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What is going on with all these NAWALT comments? This looks like an r slash popular thread. "Don't marry her" wtf suggested OP was gonna marry her. "If she cheats she's a 1"... No, she's just a woman who got some interest from a higher value man or who lost her tingles for her bf this week because he was stressed out with work or he seemed insecure when she wouldn't let him cuddle together with her and her shirtless totally platonic male friend from dance class.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/22 03:52 PM
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It skews your reality by tricking your brain into thinking of drugged-up, plaster-coated prostitute actors across the world as though they are real people who should mean something to you or who can fill some kind of void in your life. They can't. The harm is pretty similar to how social media algorithms cherry-pick engineered snapshots of scripted lives you'll never touch to make you feel like there are a lot of real people who believe some dumb shit you support/hate or who represent some kind …
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:41 AM
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Good post. I did one of these on a rooftop in college. It was a major turning point for me. I think the biggest benefit for me is just getting out of my head to reinforce the awareness that other people are real and that I have the freedom to influence them with my joy. The only way to develop lasting power over my life is to develop that sense of freedom and awareness. Incidentally, she told me to open my eyes at the end of the first meditation, but I'm pretty sure she never told me to close th…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/19 02:23 PM
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Despite the benefits of a single, childless lifestyle for women, Dolan said that the existing narrative that marriage and children were signs of success meant that the stigma could lead some single women to feel unhappy. “I’m actually very unhappy and I do want to marry and have children” ​ This is on point. These unintuitive finding/progressive-agenda-pushing articles always contain these social pressure strawmen that deliver the truth in a cloak of lies. Claiming some phenomenon is caused by "…
/r/TheRedPill01/06/19 03:11 PM
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Is this some kind of satirical copypasta? You start by addressing "claims of Biden being a pedophile," provide no evidence or argument, then you jump to a sweeping statement about "Western politics," which has absolutely nothing to do with verifying that one guy is a pedophile.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/19 05:40 PM
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I think this is a pretty plausible summary of the distinction. Neurologically, empathy is just a device for mirroring the affect of others in your own head. It is amoral, and since it only reproduces the affect and not the sensory experience, it is fundamentally a tool for misleading. Men are often given reasons to use empathy strategically such as in sales pitches or interviews, and it doesn't seem likely to me that on the whole men are much worse at using empathy in those environments than wom…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/19 05:33 PM
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I dated a girl once who would say stuff like this. She went to a Catholic girls' school and was very repressed so she liked talking about fucked up sexual stuff and watching porn. She was a virgin except for some lesbian stuff she did with another girl in high school. Idk what your girl's background is, but I'm thinking she is just pre-occupied with sex and describing some fantasy of hers. It's dumb and you could call it a shit test, but it doesn't seem like a major red flag per se. It's like a …
/r/askTRP11/02/19 04:57 PM
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Don't do it. There's no major difference from porn. You're still teaching your brain to feel complacent based on some flashing lights. A video of you isn't an experience. Just focus on the present. It's easier to jerk off to videos because the videos give you false validation. They make you forget you're just some loser jerking off alone. It's fine to jerk off, but close your eyes and remember the actual feeling of sex. Think about real girls you want to bang. If you watch videos, your brain lea…
/r/askTRP20/12/18 10:32 AM
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I don't know shit about Instagram and my gut reaction is that you should avoid it like the plague along with porn and any other easy dopamine sources. However, Instagram is just another media source and it technically could be fine if you use it responsibly. Most people are not capable of that, because sites like Instagram are optimized mind-control algorithms to turn you into their obedient beta bitch. You might think you are above that, but no one really is. Your brain is always rewiring and t…
/r/askTRP20/12/18 10:09 AM
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To add to this idea of having a lot of work. I think it is important for guys like OP just starting to improve themselves that they focus on expecting and visualizing improvement. It's hard to start going to the gym if you just see it as an isolated task. It is a lot of work and it's easy to give up if you see it as some unreliable or uncertain plan that will probably fail. That has been true of all his past plans, so he is probably used to setting low expectations for himself. He needs to set a…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 06:29 PM
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No, this is your problem. You don't need to keep philosophically masturbating. You need to take action. I agree that TRP can fuel some people's mental masturbation, but that isn't really TRP's fault and they would find some other outlet without TRP. You aren't supposed to use TRP like a priest studying the Bible. You are supposed to read the sidebar, then go out and take action. You aren't going to be a perfect alpha 100% of the time, and when things go wrong you can come back to places like TRP…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 04:41 PM
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Obviously lifting and working out is a good idea and you need to start. That will provide consistent benefits over time. More immediately, you can get a real haircut, focus on grooming, and learn to dress well. There are a bunch of posts about this stuff on TRP. Don't overthink it. Just get it done. Also curate your social media and online presence. Any channel of interacting with the world has potential and will affect how you are perceived, so make sure they all make you look good. Take down a…
/r/askTRP16/12/18 04:17 PM
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It sounds like you probably failed a shit test somewhere in here. You've got to be ready for this shit in advance. It's hard sometimes when it catches you by surprise. I used to know a girl who would start these self-righteous rants about crazy little shit like some kind of cultural appropriation going on in my room. The most important thing is never to engage this stuff with any hint of seriousness. If she is really in a bad mood or something you can just ignore and change the topic, but usuall…
/r/askTRP15/12/18 10:08 PM
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You are clearly right to end this. You also need to work on chilling out about this stuff and developing more independence/abundance mentality. You don't need to justify yourself so much. By the first sentence of your second paragraph I would have needed a damn good reason to be convinced not to next. My points directed to her are What are you saying? These reasons are for yourself. Arguing with her from a place of reason about something like this just makes you seem weaker and less attractive b…
/r/askTRP15/12/18 09:48 PM
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I don't understand this observation Paul makes which I've seen thrown around elsewhere that this subreddit is just some anger-phase echo chamber. Posts that seem pointlessly angry at women are called out and dismissed by the broader community. People in asktrp are routinely reminded that undirected anger isn't ultimately a productive response. The sidebar and general alignment of this subreddit is in favor of calm, amoral practicality and unfiltered truth. There is constant debate about what tha…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 03:44 PM
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You have the chance to make her respect you by affirming that you aren't tolerant of deceit or manipulation and that you have options. She will think more of you for soft nexting and your odds of a good payoff will increase. If you go along with this she will feel like she won another orbiter but lose all interest or respect for you since you signal that you don't consider yourself worthy of her respect. I did this once and went to a party with a girl who sprung it on me when we were supposed to…
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:11 AM
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A relative of mine is currently in a genetics PhD program. His adviser and most other prominent people in the field are consciously dishonest about the implications of major discoveries. They know it could ruin their careers to acknowledge politically inconvenient explanations related to race, sex, sexuality, aggression, or intelligence. To be clear, these are not obscure, cutting edge findings but basic well-understood observations that they cannot freely discuss. Some of the guys with their he…
/r/TheRedPill03/10/18 10:36 AM
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She was definitely toying with the idea of fucking you. She knew what she was doing when she was flirtatiously bringing up the topic of Netflix and Chill with you. If you played it right, you could have pushed through. The option is probably still on the table if you want to initiate something else. Just don't shame her, don't get personal about her relationship, let her relax, and have her hamster do the work. Imagine being her boyfriend while she's out flirting with you like this. AWALT.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 08:01 PM
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This post would be less ridiculous sounding without the parenthetical, and if you gave more background about the context in which this happened. This is a pretty common thing. It means she was comfortable with her boobs being in contact with you and with other women seeing her close to you. She might be slightly interested in you but it's not the strongest indicator. The significance of that kind of thing depends on lifestyle, past experience, and her/your relationships with all the people who w…
/r/askTRP23/05/18 09:07 PM
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lol I guess the image she would be trying to push is that she went to his house planning to fuck, then cognitive dissonance made her cry and offer some LMR. This guy who just returned from picking up women at the club suddenly became a beta white-knight who chose to respect her feelings, offering to sleep on the couch like a gentleman. She expects her husband to be ok with this imaginary story because even though she admits she is actively seeking out strange dick, in the end she respects the re…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 07:01 PM
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The women in stem shit is infuriating because on some level they all know it's bullshit. My black and Latino (male) friends in college would get jobs and scholarships and joke about it with me like "I'm gonna get some of that sweet affirmative action money." Women will never do that. They cannot stop insisting it's fair and reasonable in spite of all evidence. Then if you are really close with a girl, she'll hesitantly say shit like "I think I won't have trouble getting this job because I'm a wo…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/18 12:53 PM
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You don't want it to be too thought-provoking or dark but that can vary depending on her personality. Some girls are really into movies. Imagine the two of you switching between periods of half-watching and periods of pretending to watch while you are fondling her boobs. The movie is a device for her to distance herself from personal responsibility and doubt while this is going on. Something she likes is good. The standard approach is something you can just glance at without worrying about a bun…
/r/askTRP21/05/18 03:57 AM
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Your initial response was mildly autistic. She was starting flirtatious banter with a lightweight/playful shit test and you backed her into an awkward corner. You should have just played it off jokingly in a flirtatious way by saying something ambiguous like "Well, I normally like to be wined and dined a little first." With that said, this still seems like pretty easy mode. You are inviting her to watch a movie at your place? Don't pick some crazy shit like Schindler's List. Make sure you will b…
/r/askTRP21/05/18 03:22 AM
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In a situation like this, your "gut" refers to your mind's reaction to all the relevant data you have encountered. It is usually a good idea to trust your gut because your brain is actually pretty good at synthesizing large quantities of data that are difficult to consider consciously. Things like the way a girl says something or the exact sequence of events can be difficult to explain formally to yourself. That doesn't mean your brain isn't aware of them though. Trusting your gut means listenin…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 08:50 PM
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It sounds like OP talked to this girl's father under the assumption he was purely on OP's side because he's "alpha." OP is a little boy who just wanted to defer to a grown-up. In the real world, you can't just pass your problems off like that. This is like going to the lawyer for your adversary and telling him every detail of your case. At best, maybe Dad will pressure his daughter to break up with OP. This could have been interesting if OP had done something like insisting on accompanying them …
/r/TheRedPill18/05/18 08:21 PM
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How was this not the entire focus of the post? You wrote this whole story as if you had reason to believe it was credible. Is she representing it like they were just friends playing a "prank" on her or were these just random acquaintances committing a felony? It makes no sense that she'd want to protect them if it's the latter. If it's the former, this is 100% a bullshit cover story/trickle truth situation. If she knows you are going to get other parties involved, she will have to own up. If she…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 07:13 PM
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She sounds like the kind of girl who could potentially warm up to sucking your dick. You've got to nudge the boundaries pleasantly like Two_kids_in_a_coat says. During sex, push her into positions, pin her down, flip her over, squeeze things hard. Be dominant in general but keep it relatively "vanilla" at first. Stay encouraging and tell her how it turns you on to see/smell/hear her while you do this stuff. Compliment her ass or something. She should become more receptive to your wants/commands …
/r/askTRP01/03/18 07:59 AM
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If she's actively pursuing you instead of him, there is absolutely nothing wrong with fucking her (at least between you and Peter). If anything you might be saving him from getting invested in some girl who really just wants to bang his friend. Don't be a dick and act like you're cucking him, but if you are just trying to shelter his oneitis for some random ho who clearly doesn't feel the same about him then you are not helping. It would be a different story if you were proactively seducing/tryi…
/r/askTRP01/03/18 07:20 AM
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I know what I did wrong, but not sure it was enough to warrant cheating. Of course it wasn't. No amount of beta behavior by you can "warrant" her crimes. It might explain them. You did make mistakes and failed to apply TRP. That's plenty of fuel for a hamster to be comfortable with cheating, but you should NEVER confuse her hamster's whims with your own rational moral code. You could be the most pathetic BP guy in the world, but if you didn't maliciously wrong and deceive her, there is still no …
/r/TheRedPill26/01/18 07:37 PM
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This post is essentially asking for advice on how to be a good beta. You are asking all the wrong questions and I can only imagine you decided to post in asktrp as some kind of subliminal cry for help. This is disgusting. You should stop watching porn because it gives you fucked up subconscious attitudes about sex and turns you into a complacent bitch. That being said, if you have strong reasons to disagree then why should you feel bad about watching porn? You should not stop watching porn for t…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 04:30 PM
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Yeah in the second paragraph it's over. If the lie is serious enough to affect you in any major way then I'd be extremely hesitant to give her any chance. You really need to handle that decision on a case by case basis though. If the lie involves anything like cheating/sex or betrayal, then it is absolutely over. You should still stay calm and stoic though. If the lie is something significant but more superficial like if she gossiped about your personal business, disrespected you slightly, or us…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 05:00 AM
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If you found that nothing is wrong, you can just do nothing and never mention it. It's not ideal but sometimes you need answers. Anyway, this is very unlikely if you had reason to be suspicious. If you were right then you shouldn't really care what she thinks of you. All women will lie but you can't continue to show respect for her after you catch her lying or she will only lie more and lose respect for you. Just treat her like a random acquaintance you don't care about. Don't seek her out and d…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 03:42 AM
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Stay calm and consciously distance yourself from the interaction. Assume from the beginning that the worst case scenario is true and that none of her emotions are sincere. Be 100% prepared to walk away and never look back. If she cries, get angry that she is manipulating you; do not allow yourself to feel sympathy. Do not under any circumstances get tricked into apologizing. Take note when she brings up anything irrelevant or accuses you of something unrelated, point out that it's irrelevant, an…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 03:15 AM
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Accusing you of being unclear/vague in your suspicion -- Note that if you tell an honest, innocent person something like "your story seems inconsistent and I'm worried you were doing something bad," she will elaborate on her story and attempt to alleviate your suspicion. On the other hand, if the woman knows she really was doing something bad, she will try to corner you into making arbitrarily specific accusations that she can legitimately deny while withholding an explanation of what really hap…
/r/askTRP12/12/17 11:01 PM
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As I understand it is pretty common for smart people with these issues not to have serious problems until they are on their own in unusually stressful situations like college courses. That stress can also impact sleep and magnify the problems across the board. There could be a separate disorder affecting sleep like you suggest but that doesn't rule out contributing psychiatric factors. It sounds like OP also smokes weed pretty commonly so who knows. He could clearly do quite a few things to impr…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 04:39 PM
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This sounds like a textbook description of ADHD. I've had pretty much all the same kinds of problems as you and have thought a lot about this issue. I am still seeing a male psychologist for therapy specifically for this issue. Have you ever gotten a prescription for ADHD drugs? They do not solve the problem but they can help if you use them systematically in the context of a well defined schedule and plan. The first step is acknowledging and accepting that you have a broad systemic problem and …
/r/askTRP05/12/17 05:01 AM
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This is the answer. The girl might be crazy and really forceful in her LMR in which case OP should run for the hills but on the face this seems like a textbook case of an easy lay where OP just failed every test. It's probably not game over yet because she sounds insanely desperate for OP to grow some balls and fuck her. Right now, OP's priority should really be to reevaluate his life and read the sidebar. This post looks like a field guide called "How to Fail Every Shit Test." OP sounds sociall…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 04:20 AM
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TRP generally encourages stoicism. Acceptance of this issue you are describing is pretty much the primary focus of stoicism. Also "she's not yours it's just your turn." Of course there are lots of delusional posts about how anything is possible with women or self improvement, but that's not the standard message I've gotten from TRP. It's just that you will learn to be happy with women and your limits if you accept them for what they really are, stop second guessing yourself, set attainable goals…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/17 09:17 PM
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Saying 20% of posts cause 80% of the effects (pareto principle) isn't the same as saying 20% of the posts are good. For instance, I doubt I would consider 20% of the posts in 2x or feminism to be good. TRP is obviously better but there are still some terrible posts that get a lot of attention here. Maybe 20% of the posts here stand out from the rest, but the amount of posts that actually contribute useful original ideas to the overall body of TRP knowledge is definitely less than that.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/17 11:08 PM
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I imagine there is some matching going on under the hood where it tailors results based on similar images or something but it probably isn't very fleshed out. They might have been afraid of the legal issues around gathering lots of pictures of specific people from social media or user input. I worked with a firm that gathered lots of info from social media and we had to use a lot of workarounds and loopholes to get what we needed. For user input, there would be the issue of rights to the data. O…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/17 10:30 PM
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Ok. I think I get the idea more. I just didn't understand what kind of issue you were talking about with the pixels. You can't remove makeup pixels or something like that because like Mr_IamNotGandalf said, the information is destroyed, so the correction is fundamentally probabilistic (Machine Learning). On some level there has to be a standard discrete pattern applied, but ideally there should be an insanely enormous number of these pixel rearrangement patterns that vary depending on the featur…
/r/TheRedPill17/11/17 09:53 PM
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I'm also in CS and cannot make sense of what OP is saying about the functionality of a "true" noMakeUp App. Does that mean an algorithm that is trained separately for each subject's face? The bit about the pixels makes no sense to me.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/17 09:11 PM
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This whole thread is trash. It is like a condensed snapshot of all the different varieties of pathetic dumbasses who hold this subreddit back (plus some hapas for good measure). There may be a useful discussion to be had about Asian/Asian American culture in relation to TRP principles but it is not here.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/17 11:23 PM
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/thread Also "debating" or engaging her seriously on this issue was a beta misstep. If she was being an unreasonable bitch you should have responded with a punishment like withdrawing attention, ignored her bullshit, and gone about your business. You knew in your gut that it wasn't that bad a joke, but you still bought into her scheme to make you doubt yourself. That is called losing frame. To deal with that feeling in your gut you just need to internalize the advice here and remember your best …
/r/TheRedPill13/11/17 05:48 AM
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We don't really know who OP is and it would be silly to care. What matters is that the advice is clear and practical and that it resonates with you. If you weight any advice more highly just because it comes from someone who claims to be old or experienced, you risk getting bogged down in useless bullshit. This is a good post with some non obvious and pretty self evidently valid heuristics for evaluating women. It also implicitly provides some scales to evaluate yourself and the people you assoc…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/17 02:15 AM
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He did not say there that the cause of any difficulties was any active obstruction on his part, nor was it any formal relationship or hierarchy. In his words, it all just comes down to widespread admiration. Other people's subjective admiration is not going to be factored into any serious judge's assessment of impropriety and it would not be the basis of any good lawyer's argument for harassment. I understand that the laws on this can be stupid and there might be a case for harassment of some no…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/17 02:20 AM
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Nah, he was strategically specific: "The power I had over these women is that they admired me." The angry mob will be calmed by the fact that he's apologizing, but the judicial system is not going to recognize admiration as an unacceptable power dynamic. That would be utterly ridiculous. They might conjure up that there was something else at play that made him seem like some kind of superior or threat, but "they admired me" is not going to cut it. Louis (or his lawyer) obviously knows this. Hone…
/r/TheRedPill11/11/17 01:30 AM
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I had that problem too. You've got to reframe your mental accounting of the interactions to favor delayed social gratification. For example, I used to feel bad that a girl wasn't texting me back and assume I was losing something. I would also feel bad when a girl acted sad that I didn't say "I love you too" or something like that. Over time I have learned to see it as a different kind of game. When she's not texting back or she's acting sad, that just means "it's your move" (see: "shit test"). I…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 04:40 PM
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Just to be clear, you are telling me to check my privilege? I think such people need a place to vent even if it’s not healthy or productive No, that is the opposite of what they need. Venting or complaining about one's lot in any form is never the answer. There's no value in blind sympathy with people who "need to vent." When you tolerate people venting about being ugly or short or poor or whatever, you are encouraging them to slip deeper into delusional defeatism. There may be a subreddit full …
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 12:05 AM
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It's a marketplace of ideas here. People will say racist things occasionally. I'm not going to support censoring or blacklisting them. Those same people might also have some good advice on lifting weights or picking up women. Maybe I could even share some info to make them question their racism. If you want to learn you need to consider hypotheses you disagree with. I trust myself to think critically and evaluate the merits of individual claims. In the end, I just want the truth even if society …
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 07:13 AM
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if you have to craft an abstract reason as to why you are unhappy, then you are dancing with the female hamster This was the hardest pill for me to swallow. I always knew Machiavelli and stoic philosophers had good ideas and ultra-liberals were retarded, but I still felt that "deep down" life is empty without a unicorn and some bullshit Disney love story. "Meaning of life" doesn't make any sense. It's the blue pill incarnate: pure hamster fuel. The meaning of life in your head is just whatever s…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 01:44 AM
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"The fact is," one of these gangsters told me, "I'm more generous when I have something special on the side." He found that he was kinder, more patient, less aggressive, "less of a dick." It occurred to me as I listened that these men were describing armed bank robberies not as criminal offenses but as creative or even subversive acts, protests against an economy they'd come to experience as suffocating or oppressive.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/17 10:33 PM
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Yes you can. Truth does not equal honesty. Holding truth as the highest virtue is centered around facing the truth - being honest with yourself. In general, that is a good practice and good advice to give reasonable people trying to improve themselves. People like alcoholics or procrastinating students are allowing their cravings, feelings, and impulses override their awareness of the truth. It is true that someone who is honest with himself tends to be more put together and comfortable with the…
/r/TheRedPill22/09/17 10:10 PM
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This thing with the two girls was a while ago and pre trp for me. I am not claiming to have been alpha in that situation. Everything is in some sense manipulation. Of course I did "ask questions and dig" at the time but talk is cheap. I was mainly reflecting on their actions of pursuing useful knowledge and choosing to study real subjects. They were successful stem majors. Both of those women have been advancing through demanding tech jobs for big financial companies throughout their twenties. T…
/r/TheRedPill30/08/17 06:12 AM
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I think there's a minority but significant exception to this literature rule for educated women who aren't attractive and have some strong male role models. Anecdotally, I have an ex with a "cute" but not really attractive face, and I hooked up a few times with another slightly below average classmate (both hb4). They were pretty smart and into math/engineering. I was interested in them at the time because they were oddly self-aware and receptive to logic. They'd get emotional for no reason, the…
/r/TheRedPill30/08/17 04:35 AM
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You don't actually have to believe that everything is literally deterministic. It's mainly about acceptance. The core principle is really that your judgments and desires don't change things so on some level you need to accept reality. Obviously some things are predetermined like the fact that you and your loved ones will die. You can accept that and appreciate them while they're here, or you can lie to yourself and get sad when they do. You don't have to believe that everything is pre-ordained; …
/r/TheRedPill07/08/17 07:04 PM
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To build on this, I strongly encourage all men to actually read the entire Manual by Epictetus. I read slowly and it only took me about an hour to get through but it is 100% gold. It's on par with the Prince. It's the ultimate how to book for DGAF, following a mission, and building power. Condensed, actionable explanations like this post are great as one-off reminders to keep you on track, but they will only stick if you also commit to seriously study and pursue stoicism. If you ever find yourse…
/r/TheRedPill07/08/17 06:48 PM
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