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Double check usernames. I was the one you were talking to before, then someone else jumped in.
/r/MensRights11/03/18 08:25 PM
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Literally the entire point of my comment was that masculinity is not a bad thing, so I’m not sure why you’re posting an article that I clearly disagree with as though it’s some sort of “gotcha.” You found someone with a different opinion than me...good job?
/r/MensRights11/03/18 04:53 AM
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I literally talked about it in this same thread. Toxic femininity isn’t usually referred to by the same name, but the same kinds of behavior from women (punishing other women for not adhering to gender roles, forcing harmful gender roles on children) is something that feminists have been pushing against for decades.
/r/MensRights10/03/18 03:11 PM
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Yes I would. Moreso with the old-fashioned views of femininity than the feminists, specifically because that’s a better analog for toxic masculinity (punishing men for not upholding old-fashioned views of maleness). That’s why feminism has made such a push to break down traditional ideas of what it means to be a real woman; forcing people into behaviors and attitudes associated with traditional gender roles can be toxic regardless of gender. It’s just that the effects of toxic femininity gets de…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 02:25 PM
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Bitchiness, cattiness, and cliques. Girl on girl bullying has been a recognized issue for years, we just don’t refer to it in the same terminology. It’s also worth pointing out that it’s less of an issue now than in the past, because the definition of what it means to be a “real woman” has broadened significantly. But in the past, it was common for girls to also be raised with a very specific notion of how women were expected to behave, speak, and dress. Girls were guided towards specific career…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 02:14 PM
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I just want to clarify, I don’t think toughness and masculinity are inherently bad. I was trying to say that it’s only when taken to extremes, and applied in ways that hurt yourself or others, but perhaps I wasn’t clear enough. And “toxic masculinity” as a concept isn’t referring to masculinity in general, but to a specific set of toxic behaviors that are associated with traditional masculinity taken to unhealthy levels. It’s an unfortunate name for an important concept, and I wish we had a bett…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 01:27 PM
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Male traits can be amazing directed in the right way. That’s true. But the term “toxic masculinity” isn’t referring to directing male traits in the right way. It refers to a specific way of interpreting masculinity that hurts men. For instance, men are more likely to commit suicide, partially because they choose more direct methods than women, but primarily because a lot of men view it as “weak” to confide in other men. Many men aren’t comfortable expressing negative emotions other than anger, s…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 01:14 PM
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Depending on how it’s affecting your life, it can be. Conditioning boys to ignore pain, your body’s signal that something is wrong, can be a toxic behavior. Approaching every problem from a place of anger, even when understanding would be more effective, can be a toxic behavior. Discouraging young boys from expressing sadness can be a toxic behavior. And parental pressure to be tough can encourage boys to bully their peers who don’t display the same typically masculine traits, because they’re ta…
/r/MensRights10/03/18 12:47 PM
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Perhaps for them, it is empowering to hold onto a connection to their family history and not allow their identity to be subsumed by their husband's family. Sure, Western naming conventions are patriarchal, but there's nothing wrong with a woman being attached to the name she's had since birth. My name is so common that I went to school with a girl who shared my first and last name, and I'm totally excited to change it and form a new family with my SO, but I just can't get worked up about another…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 09:04 PM
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I have to preface this by saying I do plan to change my name after getting married, but your comment doesn't quite sit right with me. By your logic, isn't a man just keeping his own father's name as well? At what point does a name become your own? Some people value their name and their family history--that doesn't mean they don't love their husbands and consider themselves a family. My SO's family name is very distinctly Italian, and there are only a few dozen of them in the country, while mine …
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 03:33 PM
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No, she probably saw it. If your account here is anything like what you actually said to her, she'd have to have been blind and deaf to overlook how butthurt you were feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 10:08 PM
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Mostly because I'm on mobile and don't always see the age of a post.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/15 08:40 PM
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OP posted a piece of "satirical" drivel and expected us to have a serious conversation, why doesn't he have to leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/15 01:18 AM
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If you know she's in a relationship and you sleep with her anyway, then you knowingly and willingly hurt another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/15 04:11 PM
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No, but she is committed to another man, and by sleeping with her despite knowing that she is with another man, you are directly contributing to someone else's emotional distress. She may shoulder the majority of the blame, but you still aided her and participated in the act.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/15 03:27 PM
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Some things have definitely changed, but that original response to the idea of a debate sub did a lot to shape my opinion of Red Pill leadership.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/15 12:22 AM
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Slight misinterpretation. I think you're being too generous with regards I the RP mods' position. They thought that PPD was useless and unnecessary, and made it clear they would actively discourage their users from participating here. Given their behavior, I wouldn't say they approve of debate but only in the proper place; they don't want anyone debating at all, especially outside of their control.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/15 11:40 PM
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They had nothing to do with the creation of this sub and basically told the original mods to go screw themselves when asked to participate. If they hated this place so much, but they also want to keep the debate out of TRP, then that does suggest it's an echo chamber with no room for criticism or individual thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/15 11:29 PM
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I was so optimistic when I moved into my apartment...I brought a full bookshelf and my crafting box, but I've barely touched it. At least I love my job, which makes the loss of free time bearable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/14 02:15 PM
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Female, not RP. I'm a full time student (including summers and wintermesters) and I teach math until 7:30 or 8:00 most weekdays and on Saturday mornings, so my time for fun has taken a serious beating. In the past, though, my hobbies have included painting, knitting, crocheting, sewing, and Star Trek. I still enjoy reading (Isaac Asimov and Michael Crichton are my favorites, though I did enjoy A Song of Ice and Fire enough to read the first five books in a semester.) and cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/14 03:58 AM
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It's like once I have that one thing under control, everything else follows. I just have to take the leap and get mentally prepared for the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 07:48 PM
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Makeup is kind of like pants for me. It covers up my junk because no one else needs to see my zits or have an opinion about them. I want my pants and my makeup to be flattering in addition to functional, so there is an aesthetic component to my choices, but really that is about what I think looks good. I want to look in the mirror or photos and like what I see. I don't give two shits about whether or not a random person on the street thinks I'm attractive. I didn't ask them. And then some days I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 06:24 PM
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Do you wear pants for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 05:57 PM
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I love it when douches ask women to defend their choices to wear makeup then disregard what they actually say. Super fun. The first reasons were partially for other people, but you naturally glossed over the parts where taking time for myself each day and putting forth a clean slate help my own state of mind an my relationships with other people because they don't fit your preconceived ideas about the purpose of makeup. Why did you even ask this question if you didn't want anyone to give their h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 05:31 PM
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For me, makeup has three main functions: Hiding imperfections. I'm 21 years old, and when I'm talking to other people (classmates, my bosses, my students) I want their focus to be on me, not the giant, red, painful cystic pimple on my cheek. I want to cover that up because it's not who I am so I don't want it to be part of any first impressions I make. When I don't get a full night's sleep, I also get awful dark circles under my eyes, and then I get to spend the day being asked if I'm all right.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 03:30 PM
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I probably wear more makeup when I'm staying home alone. When else can I wear purple lipstick and smokey eyeshadow? It's fun to apply, AND it makes me feel pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/14 03:09 PM
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In your example, the married woman has to lie because the man is demonstrating honor by not knowingly sleeping with another man's wife. In the current series of posts over at TRP, the situation is entirely different. These guys are intentionally sleeping with married women and hamstering it away by saying "If she doesn't do it with me, she'll do it with someone else. Sexual strategy is amoral, after all! I have no accountability to anyone but myself." Anyone who objects to this way of thinking i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/14 01:41 PM
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Of course not. Men are just as skilled at rationalizing bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/14 10:05 PM
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I don't care about the number itself as much as an individual's attitude towards sex. A man who's slept around a lot is less likely to view sex the same way as me--as something special and intimate to share with someone you really love. If my boyfriend had been into casual sex, he probably wouldn't have been willing to wait as long as I needed him to before we started sleeping together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/14 03:27 AM
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I'm just following Jack's argument to its logical end. Apparently HPV can't hurt him, so I'm not sure why he's so hung up on using that one in particular as a reason to insult promiscuous women, but it sure as shit can hurt women. Since STD's totally happen even if you're smart enough to get tested first and use protection, the only reasonable course of action is to make sure that women quit offering sex to men, just in case. All that said, I think that he is severely underplaying the idea of sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/14 01:39 AM
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Given that HPV has almost no effects on men (according to you, I don't actually know much about HPV in men), why are you so insistent that men not sleep with promiscuous women? Wouldn't the more logical argument be for women to start withholding casual sex from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/14 09:17 PM
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I'm surprised to hear that, actually. What about a virgin bride in and of itself would be so appealing, if it isn't the result of shared values?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 01:12 PM
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Walking is a whole lot easier for me than for my grandfather, who is recovering from a broken hip. Should I be shamed for walking a lot? I really enjoy going for walks, and I am sympathetic to the fact that he can't get up and go for a stroll whenever he feels like at the moment, but why would he judge me for exercising my ability to do something that hurts no one and is a lot of fun? Would his energy not be better spent focusing on his recovery so that he can walk more easily himself? Edit: sor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 05:24 AM
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But compulsory celibacy would prevent you from identifying the personality trait you're looking for. Women who have no interest in premarital sex may be relatively few, but at least you know they made the choice themselves and therefore probably view sex the way that you do. If all women have to remain virgins or else, you don't really know their values.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/14 01:20 AM
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In what way is it limiting?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 07:31 AM
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Why would that be great? What would you gain from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 07:28 AM
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My boyfriend is pretty blue, and he's definitely straight and cis-gendered. We're strictly monogamous, the idea of cuckolding makes him a little ill, he's mentally sound and very intelligent, and as far as I've seen over the last couple years, he doesn't have any odd fetishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/14 07:26 AM
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