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They didn’t reveal they hated me in the beginning they never showed red flags I found out later months in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:22 AM
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Not reading this lol but thx queen
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:51 AM
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Not reading this thx bb
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:50 AM
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Jumping immediately into a relationship, then giving them the best version of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:50 AM
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And once again babes — this is coming from another woman, so don’t speak for all of us, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:58 AM
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I’m not mad, although I am sad — that said, regardless of my own projection (experience) my opinion still stands. Now circling back — again you don’t speak for all women, and again you lack emotional maturity and the pair of balls to dump your partner, therefore you sugarcoat it as, “mentally checked out” which again circling back, isn’t a thing unless you fall in the category of giving someone you’re one hundred percent; and they aren’t giving you anything back. This is why women resort to monk…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:57 AM
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More personal attacks from you, and of course, I got used buddy, if someone used you, are you gonna not be moping, I’m a human, so are you? And the fact that you main this a men Vs women debate, shows you clearly have comprehension issues. Please quote me (as I asked above) where I said anything about all men are bad, or that nonsense. You can’t handle someone’s differing opinion and you lack an argument so you nastily resort to personal attacks like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:54 AM
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If it’s narcissist behaviour it kinda gives you decent closure, but it’s sad how common it’s becoming, so often it’s just shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:52 AM
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Also the fact that you automatically assumed I was a man in this post is also hysterical to me, these excuses people make is hilarious. I’m telling you from another perspective of a woman that opinion state is spewed ignorance and selfishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:42 PM
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Girl, you did put me down, stop making manipulative excuses because your argument has no basis, so you have to resort to personal attacks because you lack the emotional maturity to dump your partner like an adult and don’t want to look like the bad person. There is no “checking out” unless you’ve been in a lengthy relationship or emotionally neglected for years and that’s you giving your absolute one hundred percent to them. Which I doubt you’re doing. You can sugarcoat it all you want; it’s cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:41 PM
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I think it happens with women too, as my friend is going through something similar and they’re both women, just highlights how awful this generation is thanks to social media and how it’s breeding grounds for narcissism, discard, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:39 PM
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It has nothing to do with entitlement it merely showcases they don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:38 PM
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Where in my post did I say; “men are bad” it’s interesting how you took my whole post and made it a gender war lmfao, but okay bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:37 PM
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Yeah their pictures are deleted now, ironically they did mention once they’re into sadism or something like that but I only took that as sexual gratification in the bedroom, so now I wonder if in general there is some sort of personality disorder deep down but no idea cause the social media is very convincing that the next has no hiccups and getting j treated so well. That’s why I can’t tell if it’s just a case of being used as recovery x dopamine / not interested. Rather than something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:08 PM
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Girl the fact that you have to resort to personal attacks and putting me down — solely because I simply disagreed with you, showcases what you’re stating has no truth; and screams emotional immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:07 PM
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No, they told me — for example, their first ex, they decided to tell me all about her, how they abused them and whatnot, naturally as we were getting to know each other I was empathetic, warm and made them feel seen and validated. Then they crooned to me how their ex moved fast; I told them since I’m always logically analysing, I said delete the photos, screw her and that new relationship won’t last, as people don’t change and the ex has a personality disorder. They liked hearing that. Then I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:18 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:08 PM
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I am unfortunately stubborn and tend to fall into the unfortunate category of unconditional loving when I’m attached which is a trait that I wish I never have, and that’s the only relationship I’ve known my whole life as I witnessed it with my parents, so it’s a curse. I am such a loser of a human being because it’s sad, I’ll one day get over it, but it’s just depressing knowing how I meant absolute zero, and then they get their happy ending. Sometimes it just crosses over into other deep thinki…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:08 PM
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You do realize you don't need to go into these kinds of relationships, right? I mean, if a guy tells you he only wants casual, then you pushing for more will never work. You made that bed, and now you have to sleep in it. They never told me they wanted casual, they wore a mask and were a completely different person. This is someone who was nosying into my life even though I kept them at arms length, always wanted to know what I was doing, checking in on me — they clearly knew I was vulnerable. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:05 PM
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If it’s a woman tho I think it’s likely monkeybranching so not even a rebound just someone they wanted tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:59 PM
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Lowkey I’m in the bitter jaded pessimistic phase of, “love isn’t real” and shifting heavily into thinking this generation is cooked, just in all aspects — not even relationships, but platonic friendships too, with garbage manipulative social media advice being pushed; “protect your peace!” And “I don’t owe anyone anything” that’s so destructive. And I agree I think it’s the; “they just didn’t care about me much” sediment. I never meant a thing and that’s why it was easy to move on, and they get …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:46 PM
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Even if I were to remove the equivalent of my ex out of this and speak on a more generalised note. If we circle back to hookup culture, “situationships” and all this common nonsense, grass is greener syndrome is very rampant in this generation. Therefore discard and moving on is so common, it’s also masked under; “avoidant” which is another common push. I knew a guy who was with his girlfriend, maybe about ~2-ish years I can’t fully remember the story, but he ends up blocking her and ghosting he…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:41 PM
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Wouldn’t that signify more of a push then that simply sleeping with someone just further proves they didn’t mean something because all it takes is having sex and another body to fundamentally replace what you had, therefore it not mattering. I mean my ex is already with someone new, kitten together, 8 months of thriving, and no bumps, they got the happy ending they wanted, that’s why I don’t think sleeping around was a cope, they never cared and even their tiktok reposts signify that with repost…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:37 PM
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Explains why monkey branching is so common with women, cough Taylor Swift. Even my friend who is very much queer, girls moving on rapidly to the next girl and or still obsessing over their exes. Bewildering.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:34 PM
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More women “ONLY” agree because this sediment has been popping up these last recent years because it’s poor curated social media advice & takes that blossomed, alongside hook up culture and grass is greener syndrome. Years ago, think 2015, and before — nobody was pushing the sediment of, “she’s checked out” because that poor excuse was never a thing. The only time that is absolutely viable; is when it’s a long term marriage, and I’m talking about a woman who does everything for her man, I mean e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:32 PM
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I think often there usually is overlap tbh, making it less likely to be a rebound but rather a calculated move.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:28 PM
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Well my ex moved on from 4 different girls in a span of a year. 1st was the ex of 3 years, who apparently abused them, I don’t know the other side of the story; so I often believe what I was told. Didn’t even know they were freshly out a breakup I thought it was months of being solo and alone, they never disclosed. That was early summer of ‘23 2nd was me (that’s even “if” I was second), they nosied on into my life, when I kept them at a distance, I then get revealed they always hated me, but sud…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:27 PM
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True, I feel sorry for some relationships, co-parenting is definitely upsetting. Then again social media is “so” in our lives that it’s hard to escape regardless. I was doing well not looking at my exes page up until a friend decides to screenshot me their public Snapchat profile. So even other parties get tangled into it. Pre-social media was if it ended, you move on cause you don’t know a single thing. Much more mental peace. Or because there was so much space and no answers due to no lurking …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:21 PM
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The reason I argue they didn’t care and I’ll self project into this response back, is solely because how they blindsided me. It was months of us every day talking, and mind you, I didn’t even initiate; they did. No one forced them. That person behaved in a way that I saw as a best friend for months on end, and I was always supportive to them, warm and on their team. Ironically — what gauges that I don’t mean anything or meant anything was a lot of foretelling. Example: Hating me at the beginning…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:20 PM
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Oh yes, I agree with the marriage aspect, a lot of marriages quietly suffer in silence and that’s the only time I atypically believe the; “mentally checked out” aspect. But for the most part I’m more so analysing relationships that were still fresh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:13 PM
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don't know if that's really true. A lot of men and women use bounce backs as a way to avoid introspection. Basically, they say "Well, my last relationship ended poorly, but this one is going great, so it must be them!". Sure, there are men that didn't care and move on fast, just like how there are women who do the same, but generally both genders need an amount of time to actually process their own emotions. I think nowadays due to how social media has riddled everyone’s brains (grass is greener…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:13 PM
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I slightly believe this, but would like to see the study my friend is gay and went through something similar to my experience and this chick always had someone new and it still blindsided my friend every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:06 PM
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Here’s a helpful hint to men everywhere. When a woman stops talking to you or “nagging”. She is breaking up with you. She is going through the mental and emotional process of leaving you. This isn’t fully true, a friend of mine is gay; and she went through something almost exactly as I did. Both were women. One woman (just like I went through with a guy), chased her down for months on end. This person was adoring her, and all sorts of charm tricks. Just like me she got blindsided — as in left fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:05 PM
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That’s another debate question I cannot comprehend how some people are able to get in numerous relationships in a span of a year. While others struggle to find one or haven’t even dated in years. It makes me wonder if it’s just low standards, and accepting bare minimum because that is better than being alone and that sort of wraps around this topic too, why people move on so fast. Social media has done so much damage, that there will “always” be another person, or “better” therefore replacement.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:01 PM
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Yup people can’t handle the truth, and it’s funny cause the truth weeds out awful people when you stop being honest; you get weirdos around you and or terrible people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:31 PM
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It isn’t “ball rolling” when you have evil people in power; it doesn’t matter the gender. Women can be as sadistic as men, babes. The women who want war and say yes to it in American politics, etc — do so for their own selfish reasons and power.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:15 AM
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Lol, babes you need to stop thinking like that. I know a guy that is like 5’2, very short, short neck, and overweight. He has a pretty wife, and two kids and has been married for pass 20 years. I see short guys with girls almost all the time. Either their height, or shorter than them. If you’re confident too, a lot of taller girls do like a “short king” my bestie is 5’9, and she always has been attracted to guys shorter than her, and hasn’t cared. If you manifest the whole; “I will never have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:28 AM
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Anytime you hear “relationship experts” I promise you it’s someone who knows absolutely nothing, but just has blunt takes and coining you out of big cash. Biggest snakes oils.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:24 AM
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Casual sex is not just for “attractive” people. If you’re actually itching for sex, and you’re a mid-looking guy, you absolutely can pull for casual sex. This absolute slug of a gross man ended up pulling one of my girlfriends, I was absolutely shocked that him, an absolute chess nerd, overweight and looked like the SouthPark gamer neckbeard but blonde pulled her. He wouldn’t commit to her, treated her like absolute garbage. Had her for casual sex, and then 6 months lather had the audacity when …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:23 AM
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Dating is bad literally everywhere right now, doesn’t matter where you go. I’ll tell you why it’s bad; Social Media has taken over and is very integrated in people’s lives now. As social media has developed, so has the standards. Go look at Instagram photos from 2010-2012, and compare them to now. Photos are polished, highlight edited, people look like cookie cutter with a specific “Instagram Model” look. Which stunts dating indirectly, meaning people want the highest of the high’s in their part…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:19 AM
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You’re saying it’s not accurate when there is literal statistics for lesbian divorce, and it being higher. Do you need a statistic link or you’re just gonna ignore data?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:02 AM
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Nope, irrelevant to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:01 AM
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You’re talking about ancient feminism. I’m talking about the present babes, feminism right now hasn’t done any of what you listed, besides screw up the dating world, and actually has been affecting women. Give me what from a timeline of modern feminism, and what it has brought to the table these past 10 years. Sorry, but I disagree and not interested in buying what you’re selling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:00 AM
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Lmfao, modern feminism this past 10 years has not done any of what you just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:59 AM
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I’m talking about modern feminism babes. What has it gotten us?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:17 PM
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It’s intriguing that you say this and nowadays all I see is on social media is 20 year old girls bragging about how they’re “insane” and “crazy” 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:16 PM
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The abuse one is dated, but the divorce one is accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:14 PM
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And most people don’t even want war, corrupt politicians who have power in their hands don’t speak for the whole race.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:14 PM
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You do know there is female politicians who are 100% down for war too right? You think it’s only been purely men? Lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:13 PM
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The only one that isn’t sane; is you. You’re projecting and getting offended and have to resort to personal attacks. Sane people don’t resort to ad hominem babes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:12 PM
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Right, like I’m a chick and her saying that to me is hilarious. Since the feminism movement these past couple years, it has done nothing but hurt us. They literally found through studies too, that women feel inclined to do casual hookups, because women feel if they don’t (they aren’t a feminist, and failing the modern movement). Despite that finding, majority of the women conducted by the study said they regretted the casual hookup sex right after, and felt awful from it too. But hooray feminism…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:11 PM
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You’re so proper that you have to resort to personal attacks and assumptions because you’re so offended. So proper.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:09 PM
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What has feminism done? Besides get guys not to approach women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:09 PM
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That women don’t know what they want and feminism is such mumbo jumbo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:15 PM
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They’re pretty emotional, and I’m a woman saying that. Two girls and time of the month is a war zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:14 PM
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All I have to say is lesbian relations don’t last typically — not saying they all are like this but for the most part because two girls and a uhaul is seen as a stereotype but it’s common. They don’t take their time to know the other person. They quickly move in, and mistake infatuation for love. Then the honeymoon dies, and it’s fighting who gets the cats while already hooking up with another women. Women initiate divorce more often because they’re quick to react on emotions and more particular…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:14 PM
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What the fuck is Snapchat Premium?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:04 PM
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I don’t have anything to say, other than; I don’t do any of this and I am a girl. I even use to be the most blunt person in the room and giving the absolute truth every time, but hey I got punished by other women for it. Made into the villain. Sometimes you just need to learn how to read women better because, a lot aren’t like you described. Maybe the ones who make social media their whole life, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:59 PM
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I’m pretty sure this is a real thing, it’s how people get stuck with narcissists etc too, people can sense when you’re not confident and or going through something awful and want to take a advantage unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 07:24 AM
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Insecurity and projection. It’s like alcohol, you could be out with a group of friends, not even judging them, and simply say “I don’t want to drink, or I’m gonna pass on drinking” and you’ll get the reaction from them thinking you’re judging them, they’ll turn defensive or awkward or even push you so they feel less uncomfortable (projection).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 07:08 AM
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And a lot of them will purposely charm their therapists to avoid being diagnosed and utilise therapy to abuse their partners further.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:40 AM
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No, has to be the man that likes you more but preferably it’s better when it’s equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:00 AM
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A lot of narcissists aren’t diagnosed because they don’t want to be. They’re extremely hard to diagnose that’s why the percentage is low.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 11:59 PM
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Yup, pretty sure psychologists and so forth have even also said narcissism is becoming much more common, or social media is a breeding ground for it. Which is another level of bullshit you have to deal with in dating, because now you’re dealing with cluster b’s and the internet and online dating brings them no consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:40 PM
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