IAMtheLightning Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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50	I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference??? I once dated an incredible and otherwise perfectly HVM that would occasionally get ED related to nervousness. He was always willing to try different things to work on it and always made sure to make me satisfied but I just didn't like how much awkwardness it added to the situation. I kept trying for awhile because I felt guilty for being 'shallow,' but I still felt ick about it. It's naturally most sexy when a man is strong, confident, and primal in bed with me - it's hard to feel sexy when I ke…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/22 10:42 PM
8	How to prevent hornyness related pickmeness on dates The plans afterward is a great tip! I too am a highly sensual, libido poppin, force of goddess sexuality and my tingly loins have taken me OVER too many times before. Not sure if this is for everyone, but for the last year or so I've been focusing on making myself the center of my own sexual desire; for me it's very important not to suppress my libido but to channel it healthily. I was horridly insecure my entire life and too easily swayed by the breadcrumbs of sexual male attention for years an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/22 03:52 PM
283	I’ve been saying this… It only takes men just a few months to know if you are the one! 👆 It took me until finding FDS to not take this shit personally. Now I see it as the godsend it really is. I've had multiple guys including my recent ex totally dump and replace me with another woman within weeks or with an overlap. Until FDS I was stalking these women wondering why he thought they were prettier or sweeter or less crazy than me SMH. He just needed someone new who hadn't called him out on 100% of his bullshit so he could proceed NEVER working on himself and still being perceived in…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/22 08:29 PM
14	Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life? This question has been itching at me a lot lately. My recent ex started dating me when he had come out of a disastrous break up of his engagement with his fiance (she had been cheating with his friend; they'd dated > 8 years). He showed all signs of LVM behavior with me which is why I ended up on FDS. I couldn't help wondering if he was very damaged from this unprocessed heartache or he'd always been LV. I know for me it doesn't matter but I wonder in general about how men process deep heartache…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/22 08:50 AM
21	“The success of single women is the success of all women.“ Damn that really hit me. I've been seriously struggling with depression for awhile now which had me dating shitty dudes pre-FDS and now accepting I can't date anymore til I'm healed. The hardest part to leveling up with depression is convincing yourself you are worth the effort to do it on days where your brain is screaming at you that you aren't. On those days I come to this group and I reach out to the HVW in my life to remind myself we are in this together. If I don't have the strength to wil…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/22 08:56 PM
1	Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ It's this kinda shit that brings me to my knees in tears thinking about how the patriarchy has so many women's psyches fucked all the way up. WHY do women in relationships insist their partner's shortcomings are somehow their fault and that if they just create the right environment the king will reveal himself ready to love harder.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/22 07:25 PM
23	If you are having doubts, leave. Has anyone else noticed the prevalence of IG relationship advice lately that is very centered around messages like: 'how to help your partner emotionally engage' and 'how to understand your partner's trauma language to love them better' and 'learning to love someone where they are at' etc.. I had many doubts from the beginning but I gobbled this shit up thinking I was being heroic by doing the work to understand his avoidance and be a better partner to him. These messages and accounts are defini…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/22 04:48 PM
7	Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me! I am trying to hold on to a shred of hope with OLD because I live in a very small town where I never meet people organically, but I'm realizing it's all just very trash. I'm visiting my family in a major city right now and even with millions more people to swipe from, the pool is no less toxic.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 05:04 PM
8	When being a pornsick pickme trying to fulfill an unasked for male fantasy goes wrong I don't even know which element of this disaster to comment on. I understand the appeal to spice up your sex life - I have a high and passionate sex drive and have been with men who don't match my hunger and it sucks. But there's like, a hundred different ways to approach that that don't include presenting your man with another woman for him to fuck LOL. Like you could've started with some lingerie and a sexy playlist why did it go 0 to 100 lmaooo	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 01:32 PM
7	Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting? yoga, camping, hiking, reading, cooking, dancing :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/22 05:02 AM
80	Male depravity makes it to the front page. My thoughts exactly: 'Guy sounds like a fuckin creep.'	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/02/22 03:02 PM
61	Porn sick scrote almost killed his girlfriend performing kink. THIS IS DANGEROUS! I'm a little embarrassed to say I used to have a choking kink. When I look back I think it stemmed from having bad hookup sex with LVM who would scarcely put their hands on me and fuck me like I was a sex doll. Between those experiences and very low self esteem I think I was convinced asking for someone's hands to be on my chest and neck was at least a step up from being used as a blow-up toy and somehow increased the passion of the moment. It wasn't until I met a HVM who truly loved me and abso…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/22 03:30 PM
298	Porn sick scrote almost killed his girlfriend performing kink. THIS IS DANGEROUS! The worst part for me is that they stayed in the hot tub afterwards.... hot tubs are already dangerous when you're sober and well hydrated. Post seizure and drunk, very very dangerous.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/22 03:21 PM
15	You deserve to be loved tenderly. Thank you for writing this. The relationship I am just leaving had the exact back and forth volatility you described and was easily more work and anxiety than happiness. The worst part was realizing way too late he was completely emotionally avoidant and never actually cared for me. The damage done to one's self esteem when they are not seen and valued in a relationship is deeeep. Never falling for that breadcrumb game again. Even on my most depressed days I take way better care of myself when I…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 05:52 PM
128	Reminder to watch out for how he treats you around his friends The guy I most recently dated always threw me off in regards to his male relationships. For starters he would always light up with absolute glee whenever 'the boys' were around, but would literally never show any level of excitement to see me or make plans with me when it was just us two. One night we went out with a close friend of his who ended up hitting on me the last half of the night. I asked why he never intervened and he said it was because he 'trusted me to handle myself.' He often answ…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 02:22 AM
10	22F dating a 34M finds out he co-owns a house in the suburbs with a woman sharing his last name - If he’s making excuses for you not to see HIS house even though he’s seen yours, there’s a reason. I loved her awareness that it was her youth that had him hooked on her and every time she pointed it out he got madder and madder.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/22 03:24 PM