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Neither. Speaking in Absolutes like that is naive. SOME aspects of SOME peoples personalities might be changed depending on their life experience, so some very attractive people MAY end up being more entitled for example. But that’s only one little part of what makes a person a person. A whole lot of your personality grows before you even go through puberty, before you really have a good concept of whether you are very attractive or average or whatever. So it makes little sense to base peoples e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 04:41 PM
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Yes I’ve been lying for 14 years it’s a hoot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:46 PM
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Lol that happened with us this year. I got too busy so he quit his job to play house husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:31 PM
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It’s up to individual couples what they feel most comfortable with and what is most convenient. My partner and I have a main shared account all our money goes into. Then we take portions of money out of that to put into our savings accounts, credit card or whatever else we need. Day to day spending though we just both use the same account.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:23 PM
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He’s not at the age yet for us to talk about dating specifically BUT plenty of dating advice is present in general life skills that you should be teaching your kids from a young age. We have spoken to him and taught him about consent and about rejections / losing gracefully from a young age. Those skills are transferable to many different areas of life including dating. We want to make sure he has good self esteem and is resilient enough to hold himself high, even after a rejection, loss or fail…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:14 PM
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Is this opinions based on your experience? Because I can tell you from my experience dads want their daughters with someone the daughters age. I have NEVER heard of a father being happier she’s dating someone much older.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:53 PM
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No OP’s point is that the reason is that women are bitter and past their prime which is unfair. Most women have experienced this power dynamic at more than one stage in their lives either with themselves or a friend and I think it’s unfair to them to pass off their lived experiences as bitter. Unfortunately this is literally how men that chase 15 year old girls get away with it, because at the time you think ‘I’m so grown up an older guy wants me’ then you get to the age of the guy (say he was 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:50 PM
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Yeah this. It takes coming to maturity to realise the dynamics that were at play in those situations were NOT normal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:46 PM
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I am similar too. Look feminine, but I’m more assertive and go get the men I want. Also yes to gaming!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:29 PM
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I’ve been chatted up right in front of my husband on numerous occasions. It’s just amusing tbh we have a laugh about it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 01:58 PM
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Thank you! I’m overweight and at the gym 4X a week running 5ks and lifting weights. I don’t struggle with stairs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 01:45 PM
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Oh and artists/writers
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 11:20 PM
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Musicians. Always musicians, hah.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 11:19 PM
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That logic is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:39 PM
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Well yes it goes without saying, he needs to not want any more children. I thought that might be stating the obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:22 PM
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Exactly, all the lovely creampies you could ever want. We’ve had our boy, we don’t want any more kiddos. We’ve discussed our options and we haven’t come to a decision yet, but it would be nice not to have to think about birth control any more. We like sex. We have a lot of sex, and we just want to be free of the worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:15 PM
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Point is. There’s nothing wrong with talking more about vasectomies as an option for couples who have finished having or don’t want to have children. 15/20 years ago vasectomies were demonised in popular culture, the butts of jokes on TV shows. We need to be talking more about it as an option for people if they want it, we really don’t want it to be a scary boogie man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:11 PM
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Who said anything about a no? I didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:08 PM
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Asking your husband if he’d be happy to get a vasectomy rather than you having a more invasive procedure, in order that you don’t have any more children and can now fuck bareback to the end of time is not coercive. The fact is it’s easier and cheaper for men to have a vasectomy over women having tubal ligation. No-one is forcing vasectomies on men, but it’s important to talk more about them so that they’re normalised, rather than seen as a terrifying ‘gelding’ as someone above so sympathetically…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 04:36 PM
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For lots of people being attracted to someone isn’t based on whether the person is objectively ugly or not. I am attracted to basically no-one… literally like 1 in a zillion men. Turned people down constantly when I was single. But, of a general day I can see and appreciate that many people are attractive/not ugly. I just have zero desire for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 04:02 PM
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Hahaha how did you manage to come to that conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:07 AM
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That probably means you are punching out of your league physically and not noticing girls more within your league? Maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:00 PM
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Obviously can only speak from my experience, 14 years with mine and sex has never gotten boring or dead bedroomy. Obviously that’s not going to be the case with everyone, and I’m aware I’m lucky. If I felt like that he was zoning out or not in the moment, I would stop sex immediately and ask what’s wrong. Then I would have a check in about what he feels like is missing from sex and we could both get some new toys or something to get things revved up again. A lack of enthusiastic sex and intimacy…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:43 PM
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Here’s the thing. Lies have a habit of resurfacing. You might think you are saving them from the heartbreak but Sod’s law dictates that when you least expect it someone will blab something and the person you’ve kept it from will be doubly heartbroken finding out some other way. And lo and behold, the betrayal will be far worse because you lied to cover it up. People deserve the choice of who they tie their lives to. My opinion is cheating and lying about it is stealing time and life away from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:16 AM
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How much time have you spent around trust fund kids? They are generally arseholes, I avoided them like plague as a young adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:27 PM
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I saw a post not long ago on the AskMen sub which was filled with ‘one that got away’ regrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:05 PM
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Toulouse is beautiful, what a lovely place to live
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:24 AM
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Visceral fat is absolutely a result of eating the wrong types of food. Not all fat is created equal. Genetics play a part for sure. Western fast food diets are known for creating visceral fat that sits over your organs and arteries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:42 AM
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I live in Europe and have travelled around Italy, France, Switzerland, Greece, Greek islands, Spain, extensively. I admit I haven’t been to Germany. Italian women I will admit tend towards skinnier in cities like Rome and Florence but rurally follow a similar Southern Europe look of being thicker. France similarly, city people tend towards skinnier and certainly the more north you go people are slimmer. The more south you travel to where it’s hot and very rural, people are slightly thicker
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:18 AM
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Yes. Sorry if I was unclear I didn’t say there were lots of obese people in Southern Europe. I said it’s culturally more acceptable to be thicker in the legs and bottom because their diet has fats that tend to stick to the bottom. That doesn’t mean they are all obese, it means they are less likely to be culturally used to very skinny athletic women. There’s a huge difference between obesity and just having more healthy fat on your body. People around the equator have diets with more rich healthy…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:07 AM
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So many of who? You just said you saw hardly any fat people in Southern Europe. The rates of morbid obesity in Southern Europe as opposed to the US is incomparable. Their diet is entirely different and consists of more healthy fats. The kind of fat you find in Western fast food (saturated fat) sticks onto you organs in your mid section giving you an overblown stomach. That’s visceral fat and is incredibly bad for your health, your heart and all of your organs. Healthy fats found in avocado, oliv…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:50 AM
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Because ‘meditteranean diet’ is high in healthy fats like olive oil, fish etc and the women tend towards thicker ‘heavier bottom’ pear shapes so it is generally more culturally accepted for women to carry more healthy fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:37 AM
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For how they look - I want my man to look masculine. For how they act? I have specific qualities I like such as sense of humour, emotional depth and emotional maturity, kindness, passion, decisiveness. I don’t ascribe personality qualities to masculine/feminine because I think it’s strange so I can’t answer that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:23 AM
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Yes. I am curious about the way people think. That’s why I’m here. I believe he is insecure for a few reasons but the main reason being In my experience of life, people who are good at things don’t go around shouting how much better they are than everyone else. They just get on with being good at whatever it is. People who feel the need to prove themselves are the ones shouting about how amazing they are. Why do they feel like they need to prove themselves? Because they are insecure. Unfortunate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:59 PM
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Thinks reading is for losers is not stating a preference. Saying ‘ I don’t enjoy reading’ is stating a preference. My son doesn’t enjoy reading, that’s fine. If he turned round and told me reading is for losers I would talk to him seriously about adjusting his terrible attitude, because that is making a statement about other people’s preferences being shit. That’s just rude and arrogant. That’s HIM not allowing other people to have preferences. And yes, I’ve seen plenty of his material, I watche…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:44 PM
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It’s not just because of that. It’s because he thinks he can do anything and is better at everything even than professionals, thinks reading is for losers and has a million other shit takes on basically everything. Guy is just walking, talking insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:20 PM
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I absolutely judge men on their behaviour towards anyone else. Particularly elderly, young children, other men and his family. If you are only nice to women, that feels disingenuous and transactional, and I will notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 03:15 PM
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People find placing blame easier because it takes the responsibility away from them so they don’t have to take a proactive role in change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 10:20 AM
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Yeah I definitely think insecurity and ego go hand in hand. That’s literally all I can think of when I see the likes of that Tate guy bragging. He’s just got some serious insecurity from somewhere. I would suggest finding some self help to look deeper into your insecurities and help you manage that ego. Feels cliche to suggest therapy but maybe some mindfulness to start with wouldn’t go amiss. Worrying about what your friends think feels quite juvenile for an (I assume) grown adult. Try to get y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 02:09 PM
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This smells of humblebrag. Which stinks of insecurity. And in turn reeks of none of this being true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:57 PM
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Finding a relationship is hard for people who spend their time micro thinking all this sort of shit. You are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:58 AM
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Has to look like he’s active, and could work manually and lift some sacks of grain over his shoulders. Good arms and broad hands. Like a farmer boy from before machines were invented.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:14 PM
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Broad for me. That’s about it really as long as they are broad I’m happy. Natural muscles not gym bro muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:09 PM
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I’m not sure where you are from but nurse hours are brutal and flexible is not how I would describe them at all. They vary depending on shift yes but that actually makes childcare harder not easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:35 PM
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Talent. Talent is attractive because it shows that they have invested their time into being good at something. People liking them is good because I feel less like I have to make excuses for their personalities and can stand back and be proud of them socially without too much input, I like to be an observer socially and talk in depth to a few people rather than being centre of the room, so I like people who are confident and can take the lead more in social settings, and have depth to carry meani…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:15 AM
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So hey. When I first met my husband, I was completely neutral I barely even registered what he looked like. We were at a party, there was a lot going on. I don’t experience sexual attraction right off the bat. We were on the same online forums at the time though and got to know eachother after that online more. Second party comes around about 4 months later and BOOM I was absolutely obsessed with him. When we got together we were at it like RABBITS, countless times a day. 14 years later we still…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:32 PM
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Yup and ladies loves cervical cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:31 AM
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I am a straight female. Demisexual so I tend to look at people very objectively with no sexual undertones anyway. Whilst men are more attractive to me sexually (once I know them) I can objectively look at people and see that women tend to be with men less attractive than themselves. Not always, but that’s certainly the trend from the couples I have seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:31 AM
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In my experience. Men. I’ve known far too many men ‘allergic’ to condoms. (Spoiler. They aren’t)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:02 AM
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But yeah point is I can look back on that and see that I used my looks to get stuff from some poor unsuspecting guy once in my teens and realised I definitely don’t like doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:44 AM
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I mean retrospectively yeah. Before I know what TRP was, I dated a guy for like 2 days who I wasn’t attracted to (I’m demisexual and we met in a club so there’s no way I’d have been attracted to anyone meeting them like that, - he was tall and was not physically unattractive) any way the day after we met we went out and he bought me a whole bunch of stuff, and I let him knowing that there was literally no chance of us being a thing. I know I was doing that for a short term ego boost and maybe re…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:42 AM
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In all my years painting couples and families, (possibly over 1000 of them from all over the world) I have rarely seen a couple where the man is more conventionally attractive than the woman. I know that’s anecdotal, but it’s a sizeable sample size I am pulling from here. And that’s from me, literally looking at those people objectively with no consideration of personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:14 AM
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Ok dude whatever makes you happy. If that’s how you want to live your life then go for it, we are clearly very different people, and that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 02:36 PM
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Not generally no, unless they are the kind of person who is narcissistic enough to want to have attention about their perfect marriage. Most people are just getting on with life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:29 AM
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Angry people shout the loudest. So you aren’t seeing the huge amounts of happy people getting on with their lives and having happy fulfilling relationships. They are busy enjoying it, rather than posting about it online or telling everyone about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:25 AM
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In fact I would give a hot take at this point and say that is one of the main reasons why many of the sexless men here find themselves in that situation. If you don’t enjoy being kind, and see being kind as simply transactional ‘to get you what you want’. People will see through that and it’s the reason they are undateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:14 AM
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It’s genuinely a bit worrying. If my son turned round and said something like that I would be disturbed honestly, and looking to have some conversations with him about it. Kindness is so many different things in life, and I can’t fathom how you’d get through life without it. What happens when you have to look after an elderly relative, a child? Someone has fallen and you are the person there that has to get help? I’d argue that kindness is incredibly important to being a halfway decent human bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:10 AM
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You don’t enjoy being kind? That is literally unfathomable to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:47 AM
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You sound demisexual , I am too and can’t stomach having sex with anyone I don’t have emotional chemistry with that is built up over time. Husband is similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 11:40 PM
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I feel like one of the most important parts of communication has been overlooked here. Listening. It’s really about listening and dropping your ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 06:23 PM
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OP wrote one of the most sexist things I’ve seen in this sub, if they are getting pushback, it’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 08:36 AM
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Yes. I’m into fitness and I’m an artist haha. But I still don’t want a gym bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:56 PM
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First love at 15. Got heart broken. Kissed a bunch of frogs through rest of my teens. Love of life met at 20, still together now. I’m 34.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:13 AM
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‘Universally?’ So, all women then? All women believe being nerdy is negative, even nerdy women. Ugh I can’t today. I’m off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:38 PM
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Being nerdy isn’t a negative trait in men either. Only arseholes are arseholes about stuff like that. Stop caring about what arseholes think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:36 PM
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Why have you implied being nerdy or short is a negative trait in women? Seems odd to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 06:33 PM
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Thank you for mentioning about the artistic girl thing. I’m an illustrator and I have a lot of interests. My worst nightmare is a fit meathead. I want to be around people who share some of my interests and passions and I can talk to about books I’ve read or cool interesting movies. My partner of 14 years and I would never have lasted if we didn’t share so many interests. Our evenings are full of enjoyments for things we both like and we have real conversations. That is such a lasting turn on for…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:46 AM
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And the only reason we can do it now is that we’ve made the decision to move half way across the country to where homes are more affordable. Where we live down south in the UK the prices have sky rocketed to the point where even rent is unmanageable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:24 AM
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I just think poor mental health in general among women and men is a byproduct of a continually stretched and struggling global economy, particularly when it comes to the distribution of wealth. We get a lot less bang for our buck compared to 60 years ago when people could generally afford a home in their 20s on a single income with a relatively stable job for life. Young people en mass are now struggling to afford their first homes on dual income (obviously this will vary depending on where you’…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:23 AM
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I think some women do make the first move. Is OP saying women don’t ever? Never ever? I knew my husband as a friend for a while first, but I could feel that he liked me, and I made the first move. Would I have done that if I’d just seen him in a club/bar? No. They have to be worth the approach and you can’t tell someone’s worth it if you’ve literally just met and don’t know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:01 PM
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Here is a specific example from my relationship. I am a published book illustrator, my career is going well, my husband can’t draw and is insanely proud and admires my hard work and talent it took to get me there. My husband is amazingly funny, he could have a whole room of people gathered around him listening and laughing along, he writes funny things and has a big following online, I could never do that, I simply don’t have that ability. I look up to and admire him in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:06 AM
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I do agree. But I wonder about admiring and looking up to. I absolutely admire my husband and do look up to him in the ways that he is good. I am proud of him. I just don’t necessarily view being proud and admiring someone as indicative of an imbalance of power or value. Like I said, he also looks up to me and admires me in the ways that I am good. Everyone has their strengths so there are ways to admire and look up to the other person on every relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:03 AM
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This is TRP favourite fallback. Anyone not agreeing with your point of view is an outlier. Problem is outliers represent nearly half the population if you’re taking averages.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:39 AM
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This all balances out though. Superiority and leadership can be broken down into so many micro parts that it’s hard to say who ‘leads’ a relationship because People are each good in different areas. For example, I would say the leadership in my relationship is well balanced and neither one of us ‘wears the trousers’ in terms of being the one in charge. I am better at decision making, my husband is better at organising. I am better at making money, my husband is better at interacting and playing …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:37 AM
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Yessss, and anyone saying anything different to these broad rules gets you labelled an outlier, despite the fact that even an ‘average’ behaviour is only likely to be showing in half the population give or take. Calling everyone that doesn’t fall into their world vision of male/female behaviour outliers just makes half the population feel ‘othered’. Really, most people are ‘outliers’ from the average and these broad observations aren’t massively helpful on a personal level, when you are getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:24 AM
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Saaaame with me on the skin. 35 here, my skin was a nightmare from about 11-30 lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:48 AM
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These guys’ logic is deeply, deeply flawed. You will get nowhere with your facts ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:03 PM
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You make her sound like that sad singing cat from Cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 09:00 PM
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Sorry should have said tubal ligation but didn’t think it was a familiar term to most
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:59 PM
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The irony of gentlemen in this sub calling others bitter…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:58 PM
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Yeah. I wish my fertility would leave me now, trying to convince husband to have a vasectomy so I don’t have to have a hysterectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:54 PM
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Ahh so you’re not talking about fertility but pregnancy. Fertility and pregnancy risks are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:47 PM
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Though it doesn’t truly wane until post 40 really. Depends on genetics more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:45 PM
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I’m assuming this only applies to single women since taken women who’ve already had their children are probably rejoicing about their waning fertility - less opportunity for little accidents .
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:44 PM
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Ohhhh mm’kay thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:31 PM
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What does post wall mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:27 PM
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Your experience of women is that they aren’t into history or art? Maybe try joining an art class and you’ll find PLENTY of women who want to talk about art. History and art are my faves ☺️and I’m sure many if not most women have favourite topics they are super interested in. If you aren’t finding women with compatible interests, then put more effort into finding women with compatible interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:28 PM
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Definitely holistic. People with talents, I have always been more attracted to artists or musicians. As an artist myself this is super important that they are creative and driven, but also emotionally mature and thoughtful people. Really I look for the same thing in partners that I look for in friends, but obviously with the added attraction thrown in there. I can’t tell you what makes me attracted sexually to someone physically, because I don’t know. The amount of men I have been sexually attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:18 PM
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Because ‘those’ people are invisible to red pillers. They literally don’t see whole people outside of sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:26 PM
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Yes! This!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:25 PM
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I think the problem with a lot of men here is actually that they have ‘particularly’ overblown standards considering their own level of attractiveness. Most general public men don’t tend to have that, they probably find a decent proportion of women attractive. So that’s why I think manosphere guys are being given that advice, because their standards for beauty or preferred traits (and certainly as I have interpreted it since I’ve been browsing this sub) are so narrow. I’m sure I’ll get plenty of…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:03 PM
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I technically cheated on my ex with my now husband. He had cheated many times for a number of years, he had a tendency to make up appalling lies (pretending to have cancer was one of the bigger ones), he’d chat up other women online, have several girls at a time on the ‘back burner’ and slowly wore down my self esteem. . He also used several friends and housemates for their inheritance money and never paid it back. I was young and an idiot, but I discovered a group of people I loved and enjoyed …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 09:09 PM
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No. It’s only necessary to be sensitive, Communicative and be a good listener without too much ego. In my opinion anyway, but as you said above, there is no woman hive mind and everyone will have different opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:32 PM
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This! I’m imagining OP looking back at this post in 10 years time and squirming.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:51 AM
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You’re just showing your age tbh. You’ll learn. I had some strange opinions when I was young too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 08:49 AM
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This! Absolutely agree. I have a relatively low number of previous partners and can barely remember what sex was like with any of them really. Your brain just filters it out in the end, it’s not an important formative memory. If I’m being honest I only really have the clear memory of the more clumsy stuff (for example being a bit fumbly when it was my first time) and all the other normal, good and not so good just blends into each other. I can imagine that if I, someone with a low number of prev…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 07:21 AM
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I honestly don’t have the mental energy right now to relive it all and type it out. But one of the earliest things that sticks out to me is that he would make up clearly ‘not real’ stories to see if I’d believe them. These included that he had cancer, that he had a long lost sister who was visiting, and he went on webcam once pretending to take a drug overdose to commit suicide, which years later I realised was just food colouring he was sticking on his tongue. I was an extremely sheltered 16/17…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:06 PM
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Obsession is really not healthy for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:42 PM
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But that’s the point isn’t it. If it’s so tricky to get right that you have to keep trying, it stands to reason that the general population are not, in fact, naturally polygamous of polyamorous and that a majority of people fall more firmly into the monogamous category. It’s ok if you don’t personally, but frankly if it were completely natural to us as a species, it’d be happening already with the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:39 PM
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Well I’ve been with mine 14 years so by that logic I’d have had the 7 year itch twice and be right in the middle of an itch now which I’m not. Just had super hot sex with him actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:33 PM
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If given the freedom to do so, and women still aren’t doing it, then they clearly don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:29 PM
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Yup absolutely. And now he’s deeply unhappy and guess what? No one cares. Reap what you sow.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:23 PM
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Do you know what? Attraction is 200% about more than looks. Is my husband as slim as he was at 20, 15 years ago? No, he’s got more wrinkles too. Do you know what? I am more attracted to him now because when I see him being a good father, when I see him interact with our friends or with colleagues, when I see him accomplish stuff we dreamed about years ago I am proud, in a way I couldn’t appreciate in my 20s. And do you also know what? He has said the same thing to me too. With a good relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:20 PM
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I only know of one man within our very large circle of family and friends that ended up doing that. He is an absolute man child who essentially had a midlife crisis and is now, 5 years later desperately unhappy in his ‘new relationship’ with a completely wrecked relationship with his kids, and an ex wife out living her best life dating again. He lost so many friends it was unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:16 PM
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Yes objectively of people they don’t know. That fails to take into account the bond/deeper love side of attraction and friendship that loads of couples build up over years of being together. I know SOME men leave older women for younger but it’s not this giant huge thing most RP guys here seem to make it out to be. Men aren’t brainless soulless idiots that see the first wrinkle or grey hair and go HURRRRRDURRRR MUST FIND YOUNG NEW WOMAN
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 08:34 PM
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Yeah I understand I just think there needs to be an awareness that nobody wants to feel like their are filling in a checklist for the other person on their first dates. It’s mechanical, and you will likely turn more people off of you, which I’m guessing isn’t the aim when you’re dating. You want to be putting your best foot forward, finding out about the other person without being invasive. All this information will come out in the wash eventually as you continue to date, but there’s no use in f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 12:14 PM
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There are also much more polite way of finding out things like this when you are initially dating. For example, you could ask a lady or man, how have you found the dating scene? Have you done a lot of dating in the past or are you more into long term relationships? That’s an open question that allows the person to open up on their own terms and is far less aggressive than asking a closed question which requires a numerical response, and puts the other person on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 12:03 PM
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No I’m not ashamed at all. Like I said, my number is low. I have absolutely zero interest in casual sex and never did have interest in it when I was a teen. I guess because to me the kind of questions someone asks tells me a lot about them. Asking about sexual history comes across as insecure to me particularly if you’ve literally just met someone and are only in the dating phase. It’s really a question I cannot imagine being asked over dinner and i would find it rude honestly. I can understand …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:59 AM
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I think I have a low number, so I probably don’t count for this question. I just keep a mental note. But honestly, if someone asked me on a date what my number was I also wouldn’t feel inclined to answer and would feel like it was quite an invasive question maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:51 AM
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Ahh ok no worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:48 AM
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Not really.I’m trying to ascertain whether I’d be classed as higher number or not so I can answer the question. You said it’s more of a question for those with higher numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:46 AM
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What’s a higher number?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:41 AM
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I am the female in that video 🤫
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:03 AM
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Lighten up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:59 AM
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This! My skincare routine costs me enough money and mental energy already. I get my nails done once a month and my hair cut and styled. Honestly, much more than that is an investment and would be mentally exhausting. I always wonder about those hyper fit guys and gals whose whole life is fitness and diets. Do they still think ‘fuck it’ of an evening and order pizza and snuggle up on the couch to watch a scary movie? These high maintenance lifestyles can come with significant personal cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:39 AM
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Loveless means no love, though, not no passionate love. Kinship and family require love,no?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 10:02 AM
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I can’t think of anything worse really, love is something you have to put effort into, it’s a choice you make daily to nurture it. Falling out of love with someone means that effort hasn’t been happening, you’ve taken each other for granted, or they’ve become unlike able in some way, none of those things are at all appealing and are absolute deaths of desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 09:57 AM
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Thank you , I am often left thinking this browsing this sub. I think most average women are just completely invisible to these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 06:07 PM
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Had one hookup once, fucking hated it, it was gross. Never, ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:16 PM
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I’m afraid I do think it’s really important to have stuff in common if you want a long and not boring relationship based on mutual friendship. Also, as an artist, I could find lots of people in my age group into art, I would still feel weird being with someone much younger EVEN if we had art in common…there’s still just a huge difference in life experience between early 20 year olds and proper grown ups. Each to their own though, as long as everything is healthy dynamics I’m not judging it’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:16 PM
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Maybe it’s not all about looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:17 PM
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I have no issue with people wanting a traditional family setup actually. I’m not sure what ‘women like me’ means since you don’t know me. I do take offence to words like ‘useless’ and ‘pointless’ being used when referring to women’s accomplishments. That’s just downright cruel and obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:15 PM
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Nope. I earn more than my husband, my sister earns more than hers by about 3x, my best friend earns slightly more than hers. They are all with each other cause they like each other as people and what the hell is better than sharing a life with your best friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:44 PM
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Not really important to me at all but they do need a motivated attitude and to be proactive with life in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:36 PM
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And before you ask, yes I have a career and a husband who is insanely proud of my achievements and I am supportive of everything he does too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:27 AM
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How can you not realise how offensive it is to view women as essentially chattel existing to serve men domestically? Resentful? No, but your opinions are obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:26 AM
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Yeah I do think my husband is emotionally very similar to how women process relationships. Interestingly he had 2 girl best friends growing up and was brought up by his grandmother who was wonderful so I think maybe that had an impact on him emotionally. He’s got a lot of emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:05 PM
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Oh well we both did do that but didn’t like it. Neither of us enjoy having sex with a person we don’t have an emotional bond with. We did have a healthy handful of relationships though, ranging from 3 months to a few years. Basically neither of us were single for much of our teens. When we met he’d been single for about 8 or so months, there were a few girls in our extended circle interested but we ended up together. So he had options, plenty, but we chose eachother. I don’t know, maybe we are v…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:51 AM
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Also worth noting his exes were all quite good looking as far as i remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:38 AM
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No we are both Demisexual. Or at least somewhere on that spectrum so I don’t think he would have had 100 relationships and if he had, I wouldn’t have dated him. I’m not attracted to men who have lots of relationships. I am the same with friends. I prefer people who take time to develop closer quality relationships rather than quantity. Plus he was only 19 and I was 20 so it would have been very weird for him to have had loads of relationships. I think he’s had about 6 LTR through teenage years a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:37 AM
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No he never dated them but I know he’s a popular guy. His past is similar to mine, a few LTR not really any casual stuff. I don’t know what I would have done if I were attractive, lol. I can only know who I am and what I find attractive. I’m not a very looks based person in general so I can only assume I would be the same if I were attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:19 AM
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He has bags of personality, is funny, intelligent, kind and charming and I could list women by the dozen who I know would date him. In fact when we got together there were a few other girls interested in him at the time even back then. Anyway, point is I’m pretty sure he’s more attractive than me. But that’s the thing, as other women have pointed out in this discussion, how we see ourselves is different to how other people see us and even how we’re seen in terms of attractiveness to other people…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:01 AM
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That’s weird because I’m pretty sure my husband is more attractive than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 10:18 AM
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Ohh haha! That’s great, you don’t need it then. I read it because I’m interested in sex and relationships in general, my sex life is good too. But I do think that book should be some kind of compulsory reading for young adults before they start having sex. It’s more psychological than technique based though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:30 AM
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Don’t get caught up in ‘your type’ or who you think you’re most attracted to, especially if you are Online dating and aren’t meeting people in real life initially. You could accidentally filter out the best thing that ever happened to you! Husband was not my initial ‘type’ the moment I met him and he introduced himself. Luckily we had lots of mutual friends so I got to know him. My attraction to him grew from nowhere and he’s literally the most beautiful man I’ve ever seen and my absolute best f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:20 AM
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Yeah this exactly! Realising how much energy you’re wasting on the most bitter people that ever existed when you could be enjoying the reality they refuse to believe exists!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:31 AM
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You should definitely read at least ‘come as you are’ it’s incredible. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:37 PM
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I don’t think that’s what is meant. It’s more that they’ve seen the state of these opinions and are fucking grateful their men are NOTHING like this. Well that’s just me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:27 PM
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Saaaame! This sub is wiiild, makes me appreciate what an incredible human my partner is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:25 PM
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Yeah and I think it depends what we are meaning by picky. ‘Must have 6 figure salary, pay for my holidays, perfect white straight teeth, muscles, 6’5’ feels more obnoxious than ‘ must have life somewhat sorted, no addictions, family man, kind’
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:47 PM
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Yeah absolutely. I would call overconsumption of porn where it is detrimental to your sex life a kind of addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:43 PM
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Yeah I think so. My partner and I are already having this conversation with our son in a child friendly way. That he will see certain grown up videos as he grows up and that it’s important he understands they are for entertainment and are not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 09:42 PM
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Yep I think this is just something that happens as we age. If I were single now I’d be much pickier too…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:39 PM
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https://fivebooks.com/best-books/sex-susan-quilliam/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:28 PM
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Also there are tonnes of books aimed at teaching about sex that aren’t porn which are FILLED with information about sex positions, toys, erogenous zones. You don’t have to have a copy of the Kama Sutra, but there is a tonne of info out there that doesn’t have to come from porn and porn is certainly not a good sex guide. Quite the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:27 PM
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Ok glad that’s cleared up I was concerned for a moment. No you’re right, like I said, I don’t hate porn but there’s a point where overconsumption can have the opposite effect and hinder good sex greatly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:24 PM
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Oh good god. You think porn invented positions ? Ancient India wants a word…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:11 PM
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Yes. What does that have to do with your assertion that men can’t ‘fall madly in love?’
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:49 PM
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Well yes and no. You can forgive a man for being inexperienced, that’s understandable. But the orgasm gap doesn’t lie. Plenty of experienced men are not pulling their weight in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:36 PM
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Yeah that makes sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:26 PM
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Basically communication is absolutely key, if you can both learn quickly what the other person likes and allow them to guide you without ego getting in the way you should be good to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:23 PM
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Haha! Disregard basically everything you see in porn. When you are with someone you are going to be intimate with, listen to them or let them show you how they like to be touched. Don’t be stingy with foreplay, definitely apply yourself to ‘pre-heating the oven’ before you stick your meat in….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:22 PM
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Yes you’re right about the lack of care being a reason why someone who is experienced still sucks in bed. Porn addiction often exacerbated the issue for various reason, one big one being instant gratification and not learning patience to allow for the other person to experience pleasure. However, as for learning, rather than looking at a woman to learn how she reacts I would recommend verbal communication instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:14 PM
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Yes you got me, I think it’s fairy dust. No it’s just a neurological process that happens to both men and women. 30 year long studies by neurological scientists have shown very little difference between the male and female brains and they would both experience and be able to fall in love in the same way. You know what you said initially was absolutely made up, so now you’re resorting to condescending ‘fairy dust’ talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:11 PM
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You’ve written a lot about desire there. Desire is different to love. Being in love is different to both love and desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:18 PM
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I understand your experience but we are now goalpost moving. Neurologically, falling in love is the same for both men and women. The original assertion was that men don’t fall in love. They do. Whether it is a positive experience or not, as you yourself experienced, depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 03:17 PM
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That’s a turn of phrase and there is no scientific way to define what you said. Therefore you must have been saying it for the sake of it, to rile up women or whatever you enjoy doing. Neurologically males and females are pretty much identical. The act of ‘falling in love’ would be similar for both sexes, with slight variance in how they fall in love, for example, men are able to ‘fall in love from afar’ easier, women tend to require some form of intimacy before they really connect with someone.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:10 PM
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You said men can’t be in love. That’s wrong. End.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:52 PM
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I feel quite sorry for you that you think men can’t be in love with their partner. That is really sad/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:37 PM
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Well I can only know from personal experience. Ex was a porn addict, serial cheater (so not inexperienced in the bedroom) and atrocious in bed - this was likely due to porn. You know how you can tell when kids are re-enacting films or fight scenes they’ve seen when they are playing, they copy stuff, copy moves, copy lines characters say? Same goes for grown ups having sex. Loads of porn stuff just doesn’t translate to real life, and feels terrible. He was painfully obviously copying porn, was in…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:30 PM
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Well that’s fair to say but I was just answering the question, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:15 PM
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I don’t hate porn. But men who watch too much porn are atrocious in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:03 PM
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As a person I would respect their honesty, however that would (for me) be a huge compatibility issue and I would take the relationship no further.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:28 PM
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Exactly, show them straight away what you’re bringing to the table for the second date you won’t be getting hah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:51 PM
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I mean it’s an odd question to ask someone? Just getting to know someone you would generally find out what they bring to the table so I don’t entirely understand why you’d need to ask it? Comes off as aggressive maybe? Also seems aggressive for a woman to ask a man she’s getting to know the same thing though. This stuff doesn’t need to be asked out right, you find out when you are dating, what’s their job, do they work a lot of hours, do they travel/enjoy vacations, what is their house/home like…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:49 PM
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Hahaha!!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:19 PM
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Women find all kinds of different men attractive too. You’ve posted a picture of a girl who is overweight but proportionate and feminine. The male version of that would be a guy who is overweight but proportionate and masculine, plenty of women go for those types of men. Plenty of women go for skinny runner bod men as well. Some women like beards, some don’t. I see a great many women married to men who aren’t ‘conventionally’ attractive by Hollywood or whatever beauty standards. You literally on…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:54 AM
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Wait, guys lower their standards just so they can settle in an unhappy situation and get sex? How can anyone really know what their ‘league’ is then? If people are constantly lifting and dropping their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:47 AM
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Well I can at least speak for the arts. AI won’t replace the majority at all, in the same way digital art didn’t ‘replace’ traditional. It’s a tool, and can be used by artists as they see fit. There are countless jobs in the arts that would have no need for AI. I’m a childrens book illustrator, a published one. Children’s publishing is not going to change anytime soon and is very much based on artist’s individual styles which currently AI doesn’t match and without going into the complexities of …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:43 PM
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FDS is literally the reverse red pill. Most women don’t take that seriously. Saying women and then using FDS as an example is like saying humans and using Nazis as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 06:23 PM
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I made the first move on my partner. Been together 14 years now lol. I don’t think he’d have got the message if I hadn’t gone in for the kill.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:43 PM
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Fair enough but still. If you want to prove your point, you’d have to find a large sample size of specific women giving their opinions that one is worse than the other to show the double standard, rather that using different threads and comments by different people. You might see trends but subs on Reddit are not some single entity woman hive mind thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 04:05 PM
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I feel icky about both tbh. Please note, not so much when both people are in their 30s/40s and beyond but definitely when one part is below 25. I’m not saying healthy age gap relationships don’t exist, but this dynamic gave me the ick when I was 20 and older men were chatting me up and it still gives me the ick now. Also it’s tricky because you have taken two examples from two different people and you are using it to prove double standards. Which it doesn’t necessarily because the same person wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 03:56 PM
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Yesss! This is exactly it, it’s a way more interesting way to meet your partner too. And your guaranteed that friendship part of it all first and discovering the chemistry is so much more fun
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 03:46 PM
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I guess it depends on what kind of relationship you have and if it’s based on a good friendship to start with. I think there’s obviously a lot of people out there who got married because ‘it’s just what you do’ at a certain age and they don’t have a particularly close bond maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:51 PM
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Also you’re right about Tinder I was probably a bit harsh. It’s just not my thing personally, no issues with people who do use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:49 PM
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Yeah honestly if I was dating and found this out about a guy, it would be an automatic loss of a second date. I don’t think many women would like this style of ‘date farming’ much at all lol. And women talk, they have friends who are on dating sites more than likely if he’s been DMing all the ladies, they’ll be finding out easily enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:48 PM
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Can’t you ascertain chemistry more effectively if you are just meeting people in real life and having friendship groups, meeting people and naturally finding chemistry that leads to something more? Maybe I’m wrong but I literally never used a dating app and neither did my partner, we ‘found’ each other just fine by going out and socialising then talking online after we’d met.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:45 PM
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I agree, it’s certainly been that way in my personal experience. It’s always the ones who are insecure and need the validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:05 PM
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It’s just slightly unfair to paint men as brainless 2 dimensional creatures simply because they are good looking and might have options. Not everyone has to gorge on their options. Some people actually love their partners or their partner is their best friend. Why wreck that because options?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:26 AM
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Nah it definitely seems desperate. Tbh, being on Tinder in the first place feels desperate. I’m sure there are some girls out there who won’t think it’s desperate though so have at it, whatever ‘strategy’ works…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:53 AM
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Yes and this was even true 15 years ago. Never once met a guy at a bar that I would consider a relationship with. I only ever had relationships with people I knew through hobbies, friendship groups or common interests. It’s better to let relationships build in that way anyway, at least then you know the interest is genuine and not cause you’re just someone who looks ok enough at a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:47 AM
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I’m afraid I respectfully disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:27 AM
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How does that explain the men that get the chance to cheat but don’t though?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:13 AM
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That’s a great way to define responsive drive!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:16 PM
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Responsive means you respond and become aroused by sexual stimuli as opposed to being the one to initiate the first ‘sexy’ thought that makes you want to pursue sex. In other words if your partner starts kissing your neck you may become aroused and want sex. Not all women have a responsive drive, and not all men have a spontaneous sex drive, it can sometimes be the reverse. I think to argue that responsive drive doesn’t exist, you should probably learn the accepted scientific definition of it be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 05:14 PM
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Not sure tbh . I am sure some women would and others wouldn’t, as with everything! I really enjoyed pregnancy carrying my son and if we wanted more children which we don’t, I would want to do that again. If it was a difficult pregnancy and birth I might think otherwise though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 09:48 PM
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Autistic people can be highly emotional. Logical minded does not equal autism. Why is there so much false autism stuff on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 08:31 PM
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Yep. Women have options now, where 70 years ago they maybe didn’t. They would have had to settle with whoever gave them security and an income. Women now can do that for themselves, so those men who frankly didn’t have much else going for them other than a job and somewhere to live now find themselves in a bit of a pickle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:43 PM
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Because they are just normal everyday people responding to Red Pill philosophy with skepticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 07:49 AM
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Haha exactly! Half those desperate thirsty virgins saying her orgasm is her responsibility might as well hold a sign saying ‘never have sex with me, I’m not interested in your pleasure’.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 07:45 AM
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Exactly! Most professionals make up the 10%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:29 PM
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Demi too, cold approach would never work with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:27 PM
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This! Thank you. People (particularly educated) tend to want to mix with other people of similar or like mind. This generally helps them with their social and social/work circles. No-one wants to feel worried their partner can’t or doesn’t feel able to join in with the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:02 PM
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We’re talking about top 10% earners here not 000ooo000000oo0o0o.0 Whatever. Let’s not move the goalposts just to be edgelords,
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:44 PM
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Is this conversation not about doctors and educated people?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:42 PM
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Plus it makes me social anxious, puts me in an awkward position and would cause me to make judgments about his personality that he could do that without having spoken a word to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:41 PM
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I just don’t like it. I am only attracted after getting to know someone, so he could look physically look like a Greek god and I would run away very quickly and be cross at how shallow he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:39 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:55 PM
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Intelligent and educated could be someone who works in academia or research. Not always the highest paid and also can depend on country.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:54 PM
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Several of my friends had surgeon fathers when I was growing up and I did not find this to be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:51 PM
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Right but my point was that when women say ‘ I want someone I can look up to’ they generally mean someone who I can be proud of, not someone who’s better. Most people don’t want to feel inferior to their partner lol .
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:47 PM
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I really think it depends. Autism is so diverse in the way it presents in different people. My husband was diagnosed autistic after years of struggling with anxiety and a nervous breakdown. He is super popular with the ladies generally and an overall very popular guy, but he masks a lot of his anxieties to the public and will generally take himself away from social stuff when he;s tired of it. He holds eye contact with me, but not so much outside of the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:35 PM
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Looking up to someone (ie being proud of them and their achievements ) doesn’t imply the other person is looking down on you. I look up to my husband and he looks up to me too. That’s just a turn of phrase and doesn’t imply they want someone they perceive as ‘better than themselves’.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:17 PM
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What percentage of all the women use tinder though? You are looking at a particular and small demographic of women on the whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 11:16 AM
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I think I only know one woman who loves Chris Hemsworth. He’s not unattractive. None of these celebrity guys are, but there’s a bit difference between seeing someone is generally attractive versus being actively attracted to someone. When I go to the gym, There are plenty of attractive guys. I am not attracted to any of them in the slightest though despite the fact they might be objectively good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 11:00 AM
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Thank you! I think there’s a lot of ‘what the guys are like’ happening here but female gaze is actually still very much centred around women and their relationships, either familial, friendly or romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:26 AM
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Another specific example might be from the film titanic when you see Jack’s face/eyes as he draws Rose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:20 AM
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I think there’s a bit of a misinterpretation of what the ‘female gaze’ actually is in cinematography going on here. Perhaps just the wrong phrase. The ‘female gaze’ actually is very much still focussed on women and females, it is in direct response to how women and females are viewed in films and media which focus on the male gaze. Often it is more about focussing on relationships of women (family or romantic), empowerment as protagonists and not as plot devices or objects and if we are wanting …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:18 AM
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I can see why that might be the case for women who worked a career just to pay the bills. I think really it’s down to whether you had the opportunity to do your ‘dream job’ or not. I am lucky in that mine allows me to work to my own schedule at home. I illustrate Childrens books (I work with publishers like Disney, Simon and Schuster, etc and have an agent) which believe it or not is pretty highly stressful when you’re working constantly but I do have the luxury of working in my home, and runnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:31 AM
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For the US it’s somewhere around 45% too, which is on the whole lower than it was in the 80s 40 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:22 PM
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Depends where you are! In the UK it has decreased to 42%. Not forgetting many people choose to cohabit now which will account for some of that decline. But of the people who do get married, 42% end in divorce which is a decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:18 PM
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Why should women be forced to stay at home if they don’t want to? If they really did ruin wages as you imply, the answer would be to stop them working. Would you really put hundreds of millions of artists, scientists, psychologists, doctors, nurses, writers, directors, police back in a role they didn’t want to do?!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:14 PM
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I am older and a mother. I still want to do my job. I’m an illustrator, it’s literally my dream and I would never want to stop doing that. In fact a friend of mine has jumped back into a new career now that the whirlwind of the early motherhood years are over.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:10 PM
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Yeah that makes sense. I guess in this context generalising can be helpful, and you’re right that it doesn’t always have to be highlighted that ‘not all’ people are XYZ .
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:26 PM
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Not all men are sexually deviant and promiscuous. There are plenty of gay couples who are interested in monogamy. and not all women are cuddly and talk about their feelings all day. It’s just the black and white men are ‘this’ women are ‘that’ that I find hard to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:36 PM
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Hahaha! Do you know many gay couples? That was funny I will give you that. False but funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:21 PM
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I am part of a dual income, happy household. I don’t want to stay at home and neither does my partner. I was born with a talent that would be a complete waste if I stayed home and he is doing what he loves. We’re both happy. Yes it’s anecdotal, but I’m not the only one. Most of our social circle are the same and it’s not because we don’t have a choice, it’s because we do have a choice and we all choose to have our careers. The problem with that guy and his videos is that he consistently claims a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:04 PM
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Yes. When I look all around me, there are men in relationships with all kinds of different women. Maybe we run in different circles. Being in a relationship is very much the norm here, as is a dual income household. I don’t see too many men falling apart at the seems, just you know, getting on with things, having families and having lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:19 AM
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Except it ignores the vast swathes of men who are happily in relationships with all kinds of working women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:08 AM
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I think it works for some people. There really is no best or worst ways. Everyone is different
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:53 PM
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I didn’t have to look at your post history. The initial comment you made was telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:45 PM
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Actually that was mean of me. But I do sincerely hope you try to just get some hobbies alongside both men and women, treat them how you’d treat any friend and maybe things might change for you. Good luck with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:37 PM
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Said the sexless guy to the woman whose been happily in a relationship for 14 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:31 PM
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Anecdotally, the less conventionally attractive exes of mine were actually the cheaters. Lower self esteem. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:58 PM
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No, not totally useless, just reductive and not overly helpful to young people who really should just be getting out there and finding people who like the same things. It gives them an excuse and an echo chamber to overthink the reasons they aren’t getting into relationships, which isn’t productive and serves really to just indoctrinate them further into a bitter, negative idea. I am 34, I met my partner at 20 and started a relationship with him at 21, I had a handful of LTR before him throughou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:49 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:37 PM
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Well there isn’t a woman I know who would see a man as high value if he was a known cheater regardless of looks, career and wealth. In fact, of the women I know, most have equally high value careers, are good looking, intelligent and what they look for in a partner are shared interests and emotional compatibility. They would regard those things as high value and not wealth, career etc. This is the problem with this whole argument, numbers and averages are reductive and put people into boxes. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:27 PM
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I don’t know I’d say I’m just barely above average and I’ve always had relationships. I don’t really do one nighters.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:03 PM
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Actually they can do that. I’m not ashamed to say I know my partner is popular with the ladies, he literally just treats them like people, like any friend male or female. Women like him and feel safe around him, and that makes him popular. He’s not a creeper, he’s not desperate (I would have run a fucking mile if he was) and that shows. He’s a nice person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:48 PM
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Anyhoo. I’m just here enjoying my life with my very very high value man who is also my best friend. Will I get cheated on and left down the road? I don’t know, no one really knows those things and no one has any real control over whether they happen or not. For now, I just enjoy and continue to enjoy the companionship and love from the previous 13 years :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:35 PM
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If you end up cheating on your wife/girlfriend does that not make you a low value person by default?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:32 PM
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I don’t know. All I know is it’s not about looks, money, or anything else. I and most women I know can smell a thirsty dude a mile off, and it’s the single biggest lady boner killer. So maybe these sexless men need to get some co-Ed hobbies, get to know some real women and try their hardest not to look too thirsty and desperate. They will have far more luck getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:40 AM
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Dude Ben Shapiro is like the god of nerds, and even he has a wife somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 12:30 PM
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