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Learn from it. Now you know to solidify contact before you lose her forever. It sucks, but it's a lesson everyone has to learn
/r/seduction07/10/18 11:15 PM
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"How can I help these people?"
/r/seduction25/11/17 09:36 PM
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Be sensitive to their needs and wants and try to bring out a part of you that aligns with them. If they're in a space you're uncomfortable with, you can either learn from them or you can go home and practice their vibe on your own first.
/r/seduction25/09/17 03:29 PM
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We attract what we are, but what we want. Are you an 8? On her value system? Some girls think you're a 10 just as you are, so maybe you're not fishing in the right ponds.
/r/seduction24/09/17 04:41 AM
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Compare yourself to a homeless person. What do you do better than him? And what do you need to work on to be the social jaguar you're currently comparing yourself to? Storytelling? Leading? Fun?
/r/seduction24/09/17 04:38 AM
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Love it man, thank you. I like how there's multiple layers of checking in with her.
/r/seduction07/09/17 12:53 AM
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Back when I was younger, I had better experiences when I was honest about my newness. I think girls that might've been nervous around me became a lot more aggressive. They would even throw their friends at me at parties. Just own it man.
/r/seduction05/09/17 01:20 AM
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I'm with you brother. 50+hr weeks, plus school and MMA. I like to invite them to what I'm already gonna do. Like, I'm gonna eat, so I'll see if a chick wants to eat with me. If she's draining, then I'll end it at the meal, but if she's cool then I'll keep inviting her to stuff I'm doing. Also, I learned you have to adopt routines that allow for women to join you. She won't have fun watching you play a single player computer game. But, I love MMA, and I can invite her to do an intro class at my g…
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:54 AM
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Find a girl who's down to teach you, or who's also new and wants to explore her sexuality with you. You gotta be extremely non judgemental and accepting or they'll drop you quick. Personally, I found an older girl, I was straight up with her, and we dated for a couple years while I read sex books, hard stories about her past experiences, and experimented with her. She loved it. Some girls love fucking newbies because they get pleasured exactly how they want to. Just be honest.
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:42 AM
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When you're new, you want anonymity because you're going to piss a lot of people off in the beginning. That's why it's usually recommended to practice in a different city, or a loud nightclub where girls forget your face in 10 minutes
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:36 AM
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That's ok man, you don't have to do that. Just focus on your strengths. Like what you did here. You asked questions, listened, and showed me you're taking my advice to heart. That makes me feel valuable and I'm definitely attracted to you now. If that sounds dumb or obvious, then that's one of your strengths, because we tend to think everyone has our strengths. In reality, a ton of girls don't care about taking advice or learning new things, and I'm naturally repelled by them. They're not wrong,…
/r/seduction05/09/17 12:33 AM
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I take rejections as "not right now." I'm not what she's looking for right now. And if I'm being clear in my intent, then she's not what I'm looking for either, so she's saving us both time. Rejections are great man.
/r/seduction04/09/17 02:37 PM
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Invite them somewhere fun first, then get their number as a way of staying connected so yall can do that fun thing
/r/seduction04/09/17 02:30 PM
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Ask questions, then listen to him and follow his advice. Figure out what he's into, then figure how how he got into it or why he loves it. Every man has a project or passion. If they don't right now, ask about their past. Be patient with him if he struggles through a story or joke. Touch him. If you have a thought pop into your head about something you like about him, say it out loud. Give him social status. This is hard to explain. But be his eye candy, or be his girl no matter how distracted y…
/r/seduction03/09/17 01:34 AM
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What makes you happy dude? Go do that shit, or watch that shit, and then share that vibe with a girl. She feels what you feel, so love on yourself for a minute and get yourself into a happier vibe.
/r/seduction03/09/17 01:18 AM
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Our eyes are attracted to value or threats. So you either frighten her, or you intrigue. Talk to her to figure it out.
/r/seduction03/09/17 01:15 AM
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Be congruent. Like, there's no one answer. Some of my guy friends love girls who are dominant and sassy. Some of them love girls who are giggly and submissive. I guess one constant though, is that every man wants to feel important. So help him feel important. Be interested in him and touch him and talk him up.
/r/seduction03/09/17 01:10 AM
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Just lower your expectations brother. Be honest with her and let the situation unfold as it is. Anxiety comes from aiming way higher than you should be. Just focus on the moment. I'm wondering if you're worried you'll let her down in bed or in a relationship. Because those are the next steps after you know they like you.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:50 AM
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Become the kind of guy that they would like. Do you like you?
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:28 AM
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Always have other girls. And don't date at work unless it's a job that you're leaving off your resume. If it's a bullshit job though, then fucking go for it dude. I had a threesome with a co-worker and our manager at a pizza place and it was fucking amazing.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:24 AM
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Yo, same boat dude. We broke up about a year ago and it still destroys me out of nowhere sometimes. 2 big things: 1) Date yourself for a bit. Figure out what you like. Find your center again. Make yourself happy. 2) Make friends with girls. No girlfriend for 6 months. (Trust me, it just ends shitty b/c you compare her to your ex the whole time). Just have fun with different girls and tell everyone you don't want anything serious right now. They'll wing you and set you up with their friends.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:20 AM
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There's a great video on YouTube about flirting, by school of life. Basically, flirting is just making the other person feel appreciated and valued. Flirting is also a way to verbally play with different scenarios to test out their comfort zones with you. Doing it verbally first is key because girls are at such a disadvantage physically that it's scary for them. But talking about sexual or romantic shit in a playful way gives them safety to draw their boundaries and see how you react to them dra…
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:13 AM
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Remember how shitty this feels and remember this pain the next time you see a girl you want to talk to.
/r/seduction30/07/17 07:04 AM
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What helped me a LOT, was to keep my mouth shut and express what I wanted to say through my body language. Or translate it to moans and groans. I've found that words are very awkward during sex.
/r/seduction10/07/17 12:09 AM
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So, you're specifically saying abundance with women. To do that, become attractive to women and constantly put yourself out there. Abundance in general though - you need to enjoy spending time alone. Then if a girl flakes on you, you don't get butthurt and ruin that relationship.
/r/seduction10/06/17 10:30 PM
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What would you do if they weren't there? Then do that, but invite them to join you. If you're doing stuff alone that they don't like, then you either need new hobbies or different types of girls.
/r/seduction10/06/17 09:48 PM
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That's amazing. Thank you
/r/seduction30/05/17 04:49 PM
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Ask her where she is. If she responds with anything, then she wants to hang out still. Invite yourself to what they're doing. If it's awkward when you get there, just say you're tired and have to go.
/r/seduction07/05/17 05:22 AM
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Great question. And that's what small talk is. Feeling each other out to see if yall can offer value to each other. If you don't really match up, then you give them value by leaving them alone or by connecting them to other people. A good general baseline though is to assume everyone wants to feel safe and valued. Start from there and you'll be good. Edit: also, "value" does not mean "exciting". A lot of girls just want someone to chill with.
/r/seduction29/04/17 07:44 PM
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Think "what kind of value can I give them?" Giving money to someone is always easier than asking for money. I think that's the heart of approach anxiety.
/r/seduction29/04/17 03:55 PM
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The trick with this man, is to not flirt too hard at work. Let it be known that you're a sexual bring who's very available and non-judgemental about sex, but don't directly flirt at work. Flirt at the bar after work. And go for the reputation of "Oh my god you have to try this guy!" (also, don't pick favorites because it causes too much competition drama. Either they're all your favorite or you have no favorites)
/r/seduction29/04/17 04:37 AM
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Write everything you're feeling and thinking dude. Turn this mental freedom into something productive like figuring out your shit
/r/seduction29/04/17 04:30 AM
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Why?
/r/seduction29/04/17 04:29 AM
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You could just friend zone her and have her help wing you for other girls. Opening new girls goes SO much better when you already have a girl with you. That'll polarize her quick too. She'll either help you a lot, like a good sister, or she'll get jealous and start trying to get you all for herself.
/r/seduction29/04/17 04:23 AM
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From my outsider view, I see two options. One, you confront them and see what you're doing wrong so you can change. Pick the dude that's mean to you and meet up one on one (or call him) and ask him to be straight with you. Or ask the girl that's friends with everyone. Two, move on. Value your time, value your self, find new friends that care want you in their life.
/r/seduction23/04/17 01:39 AM
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Every relationship has 2 people and a space in between them where they interact. If one person is pushing too hard into that space, the other naturally draws back to keep their personal space/identity safe. Girls especially learn this early because terrifying situations happen when you don't back away from dudes who push too hard. Pull back a little, back to the middle, and let her bring her personality into your bubble. Girlfriends like that because dudes never give them space to do nice, creat…
/r/seduction06/03/17 06:14 PM
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A girl asking you anything is showing interest in you. Her saying that she was too old and you too young was her testing to see if you cared about the age difference. She's not gonna sleep with you if she thinks she'll be judged negatively for it.
/r/seduction20/01/17 05:10 PM
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How to talk to anyone by leil lowndes
/r/seduction08/09/16 03:13 AM
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Thank you for this =). Your perspective makes dancing a lot more enjoyable. I like the tribal and family aspects you bring up.
/r/seduction22/07/16 04:32 PM
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Think of it as you're feeling a soft flower with your lips. Lips are basically just really sensitive fingertips. And don't say "I don't want to suck." Say "I'm new to this so I'm gonna suck for a bit."
/r/seduction22/07/16 04:24 PM
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Don't masturbate brother. Let your horniness build up and then give it to her as a gift. She'll love it. And general tips: . Focus first on getting both of yall comfortable before you start going for an orgasm. . Eat her out. Then teach her how to pleasure your cock. (Assuming she's new to that too) . Lead the interaction. She's going to be way more nervous than you. So just follow your gut, do what you think is right, and then always be receptive to how she's taking it. . Virgins are notoriousl…
/r/seduction22/07/16 04:21 PM
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Yeah man, you can definitely turn those into longer conversations and dates. Ask her what she's doing today. Or invite her to something you're doing soon that she might be interested in.
/r/seduction21/07/16 03:14 AM
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After a dance: "Wait, you're awesome, let me get your number before I lose you forever. I don't come to these often." This is assuming yall had a good connection and yall like each other.
/r/seduction21/07/16 03:12 AM
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Yes I've read it a couple times. Ok, I see what you're saying now though. In the context of the book, you should hold off on telling him your opinion, and ask him why he did what he did. But then, if you still don't like it, tell him your side so he has an opportunity to get your friendship back.
/r/seduction21/07/16 03:06 AM
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If you're always growing and trying new things, then you're still mysterious. You're unpredictable.
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:39 AM
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Freedom. I love girls who are lost in the moment. Girls who don't react easily to me because they're too busy enjoying their own movie. And learn how to dance. How to move your body
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:33 AM
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Do both. Tell him you don't like what he did, and then work through it
/r/seduction21/07/16 02:31 AM
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Yes. And we ended up dating for 3 years too. Take a rejection as a "not right now". It's not a no, it just means that yall's life didn't match up that day. Don't take it personally and try again another day.
/r/seduction03/03/16 04:11 AM
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Yeah, I want to followup on thugswagyolo's comment. Self consciousness is the root of all creepiness. When you're self-conscious, you're throwing out clouded signals and the girl is going to have a hard time reading you. So it's going to come off as "creepy" because she can't tell if you're just nervous or if you actually covertly want to use and abuse her. And she's not going to take the time to figure out your motives if you're some random guy. So you gotta be very congruent and honest so she …
/r/seduction08/05/15 03:11 PM
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Ok, so the main goal is to give them the full range of emotions and to judge for yourself how secure and comfortable they are around you. If both of yall are pretty secure with yourselves, it turns into a really fun game where you're just blasting each other with escalating insults. To start, you have to make sure they know you generally like them. Girls are always wondering what everyone thinks of them. You've gotta build them up before you start testing them. So teasing itself is poking at dif…
/r/seduction07/06/14 03:45 PM
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