youngin. Nice job. That took some balls.
/r/seduction27/04/16 12:46 AM
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I really don't. But definitely pick up a copy of "Models" ASAP.
/r/seduction24/04/16 10:20 PM
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You might want to try approaching girls in real life. Using social media has been "meh" in my experience. Read "Models" by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction23/04/16 11:04 PM
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Okay, so you don't actually know her? This is purely social media?
/r/seduction23/04/16 07:28 PM
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You might want to try introducing a statement like "You're cute" by first acknowledging that it is random, so it doesn't therefore seem out of the blue. I.e., "I know this is kind of random, but you're cute." According to Mark Manson, telling someone bluntly they are cute (to a total stranger) is not a social norm and can sometimes be construed as shady (like in the case with your example). By communicating that what you are doing might be weird, and that you know it's weird, you actually come o…
/r/seduction23/04/16 05:11 PM
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I've been through the oneitis myself--curled up into the fetal position on the floor listening to Philip Glass while I cried like some huge pussy cause some girl didn't want my over-invested, needy ass lol. Never again. Good luck with that superior girl man... but if it doesn't work out, don't worry. You'll have other options at the ready. AND never forget the knowledge that you'll find another hot one if you keep putting yourself out there.
/r/seduction17/04/16 09:37 PM
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I see your point. Though I think it's still better to have options. Imagine if you didn't have any of those options? You'd be focusing on that one superior girl and developing those feelings of oneitis because you'd be overly invested in just her.
/r/seduction17/04/16 07:11 PM
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I believe talking to/being interested in more than one woman at a time severely reduces that oneitis feeling. When you have an abundance of women around you and you have options, then you feel less invested in one girl because you know if it breaks down you have other choices. So maybe start talking to/dating more girls so you can shift your focus.
/r/seduction17/04/16 01:51 AM
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Perhaps you could try giving them some attention instead of expecting them to come to you. In this society, men are the hunters and women are the prey. It's up for us to make the move, not for them to. Unless you're shockingly good looking or have something else really going on for you, most women aren't really going to notice you on the street. That's my take anyway.
/r/seduction17/04/16 01:43 AM
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"Hey bitch you wanna suck on these nads?"
/r/seduction17/04/16 01:36 AM
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Such proud!
/r/seduction14/04/16 06:26 AM
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High income you say... Plastic surgery is always on the table if you're willing.
/r/seduction14/04/16 05:44 AM
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Let it go dude. They probably weren't even laughing at you.
/r/seduction13/04/16 06:30 AM
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This approach is not possible for guys who can't socialize to begin with. IMO, socializing is a learned skill for the most part. To my mind, you don't need to be the loudest and most extroverted guy in all situations to get laid. We shouldn't shoebox people and social dynamics into black and white categories. Not every girl wants one type of guy, just like how not every guy necessarily wants one type of girl.
/r/seduction12/04/16 05:41 AM
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Thanks coach! :D
/r/seduction12/04/16 05:32 AM
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Do it man. :)
/r/seduction12/04/16 02:02 AM
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That video was awesome! This is my go-to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KudwS5U9ouA&nohtml5=False
/r/seduction11/04/16 04:46 AM
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My non-mathematical brain does not comprehend. What do you mean that ABC have higher percentages than D?
/r/seduction10/04/16 08:08 PM
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but she may have puked in an alley and passed the fuck out. she may text or call you in the afternoon. FTFY
/r/seduction10/04/16 06:24 AM
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Very interesting video. I think this guy has a good method about getting into the right mindset when you go out. But to answer your question, yeah, absolutely. My BELIEF is that alcohol is a social lubricant and if used too often, can become a crutch. People feel like they need it because it relieves the stress of their daily lives/anxiety of dealing with people. Drinking relieves those anxieties because it allows us to open up to people and enjoy ourselves. It acts as a band-aid for what many o…
/r/seduction10/04/16 06:12 AM
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Well where do you go instead?
/r/seduction09/04/16 08:01 PM
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Damn, throw that guy some likes on youtube if you value what he says instead of just upvoting here dudes. 100 votes here on reddit, 13 on youtube--support your brethren!
/r/seduction09/04/16 07:57 PM
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So the best way to get a girl to like you is to not let them know you really like them, kinda ignore them up until the point where they like and respect you, and then you can show how much you really like them because at that point you'll have them in the bag.
/r/seduction09/04/16 07:47 PM
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If all they need is confirmation, then what makes the ones that do stick around once they know you like them, stick around?
/r/seduction09/04/16 04:42 PM
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I nearly had a diurnal emission reading that sexy story.
/r/seduction09/04/16 04:36 PM
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I believe this is happening because you still have work to do. It seems that you are still attached to feelings of self-loathing and inadequacy about your former self. I think you need to step out of the mode of thinking--the bad habits of thought--that have shaped your reality over the years. Mental scars run deep. It will take some time to get over them, even if you've fixed how you look on the outside. I would also try to identify other possible foundations for this self-loathing that you're …
/r/seduction09/04/16 05:31 AM
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Half the time I feel like I can contribute stuff to these threads but then I think I'm probably more like this dog so I'll just keep my mouth shut.
/r/seduction09/04/16 05:16 AM
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Just move on. I am going through the same thing right now. I look at it this way: if the dynamic has changed and I feel that she is losing interest, I am going to be coming from a place of subordination/weakness in our interactions; I will be trying to regain her attraction to me, yet my efforts will be in vain because honestly, if the spark is gone, I believe it is VERY hard to rekindle it. Once it's gone, it's gone and I'll just be stressing myself out trying to start it again, especially when…
/r/seduction08/04/16 04:04 PM
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You accept that women (especially Gen Y) are, for lack of a better word, damaged. Interesting! Why do you think that Gen Y in specific are "damaged" as you put it?
/r/seduction08/04/16 03:49 PM
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What do you mean exactly by assuming familiarity?
/r/seduction08/04/16 03:30 PM
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I have several jars of clown tears in my room for just that purpose.
/r/seduction08/04/16 04:11 AM
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Meh.
/r/seduction08/04/16 04:09 AM
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Clown tears are the best tears.
/r/seduction08/04/16 04:08 AM
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CRUSH IT BRO!!!!
/r/seduction06/04/16 09:17 PM
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AMEN.
/r/seduction06/04/16 09:13 PM
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Work hard at something and you will achieve at least a degree of what anyone would recognize as "skill." Just work hard (and smart) at it, seriously.
/r/seduction02/04/16 06:42 AM
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She might be assertive in other non-dating, non-sexual social situations which means she may very well be confident; it's just that she may also subscribe to traditional gender roles.
/r/seduction01/04/16 06:05 PM
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Haha what an interesting problem I've never thought of! I have no experience with this, just wanted to exclaim about what a cool question it is.
/r/seduction01/04/16 02:50 AM
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Point taken, NimbleFaggotronic. Point taken.
/r/seduction01/04/16 02:14 AM
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You have a point. However, I think there can be too much of any odor. If you just let the air in your room get stale, I would label that as a bad thing.
/r/seduction01/04/16 01:35 AM
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I told her it was purely physical but she told me she did not care and it was not her problem. Okay maybe they weren't "strictly" dating, but it certainly doesn't sound like they were just friends to me either. It sounds more like they were both keen on each other, but OP decided he would rather not sacrifice his sex life for her. When she found out he had been with other girls she was devastated and felt betrayed.
/r/seduction31/03/16 04:19 PM
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every animal on earth is extremely shallow This animal is known to get very deep.
/r/seduction31/03/16 05:50 AM
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Go for a walk in the park homie.
/r/seduction31/03/16 04:54 AM
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I open my windows pretty frequently to clear out that manly musk smell. That smell is not attractive and I encounter it often when I visit my dude-friends' abodes.
/r/seduction31/03/16 04:43 AM
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with a metal wire sponge.
/r/seduction31/03/16 04:41 AM
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Floss and brush teeth, scrub tongue, use ACT mouthwash. Make sure I have no eye boogers in my eyes or nose boogers in my nostrils and no nose boogers in my eyes nor eye boogers in my nostrils.
/r/seduction31/03/16 04:40 AM
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I was gonna say don't look at any porn and don't fap, but looks like you've got those bases covered. If you're edging (masturbating up until you're about to cum and then stopping) then DON'T. If you're looking at porn and not masturbating, but just because you feel like it, DON'T. These things defeat the purpose of self-control big time. In fact, don't even touch your dick AT ALL unless it's to pee or fix your balls or put near/in a girl. Lastly, you could be going through a self-fulfilling prop…
/r/seduction31/03/16 03:17 AM
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She found out you were playing her for a fool. Put yourself in her shoes: You're dating a guy who is seemingly in love with you for SIX months and who you've developed feelings for in return, and then you find out it was all a farce, and that he's been fucking several other girls the whole time. Seems like a betrayal to me. I don't think there is much you can do to rectify the situation. Take it as a lesson for next time. If you are considering a serious relationship, maybe you shouldn't be slee…
/r/seduction31/03/16 03:04 AM
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I would use date, otherwise you risk your intentions being misconstrued by the girl.
/r/seduction31/03/16 02:47 AM
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All those things sound awesome! I've been in a similar position to yours. It really just takes time to get over. Simply get her out of your life--which you seem to already be doing--and get other girls into it. You'll most expedite the process this way.
/r/seduction30/03/16 05:27 PM
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That's a good line. I'll try to remember it. I tend to be too nice as well and it always makes me feel like shit in the end. In fact, this makes a lot of sense about anyone you speak to. If you act inferior toward anyone, they have no choice but to look down on you. Huh.
/r/seduction30/03/16 05:27 AM
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If she hasn't fallen for you in half a decade, she probably won't now. I'd say move on.
/r/seduction30/03/16 03:53 AM
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Nice. Good work! but when i add up all the rejection i be like " damn i really got rejected by over 100 women" . This made me laugh.
/r/seduction29/03/16 04:54 AM
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sing it loud boi
/r/seduction29/03/16 04:51 AM
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Get offline and get outside man. Online dating mostly only works for tall, ridiculously good-looking, gasoline-fighting models. Don't give up hope. Please don't give up hope.
/r/seduction29/03/16 04:22 AM
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A little muscle doesn't hurt (I put on about 10 pounds of muscle and all of the sudden people perceived me as more "manly"). On top of that, I consider my wardrobe and how I carry myself with a focus on positive interactions with people. I'm pretty knew to this as well, but that is just my two cents.
/r/seduction29/03/16 04:17 AM
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Really clean, like flosses twice a day and scrubs her tongue clean. Also, a girl who knows how to dress nice professionally speaking. One more - being into physical fitness and nutrition does not hurt at all!
/r/seduction28/03/16 03:25 AM
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Look at the momes in this thread saying this doesn't work. It absolutely works as far as I have seen in my own experience. Good job man.
/r/seduction25/03/16 10:41 PM
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Good advice.
/r/seduction25/03/16 04:48 AM
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Yeah, don't ask. Just make a move!
/r/seduction25/03/16 04:46 AM
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Just do it. It's gonna feel awkward at first, but if she already enjoys you touching her and you've got a good flirty rapport with her, she probably wouldn't mind if you started kissing her. That's my opinion anyway. A few days ago I was trying to figure out how to kiss this girl in my car without making it awkward (after doing some light kino for about two hours beforehand). Guess what, it felt awkward as hell, but as soon as I went for it, it was no longer awkward and I got the kiss I was look…
/r/seduction21/03/16 04:21 AM
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I'm gonna out-hike the hell out of this girl I'm dating and laugh at her from the peak when I watch her tired ass struggling to reach the top. It's gonna be so funny. Seriously, good advice though.
/r/seduction21/03/16 04:01 AM
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Cool post. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction21/03/16 03:58 AM
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That's gosh darn brilliant.
/r/seduction19/03/16 06:13 AM
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I enjoyed the article very much. I think a lot of what you touched on falls under the category of "just be yourself" although you didn't just say "just be yourself"; you actually explained it. I especially liked the part ("you feel good towards someone without thinking that it might be because that someone is feeling good in themselves, and vice versa.") where you talk about how subconscious attitudes shape how others perceive us and thus, the entire social dynamic. If we are sincerely happy and…
/r/seduction19/03/16 04:26 AM
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Sometimes it's best to question them until you find out what they are interested in or attached to. You take an active interest in their interests, which in turn makes them feel like they can open up to you. Then you get to understand what that person really is like. If you just label them as boring after 30 minutes of talking, you might not be giving them much of a chance to open up. I think it's fun discovering what type of person a person is in and of itself, even if their interests don't nec…
/r/seduction18/03/16 11:32 PM
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Interesting perspective my man.
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:25 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. It's sometimes hard to feel like you won't be judged in a group. When it's just one other person, there is a much higher chance of social acceptance because there is only one other opinion involved. In a larger group, that acceptance is unknown because a lot of the time you're dealing with strangers or acquaintances with a variety of personalities and viewpoints and that can be intimidating; this leads to shelling up. I know that in class, if I start the semester con…
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:21 AM
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dat swagger at 2:09.
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:07 AM
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I've read elsewhere in this sub to do it at five feet. This seems like a logical choice to me since at five feet, it's more of a long glance than a threatening stare and therefore, less awkward or menacing.
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:05 AM
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Respect for your use of "curmudgeonly." Also, this seems like a helpful guide that I could see myself using. I've already been working on the eye contact thing. Lastly, what does AA stand for?
/r/seduction18/03/16 06:02 AM
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Good job bud. First girl sounds like a clown BTW. If three hours won't please her, nothing will.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:22 AM
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What's a cold read?
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:18 AM
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On point comment. I recently realized that I've been giving off bad vibes because my neutral expression has a very gloomy and guarded look due to social anxiety. When my face is totally relaxed I've noticed that I'm much more approachable so I've been practicing getting into that expression in the mirror.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:12 AM
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My latest is to stop cursing like a sailor. It's mostly unnecessary and makes you look like an uneducated brute.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:06 AM
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How long do people here wait to go down on a girl? I have attempted and aborted going down on girls on two different first dates because they both smelled... Unsavory. Is it normal for guys not to go down on girls on the first date or until we get to know them better? And furthermore, what is expected of us on a first date?
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:02 AM
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What I've realized is that I spend way too much time screwing around on Reddit or on the internet in general (probably two hours a day cumulatively). All those cute cat gifs, articles about the future, and outcries of triggered tumblers never stay in my head. They don't improve my skills; they don't make me a better person; they don't have much utility at all. They are mostly unfocused, lazy, and temporary entertainment, and thus, a waste of time. Be mindful of your computer use. You'll probably…
/r/seduction16/03/16 02:11 AM
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This is very true. However, I think his point is it may very well be the same people upvoting the same two contradicting posts (insta-dates vs day-game) without critically analyzing their behavior first. As a n00b, I can confirm that I remember both of the posts he's referring to, and I probably upvoted both of them on separate days because they both sounded good to me at the time. As a noob, it's easy to get mixed up looking at all these posts. Any semi-logical idea to an inexperienced, enthusi…
/r/seduction16/03/16 02:00 AM
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Newbie confirmed. Cognitive Dissonance confirmed. HL3 confirmed.
/r/seduction16/03/16 01:49 AM
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