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Meanwhile, in the minds of r/mensrights : accountability — how to avoid it (incl. chores)
/r/MensRights09/05/23 06:25 PM
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Mutual attachment Emotional intimacy Affection
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 05:11 PM
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Maybe you have an avoidant attachment style? It's ok to feel attracted to, and talk with women. It's also ok if you are happy being single.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/23 01:36 PM
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If you base your own and others entire worth around your reproductive function, you are dehumanizing yourself and others to quite extreme degrees. It's understandable that you want to feel desired, but there's actually no true fulfillment in this. Please, seek support
/r/ExRedPill23/01/23 02:52 PM
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Yes, there are some women who use their sexuality to survive, and to extract money from men. I'm sorry to hear that you're not experiencing being loved. It's understandable that you feel discouraged and frustrated after many bad experiences with women. It's easy to think it's because you are not inherently worthy but this is false. You are worthy of being loved for everything you are including your emotions, needs and fears. You know at the core of you, the pure part of you that has always been …
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 07:12 PM
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It breaks my heart to read this. Every single man have so much value as human beings, and you are worthy of being desired and loved. What I've seen makes it extra difficult for men is that it's easy to get tunnel vision on sex. Unfortunately, this makes it difficult to recognize women as fellow humans, which in return turns most women off (unless you can compensate with a lot of money/resources that makes the dehumanizing more equal). This was just at the top of my head. But I'd love to hear you…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 05:24 PM
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Sorry for being vague. I was using a metaphore. Men are struggling to get success with women today, and they really need support, good role models towards personal empowerment. The internet is filled with bad dating advice, almost as a get-rich-quick scheme that promises people that they can get rich by robbing banks (this is a metaphore). But this is not good advice, puts men in worse positions, and only benefits the "gurus" that sells these courses
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 05:06 PM
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We also need money, but robbing banks is only going to be successful for a very few people
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 04:53 PM
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So proud of you man ❤️
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 04:25 PM
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I'm quite surprised by this. Would you mind sharing a little bit on how focusing less on getting laid and more on integrity, emotional intelligence and genuine connection gets you nowhere as a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:23 PM
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Because it doesn't work longterm (for most guys not even short term). There's a reason why so many manosphere "gurus" (ie. Neil Strauss, Julian, just to name a few) stop promoting this mentality after a while, and start focusing more on valuing integrity, emotional intelligence, genuine connection and spirituality. There's more to life then getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:43 PM
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It's really a shame to see so many men fall into this, only to end up feeling even more inadequate and resentful. They get trapped thinking if only they get more money or if they were taller, if they buy more courses and PUA books, that would make them more attractive to women, and that getting laid is the ultimate goal that will make them feel fulfilled in life. So they are constantly chasing something that they'll never achieve because they're trying to attract women by being manipulative in t…
/r/ExRedPill18/01/23 02:30 PM
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It makes me sad that we live in a society where people who prefer having a human connection is labeling themselves as weirdos
/r/MensRights16/01/23 07:25 PM
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There's many women who are looking for someone exactly like you, with your humanity, curiosity, courage, passion, authenticity. Money and looks is nice, and this can always be improved, but these qualities you have are incredibly desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:15 AM
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I kinda don't want to break your bubble, but even I as a woman had the women in SEA throw themselves at me, and I can assure you that it was not because they actually wanted to sleep with me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:21 PM
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Well, when they feel rejected it's much easier to go into denial (by assuming they are rejected for their hight or something out of their control) because this takes away any personal accountability. It's easier to go to the gym and work on improving their looks/money rather than their trauma. Unfortunately this does not work long-term, but they just dig themselves further down the rabbit hole, feeling like they will never look good enough, or have enough money because women keep rejecting them.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:59 PM
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Community and emotional validation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:29 PM
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Patiently waiting on someone with EQ, and no porn addiction. Bonus if he has a job, and 2 rows of teeth, but this is not mandatory at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:20 PM
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Personally, the widespread misogyny made me hyper self-reliant, avoidant and grey-asexual. The thought of becoming a cat lady seems quite lovely compared to other alternatives. But I know there's a lot of genuinely good men out there, and I'm rooting for yall
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:17 PM
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If you replace all those things things with "have at least some level of emotional intelligence", then you're onto something
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:41 AM
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Unfortunately sometimes we don't see any other option than to sacrifice our inner wisdom and ethics. Just like a thief does to feed his children, trp does out of despair from years of loneliness. It doesn't make it right, but it's understandable. Let me know if I can help
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:51 PM
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Thanks for explaining that. Now I get how there was confusion. Don't you think we all know deep down what's right and wrong in these scenarios? Sometimes we get sidetracked though, especially when getting too deep into trp and other paradigms that is focused solely on short term gratification and a false sense of control. Curious about your thoughts here
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:29 PM
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Accountability: being responsible for one's actions. Emotional intelligence: understanding and managing emotions. Humility: being modest and unassuming. Proactiveness: taking initiative and acting independently. Integrity: being honest and having strong moral principles The fact that you are asking these questions shows curiosity, willingness to learn, humility and proactiveness, which are examples of respectable traits.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:39 PM
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Sure. Which ones are you wondering about specifically?
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:28 PM
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Some respectable traits can be : accountability, emotional intelligence, humility, proactiveness, integrity, etc
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:14 PM
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This would be my ideal relationship. I'd love to still cuddle though 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 05:23 PM
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This gives me hope that there's definitely someone out there for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:24 PM
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I'm so grateful for being a financial independent woman so that I can find a partner I can respect instead of whatever that is 🙌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:12 PM
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Dating apps allow for an abundant source for hookups (especially for women). Unfortunately, as a demi-/asexual woman, this is absolutely worthless to me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:48 AM
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I feel there's no right or wrong answer to this because it comes down to each person's needs at their point in life. Some people feel completely fulfilled in their connections with family, co-workers, and friends, and they might not need a partner on top of that. While others might prefer to have a partner to connect with on a deeper level It's healthy to be able to be by ourselves every now and then, but we also need connection and supportive people around us (partner and/or friends)
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 08:54 PM
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I'm the same, as in having an extremely low tolerance for anything that I perceive as bs. What helps me is to try to first mentally analyze those situations more objectively to see if I could give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Then to get clarity on the situation, I try to ask them directly, ie: tbh I feel a bit insecure because sometimes it takes a long time to hear back from you. Is this not a good time to talk? /I just get really happy when I talk with you and then disappointed b…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/22 01:44 PM
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I don't have any advice or arguments, but reading this was very insightful and helps me to emphasize with men who I deemed as sex centric instead of judging them so harshly
/r/ExRedPill16/04/22 08:41 AM
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Personally, I don't even mind someone with controlling tendencies as long as it is coming from a respectful and protective place About your dad, there's nothing wrong with feeling insecure and needing reassurance. That's an opportunity to build trust. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to talk about these feelings with respect and kindness because it's so vulnerable..
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 08:58 PM
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I have a weakness for men who are protective and respectful towards me 🥺
/r/ExRedPill13/04/22 08:31 PM
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This would make sense if most guys approaching would also respect boundaries and actually leave when requested. When this is not the case, it's very healthy and normal to feel guarded and uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:12 PM
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Likely because that word is so often used by men with misogynistic arguments reducing women into mere objects to get sex from, often based on some Darwinian fallacy
/r/MensRights10/04/22 02:31 PM
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I'm also an asexual woman. It's funny how there are so many of us at this forum 😁
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 05:49 AM
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You're dangerously close to a rude awakening, and I don't think there's anything I can say to help you
/r/MensRights07/04/22 08:20 AM
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So what you are afraid of is that if you accidentally look at someone, she will be one of those crazy in her feels who will immediately go report you to the police, and the police will side with her because she's a woman, and your life will be ruined? And you were just an innocent helpless victim in a small situation blown out of proportions? So this is a somewhat realistic situation, some women can be extra sensitive, but have you ever tried to respond to these "crazy" women with empathy and ki…
/r/MensRights07/04/22 08:12 AM
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So I haven't studied the law, if someone can be put in jail just for glancing at someone, I agree that's a bit problematic. But how about when someone is clearly uncomfortable and ask to please stop staring? I'm wondering what makes you think this is just a small idiotic thing, when it is actually a huge issue among women who is going through this fear and uncertainty on a daily basis? To give criminals help instead of punishment is for sure an interesting topic. Sometimes it is obvious that the…
/r/MensRights07/04/22 07:51 AM
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Maybe this doesn't apply to you guys because you respect people's need for privacy and safety, still there is a huge level of ignorance in these comments. Imagine if you were a straight man and you lived in an area filled with gay men. Every time you sat down somewhere, some coomer guy is making intense eye contact with you. This is usually just the first step before he's going to be mad at you for not giving him attention, demand your personal information, follow you, quietly pull out his d* et…
/r/MensRights06/04/22 09:11 PM
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Thanks for the reward! 🥰
/r/ExRedPill04/04/22 09:08 PM
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I can understand if you feel embarrassed for not "developing more as a man". But you probably really needed that gaming period to feel comfortable and stable for a while? And now it seems like you feel inspired and are ready to go out there, make friends and new interests. Yes, it feels a bit intimidating at first, just like the first boss in a video game, but you'll see that you quickly get a hang of it with practice.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 09:19 PM
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You are entitled to your opinion. But to everyone who feels alone and is not in the privileged position where they can afford therapy, while not having support from friends and family who understand the exrp struggles; please continue to reach out. Some people will always be hating, but there's also people here who cares and want to support.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 08:49 PM
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From what you write, I get the impression that what holds you back is that you feel ashamed of the beliefs you used to have? You're not alone in feeling like this. I also feel a bit embarrassed about different beliefs I had when I was 16, and even from i was 25. 😅 But not everyone are able to grow out of their beliefs and get new perspectives on things, so it seems you have many reasons to be proud of yourself also! Maybe it's difficult for you to catch social cues etc, but everyone has some thi…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/22 06:48 PM
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I'm based in European countries. I reckon that women in Asian and Muslim countries might have a different experience than women in Europe
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 07:09 PM
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This was probably true 20 years ago because everyone got marriage and kids in their early 20s. Now times have changed. Most of my friends are single, so in the rare occasion someone gets married, I'm just genuinely happy for them
/r/ExRedPill29/03/22 06:25 PM
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This logic is also why people get robbed on the street. People should look at themselves why they get robbed because they are the issue here. If people would just respect themselves and stay home, robbers would not be able to rob them. If people would stop being into the human rights movement and stop walking outside, then robbers would be more likely to back off and be respectful too
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 12:22 PM
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As an angry person, I'm starting to realize this too 🥺 It's not easy navigating this human experience sometimes..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 09:25 PM
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Time is indeed a flat circle
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:10 AM
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And this turns more men towards misogyny, which turns more women into misandry. 🔄 🔄🔄 Whether it started from one or the other, one thing is for sure and that is hatred breeds hatred
/r/MensRights27/03/22 11:00 AM
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Many people have Alexithymia (inability to identify and describe their emotions). Nvc is based on that every emotion is caused by an unmet need, and it has a framework to get familiar with all the emotions and needs (search: nvc feelings and needs). A way to express emotions can be : When I see (insert objective situation), I feel (emotion) because I need (insert nvc need). Would you be willing to (request what would help you to meet your needs). It's not fail-proof, but it sure makes life so mu…
/r/MensRights27/03/22 10:18 AM
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Most people don't know how to express their emotions. Learning nvc (nonviolent communication) changed my life
/r/MensRights27/03/22 09:58 AM
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Not important at all, I'd be OK with once in a month. However, I wanna cuddle every 5 minutes
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 11:06 PM
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As a needy gf, these comments gives me hope 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:09 PM
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As someone who got banned from r/feminism for commenting 'Lol', I learned that dismissing or trashing people back for having a different point of view is not really helpful for anyone.
/r/MensRights24/03/22 07:57 PM
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AWALT = heavy generalization bias
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 07:20 PM
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How do you feel about that?
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 11:19 AM
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This post actually comes across as coming from a confident person who is taking steps in the right direction! Confidence is a misunderstood term. It's possible to be both insecure and confident at the same time, and it's all rooted in emotional intelligence, allowing ourselves to be with all our emotions (including insecurity, sadness, embarrassment). A lot of people try to fake confidence by ignoring their emotions, only to feel even less confident.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/22 10:54 AM
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The "wall" is just moving into a new phase in life that is not solely based on stimulating a reproductive function. Just like moving on from kindergarten, it can be confusing at first, but then you realize there's a whole world out there with meaningful and interesting experiences. Some people move on early in life, while others get stuck trying to go back to kindergarten.
/r/ExRedPill22/03/22 03:13 PM
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Just because you happen to see a red herring does not mean that the conclusion of my argument is false. However, what you are saying is an excellent presentation of crab mentality. I don't get the impression that you see the deeper issue here and it may take some time before you are ready to fight for actual equality and human rights.
/r/MensRights16/03/22 06:26 PM
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I feel kinda baffled seeing how many guys who seem more focused on equal death /suffering rather than on equal human rights. Isn't it a tragedy that anyone (regardless of gender) can be forced to participate in a war and possibly die? The lack of ownership of one's life and freedom seems to be a big elephant here.
/r/MensRights16/03/22 02:22 PM
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Basic bitch here, AMA
/r/ExRedPill12/03/22 10:02 AM
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This is very helpful and much appreciated! I wish you many moist stools ahead
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 04:42 PM
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That's very generous but he's not my type 😅 How long have you been on Zoloft? Did it reduce the cravings or just normalize them?
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 04:27 PM
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It sounds like you would be a great candidate for his next interview
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 04:10 PM
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You seem angry. Wanna talk about it?
/r/MensRights10/03/22 09:35 PM
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To be in touch with eachothers feelings is pretty crucial in any relationship. But it's not possible to connect with other's feelings if we are not in touch with our own. Therapy is great for connecting with our own feelings
/r/MensRights10/03/22 09:33 PM
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It usually ends naturally with maturity. Trp can be great for a period, but most people who go all in, end up craving more emotional integrity, deeper connections, and a sense of purpose other than sex
/r/ExRedPill10/03/22 03:26 PM
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Tbh, it's kinda disheartening as a woman to stand up for male victims of rape, only to see multiple men laugh it off, "he probably enjoyed it". But it certainly reveals how crucial it is that we all continue to make a stand, to normalize men's emotions and need for respect (especially, when it comes to sexual consent)
/r/MensRights09/03/22 06:58 PM
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Support groups for men are more needed now than ever before
/r/MensRights09/03/22 09:21 AM
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Lol. This is like saying Islam is the same as isis terrorists
/r/MensRights04/03/22 04:14 PM
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What you describe as feminism, is not feminism. That's a supremacist hate cult. Black and white thinking is a coping mechanism for cognitive dissonance. But the reality is that it's very possible to be a feminist and MRA at the same time
/r/MensRights04/03/22 02:13 PM
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I used to do the same, afraid to be authentic about more vulnerable emotions. But I realized that this attract people with an avoidant attachment style. I have a lot of love to give, and if that scares someone away I'd rather have that happen sooner rather than later
/r/ExRedPill03/03/22 05:56 PM
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I just realized that I'm still doing this and that it's not a healthy mindset..
/r/ExRedPill02/03/22 09:36 AM
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10-20 years ago this might be true because everyone got married in their 20s and more focused on family. With dating apps, there's endless options to settle down, and people have the choice to wait getting married until they find a high quality person. As a "leftover" woman in my 30s, I find it so much easier to date now because I'm more mature and clear about what qualities I have to offer and what I need in a partner, and it's easier to filter out who is serious and who is not.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/22 08:28 AM
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I can understand it's frustrating to not be able to rely on looks to get women, while seeing everyone around seem to have it easier. Even though there's no quick fix, eventually things will get better. Life can be very enjoyable and peaceful without relationships, but op will also have opportunities to create real connections instead of just women who only want him for his looks
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 06:50 PM
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As a woman, it does not matter how "non subjectively ugly" a person is, as long as he has takes his time to heal his insecurities through therapy, has clear personal values, and consistently work towards his goals in life
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 02:48 PM
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Unfortunately it's too normalized in our society that all men think about is sex, and if he happens to not be in the mood, some women take it as a personal attack and all their insecurities comes surface. It's ok to feel insecure, but abuse and disrespect is never ok.
/r/MensRights27/02/22 10:45 AM
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I feel you man
/r/ExRedPill25/02/22 07:55 PM
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this ⬆️⬆️⬆️
/r/ExRedPill16/02/22 10:07 PM
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I'm not sure if finding someone to blame is the right frame to stay in though. The truth seem more like a vicious cycle of hurt men and women trying to protect themselves, often ending up causing more harm to the opposite gender in the process 🔄
/r/MensRights16/02/22 01:53 PM
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I'm not sure if I agree with this statement. But it's ok. I feel like the most important thing I want to add is that there's no reason to feel ashamed or blame ourselves for binging. There are support groups for porn addiction. It takes time to heal and it's not easy. But it is possible to be free from addiction and to live a fulfilling life
/r/MensRights15/02/22 11:01 PM
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It seems like you misunderstood the point of the conversation. Excessive use of porn is causing problems in many marriages. Blaming porn creators for ruining marriages is like a fat person blaming Mc Donald's for making him fat. Whether it's porn, big macs, sugar, alcohol... we all have our little spice of choice and there's no shame in this. As with anything in life, if something turns into an addiction that harms our well-being and/or relationships, it's up to each one of us to take accountabi…
/r/MensRights15/02/22 10:31 PM
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I could not find the statistics you talk about, only stats that show that the majority of frequent users are men. However, I agree that it's not fair to blame and shame anyone for having an addiction.
/r/MensRights15/02/22 09:03 PM
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According to statistics, women also watch porn, but at a much lower frequency. This was a comment on how it can be difficult for women to respect a man who is consumed by porn. Feel free to add your own perspective if women's use of porn is impacting the divorce rates.
/r/MensRights15/02/22 08:38 PM
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I hear you. Unfortunately, it seems both genders are getting turned off by eachother these days. Maybe we all need to separate, get a bit lost in our fantasy/porn for a while until we are ready to seek common ground together again
/r/MensRights15/02/22 01:09 PM
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You can say it's none of their business. But when someone is consumed by porn, it reflects in their lives and can affect their ability to truly connect and engage with their partners. As a sugar addiction can cause us not being able to appreciate the flavor of fruit, porn addiction can lessen our ability to appreciate our partners. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, but most want to be married to someone where there's a mutual appreciation and commitment to eachother
/r/MensRights15/02/22 12:42 PM
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It's a valid reason though. It's nothing wrong with porn in moderation. But unfortunately, it's consuming most men today to a degree that are very difficult to respect
/r/MensRights15/02/22 10:50 AM
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From the way you write, I doubt you are a narcissist. But still, a therapist could maybe help you feel confident and secure with your worth regardless of appearance. To truly recognize your inherent value, emotional depth and power regardless of social status. This will also reflect in the way you see and connect with others.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/22 09:36 PM
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I'm really grateful for you sharing this
/r/ExRedPill14/02/22 09:11 PM
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As a feminist woman, I acknowledge some things has gotten out of hand and are not fair towards men. Please continue to speak up for equality!
/r/MensRights04/12/21 12:45 PM
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