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I mean, it's so much more than the majority of men being trash. It's also the economy and affordable housing being out of reach for many, it's concerns about over population, it's the shit show of dysfunctional governments across the world, it's the looming threat of irreversible climate change, etc. Why would I want to make a child live through all this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:20 PM
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I work in a male dominated field (not tech) and it's absolutely horrible at times. Even accounting for the sexual harassment and constant bombardment of microaggressions that are jUsT jOkEs, the worst part is how much self awareness the men lack. I constantly fight to hire more women and the men usually argue that we "would" hire them, but women just don't have an interest in the work, so we don't apply. No, that's not it. Plenty of women would LOVE to do this work. We just don't want to be assa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:35 PM
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I had almost the exact opposite happen to me. My college sweetheart moved to a new city so I applied to graduate school in the area. Got accepted, moved, and they dumped me a few weeks later! Jokes on them though, it was a bomb ass city and a top 5 program for what I wanted to study. Win/win/win. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:02 PM
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Like no one’s saying they can’t have their own men only space. That's not the issue. They don't care about having their own space because they don't care about "men's issues" unless it's in the context of derailing a discussion on misogyny. It's because most of them are abusive and have nothing to offer but negs, and if you catch on to this, they know they'll bealone forever. Men would much Rainey rather insult you and knock you down than actually work on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:02 PM
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Wtf is starfish sex? It's basically missionary position, except with men pretending that their uncomfortable jackhammering is a gift from god, and the woman is lazy because she didn't jump on top and enthusiastically ride him before he prematurely came.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:32 PM
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Right? Like I'll drop $50-100 on a date (I'm gay so obviously one of us has to pay lol) and I've had men accuse me of being financially irresponsible and call that a red flag that I was "blowing all my money." Like sorry, but I still follow the rules and vet the women I see, so it's not like doing this every single Friday and Saturday for the chance of a quick bang. And also. It's only like a couple hours of work??? Like sorry they are making borderline minimum wage and have to feel insecure abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:33 PM
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They literally can never make up their minds. Do we have "female privilege" (aka easy access to sex) or are we crazy cat collecting incels? 🤔🤔🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:53 PM
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97.5 percent of rapists walk free in the USA alone, Yeah, I was assaulted and not only was I not believed, but I got forced out of my last job... "False rape accusations" are the biggest fucking boogeyman on reddit. We can't get people to believe us when it's true, but they're somehow under the impression that we can ruin lives with one word?! 100% these men have all engaged in assault themselves (usually taking advantage of drunk women who can't consent) and that's why this fear is so prevalent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:08 PM
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and they weren't going through text Oldest trick in the book! What was the problem? He forgot to hit send?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:57 PM
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It probably works with like 1 out of every 200 women, and then they complain that it's a "numbers game" so they "have" to do this to everyone because they get rejected 99.5% of the time 😂🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:40 PM
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I actually find positions hilarious, she's talking about being a "switch" in the bedroom, and how it's some shit she normally wouldn't do. I think you can totally interpret it as her wearing a strap on and topping her guy. It's what I choose to believe anyway. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:01 PM
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The weirdest part about this is that your freken name is on the card! They're gonna read that lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:20 PM
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I used to work an after-school program in college for K-6, and let me tell you, the kids were all brutally honest. They spoke their mind with no filter. A lot of it could be somewhat rude, but the flipside is that they'll pick up on social cues like this because they haven't been socialized to distrust their instincts yet. I think it makes a lot of sense actually! As an adult, I've received a lot of creepy vibes from people, and usually nothing bad happens. That doesn't mean I was wrong, or that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:54 PM
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Jesus, dude makes triple her salary and can't even pay for half of HIS groceries that he didn't even have to go to the store for? The entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:36 PM
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Yep! I'm the type of person who likes to give attention to the people I'm with - so if I'm hanging out with my friend on a Friday night, I'm going to be present and not be on my phone. Doesn't mean I'm not interested in the new person I started seeing, but they can wait until tomorrow, you know? I get that we're all still plugged in and can see notifications etc, but if you go outside and live your life, it's very easy to stop overanalyzing response times. Sometimes people are just busy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:00 PM
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Idk about you ladies, but I like having time to myself. For sure! I have definitely gone more than 24 hrs without texting certain people and it definitely had nothing to do with my lack of interest. Sometimes I like to unplug and turn myself off from the world. Practice mindfulness, live in the moment. That doesn't mean I won't get back to somebody
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:25 PM
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That stood out to me too, like a cocktail bar is not asking for too much at all, even if you got more than a couple drinks! Is this the modern standard that anything more than a $5 coffee is too expensive? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:17 PM
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It's just hilarious how they'll complain that dating is so hard for men, women have a surplus of options, even "average" looking women can get dates without effort. And then they'll turn around with a straight face and call us bitter incels! Well, which is it men?! I mean, we all know the answer is that they're misogynistic and will do anything to attack us, but lol. I really wonder if they're aware how little sense they make.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:49 PM
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Also getting a man to sleep with you is FUCKING EASY. I saw someone calling this a "female incel" sub the other day, and I was like call it whatever you want, but if any of the women here aren't having sex, it is definitely not due to the lack of opportunity 🤣 Men are delusional. Sorry, not sorry for having standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:55 PM
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Bahahaha a while back I sent some edible arrangements to my ex's work on valentine's day. I got a domino's pizza surprise delivered to my apartment at like 10pm 🙄😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:38 PM
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100%! Though we're gay, so no scrotey mcscrotescrotes here :) there's definitely a lot of comfort in the shared experience as women, but I will keep vetting for sure. This one was just really refreshing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:55 PM
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I think the terms can definitely be misapplied at times. I think it's also probably important to understand that most people who engage in these behaviors aren't consciously doing so.. Most LV types aren't sitting there plotting different ways to gaslight you - they usually just have unresolved issues they haven't addressed and poor coping mechanisms so they take it out on other people. And that's not to say that some people won't be intentionally manipulative. That happens too. But I think in m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:35 PM
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Thank you! :) I met someone on Jan 1st of 2020 and I was like aww how poetic, this is gonna be my year! After 2 months, some mixed signals and a global pandemic later - I didn't realize how shit the world was going to turn 😂 So yeah, 2021 has been FABULOUS so far
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:23 PM
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How do you ladies handle this? My general rule of thumb is that I just don't give anyone unsolicited advice. Definitely willing to have an open ear, but unless they specifically ask for my input, I'm not gonna bother. Saves me from doing a lot of emotional work, and saves them from getting pissed about things they might not be ready to hear. If they genuinely ask about your feelings on a matter, they're usually way more likely to be open minded and introspective about whatever issue they're faci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:15 PM
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They can't be adults in love with adults? I mean, did you look at the drawing and handwriting? It definitely looks like he is a 5 year old 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:06 PM
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I just wanted to gush about a really awesome first date I had this past week. No red flags, everything went swimmingly, we already have some mutual friends, and we both seem to have direct and clear mutual interest with no ambiguity. Already made plans to see each other again. What more can I say? I feel really good about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:44 PM
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I think it depends on how you're "working on yourself." If you're chronically depressed and relying on some external source to provide you with happiness, it's probably a recipe for disaster. But I also feel that "working on yourself" is a continuous activity that one never truly finishes. Exploring new hobbies is no reason to not date. If you're looking for new friends in a new city that's not entirely unusual either - as long as you don't depend on your date to be (or provide) your entire soci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:37 PM
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Usually whenever I need to make a bathroom break, I google the closest McDonald's, BK, Wendy's, etc. Super convenient, they're always right off an exit, usually not next to some sketchy woods, and it isn't a truck driver hang out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:00 PM
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I would maybe only consider a "walk" if it's actually a legit hike, and only because I'm gay and feel like women are way less likely to be psycho murderers. I would NEVER do this alone with a man I've never met and it's kind of insane that they keep suggesting it. I get there's a pandemic but maybe put in a little effort 😅 that's the second worse thing about a walk, besides not considering our safety. It's so generic they ask EVERYONE to do it. Wow, really making us feel special huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:14 PM
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I absolutely love great danes and want one myself, but supposedly they're so gentle that they'll go to an intruder for pets and scratches 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:30 PM
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Yeah I feel like it's being up voted because it's a "cool" gift, but in the long run probably less expensive than a few dinners and what not. One of my childhood friends got her PhD and we got her a sword too - it was wonderful, she loved it, but it's kind of like receiving a dozen roses on valentine's day, you know? Bare minimum, she literally told us what she wanted lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:58 PM
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You mean funky trumpy in the ass isn't a woman?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:58 PM
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sorry for lying my work is very strict about-“ Translation: I'm cheating on my SO and don't want her to find out! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:56 PM
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and she reacted like I had been unkind. Just remember, you owe men NOTHING. You have no obligation to give anybody your time, effort, or energy. If you're not into someone, you don't have to explain yourself. In fact, it's usually best not to. Just gives them an opportunity to bargain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:55 PM
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Yo, I saw a WILD one the other week where some dude was trying to say the draft was misandrist because women voted for Lyndon B Johnson Ignoring that MEN created the draft before women even had suffrage 😂😂😂 I mean, I don't support the draft, but don't blame your toxic masculinity on women lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:57 PM
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I'm in a male dominated industry, and I'm the "skinny blonde" of the bunch and jesus, what a trip it is. I've heard of this experience being called "benevolent sexism", and on a surface level that has given me "preferential treatment" in some ways, and it absolutely shits all over me in others. I don't even know how to cope with it sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:39 PM
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Yep, I felt the third one on a spiritual level too. Found out I was being paid $10k less than one of my male co-workers who has the EXACT same position as me, same responsibilities. I went on a fucking war path. He's about to have another baby, take leave, and management constantly talks about how lazy he is and how much more work I achieve in the same time frame - they still told me he was "more experienced" and that's why he earns more 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:33 PM
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They think splashing water on things counts lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:14 PM
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I don’t know if I believe they even care about their bodies though. If you're bored, go read any of the body building subs for shiggles. I mean, no, don't actually, but - These men don't work out because it's healthy, they don't care about their longevity, they literally do it to improve their chances of having sex. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:54 PM
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Oh gosh, one of my friends desperately wanted kids so she found a guy with sole custody and bad relationship with his ex. It's remarkable - I barely know the guy, and me and her can rarely hang out because she's always watching the kid while the dad is out and what not. The kid calls her mom even though they are just dating and marriage isn't on the table..it breaks my heart...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:43 PM
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Oh gosh yes, the entire time I was raging at the misogyny, like everyone treating women as property, the brother thinking he could arrange a marriage for his sister, women being raised for this single purpose, etc. Completely gross. The show was visually beautiful, and I really enjoyed the take on the music, but oh my word it was NOT romantic in any way lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:27 PM
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True, but kind and respectful is just part of the equation. Daphne didn't feel the connection and that's fine. The show was SO CLOSE. The mother kept pushing for her to chase love and marry her best friend, not to just "settle" for whoever had the best title or most money. Solid advice. The issue is that Daphne was a pickme who then chased a fuckboi, and of course hid all this from her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:18 PM
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Yeah I recently had a scrote stalk my post history and compare me to HITLER because I said coffee dates were cheap LOL. I mean I'm lesbian and pay for dates, but apparently I'm a gold digging misandrist and commit the equivalent of genocide by not going 50/50 with men?? You can't make this shit up. Scrotes are delusional 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:19 PM
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There's an insanely successful movie franchise centered around a guy fucking an apple pie LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:01 PM
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Because why in the ever loving fuck does she deserve a warning? Are you fucking serious? As if the wife owes her husband's partner in her abuse a warning? This is fucking disgusting. I think the OP was pretty clear about this. The majority of the time, the "partner in abuse" wasn't even aware the other woman existed. She got tricked too. This is why you warn her - and if she's a pickme who intentionally/knowingly cheated, you cease contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:55 PM
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What are the first stages of grief? Denial, then anger? I think the emotional response makes sense in a twisted way. Like yeah, the boyfriend should be the one she's mad at - but we can't start with the assumption that the other person will automatically believe someone who is essentially a stranger. Especially when it's bad news they don't want to hear... If my partner tricked me into thinking they were HV, you'd bet I wouldn't be thinking straight when my world view was shattered in front of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:37 PM
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I had the audacity to hang out with a coworker one time, and he told me he thought I was pursuing him romantically. Like wtf, do men even know what normal human interaction looks like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:53 AM
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I am trying to understand how these ugly old fucked in the head predators affect young mind this way I have never been in this situation personally, but I certainly remember how I thought at that age. Older people were cool. Even a 1 year gap, me being a senior and getting to be friendly with someone who had just started college seemed like a big deal. They were ahead of my life stage, and they gave me attention, surely it must have meant that I was mature for my age. I guess that sort of thing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:32 PM
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The best response to "not all men" is yes, all women experience harassment at some point in their lives. But men still don't like to hear that. So I point out that what they're doing is deflecting attention away from the problem without doing anything to actually help fix it. It's also worth us questioning why they have this emotional reaction. Are women being unreasonable? I don't think so. I think it has to do with men's cognitive dissonance, that they have maybe treated women poorly in the pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:24 PM
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They probably mean bisexuals I'm not gonna sit around and tell anyone how they can or cannot label themselves, but I do have a number of bisexual friends who call themselves lesbians. Was always a pet peeve of mine! Like even if they are attracted primarily to women, it's not very great to tell men you're lesbian and still sleep with them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:50 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:54 PM
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I feel like a lot of the fundamentals here are so solid. Like, lesbian women can definitely fall victim to pickme behavior and I openly admit I did that in my early 20s. But also. I've just been scarred so badly by men, despite never even dating them... it's comforting to be able to say I've been assaulted without being called a misandrist...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:57 AM
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I can count my male friends on one hand. I usually need a double barrier - 1) me being lesbian, 2) them already having an SO. You'd think one of these would be enough, but no. In the past I've had so many men, who KNEW I was gay, still try to hit on me anyway. The only single straight guy who I'd actually call a friend is within my niche career field, so at least we help each other professionally and stuff. Literally every other single guy I knew beyond acquaintance level has tried to sleep with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:45 PM
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So you already made multiple mistakes in 1) over explaining a giant wall of text and 2) telling him you wouldn't read a response instead of simply just blocking him. Even if you leave him on read after this, it's still entertaining your ego, which is a no no. But I'm not you, so. Did he respond? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:29 PM
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and I made all the first moves. Slight tangent here, but this is one of my big struggles with lesbian dating, still. Someone needs to make the first move, but I feel like we've all been conditioned to let others show interest first 😅 Anyone got tips for navigating that one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:09 PM
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I will inevitably say something hurtful because I have no tact or training. Disclaimer: don't let any dude turn you into his therapist. Don't let people take advantage of you, always put yourself first. With that said, I'm sure eventually someone will come to you with a problem and you'll want to help. Maybe they're a good friend. Maybe it's your mother. Helping them is mostly about validating their emotions, and unless they did something particularly egregious, agreeing that their reaction to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:11 PM
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For me, it's independent of how someone feels about company. Doesn't matter if it's you, some bro, their mom, whatever. If they're not embarrassed about a messy house, they probably have no self respect or love for themselves, which is the 🚩 I think it's an important distinction, because they could maybe still show genuine interest in you, but that doesn't mean the relationship will be healthy in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:09 PM
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Oh gross. It probably is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:28 AM
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I have never really read cosmo, so I don't know, but is this article actually defending men? Because I read it and all I can think is "wow men suck," and I have a hard time seeing how anyone could see it differently. The dude even admits to having a scumbag mentality lolol. If this isn't a genuine "men are horrible, I know because I am one" piece, what is it? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:56 PM
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Yeah, I used to think expensive rings were a waste of money. Why not put it towards a down-payment on a house instead? Then I grew up, actually started earning money, and realized a couple grand is just a drop in the bucket. Wouldn't make a dent in my finances, so why would I settle for anything less? You're right, everyone comes from a different place financially. There's definitely some underprivileged people trying to make ends meet. But generally speaking, I think this sort of attitude comes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:39 PM
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An invitation to misery and hell 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:22 PM
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Because no women who come from countries where prostitution is rampant defend it. I think a lot of people picture sex work as this grandiose thing. Like it's a bunch of hyper feminine women who get lavishly wined and dined, or jetsetted across the globe on their own whims. Reality is that most of these ladies are groomed/abused/trafficked and they live in poverty with no other way out. And it's dangerous! Whether due to male violence, STDs, etc. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:48 PM
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Yup. Whole list is toxic masculinity. The part about how they can't be seen as a "wuss" and don't have friends who can help them through a break up. Yeah, okay. No sympathy. That's their own doing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:41 PM
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and I was born from a valentine's day hookup 🤮 I cannot confirm for sure, but pretty sure I am the product of a new year's eve gone wrong hahaha. I feel ya.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:24 PM
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The breadsticks are nicer than any penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:21 PM
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whose social media mentions porn or God forbid has hentai Okay I've deleted my social media since ~2015. Who the hell puts hentai on fb or insta?! Please tell me this doesn't actually happen 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:54 PM
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Surely vetting can be achieved without resorting to what is essentially catfishing? Like sorry, but nah. If I even think I have to resort to making a fake identity to test someone, that's probably the first major sign that they aren't for me... Basically, don't give them the playbook on how to successfully manipulate you. Let them state their intentions first. If they're serious about a relationship, you'll know. And if you don't know, well, that's an answer in itself IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:42 PM
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This is why scrotes get uncomfortable when you ask them to explain a bad joke, because then they have to dismantle the screen of “humor” that separates the joke from their actual beliefs. Oh for sure! I encountered a wild case of this last month. Some dude was using the insurrection as a pickup line, asking the woman if she got in on the action. I was like. Hey. This isn't funny. This woman probably doesn't appreciate that you're comparing her to a bunch of MAGA domestic terrorists. They told me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:40 PM
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For sure! I think the point was "don't settle for less" rather than "wait to start living your life."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:32 PM
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A while back in college, one of my roommates invited over one of her friends who had the trashiest boyfriend I've ever met. Dude was the epitome of toxic masculinity and ended up punching a hole in OUR wall. Like, you don't live here, your girlfriend doesn't even live here, wtf are you even thinking? He claimed he'd fix it, but never did. We had to resort to calling his MOM who ended up paying us for the materials we needed to do it ourselves 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:10 PM
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I mean, I don't see the problem. He's clearly identifying himself as a giant dick. If they wanna wear the red flag on their forehead, let them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:01 PM
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Yeah, for sure! I was thinking more from a money/employer/coworker perspective, which I get can be difficult for some people to line up new jobs quickly. I have definitely dropped a number of "friends" with this sort of attitude too, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:19 PM
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ironically threaten us by saying men won’t find it attractive I honestly don't think they do this ironically. They just really want to put us in our place. I love when men try to pull this shit because whenever you respond with something like, "have you ever considered that I have no intention of fucking you, and don't want to attract you," they always give you the shocked Pikachu face 😂 I even make a point to do this whenever the comment isn't about me. "Sorry Brian, but I don't think Beyoncé g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:06 PM
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I work in a male dominated field, and let me tell you, it's a constant struggle. I've reported multiple coworkers for sexual harassment with varying results, and I've constantly been gaslit about my "experience" and worth despite the fact that I've been in my field for half a decade and have more (relevant) formal education than all of my male peers. The only way I've been able to succeed is by being incredibly blunt, not worrying about being seen as "rude," and basically jumping ships and burni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:41 PM
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Did you ever dabble in any other sort of "psychic" readings? My friend went to one, and the lady read her palm and basically accused her of sleeping around, which is hilarious, because she is so not that type. I've been wanting to go to one just to see what sort of subconscious vibes I'm giving off 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:51 AM
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Go read any of the dating subreddits if you enjoy salt and popcorn. There are so many entitled men who will whine about this sort of thing and be like, "Why did she match with me if she had no intention of meeting?!" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:02 PM
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What. The. Fuck. What is even the purpose of this?! Are they trying to rebrand themselves as some sort of Ashley Madison affair service?! 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:34 PM
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Lesbian woman here, and... while there is definitely some discrimination that comes with it...I tell my hetero friends all the time how I am so sorry they have to date men 😂😂😂 they are usually just like, "yeah...:("
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:42 PM
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you know the game is rigged. It's so trash. Like, beyond the issues with OLD in general, these corporations are now just trying to monetize the apps and mess with algorithms so you'll be more tempted to buy the premium services they offer. I thought hinge was pretty decent a couple years ago, but somehow the user base moved more towards hookup tinder quality people. And they started identifying "standouts" (aka people the algorithm thinks you'll like most) who you can only match with by buying s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:22 PM
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What is incognito mode? I haven't used bumble in years, and honestly it was okay for me in lesbian dating, because there was no first move BS. I can't imagine how much it sucks for straight dating lol. At first I liked the idea, "oh, well men won't be able to harass women if they can't send the first message." But you know what? Of course they still can. Only, they'll just feel more entitled about the harassment because you had to express interest first 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:08 PM
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Oh gosh. There was a recent post on a dating subreddit where one lady was like "fellas, this guy hasn't texted me back in a month, did I get ghosted? I don't understand, he didn't bring cash to our first date so I paid for his meal because fuck gender roles!" ☠☠☠ I was like sis, if you want to fuck gender roles go shave your hair or grab a high paying promotion. Also yes, he ghosted you and you shouldn't care because he has no value. Have. Higher. Standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:25 PM
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No, regular communication is a healthy quality in any relationship. It's only "wrong" if you're dumping a bunch of emotional energy into somebody who isn't giving it back to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:09 PM
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😂😂😂 The only way I'm dating someone who is financially unstable is if we're taking a time machine back to college and we're both students. At which point marriage is off the table because we're two kids without careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:05 PM
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Yeah, that's fair. I've been guilty of space cadeting and just completely forgetting at times. But it's more about long term trends, like does this happen on random occasions when they're busy, or all the time every time? More importantly, I don't think you will ever forgot about somebody for weeks if you are truly prioritizing them. 8 hours during a stressful work day, maybe fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:50 PM
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It's definitely not "blowing up" his phone, but it does sound like she's putting in a lot more effort than he is. Ideally she would recognize that and stop wasting her time on a guy who sucks, or even more ideally, he'd stop being a piece of trash and just tell her he's not interested in a relationship. But then he can't trick her into sex. It all really becomes so obvious when you try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. If my crush was texting me back within minutes, I would be THRILLE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:22 PM
6

It's gotta be a joke/commentary from someone who is either single or in a happy relationship, right? If the woman is that self aware, surely she'd dump the guy instead of baking a cake. And a guy who wants to be a forever boyfriend surely would never put in this kind of effort into baking/decorating just to let his girlfriend know that he sucks... I hope...lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:05 PM
8

do men just guess their height? Probably? I honestly think it's a pretty great filter. Like they are basically just admitting that they are either 1) liars or 2) too irresponsible to schedule regular physicals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:33 PM
12

Sure, and I don't mean to target Christianity specifically, because truthfully all religion is a red flag for me. Would never date somebody like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:28 PM
13

I was planning on buying a single GME share today. Not because I care about gamestop. Not because I expect to get rich quick if the squeeze rockets. Mostly because my savings are large enough that I will gladly light $300 on fire if it has even a 1% chance of contributing to fucking over Wallstreet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:41 PM
19

Okay, I realize you're probably joking but for anyone that needs to see this: You can get pregnant from precum! A dude doesn't need to prematurely ejaculate 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:04 PM
37

Okay, sure, "not all christians", BUT they are so heavily correlated with conservative politics, homophobia, weird misogynistic standards, etc. Even if they claim to be "socially liberal", they were almost certainly raised in a family of Trump supporters. Auto red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:53 PM
53

I have been browsing the hingeapp subreddit and it's all just so terrifyingly disgusting. The majority of men over there don't give a fuck that there's a global pandemic, they just want to set up an in person (low effort) date as quickly as possible with no/ minimal vetting. They have zero success and keep getting ghosted, but then get all upset and angry when you tell them that they're being pushy and their lack of respect for safety/boundaries is the problem 😂😂 They have so much entitlement to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:13 PM
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Yeah, personally I view "fitness" in more of a holistic sense? I personally never go to the gym. I do, however, go for lengthy bike rides, hike, ski, eat healthy, etc. I really don't care how my partner achieves their fitness, as long as they are on somewhat of the same wavelength. I hate jogging, but if that's their primary form of exercise I think that's wonderful! Mostly I'm just trying to avoid couch potatoes who only know how to microwave chicken nuggies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:16 PM
35

antique memes 😂 Listen here, this is only like ten years old!!! 🤨🤨🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:12 AM
16

At first I was jealous and thought she must've thought she was perfect for being so pretty and so smart, but then I saw her eating and studying alone It's funny, isn't it? I'm confident in my looks, but I acknowledge I'll probably never be on the cover of a fashion magazine. But a lot of conventionally beautiful people feel isolated and lonely for this reason. So many people make immediate assumptions about them - that they've had an easy life, they get treated better, they have unfair advantage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:18 PM
5

I think it's interesting for once to have the guy be in that position to misinterpret "mixed signals" in his favour. I think it was super interesting from a pop culture perspective! I haven't seen every movie ever, but this is the only one I can think of that portrays a relationship in this way... and that's fascinating to me, because I think it's so so so common for men (and even some women) to do this in real life. Tom was a classic NiceGuy™. Thinks that he deserves a shot at a relationship ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:51 PM
31

I hope you got out of there okay. That's definitely a situation where I'd recommend "going to the bathroom" and just never returning. Not your fault at all, and the onus isn't on you to "not get tricked" - it's their fault for being crappy people. But it for sure demonstrates why extra vetting is so beneficial for us. Truthfully, I'm guilty of falling into the mindset that other women are "safer" to meet up with, but that just isn't the damn case sometimes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:09 PM
11

Yes. From the get go, Summer was clear about CoMmUnIcAtInG her intentions. She said she didn't want anything serious. Tom, of course, thinks she is "the one" because god knows why. He spends pretty much the entire movie secretly obsessing over her, not really being clear about how strong his own emotions are, manipulating her into thinking they have a friendship and mutual understanding, and then gets all upset when he realizes he couldn't change her mind and that she actually meant what she sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:51 PM
8

Right! So many romcoms have the same message. Guy courts woman who is out of his league, and he succeeds by being persistent, ignoring her wishes, and crossing all the boundaries. Such a toxic message. While the main character in 500 days is a piece of trash, I just love the movie because it's one of the most honest and real takes on modern relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:39 PM
6

Oh, for sure. I did too. Don't feel bad about that! This movie is 12 years old now, and that's the best part. I first watched it right before starting my first year of college, so I've obviously done a lot of growing since that time, and it has been really fun (even rewarding?) to see my perspective change over time. Teen me was really somewhat of a JGL. Building up relationships in my head. Ignoring direct communication. Chasing after people who didn't want me. The movie definitely pushed me to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:09 PM
39

Hurt people act hurt, I think. It's easier for them to try and bring others down to their level, than it is to elevate themselves and be the people they want to be. They could be outside, practicing their own skating and watching a variety of different people. Instead, they try to knock other people down to justify their own lack of expertise and such. We could guess at a million different reasons why. There are so many different motivations. Traumas. Negative cycles. Mental health issues. But I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:18 PM
13

Hahahaha, I mean on some level the layer of fat probably provides extra cushioning to make it hurt less? But like. Why do men punch each other for fun? What sort of toxic masculinity does this appeal to? If they actually had abs, couldn't they just lift their shirt up and flex them without physical violence?! Also can someone please explain to me how the "dad bod" became trendy in recent years? I am so fascinated by this phenomenon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:02 PM
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Fellow lesbian here, and holy shit. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I can't believe another woman would throw you under the bus like that, it's so not cool. Granted, people can always lie, but I have a pretty hard rule that I just don't date bisexual women. In part for reasons like this... but mostly because I just can't relate to the attraction to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:55 PM
10

clear cut signs of psychopathy in the man. You'd think all the murder would make it more obvious to them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:42 PM
19

Even JGL tweeted recently that he was the villain of that movie! I like to watch it every so often to remind me of all the red flags that shouldn't be ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:40 PM
12

Oh gosh, yes. Sometimes I enjoy trash tv. If I miss an episode of the bachelor, I usually come back to find 500+ unread texts over the course of an hour or two lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:32 PM
45

I despise thongs too. A couple years back, one of my friends told me she just goes "commando" in leggings and such, and I tried it out, and honestly... it's game changing. Just make sure they aren't thin enough to see through when you stretch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:36 PM
60

Slightly off topic but I keep getting these pandora ads for McDonald's that are like why choose one when you can buy her BOTH meals 😂😂 as if this is the peak of romance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:08 PM
10

Another example would be a similar career path - Yep, yep. Truthfully I met one of my best friends on an OLD app (at age 30) and this is us. We both share a very niche career path/field that also conviently happens to revolve around some very social activities. I literally swiped yes on her just because of her listed job title, and she gave me her number, unprompted, in less than an hour of chatting. We constantly bounce professional ideas off each other, and have definitely helped to elevate ea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:53 PM
1

Ironically, men are the ones who should actually enjoy this. They have a damn pleasure spot up there! But you know, homophobia and such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:12 PM
3

Ugh TwoX is trash and has been since whenever it became a default. Even if this is actually a woman posting, it's still mostly men who upvote (and therefore filter) the content that we see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:52 PM
8

Hahaha I don't find him attractive at all, but I suppose some people might enjoy getting mistaken for celebrities?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:59 AM
38

This is exactly it. They like to banter over video games or drop sports knowledge. Hell, maybe even occasionally they'll do something healthy like go for hike together. But they rarely ever talk about their emotions, and usually avoid anything substantial. It's easy to avoid conflict when you only scratch the surface and never truly open up with people. I've only ever seen men get into serious fights when they share interest in a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:31 AM
1

Oh gosh, that is just so sad. It sounds like he was still hung up on you whenever he sent that note. I want to say the asking you out twice part might have been a sign, but honestly I've been there too. I had a guy that would always make these gross sexual propositions every few months, and each time I turned him down he'd gaslight me that he was "just joking" and assure me that he only saw me as a friend. Eventually it all came out in one violent outburst 2 years later, and I had to cut him out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:17 AM
3

Hahaha of my gosh, the poor woman that got duped by him... so he's basically just signaling that he never processed that rejection, and would probably jump ship if a "better" opportunity came up 🙄 When I get engaged I plan to celebrate with my family and best friends, my ex would be literally the last thing on my mind omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:46 PM
9

Which avoidance is often a destructive coping mechanism that results from trauma. Trauma probably caused by toxic masculinity. But it's a vicious cycle because men are the ones reinforcing it, and it isn't our responsibility to coddle or fix them. Maybe one day they'll figure it out, but until then just move on to the ones who don't have issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:21 PM
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He kind of looks like Vince Vaughan. Not in a good way. It's just that this quote is so laughably absurd. Is humans of new york a parody account or is this real lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:13 PM
6

My ex once contacted me on the weekend of their wedding, hahaha. I'm not sure what the intent was, but I coincidentally happened to be 8,000 miles across the world on a vacation that kicked the ass out of their planned honeymoon. And it took me a minute to realize from the time zone difference, but all of the texts were coming in during what would have been odd hours of the night. Nothing sketch going on there, right? 🙄 I wish I had just ignored, but in the moment it truthfully felt pretty great…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:49 PM
3

I'm so sorry that was your first experience with therapy. I've been in and out for years, and have seen five different therapists over my life, and while I clicked more or less with some, absolutely none of them have been invalidating. It's natural to vibe differently with different people, just like dating, just like making friends, so keep that in mind while seeking a therapist. You unfortunately had a really bad experience with your first one, but it's not terribly uncommon to go through mult…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:23 PM
4

And your word is enough to file a report – or should be to any HR rep worth their salt. Again, there will likely be factfinding in which both sides will be heard and a neutral party might be called upon to adjudicate or administer an appropriate remedy Oh yeah, this is exactly what I did! I filed a report without a lawyer, they spent weeks doing "fact finding", and ultimately determined it was a she said/ he said situation. Rather than doing anything to discipline or terminate the offender, they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:36 PM
5

I suppose, but this requires lawyers, and money, and time. I'm just curious to hear the experiences of other ladies who have reported such cases to their HR departments. Without undeniable evidence (video, written), it seems as though it's generally not in our best interests to report things. I'm still so angry and frustrated over my situation, and I'm not sure what I could have done differently. The only "justice" I got was in being able to walk out the door without two weeks notice and have an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:59 PM
25

Can confirm there’s a great lawsuit here for literally ANYONE who heard those comments. How do you deal with cases where you can't "prove" it? E.g. there are minimal or no witnesses, it's not written via text, it wasn't recorded, etc. I was sexually assaulted by a coworker a couple years ago and reported it to HR and it did NOT work out in my favor. They retaliated and I had to find a new job...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:05 PM
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Truthfully, I met one of my best friends like this. She's wonderful and we share so much in common, and we came close to crossing paths a dozen times before. I suppose any given profile could be a catfish. I really have no solid data, but I'd assume these creeps are less likely to use the bff option? Also you can pretty easily verify someone with a phonecall or video chat. I'd say the risk is low?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:11 AM
27

Has this always been a thing??? Or just since reddit was made. Honest question. I think a lot of shitty people are emboldened by anonymity. So probably not because of reddit specifically, but I'd bet that such random acts of hate increased when the internet became mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:40 AM
193

The worst part here is that it's not even "male" and "female", it's "man" and "female" lmao wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:55 PM
27

Hahaha, I was just making a joke. Like in some cheesy movies, they try to hide the ring in the bottom of a cocktail glass or something. What would the hooters variation be? "Here, cover this in sauce and deliver it to us in the bottom of our wing basket, please!" I'm willing to bet money that someone somewhere has tried something similar to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:31 PM
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Serious question, do you have your college job on your resume? I was a manager at a completely normal restaurant, but it's no longer relevant to my career field and hasn't been part of my resume for many years now. It's probably only relevant if you're a fresh grad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:33 PM
51

participate Oh my god, what was your role? Did you have to bread and fry the ring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:19 PM
145

Hahaha I have literally been called aggressive. I was out at a bar with my friend, came back from the bathroom to find some dude literally draped upon her, arm around the neck. She has a wonderful husband and obviously wanted no part of it. So I took her arm, told the guy she was taken, and as we were walking away he started screaming at me that I was being aggressive 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:07 PM
18

Ugh no. I grew up in a rural area and every self proclaimed "country loving boy" turned out to be a trump loving piece of trash 🤮🤮🤮 Any time I see the signs-- lifted trucks, camo prints, ratty hats, timberlands, the "accent", etc. I get so repulsed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:45 PM
12

OH MY GOD. The bottom middle one looks EXACTLY like this kid I went to college with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:40 PM
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Thank you very much for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:55 PM
5

Sure. Exploitation is a difficult trap to pull yourself out of. And I can see how it would he hard to give up the short term benefits even if it benefits you in the long term to leave. Ultimately, I think she's in a position where she can break away, she just needs to take the leap. You know what they say. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink, right? 🤷‍♀️ there's not really much I can do to help her. She has to take the initiative herself...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:51 PM
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It's just so rough. Like not having a clear retirement plan, because skeezy men prefer the youngest possible. And she has to take prep continuously, so even if she doesn't get HIV, she will likely have lasting kidney or liver damage. I really hope she uses one of them to pay for an incredible education and then gets the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:19 PM
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I have a friend who is a legit "high class escort." Like, she can be very selective of who she chooses to see. Makes more money than I could ever dream of. She always tells me how envious she is of me for having a normal life...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:35 PM
12

Because it's the new incel subreddit in disguise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:43 PM
10

Right? Like, if she was such a "psycho" shouldn't he be in court fighting for custody? Either he lost that fight because he sucks, or he didn't fight in the first place because he doesn't give a damn about his own child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:35 PM
6

How do I explain this to my mom who owns a house with her eternal boyfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:11 PM
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I can't believe she still had sex with him 🤮 How could she have possibly been in the mood after that? Hot damn. Also clearly she has felt uncomfortable saying "I love you" sooner, and that should be a giant red flag in and of itself. She was tormented because her intuition knew he didn't feel it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:39 PM
12

I HOPE they are full time college students, but even then, I was paid more from my part time college job a decade ago! Cannot imagine dating anyone this irresponsible with money...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:16 PM
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$150 -> half his paycheck Weeeeeew boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:40 PM
18

Honestly, the only men that have ever treated me with respect have been the ones who are already in committed relationships. I'm a damn lesbian, and I thought that would be a clear enough signal of disinterest, but I've still had male "friends" relentlessly sexually harass me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:27 PM
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Hell yeah lady! I did the same. If quarantine taught me anything, it was just how much money I had been wasting going out all the time. I've added $20k to my savings account since march. Coincidentally my BMI is also 20 lol. No new car, but this one will be paid off in less than a year! I'm feeling very positive about life for whenever this pandemic ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 10:47 PM
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Honestly, the part that really gets me is that it would be SO EASY for him to lie and just be like, "no honey, I will always love you regardless of whatever your mother looks like," but he's so worthless he can't even pretend to be high value lmao. Men really do tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:55 PM
19

Okay, I've noticed a pattern. I've had a number of successful long term relationships that have lasted for years. They came to ends for one reason or another. But. The one thing they all had in common, was that they never gave me "the butterflies." And I hate to feel this way. But it left me thinking that the lack of butterflies was some sort of lack of connection, and I always wished for (and still wish for) somebody who "takes my breathe away." I still seek that even though it has never worked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:32 PM
6

This fucker jinxed all of 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:30 PM
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You think? Maybe a movie isn't inherently high effort in and of itself, but when you're in a committed relationship, does that mean you can never go to the movies? You can never eat comfort food? As a first date sure, I wouldn't want to go to the movies. But if my committed partner went out of their way to rent a vehicle just to take me to a drive in, I think that's definitely some level of effort? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:12 PM
2

I recently joined this subreddit and I'm loving a lot of the philosophy here... but I guess I am wondering if there is support, or perhaps a sister subreddit for lesbian women? While a lot of the messages about value and self worth hold true, there's some very distinct differences between how men and women treat each other in relationships lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:46 PM
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It's so gross. Like. What if she had alopecia? Or got cancer later in life? Dude's just going to decide it's time to leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:55 AM
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