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HisPanic25/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 04:16 PM
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Touche' haha!
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 08:55 PM
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You need to re-write that script in your head, you may have been best friends at one time, but now she is worse than a stranger, she lies , cheats, and steals relationships from you. She took advantage of your kindness by upgrading her life with your help in many ways including her employment you secured for her only to spit in your face and laugh while you are now in pain. She's tainted trash now and you shouldn't want what she has become at this point , you deserve someone who matches your ene…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 05:06 PM
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You shouldn't be charged for a question you answered with No action needed on her part. I would challenge that and draw a line with the attorney moving forward
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 03:07 PM
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I'm doin as good as I can. Haven't really got focused on rebuilding my personal life much other than working out with friends and such. Regarding the kids 50/50 schedule it has generally worked , we've even gone 10 days on and 10 days off a handful of times. The kids don't like going back and forth much so even 7 days seems fast for them. I see you have very little ones, I can only imagine how much harder that would be since little kids are so needy and require constant attention, especially the…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 04:10 AM
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Don't assume auto-alimony and concede anything, I would fight or keep something valuable like more of 401k and not fight to take her pension, the income gap isn't that large and the good news is she works and has a pension so she can survive without your alimony, if genders were reversed rarely do women pay alimony and men are socially blasted for it if they pursue it in your situation. Try to do it amicably if she can still talk sense, the leverage we have as men is we can also drag it out and …
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 11:56 PM
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Document and record as much of that behavior you can, one day if she tries to manipulate your kids against you , you can show them the truth. Having that in my back pocket shifted my mindset completely to not give a shit about her trash behavior and gave me a motivation to document and laugh at the insanity more and more, ultimately moving on. I hope the day doesn't come where I need to show it, but I'd have no problem if it were to set the record straight.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/26 04:02 PM
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Half is extreme, should be 1/4 or 1/3 of your income at best since Alimony is after tax income now for you so any money you pay her is costing you a good 20%+ more depending on your income. 20 year marriage I'd fight to pay it for 1/3 the length or like 8 years. Worst case 1/2 the length but then have the alimony taper down for the last few years. Does she work? If not she is expected to work full time once divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 03:51 AM
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For me, AI has been way more helpful and direct with constructive advice than paying $150 an hour for an agreeable therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 03:58 PM
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I'd turn the tables on him, ramp up your shit taunting to 1000%...like others have said call him out for coming in for your leftovers, attack his manhood, upbringing, anything you can see that gets under his skin- find his pressure points. It's better to get him to swing at or get physical with you, that would be a huge favor he'd give you for getting a restraining order against him and more protective custody with your kids since your ex is putting them in danger being around this loser.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 04:00 PM
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50/50 really is best in most situations. It does suck being away from them for 7 days (week on week off), but the 7 days I have them it feels like more quality time than when we were married under 1 roof. Plus there's always some kids sport or school function in the off weeks where I'll see them. The benefit in my opinion of week on week off is that week off I can really focus on rebuilding my life, hobbies, new relationships when the time comes. Travel is easier if I plan to take a trip in the …
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 11:30 PM
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I think it's Ok to tell the kids individually (if they ask) that it wasn't your decision and you wish it could be different but it takes 2 people to want to keep a marriage together, so you unfortunately have to go along with her decision, but that you both love them and you'll always be there for them etc... You don't have to accept and take equal responsibility to the kids of her narrative of a joint shared desire for divorce/breaking up the family. She will need to own that to a degree if she…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 05:20 PM
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You should dig in on certain things like 50/50 joint custody. That's a hill worth dying on and not allowing divorce to be finalized until that's met. That will be the best for your relationship with kids and theirs with each of you. That will also show to kids how important they are to you that they will understand one day if not right away. The angst should be fuel to hold the line and not concede on what's best and fair.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 05:11 PM
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My ex was very very similar. Childhood trauma for which she blamed her mom and despised her mom for always seeking attention. She is a clone of her mom, my oldest child said that to her and has also said why are you always the victim? She goes from calm to rage in seconds if she's confronted with a mirror of truth/reality that doesn't conform with her self centered view of things of how great she is and how much she does for everyone, she discounted everything I did or criticized it to be pointl…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:23 PM
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Therapy is just a box you check but rarely rights the ship imho. When you know you know, if that spark has died she likely grieved the relationship years ago but is in denial. I would just initiate the divorce amicably if possible and try and expedite it, that would be the best test to see if that sparks change in her- if she fears losing you, it's likely what she wants to happen she just didn't want to initiate it. In the off chance she freaks out and doesn't want the divorce then maybe she cha…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 04:54 PM
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Don't let her guide this divorce through like she wants, make sure if you guys are trying to do it online/amicably you have your non-negotiables. Don't accept anything less than 50/50 joint custody. Don't move out of the house, she is already cheating so simply tell her she needs to find a new place and you can help her find it close-by so it's easier on the kids but you won't be moving anywhere else, it's a big advantage for your relationship with kids if you can keep their 'home'. Store any an…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 04:45 PM
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Why would you move out of your house? especially with the mortgage in your name... At this point you may want to consider moving back in since it is your house she can't stop that. If you move back in that may make it uncomfortable enough for her to want to move out.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 04:37 PM
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I think if you can find a way back to the primary bedroom to sleep or at least make her alternate weeks with you of who sleeps in guest room it’s better, why does she get the primary room? It’s a game of chess and optics , whoever concedes to move out of bedroom or becomes more of the 2nd class citizen in the house over time is the one who usually ends up moving out or losing the house since even the kids see you’ve been banished to guest room and that’s bs. The only option to me was either stay…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 07:58 PM
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I refused to move out of house and the master bedroom. It was a standoff for a few months where she would bitch before bed that she didn’t want to share a room and needed space, I always said the same thing; We have a guest room your welcome to sleep there if you really don’t want to share a room, I’d prefer we sleep here together so I’m not going anywhere. She eventually started sleeping in guest room lol, after about 6-7 months of that we started divorce process. I played it the same and said …
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 03:09 AM
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Mine did the same, I did eventually confront her about the daily selfies and attention seeking. It doesn't do any good and they cannot be reasoned with it if it's an addiction. Mine ramped up the use over the course of a couple years. Same thing, external validation is a helluva drug and kept her ego high as a kite causing her to devalue real realtionships with me and close friends. I finally confronted her about it and to spark a conversation asked her if she had ever thought about her use of s…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 04:48 PM
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don't budge on 50/50 custody then, that's becoming standard in many states. we went through it amicably and without lawyers, there was only 1 convo about custody and I said I would fight for years for 50/50 if she wanted more custody, so it would be better if we just both accept that's how it's going to be and it's fair for both, anything other than 50/50 is not fair.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 09:50 PM
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I’m in the same boat , this conversation with kids will be happening soon, it’s a living nightmare and turns my stomach to think about how it will go down and wreck their world, meanwhile shes so self absorbed and detached from reality she has no concern . All about her happiness and finding herself
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 04:01 AM
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This really sucks. Child support doesn't end at 18? my agreement is hashing out that way. There should be a way for the court to compel a spouse to get a full time fucking job especially once your youngest is 18. There is no excuse for a grown ass woman to not have a job when capable while depending on an ex to live. Should be illegal.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 03:47 PM
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This is such good advice! It took me almost 5 years to stop picking up that goddamn mirror, wish i had someone to slap this sense into me years ago when she first told me I think I'm 50/50 on wanting to stay married anymore and I took that as I have to save it!
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 03:34 PM
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give her options, let her settle it fast and uncontested if possible but only if she agrees to be the one to find a new place to live post divorce, 50/50 joint custody but you retain the kids home. the kids will then feel the most stable with you and staying in their home. if she won't go with that drag it out like you said making it as unpleasant as possible for her so she'll settle. my wife came at me the same way after having an affair that boosted her confidence to go relive her 20's and tha…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 05:10 PM
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They speak Spanish in Argentina
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 03:43 PM
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Nope, that needs to be collected/discussed upfront. In fact when scheduling the consultation that should be brought up by her assistant/scheduler before scheduling you to see if you are Ok with that otherwise the assumption is that it is free. You never formally agreed to a consultation fee or signed a retainer agreement prior to your consult, that's her bad.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 09:46 PM
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If your paying her any kind of support I would negotiate a string attached to that you will claim them on taxes for as long as support is paid, since support is not taxed for her and you are paying it with after tax dollars.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 09:41 PM
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You can give her ridiculous orders as well and see if she'll follow them....she won't and when she asks if you've lost your mind say have you lost yours? no way i'm leaving my home, paying you xyz , etc. Custody should be 50/50 unless she wants to prove why joint custody is not in the kids best interest.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 09:38 PM
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50/50 assets and 50/50 joint custody
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 06:34 PM
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Child support is easier to get modified vs spousal support since it's a state calculator. You have 2 change of circumstances in your favor so it should be recalculated: (Her finishing school and working full time + your job changing and income going down) If you know her new gross monthly income you could plug it into your State's child support calculator with your new income, custody arrangement, and # of kids and see what the reduction would look like. You can petition the family court for the…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/25 04:16 PM
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Spot on. Even when men find themselves in this position many don’t take it, blows my mind, their exes still try and control and manipulate the situation and we men can be dumb enough to say there’s honor in letting them get away with not paying what we would have to pay them if roles were reversed
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 04:16 AM
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Embrace the discomfort , let your lawyer do his job to get the most for you. she probably knows you will fold this way don’t let her be right, it’s wishful thinking that she will be amicable. You can try and be amicable once you have joint custody, spousal support , and your legal share of the estate. Why would you fold when she’ll likely treat you like shit whether you fold or stand up for yourself? So keep your dignity and don’t let her call the financial shots when the law isn’t on her side
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 04:10 AM
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Why are you against alimony ? You deserve it in this case , she would fight tooth and nail for it if reversed. Don’t back down from 50/50 custody either, most states favor that these days , she has more to lose then you since she makes the big bucks, she doesn’t get to call the shots, call her bluff and let it go to court if needed
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 04:03 AM
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Why didn't you keep the house? or force the sale of it?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 01:57 AM
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Yes just carve out House/Current Retirement amount pre-marriage in a Prenup. You will have to split your estate above and beyond that but that is a basic pre-nup that holds up well. If she'll sign it you could do a Pre-nup and post-nup to even reduce the payout from earnings post marriage. Since you've already gone through the painful Divorce settlement the convo shouldn't be too hard for her to understand why at this point in life a Pre-nup is a no brainer. Being able to have that convo with he…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:21 PM
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It’s not normal if she said let’s do it amicably/uncontested. She just made it contested.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 07:37 PM
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She just pulled the pin, run for cover and lawyer up. Drag it as long as possible , counter attack with delaying it forever through legal action if she is the one who wants it settled quick. You can delay for years or threaten to or she can sit back down and settle it ‘amicably’ to shorten it. That’s the best leverage some men have. In the meantime know this is now a business negotiation with an enemy, find what is important to her and take it off the table , force a reasonable settlement or mak…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 07:35 PM
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You are giving way too much credit to lawyers representing men. 99% of men who "get taken to the cleaners" have lawyers and good ones. The system unfortunately greatly favors the woman and her lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/25 10:55 PM
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