IAMB4TMAN Archive

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10	Men in your 40s - if you can turn back time, what do you wish you knew in your 30s? Why are there so many men in dead end jobs? Why are there so many men in shitty ass relationships? You think they enjoy that shit? Plot twist: they do. They love being in environments with rules, limitations, why? Because they need someone to tell them what to do. Because they are scared of agency. The cost of freedom is agency. But you have no idea how strongly most men will struggle to avoid it.	/r/askTRP	05/05/20 01:19 PM
7	Men in your 40s - if you can turn back time, what do you wish you knew in your 30s? First paragraph, last sentence	/r/askTRP	05/05/20 11:41 AM
36	Men in your 40s - if you can turn back time, what do you wish you knew in your 30s? Everyone has covered the main stuff, so I'll stick to something subtler that you might not get now, but one day it might hit you, maybe it won't. Maybe fuck yourself. Let it come, let it be, let it go. With all things in life, strive to be the initiator of the one letting go. With jobs, relationships, everything. At a certain point, shit just won't work out, no matter how hard you try. If you're even in a position contemplating if something is going to work out, it's already broken. Let it go. L…	/r/askTRP	05/05/20 08:51 AM
7	Does having money make you feel more like a man? money is commodification of power and one of the best estimates of it. Power is the foundation of being a 'Man'	/r/askTRP	06/11/19 04:01 AM
1	Alpha vs Beta sex: their evolutionary origins. A very disturbing theory. I think from a Man's perspective this theory raises some interesting points in terms of the different 'Alphas'. I'd say there are 2 different types of Alphas - social & lone Alphas. Anecdotally - the strongest pair bonding I've witnessed is with the Lone Alphas.	/r/TheRedPill	07/08/19 02:49 AM
26	A few years into TRP, I obviously find women very attractive, but much of the "magic" is gone. Does anyone else feel this way? Yes, very easy, & not bc you're playing at below your SMV per the other comment, but bc all of the shit tests, dread game, frame struggles just become childish play to you. Also abundance - not bc you have other plates btw, but true abundance mentality IMO is the belief that even in periods where all your plates are breaking, and other shit in your life starts to cause stress (when it rains it pours), you know deep down inside you could rebuild it and you have the utmost confidence in this. You'…	/r/askTRP	30/05/19 09:12 AM
17	A few years into TRP, I obviously find women very attractive, but much of the "magic" is gone. Does anyone else feel this way? This is so true. Felt the same way after TRP; but along my journey picked up riding motorcycles and I'm seriously in love, and looking deeper this is driven by my lack of understanding in the hobby. Nowadays when I interact with women it feels like I already beat the game & when I have time, just re-logging in at max level to run around 1-shotting shit.	/r/askTRP	30/05/19 07:08 AM
2	Is there ever a reason a girl would leave you due to insecurity? Also want to add - the most effective form of praise is praising something they're insecure about. In this post, it's obvious; she is insecure about the smv disparity, but for example: targeting praise on looks to an hb8+ could work if she sees you as higher value, but let's say she reveals to you that many people think she's starting to show her age a bit. The more effective form of praise would be that she looks like younger today vs she looks hot/cute today.	/r/askTRP	14/05/19 04:21 AM
1	Women and emotional investment (romantic love & sexual liberation) You can take apart the equation to account for this: probability of her cheating = [ (% chance of you leaving relationship * % chance of getting caught) - % loss from losing you] + (% chance of establishing new relationship * new relationship gain) In the case where she cheat on you with say, the pool boy. % chance of not getting caught is probably very high, and the % loss from losing you is fairly low (she has you committed).	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/19 01:33 AM
1	Women and emotional investment (romantic love & sexual liberation) Think of cheating as a quasi-math equation: probability of her cheating = [ (% chance of you leaving relationship * % chance of getting caught) - % loss from losing you] + (% chance of establishing new relationship * new relationship gain) where; % loss from losing you = represents the % loss of her social + financial well-being. Example: 100% here means she loses her entire social + financial well-being if she loses you (Note: this is why marriage is a scam, if she is entitled to any $ from a…	/r/TheRedPill	01/05/19 10:52 PM
1	If you have never been the casual sex guy, you do not know women Corollary to this: when a woman legitimately sees you as an alpha male. Once you experience this, you will never waste time on women who do not treat you with that level of respect/admiration. You'll learn very quickly the potential a woman has reserved for the appropriate Man, often hidden deep in the abyss of her lizard brain shielded by social conditioning/BP/feminist ideologies.	/r/TheRedPill	29/04/19 06:48 PM
1	We're Right and You're Wrong Most people who reject TRP I've noticed are ones who have never experienced complete alpha deference from a woman	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/19 08:18 AM
1	The Dread Pill. Dread Game is a Gift You Give Your Woman I think your understanding of dread needs to expand a bit more. Dread isn't an option - it is a requirement in all relations with females that are sexual (works fantastic for business too). Dread should be underpinning every interaction from LTRs to plates, to any scenario where you are negotiating power/need. Business Example: you go to purchase a car, find the exact model/make/color/options you want. You decide you need a few days to think before buying the car. As you leave the salesman tells…	/r/TheRedPill	25/04/19 04:50 AM
1	The Dread Pill. Dread Game is a Gift You Give Your Woman tomato tomato. It isn't 2 different concepts. Let's rewind: Dread game is basically a composition of tactics/maxims to evoke dread and it works in any relationship, plate to LTR. If you have a plate that is numb to dread, she just isn't into you and that plate is heading fast to breaking. To evoke Dread, you can force dread/fake you are the prize OR just have a full life that limits you from spending copious amounts of time with a plate/LTR. Both evoke dread. Parsing words, I'd say 'dread game' …	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/19 09:14 PM
1	The Dread Pill. Dread Game is a Gift You Give Your Woman The point I'm trying to get across is using dread purposely as a game tactic (you actually don't have other shit going on) vs. having a full life (which results in natural implementation of dread) While most literature on dread 'game' often calls for the former & a mix of the latter, what I want to emphasize is focus on the latter. Develop a full life with a mission & hobbies, and dread will come naturally. Much more efficient & rewarding	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/19 08:24 PM
82	The Dread Pill. Dread Game is a Gift You Give Your Woman My 2 cents on dread 'game'. When I first swallowed the RP, I found myself 'forcing' dread scenarios - purposely taking a day or 2 here & there of little to no contact. It worked.. a little. But on the few girls I actually sexually desired, I would say about ~50% of the time they read-through my actions, & dread 'game' wasn't as effective (but better than being too available). Now, I don't even need to force myself into letting these situations play out, even with girls I desire. These days, …	/r/TheRedPill	24/04/19 02:25 AM
1	How do I brush off my first plate to pursue more options? (Dread game risks) Learn how to maintain mystery. Your entire post is essentially an ask to us on how to be as honest as possible or in the least damaging way possible. Your plate is a plate. She doesn't need (nor does she want) to know what you are up to when you are apart & you shouldn't give a shit what she does either. "I'm busy - let's meet tomorrow". All you have to say. Don't complicate things. If she pushes for answers, maintain frame. You start a relationship with a "plate" by being so open at this stage …	/r/askTRP	20/04/19 08:34 PM
14	The Safest Way To Build Wealth appreciate your efforts, but to other readers please disregard all the investing advice here & don't do an individual stock strategy until in my opinion you have at least $40-$50k saved and even then only use 5% of that to play with single names. Depending on your age/investment horizon put the rest in stock/bond index funds. Trust me you'll thank me later. Also, I stopped reading after 'history tends to repeat itself' line on stocks. If it were that easy successful stock picking could be done w…	/r/TheRedPill	12/04/19 07:15 AM
6	The Thing You Really Want I think in general, this is correct - there will be women who things just click with & the desire is hardly confusing. But, I think to really bring this thinking to be sidebar/another TRP law/theory to live by, it needs to fully incorporate ASD. Here's something to discuss: - If you are a very good looking Man, & you have demonstrated traits that convince a girl (even the HB8+'s) that you are at least 1-2 SMV points higher, I have noticed that the insecurity you inspire will trigger them to de…	/r/TheRedPill	09/04/19 12:56 AM
2	Gender Pay Gap for Dummies I think simple economics solves this. If you could really extract the same performance from a Male & a Female CEO candidate, but the latter you could pay whatever % less, say 25%, then you'd see a LOT of boards hire Female CEOs to run their companies. America is the one country that has an economic system & corporate law infrastructure for this arbitrage to take place, but it doesn't, why? Because there is no arbitrage; there is a difference in Male/Female performance in terms of C-suite posit…	/r/TheRedPill	07/04/19 05:58 AM
1	Need help, feel like there's no change. Biggest mistake I see new RPers is they think that once they implement some of the common practices of TRP, they are entitled to a social life/girls. Here's a refresher of RP philosophy - you're not entitled to anything. You're a Man, you need to earn anything that has value in life. Onto what I believe is the biggest obstacle I see with new RPers who aren't getting the results they want. It isn't some flaw in the implementation of RP practices - it's inner game. You think you're entitled to…	/r/askTRP	05/04/19 10:50 PM
6	New here. Do you guys think a long delay between answering to a text would be considered a shit test? If she is slow to respond as a result of you not responding quickly (Mirroring), could be a good sign. If she's slow to respond generally, she just isn't that into you. Medium is the message. I always test it out. Reply within 5 minutes @ a time you know she can quickly reply back, see what happens.	/r/askTRP	01/04/19 06:48 PM
1	why do they always come back if you walk away? Actually the better analogy is a cat/puppy and its favorite toy. Buy it a new one it will chase & play around with it. Sometimes, it gets bored with it and returns to its favorite toy. Even if it doesn't, & new toy becomes a thing, take away the old toy for a few days, bring it back, and what happens? For OP.. judgment call. I like to think that when they reach back out they are consciously entering your frame - that is, until you fuck it up	/r/askTRP	26/03/19 10:17 AM
5	The Existential Fear – Men Think you're reading too deep into my statement. What I'm trying to convey is that as a high smv male, my biggest fear isn't being cucked, it's impregnating (and letting the government enforce at least financial commitment) a female with low smv. Rollo's post can easily be re-engineered to say a low smv Man's existential fear is being cucked; a lot of low smv Male behavior such as mate guarding etc., can be connected with this fear. High smv Man's fear is more along the lines of his description …	/r/TheRedPill	21/03/19 06:17 PM
15	The Existential Fear – Men Funny how the higher my SMV rises, my existential fear is becoming more like a Woman's.	/r/TheRedPill	21/03/19 12:17 AM
1	If something about you doesn’t get you laid, get you liked, or get you paid, stop doing it I like this, but it doesn't seem fleshed out appropriately. I think the comparison you're making here is letting a results-based decision tree dictate your decision-making vs. the male equivalent of female hamstering. But, I think while the former is clearly the optimal approach, the flaw & warning sign I want to point out is if you do things -> to get laid. If you act like the 'clown' in a group -> to get liked, and if you start a business -> with profits as the far above & beyond #1 priority, …	/r/TheRedPill	14/03/19 06:03 AM
1	Leo’s shags : SMV for men vs women with age and fame I think any A-list actor has a bevy of DT traits that is the catnip of a woman's psyche. Imagine this: if Leo can convince you of random characters/roles on a movie screen, think of the mindfucking he could do to you in person. Just a thought/theory. Combine this with fame (which in my view.. in the not to distant future will be THE #1 weighting for a Man's SMV vs. game/looks/height/money) & you have a guy who can spend no money & take 0 care of all the other traits & still have a legion of wome…	/r/TheRedPill	14/03/19 05:29 AM
4	The Global Sexual Marketplace My experience with asians is they seem to have a huge premium on looks/handsomeness. Height is important too, but they don't have a complex stratification of height value like American girls (ex/ 5'10 is NOT 6'0 girls). Asian girls tend to have more of a 5'10 or taller is all just 'tall' & smv add is same as 6'0+. I think a red pill of the TRP is mastering TRP, game etc., will provide you the tools to enjoy alpha deference from women who are SMV of +2 from you @ tops for a sustainable time frame…	/r/TheRedPill	28/02/19 09:14 AM
6	Let's talk about congruency To be even more particular, I noticed the break in 'congruency' is usually in Escalation instead of succumbing to shit tests from angles sidebar TRP doesn't go over. Second to Escalation, assuming you're a 7+ in terms of looks (be honest with yourself), is determining when shit tests become comfort tests. Overall though, call to action of this post doesn't change what TRP advocates for new RP members: that is, approach women, interact with women, and do this as frequently as possible. You will m…	/r/TheRedPill	08/02/19 08:20 PM
3	She told me today that a lot of guys have been hitting her up lately It's actually her desires in a Man manifesting in her personality. Put simply, Women want a high value man & a proxy for that is he is desired by other women. We live in a society where Women think they are equal to Men; she mistakenly thinks that bragging about being desired by other Men will have the same effect on Men as it does on Women. Wrong	/r/askTRP	30/01/19 01:09 AM
1	The Zeroth Law of Power Interesting, but should caveat that in a situation with residual profits (i.e., in a workplace, relationship with CEO, or in a business deal, anything that allows sharing of future profits), a position of interdependence > position of independence. Overall though, the attitude to have in negotiating interdependence is independence/less 'need', so I agree in general. This positioning allows you to extract more in a relationship of interdependence. In sexual dynamics, I think being in a position o…	/r/TheRedPill	29/01/19 01:54 AM
62	Red Pill knowledge from Napoleon Bonaparte Josephine is a prime example of "behind every great man is a woman" I think what Napolean's relationship with Josephine represents is that he was not a "Natural" & had to learn like many of the RPers today. Doesn't mean he wasn't Alpha/RP, but shows that you don't have to be a Natural to become an expert in sexual dynamics	/r/TheRedPill	18/01/19 08:05 PM
1	Plate Spinning Alpha Male's Worst Enemy isn't Another Alpha Male I think plate theory needs a refresh to incorporate how you can look for signals that the plate is about to break.. and you front run it & next her beforehand. Warning: if you get this timing down correctly, it can turn the most normal girl fucking psycho, so be prepared. Also, this timing is the magic ingredient that when learned will leave a harem of alpha widows in your wake. This, in my opinion is the biggest difference in 'game' between RP Alphas & Dark Triads.	/r/TheRedPill	18/01/19 03:27 AM
5	Is it better to invite a girl straight to mine, or to somewhere where I can easily take her back afterwards. Pro tip: Ask her to meet at your place, go downstairs & pretend like you forgot something up at your house/apartment. Bring her with you to go get it. What this accomplishes: She saw your place briefly, & later on in the night it'll be less awkward for her when you ask her let's go from the bar back there.	/r/askTRP	18/01/19 02:25 AM
1	When did you realize the "honey moon phase" was over and you were now her beta bucks? Fuck what the woman thinks. You're screwed when you look at the relationship from a brutally honest perspective & realize your 'want' is now a 'need'	/r/askTRP	18/01/19 02:20 AM
12	Gender War From a business perspective, I find this rhetoric extremely interesting as it relates to the massive flow of money into private equity funds to be used for privatizations; this in reference to Roosh's predictions & its connection here. I think going forward private companies will be able to arbitrage the public appeal demands of public companies (most in response to align with Fem Imperative) that they are now shackled to in conjunction with profits. Overall, while I'm in agreement with all of t…	/r/TheRedPill	17/01/19 03:52 AM
2	The Most Neglected Muscle verbal dexterity is key to game	/r/TheRedPill	11/01/19 01:32 AM
3	"She's not yours, it's just your turn": a defeatist cuck mantra for losers Think the statement is being too read into. Analysis paralysis. The basic meaning behind "she's not yours, it's just your turn" is to remind you of the fleeting nature of women, & you should act accordingly. You can interpret it from a winner's perspective (doesn't matter how sweet she is, I'm immune to it b/c I know woman's primal nature per TRP) or you can interpret it from a loser's perspective (damn it, I'll never have her no matter what I do so I might as well gloat & waste away). All a…	/r/TheRedPill	08/01/19 10:56 PM
2	Nagging Plate or GF? You are the one at Fault. Not Her Solution to issue (other than acting RP from the start): Dread game	/r/TheRedPill	28/12/18 10:25 AM
3	A woman's prime directive is emotional conquest We're in a constant war gentlemen. At home with the gf/wife, at work with colleagues & superiors, with friends maintaining frame & establishing your place in the social order.	/r/TheRedPill	24/12/18 11:30 PM
3	State of Mind Mastery Part IV: Mind over Matter (Mental Rehearsal) Should also internalize one of the core beliefs of stoicism - at the end of the day, does all of it really matter?	/r/TheRedPill	24/12/18 11:24 PM
1	How do you deal with dominant girls? in general also important to remember that the stronger a woman is, the more likely the men in her life up to that point were/are weak/beta. vice versa	/r/askTRP	19/09/18 01:32 AM