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The very next sentence: "Of couples providing follow-up data, 23 (68%) of the 34 sexually open couples and 32 (82%) of the 39 sexually exclusive couples were still together. Of the 23 couples who were sexually open in 1978, two couples had changed from a contract of sexual openness to one of sexual exclusivity; of the 32 couples originally exclusive, one couple changed in the interim to a sexually open marriage." It's only statistically insignificant if you consider a 14% difference to be. Stati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:52 PM
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" This is false. The follow-up study years later showed 68% of the CNM marriages were intact vs. 82% of the sexually exclusive ones. 14% is statistically significant. This is a direct quote from the article “In 1983 no statistically significant difference in marital stability was found” Also “Both higher education for women and outside work for women were associated with marital instability, irrespective of group.” That’s from your own link on the same page. The masses of unwed men with no prosp…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:02 PM
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As fascinating as your article on attachment styles was, it is still speculators. It does not equate to brain scans. It essentially amounts to one psychologist's opinion. Here is another psychologist's opinion, one who has treated non-monogamous couples, most of whom divorced: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/magnetic-partners/201307/the-slippery-slope-open-marriage?amp. But it doesnt say anything besides needing to follow rules/ boundaries. That’s true for all relationships. Here’s anoth…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 11:53 AM
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Source for 92% of open marriages failing: From your link “It was surprisingly difficult to find statistics on whether open marriages work. Ironically, open marriage isn't something we talk about all that openly. Some research suggests that open marriage has a 92 percent failure rate. “ Hardly conclusive lol. Even the author admits she cant find much. I tried looking as well and couldnt find anything definitive. Further, your latest data may vindicate that monogamy is not everyone's goal - I whol…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:48 PM
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The highest percentage of men who have self-reported infidelity (I thought self-reporting was problematic? It's not for the purposes of your own confirmation biases, I suppose?) per your source is 28%. This is well within the confines of the up to 40% of men who have one or more copies of the RS 334 allele that makes them less well-suited for successful monogamous pair-bonding, so not sure exactly what your objection is here. Your 40% is still for men who are already within long term relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:09 PM
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Thank you! I got to read them and yeah all of your studies are about men who are already pair bonded. How does that provide conclusions about men overall? This is called confirmation bias. You’re using studies about men who are actively in long term monogamous relationships to try and make the point that these men are neuro typical. There’s also the fact that people cheat even when pair bonded https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america https://ifstudies.or…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:21 PM
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Twin studies are normatively used as a proxy to determine the percentage of a behaviour that can be attributed to heritability vis-a-vis environment. I dont have an issue with it being twins. The sample size are all Swedish and already in long term relationships. There are a total of four studies within this thread (with the other three being under the automod) that link sexual monogamy to oxytocin, vasopressin and genes in men. You will not accept any of them for the absurd reason that the men …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:16 PM
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In a relationship doesnt have to be married ”A team led by Hasse Walum of the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, Sweden, sequenced the AVPR1a gene in about 500 pairs of adult same-sex Swedish twins, all of them married or cohabiting for at least 5 years, and their partners.” That’s tough to say because the questions are subjective and based on perception. That’s fair but shouldnt a sample size be reflective of the overall population. This is 500 same sex Swedish twins. Not exactly the world’s po…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:14 AM
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A couple issues 1) It’s only talkin about men in relationships 2) It uses questionnaires / self reporting 3) The sample size is small
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:44 PM
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I’m sorry I dont see anything that supports that claim Just a couple of studies talkin about a gene that may possibly say if a guy is more monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 02:04 PM
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Do you have any sources for the claim we’re made to fall in love with people we have sex with? Men were made to spread their seed so that seems like a direct contradiction
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:22 AM
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I thought this was common knowledge tbh Having game will always help you get laid, Chad or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:34 PM
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I’m a man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:49 PM
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That’s just … sad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:57 PM
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Pretty sure Cardi was never a hooker. Y’all sound old af callin stuff “hooker music”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:52 AM
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Going out once a week isnt gonna give you great chances At this point you’d have to try OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:16 AM
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That’s only if you include all the incels that arent even trying Most regular guys can get multiple dates with multiple women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:59 AM
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Uh men do it too
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:55 AM
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Damn so you have 2 things workin against ya. Best of luck to you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 01:42 PM
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If you can afford it you will never know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 12:31 AM
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I just gave you a few reasons. A man being attracted to a woman doesn’t make her special.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:59 AM
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Only broke men say that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:01 AM
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It’s one of many reasons Companionship Wanting to start a family Consistent sex Are a few others
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:42 AM
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Not at all Romantic attraction =/= interested in long term relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:08 AM
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That doesnt mean they want long term relationships Men on average are more attracted to women is the only thing you’ve provided evidence for.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:10 PM
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Just going to the gym and getting a great bod will have women interested
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:15 PM
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Nah You don’t have to be an objectively attractive guy to be attractive to a particular person. Personality, status, big dick , money , body can all raise your overall attractiveness even if you take below average pics
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:14 PM
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Ridiculous mindset Being attracted to someone’s personality is not about settling
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:08 PM
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Maybe it depends where you’re from but this is the first time I’ve heard a woman say Jason Mamoa isnt attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 01:38 PM
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You keep mentioning “altering appearance” and “artificial” I’ve provided several examples of other things you deem acceptable that would apply to. You’re being hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:03 PM
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Bullshit I’m singling them out. There’s a huge distinction between grooming and using artificial products to temporarily alter your appearance in order to lie about how attractive you are Yet you can’t articulate that difference lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:59 PM
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Who said anything about hair gel? That counts as artificial but getting a haircut doesn’t. Okay so we’re getting somewhere. No hair gel. What separates a haircut? What’s naturally about man made machines altering our hair? And makeup actually changes your appearance whereas lotion doesn’t. That’s the difference and honestly it’s not too hard to delineate There are people with skin conditions that use specialized lotions to change it’s appearance. Using your logic they should just leave their ski…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:47 PM
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You’re still arbitrarily deciding what’s considered “artificial”. What makes lotion or hair gel anymore natural than makeup? How is styling your hair in a way that’s different from what it looks like when you wake up in the morning any different than makeup? Both involve either covering up flaws or straight up changing your appearance through the held of unnatural products
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 02:35 PM
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It's not at all arbitrary. Using lotion to improve your skin isn't lying about your skin just like going on a diet isn't lying about being fat. Eating less food is natural Putting man made products on your skin isnt (according to you). Getting a haircut works with your natural hair but there is nothing natural about putting on makeup. There is nothing natural about fake eyelashes or contouring to make your features look different than they actually do. How is gettin your hair cut / styled to loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:37 PM
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But people use artificial chemicals on their hair too. You seem to be drawing arbitrary lines on what’s acceptable. What about skin care products? Some people naturally have bad skin but use artificial products to improve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 12:08 PM
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Why is basic grooming ok tho? It changes the style of your hair. Even cutting it goes away from how you look naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 12:00 PM
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Do you think grooming your hair is “lying” since you’re “altering your natural look”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 11:56 AM
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This is the best explanation I’ve seen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 02:45 AM
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That’s the thing Some people will pretend to be interested to get what they want. That’s where logic comes in. Gotta recognize if someone only shows you affection or gives attention when it’s convenient for them. Passion is cool but basing your relationship on just that is why the divorce rates are so high.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 03:39 AM
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It’s supposed to be both If you only go by “feel” you as a woman you’ll get constantly pumped and dumped. If you only go by “feel” as a man you’ll get used for free meals and dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 03:33 AM
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The halo effect is a real phenomena Attractive people are universally treated better. There are still going to be assholes who are jealous, mean, creeps, etc but regular people deal with them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 06:53 PM
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Not even trying to be rude but your “problems” sound lovely compared to what most men deal with. I can’t speak on the women’s problems but they dont sound all that different from what normal women go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 06:31 PM
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I think the opposite Hot people / above average people underestimate how difficult it is for the rest of us. I grew up with a super hot friend of mine (typical Chad) and witnessed girls going out of their way to be flirty with him. I even had another friend that was pretty much given a love note from a girl that wanted to fuck. A female friend of mine saw a pic of me with my Chad friend and wanted his #. These type of men live in a completely different world from regular people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:59 PM
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Yikes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 02:41 AM
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Uh yes? So is negging
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 08:03 PM
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So what do you do until you find the heathy food? Saying it’s a false dichotomy doesnt make it true
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 08:02 PM
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You can literally go to RP right now and look at the their “about section”. It’s all about manipulating women and how it’s a man’s job to train her
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:25 PM
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Sorry but if the choice is between finding a way to digest poisonous mushrooms or starving then most will choose to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:23 PM
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The women want relationships. Stop trying to be coy. RP teaches men to manipulate women for sex. FDS teaches women to manipulate men for relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:45 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3pltm2/humansockpuppets_guide_to_managing_your_bitches/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf This is linked to as a reference in the “about section” Look at what it says for level 3 the SO or gf. References the other women you’d still be having sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:44 PM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:01 PM
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They literally tell you not to get married and advocate cheating on your SO
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 11:14 AM
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Plenty of red pill incels too lol Incels are like roaches They’re everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:31 AM
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FDS is also insulting I’m not defending them Just saying both groups are disrespectful towards the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 12:28 AM
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Pretty sure refering to women as spinning plates is just as insulting
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 12:23 AM
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No it doesn’t It doesn’t even make any attempt to The only thing it adjusts for are the rates during the day vs after dark.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 10:09 PM
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Of you isolate all other variables, and black people are still treated differently, then that proves it's because of their race. Im not talking about one black person im talking about averages. Do you even know how statistics work That’s your own words. The study does not isolate all other variables. Feel free to argue against your own words or admit the study doesnt provide evidence for racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:50 PM
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You didnt look at the data It’s based on a bunch of states and different police departments. They used their data. But way to ignore the rest of my comment. Back to being intentionally obtuse I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:14 PM
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You didnt look at the data It’s based on a bunch of states and different police departments. They used their data. But way to ignore the rest of my comment. Back to being intentionally obtuse I see
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:14 PM
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Harder to see the car at night too Point here is that they didn’t actually control for all variables And my overall point is that scientific 100% conclusive studies on human interactions / behaviors are practically impossible to find. It’s unethical to test for every possible variable so you won’t find it. That’s why studies about mistreatment will always be limited or nonexistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:05 PM
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I don’t see any mention of controlling for variables outside of comparing pre/post sunset. Are the black people driving worse cars? (Poorer people could be discriminated against more) Are the black people committing more traffic violations?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 08:55 PM
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Of you isolate all other variables, and black people are still treated differently, then that proves it's because of their race. Im not talking about one black person im talking about averages. Do you even know how statistics work So provide me the sources that isolate all other variables and prove it’s because of their race
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 08:44 PM
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I want a source showing black people are treated differently specifically because of their race. Anecdotes aren’t evidence. I need peer reviewed scientific studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:26 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:10 PM
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Racism IS the diffent treatment of people of a certain ethnicity. Based on race. The studies don't prove why people are racist. But they do prove that racism exists They don’t prove that the differences are based on racism
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 05:47 PM
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No it isn’t The studies don’t prove why black people are treated differently. Using your logic there’s no proof of racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 05:20 PM
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Do you think racism is fake? There aren’t any studies that can prove people are doing things due to racist thoughts (since we cant actually read minds…). You’re being intentionally obtuse and I can’t figure out why
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 04:01 PM
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Women dont want abusive men (well healthy women at least). They’re just willing to overlook abusive behavior if the guy is hot enough. Average-below average men will do the same. Difference is those hot women wont even look in their direction while the hot men will still pump and dump the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 01:01 PM
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5 x 4 Not micro but well below average Plus im black so i got the stereotype workin against me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:38 PM
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So you dont have any evidence for your dumb theory? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:37 PM
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I already provided you the subreddit for small dick men You havent provided any evidence to contract anything I’ve said
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:01 PM
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The ones with small dicks do That what you dont understand. You think small dick men are just livin their best life. Ignorance is bliss and you’re livin a wonderful life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:51 PM
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Yeah you aren’t allowed to talk about it in real life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:37 PM
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We’re talking about small dick men. Not just incels. I’m not a bitter man. I have a fiance. I’ve had success with women. But I have still had the same experiences with my dick and completely understand what they go through. Small dick men become bitter because of how they’re treated. You’re the butt of every joke. You’re the go-to insult for every man. You’re not even considered a man by society. The fact that you have 0 empathy for this situation is only more fuel for my argument. Women dont ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:30 PM
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I literally had a girl blurt out “it’s small😕” when she saw mine for the first time. She wasn’t a shitty person and immediately apologized but the damage had been done. There are other women that you can just see all of the excitement leave their face once they see your dick. You can tell they’re thinking “that’s it?”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:26 PM
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If an entire group of people are saying the same thing you dont think there’s any validity to it? You are dismissing these experiences. You sound like the type that “doesn’t see color” if a friend tries to tell you about discrimination they face. Willful ignorance isnt a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:24 PM
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I’m sorry you want peer reviewed studies on womens’ reactions to seeing small dicks? I could show you plenty of evidence that women want above average - big dicks. But it sounds like you want to just dismiss an entire group of men’s experiences. Imagine telling any discriminated group that their personal experiences arent valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:12 PM
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I have a small dick You can also go to r/smalldickproblems and read about their experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:08 PM
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Men feel that way because of women reactions Imagine if when you took off your pants men could react with extreme disappointment or straight up tell you that your vagina isnt good enough for them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:59 PM
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Nah… Plenty of women will talk shit to the guys face too Y’all really dont understand how much it hurts to pull out your dick and be met with a look of pure disappointment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:58 PM
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Yes and no When you have a little dick and you get dismissed made fun of for it you’ll be discouraged from trying. Plenty of small dick men get ghosted or receive over the top reactions
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:56 PM
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Not true Knowing you have adequate size influences so much. Men with small dicks can often be terrified of the reaction from women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:54 PM
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Yeah i dont think that’s how it works at all Women arent that desperate for sex If you’re good enough to please her she’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 04:23 AM
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Just because she had better dick before in her life doesnt mean it’s readily available But even if it was women usually aren’t in relationships just for dick
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 02:14 AM
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Forgot small dick
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:24 AM
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Are you drunk or somethin?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 12:06 AM
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I read your comment like 10 times and I dont understand it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:56 PM
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Why in the world would you think that’s a possibility? If you’re bad? Okay I get it. But let’s say you’re a solid 8/10 I dont think she’s gonna be thirstin for 10/10 dick
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 11:44 PM
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The entitled whiny part is because this sub is full of incels / wanna be RP men. Sounds like you’re surrounded by above average men if they have no issues with sex. But as far as your friend, do you not see how that could be confusing for him? You were essentially acting like his gf minus the sex. I get that we view friendships differently but getting to the point where you’re acting like a couple despite no romantic interest is taking it too far imo. How is someone supposed to tell the differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 02:39 PM
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I’m not going to get into that whole hypersexual masculine man thing because it suspiciously sounds like shaming women for wanting attractive men, which I don’t get down on. No shaming. Just speaking how things are and how men have have to adapt to it. So if they connect with a woman who I assume they find attractive, their mind heads to romance. With women, we don’t automatically assume romance because we don’t have an issue with getting our emotional needs met. It’s just how we are with friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:53 PM
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As a man this is spot on But OP is referring more to orbiters who cant get sex and who want to get into relationships. Part of it also is that a lot of guys start off blue pill and looking for relationships but you quickly learn that women will overlook you for the hyper sexualized men. They’re considered more masculine so you’re either forced to adapt or you become a constantly friendzoned orbiter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:10 PM
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Just hanging out One was in college at the guy’s dorm The other was just literally chillin with the guy at his place with 0 interest in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:29 PM
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No I mean they’ve done this with men who you wouldn’t call a “literal genuine friend” Stuff like this can be a coin flip for the guy because he doesn’t want to come off as rapey or creepy. On one hand we’re supposed to go for it. On the other hand we’re not supposed to sexualize every situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:26 PM
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I quite literally know multiple women that have done this with 0 intentions of fucking the guy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:51 PM
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You’d be surprised A lot of dudes get friend zoned to the point where a girl will dress around him without thinkin twice. I wasnt there so I dunno how obvious your signs were but it can be confusing as a man. Some women are flirtatious but dont actually want us and act offended if we make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:28 PM
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Women have a lack of success as well. Remember that they want the top 20% so having their fill of unattractive neckbeards doesnt mean anything to them. Same way a lot of incels always turn down whales or ugly women. The reality is as long as you’re average-above average as a guy you can get into a relationship with someone your level or higher easier than a woman can find someone on her level or higher. Women are more desperate to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:12 PM
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Completely disagree Society puts more pressure on women to be in relationships and the reality is higher n count is less valuable for women but more valuable for men. Women who remain single are thought of as riding the CC while a man gets applauded as a bachelor when he’s successful while single. Also marriage and kids are placed on women instead of men. They feel obligated to carry on this tradition so they’re at a disadvantage compared to men who dont care nearly as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:40 PM
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Pretty sure redpill knows women control sex but men control relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:32 PM
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Eh the shorts thing is tough There are a lot of women that genuinely wear short stuff to be comfortable in their own home Half the time guys get called creeps for even finding women attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:32 PM
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Based on their other comments I have no clue
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 02:56 AM
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I want a girl who knows what she’s doing from Day 1. Agreed What am I supposed to do? Teach the love of my life about an entire world of sexual experiences and pleasure? PASS. This really gives R. Kelly vibes. Unless you’re really young this is creepy. I want Chad to teach her first and give her trust issues. 🥱Assumptions. Anyone can have trust issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:37 AM
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I dont want a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:29 AM
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I’d nope out of there I think it should be fair to request a phone check if one partner is asking suspicious but I value privacy too much. My fiance knows my phone pw. I leave it unguarded around her all the time. I even let her use it sometimes. But I dont agree with someone just going through my stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:26 PM
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again, people love calling men incels for not being okay with obvious bad character traits and redflags in women Have you ever been in a LTR? Judging by your tone I doubt it. give it up man, you settled for a lower quality woman and now you're justifying it Let’s make a few things clear. 1) Watch your mouth 2) We lost our virginity together 3) I dont give a damn what you think. You aren’t the arbitrator for what makes someone a good partner. You’re some angsty teenager that discovered redpill. G…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:43 AM
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Lmao You must be an incel Im a grown man with a fiance. You can have whatever standards you want but keep your bitter insecurities to yoursef
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:36 AM
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i only date women that value long term relationships That’s cool i don't want to marry a woman that found pleasure in being pumped and dumped by 30 men Also cool, doesnt mean you should be telling other people what to care about whenever men have standards, women cant help but shame them and call them insecure, that only works on weak desperate men I’m a man
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:51 AM
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if someone also didn't consider cheating in the past a red flag i would say the same thing Eh it depends. Not every situation is equal. If someone can cheated once as a teenager I wouldnt care. most people are naive, desperate and inexperienced, so what they're okay with and arne't is irrelevant in determining redflags You come off as incredibly insecure. N count is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:15 AM
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You do know that each person can decide their own red flags, right? There are things I consider red flags that you may be okay with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:07 AM
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I’d made my point several times over and provided citations when you requested it. You’ve sat there and deflected without anything to counter my evidence. If I had to put a number I’d say 60%. Here is my reasoning We’ll operate under the premise that these 5 things are the most important factors for women. We’re also gonna operate under the premise that a man will have moderate experience since we agree an inexperienced man will almost always struggle with women. Height, body, sexual prowess, pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:02 PM
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I’m not saying that you need to have a big dick to get play. I’m not saying that 100% of your success is attributed to your dick. I’m saying you hit the genetic lottery in that regard so success with women is easier for you. Your perspective on what it takes to get women is skewed because of this. You wont even acknowledge how lucky you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:39 PM
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Why did you make the OP only about men being cheated on? Wouldnt this work both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 02:15 PM
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Start dieting and hit the gym. It will change your life as it has so so many others. Been there done that. Already linked you to a study showing dick size is just as important as height. I’m honestly one of the best as giving head too. Still doesnt cover up the fact that someone like me will never be as sexually successful as someone like you (success as in no only desirability but the the ability to make women orgasm through PIV) I’m not sure what “cope”. Plenty of women talk nonstop about want…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:48 PM
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Oh so you’re dismissing all of the evidence lol Okay bud, you’re just the Donald Trump of the dating world. Keep lying to yourself that you’re selfmade when you had everything you needed handed to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:49 PM
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I’ve actually been in a situation kinda like this Been with my fiance for about 8 years at the time Had an absolutely gorgeous coworker (also about 7 years younger, me late 20s her early 20s) that I didnt know that well at first. As I got to know her I learned she was actually super sweet with an amazing personality. I wouldnt say it was “better” than my SO but you could argue it was more in line with my “dream girl”. As me and coworker became friends she even hinted at one point but I never tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:47 PM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30681032/ https://theculturetrip.com/north-america/usa/articles/penis-size-self-esteem-size-does-matter/ https://www.pnas.org/content/110/17/6925.abstract?sid=3396cc78-d537-4e7b-97b9-7301dba36d6d https://bigone.dating/best-penis-size/ https://connecticut.cbslocal.com/2015/03/03/expert-men-have-terrific-insecurities-about-penis-size-want-to-be-sexual-provider/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23006745/ Plenty of citations for you. Evidence of self esteem, better org…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:24 PM
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So now it’s my confidence rooted in my big dickness that was a genetic win? Do you read the shit you write? It’s fucking idiotic! Lol no, men can be confident with an average dick, many more are. Bro. The big dick is the genetic win. You’re built like a porn star. It comes with a lot of privileges including extra confidence. That can only be proven by someone who actually done it. Those people are rare because those who do find similar success. Nah, people like you have women ready to fuck them …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:23 AM
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Literally dont care
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 12:02 AM
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I’ve been actively rejected for it. STOP assuming my life lol. 🙄 the horror. I’m sure the other 99% that worships you eases the pain. I didn’t know 5’9 and skinny was genetic lottery. But thanks for validating me. Stop talking about my dick lol. Do you think big dick guys just go around telling women about it and automatically get sexual success? No. Just no. Yeah let’s pretend the term “big dick energy” doesnt exist. You have the luxury of not having anxiety surrounding your dick. I’m talking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:27 PM
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So with this presumption in your head you will dismiss what majority women say and only believe the opinions of fringe groups? Excellent critical thinking there mate. It’s not a presumption. It’s from learned experience. No woman first fucks me because I have a big dick. She has to get to see me naked before that. Our worlds are not so different. Also, big dick is no guarantee I’ll be good at the sex, there’s a high risk of me causing more pain than pleasure. Once again the base of your assumpti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:39 PM
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Why would you afford more credibility to women in those spaces over others? Because blue pill women lie. They mean well and want to be nice but they arent honest. The women here and in FDS are brutally honest That’s not the reality. Reality is most men are lazy. Most want to receive rewards with little to no effort, and women are the same. I’m going to be completely honest with you. You have a big dick. You live in a different world compared to the average man. You’re like a trust fund kid tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:45 PM
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Trust me. Women give tonnes of lenience. Women stay with dudes that don’t even wash their arse properly. The bar is low. I agree but usually the one thing he knows how to do is fuck. It’s harder to keep a women as a selfish lover or someone with high disgust. Do you know how many guys can’t be asked to even give head to a woman? Just being enthusiastic about her pleasure is enough for most women. That hasnt been the message from most women on here or in FDS. You gotta have a big dick and know th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:18 PM
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It will give you more opportunities to be exposed to single women who may like you, therefore more opportunities at sex. If you suck the first time it’s okay because she gives you more leniency to try again. Try again and be attentive to her needs you build experience. I think this approach can work if you’re young. Once you’re into adulthood women dont really show leniency for men that arent experienced sexually. Experience doesn’t need to come with a lot of women, just a lot of sex. But it’s d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:02 PM
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How will that make you better at sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:53 PM
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If you know of a realistic way for men to be selective and still have enough experience to satisfy their ideal partner I’m listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:49 PM
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You arent disagreeing with the notion that women want a man with experience. So let’s operate from that premise This isn't what I'm talking about. What I mean is that this guy without or with low sexual experience going to date just anyone or not? Will he bend his morals and personality just to be with any girl or will he stay true to himself. Yes he will because he needs to gain experience in order to keep his ideal woman happy. If he waits until he runs into his ideal woman she’ll leave him be…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 01:52 PM
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This isn't what I'm talking about. What I mean is that this guy without or with low sexual experience going to date just anyone or not? Will he bend his morals and personality just to be with any girl or will he stay true to himself. He’ll do whatever is necessary to have sex You can have low experience or options and not be desperate. Sure. But then you’ll also have limited experience and women will choose the guy with all the experience from running through women he doesnt care about. If women…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:29 PM
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This isnt true at all If a man doesnt have a bunch of sexual experience women dont want him. You get more sexual experience by having sex with more women. There was literally a post a few days ago about men that “just get it” sexually. If a man stays single he’ll never “just get it”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:13 PM
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Lmao okay pal 👌🏽 You literally have the luxury if having casual sex as a hobby because you’re huge and think you know if it matters Go to FDS and search penis, size, or dick Let know what you learn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 10:48 PM
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https://www.livescience.com/23785-penis-size-matters-orgasms.html And you’re fucking huge smh I cant say enough how much I hate big guys that pretend like they arent
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 09:49 PM
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Studies have shown that women with ideal size partners do cum from PIV. It’s just that a lot of women are with men that cant satisfy them. It’s always big dick men pretending size doesnt matter lol. Women and men who smaller dicks that have dealt with women know it does. Here’s the thing. I actually do okay with women. I have a fiance. But the fact that no one can offer real advice in the situation just shows how delusional big dick guys are. Y’all live life on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:39 PM
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Saying it’s unimportant is such a lie Big dick guys have that luxury cuz they dont need to worry about it Women will stop talkin to men over it. They will make fun of men over it. Plenty of women genuinely cant be satisfied with a small one
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:50 PM
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That's not that small, as long as you don't have a micro penis you're fine. If only women felt this way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:36 PM
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5 x 4 Also only 5’8
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:27 PM
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What do you do if you have a small dick OP?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:22 PM
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A lot of fluff in that response lol Yeah women in relationships tend to settle for their match. But single women looking to hook up go after Chads. I say this from knowing plenty of men and women. The single women I know refuse to “settle” and spend their time chasing Chads. The men I know that get the most women are those narcissistic personality types that y’all find attractive. There are plenty of women that get tired of being played by Chads but they also stop having unrealistic expectations…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:19 PM
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No one said anything about cheating Women want the man that “just gets it”. The only way a man knows women that well is from experience, LOTS of it. So she chases after Chad because he “just gets it” and they have great sex. But then she has the shocked pikachu face when she learns Chad only wants sex from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:09 AM
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We get it The most experienced guys will be the best at sex. That’s fair and makes sense. It’s just annoying when women chase after these womanizer types and cry about all men when she cant make him settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:22 PM
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Non sense lol Everyone is different
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 05:34 PM
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Nope Regular men can be short and long roads with no gratification
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:49 AM
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Not at all A regular man isn’t “guaranteed” money. It’s more like playing the lottery instead of investing into a pyramid scheme
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:12 AM
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Hence those women choosing to take their chances with a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:05 PM
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Bruh, it’s not for me it’s for my female friends 😂 I tried givin this kind of advice too. This one guy was nice, cared for her daughter and everything but it turned out he was secretly talking to his ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 09:22 PM
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Oh help me with this one Because as a man I’m not even sure how to make sure a guy is legit. One of these shitty men passed all the things I normally look at. What should they be vetting for?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:39 PM
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Not sure why you think wanting marriage means you dont want sex with physically attractive people lol. That doesnt mean she wants to be on the CC.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:38 PM
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In my friends’ cases they were treated poorly by “average” or “nice” guys. So to them settling in the looks department wasnt worth if since you still have the same risks as dating a hot guy. Committed relationship with shitty average guy <<<<<< casual relationship with rich/hot/ big dick guy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:37 PM
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They’re also “using” the hot guy. Believe it or not but women also enjoy sex with physically attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:33 PM
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I know a couple of women like this It’s not dumb The logic is that regular guys can be shitty partners anyway so at least with a hot(or rich) guy they’re guaranteed to get something they want out of it(lust or money).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:01 PM
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Yeah you think I'm going to care about whatever you say after that first line? You sound like you're from a country full of fat people with ugly tuberous saggy tits. Get lost. Lmao incel ass You’re gonna be so disappointed when you save up enough to meet your first escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:24 PM
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You sound like someone that has 0 experience with naked women irl. Very few people have perfect bodies and we all try to find things that highlight strengths while hiding weaknesses. Everything the other poster has told you is accurate and you’re responding like a teenager full of angst.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 12:55 PM
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High class women do plenty of drugs
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 01:38 PM
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I meant a direct tax for the service. So the dad pays it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 01:01 AM
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If the man requests somethin like this he’d be the one paying the tax.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 07:50 PM
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How is that building another anything? Child support and it’s network already exists. It’d be using a bank system to monitor the transactions. This doesnt have to be through the government as many banking systems already exist that can handle this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 07:49 PM
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Their are banks services that already exist for this. Could also charge a small tax to cover it. All you’d need is proof that the $300 went to daycare and voila Simple
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:19 PM
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Separate bank account for child support would solve that pretty quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:18 PM
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Honestly it’s no different than how we track stuff for mentally disable people. Have a separate bank account for child support and just upload receipts for proof of purchases. No need to be super exact so as long as you have a receipt of over the counter meds or food you’d be good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:15 PM
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Its in your nature to want to be around people that look like you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:22 AM
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Not at all Imo it’d like being weirded out by your partner’s taste in movies. I don’t have to like the same kind of movies as you for us to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:40 AM
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Assuming it’s nothing crazy (extreme/illegal fetish) i dont really care
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:33 AM
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That’s fair
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:41 AM
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Sometimes people just want to masturbate and not have full on sex, sex takes a lot more effort and time and sometimes you just want to do it yourself and not with a partner. It’s just totally false that having access to a woman who “can’t say no” or even one who never says no would prevent men from wanting to watch porn. I never said it did. Men have been watching porn long before women had autonomy. I’m just saying that times are not the same as before and that men didnt just use their imaginat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:55 AM
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https://metro.co.uk/2017/06/28/violet-fenn-historical-sex-the-victorians-disease-pornography-and-royal-sex-chairs-6664768/ Looks pretty freaky to me Prostitution, porn, sex toys I doubt there wasnt any freaky stuff going on. Sex back then was all about the man
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:53 AM
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Exactly I dont care for either but it’s a bad sign if the govt has that much power
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:32 AM
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Why do you think they had to “endure” it? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:30 AM
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Men have been doing freaky shit since the beginning of time. There’s statues of dudes fuckin animals and other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:08 AM
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I would actually prefer a woman who watches porn and masturbates tbh It means she knows what she likes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:05 PM
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Women didnt have a choice back then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:04 PM
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Uh men were putting their dicks in all kinds of random shit for thousands of years. Women also didnt have much autonomy and had to have sex whenever he wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:01 PM
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When I say name one, I don’t mean it literally :)) 🤦🏽‍♂️ i am not a mind reader lol You couldn’t find a female incel who shot up men.... don’t worry. I know one. They exist. A female incel? I need proof. I dont care what a woman looks like, there’s a man ready to fuck her. Do you think it’s to the same degree or nature? We aren’t talking about the 5%, we are talking about the majority. I have no qualms with admitting men are more violent and sexually perverse on average. Are there the same amoun…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:07 PM
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Which is exactly why places like FDS are telling women to vet accordingly and that it’s better to be single than it is to be pumped and dumped / impregnated and ditched... Who said there was anything wrong with vetting??? I think it’s great to tell women to have standards. My only issues with FDS is that it doesnt teach women how to vet properly and also teaches toxic behavior that will cost you a good man when you finally find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:51 PM
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It’s both Women making poor decisions with pos men Pos men not being there for their kids Women are not without fault in these situations
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:36 PM
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Name me one female pedophile ring. https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/nine-men-five-women-arrested-22911704 https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/two-women-arrested-alleged-paedophile-22706413 Not sure why you assumed it’s only men involved in this. Name me on female incel shooting up men. This wouldnt be a thing because women control the sexual marketplace. They take money in exchange for sex. Name me a female “ripper” or serial killer killing male sex workers/ or men. Same …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:25 PM
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People are just different Some can listen to the same song everyday of eat the same lunch everyday. Others crave variety. I dont think either are “weird”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:48 PM
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The type of men that are struggling to get women don’t have men to always pay for women. The type of men that do have plenty of money and women’s attention. Women are not special to them which is why those women get pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:37 PM
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Why would you think a woman is special before you meet her? Men that dont mind spending on women usually think of them like prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:34 PM
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So wait because some women are in deadbedrooms that negates everything? What about all the men that dont need prostitutes? Also LOL if you think the orgasm gap is because women are good lovers. Most are lazy and pretty bad. Men cumming is a necessity for us to live so it’s easier to make us cum. Religion is enforced by women too. Don’t pretend like only men care about religion. I’m not a fan of religion personally but incels suck, not the religions. But men arent the only ones in crisis. Way mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 12:56 PM
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The answer to that, OP, is because men have a rapey mentality. Why do you think men pay for “consent” (prostitutes) and women don’t? Because women have dicks throw at them the moment they hit puberty. Women instead take payments (dates, bills paid) for consent. Rape culture is the problem. Men want to have control over women’s agency and consent. This is true and part of the patriarchy They are obsessed with women’s desire to have sex. They want to dehumanise and destroy the reputation of promis…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 11:35 AM
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Yup I see it as the other side of the red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:54 PM
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Much like red pill I think it’s it’s base principles are correct but they take it too far. By all means protect yourself, work on yourself, have standards. But FDS promotes a toxic mindset similar to TRP that’s just selfish. Like the idea that a man has to take you to a nice restaurant at the beginning. The logic is that a man willing to spend is “generous” and is “more invested”. Nah lol. If a guy has that kind of money he will write it off as a business expense for pussy. The only way to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:51 PM
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Men are not simple at all. Please don't think my point here is to tell you that all men are manipulative assholes, but men are certainly not simple beings void of complexity. I don’t even think it’s complex though. I agree with everything you just linked. A lot of men believe it’s perfectly normal to manipulate women for sex. It’s considered “game”. I guess I’m not seeing what makes this complex. Men in general are all about getting laid (understandable) and will manipulate the woman to have sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:23 PM
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Please elaborate because men are rather simple
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:29 PM
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They dont make you bigger lol It’s just supposed to make your erections stronger but it can fuck up your dick
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:13 AM
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Doesnt exist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:08 AM
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What if you’re short with a small dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 11:35 PM
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Pretty ridiculous that you somehow twisted playing video games and doing self improvement as negative things lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:01 PM
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I personally dont like it when women wear a lot of make up Imo most of them end up looking like a clown because it’s uneven or doesnt match their skin tone. Professional makeup usually looks great tho
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 06:26 AM
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Strip clubs suck tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 01:22 AM
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Personally having sex with random women isnt a turn on while onlyfans is a win/win. I get to see pics of women I find attractive and they get some extra money. I also find regular women more attractive than most porn stars
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 01:21 AM
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A completely naive guy will likely be even worse because he has no idea what he’s doing. I agree that porn teaches a lot of wrong stuff about sex but a guy that watches porn can still be a great lover. It comes down to if he’s willing to listen and learn. No different than the naive guy. Imo ego is a bigger problem. Too many guys think they know how to please a woman and dont respond to feedback from her. Also a lot of women feed their partner’s ego by pretending to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:14 PM
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Honestly the difference in those men just sound like experience or selfishness Both guys likely watched / learned from porn but the first guy actually cares about pleasing women while the second guy is selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:07 AM
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Depends the relationship Some couples are legit equals
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:06 AM
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If a guy is a legit 8 or 9 he has woman all over him OP is smokin some strong stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 06:05 PM
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Maybe to other men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:08 AM
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It's not "shaming" to expect someone to put in more than 0 effort. It's "shaming" to assume that as a result of lack of success you can assume that no effort was put in... Bruh, if someone is in the bottom 1% of attractiveness that’s an effort issue. Having a great body alone brings you higher than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:20 PM
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I didn't say that so you'll feel sorry about me, I said it cause it's the truth and if it's going to spare some dude from the delusion, I'll keep doing it. Attractive means good looking face, period. It really doesn’t. Ask any woman, they are drawn in by more than a man’s face. If you’re having trouble with women you should ask a close female friend her honest opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:19 PM
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Good thing attraction is about more than your face. How you dress Your body How well groomed you are Your confidence Are all things that can make you way more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:25 PM
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I gave you sources you are ignoring them. I read both. One was a study showing that having a social network can help prevent depression. That has nothing to do with what you said. The second was about rats (lol) and had nothing to do with what you said. You just posted random studies without actually reading them. I'm doubting the credibility of your degree of you think CBT is the equivalent of shaming a man struggling for something out of his control. What I said wasn’t CBT. CBT requires effort…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:02 PM
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And? You think your undergraduate majors means anything in understanding reality? Most of psychology research isn't real science it's unreproducible. So let me get this straight. You think me studying the subject (and living it) for years is meaningless but a random journalist knows best? Okay buddy I'm not denying CBT works, but there is a reason social isolation is considered torture. When did I deny anything about social isolation? I asked for a source that supported your theory for curing de…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:26 PM
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That helpless feeling comes from neurotransmitters which comes from a feeling of connection to the outside world. Please read Lost Connections by Johann Harii it's an enlightening book on depression. He’s a journalist. If you have studies I’d be happy to read them but I have a degree in psych. I’m not just making this stuff up. Depression is not cured by shaming men who are unable to attract a mate by lying to them saying "you aren't working hard enough", Bro what? First off, I never shamed anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:10 PM
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I'm not depressed and this doesn't apply to me as hard as it is to believe. I'm trying to give you empathy for people I have known people who have committed suicide for these things. I’m not sure why you’d think I don’t have empathy for depressed people. I hate seeing people in those situations. That doesn’t mean I have to coddle them and make them believe that it’s okay to never try to improve anything. People with severe depression and anxiety(often combined) are usually making everything wors…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:58 PM
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If you are depressed one of the symptoms is lack of motivation which is directly related to neurotransmitters the same ones that would allow one to become more attractive to women. I’m not questioning a depressed person’s lack of motivation. So if you think that you can't just "get over" depression then you must also concede that you cannot just "put effort in and become attractive". Discipline and motivation are 2 different things. You should look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. If your mind…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:51 PM
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So then you should know exactly how important neurotransmitters are in motivation and energy..your comment seems awfully close to "just get over your depression" No one is saying “get over” anything. You can be depressed all you want but you were asking some questions that I provided answers to. At the end of the day the world is gonna keep spinning whether or not you decide to put in effort. The problem is you want “motivation” when you need to learn discipline. Depression and mental illness in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:32 PM
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Most of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:26 PM
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What if the reason is largely genetic? Your genetics determine your ceiling and your floor. Your work ethic determines which one you’ll reach. Even the ability to put meaningful effort into this is largely genetic (related to levels of testosterone and dopamine which are extremely low in socially isolated people due to a neutransmitter release called tachykinine) Yeah, sorry that’s not a good excuse. Low testosterone and dopamine levels don’t mean you have an excuse to not put in effort to impro…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:22 PM
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If you’re unattractive to 99% of women then you need to work on yourself to become more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:02 PM
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I spent my first 2 comments explaining exactly what I meant. For some reason it’s not sticking. It takes more than just being young to be attractive unless the man is a pedo or w/e the term is for a guy attracted to only teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:34 PM
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What's your point? Women “become” beautiful. Very few are just naturally beautiful. Most men must become. Are you suggesting that exceptions are the rule? I haven't dismissed the effort. I’ll specify that I’m referring to the US. Social mobility isnt that great here. The people with money tend to come from money. And saying that women don’t “become” is dismissing that effort. The original premise is pretending men work hard for their attraction while women just wake up with theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:16 PM
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I dont mean to imply that one shouldnt have standards or deal breakers. I just think a lot of women take it too far. Go check out FDS. They openly promote constantly giving the guy shitty tests throughout the relationship looking for one wrong thing. They have a toxic mindset that the man needs to be a unicorn while they offer...? It’s no different than how some incels will only want to date unicorn women and they insult any woman that is flawed. If more people were open to the idea that we are …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:22 PM
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Yeah that’s fair I often see the same kind of person complaining they cant find anyone while being so picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:13 PM
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I’m not just referring to just make up. I’m assuming you’ve dated a woman before so I’m sure you’ve noticed they spend so much in hair/ skin products, clothes, ect. Women in general put a lot of effort into looking good. A lot of them also have to watch that they eat and work out to maintain good bodies. The theory doesn’t hold up when when plenty of men are born into good situations. height, money, status dont always require “becoming”. Likewise the dismissal of how how much effort women puts i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:12 PM
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A couple issues with your initial theory 1) It’s very possible to be born into money and status. 2) Women usually work just as hard to be beautiful. Some are natural beauties but as a whole women put in a shit ton of effort to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:05 AM
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Everyone draws hard lines on their ideal list as well My main point is that if you have a list for your ideal partner but every single item is mandatory then you’re being unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:56 PM
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It’s not just about women admiring you. Other men too. They care that you are respected. Not everything is about PickMeishas and Golddiggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:39 PM
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Not at all They care that other people admire you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:56 PM
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Well in Disney everything is perfect and easy. You find the right partner who loves everything about you and you love everything about them. Reality is finding someone you’re mostly compatible with who’s pros outweighs their cons. Y’all push each other to grow and become better people vs already thinking the other person is “ideal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:52 PM
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I think the idea of an “ideal” relationship is Disney bs. Relationships take effort and communication from both sides to work. Odds are you aren’t gonna find someone that is perfect in every way. Her list is fine if it’s her ideal list. But if she refuses to give a guy a chance if he’s missing one thing from that list then she is being unreasonable imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:14 PM
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Why are those traits considered attractive? Why is a muscular man considered attractive but not a muscular woman? My point is that it is rooted in traditional gender norms, so the attraction to muscles goes hand in hand with attraction to dominance and volatility. You keep trying to lump the negative traits with the positive ones. It’s a sign of health, strength, testosterone, and perseverance. All traits that would make a man more suitable as a father in the past. Nothing to do with volatility.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:51 PM
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Because they’re more physically attractive A woman would love a nice stable muscular guy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 03:06 PM
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