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DiscussionHuckleberryBig3420/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:23 PM
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I usually take a break from dating completely after I end a relationship. I think that’s the most healthy way to go about it for me. I know plenty of people who dive into hookups to numb the pain but they usually regret it later ‘cause it often just makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 11:28 PM
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The question isn’t “are you in a relationship” it’s “are you single” I think even that change in wording is going to get you very different results
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:46 PM
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Oh shit I see where I went wrong on the rating portion. My bad, you’re right there
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:30 PM
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I disagree though. I don’t think this proves women are convinced the men they are messaging are below average. Just that women will likely only swipe on people they find attractive in the first place while men will swipe on just about everyone. Ever see a guy swiping through tinder in public? Half the time he isn’t even looking at the pictures. One of my guy friends said he just swipes on everyone and evaluated the matches after.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:07 PM
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I know! And he’s a good looking successful guy. I’m sure he can just find someone else I found he follows me on ig too so I think that’s probably the catalyst. I need to do a better job of filtering my follower list from time to time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:28 PM
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Yeah he’s getting blocked. He alluded to those dreams being sexual and we never had sex or anything so now I feel icky
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:25 PM
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Some guy I went out with four times two years ago texted this morning saying he keeps having reoccurring dreams about me. I get people wanted to shoot their shot again but this isn’t the way
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:59 PM
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How does this prove that women message attractive men while being convinced that those men are below average?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:41 PM
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I know a bunch and they all have incredibly different personalities. The only similarity I can think of is they all seem to lean slightly extroverted
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:32 PM
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I don’t mind a guy that wants his own kids. But have that strong an opinion on it is a bit extreme and a turnoff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:24 PM
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I’d like to think most women would have the decency to finish the date but yeah at least she covered the meal
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:07 PM
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Yeah I agree which is why we need some way to hold people accountable. You do it with your friends. I call out any friends I know who cheat and cut them off. But I know many people who just turn a blind eye The reason “Are We Dating the Same Guy” popped off was because women were looking to hold guys accountable as bad as those methods may be
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:07 PM
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As long as you’re open and upfront then I see no problem with it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:54 PM
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To each their own for being picky. But she is the asshole here for how she handled it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:50 PM
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Sounds like you’re already doing your part then :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:48 PM
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Even then he may not be useful to his parents. I have a cousin like this and his mom is desperately trying to get him out of the house as he doesn’t contribute and she wants to be able to retire
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:33 AM
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I kind of wish men were more picky about who they ask on a date though but I understand why they do it. From a woman’s perspective, if I’m constantly being asked out, I have to be really picky upfront on who I accept a date from. Otherwise it would take up all of my time. So I’m going to hold out for guys where there is immediate chemistry or something special in the first place and then filter further after a first or second date
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 06:19 PM
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Not single rn. But when I was I’d say generally yeah the men I interacted with were great. Just a handful of really terrible experiences occasionally
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 07:48 AM
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Depends but in some cases yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:23 AM
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All we need is artificial wombs and men can start procreating with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:23 AM
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Like working at salesforce? I’d say good luck as they’ve recently laid off a large percent of their workforce and are hardcore minimizing office space in SF. As for their product, I’ve hated working with it. Please take all of this with a grain of salt though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:02 AM
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I don’t know enough to give you perfect advice as I don’t work in cloud computing and it’s a pretty broad. I would say be careful about certificate courses and the like as a substitute for a degree
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:47 AM
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I’d just go with CS. You could still go IT or something else upon graduation so you keep more options
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 12:21 AM
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Or just live your life and be happy being tall :) Modeling can fuck you up. I got out fast but so many girls I know had terrible experiences that had long term impacts
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:12 PM
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Talking about her trainer: “Speaking to Harper, Daphne describes her trainer, Lawrence, as a handsome guy with blond hair and blue eyes. Then -- apparently by accident -- she shows Harper a picture of her two kids... including a platinum blond youngster (Cameron definitely has brown hair).” The actors confirmed it when asked that the kids aren’t actually Cameron’s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:10 PM
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Also consider that modeling careers suck
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:45 PM
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The wife of the one guy in the second season seemed to cheat a lot too as revenge. Wasn’t it implied that his kid wasn’t really his?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:23 PM
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Cool. 6’1 is taller than average so good chance your sons will be shorter than you as your wife’s genes will bring that average down To each their own
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:12 PM
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Do you want tall kids or short kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:05 PM
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Bring him coffee, walk his dog when he’s busy, pick us up lunch, edit his pitch decks for VCs, cook dinner, bring him flowers, help him with some of the more technical stuff with his startup, etc. You ever going to answer my questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:45 PM
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Lol your Spotify? What’s that supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:26 PM
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One dating app has a link to your insta in your bio automatically. You can’t turn it off and it’s so annoying because people won’t match with you but then go ahead and try to message on insta anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:12 PM
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They really don’t though. I have a few closer male friends and been friends for years. A couple of them introduce me as their sister because at this point we feel like family. They’ve been taken at times and single at others. But they’re all good-looking and successful guys who aren’t so desperate for a relationship that they’d resort to faking a whole friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:41 PM
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What? That makes no sense. I make my friends feel special by bringing them treats I baked, remembering their birthdays, and taking them out for coffee when they’ve had a bad day I make my boyfriend feel special by planning random date nights and going out of my way to make his day easier I make my parents feel special by sending home gifts, telling them I love them, and visiting often I make my siblings feel special by buying them plane tickets to come out and see me and taking them to fancy din…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:36 PM
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You can try a matchmaking service. Kind of a middle ground
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:56 AM
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They hang out with girls that are a similar type. So “insta” girls are probably spending more time on makeup, working out, etc. and will attract similar girls who are into that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 01:12 AM
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Why is that a masculine role?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 12:43 AM
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I just disagree with #3. People embody both masculine and feminine qualities. I don’t think forcing one side or the other will “keep a romantic spark”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:52 PM
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It’s wrong to dislike an entire group. Nothing wrong with disliking subsets of a group that exhibit behavior that has a negative impact on you. Big difference between saying “I don’t like women” and “I don’t like loose women because I think their choices negatively impact society as a whole” Or “I don’t like men” and “I don’t like creepy men who follow and catcall me because it makes me feel unsafe”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:38 PM
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I just disagree with #3. People embody both masculine and feminine qualities. I don’t think forcing one side or the other will “keep a romantic spark”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:52 PM
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Say you got married and your wife made a lot more money than you. Say you guys want kids and you agree to be the stay at home dad to take care of them while your wife works. In the event of a divorce, do you not think you’re entitled to splitting the assets?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:49 PM
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I’m in a committed relationship but we don’t share assets. (I wouldn’t do that until marriage anyway) If married I expect both parties to fully disclose everything but I don’t mind each having a separate account for emergencies. I don’t ever want to be completely financially dependent on my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:19 PM
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Dude it legit illegal to do that in almost every state. A quick google search will tell you that https://www.wgandf-law.com/are-there-consequences-and-penalties-for-hiding-assets-in-a-divorce/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 10:18 PM
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Depends how you define the top 5%. Top 5% of men in your area, in the USA, in your age group, etc. Also top 5% of what exactly? Looks, body fat percentage, income, personality, etc. The only metric that I think is actually traceable as good 5% is an income of above $340k and I really don’t think that’s easy for most men. Plus that’s taking all of the US as a sample.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:14 PM
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I agree and in the cases were a man is raped I do believe he should be able to 1. Get full custody of the child 2. Remove the rapist’s parental rights 3. Decide to give that child up for adoption or not Just like how women raped often end up sharing custody with their rapist. It’s fucked up but that’s a separate solution
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:27 PM
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I realized I did. Had a guy friend when I moved to a new city. Wouldn’t even date we were very close but we hung out in the same group and would even get lunch 1:1 sometimes. He was dating other people during this so it wasn’t like he was some single loser just hanging around Like a year and a half into us being friends we do a hike one day and he asks how I’m doing. I was going through a hard time so I said as much without going into specifics and this guy takes the opportunity to confess that …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:07 PM
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The lesbian should gtfo of that relationship then. You aren’t required to support that child unless you’re signing the adoption papers in the first place. Kinda like having unprotected sex “Because he happened to be the one to fuck the mom” what??? Yeah that’s how making a baby works. He didn’t unwillingly fuck her without a condom. He made a conscious decision. If I got rock climbing, yeah I don’t want to fall and break my leg. So I’m going to be super careful and bring safety equipment and mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 04:56 PM
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If the little shit adds up and your spouse isn’t interested in or incapable of working on it then what other choice do you have? Why did you get divorced?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:56 AM
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Why do you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:47 AM
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Lots of little things add up. If you’re in a relationship that requires constant compromise and/or lots of little issues there’s a point where it would be better to just throw in the towel.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 07:22 AM
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There are pros and cons though. I’ve had random homeless men come up to me and tell me I’m beautiful and then follow it with a really lewd comment. I’ve had people follow me for a block to try and compliment and get my number. It’s nice in theory but in the moment I kinda tense up and my heart starts beating fast and I get nervous and feel unsafe. The worst is when it’s an Uber driver because you’re stuck in the car with them with no way to escape and you don’t want to make them upset so you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:41 AM
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Sorry to hear that :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:32 AM
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So you’re saying that it’s harder for men to maintain relationships because women are more likely to leave a relationship over something small? I can only speak from my experience, but there’s usually a much larger buildup and then the small thing is just the straw that breaks the camel’s back
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:28 AM
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Why specifically do you think it’s harder for men to maintain relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:20 AM
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Sounds like you have a healthy relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:06 PM
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Is this satire?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:05 PM
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It’s really not though. If the woman says you are the father and you are suspicious, you can just test. She doesn’t even need to know. It’s a non-issue
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:44 PM
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It’s not a legal obstacle. It’s there so a man who thinks the baby is his can find out We have a legal way to handle it if the man suspects the baby is his. If he doesn’t think the baby is his he is free to test himself. There are already solutions for this problem. And you didn’t respond to my second point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:31 PM
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Not if she doesn’t have the consent of the father. Just like the father can’t unless he has the consent of the mother
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:15 PM
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Of course. He’s working on a startup. I expect that to fail. I make excellent money myself and can support. It’s a partnership. There are plenty of pretty women out there who don’t expect fancy dates and presents. They want effort in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:30 PM
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What percent of journalists are women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:21 PM
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I’m a pretty young woman and my current bf has an income of $0. Our relationship works great and I contribute a bit more financially right now. He keeps me because he’s absolutely amazing and checks all of my boxes for what I want in a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:19 PM
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Most women have a baseline for everything. That baseline is different for everyone. If a guy meets my baseline for success but not my baseline for intelligence, attractiveness, personality, etc. he’s not even an option no matter how successful he is. That doesn’t mean I don’t understand the value of money. Just that I genuinely don’t care if a guy is making marginally more than my baseline if he’s lacking in other areas
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:17 PM
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Did you just skip over the part saying it’s because she can afford those things herself?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:11 PM
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Women don’t have abortion for a variety of reasons. For one its illegal in many areas. For another their may be religious, social, or emotional reasons that prevent abortion from being an option. Once the baby is born the responsibility falls on both parents. One could argue that a man has the responsibility over his sperm while women have the responsibility over their bodies. If you have unprotected sex and willingly give that up, then you accept the consequences of that action.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:45 AM
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I’m talking about the responsibility for the care, upkeep, and financial support of the child. Once that child is born that responsibility is shared What responsibility are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 07:27 AM
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This is true for so many things in life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 06:49 AM
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The thing with abortion support is it gets tricky. Like I’m pro choice in the sense that I think women should have access to abortion in cases or rape or a threat to her life. So can I be for financial abortions only in the case of rape or threat to the man’s life?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:53 AM
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I would think the idea of a financial abortion would me much more popular with liberals than conservatives, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:47 AM
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For his age he’s a 10. Generally I’d give him an 8
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 03:04 AM
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If he is not the biological father then he can get a paternity test to prove so and then submit a challenge to paternity. There are avenues that allow him to get out of it. We will always know who the mother is because the kid comes out of the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:14 AM
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What’s your point? A mother can’t remove herself from the birth certificate either. And she’s on the hook for child support as well. It’s not a gendered issue. Everything you said applies to the mother as well. If the husband has custody and the mother is paying child support, she can still be on the hook for child support even if the father marries someone new.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:22 AM
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Almost every state gives that right to the father as well. “In most States, either parent may surrender his or her baby to a safe haven. In four States, Guam, and Puerto Rico, only the mother may relinquish her infant.5 Idaho specifies that only a custodial parent may surrender an infant. In the District of Columbia, an infant may be relinquished only by a custodial parent who is a resident of the District.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:57 AM
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The woman is also forced to provide for the child. Child support isn’t gendered. The mother can give the child up for adoption only if the father agrees
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:20 AM
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The father can give the children up for adoption or give the child to the mother. They have the exact same parental rights
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:14 AM
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He can sue for paternity. There are legal avenues to handle this. What’s your alternative if there’s an automatic paternity test and the mother isn’t giving the name of the father? They can’t do a paternity test if they don’t have the father’s dna as well. Should the government just maintain a giant DNA database of every citizen in order to test paternity?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:07 AM
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Should that extend to the mother as well? If she doesn’t believe in abortion for moral or religious reasons should she be allowed to have the child and then financially abort too?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:01 AM
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They are 98% effective. If you use condoms and pull out then you’re golden
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:00 AM
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Not even that. Women are on the hook for child support too if it’s shared custody and she makes more. It’s not a gendered thing no matter how much they want to make it one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:58 PM
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That’s not what “believe women” means. It means you should take those accusations seriously rather than immediately brushing them off as a lie
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:52 PM
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How does society place the responsibility on men? The mother has just as much responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:50 PM
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Why do they need to though? If you are listed as the father you have every right to go and do your own cheap at home paternity test without the knowledge of the mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:50 PM
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There is a line when reasonable requests from a partner in order to make them feel more comfortable becomes controlling. He crossed that line and you are perfectly reasonable for leaving him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:00 PM
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It’s only an ick if it’s excessive. Outgoing people with a variety of different interests and a drive to improve themselves even above the bare minimum are more attractive than those who would rather spend all of their free time gaming
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:57 PM
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I suggest you check it out! Even within cultures it can change a good amount. Personality is impacted by both genetic and external factors a huge amount
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:09 PM
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It’s different enough but still pretty small. The difference between the most neurotic men and the least is much greater than the difference in neuroticism between the average woman and the average man. Another fun thing to look at is the big 5 traits including neuroticism across cultures. The numbers can change a lot. For example, with agreeableness the average Japanese man is actually more agreeable in some studies than the average American woman. Americans and Europeans also score much higher…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:03 PM
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If you map the distributions it’s a pretty tightly overlapping bell curve. The difference in neuroticism between the average man and average women is pretty close. The neuroticism of the average women is less than that of like 40% of men. But higher than like 60% of men for example
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:42 PM
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I’m pretty low maintenance when it comes to sex. I can go a long time without sleeping with my bf and be fine. But also go through periods where it’s multiple times a day. I have a very reactive sex drive so it’s difficult to make me unhappy in that department. I avoid casual sex and won’t sleep with anyone unless we date for a period of ~2 months and I see strong potential in it turning into a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:30 PM
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Yeah that’s true! I’m talking about things in addition to just general health
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:39 PM
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This 100% What’s hot simply goes in and out of style. Hyper masculine men will always have their niche but rn there’s a trend towards the “pretty boy” Just like in the early 2000s super skinny girls with a flat ass were the ideal and now it’s a bit thicker. Saw a similar pattern in the 1920s where women cut their hair short and bound their chests to give the illusion of a flat chest and a “boyish” look
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:26 PM
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I’m a woman and I met my current bf in Europe and he’s perfect. If a guy has the resources to do it then all power to him. I think a lot of people should check out 90 day fiancé though. Some of the couples work out but the majority seem scammy. Just know what you’re getting into
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:20 PM
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Is there a limit on how many women you can impregnate from one sperm donor? I feel like this could cause a lot of problems down the line
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:06 AM
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✨Product design✨
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:30 AM
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My boyfriend is my best friend and I’m his. I support him in every way I can whether that be helping him with his work or taking care of him when he is sick. We love talking about religion, politics, and tech stuff so I bring good conversation. I make more money than him rn so I contribute a bit more financially to the relationship. I make sure he always has someone in his corner to support and challenge him to grow and he does the same for me. We both love to travel so I help plan vacations and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:20 AM
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Abortion can be legal and still immoral in certain situations. Legality != morality Abortion is a medical procedure and there are various levels of even it’s legality. For example legal in the cases of rape vs up to certain time limits vs medical emergencies only Sex isn’t an agreement to have kids but you are consenting to some potential consequences. If I got rock climbing, I’m not agreeing to fall and break my leg, but I’m consenting to that being a possible outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:27 AM
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Not if the man has parental rights. If the man’s parental rights have been terminated already then yeah she can give the child up for adoption. Where are you getting the idea that women can just put their kids up for adoption with the consent of the father?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:22 AM
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I’m responding to your question about the man’s second choice. If you allow for a paper abortion then men can just sign away rights. I’m not talking about the current status quo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:19 AM
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And if the mother does inform the father beforehand? Does he still have the right to change his mind after birth? I understand your point but I don’t see a realistic scenario of this playing out. A much better requirement would be to allow men the out from child support if there is evidence of the woman entrapping them (like messing with their condoms) as that’s actual sexual assault Finally I do truly believe that if you have sex you are consenting to the possibility of having kids as a result.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:16 AM
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If he chooses to have sex then he is assuming some of the responsibility that comes with that. So just to recap: you want a situation where men on their drivers licenses declare if they are open to having a kid and then again get to make another decision after finding out that the woman is pregnant in case they change their mind. So before the act even takes place, they are already opting out? I don’t think this would ever fly as a policy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:59 AM
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For the sake of time (and because I’m on my phone) I’m unable to read this whole document. Do you not have a link to the actual case or at least a news article summarizing it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:52 AM
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Why does the man get to wait until after the child is born but not the woman? What happens when the man realizes child care is harder than he expected and just nopes out? What about the rights of the child? A man’s burden in the status quo is only steeper if he makes bad decision after bad decision. Condoms have an excellent prevention rate and you can have sex without finishing inside a woman. Both parties agree to have sex and men are fully aware of the consequences of doing so. Therefore I se…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:46 AM
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Can you link me that case?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:38 AM
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Men can just sign away rights. Women must undertake an expensive medical procedure that for many will have significant emotional, social, or religious consequences. Basically a woman has to jump through more hoops and deal with much more consequences in order to take that second choice. There isn’t equality there
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:37 AM
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Most places with access to abortion have time limits. Plenty of women don’t know they are pregnant until after those lines are crossed depending the limit If a man suggests to a woman that he plans on providing for the child thus influencing her to keep it but then makes an official decision that he will not, does that constitute fraud and can he be punished?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:29 AM
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Then does the woman get the right to relinquish parental responsibility as well even after the child is born? If the kid is 5 then you must also take into account their rights As for the responsibility of the abortion consequences, of course you’re right in the current status quo. But if your goal is to create equality in second choice options to opt out of parental responsibilities, then one gender has a much steeper price to pay. You can’t cry about equality of choice without equalizing the bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:24 AM
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Only in the case of rape
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:20 AM
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Mandating that is weird. Making sure it was taken correctly would be incredibly important. And he’s saying paternity tests as well. If any of this can be admissible in court then you need to require it be done under the supervision of a medical professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:20 AM
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I understand but he is attempting to manufacture a second chance for men in order to make it equal. However this second chance for men does not come with the consequences of the second chance for women that I outlined above. I agree there is no shared burden currently as women are the only ones with access to abortion. She’s able to make that choice and she alone deals with the consequences that stem from it. However, if you want equality in parental rights and access to chances to relinquish th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:16 AM
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And in cases where the woman does not know she is pregnant? Would men be legally required to disclose their default status to potential sex partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:12 AM
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Now we are just getting into a wild thought experiment. None of that would fly in the real world. A better solution would be to just outlaw sex without the purpose of procreation. Now if anyone has sex they are legally accepting the risks and responsibility of becoming a parent with an additional caveat that a man must pay 75% of all hospital bills associated with the pregnancy to offset the physical toll it takes on a woman’s body. You can’t force perfect equality of the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 01:00 AM
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So you now want everyone who has sex to sign a contract before the act? Who is going to pay for the paternity test then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:43 AM
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And if the woman is unaware of her pregnancy until after the cutoff for a legal abortion? You’re just creating an incentive for women to hide their pregnancies. Also the second chance for women is much more harmful than your proposed chance for men. Women who choose an abortion are not only putting their health at risk but risk emotional, social, and religious consequences as well. How will the man responsible share in that burden if she decides to terminate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 12:03 AM
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How would you make it so both parties have equal say in becoming parents then? And would that solution be better for society as a whole?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:45 PM
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Idk if I brought home a 35 year old my dad would lose his mind. Perfectly healthy to be worried about shame from her family
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:19 PM
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You’re right I misspoke. I meant society at large and my bias is primarily western society as I’m assuming OP is from those areas
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:46 PM
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In civilized society, it was the norm to marry close to one’s age. This gives a good overview of those customs There’s evidence that large age gap relationships were taboo or looked down on. Look at the painting The Unequal Marriage that depicts and old man marrying a young woman. It was highly popular at the time and displayed societies discomfort with large age gaps
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:29 PM
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For most of history, large age gap relationships have been generally looked down on by society at large. You do you but it’s normal to feel weird about something that is not always socially acceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:13 PM
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I just operate under the assumption that anyone I’m talking to could sleep with someone else. If I get to the point where I’m not comfortable with it or if we begin sleeping together then I’ll say something and we can lay some ground rules or stop talking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:11 PM
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I am not. It messes me up and I hate it. I am in a committed relationship and we use condoms
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:08 PM
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Why would you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:16 PM
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I’ve heard that men are more likely to be raped themselves than falsely accused. But I’m sure it depends on the location and of course still happens
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 05:30 AM
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I know multiple people that have learned other languages well into adulthood. My coworker recently learned Spanish and moved to Mexico City for 6 months. My uncle learned Korean in his 50s. Several of my friends married foreign spouses and learned Chinese as adults. It’s hard but not impossible. Even my biggest improvements in mandarin only happened when I was in college
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:44 AM
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I mean it works. If I go around and smile at strangers I get random guys hitting on me in public. Returned a smile to a guy last month and he followed me out of the grocery store to ask me for my number. I don’t get much unwanted attention through my smartphone from men but I do in publuc
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:37 AM
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We will have to agree to disagree here. Granted it’s more difficult to learn social skills as an adult, it’s not impossible. Based on your responses I recommend you get a therapist and perhaps a life coach if you have the funds. They can provide an outside perspective and help you. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:34 AM
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Yeah of course. The women he is dating have that lower baseline when it comes to income. Every woman’s is different. Sounds like you’re lacking in social skills. Like income, those can be improved and I wish you luck
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:19 AM
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It works. Random guys are less likely to talk to me when I have headphones and sunglasses
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:17 AM
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It’s all a baseline and every woman’s is different. A man must hit my baseline attractiveness, success, status, etc. to even be an option. Then it’s just a value and personality fit You probably hit their income/success baseline but are failing to hit the necessary level of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:14 AM
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Nah I’d have to dox myself to do so. How long have you been on the waitlist?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:09 AM
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Hvar is 90% tourists. Not a reflection of locals whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 02:19 AM
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He’s average but before he looked much worse
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:24 AM
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Crazy how much money plays a part. Braces, gym memberships, healthy food, plastic surgery, skin care, grooming all make a huge difference
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:59 AM
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How often do guys really need to protect their significant other?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:50 AM
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What field may I ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:14 AM
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In that case I just blame the people that participate in and normalize it. It’s a subset of both women and men and I don’t think either gender is more to blame. Should we blame all men for sexual assault? Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:07 AM
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Nope. As I said before, most of the patriarchy holdouts are social rather than systemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:04 AM
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I think your assumption is wrong here. For one these numbers aren’t reportedly publicly because they are so skewed. And secondly, you don’t even know if it’s DAU or MAU or something else. From what I’ve seen they all have a definition for an “active user” which usually involves a user engaging in a core event over a specific timeframe. So swiping or sending a message. But again these are all internal because the gender skewed wouldn’t make the app look very good to men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:02 AM
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Nope! I’m just a couple years into my career and I love it so far And yeah that’s frustrating. But I don’t think the answer is then to just stop training women who want to go to those grad programs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:59 PM
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Sure but MAU is. Or just any metric for an “active user”. Most apps in that space of an incredibly high churn rate so just going off of sign ups isn’t helpful. The male user isn’t going to match with anyone unless they are also active as well. Absolutely zero chance with someone who downloaded the app 1 month ago and hasn’t swiped since.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:54 PM
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Raya is fun but it matches you with people all over the world regardless of locations which is annoying af. That being said the experience is 100x better than other apps for me as a woman and also for many of my male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:39 PM
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Depends on the app
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:37 PM
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This is a good thing because it filters out many women who download the app, swipe a bit, and then immediately delete it. They should be looking at DAU/MAU rather than just sign ups
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:37 PM
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How do you define hookup culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:35 PM
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Depends on what you mean by that. Would you say that women hold the majority of power in the school system and actively exclude men from it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:34 PM
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I’ve worked with some startups in this space. True numbers are even worse. One dating app startup has a 40% female ratio and a bunch of VCs for super excited about it after it was proven. Tinder gets to be like 90% men depending on the area. Many of the female accounts are bots and they don’t do a great job of policing those
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:18 PM
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Who says they don’t share the same values, hobbies, and interests? Women and men a much more similar than different. You make it should like we are different species
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:58 PM
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Most women don’t like most women. No human wants to be best friends with literally everyone. We get along and befriend specific people that we actively enjoy being around
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:57 PM
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Some people are just ugly. But your looks are not static throughout your life. Many of the choices you make will impact how attractive you are. Granted, those choices often take a lot of effort and resources. But options do exist for many people who are ugly barring severe deformities
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:54 PM
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Patriarchy is any social, government, or political structure where men hold the majority of the power and women are excluded from it. One example is from college. I went to a school with a very good advertising program and once a year they do a showcase of the best students at a conference. The conference is a big deal because all of the top firms are there so you want to go to show your work. I was in the top 5 of my class and they choose 8 students. My professor didn’t pick me initially. When …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:49 PM
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Yep. I’m honest, kind, hardworking, and attractive Only thing is salary which fluctuates a bit. I make ~180k at 24 and id like my bf to make around there give or take if he’s my age. But if he’s a couple years older I expect him to make more in such a way that would likely follow my own trajectory My current bf makes $0 though but is working on his own company so I’m fine with it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:32 AM
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Made an account just to reply to this. Women don’t prefer older men like you claim. Yes some men are hot for their age. But women who say Jason Momoa is attractive also find 25 year old celebrities attractive. They aren’t obsessively focused on middle aged men specifically between the ages of 40-45 More importantly, large age gap relationships have been looked down on for hundreds of years. It is creepy. It’s out of the norm. And society will continue to look down on it. Look at the paining The …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:06 AM
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