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Ridiculous stance. Racism exists everywhere at an institutionaluzed level and has a long history of discrimination against marginalized communities and actively ruining lives, including literal slavery. No one's life is actually impacted just because a guy isn't having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:16 PM
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shamed by who? the internet? this isn't real
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:00 PM
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nobody cares that much about you. it's all in your head because you are the protagonist of your own life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:58 PM
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scarcity creates demand and mystery.
/r/seduction18/10/21 09:20 PM
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idk who Todd V is, but Corey was running game and has experience from an era where texting wasn't the default means of human communication. Nowadays, it's basically impossible to argue against texting because that's just the world we live in. That said, less is more in the initial phases for sure. It's not possible to actually build rapport or interest over text, so running your mouth over text before you've even been in a single date can only lead to fuck ups.
/r/seduction10/10/21 04:32 PM
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I mean, you're literally just making that up. But ok.
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:58 PM
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Taking it slow is the reason why every other post on this sub is by some poor guy stuck in the friendzone. Of course you're down to fuck. Women already assume you want to fuck. So when you pussy out and go with "hey lets get coffee" then you're trying to weasel your way into her pants instead of being a man about it, and thats when you get hit with the "I thought we were just friends" line.
/r/seduction09/10/21 06:42 PM
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I would disagree with this advice. asking for a date right away immidiately polarizes your demographics. if she says yes, great., it's with full disclosure that you intend to make things romantic/sexual, so you have a easier time escalating later. if she says no, then it wouldn't have worked out anyway. Generally a good approach is one good conversation to establish rapport and then say something like "hey, can I have your number? I'd like to take you out on a date next weekend if you're availab…
/r/seduction09/10/21 05:04 PM
1

lmao you don't know shit. you're a simp
/r/seduction24/09/21 08:42 PM
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if you are so desperate and have so little success with women that you chasing after "this one special girl" in a relationship, then you aren't good enough to get her anyway, cuz you obviously a beta bitch.
/r/seduction24/09/21 08:05 PM
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you're delusional
/r/seduction24/09/21 11:40 AM
7

dude she has a boyfriend. wake up. she's not interested in you.
/r/seduction24/09/21 10:58 AM
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she seemed to have a bit of a thing for me but had bf (who is still her bf). stopped reading here. don't do it.
/r/seduction24/09/21 10:31 AM
7

from your own descriptions, your patterns of thought process and emotion management are way too toxic and complex to be amenable to advice from strangers in simple reddit posts. the good news is you seem somewhat self aware and already trying to seek help. good for you, hope it goes well
/r/seduction19/09/21 03:15 PM
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you need professional help
/r/seduction19/09/21 02:59 PM
3

have opinions on things. politics, religion, movies, books, fashion, stock market, whatever having a interesting personality is just having a bunch of opinions on shit and being able to express it, even if others disagree the problem most guys face is they are afraid of offening anyone, and especially women, so they avoid having opinions, and they are therefore boring and overly accomadating
/r/seduction16/09/21 08:09 PM
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she's not "scared of commitment", she just doesnt want to be committed *to you*. If brad pitt took her on a date do you think she would be "scared of commitment"? No. Do not put all you eggs in this basket.
/r/seduction06/09/21 05:17 PM
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if you actuality try, yea
/r/seduction04/09/21 02:25 AM
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Just the common stuff you see here. Outcome independence, nonneediness, self care and self love, assume attraction. Read Models by Mark Mansion, and How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne. Tbh most of the battle is just getting rid of whatever self defeating beliefs you have about yourself, and stop assuming the worst about women. They are only human too.
/r/seduction04/09/21 02:22 AM
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I appreciate your efforts to improve the community. the sad thing is that this sub is heavily overlapped with the "forever alone/incel" demographic of men who aren't genuinely interested in learning or working towards improve themselves, but rather just want their own toxic worldview of women (i.e. women only like money/height/whatever) to be justified and supported by internet strangers. I used to be a big fan of this sub when I was first starting out years ago, but fast forward to now where I'…
/r/seduction03/09/21 08:43 PM
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I get the point you're trying to make, but you aren't getting what I'm saying. I'm saying, if you already have a girlfriend to go home and fuck, it's incredibly easy to not be needy toward other girls, because whatever relationship you may or may not have with them is inconsequential. so, OP humble bragging about picking up women when he already has a wife is boring advice people being generally needy, even within the context of a relationship, is a different topic.
/r/seduction03/09/21 02:13 AM
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this is post is like a vegan reading a cookbook for meat eaters and saying they don't understand how the recipes could be any good
/r/seduction03/09/21 02:07 AM
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being non needy is incredibly easy if you already have a girlfriend/ wife. try it
/r/seduction03/09/21 01:59 AM
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if anything, it's actually easier. you have 0 expectations at baseline for any of these relationships because you literally have a wife lol happy it worked out for you, but nonneediness is really easy if you're already taken. it's a tale as old as time, women are attracted to guys in relationships for this very reason.
/r/seduction02/09/21 05:46 PM
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volunteering with the ulterior motive of meeting girls is a waste of everyone's time
/r/seduction01/09/21 08:42 PM
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just doing her job
/r/seduction31/08/21 09:43 PM
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this is like asking why you can't become a millionaire if you're only willing to invest $10 in the stock market
/r/seduction26/08/21 11:27 PM
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the 3rd option is never to put yourself in the position to get friendzoned. Never befriend girls you wanna fuck.
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:29 PM
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she probably just feels bad/self conscious about the period sex and doesnt know how to address it in a way that doesnt make her lose face, so its just easier for her to find someone else. If its genuinely bneen 2 weeks and you havent said shit, its probably worth one more text, something super casual and shows you dont give a fuck about the incident. Something like "hey babe, its been a while, are you free this weekend to do blah blah blah?" If she doesnt respond then forget it
/r/seduction22/08/21 10:03 PM
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do not "confess your feelings" just ask her out and be chill about it if she isnt interested
/r/seduction22/08/21 05:47 PM
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being friends and being friendzoned aren't the same thing
/r/seduction21/08/21 10:33 AM
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the friend zone is something that every guy probably goes through once, and is an important learning experience, but it should really never happen again. If you find yourself being friendzoned by multiple women continuously, there a big problem with your appriach to romance/sexual relationships.
/r/seduction20/08/21 04:07 PM
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next time a girl asks you about your sex game, don't say some lame shit like "I'm in a dry spell". you don't get brownie points for honesty.
/r/seduction19/08/21 03:40 PM
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Just talk to him and tell him what you want/dont want. this has nothing to do with seduction.
/r/seduction08/08/21 04:11 PM
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"hey this is probably dumb, but i never caught your name?"
/r/seduction31/07/21 06:59 PM
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Models is the only book about attraction you ever need to read if you actually understand and internalize what's being said.
/r/seduction28/07/21 04:06 PM
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well said
/r/seduction26/07/21 02:34 PM
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Kindergarden level self help book. Boring/useless if you have even one iota of social skills. The entire book is basically "be nice, and whatever you do, don't be mean"
/r/seduction23/07/21 02:51 PM
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loving deeply but moving on to the next thill quickly are literally incompatible traits
/r/seduction13/07/21 05:44 PM
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read and really digest the teachings in Models by Mark Manson
/r/seduction20/06/21 10:21 PM
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I'm not disagreeing that muscles help. Sure they do. And if you feel that strongly about it, just go to the gym then. But also women don't have any "higher" standards than men. Just look around the world at the millions of nonmuscular or frankly out of shape men in the world in relationships/hooking up. It's not even really a point worth arguing because it's so plainly obvious. Just get ripped if you want to. At least you have control over that.
/r/seduction12/06/21 01:13 AM
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Women like muscles yes.. But the number of women who ONLY like guys with muscles, and not other guys, is approaching 0 it's like how Men like tits. All men like breasts, but the number of men who only like a particular cup size and will exclude a woman as a potential partner on that fact alone is practically 0.
/r/seduction12/06/21 12:54 AM
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One thing that works well for me is to avoid all that bullshit and get ahead of it upfront. What I do is I say from the very first interaction, maybe at the end or whenever i feel like it really throughout the convo, "hey do you a boyfriend? I'd like to take you on a date sometime, can I have your number?" This accomplishes a few things all at once. First, it establishes if she's availbable. Whether she has a boyfriend or not isnt really the point, but if she's not into you for whatever reason, …
/r/seduction02/06/21 03:58 PM
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You're confusing two different concepts. What Models and other material suggest about the limited texting is assuming you've actually built some sort of in person interaction and then trying to follow up to coordinate dating logistics via texting. ​ What you're talking about is trying to land a date from tinder, which is basically like cold approaching via text. That's entirely different. If you match on tinder or something and then just send 1 or 2 texts to ask for a date, that's like cold appr…
/r/seduction02/06/21 01:35 PM
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social game. outside of online dating, probably 99% of relationships come from social game. friends of friends, work, church, hobbies etc practically no one is cold approaching in real life
/r/seduction30/05/21 05:07 PM
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its not you, its her
/r/seduction26/05/21 11:01 AM
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there's also the other side of the coin where posting everything on social media removes all the mystique. you are whatever you present, and people can, and often are, just be lazy and form parasoical relationships with your online persona and never really bother to meet offline. You are also competing with WAY more other dudes on social media than irl. Being off social media has the added benefit of being mysterious, and plays into the theme of "absence makes the heart grow fonder". But the cav…
/r/seduction21/05/21 03:10 PM
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you're good looking bro and im really not just saying that out of pity or some shit. Put yourself out there and be social and you can def pull. good luck
/r/seduction12/05/21 03:59 AM
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this exactly is why you don't give her yours. you're waiting on her to "build up the courage" or even remember/ care to text you. don't do this
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:58 PM
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my experience has been that basically everyone is like this and it has nothing to do with looks
/r/seduction02/04/21 01:52 AM
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couldnt disagree more
/r/seduction29/03/21 03:39 AM
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what it means is, you have to do the physicla/mental/emotional groundwork necessary to see yourself as the prize. You are a catch. If a woman doesnt see that or chooses someone else, thats her loss. You were just inviting her along for the ride into your amazing life.
/r/seduction23/03/21 11:16 PM
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the real secret is to start thinking of yourself as the prize.
/r/seduction23/03/21 04:20 PM
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lmao this is so funny
/r/seduction13/03/21 05:24 PM
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just be chill. she may come around eventually Next time something like this happens, don't sympathize and be like "I also wanted to bring this up"... even if it's true. it's just a weak position Just say "I m sorry to hear that but I understand. Good luck with everything, hit me up if you change your mind" or something along those lines
/r/seduction04/03/21 04:22 AM
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nah
/r/seduction16/01/21 06:09 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_cnbV_OSi4
/r/seduction15/01/21 12:22 AM
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Two pieces of advice, both of which you probably won't listen to but whatever *shrug* 1 The real answer is, you shouldn't get back with her. But if you really insist, the only way to do it is complete no contact, absolute 0, and she may come around and reach out to you in the future. But you have to be entirely fine with the possibility that its over and she may just never be interested in reaching out again. If you do anything else, i.e. contact her first, it probably wont work. Also, see #1.
/r/seduction15/01/21 12:11 AM
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"Yes. Friday, 9 pm, *address*" Anything other than strictly logistics is losing response imo
/r/seduction14/01/21 01:45 AM
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old flames never die
/r/seduction06/01/21 09:16 PM
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stopped reading at "almost all women date up". Thats just absurdly untrue lol
/r/seduction13/12/20 06:41 PM
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this is a well uinderstood phenomena in seduction circles. Typically the less successful guys are also the kind of naturally highly analytical/introspective personalities. The common pitfall is believing that you will get better at this stuff if you only understood it more or analyzed it better. It works in in almost every other avenue of life so guys typically have the same pattern in regards to seduction, but OP is right that ultimately you have to actually go put things into practice and stop…
/r/seduction30/11/20 05:24 PM
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in that case, it depends on whether youve slept with her or not. If you havent slept with her, dont respond. If you have, just say something funny or send her a stupid meme or something
/r/seduction28/11/20 12:17 AM
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invite her over
/r/seduction27/11/20 11:47 PM
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Who taught you how to date? Barnie the Dinosaur?
/r/seduction18/11/20 01:21 AM
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Buying dinner for a date is one thing. A grown ass adult traveling across cities to stay at a goddamn strangers house just to "hang out". Are you 14? Sex is 100% on the table and if you're gonna be a little bitch about it and ask her to sleep in the spare bedroom, this is the wrong sub for you, sorry.
/r/seduction18/11/20 12:52 AM
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So you travel from your city, to his city, to his house, and you're concerned about being "uncomfortable" lmao enjoy your friendships, but this isnt the right sub for you to be giving advice
/r/seduction17/11/20 05:24 PM
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HELL no. Imagine having a woman literally travel from another city to be with you and you put her in the spare bedroom lmao
/r/seduction17/11/20 05:21 PM
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its lower than you think
/r/seduction13/11/20 05:51 PM
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Dont message her a damn thing about your emotional insecurities. "Pouring out your heart" is an emotionally manipulative and unattractive thing to do. She literally hasn't done anything wrong and you want to go send her some long, abusive text about how she hurt you? and you somehow think that will make her like you? Bro come on.
/r/seduction25/10/20 05:10 AM
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say "alright. thats cool. see you around then" and then leave her alone unless she makes the first move. she wouldnt tell you that and stil lcontinue hanging out unless she actually wants to hook up, but is afraid for whatever reason. If you back off completely, you will force her to either choose between letting go of her bullshit ego, or losing you forever. Guess which one she'll choose.
/r/seduction20/10/20 04:03 AM
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Assuming you have other means of contacting her, like test/phone number. its actually the opposite. not having social media will put you ahead and set you apart from the 100s of guys giving her attention on social media because its all just white noise.
/r/seduction19/10/20 08:21 PM
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this doesn't address the question at all.
/r/seduction17/10/20 11:39 PM
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the same reason people buy name brand products. If you're in a position to select an option with limited info at hand, you will almost always choose the one that other people at least seem to like, even if you dont know why. the entire industry of marketing/advertising is based on this principle.
/r/seduction17/10/20 11:38 PM
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Every new stage of life is a new opportunity to be whoever you want. No one knows you, you now have the chance to create whatever story you want for yourself. just have to go do it.
/r/seduction12/10/20 07:01 PM
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If game was baseball: college is like having so many at bats that you're bound to hit the ball eventually, even by dumb luck. Post-college is like you have less at bats but you're a way more skilled batter and you can easily have an absurd batting average because you put the ball in play way more per at bat.
/r/seduction12/10/20 05:14 PM
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dont say shit
/r/seduction06/10/20 03:10 PM
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models teaches to be emotionally honest and open. NMMNG teaches to be mysterious and not give yourself up to other people, particularly at your own cost. Ive found Models to be a much better paradigm to live by
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:13 PM
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thats a dismissal not a shit test
/r/seduction23/09/20 10:16 PM
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entirely depends on what you mean by you've "been with" him. If you mean you've been in a mutual commited elationship, hang out almost daily with and without sexual intimacy, then you could open the conversation. If you just mean you see each other for weekend hook ups for a year, then yea, dont say that cuz he def doesnt think its that serious.
/r/seduction23/09/20 08:31 PM
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The reason you should go out and salsa dance and learn jujitsu is so that you can actually meet people, and have interesting experiences and maybe make friends with mutual interests. The reason you arent getting laid right now is probably because no one cares about you reaching Platinum Warlock in Minecraft, and you certainly wont meet women or make friends watching netflix on your couch.
/r/seduction17/09/20 11:00 PM
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expecting someone you literally just met to be dependable and available to you from the very beginning is a really impractical worldview.
/r/seduction14/09/20 06:03 PM
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unless you're already in an established and exclusive relationship, never say something like that to a girl you just met or maybe went on a few dates with. it comes across very needy and puts a lot of pressure on her to explain herself to someone she barely even knows.
/r/seduction14/09/20 06:01 PM
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I had a similar conflict with Models vs No More Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/seduction12/09/20 06:15 PM
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drop the video games and anime, or at least significantly cut back. Most women cant relate to those hobbies and there's nothing interesting to talk about unless the person is already into that same thing. ​ For example, absolutely anyone would be interested in hearing a story from a guy that climbed a mountain. Literally no one is interested in hearing about the latest episode of Hunter X Hunter unless they are already interested in it. There's nothing wrong with video games and anime and you ca…
/r/seduction08/08/20 05:12 PM
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models and corey wayne are basically saying exactly opposite things lol models: be open, be vulnerable, be upfront with your intentions and emotionally open corey wayne: be mysterious, dont talk abut your feelings, dont talk about anything until she commits first
/r/seduction04/08/20 04:23 PM
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have you read Models?
/r/seduction03/08/20 02:31 AM
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pimpin aint easy
/r/seduction28/07/20 08:06 PM
1

sure, but dont be a bitch about a bar tab either then
/r/seduction24/07/20 01:43 AM
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Seriously, and if copping a 80 dollar bill is a huge financial burden for you, you shouldnt be dating at all until you sort that shit out.
/r/seduction22/07/20 07:53 PM
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I honestly cant tell if this is satire.
/r/seduction15/07/20 07:17 AM
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which is somehow worse than getting butthurt and deleting all her contacts just because she wasnt interested at the time? THAT is what shows low self esteem.
/r/seduction01/07/20 01:09 AM
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all OP is saying is dont cut ties. that could be as simple as not deleting their number/social media contact. Things DO turn around sometimes.
/r/seduction30/06/20 04:36 PM
2

just dm him
/r/seduction10/06/20 01:26 AM
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godspeed champ
/r/seduction07/06/20 12:12 AM
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Yea that's probably fine, I would say some shit like that for sure, and it subcommunicates that you arent just trying to be friends, which saves time on the back end, because if shes not into anything more, you wont waste much time.
/r/seduction06/06/20 05:15 PM
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Dont express anything like how you've missed her or anything. Its putting her on a pedastal unnecessarily and she hasnt earned it. Just pick it up right where you left off, super confident. "hey good to hear from you! let me take you to the beach so we can catch up" something like that.
/r/seduction06/06/20 05:05 PM
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even better
/r/seduction30/05/20 01:25 AM
20

old flames never die
/r/seduction30/05/20 01:06 AM
0

agreeing to a date at your place has strong imlications and not something a girl with low interest would likely agree to
/r/seduction22/05/20 09:28 PM
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if by "ask her out" you mean on a date, then sure. If you mean ask her to be your gf or something then definitely do not do that
/r/seduction13/05/20 02:41 AM
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well said
/r/seduction25/04/20 02:47 PM
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bro you need to learn to banter with her and stop tring to have serious emotional conversation over text. if she says your broke her heart, thats the time to say some funny/arrogant/badass shit, not "how" even if she's playing you, you need to play her right back and sto being Mr. Serious, cuz thats boring
/r/seduction04/04/20 12:22 PM
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nothing. if she likes you enough, she will make you a priority. if she doesnt like you that much, then it doesnt matter. theres nothing you can do either way
/r/seduction04/04/20 03:41 AM
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next time you see her in person just tell her something like "hey my phone was outta commission for a bit, whats your number again?" ​ and what kinda neanderthal jabroni are you anyway, using email for game and letting your phone get cut off to begin with. sheesh
/r/seduction19/03/20 01:28 AM
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if you're gonna kiss her, do it on the lips. yall arent children
/r/seduction23/01/20 03:57 PM
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jut because a girl gave you her number doesnt mean she's interested lmao numbers mean nothing
/r/seduction19/01/20 05:54 AM
1

"hey, wanna grab coffee?"
/r/seduction17/01/20 03:19 AM
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without the texts its hard to really learn anything from this post.
/r/seduction14/01/20 03:12 AM
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post the texts
/r/seduction14/01/20 02:41 AM
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The only way to move past it is to actually shoot your shot. Eiter you'll get rejected and can move on knowing its not "mixed signals", or you'll hook up with her. doing anything else is wasted time.
/r/seduction19/12/19 01:48 PM
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> I just had a breakup and in the process of moving out. Ah, one of the classic blunders. Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
/r/seduction03/12/19 02:05 PM
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What's "extremely dark" about it? If you're being strictly friends and nothing more, then call it that. This concept that you "friendzone" someone is bullshit. All you're really saying is "we're nothing more than friends". Thats not impressive or a sign of self respect...thats just being normal.
/r/seduction26/11/19 01:00 AM
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Counterpoint: men friendzone women all the time. The male "friendzone" is basically disqualifying a woman from having an actual relationship with you, and instead placing her in a status of "sex only". Men do this all the time, dating and sleeping with women with no real intention of forming a true relationship. That is the male version of friendzone.
/r/seduction25/11/19 11:28 PM
3

well happy you learned from it homie
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:22 AM
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seems like a wasted opportunity to me. You wanted to prove (to who tho?) that women are less likely to text first? I thought that was common knowledge
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:16 AM
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Its al situation. "Cold" approaches work in situations like conferences or hostels or whatever because people are basically looking to meet people, and dont really need any excuse other than "we are both at this thing / what brings your here". Clubs, bars, festivals etc need much more social ame because the nature of the environment is way more ephemeral, so you have to show you're bringing value to a fluid situation.
/r/seduction01/10/19 11:49 PM
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there's a small chance thats just her "style" when it comes to texting. but most likely she probably doesnt like you that much, yet.
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:11 AM
4

"i aint a playa but i crush a lot"
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:05 AM
1

hahaha
/r/seduction09/09/19 04:51 PM
2

you told a girl with a bf of 6 years she must not love him and all sorts of other pathetic shit just because she wasnt married. You dont know anything about her or her bf and you had a little meltdown when you found out she had a bf and left. ​ Even if you managed to trick a girl like that into dating you, you'd never be able to keep her because you come across incredibly insecure.
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:55 AM
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i mean, sure, you had nothing to lose. But that girl was basically giving advice that equates to "i wish more guys would persist in trying to date me after I reject them just once" what the fuck. never watch one of her fucking vids again
/r/seduction03/09/19 02:15 AM
1

terrible advice lmao the first line is good but everything else awful
/r/seduction10/08/19 10:03 PM
5

true dat. If anything its women that overthink things
/r/seduction27/07/19 07:23 PM
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> You must be schrodinger's cuck if you're somehow single and not single at the same time LMAO best thing i've heard n a while
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:12 AM
1

> she felt like I was doing them only because she told me to and not because she wanted me to ugh. This is the worse. Thats literally code for her saying "I can see that you're trying, but trying isnt enough, you have to read my mind to know what I want BEFORE i have to communicate with you" ​ Ask yourself if any reasonable/sane person would think some bullshit like that. Move on fam
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:06 AM
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You dont even need any witty reply. Basically every shit test can be resolved with a smile, and a shrug that says "i dont really care if you feel that way"
/r/seduction17/07/19 06:44 PM
1

> Why do women always expect to feel this spark after ONE date ​ TV and pop culture
/r/seduction25/06/19 11:30 PM
3

"hey, nice meeting you. I working X night, come by for a drink"
/r/seduction26/05/19 05:42 PM
1

There is no salvaging this. Do not get back with her. Its gonna hurt for a while but you'll get better.
/r/seduction26/05/19 05:45 AM
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"frame of the relationship" lol I guess if you're a total chump it could be a big deal that you dont want to get taken advantage of (or something?). But if you're a normal human being, chances are, its just a date, she'll just think its a nice gesture, and both of you will move on with your lives in a natural way. All the discussion about should a guy pay for a date or not is one of the dumbest concepts in seduction imo. Oh wow, you split the bill, you sure showed her who's boss...
/r/seduction22/05/19 08:19 PM
2

Unless she offers, I just pay. 50 bucks or whatever isnt some huge deal, and if it is, you should be focusing on other things and not women
/r/seduction22/05/19 05:33 PM
1

It sounds like you fucked up bad. Definitely dont contact her again until/unless its about something completely neutral, like school work or something. And if/when you do get a chance to do that, DO NOT do it with the expectation that you will reignite the spark. You have to basically start over. But why didnt you just enjoy the ride for what it was, why did you need to bring up feelings at all?
/r/seduction15/04/19 04:41 PM
3

LMAO
/r/seduction22/03/19 01:09 AM
11

winner chicken dinner
/r/seduction22/03/19 01:08 AM
14

everyone is saying she isnt interested (which may be true), but you also did a shit job at asking her out. She told you she had plans, and you responding by suggesting a date? wtf... I
/r/seduction18/03/19 01:48 AM
6

I'm not a proponent of social media, but intentionally and offensively refusing to interact with socia media does literally nothing for your game. If a girl asks you to exchange folows on IG and you basically laugh in her face and make her feel bad about it, thats one less woman you could potentially have a positive experience with. ​ You dont have to be a social media junkie, but it doesnt hurt to be a normal fucking person either.
/r/seduction14/11/18 04:28 PM
1

are you saying you have a ferrari and still dont get women? lol
/r/seduction26/10/18 06:51 PM
1

"i havent bothered to keep track"" ​
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:48 PM
1

you've been on four dates with her and already like her and worried about losing her. You're way too invested too early and at risk of fucking it all up ​ ​
/r/seduction30/08/18 01:53 AM
5

just say "go out". - "Would you like to go out on friday?" You can add whatever activity after "go out for drinks", "go out to the movies", "go out to dinner" etc. People know what "go out" means and its less formal than "date". But date can be fine too tbh
/r/seduction08/06/18 02:11 AM
5

isnt everything?
/r/seduction19/05/18 11:49 PM
1

Nothing at all would have been fine. would have left it right there if it was me. Or could have transitioned directly into "how was your day" line of convo if thats where he really wanted to go. He established a rapport and flirty vibe, dont ruin the mood by saying "haha jk", thats how you end up in the friendzone.
/r/seduction17/05/18 01:22 AM
2

Hold your ground once you make challenges/advances towards her, backpedaling looks weak. You didnt have to send the "im just fucking with you" text, both of you knew it, and it dimishes the flirtatiousness when you back off like "haha jk" otherwise its fine. Just commit to your game.
/r/seduction16/05/18 10:58 PM
2

unless you have a history of romantic relationship wth this girl then dont say shit.
/r/seduction22/04/18 03:23 PM
4

Guys are always putting themselves out there. Literally the only reason male/female relationships even start is because the guy most likely made a move/asked her out. In the intitial phases of dating, the guy usually does all the courtship, and when the female is ready she typically usually brings up the "where is this going/i want us to be exclusive" talk once she falls for the guy. Until that happens, the guy should just keep courting whoever he sees fit. Its ok if you dont agree or see the re…
/r/seduction04/04/18 08:58 PM
3

As others have no doubt pointed out, picking upwomen/forming romantic relationships isnt about being an asshole, mean, condescending, or negative etc. Its about cultivating a state of nonneediness, stemming from a mentality of abundance and confidence in self that allows you to be the best man you are capable of. I'd suggest you hang around this sub more and read more modern works on the subject. It's about lifestyle.
/r/seduction11/03/18 07:47 PM
1

well how has being a kind generous and considerate person" been working oout for you so far with women?
/r/seduction11/03/18 06:12 PM
1

seems to me like you're being really obtuse, which reaks of cowardice and neediness. i dont see that ending well
/r/seduction07/03/18 10:24 PM
1

Al i would really say is dont worry about impressing them. I garuantee you they arent sizing you up or whatever, it just dudes having a drink. Literally anything you say will be accepted and conversational.
/r/seduction29/12/17 06:08 AM
3

To each their own. Sending one or 2 texts every couple hours, spread over a few days is not hard work. I think this sub (and seduction communities in general) get too caught up in the mantra of "texting is strictly for setting up dates". This isn't the 90s anymore when Game Theory was first coming into play. Nowadays, texting, whatsapp, Tinder etc are HUGE parts of daily life, and by far the primary means by which humans communicate in the modern world. Modern game should reflect the reality of …
/r/seduction28/12/17 06:23 PM
9

To be fair, sending a couple text messages can hardly be considered "effort" its not like he was takng her out on dates, spending money, long phone calls, buying gifts etc.
/r/seduction28/12/17 12:25 AM
1

if she was always making exuses in the past why do you think now will be different? its unlikely girls will make time for guys they are interested in, and if she had legitimate scheduling conflict, she wud offer a compromise. Send the text if you want because you truly have nothing to lose and everything to gain, but also realize that it seems she's just not that into you.
/r/seduction11/12/17 06:46 AM
2

you should have leveraged the angle of at least sleeping with her 1 to 1 first
/r/seduction09/09/17 05:37 PM
4

Just because you dont explicitly say "yes, a date" in that scenario, doesnt mean you arent being upfront with your intentions. Any socially well adjusted person will appreciate the humor, charm and charisma of answering in a sly/witty manner like that and would 100% know that you are obviously implying that YES it is a date. But if she says "like a date?' and you respond plainly in the affirmative, while it is upfront and honest and may very well work, its also boring and there are better avenue…
/r/seduction29/07/17 01:34 AM
4

lmao booze definitely causes memory impairment dude
/r/seduction09/07/17 03:39 PM
1

dont contact her until september unless she opens convo first. First day, greet her with excitement and just be cool , easy excuse to sit next to her. Ask her out EARLY, like within the first week, or at least find out what she's doing that weekend or the next and figure out if you can align schedules to hit up the same event/party/whatever together. Whatever you do, dont procrastinate on taking your friendhsip/relationship outside of the classroom. just dont turn into her History 101 Class Frie…
/r/seduction07/07/17 04:59 AM
2

mind sharing some links wrt guitar? im also interested in taking it up
/r/seduction18/05/17 08:00 PM
7

if sh likes you enough she will eventually bring it up.
/r/seduction06/01/17 07:24 PM
10

instead of "so what do u study in school" u can say "you seem like the nerdy engineering type"
/r/seduction09/12/16 03:52 AM
16

The biggest change in my game changed when i just started being more forward/explicit in my intentions up front. A girl will forgive you for trying to seduce her, but you won't forgive yourself for not.
/r/seduction26/11/16 02:01 AM
1

Hi, I feel the pain in your words. I'm sure you've heard it it before and even thought about this all yourself, but in case you need to see it in writing, I'm going to say it. There's no future with this guy. I know that hurts to hear and accept. I'm sorry. But your lives are totally different, and he has a WHOLE separate life he's happy with. You feel attached to him because of what he helped you through, which is understandable, but you have to start to let him go. Even if you don't find someo…
/r/seduction26/11/16 01:24 AM
1

she's not the one that got away. You've never even spoken to her? Stop idealizing her as a perfect human who would make you fulfilled. Either approach her and see how things go, or forget about her.
/r/seduction18/11/16 02:23 AM
1

what "works" is at least fucking trying, and most guys who have trouble with women don't even do that.
/r/seduction04/11/16 12:26 AM
7

may not be the best place for indepth discussion on this, but generally speaking its advised to cut all contact with the person work on improving yourself (gym, hobbies, career, education etc) start seeing/dating/fucking other people as soon as you feel appropriate
/r/seduction26/10/16 12:55 AM
1

dont read into social media much, people only post their highlights of their lives for others to admire.
/r/seduction26/10/16 12:46 AM
24

Sure you can. All you're doing in the first instance is inviting her out for one night. if she cant make it then, its not impossible to reschedule or work out something else if you want to pursue further.
/r/seduction12/10/16 03:36 AM
3

I recently fucked up a situation very similar to this. I had invited a girl out with me via conversation to which she agreed, and I was going to be her ride to the venue etc. Texting later to arrange logistics, she asked what time am I planning on heading there/should she be ready, and I basically responded with "just let me know whenever you're ready".....no response. Lesson learned, always be leading, always be proactive, not reactive. One of the few times i went against this principles and it…
/r/seduction12/10/16 12:31 AM
81

The idea is that you're going anyway, you're inviting her to become apart of this amazing life you lead, with the implication that if she chooses to miss out on you, thats no biggie, you have an abundant non-needy lifestyle. You're the prize. Whether you actually go alone, or with friends etc is neither here nor there
/r/seduction12/10/16 12:27 AM
4

What i took away from this was that he was just being super vulnerable. Like he straight up told her "hey look, i go out looking to pick up chicks", and then went on to literally tell her he's not looking for friends he basically just wants to fuck lmao. the subcommunication and vulnerability he's showing here is seriously next level game/not giving a fuck.
/r/seduction11/10/16 01:20 AM
4

bro you need to chill, you're already overthinking the hell out of this and become too dependent on the outcome and her liking you and you havent been on a single date yet. You're coming across as really needy already and that alone might ruin things for you if you dont calm down if you already have an established relationship with her via text, as in you already chat with her from time to time that way, then sure, text her and ask her to go out. if that's not the case and you just happen to hav…
/r/seduction23/09/16 01:59 AM
2

just ask her out next class then
/r/seduction23/09/16 01:49 AM
1

refer to #8 and #10
/r/seduction22/09/16 02:51 AM
3

how could you possibly not manage to close in this situation?
/r/seduction18/09/16 09:45 PM
3

Having a good social circle naturally encompasses many aspects of game. You're basically constantly in situations that allow you to open girls with no pressure, kino, and attempt to close. Its not really about getting "lucky", its just that social circles are a more natural form of seduction.
/r/seduction13/09/16 11:17 PM
4

"normal" guys get laid through their social circles.
/r/seduction13/09/16 10:43 PM
2

What she "wants" should come second to what you want. If you want to persue her cuz you find her qualities attractive, then its best to be upfront with your intentions. If she's not interested, she's not interested. If she is interested it would be somewhat apparent from her enthusiasm etc.
/r/seduction31/08/16 09:26 PM
4

The short answer is :yes, women like being chased. The long answer is: women like being chased by men they find attractive. if Brad Pitt walked up to any given woman and opened a conversation, you think ANY single woman would think "oh, no thanks, i dont like being chased" ? Fuck no. they'd jump at the opportunity to be inbolved in his life. The entire point of this seduction isn't to chase women, its to cultivate a life that women want to be a part of. You actively work on things you can change…
/r/seduction31/08/16 04:46 PM
2

You can't win if you don't even play. Giving out advice like "oh just sit back and let the women come to you" is absolute bullshit advice and guaruantees you'll never talk to another woman in your life
/r/seduction31/08/16 04:40 PM
2

why dont you just ask her out? then you could stop with all the secret interpretation of what her texts/body language mean
/r/seduction31/08/16 03:15 AM
5

Nice FR. a couple things if you ever get the "you're hot/do you know your hot/you must get a lot of girls" type of comment, the best response is always to not even let that shit phase you. Take it like you've heard it a million times becuz you are fucking awesome. I usually go with a "so i've been told" with a cheeky as fuck grin. You handled it pretty well -i'd be careful with the no hug/kiss and quickly leave like you're annoyed thing. a lot of girls will find it unattractive that you're upset…
/r/seduction27/08/16 08:57 PM
2

nice!
/r/seduction24/08/16 03:23 AM
5

how'd you pull this kiss? with little kino and basically waiting till the end, there ust have been a lot of 'pressure' on the moment
/r/seduction24/08/16 02:06 AM
2

i'd be interested to know how her bf managed to hook her through tinder if she's as special as you claim
/r/seduction19/08/16 02:23 AM
11

Create the content you wish to see then. If you want to see content on how to pick up girls in a small religious town, then post about it. If someone has a specific question or situation, they are free to ask
/r/seduction18/08/16 09:56 PM
1

You just have to get over that fear. You can live your whole life afrid of what people are thinking, even when they ignore you. Or you can do whatever YOU want to do and enjoy your life. No one can help you but yourself. Goodluck.
/r/seduction11/08/16 01:48 AM
1

From your responses it seems clear that you spend too much time thinking about what other people are going to think about you, and this stops you from doing anything at all. Listen man: people dont give a fuck about you, generally speaking. In fact, people don't give a fuck about other people in general. Everyone is so busy and caught up in THEIR OWN lives, they don't care if you have a profile on a dating website. Stop imagining that people obsess about you and your actions, its really all in y…
/r/seduction11/08/16 12:16 AM
2

Its easier for beginners to receive short, definitive pieces of information to digest and incorporate into practice to start, until they have the experience to appreciate nuance. This is true of every field of study. You can't talk about the intricate nuance of advanced subject material to a beginner right away, they wouldn't learn a damn thing. As people progress and gain experience they can learn for themselves when to apply different stuff. But "never buy a girl a drink" is as good of a jumpi…
/r/seduction26/07/16 07:01 PM
3

its all in foreign language, but from what i can tell from the shitty google translate, its basically asking the girl to tell a short story using the words turte, key, and bridge? is that the gist of it?
/r/seduction25/07/16 03:46 PM
1

in my experience, when you get the "not on the first date" treatment, as long as you play it cool and respect tehir wishes, they'll be head over heels for you for the enxt time because you already proved you're a cool guy who isnt "just" in it for sex (even if you are).
/r/seduction19/07/16 07:22 PM
0

No matter how busy she is, if she was interested enough/attracted enough to you, she would make time to see you. The fact that she's beating around the bush means she probably isn't that interested. My guess is if you hit her up later to hang on thursday, she will make up some excuse about having plans since she already gave herself the out of "playing it by ear". Still, you should try anyway because you have nothing to lose. In regards to your approach in general and for future, I think your ga…
/r/seduction13/07/16 12:53 AM
1

tell her you'd be willing to have sex, but she should know up front that you dont plan on taking it any futher than that. if she still wants to after you make her aware, then why not
/r/seduction28/06/16 06:37 PM
3

Girls don't complain about not being able to get laid, they complain about not finding someone they want to sleep with. Those are two entirely different problems. Usually a girl's problem is that none of the guys they currently interact with interest them sexually so they don't want to sleep with them, and they choose not to sleep with "random" guys for whatever moral seasons. There are inevitably men who want to sleep with them, but they elect not to. But that's a distinctly different problem f…
/r/seduction02/04/16 01:04 AM
4

In regards to the bar girl after the wedding, while I think going with her could have been nice, what you did was also a perfectly reasonable response. You were out with your friends and livign your life, and you didnt just drop everything for some random chick at a bar. That in itself demonstrates value and although you didn't get laid because of it, theres no reason to beat yourself up.
/r/seduction20/02/16 12:54 AM
8

Honestly, the popularization of the "strong silent type of guy" is probably the biggest farce that has succeeded in hampering many men's success with women. That shit only works if you are very good looking, because, who doesn't like good looking people? For everybody else from fair looking to ugly, you're only hurting your own chances by sitting back and "speaking when spoken to" because girls don't have any impetus to talk to you really.
/r/seduction28/01/16 01:16 AM
2

No it wouldnt be the same for girls because the dynamics of relationship seeking are different for the men and women.
/r/seduction08/01/16 01:19 AM
3

that's not what the video or Mark Manson are saying at all.
/r/seduction08/01/16 01:17 AM
3

I think the difference between our reaction to his story hinges on the gravity we place on her being a "model". Consider that this dude posted one success story in a thread that begs the question. If she was some super hot model, or he was some super successful/attractive guy, the likelyhood is that neither of them would need to be on tinder to begin with. Far more likely is that their both just normal people on a dating website looking to fuck, which is what tinder is made for. There's no need …
/r/seduction02/12/15 03:12 AM
3

Or maybe he's just a normal decent looking dude. You're right that if you look like shit this stuff doesn't happen, but you also don't have to be Brad Pitt. Also, "model" is a VERY loose term, and just because a girl says she models doesn't mean shit, and you shouldn't put her on a pedastal because of it.
/r/seduction02/12/15 12:44 AM
20

get better friends
/r/seduction28/08/15 01:01 AM
34

You met a stranger on a plane and she agreed to hang out with you the whole day afterward. That alone is more than enough interest on her part and it basically screams "IM INTERESTED IN YOU". She could have easily used the plane landing as an excuse to leave and never see you again if she wasn't. You could have got way more out of this bro, you just have to get good at recognizing a girl being interested in you. Don't stop believing.
/r/seduction15/08/15 11:49 PM
2

You claim to be a "intelligent secure female" yet you're here getting offensive and derogatory towards us. Your tone and words in this post have shown how little you understand (or care to) about the themes we discuss on this sub. You should take a closer look at yourself before you come here spitting vitriol.
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:46 PM
7

send her a short text saying you'd like to meetup in person and talk it out
/r/seduction05/07/15 04:32 PM
3

she obviously wants attention and to be flirty/sexual. just say whatever bro have some fun, you live on 2 different continents ffs.
/r/seduction15/06/15 08:55 PM
5

If it comes up, tell her in a light way and don't make it super heavy. Answer any questions briefly but DON'T let the date become about you having cancer, because that will kill all sexual vibes. Just make it like, yea i have cancer but fuck it im living life. Good luck man, in this and with everything.
/r/seduction15/06/15 04:37 PM
9

dude, post the others this was very interesting. those lines you said on the plane are gold
/r/seduction01/06/15 01:00 AM
4

Don't be a wenis, wrap your penis.
/r/seduction28/05/15 02:11 AM
1

I like this. going to start using it on the rejection.
/r/seduction20/05/15 11:28 PM
5

10/10 story
/r/seduction19/05/15 03:09 AM
5

lmao
/r/seduction14/04/15 03:51 AM
0

lol my b
/r/seduction12/04/15 03:04 AM
5

Are you kidding? 5'5 is ridiculously short for males
/r/seduction12/04/15 01:42 AM
5

so what if you bring a girl back what are your friends gonna say "haha dude you're so lame for having sex and hooking up with girls what a loser". I'm having trouble picturing how this is a problem
/r/seduction28/03/15 01:06 AM
2

How come the women didn't just leave, O wise one?
/r/seduction12/03/15 10:27 PM
2

Kinda. you started with how u really like this girl and how she has been avoiding you. So it was unclear because it seemed like you wanted to develop a relationship with her. So that why originally I was kinda surprised you were so hung up on one girl, let alone one who already has a bf. If I'm mistaken then I must have misunderstood.
/r/seduction06/03/15 03:05 PM
2

So what are you really trying to say? You're the one worried enough about if some chick is ignoring you to aask for advice on seddit. If you're such a player you wouldn't be concerned about what one girl is doing or thinking.
/r/seduction06/03/15 02:49 PM
1

unless the movie is at her or your house where you can escalate sexually, then yes, do something else. Movies are boring as fuck and you cant talk or do anything. If she rrally wants to see it she'll go another timer with her friends or something.
/r/seduction06/03/15 02:40 PM
2

She has a "real life" boyfriend who she's been cheating on by sleeping around with multiple guys while he recovers from surgery? What the fuck dude. This is the kind of girl you're interested in? If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you.
/r/seduction06/03/15 02:26 PM
1

Never go to movies on the first date. come up with something else more fun amd engaging to do suggest it when you see her (be spontaeneous and fun). you can still go to dinner after/before.
/r/seduction06/03/15 02:17 PM
2

Girls don't care that much about looks dude just have sex
/r/seduction05/03/15 01:20 AM
27

so she decided to sleep in the guest bed afterall. sucks OP
/r/seduction28/02/15 04:09 AM
33

If you "like her" and "respect her" you should have given her the best sex of her life.
/r/seduction15/02/15 05:36 PM
1

maybe she just thinks its a friendly ting why didnt you make it clear it was a date? It would've saved you time and worry if she had said yes to a "date", but here you are not even sure if she thinks its a date or not. Gotta make your intentions clear
/r/seduction14/02/15 12:34 AM
-7

pretty solid advice OP. thanks
/r/seduction07/02/15 05:35 PM
1

Its because most guys (I did) think the vagina is anatomically in the same position as the penis. The penis is kind of at the front of the body, but the vagina is more like, underneath the body if you get what I'm saying. And yea, it's closer to the asshole.
/r/seduction07/02/15 03:40 AM
2

The vagina is further down than you probably think it is
/r/seduction07/02/15 03:23 AM
0

Anything else you can share about "Waking Up: Spirituality for Atheists"? It sounds intriguing.
/r/seduction06/02/15 07:23 PM
2

You fuck her right in the pussy and not worry about being a virgin
/r/seduction29/01/15 05:20 PM
3

People thought you were going to get robbed, lel
/r/seduction26/01/15 02:32 PM
2

Why not just play the game as usual, and go out on dates and stuff as usual and make out with them? You don't have to have sex with them. I guess I'm just confused about what the issue is.
/r/seduction26/01/15 01:57 AM
2

For me this usually happens because of being off in school for months at a time. My method is radio silence until the time is appropriate. Then game them all over again like new. This does a few things: gives her a chance to miss you. Like "man what happened to that guy we used to talk/flirt all the time, I miss the attention" Gives you a chance for self improvement unhindered by thoughts of the chase. So next time you see her she'll notice your growth/maturity minimizes the chances of you being…
/r/seduction25/01/15 11:46 PM
4

Dude take a hint. If she wants to come to your place all you have to do is make a move, you don't have to be smooth or anything. Girls aren't retarded, they know that "wanna come back to my place to hang out" after a date means sex.
/r/seduction24/01/15 10:40 PM
1

If they had a gun they wouldn't bother with all the extra curricular activities.
/r/seduction24/01/15 08:46 PM
-6

lmao you should in all honesty be able to beat 2 girls in a fight
/r/seduction24/01/15 08:17 PM
1

When will you "know" you will 100% get all the way?
/r/seduction24/01/15 05:59 PM
6

Whatever you do, you have to maintain a total frame of "no matter what happens we will still be friends". Like if you fuck her brains out the ngiht before then you all go out as a group, you have to totally just own it like the most regular thing in the world.
/r/seduction24/01/15 05:39 PM
2

To get back into shape over the next 2 months (xmas fat and whatnot) I've also contemplated the idea of going on a date with a different girl every weekend for the rest of the school semester. Mostly for fun and if I get laid in the process then sweet. But the problem is that's probably going to be very expensive, especially if they are "official" dates, so idk how to make it happen exactly so i'll need to brainstorm a bit. Get back into reading holy shit. Only read 6 or 7 books last year becaus…
/r/seduction24/01/15 05:38 AM
25

Everytime topics like this thread (or the Models letter posted by another user) is brought up, my only thought is "if women actually feel this strongly about it, maybe they should pull some of the fucking sexual workload themselves and stop depending on men to do everything" Don't get me wrong, I'm not even mad. I already accept that men have to lead every interaction. That's life. I just wish I could stop reading about women who claim they want something (spontaneous sex is great!) but never bo…
/r/seduction22/01/15 08:10 AM
5

if it isn't "fuck yes" its "no".
/r/seduction07/01/15 05:22 AM
1

I thought the title was stupid and obviously inaccurate, but the points made in this post are actually pretty good despite that.
/r/seduction07/01/15 05:19 AM
3

Don't confront her. If you see her around campus you can maybe say something "hey we never grabbed lunch, u free this weekend?" or something. But the key is to not bother yourself over one girl.
/r/seduction29/12/14 07:00 PM
0

Shocker.
/r/seduction29/12/14 06:58 PM
14

Way to go brother. Positivity is something I live by myself. A similar thing happened with me last christmas where I was connecting with a girl I found really attractive. Even though we weren't exclusive when I found out she was also seeing other guys, my scarcity mentality at the time got the better of me and I got upset and texted her some stuff I really regret. Since then I've learned to be much more positive in all my interactions this year and it has reaped innumerable benefits. Gotta keep …
/r/seduction29/12/14 06:53 PM
6

this was the weirdest FR i've ever read. Reads like an internal monologue from a bad acid trip
/r/seduction20/12/14 04:33 PM
1

Why?
/r/seduction04/12/14 01:37 AM
25

Intentionally not replying to a text just to abuse some fake power you believe in is stupid though.
/r/seduction27/11/14 04:26 AM
2

pls respond
/r/seduction20/11/14 03:45 AM
3

You really don't want to use much "hahahas" in text game though. It comes off as being too funny and friendly - which is fine if you want to be friends - but not very sexual.
/r/seduction16/11/14 06:40 PM
5

You're thinking too much about what she wants and not enough about what you want. Figure out what exactly is you want from her (exclusive/open relationship/casual fuck buddies/best friends forever etc). Once you know what YOU want then the way forward becomes clear. You make your intentions known and if she is down for that then you do it, and if she isn't then you move on.
/r/seduction16/11/14 03:58 AM
1

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking here. So you lost your virginity with her and now you want us to tell you how to make her your girlfriend? You're probably just on a post-sex high. She doesn't have to be your girlfriend man and you don't have to over think it. If you want to ang with her or she makes attempts to keep contact and invites you back then go. If not just let it go.
/r/seduction16/11/14 12:20 AM
36

OR make it clear what you want and cuddle and shit, leave, and then fuck her brains out the next time you see her. You don't have to have sex at the first opportunity every time. You can gain major points in her book for "waiting" and protecting her self-image (girls dont want to feel used blah blah blah). Just assess the situation and play it cool either way. Display outcome independence and non-neediness
/r/seduction12/11/14 12:59 AM
10

Number 3 is a huge point and I used to constantly correct people before I changed in the past 2 years. Biggest thing to realize is that people don't like to feel like they are in the wrong. ever. Just stop correcting/contradicting people.
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:11 AM
1

Interesting take on things.
/r/seduction10/11/14 12:29 AM
1

Cutie is this girl who I have known since beginning of last school year. So thats probably over a year and a half ago and you haven't made a move yet. When you meet a girl you find physically attractive, the only way to avoid the friendzone is to express that attraction to her as soon as possible.
/r/seduction06/11/14 12:45 AM
2

I use the word date because it lets her know that i intend to sleep with her relatively soon. So if she accepts then at the very least she's open to the possibility. It avoids false positives from girls who aren't interested at all and thus polarizes them and keeps me from wasting my time. Vaguely saying "lets hang out" could be misconstrued by her as just wanting to be friends. So you'l get some true positives and some false positives. I just prefer to avoid the latter.
/r/seduction06/11/14 12:33 AM
0

"i really want to kiss you right now" or the more direct "im going to kiss you now", both with a cocky as fuck smile like you just KNOW she wants to do it. alternatively, just go for it without saying a thing.
/r/seduction01/11/14 10:43 PM
1

of the distance between your two faces, you move 90% of the way closer and let her move the last 10%
/r/seduction01/11/14 10:41 PM
0

Some of your lines were really good. I especially like the one where you told her you're gf is a much better kisser. that shit is gold. using that in the future
/r/seduction01/11/14 10:30 PM
1

There is no "quitting" the game. As long as you are a heterosexual male, you will b attracted to women. And as you improve your life, women will be attracted to you. You should be improving your life for YOUSELF anyway. So there is no "quitting", only hurdles.
/r/seduction02/10/14 01:48 AM
2

Talk to him about it and make it clear that there shouldn't/won't be any hard feelings regardless of who "wins". Bros before hoes
/r/seduction11/09/14 12:59 AM
1

You don't have to guess everything, but guess things/make statements about shit that's interesting. If she says she went out of state, i.e. to New York, you could say some shit like "I never took you for the stook up fashon model type" or something. point is, you aren't psychic. choose your battles
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:17 AM
2

You're going to fuck this up and get with none of them because you'r ebeing so indecisive. They'll eventually get bored, or meet new guys if you don't do something. Just hook up with one of them, flip a coin or something Hook up with the others too if you still can, there are no rules here. Just do something or else you'll be back in a month saying you didnt get any.
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:13 AM
2

hahahaa I've made that mistake this summer. crash and burn
/r/seduction05/09/14 01:36 PM
12

well that can be said for getting laid at ANY time, not just college.
/r/seduction26/08/14 08:52 PM
5

fuck talking. its a dancehall party for christs sake, theres NO easier kino than dancing. Learn to dance to dancehall if you dont already. then just ask them to dance and physically escalate. spin her around so you're dancing front to front and then go for the kiss
/r/seduction15/08/14 05:58 AM
1

I'm taking kiss in this context to mean "affectionate make out". Sure I'd agree that if she won't even let you kiss her on the cheek then you've got issues.
/r/seduction01/08/14 05:39 AM
2

Just enjoy yourself. If you overcompensate and put pressure on yourself to get over the first girl by getting with one of the new girls, you'll come across as needy and desperate. Enjoy your time with them. One thing I will say is that you need to establish in the girls heads that you're a fucking awesome and chill guy and demonstrate status. best way to do that in this situation is to fully engage your friend and his girlfriend in conversation and story telling/shenanigans from the very start. …
/r/seduction01/08/14 05:09 AM
2

this isnt true. there are a myriad of reasons a girl may not want to kiss you right away, and assuming its because she finds you "repulsive" is asinine.
/r/seduction01/08/14 04:52 AM
7

Keep your door open
/r/seduction19/07/14 04:28 PM
1

If you weren't interested in those things, what would you be interested in? Whether something "helps your game" should not be a prerequisite for whether or not they have value. That preposition comes from a place of neediness: "i can only do things that will have value in attracting women". Fuck that. Cook, play instruments, and ride bikes because you fucking want too.
/r/seduction17/07/14 01:13 AM
12

Even though I only got #-close from them, i told her it was an f-close, just to make her a bit more jealous. While you rationalized it to yourself in a way to ease your conscience, you still exhibited one of the biggest mistakes: You are still presenting yourself in a (false) way to her in the hopes of gaining her affection. There's no need to lie or manipulate the situation other than a desire to impress her. That's NOT what you should be aiming for. Seek true inner value and congruence and hav…
/r/seduction06/07/14 06:02 AM
1

Its not about being disinterested in her, its about being disinterested in the outcome of what happens with her.
/r/seduction06/07/14 01:55 AM
2

Are there pdf versions of Models and No More Mr Nice Guy available online?
/r/seduction18/06/14 01:11 AM
3

You hugely overreacted with the way it ended. Deleting her off all the social medias and whatnot and sending a "final text", that's way too emotional and over the top. There was a chance you could have just cut off contact with her, break up with your girlfriend (if thats what you planned to do anyway) and then maybe rekindle a relationship with her down the road. But since you acted like a little bitch about it, that probably wont happen. Learn from this so you dont make the same mistake in the…
/r/seduction16/06/14 03:31 AM
6

I think it's pretty ridiculous that the very first point in the article, she's essentially advocating that women should have a free pass to just be bitches because that's "just who they are". I just don't think that's constructive advice for anyone. edit: wow. the entire article is basically her justifying bitchiness as an inherent and uncontrollable female trait.
/r/seduction13/06/14 03:22 PM
6

I'd say hook up culture has definitely changed in recent times then. My experiences in college-aged circles of 2010-present is that girls are more open to normal casual sex than sucking dick.
/r/seduction12/06/14 05:26 PM
1

This past weekend I met a girl and within 5 minutes of meeting her she reached up and touched my lips, I guess to wipe something off I didn't see. Anyway I knew instantly she was attracted because any other girl/person would have just said "you have something on your lip" but she took the liberty to wipe it off without even mentioning it. I just kept the conversation rolling like a natural and eventually worked in my own face tocuhing/caressing and now I'm seeing her this weekend, hopefully to f…
/r/seduction12/06/14 03:45 PM
9

lol I find it so retarded that girls think fucking them and leaving is terrible, but getting your dick sucked and leaving is perfectly ok
/r/seduction12/06/14 03:25 PM
1

I'd say it depends on how close you are to the person. If she is one of those people you feel you can literally talk about anything with and have yourself be heard and understood, then ea go for it. If she's just another friend you happen to sleep with, then don't bother. My experiences in life have taught me that people generally can't be told/shown how to act from external sources. Change only comes from within. And so whenever an outside source tries to tell an individual how they should act/…
/r/seduction12/06/14 03:21 PM
1

That stuff comes with time and style. But for starters, you an g with simple openers. But try not to say boring shit like "great concert right?" because that can only really lead to a dea dend "yea...". Instead open with something mor einteresting about the scene or her. Ask open ended questions instead of closed ended questions which can be answered with simple yes/no answers.
/r/seduction20/05/14 05:08 PM
1

My open is usually context/situation dependent If I'm going to close and i feel its appropriate to say something, the line I've used in the past is something like "I really wanna kiss you right now". But most times the body language is enough and I just go for it.
/r/seduction20/05/14 04:59 PM
2

being a virgin is only embarassing if you allow it to be
/r/seduction20/05/14 02:48 AM
2

Well for starters, never argue with someone over text. So if nothing else you learned a valuable lesson.
/r/seduction19/05/14 03:13 PM
1

I'd probably text her once or twice today just to get her back in the frame of the last night, and let her know i'll add her on fb so we can reconnect when she gets back. Then don't bother messaging her or texting her at all while she's in europe. You barely know her and she probably has better things to do while in europe than talk to you so just let her go for now. But if you play it this way she'll be looking forward to hearing from you when she gets back.
/r/seduction19/05/14 03:06 PM
1

Ah, yea true I see what you're getting at.
/r/seduction19/05/14 05:34 AM
2

You're worried you ruined their night? Fuck it man. If you had a good time, they probably did too. People pick up on your energy and if you're just having a good time and enjoying the conversation they definitely did too. Don't sweat it and keep doing your thing.
/r/seduction18/05/14 09:43 PM
114

As solid as I think your ideas are in general, I don't think that's really what the quote means. I thought it just meant that (generally) just because a girl is hot doesn't mean she's worth having. A lot of girls allow their physical attractiveness to carry them through life and don't really develop interesting personalities.
/r/seduction18/05/14 09:11 PM
5

thing is, mostpeople want advice on how "an individual needs to obtain experience" because they literally don't even know howto start. thats why those self help books and this community exist. Now of course after you get the first few steps going you kind of just feel it out after that through repeated tries and fails. but many people need at least some help in starting evem if its so much as "go up to her and say hi, then smile". Some people literally need to be told that and then man up and do…
/r/seduction05/05/14 07:12 AM
2

She wants a man she can trust to hold her world on his shoulders so she can breathe and dance. beautiful
/r/seduction05/05/14 07:09 AM
1

fuck if they're offended. Be yourself if she likes it then she'll laugh. if that isnt her style of humor then you dont have to be her friend. Kepp in mind, showing that you dont give a fuck and basically say what you want shows independence and abundance mentality. You're basically displaying that your world doesnt revolve around her. That in itself is attractive. Women want to be loved and fucked well, they don't want to be put on some altar of worship.
/r/seduction05/05/14 07:05 AM
2

everyone have been there at some point, for a variety of reasons, and most of us move past it and learn and grow, thats life. You seem to be on the right path so tread on brother.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:59 AM
6

you should be greeting every girl with a hug. should be greeting girls you like with a quick kiss on the cheek/temple/ear etc
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:56 AM
1

assume attraction. just assume she likes you cuz, well, you're the shit. You'd like you.
/r/seduction05/05/14 06:53 AM
9

its always okay to make eye contact. why? because you fucking say so
/r/seduction05/05/14 05:40 AM
1

hahah righteous yute
/r/seduction05/05/14 05:35 AM
62

"no way, YOU are using ME for sex!!"
/r/seduction02/05/14 05:22 PM
1

Because he asked.
/r/seduction26/04/14 04:08 PM
21

It all boils down to you thinking that things you care about are more important than whatever the other person is talking about. STOP THAT. The way around it is to change your entire worldview. Stop viewing it as "idle conversation" or "chit chat". Those are derogatory and self fulfilling beliefs. If you are in a conversation with someone and you aren't enjoying it, the problem is with you not them. You have to be "intellectually stimulated" ? sounds like an excuse to me. If you're with a girl a…
/r/seduction25/04/14 10:44 PM
3

Only if you let it.
/r/seduction25/04/14 10:33 PM
2

Take a selfie and hand it back to her like "thanks!!" with a cheeky smile. May the odds be in your favor
/r/seduction21/04/14 01:38 AM
1

Why such a complicated gesture
/r/seduction19/04/14 07:52 AM
1

As with a lot of things, it depends on the type of woman you like. Artsy/Literature/Theatre girls might appreciate the eloquence and get wet on your verbosity and theatrics. Surfer girls might prefer you to just cool the fuck out and be easy. If you prefer surfer girls, then yea you need to adapt. Or you could stay the same and learn to like opera chicks.
/r/seduction19/04/14 07:44 AM
33

Because hipsters display confidence in their own way. Think about it, the only reason your are calling them "hipsters" is because they make it clear that they dont give a fuck about what society thinks is cool. They simply like what they like, and to you that makes them "hipster". But to girls, that shows confidence in and of itself. It all goes back to confidence.
/r/seduction05/04/14 06:50 PM
1

Well said.
/r/seduction04/04/14 12:11 AM
14

You'll grow, improve yourself, and attract a fine lady. I just don't know if HB9 is the one. Maybe this is just the start of all that. Life (and seduction) is a journey, and saying "you'll get better in the future but that isn't now" is totally counter productive to the entire system, and goes without being said. He's not saying "look i made it", he's saying "today is better than yesterday, and tomorrow will be even better" Nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction04/04/14 12:05 AM
-9

don't yearn where you learn.
/r/seduction04/04/14 12:02 AM
1

Until you develop your own style from experience, just copy whatever she is doing.
/r/seduction29/03/14 05:53 PM
3

its all in the hips and torso. My personal theory is that these are the body parts most salient in the act of sex and so being able to deftly manipulate them while dancing is a means to subconsciously relay the message: "i know how to fuck good". Extraneous arm movements just make you look silly.
/r/seduction25/03/14 06:28 PM
-2

"fuck no"
/r/seduction18/03/14 11:15 PM
2

I favor "I'm going to kiss you now". Tell her, don't ask.
/r/seduction18/03/14 01:36 AM
3

Ask them what they're doing tonight/this weekend and if they've heard about this awesome local experience you like to frequent and invite them to join you. And you should be frequenting many awesome local experiences regularly anyway.
/r/seduction07/03/14 04:38 PM
10

Well, hands up mostly
/r/seduction07/03/14 04:32 PM
3

Everyone only pays attention to themselves, because they're wondering things like "OMG do I look like a retard? Okay, play it cool, wave my arms around less". Girls worry about this too no one is thinking these things except you. its literally all in your head
/r/seduction07/03/14 04:31 PM
2

We're grown men and women, if she wants to sleep with me despite having a boyfriend then its her decision.
/r/seduction19/02/14 08:09 PM
9

I read it more as not letting external things bother him by choosing to ignore them. For example, traffic sucks? No point cursing and getting outraged in the car with the chick sitting shotgun seeing you blow smoke. Just ignore it and make light of the situation.
/r/seduction17/02/14 03:35 PM
8

The number doesn't mean anything. Emancipate yourself from mental slavery.
/r/seduction26/01/14 06:05 PM
2

what does any of this have to do with the amount of women u slept with
/r/seduction26/01/14 05:51 PM
1

I feel like I'm just recently coming out of this phase. I was bitter and cynical for a number of years its just the ebb and flow of maturation.
/r/seduction26/01/14 05:20 PM
1

Copy whatever she does
/r/seduction15/01/14 05:11 AM
1

Again, it comes down to not giving a fuck. Sure, tey might think there's something wrong with, but someone who thinks that probably isn't much worth your time anyway. Nobody's perfect.
/r/seduction03/01/14 02:20 AM
1

Be honest with them, but more importantly, be honest with yourself. So you havent had many relationships. Well there's 2 things you could do about that. One would be to get all subconscious about it everytime the topic comes up, you'll probably give off the WORST vibe ever. the second option is to not give a single fuck.
/r/seduction03/01/14 02:10 AM
1

For a number of years, i wasn't ready for one, too immature and distrustful of women. Then I didn't want one. Too busy living it up and partying and getting wasted every weekend to care for any particular woman beyond casual interaction. Now I believe I'm both ready for one and want one, but she hasn't come along yet.
/r/seduction08/12/13 03:09 AM
4

Excellent job and you did the right thing by not forcing the issue back at your place. But I think you should let go of the "wanting my first kiss to be personal/special" mentality. At your age you can't afford to be passing up/missing potential opportunities if they arise jus tbecause they don;t mean some arbitrary criteria. Also, consider that from her perspective, at 30, she would (likely) not place the same level of importance on the kiss. And your expectations of it could hurt more than hel…
/r/seduction01/12/13 07:05 AM
0

What makes you so much better than these guys "swarming" them? You post reads like you're just mad because those are the guys who actually have the balls (or whatever) to talk to these girls and you just try to play the aloof drifter stereotype. Hows that working for you? Probably not great judging by this post. Try actually talking to the girls instead of pretending to be better than the other guys because you aren't.
/r/seduction21/09/13 01:48 AM
10

If your goal is for "everyone to have a good time" then heres what I would do: Make a facebook event page and invite a bunch of people you personally know. These would be the kinds of people that you see regularly and are more or less guaranteed to show up because you're a cool guy and they like hanging with you. Next, get your 3-4 closest friends, and make them co-hosts of the party, then have them invite people that they know personally and would show up for sure. Boom, with that alone you've …
/r/seduction06/08/13 07:25 AM
4

Except chloroform.
/r/seduction04/08/13 12:24 PM
12

You literally have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction26/07/13 06:27 PM
4

My personal go to is "I'd like to kiss you right now" or some variation of. Not necessarily asking permission in the way of "can i..", just a statement of fact 'I want to kiss you'.
/r/seduction29/05/13 07:57 PM
1

You could have got it when the exchanging of good byes and handshakes was going on. That kind of situation is generally a cluster fuck and when it was your turn to shake her hand you could have quietly asked for it and it would have gone largely unnoticed. Next tme.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:49 PM
1

I was in a similar situation last night where I was trying to get with a girl but didn't know how hard to push it. I ended up putting in solid game with her at the start, playing pool and flirting, then went and tried to be social and with other girls for a while. I was gone for a bit and then she decided to leave because she had to be up early etc etc. I'm not sure if she left out of boredem (she was only talking to her one other girlfriend when she wasnt with me) or if she really just had to l…
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:30 PM
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