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It sounds like he's laid all his feelings and stresses out for you and you are doing the same with us instead of with him. Well, I have talked with him about feeling inadequate and kind of depressed, but I'm not angry and I don't feel betrayed. Which confuses me. I told him I want him to be happy and that I'll be happy for him and her, if that's what he wanted. But that just made him more upset, because he said it probably wouldn't. We agreed that we are best friends and that we do love each oth…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 10:22 PM
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Do you think that he is the right partner for you? Honestly, I don't know anymore. I think he is a great partner and many amzing talents and attributes, but as "for me"...maybe he needs someone more passionate. In a previous post you mentioned that he felt like all you did was family stuff, has that changed? We're actually doing less family stuff, and I've started doing more outings with just my son (play dates with a mom group) which I wasn't doing before. Have you put on an effort to be the wo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 09:57 PM
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Thank you for your response! If he's not successful in his career, there's not a lot you can do and deflecting responsibility to you for not making him "feel powerful and confident" is just lazy. It's so weird to read this, as it's completely the opposite of what he's been telling me! He says I'm the reason he decided to go after his dream and that he wouldn't have tried this if he knew I wasn't going to continue to support him. Perhaps he'll realize he's in the wrong field, that he's coming off…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 12:33 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 11:11 PM
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Hello! Like I mentioned elsewhere in this thread, my husband is the bee's knees when he's in a good mood. He's a very acomplished man and although he has very little patience with incompetence, he tries to be a guide and mentor for me when he's in a benevolent mood. It just seems like those days are becoming further apart! That's why I came here. To seek help!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 11:09 PM
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I usually do wake up before him. Our son likes to wake up around 5:30 and my husband likes to sleep until 7. However.... I did make breakfast this morning and he was in a much better mood today. He did get a little upset when we got home today and we were taking too long to get out of the truck (our son wanted to get his truck which fell on the floorboard), but he wanted to make sure we were inside before he took a shower. Also, he doesn't have a full time job, he has a few "per diem" jobs he do…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:53 PM
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Thankfully, we love the same music, movies, and general philosophy! :D Read The Empowered Wife and do each chapter like a week at a time implementing them into your life. By Laura Doyle? I just looked it up and the reviews seem like it's exactly something I need! Thank you for providing some tangible "homework" that I can use. :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 10:44 PM
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Thank you for your wisdom. I always want to make him happy and keep him laughing. He's amazing when he's "on point" but when he's angry, nothing satisfies him. Also, he keeps himself busy, because otherwise he'll get bored. But then he stresses out at being busy all the time! However, whenever his schedule has an opening, he uses it to sit down and think of all the things he needs to do in the future. How do I get him to slow down and enjoy the moment? What are somethings I can get him engaged w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 08:14 PM
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I want to plan things with him, but he controls our schedule, our vehicle, and our money. How do I plan things when he's always been the planner? I replied to teaandtalk with a more in-depth answer, but the sex thing has been going on for awhile. We have busted out a couple fantasies a few times, but they don't happen too often because of my husband's beliefs. It's still a good "one-time" fix that satisfies him for about a week. But when will the "craving" come back to me? When will sex become m…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 03:44 PM
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Thank you for replying. In our conversations, when he asked for my thoughts, I told him I believed we were going through a very tough point in our lives right now and that it would get better. He replied that pretending like we don't have a problem, won't make it to away. But I feel like I know that his mood is just in response to our financial situation and that it will get better. I try not to ask him for anything. He told me I shouldn't wear make-up, so I don't. I have three pairs of shoes (s…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 03:26 PM
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He really does. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 04:46 PM
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Sounds like you guys have a good thing going, even if it's starting to take a toll on you. Good things in life don't come easily. Thank you for saying this! I really believe our "traditional" relationship is amazing, even if others don't understand it. Maybe he's got a bit of subconscious added worry, given he sees such terrible scenarios sometimes. He does say, "I've seen what happens when parents aren't paying attention." So, I know it worries him. In the other sub someone mentioned that, beca…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 04:43 PM
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The post definitely turned out longer than I expected... I agree that our son could benefit from socializing. I never would have thought to try part-time daycare... I'm not sure my husband would go for it (partly because of financial reasons), but if I told him it was important to me, I believe he would do it. I have been reading a couple suggestions to swap childcare with the mom we meet for play dates and I want to try that. In addition to skipping a few naps here and there, I could potentiall…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 04:27 PM
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Thank you for sharing your schedule with me. I'm always interested in how other people structure their day and get everything done. that 1-2 hour nap when the kid is sleeping you could get a lot of your to-do list knocked out. Try only taking a nap with him like once or twice a week After reading how much you get done just during your lunch hour, I can tell this is a great piece of advice! I'm defiantly going to incorporate this into my week. I know my time-management skills could definitely use…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 04:11 PM
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If he’s at work for 75 hours a week, how does he know you put the baby gate up for 90 minutes to clean the house? He is a first responder and works 3-12s for one job and it's partly at night and the other job is half-spent at home. So he is home part of the day most days and usually wants us to come with him to run errands (can't clean house while we're out). Now that I think about it, I put up the gate more when he is home because I want him to see me being productive, rather than playing with …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 05:48 PM
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He plans on taking our son out to do guy stuff when he gets older (and starts talking).
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 03:21 PM
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He's very goal-oriented and always liked to have a physical plan for every project. The Plan is the one that designs our future. It's "where we are, where we want to be, and how to get there." Vaguely: It involves two businesses he started, a plan for travel, and a fallback plan.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 11:23 AM
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Hello! Our sex life is sporadic at best. If he's home during our son's nap, I'll offer sexy times with me or just to take care of him. Recently he's been brushing me off a lot, saying he's in the middle of something or just simply "not now." He always requires that we shower before and after (or just him, if it's a handy), so it usually requires a time commitment. However, he did allow me to give him one while we were on the freeway during a 23-hour drive last month, so that was fun. At night, a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 03:16 AM
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