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Man-whores with narcissism attract women-whores with narcissism. And dudes see this and don't realize they are just watching a soap-opera of narcissists via social media and cannot figure out that they will never be part of this strata, and even if they were, they would hate themselves as much as the influencers do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:08 PM
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Don't be a selfish shithead. Be able to compromise. Clean up after yourself. Have interesting shit to talk about, yet be more willing to ask questions, listen, and remember what she says. Have a sense of humor not modeled on that one single, edgy, weird friend that everyone's dad seems to have. It isn't hard. It just seems hard. Possibly controversial opinion: If you have a fairly glaringly obvious developmental/personality disorder- and lets be real, most of this sub has either ADHD or ASD (I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:20 PM
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Honestly, I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about the other goobers in this thread and their headass opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:56 PM
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Some of y'all speak for all of us like we are rock eating wild animals. I'm attention deficit- if a woman I am in bed with doesn't capture my attention with some effort and a small modicum of skill, I'm not orgasming. And because I'm not a 12 year old, it won't be "doesn't matter; had sex." I'm a grownup, and Imma be pissed because I cant get that time back.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:23 PM
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What are these women supposed to do? Pay them a tithe?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:59 AM
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SOME women secretly love the benefits provided by the men of Patriarchy because they provide them in too many ways with some benefits that they aren't gonna admit. As a dude, if some rich dude was willing to pay for my ugly ass to help me avoid the capitatlist hellscape, I would have some serious choices to make... and so would you OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:41 PM
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Its a zero sum game to them. "Any cookie someone else has is a cookie I am potentially not getting." They dont even like oatmeal raisin cookies, but they're upset someone else who likes them is getting to have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:27 PM
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Yeah, the only hypothetical women I can think of who would be impressed by hypothetical Brad and his Target job are women below the age of 21 and middle-aged women bored in their marriages. Is Brad bribing these imaginary Twentysomethings with his discount?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:20 PM
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I mean, this is why past societies would just burn off a third of their "surplus" men in a war every generation or two. The forgotten ones making trouble and getting restless? Send them off to a faraway land and hope they die of cholera before they get home.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:16 PM
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I mean, dudes will spend years pining after one girl who isn't interested in them, being in some friendzone space, not understanding why she isn't attracted to them, and ignoring every other opportunity in the hopes she runs out of options some day and chooses them. Spiritually, this is the exact same goofy behavior. "I will give you whatever resource I have that you will take to stay in your life."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:13 PM
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Oh, were you at work or with a friend's group when you tried to have these conversations or was it in more online spaces?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:51 PM
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Nah. Nowadays we usually just pathologize all unpleasant women as having borderline personality disorder. And idk what spaces you hang out in, but most of society (men and women alike) are in fact allowed to call out the shitty behaviors of women. Do YOU, u/BCRE8TVE, personally feel like YOU have not been given the ability to call out the shitty behaviors of shitty women without repercussions?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:48 AM
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Yep. About 20% of men and 20% of women are immature fucks with broke-brains who annoy the rest of us and make our society more difficult. Has been since we were tribes living in the grasslands and still is now. What's the story here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:52 PM
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Truly maximizing their options
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:46 AM
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The big ol' penis on tv vs. the penis you can get is the equivalent of the big ol' boobs you see on tv vs. the boobs you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 11:05 PM
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......aaaaand this is the fault of the women?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:09 PM
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Hey OP, can we get a TL;DR? I mean I get the gist, but damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:57 PM
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1) twitter feminists overall are a small population of women. 2) Many, not all, maybe not most, female feminists (I am making the distinction because there are male feminists as well, whether you agree with them or not), would actually praise him for showing emotion and subverting a toxically masculine stereotype and showing emotion. Honestly, they are probably living as closely as one can to the actual ideals of feminism. 3) The twitter feminists who ARE making fun of JP, are just shitty people…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:43 PM
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My guy, most women have been brought up since birth to believe that men who cry cannot provide them with security or safety- BY MEN. Their fathers, their brothers, their uncles, their male friends and acquaintances all telling them, or to women close to them, that "a crying man is a weak man, and a weak man cannot protect you." And many of them keep that mentality throughout life, and teach it to their sons ("stop crying") and daughters ("he's too sensitive, don't pick him") and keep the cycle g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:29 PM
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I swear most of this sub is just lonely people, tryna get witnessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:55 AM
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OP, what in the name of Moral Panic is this you are spouting??? What percentage of cis-het males of reproductive age and capability do you think are actually breeding children? This entire post sounds like, "Well, you see ladies? If you don't start having sex with us, the world will be covered in Immortan Joe mutants within the next few generations."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:47 PM
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It gets old. And I want to help people. I really do. I am young enough to understand the dynamic here, but fortunately, I have enough experience to help. And I know there is a silent majority here just looking for advice, who will never comment on what I say, and I hope they see it and it helps. But no. I end up engaging with some very bitter person who hates my positivity and wants to bring me down to where they are. And I get why they are mad. Once upon a time, I never got laid and felt weird …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:31 PM
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Eh, depends on the people- I think general rules can get in the way sometimes, but you REALLY gotta be good at reading the room. With my SO and I,maybe you could say our 3rd date? They are very sex positive and back at that time, I was still getting past a childhood filled with sexual repression (gotta love being middle class in the Bible Belt). We hung out at their dorm, but they shared a room, and their roomate was asleep, so we stayed awake all night just talking. Why did we stay awake all ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:57 PM
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I appreciate it, but this community has built a deep cynicism in me about whether or not it is worth it to make a post and then argue with people for the next 48 hours- or, watch a (generally) highly logically intelligent audience rip me to shreds for daring to insinuate that they are not emotionally intelligent. I prefer to provide guerrilla comments and just hope they reach the right people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 01:41 PM
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For every dude on here who claims they have been used by a woman for emotional comfort, there is an equal number of women who have been used by men for physical comfort. And what did you do afterward? "Well, clearly, the outcome of my choices made me unhappy, so I will try something different next time." For most of the men, it's not "simping" or dumping their energy and resources into a woman using them as a shoulder and an ear. For the women you are talking about, it is making men wait for sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:27 PM
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It aint about getting laid- for most of them. It's never been about getting laid- for most of them. For most of them, it's about getting the respect and the clout that they feel has been denied to them. It's about status. Our society tells men you either get status by money or by pussy. Well, money is not easy to come by in our society, but the latter? Well, the odds say if 50% of the population is female, shouldn't it be easier for them to get what they want? What they think they need? And when…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 02:57 AM
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This post should be pinned to the top of the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:14 PM
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No. There have been plenty of apps created specifically for the purpose of dating, whether they were used that way or not. Ashley Madison might be considered one of the first platforms that catered towards hook-ups, but it was specifically designed for husbands to cheat on their wives, so I am going to call it an outlier for being so niche. I remember people (mainly males) misusing Zoosk and Plenty of Fish to find hookups, but again, not the STATED purpose of the platform. It wasn't until about …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:04 PM
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Tinder is not a Dating app. It is a Fucking app.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:59 AM
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Is it possible that 80% of men and 80% of women are functionally invisible, and we all are just pining for that "Hoe 20%" on either side?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:14 AM
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OP do you think you are on the ASD? IMO everything depends on context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 07:22 PM
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Sex is seen by a lot of people as devoid of emotion. Other individuals, such as myself, prefer it be full of emotion, because, to me, it makes it better. Without it, I see no point in having it, otherwise I would just masturbate. Now if you are talking about something like bringing outside politics and values into sex, then that is something a little different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:40 PM
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OP, how old are you? Like, give me an age range 25-30, 30-35?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 10:04 AM
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And they could make beer for everyone, like old monks did!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 02:27 PM
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NOT AT ALL ADVOCATING FOR THIS: But isn't this (one of the reasons) why many civilizations have utilized conscription into their armies? Basically, take them when they are young and reckless and then beat discipline into them while they are in a mobile prison. Harness that sexual energy into something helpful to the state. It only backfires when you run out of land or money to give them for their service...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:47 AM
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But the antidote to "repulsive creep" status is learning how to better your emotions and mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 02:56 PM
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Well, what would you suggest?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:50 AM
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Well, what would you suggest?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:50 AM
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It's not all men's fault. But outlining what men can do to repair and bridge their side is not inherently a bad thing, is it? I understand many may not like how the information is packaged or presented, but that doesn't make it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:59 PM
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Oh yeah, that mentality is whack as fuck. Like dudes on here act like women are an entirely different species and not capable of the same human experiences and problems as them. We may all travel different paths to get there, but we are all headed to the same destination.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:11 PM
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Lol. Tell that to most of this sub who are continuously trying and failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:08 PM
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I do not get the point you are trying to make, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:56 PM
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This answer sounds pretty defensive and closed-minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:55 PM
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Focusing solely on the aesthetic will net you a partner who is: 1) Maybe 15% who are just really into fitness and want a partner who is too. 2) The other 85% who are shallow and or looking for some kind of father figure/protector and will cheat on you with the next father figure/protector. Those odds are not good. Get in shape. Get fit as fuck. But do it for you and only you. Work on your brain and your emotions if you want an intimate partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:54 PM
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100% this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:49 PM
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This is the way
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:47 PM
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Well, considering those are the only things any men on here can actually control- yes? All you can do is just keep trying to be a better version of you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:43 PM
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wut?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:41 PM
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Which I understand is the most common criticism of demisexuality. You have to remember that it's a branch of asexuality. You have to ask yourself, what are your reasons for not having sex with someone you do not know? If it is because you genuinely feel no sexual feelings for a stranger, even if they are "conventionally" attractive, then it is considered demisexuality. If it leans more towards I don't trust them, I don't know them, what if they use me, what if they hurt me, what if they are tryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 04:47 PM
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Food. Money. Space. Material goods. Mating partners. Aint shit changed. We are still squabbling. We judge each other by how much or how many each other has. We feel less successful or significant if we have less. Half the damn TPP sub doesn't even realize they don't even care about the quality of sex they want to have, they just want to have sex with as many women as possible so they have a number (resource) to use to gain clout with other men. It's fucking dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:59 PM
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Chasing women to make yourself feel better is idiotic and unnecessary. Only you can do that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:32 PM
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There is a stigma associated with being involved with sex work. EXACTLY. A stigma. Stigmas are judgements we choose to have. If you didn't want to stigmatize those men and women, you don't have to. If a woman tells me she was sugar baby, I get concerned- for her. What put her in a situation that led her to believe she needed to do that to support herself? Is she okay now? Is that dude still in her life? Yeah, occasionally there are just manipulative shit heads that do that because they like mani…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:27 PM
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why does it matter
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:28 PM
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Because we treat every interraction with other men as a battle for resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:27 PM
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..if she even allows them to get that far If you have the social skills and likability to make interractions with yourself not a struggle so people will get salad with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:24 PM
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How in the hell is wealth easy to accomplish for anyone right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:21 PM
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I'm not. I identify as Demisexual because I I dont find literally everyone or most people sexually attractive. I can admire an aesthetically pleasing body (male or female), but that brain-ball connection doesnt happen to me, it stops in the brain. If anything, to answer OPs question, I would see a random woman undressing and would probably be more concerned with the context of the entire exchange- as I should be. The more I get to know someone, the more I begin to like someone, the more I will s…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:50 PM
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No, I fully understand that part. Why do you feel you aren't demisexual? What you have described is basically a primary piece of the sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 05:04 PM
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Well, why do you feel that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:34 PM
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well, hell yeah. Glad we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:34 PM
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Well, I saved the demisexuality. I mean, hell, the rest doesn't make sense without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 04:46 AM
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Thank you! Yeah, this place is like trying to clean shit off the walls of a sewer with a Q-Tip.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:36 AM
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cake and punch is down the hall on the right, leave your keys in the bowl by the front door
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:47 AM
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Ah. So on the leftist spectrum you lean authoritarian over Anarchist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:46 AM
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Yeah, I'm pretty sure none of the ranting and raving on here is even about sex. Its about men in lower economic classes not having control over something or someone in their lives and being upset about it. But instead of uniting, they divide and attack the people they should be working alongside. I wish I knew a way to help these men find companionship, but they have to learn how not to be toxic and obnoxious and to own up the emotional disorders many of them have.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:45 AM
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So you are allowed to know your self worth on who should see you naked, yes? So should individual women get the same privelege of what quality man sees them naked?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:42 AM
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Well, so is it fair for women to have a similar outlook on naked men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:06 AM
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A very fair point. Do you think this is a worthwhile philosophy to apply to all potential candidates of your nudity?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:00 AM
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Why do you assume its a cheap club to be a part of?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:57 PM
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Well, then it sounds like you are a candidate to be a part of u/urbangoth 's naked people club.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:55 PM
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Ok. But again- why authoritarianism?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:48 PM
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Do you have the time to hear the gospel about our our Lord and Savior: Demisexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:47 PM
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Do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:46 PM
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If you were over it you wouldn't keep replying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:45 PM
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How many women have randomly gotten naked in front of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:44 PM
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hahahahahahahahahahaha ...but seriously, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:06 PM
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Its relevant to all of this. Ultimatley all of these ideas flying around TPP, it's the ideologies that are fueling the just.... RAMPANT unhappiness I see oozing out of every post. It is these ideas of how the world should be that I want to connect with on here, to understand why. Yes, the admins probably will not like your political views because they advocate for authoritarianism, which has not been a popular political ideology at any point in recorded history (excluding people at the top). Wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:01 PM
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Part of the thrill for some is knowing that being treated like an object goes against your principles/morals/values, and yet the dirty, sticky, nasty thing that helps you orgasm at the end of it all is being treated like a vessel, an object, only for sexual pleasure. Saying its not objectification takes some of the fun our of it. I get that your point is "words have meanings" and objectification is a word with a very specific meaning, and I respect that. However, there is a whole other aspect of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:05 PM
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So in your view of authoritarian control of social systems in society, who should be taking control of these things in our lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:53 PM
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Okay, so do you have an authoritarian plan to get all these men into therapy after you take away their short-term dopamine releases?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:37 PM
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No, but it can be be more like a venn diagram. I was raised to believe that no woman wants to be objectified nor should ever be objectified. Imagine my surprise when I started finding out a lot, not all, not gonna say most either, but a lot of women enjoy being treated like an object in the heat of sex. And then when moralistic little me was like "noooo you shouldn't want that, it's internalized misogyny" I basically got told by several women "I know but bitch quit killing my vibe." And I learne…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:33 PM
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Well yeah, that makes sense. Most people don't wear clothes to intentionally make their bodies look worse (I would hope).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:25 PM
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Well, yeah. But most people aren't that upset about you glancing at them as long as you aren't ridiculous about it. "It's like the sun, you just get a sense of it." -Jerry Seinfeld
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:22 PM
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Women don't mind being objectified/sexualized* *only by the very specific group of people they actually want to objectify/sexuaize them. Honestly, this is true for basically everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:43 PM
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Well, yeah. Is that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:40 PM
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Yes. At the gym, where those pants are intended to be worn.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:40 PM
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Remember those popcorn tube tops?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:39 PM
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But you do have the ability not to look, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:38 PM
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When you see women do you hear distant tribal drums and then a David Attenborough narration in your head?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:36 PM
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lead to a generation of men who walk around with their shoulders slumped staring at the ground. these men are suffering from within. They are suffering from issues that are exacerbated by all of the things you wish to limit. Take them away and these men will still have those problems- they aren't suddenly going to go outside and begin chopping wood and doing greco-roman wrestling. These men are suffering from developmental and emotional disorders that were likely due to something their parents o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:27 AM
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Emotional dysregulation usually stems from personality or developmental disorders. And what I aim to highlight here is not the sexless young men, but the oversexed on the other side of the coin that you claim need some authoritarian rule to reign in. Here is the thing, authoritarianism is not going to get awkward young men companionship or sexual contact. And it isn't going to provide the treatment needed for people with hypersexual behaviors that are easy to scapegoat in a moralistic society. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:15 AM
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Alright, how would you like me to elaborate about the phrase emotional dysregulation?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:31 AM
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Do you think that sexual dysfunction might be caused by emotional dysregulation and poor coping mechanisms?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:59 PM
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You dont choose your league, the league chooses you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:06 PM
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Ask Japan.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:05 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:35 AM
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You are correct. -TRP is intellectually dishonest, deals with all women (and most men) in bad faith, and is only interested in complaining about what they think is "fair." -Their solutions perpetuate toxic masculinity by not acknowledging the emotional problems most of them need help with, due to being raised in a culture of toxic masculinity. -The movement is susceptible to men with untreated Antisocial/Narcississtic/Borderline Personality Disorders (Cluster B PD's) who gain validation from nai…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:24 AM
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Here to shout the part no one else is mentioning: Excellent work getting yourself into therapy! Like 3/4's of this sub needs to go speak to a professional therapist or therapist adjacent (phone lines, apps, websites). Lookmaxxing is the physical aspect of wellness- but you actually need to put in a concerted effort into getting your mental and emotional health under control. Literally the things OP is saying: Then I realized that the only person standing in her way was me. I just wondered "would…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:43 PM
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True. Do you get anxious at the thought of having a social interaction that is important to you, or judge yourself harshly after one that didn't go exactly as planned?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:48 PM
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Hardet than it used to be, I think, because the internet has made many feel social clubs are irrelevant, unfortunatley.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:46 PM
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Makes sense. If you don't mind me asking, do you feel that your barriers to being social are internal or external?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:11 PM
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Okay. So do you believe their is an issue with me advising anyone be nice to the sex worker they patronize?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:09 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:07 PM
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Do sex workers not deserve someone being nice to them, I'm confused?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:04 PM
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Ah okay. Do you feel like upsetting people on online spaces gives you a measure of control you wouldn't get IRL or otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:15 AM
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Well yeah, but I wouldn't say any woman on here is getting to see the best side of men, so that kind of makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:57 AM
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Aight. Basic question here, are you interested in having sex with anyone or just the idea of it because society tells you that you should? Not knowing whether you want to or not is also fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:53 AM
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Sad trombone noise
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:45 AM
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So you have kind of an "every type has its place in the village" outlook on different people?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:38 AM
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Eh. Evil is a strong word to use for that. Malcontent? Yeah, that's closer. Do you get that rush in real life when you piss people off?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:35 AM
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Yes and no? Sure, you can do it the hard way, but that shit sucks. I guess I should back up, do you want to be less antisocial?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:33 AM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:31 AM
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Well, are you content with this arrangement? That's all that matters at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 12:30 AM
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Probably the best course of action.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:52 PM
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I agree with you 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:46 PM
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"Gentlemen, you can't fight in here, this is the war room!" Well, what is your endgame by upsetting people on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:46 PM
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TRP is about criticizing superficiality- whilst ALSO telling men that the more superficial they are the better their life will be. Work out to make yourself feel better. Make money so you have an easier life. Wear nicer clothes so you can feel better about yourself. Cool. But the movement keeps being undermined by narcissists who are using these ideas and techniques and perverting whatever good exists in TRP. And it seems like no self regulation is happening to remove these predators. That is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:45 PM
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A few is good enough for me. When self awareness is low, absurdity will rise. And when absurdity is high I feel a compulsion to point it out and upset people. My hope is someone else gets how absurd it all is too, learns to laugh at themself, and realizes shits gonna be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:34 PM
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Well yeah, that may be kind of doomer (no lie) but that outlook doesnt involve misogyny and self loathing. That mindset acknowledges that life aint fair and you just have to keep on keepin on. But, that outlook you just described may be part of some silent majority in most PillMills (I hope), but the vocal minority screams about women ulitimatley being the problem and superficiality being the answer to life's problems. The world becomes a much easier place to deal with once you get over yourself…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:32 PM
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Well, Im not here to yuck anyones yum as long as you treat the escorts well. If thats your thing brother, do what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:26 PM
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I agree. Through understanding we can reduce fear and anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:24 PM
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Yeah, I get that. When I was younger my friends would try to drag me to bars and clubs and I felt like a horse on fucking rollerskates in there. I get what they were trying to do for me to their credit, but it always made me feel worse. I am still fairly introverted, but I have sense learned when to turn it off and on. What ways have you found around feeling antisocial?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:22 PM
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Thanks. I hope I can get a few to see the light. Just a few at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:18 PM
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So much anger and animosity on here is wrapped up in feelings about the act. Who gets to have it. Why" they get to have it. *When are they getting to have it. And all this inclusion of numbers and probabilities.... my God. If people realized that the act itself, not the leadup and the follow-on, but the actual action is... incredibly simple and basic.... well they would realized that they are putting in all of this work to be disappointed. Good, memorable sex takes work and understanding. It tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:17 PM
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What do you feel is making your life less than it should be?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:05 PM
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YES. From what I have expeirenced, the only people who are attracted to TRP techniques are superficial "10's" and the only people they would fuck are also superficial "10's". So you have these "alpha-male" types on here, who would get laid easily anyway, peddling their predatory mindset on here to people who are not going to get laid by "10's". And the "alphas" don't understand that genetically, they have it easy, and they miss the point that even if they didn't work out, have money, or wear sty…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:04 PM
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Younger me thought that the idea of utilizing probabilities to increase your chances ("hacking the system") sounded like the smart man's way to get laid. Older, experienced me, knows that this is adding shitload of extra steps into the process. My reality was, I would finally understand that me not getting laid had everything to do with my mentality, and my lack of life skills. I feel like gaming the game is just pulling dudes farther away from being able to use sex as a way to connect with huma…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:47 PM
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Well fuck yeah. As long as your are having a healthy and safe time. The whole thing doesn't leave you fucked on money though, does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:37 PM
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I think that's a lot more common than people realize. I have heard many stories of people trying to lose their viginity and them having issues because they think themselves out of an erection. I think this sub distracts people and has them "taking their eye off the ball" so to speak. 1/3rd of the population was always going to lose their virginity or start having sexual relationships a bit later than others- it doesnt mean society is broken or out to get anyone. Idk if you feel the same, but sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:36 PM
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Trust me, I get it. The amount of "BUT IT'S ABOUT ETHICS IN GAMES JOURNALISM" type of replies I have gotten...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:22 PM
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I mean, yeah, but if every conclusion they keep coming back to as a consensus enable misogyny then maybe someone who can see should just tell them what they are actually encountering.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:16 PM
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I agree. I was hoping by pointing out the absurd some people would begin to understand that. I clearly set my bar too high on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:14 PM
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Finally. Okay, I had wanted to bring it up but honestly I felt like if I did, I would be attacked into oblivion. So I am Demisexual. It took me a very long time to realize I was but once I did, I was able to understand why I felt the way I did and how I had reacted to others. So honestly, I could give a rat's ass about who is having sex with who and when, but I know others feel uncomfortable about it. Do you think trying to raise awareness on here of demisexuality would be a worthwhile endeavor?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:12 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:38 AM
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Well yeah, that makes sense. I don't interact with women much in my day to day. But I just try to understand the men I am around better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:38 AM
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So what's your plan to get said companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:34 AM
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Wouldnt it behoove women to let us know ehat they like so they can just get more of what they want from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:33 AM
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Would it be fair to say that most of this sub is just flawed studies on dating and relationships as performed by very biased amateur scientists?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 06:27 AM
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I would say 40% is probably generous IMO. However, real question, let's say that 40% are above average. Ignoring any and all external factors, what are they doing in your opinion that is stopping them from romantic/sexual intimacy with a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:43 AM
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YOOOOOOOOO. Quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:40 AM
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Well that stuff actually sounds nice. Is it like a carmel apple smell or sour apple smell?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:34 AM
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1) Well, that's honestly a useful service for a lot of these dudes. 2) I mean, what % of dudes on here do you think are lookers either?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:22 AM
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Wut?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:14 AM
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No, I think most of you are normal looking dudes who are just insecure and have issues talking to other people. And thanks to society lying to you from about age 10 onward, you are upset that you arent in a relationship right now because you are not a "bad guy."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:10 AM
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I am a man. I am not killing, stealing, or raping. I do not hit women. I intend to participate in the social contract of our society by allowing individuals of whom I will never meet nor know use the efforts of my labors for the next 45 years to build their fortunes. What I am owed in return for all of this very good boy behavior is my own little kingdom and a piece of pussy with a woman attached to it to take care of me. Wait, that isn't happening?!? But, but everything I was promised growing u…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 05:07 AM
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Whatever type of person you think it is that when said woman smells this scent, she reverts to an animal-like state of feral arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:57 AM
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Yeah, individuality is a scam to keep us from getting together. Keeping us seperate keeps us easier to control.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:02 AM
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Dudes will literally just go on sprees of swiping right to see what sticks. Cant get the girls I want? Swipe right on all. Bored and lonely? Swipe right on all. Thats their version of hacking rhe system. Just go fishing with dynamite.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:58 AM
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Are you implying they smell their soulmate and instantly become wet with anticipation?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:53 AM
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Well, for starters, women usually have the good sense not to become violent and destructive when they are lonely. Shit, cycnical take here, but maybe if they did then people would listen. And society isnt suddenly suffering. This has been one of society's major problems since we walked out of the sea. Armies are built off of lonely, angry, sexless young men- it's basically state supported redpill. Gang violence? Working class redpill. ISIS? Radical Islamic Redpill. Reject Modernity (because you …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:47 AM
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I think society does create these men by telling them that pussy is what's going to fix what makes them unhappy. The darkness will not go away, no matter how much carnal pleasure you throw at it. Self discovery, emotional intelligence, life experience- these are the things that will better them. The disservice being done to these boys and men is by not telling them that it is within their right to openly admit they don't feel okay, and then tell them that it is their responsibility to get help f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:37 AM
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That's fair. It isnt your job to try and fix anyone on here, and yeah, I bet they rarely hear you if you try. I fear if we leave these men out in the cold then they will attempt to burn the building as we all sit inside. Men like this are fuel waiting for the right asshole to spark them, and then they try to burn down society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:29 AM
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Are you interested in trying again, or just over it all?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:27 AM
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Can confirm. Was raised like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:26 AM
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I feel like purple pill wants to reign in the human sexual and romantic practices with statistics and simple formulas that will simplify the process, and make it foolproof. And human psychology just... well it fucks this up everytime. And then dudes on here get mad. You can't throw math at the meat. The meat refuses to be tamed by the math. The meat is dumb and it is eternal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:21 AM
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Shit, man. Have you been stuck on an arctic oil rig for the last 20 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:16 AM
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https://youtu.be/wZSRkuhPzuI
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:11 AM
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Honestly, I think with these guys it will take us men on here to get them to listen, with a healthy dose of female input. But the crux of it all being we have to quit feeding them this alphamale redpill bullshit. It's not actually solving their problems with women or themselves. Cool you put a new paint job on a car with a broken engine, you still wont go anywhere. A lot of the dudes on here who keep going on and on about this manosphere mentality, probably also have some process they would be w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:08 AM
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True, my life at 14 was pretty miserable, but whose isnt?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:54 AM
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Well: 1) Dont expect rockets to go off and to start seeing sounds your first time. 2) 9/10 your sexual partner will tell you "that/dont stop" right as you are getting a cramp. 3) The best sex move is effort. As long as the person you are screwing isnt an unempathetic turd, you will generally get as good as you are willing to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:53 AM
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I think most of them have to figure out how to have low energy Sunday afternoon sex before they start busting out that crazy Friday night stuff. That’s why they think sex is something given to them. Yeah, I think its generally misunderstood on here that just existing with a woman does not mean she is gonna rock your bed. I mean I wouldnt say sex is something that is earned per say in most healthy relationships, but happens as part of it. The thing I cannot bring up enough, especially for most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:48 AM
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I think thats why back in the day they just tried to put a boy in as many sports or outdoorsy activities as possible. And then when you graduate, ship you off to the Army for a few more years. Just keep you busy and tired all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:32 AM
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Fuck, if Im 14 and Im here, what kind of horrible life am I living?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:30 AM
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I get that. It feels like this sub is just r/relationships for people with people skill problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:08 AM
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It's definitley a double edged sword
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:06 AM
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I think higher testosterone levels (or maybe some other hormone) in anyone, men, women, everyone in between, make you miserable when you are alone and you arent fucking or fighting. It's like this drive to just go out and do, and when you have nowhere to channel it, you tend to behave like a jackass. For proof, just watch any group of 14-24 year old males.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:53 AM
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We all do. You should look up their new podcast where they go back and talk about their old episodes and the funny stories behind them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:41 AM
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I love hearing about how people have long been having the same petty disputes and silly misunderstandings since time immemorial. The mediums change but people interracting with each other never does. I mean, when fops and dandies were a thing, you know they were looked at the same way eboys are now- and some grizzled lumberjack/bear fighter motherfucker who scared off women was complaining about it. "But Im looksmaxing with my coonskin cap and buckskin moccasins, Im sooo alpha. Society is going …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:39 AM
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That God Damn Tribal Knowledge. I believe humans change just as much as they stay the same. And 75 years isnt really alot of time for us to change. Although we have a lot of new tech now, its the same old meat interfacing and responding to the tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:28 AM
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Hey if thats how you feel. But honestly old, ugly sex is kind of something I look forward to. Im tryna be Frank Reynolds: 'Well, I don't know how many years on this Earth I got left. I'm gonna get real weird with it.'
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:24 AM
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Honestly, some of them probably are yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:22 AM
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The shitty thing is, I honestly thought about putting that in and chose not to. I apologize for my insensitivity lol Yes gentlemen, they really dont like sitting in cold water when they have to pee at 2am. Dont be an asshat like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:18 AM
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I get that, but sometimes it feels like (edgy boi warning) that Joker quote: "I'm like a dog chasing cars, I don't know what I would do if I caught one, y'know, I just do... things." Porn sex has its place and time, but 80% of the time that is not the move (except with a very specific population of women). I just dont want y'all working all this time to show up to the game with no idea how to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:15 AM
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I think what a lot of these men are suffering from is lonliness compounded by lies our society had told them. Companionship is truly what they are missing, sex is just this large physical component to that. A lot of times I find that sex is how you test the strength of the companionship, and good sex can be a great way to increase that companionship. The longing I felt when I was lonelier was for intimac, but thanks to growing up in the bible belt I had no true idea of what intimacy was. If I tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:10 AM
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Makes sense. Which parts of that communication process do you feel like you have struggled with in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:04 AM
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Well that's the thing, who are you trying to attract? And I agree that society puts too much emphasis on it, but they put emphasis on the wrong part. They talk about the numbers game aspect, about who is doing it with who and what it is they are doing. But the quality? The actual thing that makes people want to continue having sex? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:59 AM
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I mean. It can be easy. Good sex takes some skill and being able to respond appropriately to your partner. Helps if you lnow them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:56 AM
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Oh hell yeah we are. I got tired of trying to bring this energy to other posts on here so I made my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:48 AM
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Yeah, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:47 AM
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I really used to be, but honestly the older I get the less I care. I care about sexual politics for other reasons now, but I think once I realized that all people are weird and do weird nonsensical shit, trying to generalize the sexes just seemed less important. I value knowing people on a personal level now. On solving each human rubix cube one at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:46 AM
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I think a lot of it comes from the repression. They understand that sex is important because everyone tells them it is. That they are lesser for not having it. But no one is actually telling them the best parts. Yeah sure, it can feel pretty good. But when you have it just right with the right person? And usually finding that right person and learning that good sex takes work. But it is a different kind of work than what is being peddled on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:43 AM
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Ehhh. Shallow people want to have sex with them, just like shallow people want to have sex with conventionally attractive women who also don't know how to do anything useful. Comparing yourself to people who won the genetic sexy lottery is an endeavor in futility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:40 AM
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I agree. And those looking for advice keep running into these insecure people who have no clue what they are talking about. Even worse is I feel like there are a lot of people actively preying on these confused, lost young dudes on here and it makes me sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:37 AM
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Well, and what else you can do. I think big muscles are a cool thing for a guy to have, but most women are pretty stoked for a dude who can cook, knows how to wash clothes without ruining them, can do rudimentary car maintenance, and knows that leaving shaving stubble in the sink is gross, etc. Im not rich, Im not jacked, and honestly, I am not special, and thats okay. But I know how to be a grownup and that is usually the threshold for a large number of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:35 AM
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The thing is, good sex is work. When sad, virgin pill boy me lost my virginity, I was amazed at how.... pedestrian it felt? My life did not change like all the late 00's coming of age movies promised. I realized that being good at sex (as in, other people enjoy it when you have it with them) is enough confidence in your back pocket, that some people will be attracted to you based on intrigue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:29 AM
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And I mean I'm down for that, but not even just that. I see this fundamental lack of knowledge around sexuality on here that feels like screaming into the void. How many Pill dudes on here are actually asexual, dont understand that they are, hate themselves, and literally are only trying to have sex just so they can "feel like a man is supposed to." How many might be something else entirely and dont understand that no matter how hard they try to fit into this mold, they will never fit. Sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:25 AM
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Exactly! Thats the thing though, so many on here have this idea of sex as through the lense of a 7th grader. The fact that they are bummed out isn't because they aren't getting any, it's because they grew up RE-pressed and DE-pressed. And I should know! That was me for a looooong time. It was me. I was the obstacle the entire time to me not getting sex. Lo and behold, I learned how to be an adult and suddenly, women who I was attracted to, were attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:19 AM
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A whole of people on here arguing about how and who and why they should be getting to have eggs benedict, but have never fried an egg before and don't know what hollandaise sauce is. My guy, lets hold off on sex. Do you know how to check your credit report or make a meal for yourself yet? Because a sexy situation is a lot easier to find yourself in if you do...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:13 AM
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The takes on here are so hot, if they were a VHS tape I would have to wait until after Mom went to sleep, I'd locked my door, and then put the tv in the closet with the sound on 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:56 PM
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I appreciate the help, but I am comfortable with the knowledge I have. Honestly I am more just confused regarding the aims of the frequenters of this sub. So much of it claims to be tied up in the act, but the act seems to be secondary to just bitching about modern society. I mean, game theory, big muscles, a flashy car, and a lot of money are cool I guess, but I'm becoming concerned that a lot these dudes are going to get to the act, just do the driest fingerbang ever, get frustrated, and leave…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:50 PM
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Yeah, I see a lot of talk about casual sex. But it always seems to be this vague notion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:42 PM
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A suspicion that I have about this is that nowadays many (not all, or even most, but many) younger women in the western world grew up using smart phones and electronics to interact with the world. So it makes sense that when it came time for sex/romance, they would do the same. An app allows you to keep most prospective partners at arms length, it keeps an electronic barrier between you and them, which can give off a feeling of safety. They treat the app like its Door Dash. Do I want a behemoth …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 11:13 PM
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No, because it is built off an assumption, making it intellectually dishonest. There is never going to be a pack of human beings in 100% agreement on anything. Even if you just said "Most women like taller men" that would be more factual. So much information passed around in the PillMills is based on "does this feel true?" Most of it is tribal knowledge backed by flawed statistics that were originally gathered by people looking to prove their worldview and not the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:35 PM
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AMEN.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:31 PM
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What is the logic behind thinking a knowledge of statistics will get you laid? Humans are weird and behave weird and do weird shit. Also, this study sounds like an answer in search of a question- so many things about this sound flawed. Are we to assume the 130 Psychology students are all out of shape and sickly as compared to 60 random guys on campus who lift? Why was a study on human sexual behavior (anthropology/biology?) done by a criminologist? What does grip strength have to do with fucking…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:30 PM
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I think what these dudes just need in general is a good group of friends, regardless of what extracurricular hobbies they have. It's hard to have a downer worldview if people are constantly challenging it and telling you not to listen to your bullshit insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:41 PM
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Y'all need to start using the phrase "Some Women". Here is an example: Some women say that they like tall men because they feel safe and feminine with them. Notice how that actually sounds like reasonable statement?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:35 PM
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Thank you. The common sense in this sub.... dear God.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:28 PM
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At the end of the day, there are too many women willing to hold out for a top guy, and too many top guys willing to juggle multiple women. Until either of those dynamics is addressed by a dating app designer, you will have the winner-take-all Chads and incels dynamic. Well yeah, but the dating app system is basically designed for the top 10% of society. Why waste your time on a dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:36 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:25 PM
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I absolutley agree. I think the reason they don't is because it literally involves a "he said, she said" story, and they can be somewhat more difficult to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:53 PM
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I have been many, many sessions. However what I was referring to was the major periods in which I have returned to get therapy. Forgive me if I dont pull out my calendar and note each date I went to the therapists office. Do you have somw reticence to the thought of going to talk to a therapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:51 PM
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Yes, but couldn't you describe damn near every government in human history in this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:48 PM
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Fuck yes! We absolutley should be getting together to better ourselves, but not for personal gain, but personal growth as a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 09:17 PM
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I absolutley agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 09:14 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 09:13 PM
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So much of these pill subreddits, and the larger libertarianesque-manosphere culture they spawn from... they come so darn close to being correct, but they just reach the fork in the road and beeline down the wrong path. Like, yes, the State is why you are angry and lonely! Aaaaaaand you think it's the social safety nets fault that society is breaking down and women won't fuck you. He definitley came to that fork in the road, but then just sprinted down Wrong Conclusion Avenue. Oh so close.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:45 PM
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Nah, the sexual revolution just gave already unstable men more reasons to shirk their responsibilities. Deadbeats have been abandoning their families since time immemorial, we have just become more well connected since the 60's so we can finally see the full scope of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:39 PM
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Mental Health. 9/10 times it leads back to mental health and a culture of not asking for help. I have ADHD and a few learning disabilities to boot. I hated school and have conpleted no college despite it being in my best interests to do so. It took me years before I finally started self exploration of my limitations and getting proper help that I am close to being able to pursue higher education finally. Im not sure its so much that less men are getting higher education these days, I think there…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:36 PM
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Please, tell me now that free-market libertarianism is the key to fixing everything and will get all black and white men laid and married again. Also, what's your opinions on taxes- I bet you think they are theft!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:21 PM
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I mean fine: If you are in a relationship with someone and you think you should be manipulative, do not do it, it is fucking poison and if you do it you are poison. Redpillers often look for the what (due to inexperience and naivete I guess) and don't give enough thought to the why. "Well that dude is being manipulative to his girlfriend who is a 10 and it's working for him." Yes, but that guy also grew up with a neglectful mother, has Narcissistic Personality Disorder now, is not getting treatm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:03 PM
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I would say, in my experience, most women start changing their standards around their mid-twenties, but so do men. Security, be it physical, emotional, or financial is something we all want. I think a flawed assumption on here is that men are ALWAYS TRYING TO BE IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH HOT WOMEN ALL THE TIME. Well, yeah, that's the dream I suppose- until you've been in one and you got screwed over badly. The AFBB mentality completley bypasses women who are just manipulative and shitty. Truly there…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:50 PM
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Yeah, but that's kind of like when people say "well technically you can murder anyone as long as you don't care about the consequences." Sure, people can manipulate people with whom they are in a relationship, but thats some real untreated Cluster B Personality Disorder energy right there. I am not advocating anyone be manipulative considering how many impressionable individuals frequent this sub. Manipulating is just wasted energy, being manipulated is awful. Just try emotional intelligence and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 05:30 PM
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Yeah, but why the hell would you want to do that to a person? Trust me, tried that shit. Its like putting nitros in a car engine- thawill provide one hell of an attachment at times, but it can ruin the core of your relationship. Plus, it's just manipulative to boot. Me getting better at relationships meant unlearning all the "game", i.e. manipulation if we're calling a spade a spade here, that I had practiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:57 PM
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Do you think that age couls be more of a variable? Like based on life experience? Why do you think a woman might be inclined towards wanting a guy who has money?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:51 PM
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Well, actually talking about the things that are going on inside your head is always helpful. The best way I know how to compare it is by saying your mind can be like a very cluttered room. Now you can ask anybody to help you clean it (i.e. talk to them), but depending on how severely messed up the room is, they may not be able to help you figure out what to do with everything. File it? Hang it? Box it up? Throw it away? A good therapist is like a good professional organizer. They are able to go…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:49 PM
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what percentage of women do you think fit into what you just said?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:59 AM
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I disagree. But I will give you that it was definitley a double-edged sword.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:58 AM
2

What do you personally consider success in your sexual life?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:57 AM
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No, but I also havent been interested in anything that has to do with PUAs or game theory in about a decade. What does it day about vulnerability?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:56 AM
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If you're only interested in fucking then it doesn't matter. But if you want to keep them, you need emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:54 AM
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To accept myself, both good and bad. I could try to work on my shell and wow other people with how much I worked out orhow many more mind games I could play with strangers in bars to get them to talk to me. But I knew I would stay just as miserable and incomplete inside. You can only mask for so long before someone figures out who you really are, and then you're screwed. You have to make the decision that internally you are worth working on, and bettering. And honestly, building yourself interna…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:53 AM
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I mean, yeah, if you want to date vapid, shallow people. Taking care of yourself and saving your money is smart, so is having goals. The hustle amd grind shit will have you chasing your tail.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:09 AM
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It's what he represents, and what the phrase Chad has become synonymous with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:05 AM
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Well, yes? I agree with you, most people do enjoy sex and not run their mouths about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:51 AM
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I have had to learn these skills over years thanks to therapy, mentorship from good people, and being a part of groups where I had to unlearn being an unhelpful idiot to others in my life. I can't give you that condensed in a video. What I can tell you, as someone who once held the same views as most of the people on here, is that I had to understand that my unhappiness was just that, my unhappiness. I allowed myself to receive all of the above lessons and didn't shut them out. That's literally …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:34 AM
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hey, again, lucky y'all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:11 AM
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Could they not learn it before getting into a relationship just to make the whole process easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:11 AM
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Is uhh, Chad the hero in your narrative?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:10 AM
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50% of people you see...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:09 AM
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Wait until you run into a person who is your physical "best" only to realize they are like your emotional "30th". That crazy/hot matrix is going slam most your dicks in a cardoor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:11 PM
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Well yeah, wouldn't that prove that most women are trying to settle down as they enter their prime? I'm not sure anyone (except people with serious emotional/behavioral problems) want to waste the prime years of their life acting irresponsibly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:09 PM
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Honestly both of you are kind of right. Women have to pull their heads out of their asses too, and once they are done getting screwed over by arrogant aggressive dudes who use them, they refine who their search. Same happens with most guys when they realize hotties and bad bitches will usually leave them high and dry as they get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:06 PM
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Problem is, none of those improvements involve working on yourself emotionally, which is usually the root of why most men are so unhappy and scare off women. The rest of those things are just extensive masking to cover up internal problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 11:02 PM
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Let's say that is true. Do you think that the age most women realize Chad is a douchebag is the same, or that it can vary wildly?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:48 PM
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lucky you I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:45 PM
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Are you talking about people who are quietly hypersexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:43 PM
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No, but most people who have high body counts (male or female) are generally irritating or exhausting in my experience because of their obsession with sexually conquering everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:24 PM
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The thing about hustle culture is, it's like social media mainstream. It seems more common that it actually is because a vocal minority have a large platform to speak on it. For those of us who are terminally online it just seems everywhere. I think most people who join the gig economy out of desperation and not because they watched a bunch of Rise and Grind videos.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:23 PM
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I wish you the best. When I learned to quit playing mindgames and be vulnerable my relationships got 1000% better.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 10:20 PM
1

Well, in your narrative, do most Chad's have high body counts?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:29 PM
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Well that just sounds like edgelord behavior, which, is pretty redpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 08:20 PM
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Hustle culture fucking sucks though. Its like the financial equivilent of running uphill in sand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:14 PM
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Women love confident/secure guys. Naive women often mistake aggression for assertion the same way naive men often mistake a woman who says she's into niche culture from 20-30 years ago as "cool and different." Being aggro when other dudes check you out doesnt mean he's got your best interests at heart. Just because she likes Pink Floyd and Tupac doesnt mean she's interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:09 PM
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Watch Gary Vee videos and work for Door Dash.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:04 PM
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Nah. Being playfully rude is attractive. Being mildly rude is just annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:03 PM
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People who use redpill look like an antsy 6 year-old with a secret when any topic that even sounds like redpill is mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 07:02 PM
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Hustle Culture is redpill?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:55 PM
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What? Redpill is a great way for "average" men to come off as a cycnical dickhead to everyone and not find a serious romantic/sexual partner. If you are pulling women with a redpill mindset and strategy then that relationship (whatever its nature) is set on a foundation of future failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:53 PM
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lol. Well, maybe what you were doing was concurrent with thr culture at that point, but I also get that small towns can be miserably boring if you are under the age of 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:06 PM
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Again, thats pretty counter to the prevailing culture. I am envious of the shit you were getting up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:46 PM
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No but going out without asking? Look at you ya rebel! And I truly mean that. Shit, I never snuck out, nor had anywhere to go, or any friends to lead me astray as a kid. I had to absorb all the counterculture when my parents made the mistake of buying me an ipod at 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:27 PM
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If this isn't Eddie Money's Take Me Home Tonight... Jk. Scorpions are fine, my parents needed some soundtrack to make me to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:56 PM
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I found the counterculture guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:55 PM
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Idk why people are so convinced that their generation is so different from the ones before it. "Well the internet..." changed our lives on a surface level because we still have the same piece of meat between our ears controlling everything. The tools may advance, but the meat stays the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:54 PM
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The AIDS crisis would like to have a word with you...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:50 PM
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You mean the chicks dont dig the X's on my hands?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:48 PM
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It's that dang ol feminine conspiracy plot to blame all sexless men for the world's problems I tell ya. Edit: /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:43 PM
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Please don't operate in whatever way someone on this sub tells you to. It's like asking a room full of smokers how not to get cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:42 PM
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wrt?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:06 PM
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I agree. Honestly, as long as you and your SO have a healthy relationship, there is nothing wrong with settling because you both have a chance to grow and make each other better than who you were when you got together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:04 PM
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Brother, they tell usually tell inexperienced, naive women those platitudes so they dont end up in a relationship with a shithead who will hurt them or abandon them. And if you grew up in a religious background then you would understand the internalized shame (male or female, but mainly aimed a females) that comes with trying out any sexual discovery. Now, do assholes (who can be women or men) use said sentiments to be awful people? Yes, absolutley but they would have found a reason/excuse even …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:59 PM
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Would you agree that literally all of those same factors can be applied to men to make them shit tier? And I dont even mean that in a sexual connection kind of way. Like, if you had a male friend with any of those traits it could make them a shitty person to be around, yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:45 PM
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Would you agree that literally all of those same factors can be applied to men to make them shit tier? And I dont even mean that in a sexual connection kind of way. Like, if you had a male friend with any of those traits it could make them a shitty person to be around, yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:43 PM
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Is it possible that some women meet fetishistic needs of people on a dating app and this was just evidence of that. Do you know how many women get picked out by men literally based on how meek and mild they look, rather than their attractiveness alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:41 PM
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I'm confused, who do I not have to care for? Men Women Both
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:36 PM
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No, but let me tell you, many of them excel at it. They have always existed and they are the "Chads" and "Beckys" most of y'all talk about. And the ones who aren't getting laid? I shit you not they are hiding amongst you all on here, or red pill, or black pill. Sociopaths use sex for a different purpose than most others- they use it as a validation tool. Basically they use it to justify that they deserve to be alive, and therfore are not a flawed and broken human being. Getting tangled with one …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:31 PM
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I mean, Im trying to but Im realizing I may be preaching to the wrong choir here. Few things suck worse though than losing your virginity and immediatley regretting everything that just happened. Especially when you realize that sex isn't hard if your standards are insanely low and the act itself isnt transformative like every "Coming of Age" indie movie made from 2004-2014 made you think it would be. Shit fucked my head up for a while afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:22 PM
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I mean, most of the time? What made them a 10 in the first place? There are plenty of women, 6-9's who are born in shittier circumstances and due to their parent's socioeconomic status, lack of access to good nutrition, and overall stress will never get to be "a 10". We would all look better if we lived an easier, stressless, more opportunisitic life. The status thing, they get that from their body and that is both a subjective and a finite thing. It can seem like they have a lot, but that also …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:17 PM
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Why would being able to control sexuality make anything any better? Are you talking about the act itself, or sexual behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:02 PM
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Yes, I believe you are mostly correct. I read some of these things and I am thinking "you are essentially describing the divide between labor and captital right now." Weird take- maybe that's what a large percentage of these dudes think they are owed in this society? Like, "we get that our lives are owned by a corporate overlord (hooray free-market libertarianism and all that) but the thing we thought we'd be getting to make up for it all was pussy." It's like the anger at lack of control of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:01 PM
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In what way do you feel the portion of women who are shit tier are causing these men not to marry?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:50 AM
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What about the ones who don't come to terms, the ones who fail to accept their reality, the ones who lash out because of how unfair it all is? Because it's those dudes who the rest of society has had to watch out for. Also, isn't it a bit fatalistic to tell your 13 year old son "the game's rigged against you boy, with pussy comes the power. May as well just come to terms with laying awake for hours at night in a testosterone induced misery or just consider chemical castration now."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 06:49 AM
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gotcha. So, if I am correct in my understanding, you believe that men exercise their right not to marry due to the existence of a percentage of shit tier women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:51 AM
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I get where you are coming from but we are talking about a portion of the the female population, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:46 AM
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I hate to turn this into a semantics argument, but do you get how the way you wrote that could lead me to believe you were speaking about all women and not some women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:41 AM
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So you exercise judgement of the men who choose not to marry in good faith and the women who choose not to marry in bad faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:36 AM
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So, and correct me if I am wrong, but you believe access to dating platforms has increased the polarity between haves and have-nots, with men coming out on the losing side? And that these dating platforms have radically changed the way humans interract and approach sexual/romantic partnerships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 04:34 AM
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While I agree with you that, yes, mainstream progressivism has been corrupted countless times, couldn't this sentiment be applied to basically every other political ideology?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:59 AM
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Do you think this is only happening in societies who have access to this tool?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:51 AM
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I would like to state I am enjoying this rhetorical argument with you and I thank you for having the patience to do so. Are you insinuating that humans are similar to locusts, in that certain stimuli are capable of changing our brains as a group?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:26 AM
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Depends, do I live in Tulsa or Chicago in this hypothetical? Depending on the size of their community and how widely read their newspaper is, it could change things quite a bit. Because I can guarantee you many of those people were getting some wild-ass replies to putting themselves out there, same as they do today. We keep streamlining the meat market, yes, but that does not change the primordial drive we have for the meat market.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:20 AM
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You think it is bad for people to have sex with someone and not feel like shit for it later because of the society they live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:14 AM
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Can you imagine how INFUCKINSANE people must have thought using the classified section of the newspaper to find a romantic partner was back in the day? Oh Hooooly shit, these kids are going to use Alexander Graham Bell's life's work to call a line where someone will say arousing things to them until they orgasm??? What kind of mad world are you talking about!?!? Of course the internet is being used to find dates. People live through different circumstances all the time, but it doesnt change our …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:07 AM
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I don't think there is a link in the large scale. But on the personal scale? Yeah, of course there could be a link. People are weird, people are shitty, people are tired. Everyone has a story, and some of those stories include "I am tired of white men hitting on me on this dating app."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 02:54 AM
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Do you think that might be due to any degree of cultural bias and ingrained prejudice towards said Asian Men within greater western culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 02:46 AM
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I mean, probably because white men are pretty damn common on a dating app in America? "Oh boy, Im being hit on by another white guy, there are so few of them in the western world!" I mean, if you're cruising through Viridian Forest and you keep getting attacked by Caterpie and Weedle, at some point you are not going to care what their special abilities or possible IVs are, you are just going to get tired of dealing with them- which may or may not be fair to them. Maybe you went into that forest …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 02:28 AM
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I think what happened is the sexual revolution got misused by shitty people and it has progressively morphed into this shitty system that only rewards sociopaths and liars- both men and women. The singles bar evolved to the disco evolved to the club evolved to chat room evolved to the hookup app. Shitty people with complusions finding newer and shittier ways to trick naive people into fucking them as quickly as possible so they can feel validated and alive for a little while longer. The people b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 02:06 AM
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I would disagree. I honestly believe that no matter how much we advance as a society, human society doesnt just change at the drop of a hat. I believe about the the same percentage of women and men who werent going to get laid in 1922 is the same as 2022. Shit, if anything society is so varied now that you might have a better chance because usefullness to the community isnt dictated by how well you chop wood or ride a horse. Insane thing is, 20 years from now, some other guy is going to look bac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:59 AM
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Do you think it's possible for you to have sex with a person and then realize that you are not compatable with them and have no intention to commit to them? Like, the moment you ejaculate, all of these things you thought about yourself and how it all would be just crumble like a house of cards and you think "yeaaah no, not with you."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:52 AM
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Sex is a broad category that is much more art than science. Just because a woman can get a man to have sex with them, doesn't mean it's the kind of sex she wants or needs. Shit, I'm a Cis-dude and I have been stuck having a type of sex I didn't want to have. Sometimes you can deal with it, but other times it's so shit that it ruins the whole thing. Just being able to get a key in the lock doesnt mean it's the right key or lock.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:48 AM
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Okay, would you be willing to admit it is a numerical possiblity that a Female 10 could not get matched up on a dating app?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:43 AM
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We kind of have to care in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:41 AM
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About what percentage of men do you believe are not having sex in the current day and age?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:34 AM
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Why do you believe differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:32 AM
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Men also have the freedom not to marry people. Quite a few also choose not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:31 AM
2

May I ask: If women indeed have sexual privelege..... why do you care? How does this help anyone find companionship or intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:24 AM
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This. Thank you. This. Once upon a time, I could not figure out why poor me was not getting noticed or was getting heartbroken all the time until I realized the least common denominator in all my relationship attempts was me. I am not the end all be all of relationships, but if you have any questions feel free to PM me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:20 AM
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Both men and women use other people for sex. Some people are just hypersexual and it makes them do questionable shit. Trying to find a deep seated plot to keep beta/sigma males miserable is going to have y'all chasing your tails.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:27 PM
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The amount of cognitive dissonance in these comments is unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:19 PM
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Exactly, it aint about attractiveness, it's about different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:19 PM
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But thats the thing, cold-approach has never been an ideal way to meet a romantic partner. Its risky, and generally only works in the live-action version of Tinder: a bar or a nightclub. And even then, rhe purpose of that, much like a dating app, is usually sex. I think so many of us are conditioned based on tv and movies to think meet cutes are just happening constantly. No, thats a convenient plot device- and if it happens to you in real life, cool. Most relationship are, and always have been …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:55 AM
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What? No, its very much still like this. Yes we have the internet and it's adding this whole extra step in things, but excluding that, most people get together through shared experiences. Idk if you practice game theory and all that, but this is what PUA mentality and the manosphere program you to think talking to women is. The only people who need to cold-approach everyone they want to hook up with, based on what I have seen of this sub and reddit in general, sociopaths and people on the ASD. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:49 AM
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No. There is no secret cabal trying to keep us all from companionship. If you struggle to express yourself and people find you offputting then that is what will keep you alone. I am not a conventionally attractive person, I have an asymetrical face, and I do not have a "tRaDiTiOnAlLy MaScUlInE" body type. I just stopped doubting my personality, paid a relative amount of attention to pop culture (even the stuff I found dumb) so I would have some social capital to trade, and I learned how to cook …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 12:53 AM
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Lack of companionship can make anyone miserable. The trap a lot of young men fall into IMO, is that they have been programmed in our society that the companionship MUST come in the form of an intimate partner. And, hormonally, testosterone (in either sexes, but statistically higher in males I guess) is designed to make you feel.... some kind of way, if you aren't actively pursuing copulation. But what they don't get is that those feelings can be tempered and testosterone can be worn down through…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:11 PM
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I ask this question in good faith: are you basing that on an educated assumption or actual data? I admit, that answer feels right and I am inclined to agree, but I feel I should ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:57 PM
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Excluding online dating, what kind of societal issues do you think that may be contributing to this issue for lonelier young men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:44 PM
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Is it possible that this is because you are seen as different or exotic in that country and therefore more desirable? Sexuality loves a novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:38 PM
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Isn't the percentage of obese men pretty comparable?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 05:14 PM
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OP, do you know what a Cluster B personality disorder is?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:23 PM
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