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I actually think this is a great idea! Not about child support $ though. My thing, as a woman and mother, is how devastating it is for women who lose their baby and I KNOOOOW ITS NOT THE SAME (so please understand- I KNOW), BUT… I image being a dude and thinking a child you have raised is yours only to find out later it’s not… And then, in some cases, I see the mom ghost and the guy can’t do anything because it’s not technically his kid. So yeah, forget the money part.. I think about the psychol…
/r/AllPillDebate30/09/23 02:02 AM
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Unfortunately, the .1% you speak of are VERY LOUD. And it’s the same in other groups too (for example how a lot of people have deemed the LGBTQ+ community are all pedos). If you and the 99% do not support and advocate for violence and the other things you mentioned, then you have to be louder than the .1%. Otherwise, it becomes very easy for people to lump you all together. It’s not right, but it happens all the time.
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 06:38 PM
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Is this really what most women are like these days??!! Sheesh. I get it for maybe high school I guess, but grown ass women (?).
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/23 09:17 AM
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Haribo ring has me 💀 lol. (Edit: spelling)
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/23 02:26 PM
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She referred to them as “boys” so that says something. He replies to everyone here says something similar.
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/23 03:27 PM
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Agree. I’ve watched it 3 times now. As a female, my perspective is that she is completely different from the time the interviewer is asking her about him to when they meet up. Immediately, she’s shut off - her body language is telling (crossed arms - doesn’t even shake his hand). While she does give a half-assed smile a few times, as soon as he asks her if they are bf/gf, she goes into resting b!tch face. I can tell you she doesn’t even want to be friends. She seems “normal” to me (I don’t see f…
/r/AllPillDebate31/08/23 10:02 AM
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You have the wrong idea about findom (it’s consensual and the men who participate seek it out). Don’t throw empathy out there when you just referred to women as demons. And to answer your question directly, the clap-back from Megfindom is hilarious to me. She also makes valid points.
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/23 07:57 PM
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I just spit my drink out 🤣
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/23 07:25 PM
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My stomach hurts so hard from laughing at “All the promiscuous hoes clapped at him like seals” 🤣🤣🤣💀
/r/AllPillDebate22/08/23 02:27 AM
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Same. In fact, we both find other people attractive (we aren’t blind). Doesn’t mean we want to F that person and certainly not ruin what we have with each other. And like you, I genuinely do not care to be with anyone else besides my husband. It’s all about the deeper connection (that I’ve only experienced with him) that does it for me. That is what I want and I get it from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:43 AM
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Personally, I have no desire to be with any other man besides my husband. He’s an awesome human and interesting to talk with. I like how we’re able to comfortably communicate what we want and how we want it as well as what we need and how to get there. Also, just about every other post in this sub is some guy saying they will not be with a woman who has a high n count (some take it step further and claim they only want a virgin). And that’s fine and all - that’s their preference, but it seems to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 01:32 AM
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Yes. April and Jake are friends. They know each other well. Jake and Sarah do not know each other well - they’re still establishing the foundation of their relationship. What insight are you hoping to gain by asking this??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:49 AM
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K
/r/AllPillDebate10/10/22 06:32 PM
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To not reproduce simply because one does not have perfect physical proportions is a bit extreme in my opinion. That’s what I was trying to get at there. Again, I can understand when there are perhaps genetic disorders or the like, but beauty standards?? To each their own though. And at this point, I have pretty low expectations in terms of humanity…
/r/AllPillDebate10/10/22 02:17 PM
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Curious to know what one might gain from even asking this. That’s enough Reddit for today.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:15 AM
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I can certainly understand when it comes to hereditary diseases and such. Not so much when it comes to beauty standards though.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 09:56 PM
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Well, I’m sorry to hear that. While I certainly understand (I’m not naïve to it as someone else suggested) it’s just not the most important thing in life IMO - I suppose it is to someone if reproducing is their #1 priority in life.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 09:54 PM
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Also, I’m just curious about something… when you say they opt out of having children all together due to the possibility of passing on undesirable traits- those traits you speak of, are you talking about looks alone/beauty standards??
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 07:45 PM
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You just said “…it just used to not be this blatantly obvious” which answered my question (are people really this shallow these days). 🤷‍♀️ Guess I’m soooo naïve… oh, darn.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 07:40 PM
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No - I said, “To think that way, to the point of raging, blows my mind” is what I said. “To the point of raging”. You’re putting your own spin on what I said. Edit to add: see also where I commented earlier: "Feeling uncomfortable is one thing, but to rage out on someone because they are taller than you or whatever is madness. (Edit for typo “rave” to “rage”)". Most everyone feels insecure about something and that is ok, normal event. That is not at all what I'm talking about though. Emotionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:06 PM
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I’ve actually read where scent plays a part of attractiveness… would that count though in terms of what you’re talking about it? When I say scent, I think they were referring to one’s natural scent (vs cologne or perfume - though, I would imagine that could be a contributing factor as well). For example, let’s say you see a model on Insta but when you meet her in person, she smells like fish (the gross kind). Are you still interested? Regardless, I wonder if the sane is true for women… let’s say…
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 07:01 PM
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Again, emotionally is one thing and is separate from a physical outburst. Is it seriously your position that it ok to behave this way with physical outburst (even if it were widespread)???
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:50 PM
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Widespread, huh? I do not see people flicking off random people at the mall because the other person is taller. BTW, wouldn’t THAT be a better example of lack of empathy?? Raging at someone because they are taller?? What?! Inattentive? I have two children; one is a toddler - I’m overly attentive. My comments/ replies here are in response to some of the examples OP has given. And you do not know me so do not pretend to know what problem I have. My only problem here is people feeling they have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:42 PM
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If you’re disrespecting people (flicking random people off or raging at them) for the simple fact that you feel superior because you’re taller, it is only a me problem if it’s directed me. If one can’t control their outbursts because they think this way, that is not my problem as you’ve suggested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:00 PM
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Feeling uncomfortable is one thing, but to rage out on someone because they are taller than you or whatever is madness. (Edit for typo “rave” to “rage”)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:06 PM
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100%!!!
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 04:02 PM
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Are people really THIS shallow these days???
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/22 04:00 PM
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This! And these quotes OP posted are alarming coming from grown a$$ people. I had that kind of mindset at 6 years old when someone in class ran faster than me (I had always been the first to finish when we would race). I was a bit devastated… but I was 6…. And I quickly learned I was not special and superior to others just because I could run fast. To think that way as a grown adult because someone is taller, to the point of raging, blows my mind!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:48 PM
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Disrespecting someone because they are taller than you? How pathetic. (Edit - typo)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:41 PM
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Agree. Communication is two-way deal. My husband is better at it than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 11:06 AM
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I think “rough sex” is a very broad term. It can mean a lot of different things. But if you’re speaking specifically of domination and being degraded during sex, I think it’s VERY common in both men and women. I think like many other things, it’s just another turn on for some folks. Personally, I like some domination from (or to) my husband sprinkled into our sex life. I’d say it’s probably on the lighter side. In terms of porn as someone else brought up, not sure about him, but it’s not somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:11 AM
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Personally, I didn’t realize this was a dating sub, peace out!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:16 AM
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Yeah, preferences are fine. That’s not what I’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:15 AM
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Literally every other post is about how they only want virgins. 🤷‍♀️ I’m married, so not my deal. And my comment was mostly sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 02:12 AM
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Seems that way - especially purple pill guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:04 AM
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Plenty of women on OnlyFans are shamed by men and women alike. There is a market for it, though. The entire “church” shames women who engage in premarital sex (regardless of n count). And while I don’t agree with abortion myself, women are told to “just keep their legs closed” with zero regard for the men knocking them up. It is socially unacceptable in many cases for women to have casual sex - they are shamed for it - told to their face they are shit - called hoes, etc. Look at how many of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:27 PM
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You can have a preference without being a dick though is what I’m saying. You don’t have the right to treat women (or anyone else frankly) like garbage just because you don’t agree with their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:02 PM
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Yea - go check out the marriage and dead bedroom sub. Sexual compatibility is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:59 PM
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And that’s a perfect reason to prefer a low n count partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:45 PM
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Yeah, guess we (women) need to all go back to no pre-marital sex… let’s see how the divorce rates look after that. It’s not that they prefer low n count women; it’s that they view women with high or even average n count like they’re less than trash. Women are not off the hook either - treating men who do not meet every standard like they are a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:40 PM
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True. My husband and I were discussing it the other day and have come to determine most of them are probably super young and immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:20 PM
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Ok I asked him… I framed it as “ok so imagining everything else played out the way it did, if I had a high n count, would that have made you think twice about marrying me later?”. He thought about it for a minute and then explained yes, he would have had second thoughts because if I had a high n count, and slept with others easily, but made him wait, that would make him feel some type of way - like he’s not good enough or something. Which is understandable. I feel like I would be a different per…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 07:12 PM
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Oh, there is ZERO shame in our marriage :) Been with this man over half my life - we’ve shared everything. We’re very honest with each other - even if that means it’s going to hurt the others’ feelings or whatever. I’d rather have my feelings hurt and later get over it than dishonesty. We just - honest and open communicate is one of our stronger traits in the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:47 PM
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Maybe… I don’t believe so though. I’ll have to ask him about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:22 PM
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Oh, I see. I apologize for misunderstanding… it’s this sub! Lol. Yeah I don’t know, it’s just something I feel indifferent about. I don’t feel it’s something that contributes to or takes away from our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:16 PM
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I’m finding majority (certainly not all) of men in this sub are toxic with toxic and delusional ideas about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:13 PM
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To be more clear, we did not have sex for a while… we were well into dating when this came up and very much exclusively seeing each other. I didn’t find him more or less attractive. You can believe that or you can think otherwise. I’m not surprised that’s the one thing you commented on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:07 PM
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I think men with high n counts primarily fall into three categories (based on what I’ve seen IRL and read about here and other sources) : 1) they’re in a party phase and/or really young and only interested in casual hookups - they aren’t interested in settling down anytime soon - maybe ever - and that’s ok; 2) they’ve been faithful to their partners only for them to get cheated on so they’re emotionally unavailable to women and not interested in getting hurt again any time soon and that’s ok; 3)…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:04 PM
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Not in my experience or with female friends (excluding FWB’s). And I understand that doesn’t mean it’s true or not true in the grand scheme of things - just sharing my experience and opinion. Most of my friends, especially in high school and immediately following high school with low n counts kept it that way primarily because of this culture that women are trash if she has a high count and they needed to feel something and feel respected first; and those with the higher n counts really couldn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:48 PM
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Is that what it’s like for men who have high n counts? (I disagree with your statement, BUT at least you have decent reasons). No wrong answers here, I’m just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:41 PM
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I disagree. My opinion is that a woman with a low count, doesn’t just fuck just to fuck; she has some sort of feelings for that person whereas a woman with high n count, probably has a lot more casual, no strings attached sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 02:37 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:32 PM
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Jesus really?! (The first one). That’s a fucked up thing to think let alone say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:46 PM
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Because they’re psychopaths! They do not care about anything so long as their needs are met and why would that be different when it comes to mating? The real question is why women mate with them. As a woman, I don’t get it. And there seems to be more women with these type of guys than with… non-psychopaths. You’d think they’d eventually wise up. I dated a few pricks (not psychopaths, but certainly 5 star assholes) and wised up real fast. I very often, literally pray, to be thankful for a gentle …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 01:39 PM
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Oh, my bad. Replied to the wrong person. My apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:01 AM
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It’s means you’re level-headed and have a good and healthy understanding of how shit works. This is demonstrated in your definition of a “chad”. “Non-piller” as it’s been applied to you here is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:54 PM
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Nobody hurt me. You’re butt hurt because I called you gross. my opinion (which seems to be shared). Good luck to you with…. all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 06:52 PM
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You’re shaming women who are not virgins, but then taking their virginities just so you can “fuck and chuck them”. Sounds like you hate women. You certainly don’t respect them yet you want them to fall all over you and be the first person they sleep with. Some of you are really out of touch with reality. You must be big mad because you’re on some fucking rant that doesn’t even make sense, not to mention all the typos. Someone mentioned the other day this sub is full of man-children and/or virgin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:26 PM
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The way you treat people (you know, women are people, too) is gross. Sleep around all you want. Have your preferences just like everyone else - men and women alike. That’s not what’s gross. And that’s all I’ll say about that. Edit: for the record, I would think the same of a woman if she said sone of the shit you have. Don’t worry though, I’m a woman so you could not care less.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:27 PM
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Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 04:17 PM
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I don’t have a problem with it. It doesn’t effect my marriage/relationship. The only time I see it becoming a problem is when it’s an addiction and/or when it’s used in place of intimacy as in you’re neglecting your partner. This is just my experience though. I can understand why/how it can be problematic for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 10:03 AM
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Haha right?!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:18 PM
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The thing I don’t like about this survey is they surveyed 1500 students… at the end of summer break. I’d like to see a survey of 5k students at the beginning of a fall term. I work at one of the top 25 institutions. What I know is women are, and have been, graduating at much higher rates than men. We have committees, work groups, and positions 100% dedicated to male student success in an effort to close the gender gap. And I’ll have to double check, but I believe we’ve increasingly seen more wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 12:01 PM
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Life experience does not equal “baggage”. I think what u/AcanthocephalaNew947 is saying is that as you get older, you learn more about yourself and more about life and the world. As a result, a lot of people tend to not put up with the BS as they get older. The older you get, the more you realize you don’t have time for BS. I was super naïve in my 20’s… just thought everyone had good or descent intentions. I know better now. I always wanted to be liked by everyone and tried to always please ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:39 AM
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Interesting outlook.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 08:58 PM
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So you straight up want someone who has not yet even dated (“not the first movie date, beach date, coffee date…”). I’m assuming you are VERY young (as in younger than 20). Maybe that’s it… maybe I assumed most people in this sub are adults (at least 25).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 08:13 PM
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WOW! What? You have to guess?? So what if she’s matured and just ready to settle down? I guess I’m so interested because I have two sons. I would hope they never think a girl had better sleep with them if they didn’t make other guys wait. Maybe she realizes it’s a bad idea to sleep around and wants to change and wants a relationship with you… maybe, ESPECIALLY considering everything said here, she realizes guys won’t take her serious, or like I said, perhaps she’s ready to mature. I guess none o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:13 PM
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I’m just curious about some peoples thought process in here us all. I’m happily married and have no desire to sleep with anyone else. Just… a lot of this Mabe’s no se se to me. So let me ask you this then, had she not slept around before, it would then be ok to ask to wait??? How do you know she slept around before you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 05:56 PM
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I like what someone else said in here on another post, “our past does not define us, but it can shape us”. Also, I think it’s very different to judge someone for their past than it is to acknowledge it. Abusing kids vs screwing a bunch of people before eventually settling down is a terrible and unfair comparison… I wouldn’t even say it’s comparing apples to oranges. It’s comparing apples to aliens. For me personally, it did not matter at all. The only way it would have made a difference is if my…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:18 AM
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This!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:06 AM
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Dishonest says who? So what then, if one were to have a one night stand, then they can not ever have a serious relationship where they want to wait a little it before sex or else they are dishonest? I see this thought process lot in here… its backward.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 10:05 AM
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This is about the only comment on this thread that makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 03:00 AM
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Maybe I don’t understand because I have a low body count, am married, and older. But it seems like a lot of you are saying if a woman has a hoe phase when she is younger, then she will ALWAYS be a hoe and even if not, doesn’t matter - she is not worthy of a LTR… she is basically shit. I can’t wrap my mind around that logic. Some of these comments are just disgusting. Also, edit to add: some of you don’t want a woman to wait to have sex with you… but you also don’t want a woman who just has sex r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 02:57 AM
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.:eye roll:. to the person you’re replying to. It’s good to break the cycle (in terms a of the shit the church brought on back in the day - and probably still does). I knew a guy who came out to to his family in jr high and later committed suicide because they basically discarded him. It wasn’t accepted by the majority of folks (edit to add ESPECIALLY in the south!)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:24 PM
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I would think folks would have better luck connecting with someone IRL via friend groups or by way of participating in things you already enjoy doing (like volunteer work or something). That’s to say in terms of a relationship vs casual hookups, though. I get the impression dating apps are not exactly for dating anymore (utilized for hookups). That’s just a guess though and based on conversations I’ve had with other people as well as what I’ve seen/read here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:41 PM
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Oh, when I said “…. not sure why some people are crawling up my ass about it” I was not applying that to your response. That was in response to a particular reply to my comment. I’m aware that I’m old to 20-something’s, but I had not said anything rude and I was not “bragging”. That’s all I was getting at. My argument is not about how the current landscape is different now. In fact, I don’t have an argument; I was just agreeing with some of the things OP ; particularly as it pertains to this sub…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:14 PM
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I appreciate you. ❤️ When I was in my 20’s I too thought 40 was old. Now that I’m 41, it’s… it’s old-ish. I’ve kept active and had babies late (I have a 13 year old and 3 year old…. I know, wtf? ten year difference? We didn’t think we could have one let alone two and BAM - we thought wrong). With that, I feel 30-something (most days). My unsolicited advise in a nutshell, folks, is to slow down. If you’re happy with your dating and love life, change nothing. Most posts on here in terms of dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:36 PM
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I applaud you! I don’t remember a lot of my 20’s… I look back through the haze of glow sticks and rave music lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:11 PM
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It does. I’m certainly old enough to be his mother along with a lot of the replies here. That doesn’t mean I don’t have constructive knowledge to offer though. And I never said I’m young. I certainly didn’t imply I got to where I am easily.. in fact I implied the complete opposite. I was simply agreeing with a comment. I’m not sure why some people are crawling up my ass about it. I’ve not “bragged”. I’ve simply stated my experience and the BS endured to get here. PS - I’m young at heart :) I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:10 PM
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Note: my thoughts below are pre-coffee which I’m completely addicted to. I’ve just woken up. I’m not certain people have lost the drive to stay together exactly. Reading through some of the replies to my post (especially the younger folks), social media and apps like tinder and bumble sort of seem to foster a culture of hook up -“Netflix and chill” and GTFO. It’s much easier to just ghost someone if there’s a singular thing you don’t like. Makes it easier to just swipe right to the next option. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:59 PM
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I agree. It’s so much better when you don’t give any F’s anymore. I like the way I look and I like way I dress and if some woman doesn’t like it, then that really doesn’t effect me. You get to a certain age where you just don’t care anymore. My husband is happy, I’m happy, that’s more than enough. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:44 PM
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AOL was our tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 12:16 AM
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God forbid they actually Lear something. Don’t mind me, folks. No wisdom to share here. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:53 PM
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Perhaps you could learn something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 11:52 PM
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I’m not taking about being in too deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 09:55 PM
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Wow, you really pulled this one straight out of your ass, huh?! Where do some of you get your info from???!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:47 AM
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My favorite is, “I want a woman who will sexually please me and be supportive emotionally, but she’s got to be a virgin”. 🤨🤔 Or, “all men are pricks and just want sex”, etc. It’s both men and women. I get so enraged sometimes reading some of the shit in this sub. I joined it because of some of the things my husband would read off to me. You might find r/AllPillDebate interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:39 AM
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👏👏👏 I’m glad someone else see it the way I do! I’ve been with my husband for 23 years. We’ve been through some serious shit that other couples would have easily said “fuck this I’m out”. Gotta get through the hard shell at time to get to the gooey, cherry center. And it’s worth it! With the exception of abuse and serial cheating; things of that nature, people dip out too easily. Don’t want to do the necessary work or put in the required care to keep things fun and loving. It’s not going to be fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 10:15 AM
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Fully applaud you! You have much wisdom to share with what's his name who is hot and educated and wants only a virgin for his relationships where he gets emotional support and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 10:47 AM
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Do you know that women are graduating college and university at much higher rates than men these days? Furthermore, women are beginning to dominate careers in which we’re essentially male-driven (think electrical engineering or business for example). The gap is such that where I work (an urban, high-ranked research institute - a big name school) we’re three years into a special committee charged solely with closing that gap. I mention this because you act as if women are dumb. Maybe it’s that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:54 AM
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You know how you said, “sex causes physical and psychological damage and this effect increases with the number of partners u have..”? Number one, it’s YOU; you’re the type to cause that kind of damage to a woman. (Now, hang on - don’t get pissed off with me yet.. keep reading..) Furthermore, you say, “…I don’t want a relationship with someone who thinks….” - do you even want a relationship??? (That’s not a hypothetical question). You said yourself that talking to most people is a “nuisance” to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:41 AM
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I mean, the same can be true for men. Obsessing over body count is unhealthy IMO. Even a virgin can have trains issues (i.e. taught that sex us a dirty thing).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 01:09 PM
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It's taboo for men to discuss dick size. I think all men know this but just refuse to talk about it because it's a touchy subject. I've been following the red-pill community for some time now, and you may get hints of this with phrases like "she wants to be treated like a princess, but fucked like a slut" or men/women shaming men for having small dicks or small dick energy. But it's never said explicitly as a talking point. I think porn is to blame for this to be honest. It's a good bit better t…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 08:52 PM
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Not cheating in my marriage but to each their own. Different people have different boundaries. It’s not caused any issues for us - been together 23 years. All things in moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 06:43 PM
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“Without getting enraged…” haha! Thanks because that will likely be the case. I’m all forfolks having their own opinions and whatnot, but some are quite warped and applied to ALL men or ALL women and that’s when I get pissed off, ya know? I don’t consider myself purple pill or blue or orange or whatever - my thought is everyone likes different things and the fun of it is you get to explore your partner to figure that out. And one thing folks forget and miss out on is that those things change ove…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 01:41 PM
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I might have to hop over to red pill for a bit… I’m intrigued now by your original post here. Edit: OP, which red pill sub do you recommend, there’s a women’s one a couples one… not really a general one.
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 01:22 PM
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I’ve been in purple pill too long! Lol. Most of those men wonder why females aren’t lined up to date them… smh. I would think it’s obvious that both men AND women want a good sexual partner - one they’re compatible with. In fact, that should be way more important than someone’s N number. Is this not the case? (Genuinely curious). It’s taboo?? I’m older and don’t date (married) so I honestly would not know this. My thing is I don’t understand why N number can be a dealbreaker (considering no STD’…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 01:15 PM
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Sure. Not all men like it. Shit, some men even wake up one day and decide they don’t like it. Sone straight men don’t like eating it, etc. some straight women don’t like blowing (for reasons I don’t understand). But yea, in terms of heterosexual relationships, I just wrote another comment - it’s long so I’m not going to reiterate here - you’ll see it. This is good stuff to talk about though. Please don’t take anything I’m saying as condescending - especially in the other reply I just wrote. Edit…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 01:08 PM
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“Women will cheat on men if they aren’t satisfied sexually. And part of the unsatisfied feeling comes from experiencing many dicks.” <—- who told you that?! As a woman I can tell you what I like and how I like it - not because I’ve had “many dicks” (I have a very low N count TBH) but because Im really good at telling my husband “do it like that”. And let me tell you, men and women a like cheat for MANY reasons. From what I can tell, it’s not because of the quality of sex, it’s because the quanti…
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 01:04 PM
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I see a lot of women are x and men are z. Libido fluctuates throughout a persons life for one thing. Life or kids or career or health stuff happens. It’s BS to put people into black or white buckets. People are more complex than that. I do agree with you in that women can have multiple reasons fir mating, but so can men.
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 12:44 PM
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Here’s one example of the BS you asked me about. Not all women prefer dick.
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/22 12:39 PM
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Oh, I’m not confused, I just think much of this is BS. For the record, women AND men will cheat if they aren’t sexually satisfied MOST of the time (not all the time; particularly if married). I feel part of the problem is it seems men have higher libidos early in (typically) and women have higher libidos later in life (typically).
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/22 10:46 PM
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So women have higher libidos, but shouldn’t have have N counts… 🤔🤔
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/22 09:53 PM
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If you’re checking your phone during sex, something is very wrong. After sex… meh… I’m curious to know what are people checking exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 10:49 AM
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This! Although, mine ONLY changed after our second baby. I JUST got it back after over 3 years. I thought I’d never get it back. I’ve always had high libido and never had issues before.,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 10:00 AM
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I think it depends on what your definition of “treated like a queen” is. I don’t like the idea of my husband “sucking up “ to me. We are equals. He treats me with respect… that’s more important to me. And it is not my husbands responsibility to make me happy… sure, we make each other VERY happy, but it’s not a transactional thing.
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/22 12:20 AM
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Shows what I know about famous athletes lol. I’m just surprised because when I wear a sports bra, that’s about how mine look - mine aren’t huge but definitely not small either (average-ish). Sagging breast’s are caused by genetics, not wearing the correct size bra/support, lifestyle and even diet. Improving skin elasticity and strength can combat it, though. So big does not always = sag. Sagging or not, I too personally like the look of a solid B.
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 11:28 PM
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That’s the sane girl?
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 11:02 PM
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This! My husband prefers light makeup at most. I typically wear a light foundation, some sheer lipgloss or a natural tint on my lips… and for work I’ll through in some mascara. Done. I consider myself average looking… not a 10 but also not a 5. I don’t really give a sh!t about what’s “in”… like contouring, the glue on lashes, etc. I feel prettiest with a sun kissed glow (I live in Florida), a smile, and a cutesy, feminine/chic outfit. 🤷‍♀️ I think women, in general, look pretty when they feel pr…
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 10:49 PM
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I can tell you now she has big boobs. She’s wearing a sports bra which smushes them to the body so they stay in place.
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/22 10:27 PM
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Sure, probably many women would use it. I actually enjoyed growing tiny humans though - the nausea, body changes and all! My second pregnancy, a savored every moment knowing it would be my last. I remember throwing up most mornings and rubbing my belly after saying, “it’s ok little fella - that’s over now” lol (only had it in the mornings - like clock work).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 11:21 PM
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It gets better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:09 PM
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No offense taken but you’re laughably mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:52 PM
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I 100% disagree. And that has nothing to do with what you asked me. Edit to add: that’s a disturbed point of view on sex and relationships. Not everyone is focused on what’s in it for them. PLENTY of people, men and women, are natural givers in that regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:48 PM
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You asked what do I mean that I’m sex obsessed. Even before kids and all, I had a pretty high sex drive. Edit to add: what do you mean by “don’t confuse guys”??
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:35 PM
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For context, I just got my sex drive back after having issues for 3 years after our second baby (I’ve NEVER had such issues before then). Additionally, for an unrelated issue, my doctor put me on Wellbutrin which for me, is kind of like what I imagine Viagra is like for men (Wellbutrin often treats sexual dysfunction in women). With that, even though sex is F’ing amazing right now and better than I’ve ever had with anyone, I look up different positions try, different toys we can consider, super …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:18 PM
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Oh I’m aware! I’ve browsed that sub. Even in the marriage and sex subs… every other post is about intimacy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:44 PM
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I think people give up the moment libido fluctuates. They don’t want to address it together or at all. Divorce is the answer and they wind up right back in the same situation. After our second baby, my libido went from 10 to 0… I had never had sec drive issues ever. My husband posted about it once (it had been going on too long and we were both struggling) and literally everyone told him to just divorce me because I was obviously getting it someplace else or to cheat on me, etc. I was breastfeed…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:36 PM
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This!!! People like the dude below who replied to you say we need to help our own people, but then turn around and do not support equitable and affordable healthcare for all, education for all, etc. Yes, nothing is free, but we need to invest in ourselves. They don’t seem to want that, but then complain we aren’t helping our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:27 PM
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Agree - I think that’s where intimacy comes in, though. Intimacy certainly helps my mental well-being.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:17 PM
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This. And not only that, there’s a mental health benefit to it. Maybe more people need to get laid these days! Seriously though, the chemicals released during orgasm- .:chefs kiss:. I have a stressful work life. Nothing beats coming home to my husband and having that intimacy - even without sex - just the intimacy part (kissing, holding hands, snuggling, skin to skin, etc). It just melts away all that stress and BS I’ve been holding onto all day. I definitely NEED it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:15 PM
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There are females who are just as obsessed (I’m a little obsessed with it at the moment). And sure, females (and men for that matter) can live without it I guess… not something I wish to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:09 PM
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I mean, it’s an opinion so the answer will vary. I say yes. Yes, it is important to me to have sex and intimacy. Who says it’s going to get tiresome, though? I think exploring our bodies and sexuality and desires is something that’s limitless. It will only get tiresome if you let it (speaking from experience - specifically, 23 years and counting with one partner). I consider making love (with someone you have a deep connection with that’s more than apparent when intimate) can absolutely be enlig…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:04 PM
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Skip the bars/drinking… hit the underground rave scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:25 AM
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My husband is THE best guy. Even still, his first couple of real girlfriends fucked him over good and when he had enough of that, he went and fucked just to fuck. He even fucked one of their sisters (if you knew the story, you’d know why - it was valid here!) He had a few FWB’s, a threesome, blowjobs at raves, some crazy shit. He’s told me A LOT but I’m sure there are things I still don’t know and that’s 1000% ok. Know why? Because he’s entitled to his past. If he wants to share things with me, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:33 PM
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Same - together 23 years and when you have open and honest conversations around sex and relationships, it comes up - repeatedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:01 PM
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Yea to all of what you said! Spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:58 PM
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Yea I got a good chuckle out of that one, too lol. I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:53 PM
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I would feel completely inadequate because I don’t have the same parts as a man and would not be able to satisfy him the way a man would (not naturally anyway lol). I would feel equally inadequate if he cheated on me with another woman, but for different reasons. Perhaps it would matter as to why he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:51 PM
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So I’m in a (VERY happy) heterosexual marriage, but I’ve messed around with women before (beyond just being “bi-curious”). My husband knows this and we’ve even been open to MFF threesomes (just never found the right partner for that). With that. I consider any form of sexual activity/engagement with another person cheating (man, woman, transgender, non-binary, IDGAF). In response to your edit regarding a man’s perspective, if I were to go fuck another woman, finger her, make out with her, etc, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:43 PM
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Yes - THIS!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:39 AM
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If true, then that’s just sad and honestly, doesn’t make a lot of sense. I think social media and dating apps have RUINED dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:46 AM
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I can confirm this! I have a low n-count and married young… it much experience when I met him, but he had a lot and was able to communicate what he liked and didn’t like. He create that safe space for both of us to feel comfortable talking about that sort of thing. And now, I’m down for whatever TF he wants to do or wants me to be in terms of sex. We’ve been together 23 years. We have had LOTS of fun, crazy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:20 PM
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This is hilarious! Is this kind of BS only applicable to the younger generations??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:15 PM
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Agree with all of it except the part that says “often women can have sex with other women because guys don’t see it as cheating”. Not that it doesn’t happen because I believe it does, I just don’t agree personally. I’m sometimes attracted to women (to the point my husband and I have entertained the idea of a FFM threesome) but would NEVER do anything without my husband because I absolutely consider it cheating. I’ve messed around with females (when I was younger/before I was married) and it’s so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:15 PM
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Just curious - do people use Tinder primarily for hookups, or dates that may turn into relationships? Or does it vary?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 10:57 PM
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Also grow up in the 80’s/90’s and 100% agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:26 AM
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Maybe I’m part of the minority-when I fantasize it’s definitely 110% my husband. We’re pretty comfortable talking about sex though and what we like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:44 AM
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Yep - ever shower. It’s like nails on a chalkboard when stubble scrapes against the sheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:08 AM
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This! My husbands is not too big, not too small. I wouldn’t want it any bigger than it is because I can do all the things I like to do with it comfortably (like deep throating him… as long as I hold my breath, it doesn’t get the gag reflex). I don’t know who decided all women must want massive sized dicks. My vagina only goes so deep and I would not like if he couldn’t put it all the way in or if it hurt me (which happens a lot when it’s too big - I’ve read it can hit the cervix - no thank you! …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:51 PM
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The act of shaving is meh, but I love the results so, yes, I shave very often and I’m meticulous about it. I HATE the feeling of stubble against my bed sheets so, it’s not very often I have stubble. I shave it all - arms, under arms, legs, and down under with the exception of a little strip I like to keep neat for my husband. Social standards aside though, I just like the feeling. I have soft skin to begin with so after a clean shave - .:chefs kiss:.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:45 AM
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I like to fuck my husband both ways. And honestly, women in general are fucking nuts (a lot of them are) lol. Sure, a lot of them can handle just sex, but a lot them can’t, either. Feelings get caught too often as well. Sone people are fin with open relationships and having both - I’m just not one of them. And I don’t think my husband would like it either if I were just out fucking random men even if it were just sex… and I’m not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:59 PM
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Casual sex is just sex - no strings. Married sex, for me anyway, is on a deeper level. I do things with and to my husband I’d never dream of doing with a casual partner. I never had casual partners or never just went and ticked someone as a one night stand kind of deal. At the same time, I don’t take issue with or judge anyone who does. My husband did before we met. I feel like married sex is different (?). Kind of like love - I love my kids abs I love my husband, but it’s different. I love them…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:12 PM
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I think people are less willing to do the work on themselves and within the marriage these days when things go sideways. For instance, I see a LOT of posts about libidos not matching up and ALWAYS, people go straight to “you should get a divorce then“. Also, I see a lot of times where the low libido person is not really willing to do anything about it. Sure, you don’t HAVE to meet your partners sexual needs, but why would you not want to or even care to try?? My husband and I just went through t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:51 PM
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Yuck. If I were a dude, I’d never aspire to be a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:37 AM
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Awe man… now you know at least. Never be afraid to ask that question. Most women won’t ask first. Reach out to her or you’ll always wonder “what if” but also brace yourself if her feelings are not reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:36 AM
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What exactly are you wanting to fix? You can’t change the fact that your short. And your desires and wants are valid; those are not flaws. In a successful marriage or relationship, these things will be celebrated. Frankly, I find it weird to call my husband “daddy” during sexy time. I don’t think all or even most men really “enjoy” being called daddy. I could be mistaken, though. Maybe if he liked it I would do it though… 🤔🤔 And sure, you have some tastes and qualities that limit your dating poo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 10:43 AM
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My now husband and I decided very early on that girls night/guys night out at bars/clubs was not a great idea. People often make mistakes when drinking or otherwise under the influence. I’m glad we did that - absolutely no regrets! And now, we’ve been together 23 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:40 PM
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Perhaps in high school. Otherwise, I’ve (42/f) never experienced this with any of my girlfriends (not even in high school).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:39 AM
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I think what he means is you should be authentic. That should be enough - period. And if it’s not, time to move along. You shouldn’t have to play games. You should present yourself as you are, and people can either take it or leave it. Because guess what? The nice outfit and expensive cologne you mentioned might get you laid - maybe even more than once, but you can’t build a relationship on those kinds of things - not a great one anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:45 AM
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If a woman is doing the things in your bullet point list there and then saying, "I just want to be friends", then that's leading you on/mind games and it's not cool. Those things in your list are DEFINITELY indicators of interest. In fact, with the exception of texting late at night, I do ALL THOSE THINGS when I'm flirting with my husband/want to jump his bones. (I do text him non PG-13 type stuff during the day when I'm at work or when we're at home, but the kids are still up). ​ If a girl is l…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:49 PM
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I think it has more to do with judgement/society. Women have been slut shamed for as long as I can remember when they fuck just fuck. I think also when when women are engaged in casual sex, she may catch feelings. I’ve heard the story time and time and time again - she caught feelings but they’re not reciprocated because to the man, she was just a fuck and nothing more. I do agree with you that for men, sexual cheating is perceived a lot worse. But that’s because men think it always has to mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 10:57 AM
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I’ve been married for 21 years. We started dating when I was 18. We definitely have that romantic kind of love. There have been times when we’ve been pretty financially set, and other times not. I’d live in a shack with him if necessary because I love him unconditionally. I don’t give a flying fuck about lots of money. Money doesn’t snuggle me at night or give me butterflies or make me feel respected and loved. And even if it did, I prefer the warm touch of my man. We put thoughtful effort into …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 04:40 PM
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Agree 100% that night clubs don’t yield quality dating aspects. But a “once in every 3-5 year chance” doesn’t sound like much of an option or seem like it’s even worth the effort. I work with a lot of college-aged young women. They’re all VERY aware to be cautious with dating apps because too many crazy people out there in the world. If my two boys were of dating age, I’d encourage them to look outside the web - volunteer at an animal shelter or RedCross, foster real-life friendships/social circ…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:42 PM
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In 42, but 50 is quickly approaching! I have to ask then, why use dating apps at all???
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:52 AM
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Here’s an example - this notion that the majority of women only care about how much money the man makes or spends on her. Here’s why I call bullshit: I work at a university. We know that for the past almost 10 years, women have graduated with a degree of their choice and gone on to be successful in their career/field at much larger rates than their male counterparts (and this number continues to increase). The gap is so large that many universities are scrambling to try to close it. Additionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:22 AM
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I’m new to this sub. It’s seems like most posts put men in one bucket and women in another. It’s a bit more pronounced in this thread. Black and white with very little grey and I wonder why that is. Granted, I’m older (42f) and happily married 20+ years. Have things changed THAT much? Is this really how it is now? If so, that really saddens
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:31 AM
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100000% deal breaker sharing my husband in ANY kind of way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 05:37 PM
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