Hoek Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Your body language changes who you are: TED Talk by Amy Cuddy		Hoek	/r/seduction	03/10/12 08:43 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? Exactly. That's why we're not talking about the physical sensation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/26 11:05 PM
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? may not want to repeat things that she’s done in the past We're not talking about these cases. Men have no problem with that. because their insecurities were triggered Again, that has nothing to do with insecurities: It's a risk filter. If you like D/s play with certain men, and not with others, and that's important to a man, then entering a relationship with you is risky, because you might meet someone who you're just more compatible with - on a kink spectrum - and decide to leave your husband …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/26 08:02 PM
1	Why do you ask your Partner to do Sex Acts she Does not Like? The taste of Pilsner does not change depending on who you drink it with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/26 07:48 PM
2	Had one of the worst first date scenarios ever, but saved it by staying composed and in control Oh god please don't be one of those assholes bringing a speaker to the beach.	/r/seduction	12/07/21 01:05 PM
5	CMV: It's not fair, but a man that "just gets it" is going to be a far better lover than a guy that has to be told what to do In this case, a guy "getting it" would mean someone who recognizes that pattern, and talks to her about CNC (consensual non-consent) and other types of BDSM play, what turns her on, defining a safeword, and so on. Someone who is unexperienced might just think she's "weird" and leave, or get mad for her sending "mixed signals".	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/21 12:29 AM
6	A mass exodus from dating apps by men would probably help set the scale in their favor That's a spot-on analysis, and the original creator of OkCupid even blogged about this in a post called "Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating" in 2010. He eventually sold OkCupid to the Match Group (who also own Tinder), and the new owners swiftly deleted this blog post from the official OkCupid blog.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/21 05:35 PM
2	People here always talk about "alpha males" and "beta males", but is there also alpha/beta females Or does it only apply to men? I now see where your confusion is coming from, thanks for answering. You seem to believe that the concpt of alpha/beta had its origins from TRP, or the "manosphere". I'm certain that the concept of alpha/beta (or call it "leaders and followers", as in Tango, if the naming offends you) is well-known and established with humans for thousands of years, just like the concept of day and night. You also seem to believe that someone claimed it's a "scientific concept" and set up strawmen so you can deb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/21 01:46 PM
2	People here always talk about "alpha males" and "beta males", but is there also alpha/beta females Or does it only apply to men? What does this have to do with "Red Pill"? Can we stay on topic please?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/21 12:37 PM
3	CMV: There is absolutely nothing wrong with cold approaching a person of interest Wow, ok, I think we now understand why cold approaching didn't work for you...	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/21 02:34 AM
2	People here always talk about "alpha males" and "beta males", but is there also alpha/beta females Or does it only apply to men? I'll never get this argument. I want to learn your line of reasoning: Are you aware of how the concept of "alpha" and "beta" is used to describe behavioral traits of men, colloquially? Do you believe that "not all men" can be described by either category? Or that the categories themselves are non-existent? Or is it that you agree with the general concept; but simply dislike the words used, and would rather like seeing two other words being used (for instance "leader" and "follower") to describe …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/21 02:05 AM
9	Tips on how to get girls from someone who was in a seven year relationship PART 2 : Stop with the strawman bullshit. You are not your graphic shirts. Dressing up is a sign of respect for the person you meet. Just like in a theatre dressing up means you show respect to the performers, dressing up means you show respect to your date. You assume attraction and kindness. By dressing up, you communicate self-respect, taste, and respect for the situation. Taste for aesthetics and empathy are attractive traits. Let the books on your shelves speak for you when you invite her over. Much…	/r/seduction	24/03/21 01:55 AM
4	If sex is a need, why dont more guys just go to hookers? Ok, at this point you're clearly trolling and not interested in a sane conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/20 08:06 PM
10	Asked out a girl in my class on Tuesday The girl, obviously. I literally can't parse the rest of your comment. What is your point?	/r/seduction	13/02/20 09:21 PM
52	Asked out a girl in my class on Tuesday You're suggesting this person is mature, mentally stable, and a good communicator. None of that probably applies.	/r/seduction	13/02/20 04:48 PM
5	Why do Red Pillers fetishize traditional masculinity? Unreliability and unproductivity have nothing to do with status. Musicians, just like DJs, rock stars and artists, are very high in the male matrix exactly because of their target group's perceived status. They're interesting because other girls in their age group (=competition) want to be with them ("preselection"). What they do (play the guitar, sing, spin vinyl, ...) is a side perk and completely irrelevant to attraction. However it's understandable that being attracted to somebody just becau…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/19 04:00 PM
7	Why do Red Pillers fetishize traditional masculinity? The status. Don't confuse wealth and status.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/19 03:25 PM
5	Why do Red Pillers fetishize traditional masculinity? Highly disagree. The music would do nothing if it were written by somebody without status. Just like Justin Bieber or any autotune song would be rated 0 out of 5 stars by the majority of women in a double-blind listening test. The perceived culture, the observed fame and the hype are what's making the boy groups interesting, not the music itself. But music taste is complex, and all of a sudden, with all the status that these boys have, any music they would produce is perceived as enjoyable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/19 03:21 PM
7	Signs She is a Slut What is this misogynous shit doing in /r/seduction? There are plenty of subreddits for slutshaming and bigotry. This is not one of them.	/r/seduction	31/05/17 11:23 PM
6	[FR ] I've been Injecting pickup into my daily life. Hot Babe. Not "Hot Bitch". Hasn't changed in the last 30+ years. This is not TRP.	/r/seduction	31/05/17 11:20 PM
1	A simple way to understand keeping Frame In the end, it all boils down to evolution. It was beneficial for women to use the emotions a male is making them feel as indicator of that male's suitability for having healthy offspring. Basically, your ability to understand this and to use this is directly correlated with your ability to observe and use the terrain you're hunting in. Making use of how nature works. This is neither good nor bad, there's no attribute for the different traits women and men developed. But we need to understand th…	/r/TheRedPill	23/03/17 02:37 AM
1	Three beliefs which must be ingrained in your mind before success with women can be achieved. Look, you seem to be stuck in the way you currently think, and you don't want to let more experienced people who went through all that bullshit tell you otherwise. It's like talking to a kid in puberty. So I have a proposal, and you don't have to reply to this, or do it immediately, you can try this out any time in the next years, as you wish, whenever you see the time has come: Since you seem to think that you're "ugly", in whatever sense that makes to you: Learn attractiveness and seduction an…	/r/seduction	25/02/17 05:18 AM
2	Three beliefs which must be ingrained in your mind before success with women can be achieved. You're confusing "good looking" and "attractive". Watch the video with the guy in the wheelchair i linked below.	/r/seduction	25/02/17 05:01 AM
2	Three beliefs which must be ingrained in your mind before success with women can be achieved. Once it's decided that's what it is. When we say "attraction isn't a choice", what we mean is this: There are certain masculine traits that are highly attractive to most women. You can learn those traits. Women don't "think" whether you have those traits or not - they just find you attractive automatically, instinctively. This is important to understand, because some chodes make the mistake of thinking that they can rationalize their way into women's bedrooms ("But come on, I'm so handsome!" / "…	/r/seduction	25/02/17 04:54 AM
3	The Most Powerful Technique I Have Ever Come Across In 4 Years Of Game (+Infield) My god. Guys. "Negging" as a concept was already frowned upon when Tyler released Blueprint Decoded around 10 years ago. Read some old stuff material. RSD, Mystery, Ross Jeffries, David Deangelo. If you don't, you're condemned to relearn all the mistakes these guys did, yourself instead of spending your time on learning stuff on a higher level. This guy's realization, while it's good and valuable, was already known as "Cocky comedy" in David Deangelo's "Attraction isn't a choice" like 10 years a…	/r/seduction	24/02/17 10:37 PM
9	Three beliefs which must be ingrained in your mind before success with women can be achieved. A woman can make a conscious decision to not be attracted to you That "decision" is done subconsciously and thus not a decision. It's primal, and automatic. You can't talk yourself into finding someone attractive who isn't, to you. Everyone's personality is different so it's impossible to have a perfect personality without flaws. While there is no "correct" personality, there are clearly personality traits that are attractive. You can learn those. You can track those by feedback from people. You…	/r/seduction	24/02/17 10:25 PM
2	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. As soon as you discover that a certain lifestyle doesn't make you happy any more, you switch to a lifestyle that makes you happy. That's why we don't play with Lego anymore - we discovered that the lifestyle of playing with Lego had its deadline, and now different things make us happy. That's life. But not having had the experience of playing with Lego, just because the fun we've had wasn't sustainable, wouldn't be better. Do what makes you happy at the current time. OP discovered what makes him…	/r/seduction	19/02/17 12:25 PM
8	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. Don't assume that a "normal, healthy life" is the one you're currently leading. Don't imply that others can't filter through the bullshit and cherry-pick the gold nuggets. Keep the discussion sane and to the point, without judging. Attack the arguments made, not the person.	/r/seduction	18/02/17 11:23 PM
5	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. Are you saying that 95% of the world is lazy, and that's why wealth inequality exists? No. I made a hypothesis on why the idea that perceived high income tends to attract women might be flawed and proposed a saner explanation. No need to make up strawman arguments. We're in /r/seduction. (self-ledership) [sic.] English is my third language, so thank you for pointing out there's something off with that use of the word. How would you correct it?	/r/seduction	18/02/17 11:18 PM
9	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. Because this sub isn't moderated for quality, sadly. People come to /r/seduction, pull a slut shaming maneuver on this guy, and give an armchair psychologist analysis of why they think he has deep psychological issues. It is, truly, pathetic.	/r/seduction	18/02/17 05:08 PM
36	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. What makes you think you can't simply scan the post and pluck out things that are relevant to you? This is a guy who found out what makes him happy and lives it. Don't you trust him that he knows best what makes him happy? Or do you think you know better?	/r/seduction	18/02/17 05:00 PM
18	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. Focus, leadership (self-ledership) skill and perseverance develop attractive traits. High-paying jobs come as a by-product. People see women being attracted by those guys and think those women are attracted to the money. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Correlation_does_not_imply_causation	/r/seduction	18/02/17 04:56 PM
1	5 years, 100+ chicks later. Here's a distilled summary of what I've learned. This is the best, high-qality post I've seen after so many years of deterioration in this subreddit. Thank you!	/r/seduction	18/02/17 04:52 PM
6	"Good girl" This should be in your standard sexual escalation vocabulary, because it's making the top of literally every single "Girls, what makes you instantly wet" thread on AskReddit for literally the last 10 years. It's playing with fire however, and you shouldn't do it if you're not fully accustomed to fire at this point: "Good girl!" communicates the type of assertive alphaness and kinkyness that you need to back up with congruent confidence. You can't deliver a "good girl!" and then ask her if she's …	/r/seduction	17/01/17 01:41 AM
2	I think my resting bitch face makes girls cautious to me Smile.	/r/seduction	17/01/17 01:35 AM
2	Push/Pull. Pushing too far? You're right that "don't text me anymore" will come off as unstable. This is drama queen behavior, and you don't need it. You think you need it to extract emotions to better calibrate, but the emotional rollercoaster is just a "hack" - a quick and dirty approach to quickly wring out emotions. Instead of using a bad "shortcut", let's try to solve the problem in a clean way. What problem is the hack trying to solve? Why do you need to know how she feels? Why do you feel you need to gauge her inter…	/r/seduction	17/01/17 01:14 AM
1	The Next Time This Happens, Do This... In order to get women, you need to get over the previous one There's no such thing as "getting over", because everybody will understand different things. The word is meaningless. In complete abundance, you wouldn't need to "get over someone", that is a ridiculous concept if you're an attractive male, sleeping with happy, attractive females left and right. "Getting over" usually means dwelling and overthinking and backwards rationalizing for hours, depressively walking in melancholic forests for …	/r/seduction	11/01/17 02:27 AM
1	Just had the most cringy, humbling, and hilarious moment of my life. Anyone experienced this? Would you tell /r/physics to stop trying to figure out these damn hard quantum dynamics just to chase the unrealistic 1% chance that they'll understand them? Yes; being a well-rounded person is of great value: There's /r/fitness, there's /r/nutrition, there's /r/meditation and /r/publicspeaking and what not; and they're all great and valuable, and there surely are some intersections. But this is /r/seduction. We have a clearly defined focus, just like /r/ballroom has their focus. Here, we try to…	/r/seduction	02/11/16 10:01 AM
2	Just had the most cringy, humbling, and hilarious moment of my life. Anyone experienced this? Even if it turned out they weren't into a threesome Exactly. The other girl, if uncomfortable to participate for whatever reason, could have left politely at any time as soon as things would have got too heated ("Oh, wow, I think I forgot go get some groceries; I'll leave you two alone for a bit..") He could have easily tried to include her into playful banter ("You girls don't need to stop your pillow fight just because a guy's entering your slumber party (throws pillows in their general direct…	/r/seduction	01/11/16 01:42 AM
3	Just had the most cringy, humbling, and hilarious moment of my life. Anyone experienced this? Start with the FAQ in the sidebar.	/r/seduction	01/11/16 01:22 AM
7	Just had the most cringy, humbling, and hilarious moment of my life. Anyone experienced this? Exactly. And OP failed to execute. Seriously, guys, this is /r/seduction, not /r/FML. What exactly do you think was standing in the way of you having fun with the girls? Climbing under the blankets, cuddling? Getting the three of you to feel comfortable touching, slowly but smoothly escalating? If you think this is impossible: Disassociate yourself for a moment from the scene, and imagine someone else in a similar situation that just worked smoothly. What didn't you do enough of? What could have…	/r/seduction	01/11/16 01:02 AM
2	When a girl is flirting and asks "What is your type?" whats a good response? Congruence, as we're using it in the German PUA community, is basically integrity: Are you just a wannabe cliché "PUA" who's learnt some canned openers, or are you really as cool as you're pretending to be? Girls try to (unconsciously) "crack" the shell. That "branch off" happened years ago because for some, "shit test" doesn't work as an explanation of what's going on. At least, and you'll agree with that one, it's a term that doesn't really communicate its meaning that well. Integrity, or cong…	/r/seduction	31/10/16 08:53 PM
3	Dealing with passive aggressive texts I'd work on the intent you want to tranport over your communication (verbal, textual or non-verbal). Examples: "I want you to wear your favourite heels and frilly panties when you come over for our cooking session tomorrow night." Intent: communicate sexual interest and attraction, playful assertiveness. "Hey, ou forgot your fry pan you brought last time we cooked. Sleep well, but know that it is now MY pan. It's having the best time in its life with the other pans in my kitchen and it's not com…	/r/seduction	26/01/16 01:49 AM
-1	How do I get better at game when I'm in a committed relationship? ...but what if they're like Mars and Venus to each other..?	/r/seduction	18/11/15 12:20 AM
2	A few comments on body language Ignore the downvote brigade, you're right on this one. Giving unsolicited advice could go horribly wrong; people have to be motivated intrinsically to change something about themselves.	/r/seduction	02/04/15 10:56 AM
1	What do I say? I'm a bit of a comedian myself so getting them to laugh is my go to for having them open up and in no time they're initiating kino. That's great, but while creating rapport, don't forget that you'll also have to introduce attraction at an equal pace (the seduction part, remember?) If the girl is initiating KINO, that's awesome, but take that as a sign that you yourself waited a tad bit too long, so that she had to do it herself. At the very least, don't stop the playful dynamic of continuing the…	/r/seduction	12/12/14 04:24 PM
1	Fix my way of thinking please... What the hell did I do wrong this time. ALso I get the idea that she wants to talk with C more than she wants to talk to me That's how you interpret the situation, not how it's in reality. It's now critical how you show yourself. At the moment, you're showing envy and uneasiness at the presence of the other male. That could be the tipping point rendering you unattractive when you're seen as equally attractive as the other guy. While every move you do is critical now, don't let that tighten you up. RSD coined the term "the self comes a…	/r/seduction	12/12/14 03:59 PM
3	Experiment: How To Increase Your Attractiveness And "Grow" Taller In 30 Minutes Or Less You're missing the point entirely. He talks about how perceived attractiveness is variable, and how height is a part of that perceived attractiveness, and that being perceived, it doesn't matter how high you really are, because that's not what matters - and you ask how high he is.	/r/seduction	15/11/14 01:32 PM
5	Guy's goal in seduction is the F-close. What's a girl's goal? "it's obviously not the F-close for her" You obviously just began your seduction journey. That's fine. Progress form now on will be defined by how fast you realize that this is a limiting belief that is holding you back in your development ("girls don't want sex as bad as guys"), which will seriously hinder the ways you'll develop as a man. Some women are socially conditioned to deny it (to avoid "slut shaming"), but after all, sex is part of the human condition, why would girls not want it?	/r/seduction	17/06/14 10:16 PM
26	What do YOU say right after you kiss a HB? The same thing I say after she orgasms: "What do you say?" "Thank you" "Good girl." (kiss more) I'm serious. Try it.	/r/seduction	24/09/13 06:29 PM
1	Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging? No, actually, you're doing the opposite of what you want to do: Because you communicate that you'd pick ANY of them, you communicate desperation and neediness. A buyer/seller frame would be created if you'd communicate clear intent to one girl, or even better, communicate that she needs to prove whether she has the capability to offer you what you seek. Dude, the beginner stuff in the sidebar isn't there just to fill some space, you know.	/r/seduction	01/01/13 06:08 PM
5	Let's take a break from theory! What's the funniest thing that has happened to you while out sarging? at least 30 You forgot to tell us where you see a problem with that.	/r/seduction	01/01/13 05:59 PM
0	Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick I know, the kissing part, the girls, you'll get used to it when you grow up. EDIT: I'm a big fan of "add to the discussion or don't comment at all". What exactly do you find gross? What would you have done differently? Let's keep this sub productive and keep improving. This is not /r/funny.	/r/seduction	18/11/12 03:26 PM
1	Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick I think I understand you, but the way I see it, in a seduction context: Alright, I've run out of things to say. Communicates that a) you're not in control of the situation, b) you're uncomfortable with the fact that you're not in control of the situation But then again, you're right concerning the framing, of course; it's not the words you communicate with, but the way you do it: Imagine saying "Alright, I've run out of things to say" in the whispering scenario above, just before a kiss, and you…	/r/seduction	18/11/12 04:17 AM
-2	Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick Jesus. Next time this happens, try this: (Silence occurs, you notice) If you both are walking, stop and grab her hand, stop her, too. Pull her really close to you, waving your hand in a "come-here" motion, showing her that you want to whisper something in her ear. As she comes closer, hold the back of her head, pull her head gently towards you so her ear ends up touching your lips, while you softly stroke her hair behind her ear (so she can "hear better") Whisper: "Since you ran out of things to…	/r/seduction	18/11/12 03:44 AM
46	Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick This is contraproductive to what this sub is for, and here's why: This is Fuck, Mary, Kill - a canned "game" from Neil Strauss' "The Game". The seduction community has evolved way beyond the stuff in that old book. Guys. If you want to get better results with girls, you need to understand the concept of building tension. You need to master building, holding and releasing any kind of tension, be it sexual or not. Besides that, reframe the idea that a social interaction when both of you are enjoyi…	/r/seduction	18/11/12 03:27 AM
5	Master Class. Google search has zero relevant hits for "Eckhart Tolle Bayes" Well, first and foremost, that means that Google, in this moment, has no indexed content where someone breaks down Tolle's arguments into hypotheses and applies Baye's theorem to his claims. Nothing more. Certainly not that it doesn't exist, and even more certainly that this should be seen as an indicator for a lack of Truth in Tolle's arguments. I wholehartedly agree with the rest of what you say. I see no contradiction to what, say…	/r/seduction	31/10/12 12:59 AM
7	Master Class. Dude, you're not telling anything new here, seriously. Nobody here uses canned openers, this has nothing to do with what we try to do here. Ironically, you're basically recommending NLP-Style literature so that every guy can use manipulative tactics from behavioral science instead of changing his inner views on life, what we basically call "inner game", by doing what Pickup Artists nowadays recommend - meditating and reading Eckhart Tolle. We already discussed renaming shit tests into "congruenc…	/r/seduction	30/10/12 11:00 PM
1	You young guys kill me. (34m) WTF, where do you live?	/r/seduction	20/10/12 07:33 PM
5	You young guys kill me. (34m) You will never have as many women in your age range in such close proximity again in your life. Stop it. This is exact the kind of limiting belief we're trying to battle here. Generally, I really don't understand the message you're trying to send here. What is the key idea you're trying to communicate? If it's this: If you're in your late teens and early 20s and freaking out about talking to women, enjoy it. It's expected. Be awkward. Then I'd say: NO, never. You miss the point entirely. If it's…	/r/seduction	20/10/12 07:29 PM
2	PSY [of Gangnam Style] gives advice on hooking up with women. Yes, he already mentioned that he was old.	/r/seduction	17/10/12 08:08 PM
1	Pretty lady by the pool. Lessons learned. [fr] As another guy who has been cheated on, I also have to disagree with you. In no way do we partake in the cheating process. It's entirely her decision. It's not like women are mechanical devices who don't know what they want. In the end of the day, the better seducer wins. If I'm in a relationship and it's some random dude, so be it.	/r/seduction	09/08/12 11:04 PM
1	Things to whisper into girl's ears at bars. Precision engineering.	/r/seduction	07/08/12 10:50 PM
48	Seddit, what are your go-to questions/ jokes/ games etc. to spark life back into a dying conversation? Dude. Stealing this. Girl: "I can do [...] better than anyone in this room! And what about you?" You: "Me?" -> kiss her.	/r/seduction	07/08/12 10:05 PM
2	[FR] Bubble tea night turned to k-close. These two lip-piercings, apparently. TIL they have a name.	/r/seduction	22/07/12 02:37 PM
20	I cheated on my ex-girlfriend. How do I approach this with girls I could potentially date? Dude. Chill. First, don't start the habit of blaming anyone else except yourself. Not your non-existent father; you were the one who made the decisions. I don't think it's the grass on the other side. You could have started an open relationship if you really wanted. At least you could have talked about it. It's about equal rights. You decided for her that you'll break the rules you both commited to. She could have gotten some good fucking too if you gave her the chance, and you still could have …	/r/seduction	12/06/12 10:05 PM
1	I think it's worth clarifying what exactly it is that we do here on Seddit. demonstrably untrue that becoming someone women want to have sex with does not improve your mental health So demonstrate. One of the major archetypes that women find attractive is the bad boy/jerk Welcome to this forum, I see you're new here. Start by reading everything in the sidebar. Ask us if some concept seems difficult. Spoiler: Your statement is based on a misconception. Women don't find "bad boys" and "jerks" attractive. But there are properties and behaviors that are inherent to bad boys…	/r/seduction	08/06/12 11:36 PM
1	I think it's worth clarifying what exactly it is that we do here on Seddit. Evolutionary advantage of [...] homosexuality Why don't you read it yourself, cowboy.	/r/seduction	08/06/12 11:29 PM
3	Any tips for picking up slightly older women? (I'm 24, looking for 26-30) Please name the concepts you're learning here which you think don't apply to older women. It's all in your head. It's a limiting belief, and the sooner you stop believing it, the better. At the same time, please look into the RSD stuff, Blueprint, or anything else focusing on your inner game.	/r/seduction	08/06/12 11:14 PM
1	The confession about emptiness from a guy successful with women (throwaway account) Nobody said that being successful with women will fill the emptiness inside you. To become truly content with your life, you have to find meaning in life. I highly recommend RSD's "Blueprint Decoded" and David Deangelo's "On being a man". Read more. You're not the first to discover that money, women and success doesn't make you necessarily happy. There is a ton of cinematography and literature written about this. Read Hermann Hesse's Steppenwolf and Robert Anton Wilson's Prometheus Rising. Watch…	/r/seduction	02/05/12 09:44 PM
2	Declaration of Intent Ok, then we misunderstood each other; I'm completely agnostic to how it ought to be; I'm here because I see how it's working now, and I like the idea of learning how to become better in this environment. I really never think about how it ought to be.	/r/seduction	13/01/12 10:02 PM
0	Declaration of Intent This is becoming interesting. If I understand you correctly, you think that the seduction community simply exists because society forces us to learn how to accomodate to the expectations of itself? I'd take issue with that. Lokk at it this way: If you grew up in a tribe on an island; once you'd hit a certain age, the elders would show you how to hunt. Is it because society decided that you should hunt? Or maybe because since anyone can remember, things came to be this way, and if you don't learn…	/r/seduction	13/01/12 09:44 PM
-11	Declaration of Intent I beg to differ. Are you attributing the vast majority of female subs in the BDSM community solely to our patriarchal society? I think there's more than that. Hard-wired preference. Of course, guys, too, like being seduced. But if you look at the ratio of females to males in the seduction community, there are really few women who want to actively seduce. They'd rather enjoy being seduced. Which is neither good nor bad, it just is.	/r/seduction	13/01/12 09:13 PM
-6	Declaration of Intent Poor girl. Edit (for those who think my reply was rather harsh): Read your coment above. Then think about how this belief manifests in the interactions with your girlfriend. Then, as an exercise, think about what the girl would suddenly find out she was missing out all the time once someone who has a grasp about seduction introduces himself to her. (This has nothing to do with your age, by the way)	/r/seduction	13/01/12 09:08 PM
-3	Declaration of Intent you would simply treat women the way you would wish to be treated. The golden rule defines morality in a society. It does nothing to create physical attraction. This forum is about seduction, which is a part of our human sexuality. What, exactly, did you expect? Why not tell /r/christianity to drop their theistic lingo and stop trying to worm into an imaginary friend's promised land? Stop complaining. Write a good post about how you see the seduction process, based upon your experience. Feel fre…	/r/seduction	13/01/12 09:01 PM
-4	Declaration of Intent Stop being bitter and indulging in self-pity. Start your yourney by reading the beginner's material on the right. Soon, you will discover that the reality is that women enjoy and seek sex as much as men do. Only the roles are different. Men are supposed to lead and to seduce from the first word to orgasm after orgasm. Figuring out what seduction means, understanding the female and male hard-wired programming of thousands of years of evolution and enjoying the process - that is game.	/r/seduction	13/01/12 08:54 PM
1	Does anyone have a good link on touching (kino)? Something I've just plucked out in the seduction threads on Fetlife: If you're a smoker, when you ask a guy for a lighter: Cup his hands while he ignites your cigarette. This gesture transports so much sexuality with it, it's beautiful. This is something that I imagine works great for girls, but wouldn't for guys I think, gouys should do it with a dominant "come here" kind of "grabbing" or something that gets the message across that he's dominant and takes what he wants. Going to test that out t…	/r/seduction	07/01/12 12:31 AM
1	Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week. Ha! No, I just love lasagna (and women) as much as you do =P You're welcome. Gald you found your way here. (Now tell us your secrets!)	/r/seduction	17/11/11 04:16 PM
7	Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week. I think I see where you're coming from. Why would I "retort" to someone having a boyfriend? That's a wonderful thing. Well; from your perspective as a natural, this is correct. But see it this way: There are guys who act in a way that no girl would imagine having a sexual relationship with. "I have a boyfriend", then, is something they get to hear from every single woman who want to reject them, but do it in a polite way. Teaching guys how to answer such "rejections" gives them confidence and, i…	/r/seduction	17/11/11 03:59 PM
15	Seduction, I have no knowledge of your ways. I'm a poor 27 year old college student, average looks and social skills. I drive a shitty car. I have sex with various women 2 to 4 times a week. I think you're under the impression that this site is about "tricking" others so that they start liking you, or making "10 step plans" on how to manipulate people for one's own benefit. No. It's something completely different. People who are in seduction seek an answer to the questions "What is it that makes attraction?" and "How can I show people who I really like that i like them?" It's like you try a lasagna recipe for the first time. Maybe it'll be good, or it'll be absolutely terrible. If y…	/r/seduction	17/11/11 03:30 PM
8	An Academic Approach To Creepy Pickup Artists Thank you. I agree wholely on the first part. For the rest, a distinction has to be made between those guys who want a "quick fix" for their "forever aloneness" and think that they can "get the girl" by learning a few routines here and a few techniques there - canned, fail-proof material -- and those guys who built the seduction community exactly because they value women as human beings just as themselves, and want to learn how to become a better, more attractive person. The latter aren't intere…	/r/MensRights	15/07/11 03:13 PM
3	What are your favorite white lies you tell girls when you flirt with them? How so, if she can't tell that you're messing around? Clearly, not a single of his girls knew what he was pointing to, so in this situation, he'll seem like trying to impress her. Even worse - one day, someone will tell her the truth, and from then on, the first guy will be remembered as a huge show-off. A much better way of showing playfulness would be to tell her Timon and Pumbaa's version of what stars are.	/r/seduction	30/05/11 11:31 PM
-1	Should a 'Trans-girl' let you know that she used to be a man before sex? Not according to the folk of /r/transphobiaproject. Please don't confuse some frat douchebags with the seduction community. PUA has nothing to do with "pretending to be someone else". This is called "being an asshole". Pick-Up has to do with actual, irreversible self-improvement and developing natural attractiveness. Here is a list of common misconceptions about "Pick-Up artists"	/r/MensRights	08/05/11 04:10 PM
16	Lessons learned from 1st game-driven relationship I disagree completely. What we call "game" is a response mechanism in the primatic circuitry of women (and men), that's why it works so well for all centuries and cultures. As soon as you start putting your girlfriend on a pedestal, or start debating trivial things because you stop realizing they are shit tests, or stop leading, you become unattractive, and then, it's a matter of time until someone who has the qualities gets your girl. That said, don't misunderstand "being alpha" as haveing to b…	/r/seduction	26/04/11 12:24 PM
1	Best pickup podcasts approachanxiety.com has some great ones, especially the older ones, and of those, especially stuff from Cory Skyy.	/r/seduction	19/12/10 04:25 AM
2	Smiling vs. Not smiling? Never have i heard (or read) David DeAngelo stating you shouldn't smile. Not laughing at your jokes trying to seek for approval, yes. But not smiling? Wouldn't make sense.	/r/seduction	19/12/10 04:17 AM
3	Full close via OkCupid. It's not a question about being naïve, but rather about trust in a relationship. When I and my S.o. had a long distance relationship (6 months), we both agreed to temporarily open the relationship (see /r/polyamory - it was consensual, and no one could "cheat" because there were new rules which explicitely allowed us to have sex with others. While clearly OP seems to abuse the trust of his LTR, it's not doing anything for the trust issue of the relationship to just "assume" that the other's just…	/r/seduction	03/11/10 11:54 AM
2	Friendzoning Girls No such thing. Honestly, no such thing. There is.. Believe me. And it's scary. If you encouter this type of woman, you immediately understand what it was that made you so unattractive as an AFC.	/r/seduction	10/04/10 01:21 AM