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| 6 | Have you had any luck meeting big booty latinas in your post-divorce life? What helped you succeed?I've decided I'm done with white women.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 01:32 PM |
| 1 | What is something you always wanted to do but couldn't before divorce and now you're doing?Sure- I know all that- it took me 2&1/2 years to get to this point- and I’d say to most dudes ‘leave it alone!’ But, man, I am so grateful for that pu$$y- it won’t solve it all, but I’ll be damned if it didn’t jump start the fuck out of my recovery!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 02:03 AM |
| 8 | What is something you always wanted to do but couldn't before divorce and now you're doing?Having sex with a hilarious , sexy, train wreck of a woman who is also wonderful and 10 years younger than me and it’s just so much fun. My wife left and I was devastated - and now I’m really glad she did. I hate what it did to our daughter, but I tried my best - now I’m grateful. I still don’t like the ex tho. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 07:01 PM |
| 9 | I wish I could completely forget it allI hear you, it feels like an impossible situation. It's such an awful feeling when you're heratbroken but you don't want the person back. Especially with kids. I fight the tears often and find myself just wanting to erase my past with her as well. It was a huge mistake in retrospect, but out of something so awful, and being with someone so awful, I get more love from my 7 year old daughter than I've ever received in my life. I guess I'm not sure if I've even felt real love from anyone, before th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 04:16 PM |
| 7 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticYeah , man. It’s crazy making. Covert narc women are real and my stbx is one. Now she is creating a narrative about us being a ‘quirky little family’ while she’s out getting hammered and trying to fuck 25 y/o’s. This ain’t a family. I have a family with my daughter but don’t share one with her anymore- that’s part of what you lose when you leave…. I hate all that IG hashtag bullshit - it’s so selfish and entitled. I don’t know if I’ll ever date or try to be with another woman again- I’m not sure… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Why is it so hard to watch recent ex wife date?My god some women are just completely delusional. Why on earth would she criticize you for not wanting to hear about who she is dating after moving out just 4 months ago? Her request is absurd and if she doesn't know why it is such, there's not much you can do. She sounds like she is testing your boundaries and wants to engage you in some kind of turmoil. It's weird and sadistic. Hold your boundaries and tell you can coparent but aren't friends anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 04:53 PM |
| 1 | I can tell if she’s seeing someone or not by how she treats me. It’s night and day!Yeah it's hard to take when she was so shitty to me for the 2 years before she left.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 02:47 PM |
| 2 | IT GETS BETTERThe fact that someone else's declaration of love 'drives (you) nuts' and you feel the need to suggest his wife is 'likely taking the D from someone else' sounds like you have a lot if bitterness and more work to do. I am bitter about my situation and have lost my belief in and desire for romantic relationships, at least for now. There's a difference between 'love of my life' and 'the one' or 'soul mate' though. Anyway, I just think it's helpful to project our hurt or betrayals on someone else's … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/24 02:45 PM |
| 15 | I feel like being a “good husband” is the worst job on Earth.Yeah man- never ever again. What a load of bullshit these women are. Victims to the end. ‘Finding their bliss and living their best shallow Instagram lives’ no thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 04:44 PM |
| 2 | UnsureYou should see if you can find a discernment counselor- their job is to help people decide if they want to work on the marriage, a lot of counseling is based on the notion that both parties want it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Tips for dealing with unwanted mental wandering?I think it depends on how your brain works. I haven't figured out a way to cure this but one thing that has helped has been intentionally visualizing with my eyes closed, what it would be like if she returned today, with all of my resentment of how it was handled and all the shitty stonewalling, and then visualizing what my life hopefully can be, what I want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Not Allowing Spouse To Have Sexual Intercourse For Long Amounts Mental Cruelty: Allahabad High Court'long amounts'? also this sounds like it comes from a backwards ass place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/23 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Going crazy!It really seems that women feel completely entitled to this kind of behavior. Or maybe tey feel guilty about it and then just use the old idiom 'the best defense is a good offense' | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Have anyone of you guys completely left dating since Divorce?31 is not too old to play metal or get back into tattooing. If you loved those things, get back at it. Explore what parts of you shut down in order to appease your wife. I hear you on the question about whether to date- I'm 46, separated for a year from a woman who abandoned the marriage without explaining why, and have been on a couple of dates and realized the apps and the dating seen just isn't for me, I'd rather meet someone naturally and I'm ok if I don't for now. You also may have some ver… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 12:31 PM |
| 3 | Going on my first post-divorce dategood advice , I like the walk option that is a great way to get to know someone without staring at them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: Wait at least one year after Divorce before dating.‘Happiness is sourced internally’ I don’t think that’s a scientific fact. We humans are wired for connection. It may be that 10-20 years ago that was consensus - but from what I’ve read , that’s not true that being said, I agree that hippo bf from one inauthentic relationship to another , hoping that person will complete you is BS too | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Reading materialsEsther Perel is a genius, she has actually done some really good work on advocating for men. Google 'the masculinity paradox' some really useful information about where many men are these days and how confusing it can be to figure out what is expected, vs what we are taught. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 08:48 PM |
| 1 | first time with a woman after separating.Lucky SOB......this sounds like a porn scenario. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 02:39 PM |
| 1 | this is more light-hearted but what's your go to recipe during weekI love TJ's for these reasons. I have been buying a lot of frozen stuff, just because it seems like when I'm by myself, i.e. no 6y/o daughter, I tend not to prep much, or eat much, really. I decided to make my own blue cheese dressing and in a pinch I'll just make a big ol' salad- the homemade dressing is a game changer for me, it's so much better than store bought and is so easy to make. It's an easy way to eat a lot of fresh greens. I really want a food saver though- can you use it for soups a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 02:14 PM |
| 1 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?I felt that way too, and have suggested it to 1-2 people and i could tell that they were really apprehensive to concur, but that would have been different had I been a woman, I think. I think when it comes to that sort of emotional and sometimes physical abuse (when the dude has to just take the physical abuse for fear of protecting himself by fighting back) men are largely on our own. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/22 01:23 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?I feel you, my wife started making more money than me and all of a sudden began being concerned about the Jones', she wasn't super interested in that stuff when I married her -and I started a non profit that fixes up used vehicles for families in need, so I don't make very much money, but I'm not destitute, and her Etsy business took off. I'm just not like that and I find it kind of shallow. We bought a house with the help of her Dad on the down payment- and it all started to go south after that… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/22 04:42 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?Are you me or me you? Sheesh, that's EXACTLY what it was like, I don't think my wife has apologized for anything in years. I wonder, at times, if it was because in order to apologize or take responsibility that would mean challenging the narrative that she constructed. She straight up stonewalled me and wouldn't talk , she said, because she would get 'flooded' and coupled that with tears and the therapists would immediately rush to her side and hand her tissues and then the session would be over… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 10:20 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?I had the exact same experience. For us, counseling was perfomative, it became clear that she had been planning, now that I see what was going on. It made me feel like a fool and I have a hard time not being really bitter, especially because it's been devastating for our sweet 6 year old daughter. I mean, I don't have a family anymore. As a family we had our challenges and things we needed to work on but nothing unsafe or awful- I kind of feel like I was a sperm donor. Looking back, I really put… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 08:48 PM |
| 2 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?That sounds like my situation, my wife became cold cold cold, and resentful and hateful. I tried to fix my side of things and worked my ass off, but she clearly didn't want it to work, she just wanted out. She couldn't even give me a reason. Coward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/22 08:03 PM |
| 1 | First day of my week off from kidsSheesh, you said it. I completely agree with all of this. "Kids are resillient" sure but they also get trauma wounds from it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/11/22 02:48 PM |
| 2 | MacKenzie Scott (Jeff Bezos exwife) fill divorce from second husband.Ha! I love it , cats and boxed wine: can we add girlfriends, comfy pants, calgone, and candle light? Following their bliss while the adult has to go back to work. Eat pray love bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Overwhelmed by DivorceMy heart really goes out to you. I have a 6 year old little girl with a woman (STBX) who basically just ghosted on the marriage, she did the bare minimum in terms of making it look like she tried but she had decided well before we started therapy that she wanted out, I think. In any case, I can only imagine how hard that is, and those first few nights and weeks are very painful, so I would give this advice: -Be aware of how something that awful can make you feel negatively about yourself, and ac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/22 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Things women do/say during divorce.Man, I'm convinced I've been gaslighted for years- of course I wasn't sure, I just felt crazy, which of course is a symptom. Nobody (my family)seems to understand, because they don't live near us and haven't seen her much. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/22 01:22 PM |
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