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I got the lifting part down. At least something.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 03:33 PM
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You are right, my bad. I noticed I wasnt in askMRP after it was too late. Wont happen again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 03:05 PM
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What do you suggest I read? My plan is NMMNG,MMSLP,WISNIFG, in this order. Anything to add?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:54 PM
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We are still both at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:39 PM
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What does that mean that I am not being a hanger for her emotions?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:19 PM
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On the regular once a month, so very pathethic. She is pleasant but can be very unpleasant at times and she is not a financial burden. What I did is that I was working from home as was my colleague. She was at work, lunch with male colleague. Not sure if there was someone else. I've been talking to a female colleague of mine for some time now since I was teaching her some stuff regarding what I do, nothing innapropriate. but i received some IOIs. Asked her if she wanted to grab a lunch. We did. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:18 PM
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You are probably right. What gave it off?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 01:43 PM
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You can eat ice cream and not get fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 01:31 PM
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Sometimes I just think if maybe this time the problem is not on my side. Maybe she is wrong in the head or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 01:20 PM
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I work out after work as I have been for the whole time. I use lunch to tear myself away from my computer screen and socialize.
/r/askMRP10/02/17 01:19 PM
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I thought about writing that under the note on the mirror. Just to see the reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 01:15 PM
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If you mean to say I didnt nothing but talk, you are wrong. I tried hugging her and got rejected.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:55 PM
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Good read. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:54 PM
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I think you re right. I think I just need to wait for the right moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:51 PM
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I dont think doing whatever feels good in the moment would help. Which is why me and a lot of other guys come here. Was it a comfort test? Was it a shit test? She tried this note thing once, I took it and threw it away. And that was that. I told her the lunch was nothing and that she means the world to me yesterday. Silent treatment.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:50 PM
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Actually that is not what I want. She has done it before, so it was natural that I took it as a fair game for both of us. The problem is that her double measure means she can do it, but I cant.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 12:17 PM
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Well the workplace is really big company. Around 5k employees. Different departments. Her female coworkers probably dont even know unless she told them. But yeah I agree that this is probably just a written shit test and double standard from her side.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 11:28 AM
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That is what I think. Behavior of a small child. I am not sure however what the reaction should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 11:02 AM
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Thing is I remember how it was before. Those were really good times, and I believe it can return when I stop being a faggot. Im not ready to end it yet. Maybe because I am a faggot, but I am not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 10:56 AM
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With my LTR we ve met before we started working at the same company. With the colleague we met at work, but it is just a friendship so far. With obvious indicators of interest on both sides. And our work place is tolerant regarding this.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 10:55 AM
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I mean yeah I can enforce them. I can say if you do it once more we are done. But at the moment the answer I will receive is fine, kthxbye.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:34 PM
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That is like and ultimatum. If you do this, this will happen. The reason why I said I wasnt in position to force a boundary is because I just dont think I am.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:33 PM
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The problem is lock in the inside of the bathroom door. If it wasnt there I wouldnt even mention it.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:31 PM
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I understand it. It seems she doesnt however.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:30 PM
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I like this, however it is hard for me to see that it will lead to improving the situation.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:30 PM
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Shit man, the door has lock on the inside. If it didnt I wouldnt even say this and just go inside.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:29 PM
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Wouldnt call them "dates" yet since it happens during work lunch break, but I feel it is coming to that.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:28 PM
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I have read the MMSLP, it was a while ago though, so I dont remember that. You are right, I need a reread.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:28 PM
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I ve been doing that.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:28 PM
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I am interest. I wouldnt be here if I wasnt.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 02:27 PM
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/r/askMRP09/02/17 09:27 AM
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I am not. I met my LTR before we started working at the company. And the colleague is what she is. A friend. Nothing more. My boundaries are exactly where yours are. But I am in no position to force them on her. Not yet.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:07 PM
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I completely agree. But I was not looking to fuck the colleague or anything, she is what she is. A friend and a colleague. And as you mentioned, she oversteps this boundary as well.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:05 PM
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I am certainly not going to improve by going to gym or asking my boss for extra work during my lunch break.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:04 PM
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Read below what he suggests I do during my lunch break.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:02 PM
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I know. I read no more mr nice guy, working through WISNIFG, but it is tough read and I am not native speaker, so some phrases give me trouble.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:02 PM
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Exactly what I think this is.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:01 PM
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You go hit the gym during your lunch break. I will have lunch during my lunch break and hit the gym after work as usual. Thank you
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:59 PM
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It is called lunch break for a reason. I wont be productive during my lunch, because I want to have a lunch break.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:52 PM
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Then every advice to everything here should be go read the sidebar. I thought this was for the emergencies.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:50 PM
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Good point. But she definitely does the same one on one with male coworker. Either coffe or something else. Therefore it seems as if it was fine if she is doing it, but a problem if I am the one doing it.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:46 PM
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Why do you bother answering askMRP post if you are not going to give advice?
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:42 PM
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What do I want to do? Tough question, what would you do in my situation?
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:28 PM
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Exactly. Which is why I came here. Because I need advice on what to do.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:23 PM
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I dont understand.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 05:17 PM
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Honestly I would be sad. But I would manage. And hit up some other girls I'm in contact with.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 06:15 PM
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Yep. Should have stfud yesterday. I didn't yell or anything though. I was calm. Which made her even more pissed i guess.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 05:55 PM
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Trying to fix it before I break it. I have a feeling that abundance wouldn't help me with this.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 05:51 PM
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I trashed the note. She didnt bring it up since. Againt told me how much she likes me etc.. seems like ignoring the note and not bringing it up was the right move.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:32 AM
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I took the note and threw it away. She didnt bring it up since then. Again mentond that she feels great with me. I think ignoring the note was the right move.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:11 AM
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The door is mine.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:10 AM
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That is the thing. She once told me she thinks we spend too much time together.When I say im going to gym her mood drops. She seems to be upset that I am going to gym.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 11:51 AM
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The thing is I can see it. I want to avoid it. The relationship was great before it got fucked up. And I realize I am the only one who can do something about it. I thought MRP was about giving your current partner a chance before nexting.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 11:31 AM
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Because I got into the relationship before I knew of RP and it was great. It got fucked up thanks to me and I want to fix it. No I dont want to fix it, I want to fix myself so that this problem fixes itself.
/r/askMRP04/12/16 11:29 AM
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As I said I can't rely on her and I'll do it myself. Thanks for your advice. I won't talk about feelz.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 07:44 PM
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Well she came back. And if she left I wouldn't be talking to her. But then I read somewhere that not talking looks butthurt.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 07:35 PM
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Should I not talk to her? Or act normal? I believe I have a reason to be upset.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 07:25 PM
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We take turns. Whoever is available accommodates. Most of the time it is me. If I have something and i can't do it, she does. Because she threw a fit when I said i had the teambuilding and asked her if she could accommodate them I have to stay and do it myself.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 07:06 PM
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Dealing with it for me when I can't rely on her means I have to stay home and accomodate the guests.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:37 PM
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If I could I would go. But i can't.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:36 PM
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Can't go. It is ultimately my responsibility to accomodate the guests.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:36 PM
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Curious thing happened today. We work in separate buildings that are next to each other, anyway I went out to sit on a bench and have a informal meeting with a female coworker of mine (we have this daily, with whole team, except today it was just 2 of us at work) and she was there with a group of coworkers. I could tell she was fuming, she called me later because of some work related stuff and she definitely sounded pissed. We are supposed to attend her cousins wedding this friday and she wrote …
/r/askMRP30/08/16 08:18 AM
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I wish. But I live in Europe and I just cant find a copy of it. I guess I ll try the Kindle version.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:23 AM
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That is what I struggle with. Being indifferent. I think im still too emotinally invested to be indifferent.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:23 AM
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You just described how I feel. I wonder when I wont have the energy to talk her into staying.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:21 AM
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Thanks. What you guys say makes perfect sense. I am in a good place in life at the moment except for the relationship part. The thing that holds me back I believe is that I remember how it was. And it was better than anything. And I believe that it is within my power to bring it all back. I just cant seem to get it right, but I definitely do not want to give up. Somehow I just have to internalize that even if we break up it is not the end of the world and there will be plenty of others, some may…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 06:20 AM
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You are right. Thank you
/r/askMRP29/08/16 07:00 PM
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I think you hit the fucking nail on head. Especially the part about reacting to next nuclear event. Not sure about the rebound since i was pretty much the cause of the breakup, but i was thinking rebound a lot as well. I haven't read wisnifg yet, so I'm bit fuzzy on stuff from it, but I'll be picking it up asap. Im pretty sure that her reaction will be to leave, she won't break down. But maybe that is how it should be. The way it is now is simply not healthy for either of us. Who knows perhaps t…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 06:59 PM
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I think reacting with humor would not go very well since she is the type who will only get pissed more and try to prove she can do it even harder.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 06:50 PM
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Yeah, I think reacting like you did would not go as planned, which is why I am trying to avoid it at least until I have higher SMV.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 12:35 PM
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It sounds so easy, but I just cant recognize shit tests for shit.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 12:34 PM
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I definitely need to get WISNIFG asap. I ve been looking for it, but I guess I ll have to try harder.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 12:33 PM
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You re right. If I knew it worked i wouldnt be in this mess. Which is exactly why I am struggling with things like STFU and how to react to emotional breakdowns and nuclear events.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 07:27 AM
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Apparently completely shitty one.If I knew being completely indifferent would work, I d do it. Thing is I dont and I still think my SMV is not that high for me to try and push it.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 07:19 AM
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You are right. I should have went. The only thing holding me back now is that i don't think i look good enough. Once my smv is higher, it just won't happen anymore.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 04:18 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I think that when i look even better things will change. I just dont want to churn the waters too much before i have higher SMV.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 04:16 PM
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Not sure. That sounds like cringe material and way too long.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:06 AM
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I agree. I like giving less fucks more and more. Still a long way ahead of me, but im slowly getting there. Anyway something unexpected happened yesterday, I wrote it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4zhygl/ltr_getting_angry_over_me_going_to_the_gym/d6x7soc
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:54 AM
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Thanks for your answer. Weird thing happened yesterday, we were supposed to go somewhere after work, I came home and she was not ready, so I may have sent some angry vibes her way(just tone of my voice, I didnt say anything about it) and just did dishes. I dont recall doing anything that might trigger the behavior that comes next. She went to bedroom and laid in bed, as in "Im angry look at how angry I am and I am not talking to you" So I asked if she was going or not, she said "I dont know" and…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:52 AM
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Interesting. I ll try that the next time she asks the question. Which she certainly will.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:26 AM
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I completely agree with the slow boil. Im certain the relationship would not withstand sudden changes.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:26 AM
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There is no issue with em weathering the storm. Im just not sure if the relationship can weather it.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:25 AM
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This is the thing. We moved into new apartment recently and with it came duties to take care of 2 apartments that are being rented as booking. I come home from work at 16-17.00. I usually spend at gym 1-1,5hours. Sometimes it is hard to find time for gym. Thinking of it now,I probably should go before work. But that would mean we wont go to and leave from work at the same time. Not sure what would that do and not sure I want to do it. But she suggested that a while ago, perhaps it would work for…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:24 AM
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Thing is I look better now, but nowhere near when I met her. I know precisely that I need to keep working out and look even better than when I met her.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:08 AM
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The reason I mentioned the vids is that she may be noticing the changes in me and perhaps wants to keep up.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 06:07 AM
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I got "When are you going to stop" as well. I replied "When Im satisfied".
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:56 PM
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Thanks. I agree. I do it for myself.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:44 PM
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Thank you for the translation. Now I understand.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:41 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP25/08/16 01:40 PM
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What should I take from this? Is she feeling the dread? Do I go to the gym knowing there will be shitstorm brewing?
/r/askMRP25/08/16 11:53 AM
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Here I can help as I have a lot of experience with this. If you got fat, you dont really need that many carbs for gains. And your nr1 priority should now be getting cut instead of gaining muscles. Do not sweat killing your gains with weight loss, this can happen, but it wont be your problem. And if you do, the moment you hit your goal weight and balance the diet back, the gains will come back as well. Eat chicken with rice (cooked or done on pan with minimum oil), drink a lot of water, after 6 p…
/r/askMRP24/08/16 11:16 AM
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Way too late to ask this probably, but what does it mean to DEER? Or where can I come across this expression?
/r/askMRP24/08/16 10:07 AM
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Guys just a quick question, what does DEER mean? I cant seem to find it anywhere.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 06:54 AM
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Thanks for your response.I wll definitely try being more stoic in my interactions even though I know it will feel wrong. Im just worried it might chase her away, but if it does I suppose it was meant to be.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:34 PM
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I wrote a small update higher up and if you have the time I d be grateful if you checked it out and perhaps gave feedback. Being in new town is hard and having no one else to talk about this even worse. Isnt there some online chat room exactly for guys like me or something?
/r/askMRP19/08/16 07:08 AM
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Regarding some update I wrote reply to comment above. I would really appreciate if you checked it out and perhaps gave feedback.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:53 AM
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Thanks for your advice. Something interesting happened yesterday, I was supposed to walk my sisters dog through the park while my LTR went shopping with her, I took a shower, trimmed (not my beard), just cleaned up in general. It was pretty hot so I had sleeveless top to tan a bit. She noticed that I was doing this, so she asked if I was going for a date or something and I replied of course, I got two dates today or something along the lines, because I thought it was a shit test. Then we left. I…
/r/askMRP19/08/16 06:52 AM
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That guy is not Chad and the only reason why she might be looking to branch swing is my own. Being in new city with no real friends makes it that much harder to worry about something else.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 07:14 AM
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I know that. And I know i might be blowing it out of proportion. Im working on it.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 07:13 AM
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The thing is that every book i read regarding this is clear on the friend zone. No way of getting out of it. It may be just me overreacting.
/r/askMRP17/08/16 11:09 AM
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I would also like to believe that the reason why she didnt say anything was simply to avoid me blowing up. Kinda weird thing is that she wore a new shirt she bought the day before but when she got home she went straight to bathroom and took it off. Perhaps to cover she was wearing it, because when I said it suited her, she was surprised I knew she wore it, simply I saw her going to the bathroom.
/r/askMRP17/08/16 06:09 AM
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You are right. I am insecure and there is no point in hiding that. But im also crawling out of that hole step by step, its just that im not there yet.
/r/askMRP17/08/16 06:06 AM
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Which is why I didnt bring it up at all. Im toning down the controlling a lot. Trying to trust her again, which is hard when being outright lied to.
/r/askMRP17/08/16 06:06 AM
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Thanks man. You are completely right. Especially with the victim list. Today we had ridiculous argue about me closing her laptop which i did not close. She is making a total victim of herself, threatens to leave, i mean how do i deal with this? I know the dgaf, I'm just not there yet.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 05:20 PM
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I know. I am working on myself, im getting IOIs(even at workplace), phone numbers not so much, because im not there yet. Im doing the very light dread now, look better, dress better, talk with females more etc... And you are right, im concerned about what she is doing too much, but you would not believe how much worse it was 2 weeks ago. It is much better now. But not sure if I should bring the lunch up or just ignore it. For now im going to gym to lift some shit.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 02:47 PM
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Thanks, for the words. I know nexting her is the most sane option right now, unfortunately i was in heavy oneitis, which is not as serious right now, but still is. So I just want to know if I should bring it up or just not mention it. Going to lift some heavy stuff for now.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 02:45 PM
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I read the posts. I see what you are writing. I realize that in the greand picture it doesnt matter if she stays or goes. The problem is exactly as you said, believing it.
/r/askMRP03/08/16 07:16 AM
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