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| – | Q4M: do you find women only transport offensive?Woman here (sorry): I think especially in a place like Japan, this should be the norm. Japan is infamous for its harassment in public transport, and many women get groped. I'm in Europe and have only had it happen a dozen or so times in the metro, so I unfortunately don't think the issue is severe enough here for things to change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:07 PM |
| 2 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?As for the manipulative part, I have an example: I can go out with my friends. But if I can go out with my friends, he can go out with his friends. Fair and, imo, perfect! But when he goes out with his friends, he drinks. When he drinks, he cannot control himself. When he can't control himself, he will cheat. So indirectly, through this little path he made: If I go out with my friends, he will cheat. He also used his then-recently deceased mother to lie about what it means to be a good female pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: would you ever "go through the motions" to please your partner sexually?I talked about this with some other people before, and we all agreed that we have done it, and would do it in the future. If it's all with consent, it kind of feels like giving a massage. In these cases, the partner also has no suspicion or belief that the other person isn't into it, but that's the consent part, I suppose. While something like this should NEVER be EXPECTED, I still think it is very normal and completely okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 12:07 AM |
| 0 | Women altering their appearance in profile pictures is just as manipulative as men who say/do anything for sexI'm a unicorn, apparently. Sort of, anyways. I don't really take pictures, nor do I have social media. I hope it still counts. Like others have said: angles are fair game. My ID picture looks morbid and throws me down by a few points, so I get the preference of angles and decent lighting. As for the other stuff... I think most of it is a bit situational as well. Editing out a pimple or two is fine imo since it usually isn't even noticeable to anyone but the person who took the picture, but photo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Women altering their appearance in profile pictures is just as manipulative as men who say/do anything for sexOnce you meet each other irl, you'll both know the other person lied. Sounds a lot more equal tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 03:08 AM |
| 8 | WHY do I have to self improve just to get what others do naturally????????As a teen, luck definitely wasn't on my side. Ugly, socially anxious, neurodivergent, bad home life; the works. but WHY do you have to do so much insane levels of self improvement, hard work, going through embarssment and getting ridiculed by others, etc when the tall good looking neurotypical just decides to "be himself" and is able to effortlessly find friends, get popular, get female attentino validation adn relationships and find and maintain employment from all the validation he receives? B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: How do you decide whom to date between 2 men who claim to love you?I never really felt like I had to "choose" between people. Even if they are amazing guys, if I don't have feelings for them, I will turn them both down. There will always only be one person I have feelings for at most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 07:22 PM |
| – | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average manIs psychology not respected? Well... I do wish it was... Does it not need unique male insight in order to treat males? Considering psychology is based on research, men and women can still get proper representation if those conducting it are not biased. But worry not! Many of the modern notable psychology figures are still men. They found that women are still underrepresented among veteran psychological scientists... ...On average, men publish more psychological science articles than women every … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:52 PM |
| 2 | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average manShouldn't everything you said be true for this as well? Not quite. If it was a mere case of women simply not being interested, people wouldn't feel as much of a need for that push. But, to get the big one out of the way: representation. STEM is made up of fields that are all highly respected. This is where you'll find those who are capable, valuable and intelligent. Of course it would be nice to see more women in top fields with good pay and success. Diversity, like the other dude said, is also … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 04:17 AM |
| 3 | CMV: In nearly every metric we can measure in the west, the average woman is outperforming the average man“Long before female students outnumber men on university campuses, they outperform boys in high school. Girls in elementary school spend more time studying than boys, are less likely to misbehave than boys, and get better grades than boys across all major subjects. Yes, women outperform men in their studies. No, this does not mean men are oppressed. People are not privileged for getting what they work for, and people are not oppressed for not getting what they don't work for. Men are more likely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Do men want a woman like this?I think everyone could enjoy someone like this for a day or two. But this is more like birthday behavior than something that's actually sustainable. There is no spice... no personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 01:22 AM |
| 1 | CMV: "Protection" against false raep accusations is misogynisticIf she's drunk and you aren't - make sure you are also seen drinking by others in the party or by the bartender, or a selfie holding a drink, etc. Yeah, that one's yucky. I remember going to a party where we started drinking at 10 in the morning. As night came around, I was quite far gone. Another dude had joined the party somewhere during the evening. He tried to kiss me behind this shed/house, and I slipped and fell into the ditch next to us. I was completely covered in rank ass smelling mud, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Being shy or a little introverted can be considered an endearing trait in women, but is usually a very unattractive one for menMen approach women, but women don't approach men. Yeah, no, that's my point. Back when I was ugly and introverted, nobody approached me. We were both bullied for most of our youth and rejected by those around us, but it's different because I'm a woman and even though nobody wanted me either, I still had more chances... I had to change my whole appearance and personality in order to actually have any chances in the first place. I am introverted because I am still terrified of interacting with peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Being shy or a little introverted can be considered an endearing trait in women, but is usually a very unattractive one for menI'm also neurodivergent. People threw shit at me on my way home from school because it was funny to them. People told me to my face that I was ugly, laughing about how disgusting it would be to date me. I had no friends. Even as a woman, I have experienced the feeling of being completely alone. I am not a popular introvert because I'm a woman; I'm a popular introvert because I learned how to be attractive and social. I was obsessed with learning how to be liked, just so I wouldn't have to feel l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Being shy or a little introverted can be considered an endearing trait in women, but is usually a very unattractive one for menI'm a popular introvert, and I like guys who are homebodies just as much as I like guys who are outgoing. For me, it makes no difference. I've dated someone who knew quite a few people and liked to go out. But he had no hobbies. Unless watching TV counted, he had nothing that kept him busy aside from other people. I am the opposite and have a lot of hobbies, so it honestly baffled me how someone could have none. Conversations were dry. It turned out I had already found out everything about him b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Too many women want a father, not a husband.This mad me laugh, ngl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 01:07 AM |
| – | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?OP is hopefully trolling, don't mind em. Nothing "sus" about being short. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightAhh, yeah, fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightIt sounds like a comedy skit, but I feel really bad for the dude. I've had men try the same thing with me and it's extremely uncomfortable because we're all taught that it's rude to speak up, even if the other person is pushy and doesn't stop. I honestly hope the girl feels embarrassed too for trying to force herself onto him like that. Imagine making someone so uncomfortable, they end up falling off the terrace because they wanted to get away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightHow so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 01:59 PM |
| 12 | Q4W: What do you perceive to be 'weakness' in a man?I find people who are quick to anger extremely weak. Things like yelling, name-calling and using personal attacks to try and "win" an argument show immaturity, a lack of empathy and no ability to solve problems. For the same reasons, someone who is quick to judge others harshly is also weak. It's a big sign of insecurity. Having no self-awareness and being unable to introspect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 07:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV - Pornography is beneficial for society - It removes undesirable males out of the dating raceIt’s not as if no women enjoy the more extreme things you see in porn. I know they exist and I’ve dated some. The problem is that porn leads men to believe that all of them should. In a way, many women deal with a similar belief. My first relationship was also my first sexual experience. At 14, my ex was into extreme stuff. Obsessed with anal, rape, bdsm, you name it. I thought I loved it, too. I believed our sex life, at f*cking 14, was amazing! I didn't even care about how uncomfortable some t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV - Pornography is beneficial for society - It removes undesirable males out of the dating raceOof. I used to be porn-positive until my last relationship caused me to research and educate myself on it. Because it is used by low-value, undesirable, and unattractive men to release sexual tension. It is used by all sorts of people! Men, women, children, couples. The amount of porn someone consumes isn't only dependent on the amount of sex someone can get. It also removes them from the dating scene, where they would just pester women Nope! Unfortunately, it's quite the opposite... "In fact, r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What steps do you take to make men less afraid of you?I am 5'0" and a weirdo. I don't think anyone has ever been scared of me, lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Women who are sexually active, what’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex and how much of a struggle was it?I'm going to assume you're surpassingly lovely. Well, just like you, I've seen both sides too. I went through a similar process of completely turning myself around, and it turned me into a people magnet. It's really weird how easy people open up to me, but I love their company and stories! Whether I'm surpassingly lovely... it sounds far better than generics like hot, sexy or cute, so I can't really say... but a lot of people are very fond of me and my looks, so at least that's something. Unfort… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/23 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Is there truly someone for everyone?Exactly. Those incapable of feeling love will never be able to find their "true love." Frankly, I think many people aren't good partners unless they actively take the required steps to build their communication and empathy skills, as well as their self-awareness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Women who are sexually active, what’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex and how much of a struggle was it?Could you elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 10:05 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: if your wife asked you to get a vasectomy, would you?No matter how ideal it seems on paper, especially since I'm a woman, understanding the risks is very important. Thank you for opening my eyes to this issue! I think if me and my future partner both agree on him having a vasectomy, we should still take some time beforehand to research the potential complications and risks. There was a poll on the subreddit you mentioned where 8 people stated they were unwilling participants... that is extremely messed up. At the end of the day, if my partner does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 10:03 PM |
| 4 | Women who are sexually active, what’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex and how much of a struggle was it?Seeking out hookups is completely valid, but acting like it's golden cocaine and needing a frequent fix because she'll otherwise be in agony is... worrisome? If mere masturbation isn't enough to deal with her "cravings" to the point where a month without sex is like another circle of hell, I do actually find it mind-boggling. I also find it extremely cruel and disrespectful to suddenly lead the conversation into a talk about how she is going to sleep around a lot, considering she and OP recently… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Women who are sexually active, what’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex and how much of a struggle was it?About a year. One thing that kind of has me scratching my head is... barely over a month and that it was agonizing, and asked how I dealt with the cravings. What..? She talks like how I did at 17, only I actually stopped lying to myself soon after. for girls, sex is a genuine physical need that if not met causes extreme levels of distress. WHAT?? Don't get me wrong: I have a HIGH sex drive and have never had a partner that could match it. However, when it comes to sex... well... there was a qu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?Stupid as it may sound, the fact that I didn't get any comments about how pathetic I am and that I "should have just left if it was really that bad" kind of surprised me? Even I find myself looking at my comment and thinking it's not all that bad and that I just didn't do enough. I guess I expected to get comments that would side with my ex rather than me, since I did kind of end up becoming worthless, haha. It does make me sad that I really did try to be a good girlfriend, though. I didn't want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Which one is more likely to get you a girlfriend online or in person?As a woman, I must admit that there's quite a stigma surrounding OLD. Without trying to offend anyone, apps sort of feel like a backup for if IRL dating doesn't work... It's also very goal-oriented to the point where it comes across as desperation or sheer laziness. I guess there is some sort of shame tied to it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 07:24 AM |
| – | What is it like interacting with attractive guys vs an unattractive guys vs so-so guys?If I may also ask... What is the purpose of your question? Is it to read a woman's behavior better? Or was the question more focused on measuring their self-awareness? Also, take your time! It is very kind of you to leave a little message to let me know! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 07:16 AM |
| 6 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?Oh wow... I genuinely never expected a reaction like this on here. Compared to a while back, this sub has become a lot more empathetic and open-minded. I think if I shared the same story one year ago, I'd get a lot more "That's what you get for falling for Chad"-centered comments. I know when you haven't been raised properly it can be hard to act like an adult Without deflecting responsibility, I do believe the relationship between my parents played a part in it as well. My mother tried teaching… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 07:09 AM |
| 7 | Q4M: if your wife asked you to get a vasectomy, would you?While I'm a woman, I am a big supporter of having my future partner get snipped after we're done having kids. It kind of feels like an equal trade after years of horrible birth control and even worse pregnancies + childbirth. However, I wasn't aware that this could be a risk. With your experience, you're absolutely justified. I'm going to look into the complications a bit more as well now. I am so sorry your father has to go through this. If he wasn't properly informed beforehand, he should defi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:50 AM |
| 7 | Is there truly someone for everyone?Definitely true. Unfortunately, these people are still able to find themselves partners anyways. Literal psychopaths are objectively unable to find the one for them, yet many of them have spouses nevertheless. It's really weird... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:37 AM |
| 7 | Is there truly someone for everyone?You will unironically get crucified for this. I hope not. OP seems so sweet with their innocent curiosity... They seem really polite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Where do you all go for dates? What is the general cost?Hmm... I'm European, so the costs might vary. Activity Cost Arcade 20$ - 50$+ Dinner 60$+ Swimming 20$ Bar 50$+ Zoo 50$ Amusement park 100$ Café 30$ Movies 35$ These are the more generic ones off the top of my head. Every "+" means the price can vary significantly. Dinner could be 60$; it could be 600$. With bars, the price difference between cocktails and beer is also insane. Arcades are dealer's choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:31 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Where do you all go for dates? What is the general cost?Oh wow, this is actually amazing! You make it a fun little gamble. Pay for the first set of drinks. This is also a sweet touch, like a cute little freebie before the games begin. I'm a woman, but I'm definitely going to remember this one! It takes away a lot of the pressure and guilt. Love it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:13 AM |
| 9 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?My question is how you managed to finally realize what was going on and how it was destroying you, and how you managed to escape the situation? This was such an emotionally complex process, and I am completely fine if you judge me for it. Genuinely. In another comment, I explained my own past a little bit. I grew up in an abusive household and used to also be abusive until I started getting my act together in my late teens. Abuse has been present throughout my whole life, so I wasn't completely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 04:04 AM |
| 8 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?I was with him until June 22nd this year. I'm back with my parents and am starting at a new job this Saturday! I probably won't have the money to start uni this year, but I'll work hard to save up enough for next year. Did you ever have a similar motive? Unfortunately, I was abusive in my first two relationships. I was 14 when I got into my first one, and it brought out the worst side of me. There was a lot of envy inside of me which came from feelings of inadequacy. My mood could switch from ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 01:32 AM |
| 18 | How did you get manipulated? Are there really many male manipulators?I was 20 and my ex was 26 when we got together. I had known him for a year, and he was a very loyal friend. He had just gotten his first house and since it was quite a ride from my place to his, I stayed over for multiple days at a time. I was preparing for law school, so he knew I didn't have a job and wanted to focus on my studies. He told me I could do that at his place. I felt bad about him having to provide for me like that, but he assured me it was okay. After I would get my degree, I'd be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | What is it like interacting with attractive guys vs an unattractive guys vs so-so guys?Oh, I actually love this question! In social settings, I'm as approachable as they get. I hope it's okay if I use parties and clubs for reference. Both for the unattractive and so-so guys: If they approach me, I like to throw in a disclaimer early on that I am not interested in more than just friendly conversation. With most people, I am big on personal space and like to keep a bit of distance. Not too noticeable, but enough for there to not be physical contact. If they are still interested in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 10:54 PM |
| – | Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than menuntil I saw the ugliness deep in their heartless souls.. The people on here always talk about how women deserve to get hurt by Chads... Little do they know, the Chads usually aren't the ones that hurt us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 08:22 PM |
| 16 | Why do we always hear about "unrealistic female beauty standards" when male beauty standards are far more unrealistic?Mehh... I don't quite agree. Female beauty standards are basically "don't be fat" and learn how to apply makeup. You shouldn't be too fat, but you shouldn't be too skinny either. I'm at a BMI of 20.1 while I used to be at 27.8, which is quite overweight. Ironically, some of my guy friends still won't stop yapping on about how my body used to be amazing before it "fell from grace." When it comes to women's weight, many gloss over the importance of fat distribution and bone structure. Unless you'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 07:47 PM |
| – | Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than menRight?? My friends used to make fun of one of my exes who had big ears. It genuinely made me really pissed when they compared him to Dumbo, especially because I knew how insecure his ears made him. To me they were so beautiful. I nearly had a stroke when he told me he wanted to get surgery for them. Attraction is such an interesting concept. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 06:46 PM |
| – | Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than menshe’s almost embarrassed and gives a little warning Haha, yeah... the disclaimer. "I swear he looks better in real life; it's just a bad picture." My friends always sort of teased me about my boyfriends. They never really saw what I saw in any of my exes. With photos, I could see where they were coming from. A picture only shows a single frame; it doesn't have the sound of their laugh, the way their body moves, the way they look at you. Granted, I now realize that they all look almost exactly li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 06:38 PM |
| – | Women are way more forgiving of physical appearance than menI'm a bisexual woman, and objectively I believe women are more attractive than men. Naturally, women have more bits that can be appreciated. Butts, hips, breasts, thighs, faces, stomachs... just about every body part is one that can spark debates on what is more attractive. To the eye, rounded shapes are more appealing than stronger, more defined ones. Holding a ball is more soothing than holding the sharp end of a knife after all. Femininity is often defined by these softer features. Round eyes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 06:22 PM |
| 6 | Theoretical scientific explanation for why social awkwardness/autism is extremely disadvantageous for men in datingits literally ingrained into neurotypical brains to weed out any signs of neurodiversity as those people are less agreeable and socially callibrated, lowering the chances of offspring survival. Familiarity plays a big role in attraction. This is why more "average" faces are also more attractive. Familiarity is predictability. Predictability is safety. Neurodivergence increases the risk of violent behavior. A neurotypical person also communicates in ways that are "odd," or unpredictable. This isn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:43 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: how many DMs do you get from random fellas?In contrast to the other comments, I actually received quite a few. There was even a middle-aged dude that sent me a picture of him in doggy position on the bed, hairy ass facing the camera without any clothes. That was one of the more memorable ones, but I'd get DM's once in a while. I only posted one picture a year, so I don't know why they decided I'd be the right person to send that stuff to... My Instagram got hacked about a year ago and I don't use any other platforms (aside from Reddit, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | how abnormal is it for women compared to men to have a very high libido?Socially, sexual shame can be seen in the ways girls and women inhibit their sexuality. Historically, society has overlooked accurate and positive sex education for women. Girls and women are taught about their body in a quiet and discrete way, if at all. This includes masturbation. Women navigate the world of masturbation with little societal guidance, which leaves room for negative perceptions of masturbation such as it being wrong or immature (Fahs & Frank, 2014). Women are fearful of being s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 01:53 PM |
| 2 | how abnormal is it for women compared to men to have a very high libido?It's funny to mention starvation. As a woman, I felt extreme shame at the idea of feeling sexual pleasure. I felt like I didn't have the right to feel good in such a way. I remember at 15, a guy in our class went around asking each girl if they masturbated. Not a single girl said that she did. The dude's mind was blown, and every guy he asked had no problem saying he did. For women, we all felt this universal shame surrounding masturbation and pleasure. It was wrong, shameful and felt like a cri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Autism makes no difference in the current sex and dating landscapeF | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Autism makes no difference in the current sex and dating landscapeWell yes, but actually no. This is like saying a virgin (someone who's never had sex) and a virgin (an unwanted loser that should be ashamed of himself for existing) are two different things that people use interchangeably. They both have the same definition at its core: never having had sex. If you define an unwanted loser that should be ashamed of himself for existing as someone who's never had sex, then you're defining someone who's never had sex as an unwanted loser that should be ashamed of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:20 AM |
| 6 | Controversial topic - A woman who has been cheated on, are they an ideal relationship material?The issue that comes with cheating is that the victims are often left with "betrayal trauma." Symptoms of betrayal trauma are: - loss of self-esteem and self-worth - numbness - anger - guilt - difficulty controlling emotions - intrusive thoughts about affair details - loss of faith in others - suspicion and hypervigilance - depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms - physical symptoms, including insomnia, pain, and stomach distress My first relationship lasted about 2.5 years. My ex … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Q4Everyone - Facial HairI only told my blond ex. He was 19 at the time, so I'm sure his beard pattern wasn't done forming yet. I will say though, his skin was smooth like a baby, so I would have probably liked him without facial hair regardless of how it grew out, lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Three Levels of IdentityThis is the first post I read on this sub, and I'm surprised by how sober it is. I'm very much blue-pilled, but I was curious enough to take a look on here. This is the first post I read on this sub, and I'm surprised by how sober it is. I'm very much blue-pilled, but I was curious enough to take a look on here. you ask yourself, is what I am doing congruent to my vision I sort of started doing this years ago, and it really taught me how primitive most of us actually are. Most of the time, we ar… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/23 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4Everyone, can you give examples of good women/men you know in real life? Preferably people of the opposite gender to yours.I'm a 22 year old woman. The men in my friend group are a very rare sort. The word I always find most befitting for them is "weird", but not in a bad way. They speak openly about their emotions, hardships and weaknesses. They respect opinions that differ from theirs and don't give in to social pressure. Most of them are in their early 20's and virgins, but they don't seem invested in changing that status simply for the sake of it. They're the kind of people that go on vacation, only to spend the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Q4Everyone - Facial HairWomen - do you like facial hair on men? It really depends. I've had blond boyfriends and never really liked the way their facial hair grew out. Because of the color, it looked a lot less defined and appeared more messy. Another ex had darker hair, and I really liked how he looked with heavy stubble. The way facial hair is styled also matters a lot. With my darker haired ex, his facial hair slimmed down his face. However, a friend of mine is growing out a fuller beard and I've noticed how this ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t get to have male spacesOf course not; I genuinely don't care. You can start a petition, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Men don’t get to have male spacesWell, they were mainly being distracted by leggings and yoga pants and stuff, but it doesn't matter that much. It's completely understandable that you don't want women judging you, and if you find women to be distracting, I get that it gets in the way of your workout. These women-only gyms are created by women for women; the option wasn't there at first and isn't designed by the government. This means that if you wish for the option to be there and feel like there is a market, you could realize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 12:08 AM |
| 4 | Men don’t get to have male spacesTo be honest, I've heard a lot of men that regularly go to the gym talk about how they stare at the women there. One even complained about his ex girlfriend, because she obviously felt insecure and hurt by it, but he said she couldn't expect him not to look. For me, it's a really uncomfortable experience to know people are looking at me in that way when I'm trying to mind my own business. Many women feel the same, so I suppose that's why there are female only spaces at gyms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/23 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Are woman generally more needy than men?This is a question that's very difficult to answer. "Being needy can be defined as; someone who becomes too attached to another person and depends on them too much for assurance, affection, and attention." Now, my most recent ex was pretty needy. I wasn't allowed to have my own friends, hobbies and time. I was preparing to go back to uni that year, but he couldn't stop talking about how I should move in with him. When I did, he needed for me to deep clean the house every day, prepare his dinner … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Thought experiment: what would happen if every man in the USA would only have sex with/date women who are the correct body weight for their height?Honestly, one thing that bothers me about this stuff is that I objectively look better when I'm overweight. Right now, my weight is exactly that of the Robinson calculation (used the European metric system, sorry). Maybe it's because I'm really short, but there isn't a single person who's told me I look better now than before. Even the pickiest men I know prefer me 15 pounds heavier, which would render me pretty overweight according to BMI standards. I'm still very much trying to gain weight, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/23 01:40 AM |
| 2 | About what percentage of women do you think completely do not care about height?A healthy weight is absolutely fine of course, but I prefer men on the skinnier side. I don't care much for muscle, but I think a flat stomach looks beautiful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 02:31 PM |
| 2 | About what percentage of women do you think completely do not care about height?I actually think short guys are pretty cute, but will say I'm picky about their weight... I'm 5ft and have approached a couple guys that are only an inch or two taller. I haven't yet met any dude shorter than me, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Female women who watch adult entertainment videos, what is your usual choice?Yup, he also had that. He blamed old age... at 26. It was very bizarre ngl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 11:05 AM |
| 5 | Female women who watch adult entertainment videos, what is your usual choice?My ex is a PA, and you're right. He told me all men prefer porn over sex, and he prefers his cumsocks over me. He wasn't attracted to me at the start of the relationship, and even when he did start finding me attractive, I was still the "least beautiful" woman he got off to in that relationship. He also believed women didn't care about orgasms, and he said I was out of line for asking if we could focus on my pleasure after being together for 5 months... insanity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 05:57 AM |
| 5 | Rejection is not completely consequence free.Honestly, if I go out, it's not to find a partner. I'm always down for a chat, though. If there is clear chemistry, I won't turn it down. However, most men that have approached me are very focused on their "goal" and don't take much time to see if there even is much of a connection at all. I also realized that of the three men I had chemistry with in clubs, none approached me. I hit it off with one guy because we were both dragged along by a mutual friend and we didn't know each other yet, so we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Rejection is not completely consequence free.Sure, but if he's already checked off half the women in the club, you know you don't really catch his eye. It definitely loses its spark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 07:47 PM |
| 15 | Rejection is not completely consequence free.It's not, but nobody feels special if they know they're the 20th attempt. Feeling like a guy is only interested in you because he's done being single is not very appealing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Q for women: Would you rather date an attractive, tall high functioning autistic man who has a good salary or an unattractive, short neurotypical man who has an average income job (assume you like both their personalities equally)I'd date autistic men. I have ADHD and my older brother has autism so I'm already used to some of the quirks. As for the outbursts, I would probably prefer the dude in question to be open to therapy if things get too bad too often. Obviously, good communication and clear boundaries are important too, as they are in any relationship. around muslim friends once i said i am now part of the terrorist group :( The emoticon kills me. I could vibe with that. Essentially im trying to determine if extrem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 07:10 AM |
| 5 | CMV: I think women on these subreddit are more likely to get men to have negative perception of women than redpill communityThank you! Anyways... WHAT THE HELL?! That last sentence threw me off completely. Sure, he's not tall; he's also not extremely short. I'm 5ft and even I would be absolutely pissed with a question like that. He's still so young, too... He handled the situation far too well, to be honest. With heartbreaking stuff that comes out of the blue, it's best to take a moment to let it sink in. And God, the comments. I can't believe how anyone could rationalize the wife's disgusting suggestion. Also, imagi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 02:05 PM |
| 9 | CMV: I think women on these subreddit are more likely to get men to have negative perception of women than redpill communityRight?! The sheer entitlement of the man's wife is insane. I sometimes joke with my boyfriend about how we probably won't have pretty babies. I'm really short, his hair started graying as a teen, and we both have acne prone skin. Not a single time did the thought of getting a sperm donor cross my mind- you'd assume nobody really thinks of getting one unless there aren't any other options... She just told him that she doesn't find him attractive and doesn't want his babies in one go. "Not attract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 12:43 PM |
| 5 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversAbsolutely! Every person is different. I am far more sensitive than other people, so even oral can hurt me pretty quickly if done without care. Oftentimes, being a woman's best is not too difficult. I have had very little experience with men who actually WANT to learn how to be good in bed; they are very stuck in their ways. It's not uncommon as a woman to request something (i.e. "please don't lick the hole", "can you maybe try sucking?", "please don't switch every two seconds..." etc.) and be f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 11:58 AM |
| 17 | CMV: I think women on these subreddit are more likely to get men to have negative perception of women than redpill communityIt doesn't even sound real, but I don't doubt you for a second. I hope the guy has found himself a better partner because that stuff has the same impact as emotional abuse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Men do not respond to wordsThis. If there have been dozens of failed attempts at communicating, I wouldn't be too weirded out by this "active" approach. I don't think it would actually make the relationship any better since it's all passive aggressive crap, but the relationship wasn't all that great to begin with by the sound of it. what she hates, he still has as a tolerable level. What then? Considering sitting down and dividing chores isn't an option, I guess the best thing to do would be to complain about it to others… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 11:30 AM |
| – | I don't think it's worth being with people who would leave you for crying or expressing vulnerability.I still want to point out that I have known many women in person who helped me and other men who expressed vulnerability in person (not just women who told us it's okay to cry without seeing us cry). I used to have a great group of friends with most of them being men. We were always on Discord and with them, I had many late night crying sessions. They told me it was okay to be in pain, and that there's no shame in feeling bad. They didn't cry nearly as often as I did, but they were very open and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 01:47 PM |
| – | CMV : The human brain doesn’t care about statistics, it perceives “average” as what’s physiologically possible, not numerical distributionRegardless, I think the argument itselt fits for both men and women. When I think of an average woman, I think of unassuming features. No huge curves, no prominent flaws, no makeup. Maybe a pair of glasses, blue jeans and a plain T-shirt. Basically like a background character. I think "average" are the people we don't even see. The ones that aren't too much or too little of this and that, but also not quite attractive. However, they're still more attractive than over half the population. Most me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 11:23 AM |
| 3 | The "safe" option is underrated in generalThis. I find attraction a very black and white concept. You're either romantically attracted to someone or you're not. Dating someone just because they're "safe" is no happy life at all for either person. they'd be living a lie. I would never want to be my partner's second best. I want to be wanted and desired. I want to be loved, not liked. If someone feels like they're settling for me, I wouldn't want them. It's the greatest disrespect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.This is much better explanation as to why some people experience violation and then want to essentially reenact it, vs other people who don't. Honestly, I think you might be right for a percentage of people. However, I also have a different belief... Do you know why talking about traumatic experiences helps a person cope? It's because it's like the event is experienced again, only in a less volatile setting. New memories are formed surrounding the trauma, and they now seem far less stressful; on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 11:15 PM |
| 11 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.I only got a rape kink after being raped. It's a coping mechanism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 11:08 AM |
| 8 | Commentary by divorce lawyer: reasons for divorce due to women being expected to do it allMaybe don't use the excuse of, "Idk if our child is mine" when it's about making your own dinner and cleaning your shit out the toilet. It's not normal to be skeptical about whether your kid does actually have YOUR DNA, and that either requires therapy or a paternity test, depending on how valid the doubt is. It does not absolve a man from having to vacuum the floor once in a while. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 06:52 AM |
| – | Commentary by divorce lawyer: reasons for divorce due to women being expected to do it all"If women are so emotionally intelligent, why do they marry deadbeats?" "Why are men deadbeats?" "LESBIANS ABUSE THEIR PARTNER!!!!!" This man smoked some alleyway grass, dude... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 06:48 AM |
| 0 | Dating as a “mid” woman isn’t as easy as most men make it out to beThis. I used to be an ugly duckling but definitely grew into my skin after puberty. I don't know at what point I could have been considered "mid", but it was only after completely changing that I started getting a lot of attention. At the time, I had a friend. She often tried to behave like I did, though she always missed the mark. Unfortunately, in our duo, she was the "mid" woman. We went on a party holiday with another dude. I loved socializing while she liked to stay in, so she'd stay at the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 02:31 AM |
| – | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?I just realized that I love an opportunist gift-giver. My mom really brought me up that way, and I am glad she did. She loves when things are on sale and even recommends we get her gifts when the items are 50% off. She doesn't mind waiting for her birthday gift if she knows her gift will be on sale soon. But I know that many women are like you have stated. I'm pretty sure my boyfriend left the tag on on purpose, because he knew it would make me happy. Roses are indeed seen as grand and expensive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 12:51 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors?Absolutely. Picnics are far more personal and unique than generic expensive dates. Throw enough money at anything and it will become fun, but putting time and effort into a date where the sole focus is each other's company is far more special. My boyfriend used to throw with his money a lot. He actually bought his ex a horse, which he obviously hasn't done for me. Instead, I remember how we were outside on a sunny day and he went to get us some drinks at the supermarket while I stayed outside. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Women are more able to get a job but men are more able to keep itTrue, which also happened because of women. The first programmer didn't have a dick, dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Women are more able to get a job but men are more able to keep itI recommend you watch "Hidden figures". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you stayed with a guy, even though he wasn't good in bed?My boyfriend was terrible at sex. He was a porn addict and when I asked him to grab my breast instead of just pinching my nipples, he squeezed it so hard it became bruised. Had to wear a sportsbra for weeks. He initially shamed me for wanting foreplay, for not wanting him to immediately walk off to smoke afterwards, and even for wanting a clitoral orgasm. When I complained about bleeding afterwards, he saw it as a win. In hindsight, he gave me some of the worst sex I've ever had. Size-wise, he's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 09:46 AM |
| 1 | TikTok gender swap pill: Women surprised that most of them look like unattractive menI'd look horrendous as a man. My face makes me look young and feminine; big eyes, small lips, button nose and a heart shape. Kind of like a lesser version of Tangled's Rapunzel. People like my face, but with the filter, I'll look like a midget on crack. I look soft, which is great for a woman, but terrible for a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 07:31 PM |
| 2 | People should dress modestly in publicIf your eye offends you pluck it out. Oohh, I really love that line. I will definitely remember that one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 07:19 PM |
| 10 | Fathers work harder overall than mothers on average.Most mothers don't say it, but it's absolutely normal to consider childcare a burden from time to time. Much of the work goes unnoticed and unappreciated. Being an active parent is absolutely stressful, and unlike working a fulltime job out of the house, there is no moment where coming home feels like you can finally unwind for the day. Looking back, I have come to realize my mother worked far harder than my father. My dad's work paid off at the end of every month, but my mother never got a dime… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 12:12 PM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.One problem is that they have no clue how intense uni actually is. When I signed up to study law last year, I spent a lot of nights reading up on the preparation materials. I didn't have my job yet and we didn't live with his dad yet, but it was difficult. Granted, he used to be a not so great guy at the start, and he put as much of a workload on me as he could. Everything from laundry to vacuuming had to be done every day. I wiped the floor by hand with a wet cloth almost every day. He's an ext… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 12:53 AM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.No offense, but the amount of money earned really defeats your point. I live with my boyfriend and his dad. They work 40 hours; I work 20. My boyfriend makes 3 times more than me. Most of my money is spent on bills. I do most of the chores in the house. I wipe their piss off the toilet, clean the pans and glasses they dirtied while none of the dishes are mine, I clean out the litterboxes and carpets with cat allergies... They are getting paid for 40 hours of work; I get paid for 20. I don't get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:24 PM |
| 1 | How many of you genuinely love your partner?I'd probably feel hurt. If my boyfriend told me he wanted a sex break, then it's not the withholding of sex that's the problem; it's the reason. If it's for medical purposes, then sure. If it's a funky challenge for the both of us to see how long we can go without, then sure. My boyfriend somewhat recently came with the idea to take a sex break so that we can focus on our emotional connection. We lasted less than a week, obviously. But if he had told me he wanted a break for a month, then I'd fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you actually like a confident guy if he is physically unattractive to you?I've had both. My first boyfriend was the charismatic one. He wasn't really attractive (I mean, we were both the 14-year-olds that hadn't gotten our glow-ups yet) but God, that dude had natural confidence. his mom's side was rich and well-educated, his dad's side lived comfortably and put humanity over status. I guess this was the perfect mix to create someone destined for politics or law. We broke up at 16. At 19, I had a thing going with a guy who was very shy and insecure, but who I found ver… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how big of a factor are bad memories from your last BF, when it comes to your choice of the next one?there was absolutely NOTHING about me, that reminded of her ex. Tfw the guy that has nothing in common with your ex reminds you of your ex... Okay, but seriously: I don't think I've ever changed my preferences due to an ex. This is mainly because I don't have much of a type. The only thing my exes have had in common were nationality, skin and eye color. Personality, financial situation, family dynamics and all other physical traits were different. Have you ever been relieved, that your current b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:10 AM |
| 1 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?It's definitely different per person, depending on one's values. A career finds success in personal achievements while love finds success in and with other people. I know for me, working towards a job I fought hard for feels more fulfilling than having a good partner. I don't believe one is objectively better than the other; it's a matter of opinion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Why are female role models all so poor?Ironically, there's an amazing movie called, "Hidden Figures" that somewhat answers your question on why there are so little women in the technical department. kardashians, cardi B, wives or gfs of athletes. I wouldn't necessarily call these women much of a role model. However, that got me thinking... you're right about how there aren't many actual role models. When I studied psychology, I think I could count the number of guys in my year on my fingers, even though there were 650 people. I suppo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 12:17 AM |
| 9 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?A good job is better than a good partner; a good partner is better than a bad job; a bad job is better than a bad partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 11:23 PM |
| 7 | Hookup culture is great for women but bad for menThe social consequence for women who do this is also much less, despite what red pill men would want to influence, we live in a blue pill world. Hate to disappoint, but the redpillers are still on point with hook-up culture consequences. I've gotten enough consequences after sleeping with men, even if my intention was more than a one-nightstand. I've heard enough men around me talk about how the women they've slept with are whores. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 01:45 AM |
| 1 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVOh believe me, I know. I was 6 when I Googled my first porn video. I remember thinking, "I am never going to forget this..." and I was right. I exposed my 6-year-old ass to hardcore abusive golden shower sex. I'm sure that affected my sexual development... As a teen, I masturbated multiple times a day and made myself temporarily numb down there because of it; it was compulsive. I was very pro-porn because I'm pro-sex. I now realize that most porn is absolutely not pro-sex at all. My partner look… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 11:29 PM |
| 1 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVThank you so much. It turns out he had a porn addiction, and it put a lot in perspective. I used to be pro-porn before him, but after everything that happened, I unfortunately changed my views. I won't go into detail, but a lot of actions that resulted from his habits have deeply hurt me. Emotionally and, unfortunately, physically. Without trying to sound offensive, but your tag surprised me. I have mostly interacted with those who jump to calling me Stacy, or who are quick to make false claims … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVIt was a process. It turns out he had a porn addiction. Call me dramatic, but when I found out how he would just turn me down and send me out of the room to "sleep"... well, it broke me. He wouldn't look at me during sex and would instead fantasize about them. I wasn't attractive in his eyes back then because they are "so much more beautiful." And I was the one who unknowingly washed, dried and folded his cumsocks with an innocent, loving smile because I didn't know what he used them for. I gues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Would you date these "overweight" women?Ahh, that reminds me of when I was "overweight." I'm 5ft tall, so every pound changes my bmi quite a bit. At 140 pounds, I had a BMI of 27.3, which sounds disgustingly overweight. But I had a waist-hip ratio of ~0.60 and a layer of belly fat that was about as thick as a finger. I also generally look younger, so the fat complimented me nicely. I lost it all, though. I'm dipping into underweight territory and it made me realize BMI isn't for me. I had to get some ultrasounds done in my neck and gr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:47 AM |
| 2 | Here are my dating hot takes. What are yours?4) I think a lot of men are totally okay with waiting to have sex and taking things slow with intimacy My ADHD makes me sexually retarded, meaning I don't see the point in slowing down if we're both "down"... that one's come back to bite me a time or two. I don't fall fast, but when I do, I fall hard. As an example, I fell for a guy that later became part of my old friendgroup. We hooked up a few times, but we weren't compatible after all. The year that followed, he brought woman after woman int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Women who can't do their makeup properly and don't have good fashion sense are at a ridiculously huge disadvantageThis one's tricky. A lot of girls could be totally stunning if they put a bit more care into it Makeup especially is taboo on here, but I do agree. I'm a sucker for the beauty scene and put a lot of care into my appearance. While I love doing a full face of heavy makeup, it's obviously not sustainable at all. Terrible for the skin, and unlike those social media videos, natural light exposes everything. Those overlined lips will become very wonky once you see them in real life. My regular make-up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 06:26 AM |
| 21 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVI used to take this somewhat personally, but I now realize I don't have to... I've always tried being very open about sex: likes/dislikes, trying out things, asking questions and learning what my partner likes. Being good in bed is something you learn and that changes with every person. My partner was the complete opposite. No foreplay, no aftercare, no feedback at all. Apparently I'm the first person he's ever been with that actually wants to... talk about sex..? He said, "usually afterwards, I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Being sexually satisfied in todays society is EASYwomen's sexual expectation is the guy is, not only into her, but 100% into pleasuring her. My boyfriend has had sex with 10 women before me. When, after 10 months, I finally asked if I could also have an orgasm, he got offended because "normal women don't care." And he's right. Sex has never made me orgasm. I know many women who have never had an orgasm from sex. And yet we all do it anyways. It's still fun, but we shouldn't go in with the belief that it'll make us finish. Ever. It's like a piec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Being sexually satisfied in todays society is EASYCould you define sex to me, please? When does it start, when is it over? Where is the line between foreplay and sex? What is foreplay? If it's focused on the man's pleasure it's because she's horny for his genetics. The whole reason why women seem so asexual is because she is NOT horny. In porn, women are portrayed as sex-hungry addicts who can be abused, and with bruised bodies and wet eyes, they will still beg for more. This is for the man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 06:41 AM |
| – | Some thoughts on "icks". They aren't avoidable, and you shouldn't worry about them.You know what? I appreciate this. The first two women had a weird flaw because they chose to be that way. I once had a guy who kept growling in my ear like Perry the Platypus, so I can completely understand the "ick." I had another guy that "couldn't sleep without music." Headphones were not included... and neither was my sleep. The music was SoundCloud rap or something, too... These were both choices, too. But snoring, stuttering, accents etc. are all just things that don't say a lot about a pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Being sexually satisfied in todays society is EASYNo offense but, if women wanted it, why is it so focused on the man's pleasure? My boyfriend literally though the clitoris was redundant. He's not the first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates?Honestly, yeah. I'd love to be the person they'd go to for questions like, "why did X happen after I did Y?" and try to give them insight on whether things could be improved. But at the end of the day, it's like you said... the world is unfair, and that bugs me. It's not worth spinning fairy tales and hoping for the best. Sometimes "the best" is close to nothing at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:10 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Finding a High-Value Woman nowadays is nearly impossibleFrom the perspective of a HVM (I'm not a Chad but I definitely have options) Mama and granny don't count. The chick that asked you out on a dare doesn't count either. So I want to suggest some math for you since I see you guys like numbers here. They're literally based on the sawdust that's been collecting in your brain, man. It's plain disrespectful to everyone here if you just throw in some random numbers and call it math. HVM can easily have high standards, but the yellow diarrhea you just ty… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 03:57 AM |
| 3 | Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victimYou'd think it'd be the ones who have time to cry about not getting sex, but idk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 12:30 AM |
| 10 | Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victimLmaooooo, stop it. Men who feel so entitled to sex don't even realize women would like sex more if the men actually made an effort to make them cum, too. Maybe women would want to "eat" dinner with them if the meal didn't taste like soggy cardboard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:04 PM |
| 1 | How true is the claim made by the red pill community that people had an identity outside of their relationship back in the day? Is there some validity to it or is this just more nostalgia blindness and bias on the behalf of living in the internet age?Is why on social media is always the men posting their wives/girlfriends/friends/family members, but not the other way around. This is the thing we were commenting on. Whatever reason there is, me and the other commenter were just pointing out that women are usually still the ones posting their partner. However: yeah, it's not an indicator of love. The paragraphs are weird and pretentious. I also don't get randomly posting your partner. They have their own accounts for that, and people that matt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | How true is the claim made by the red pill community that people had an identity outside of their relationship back in the day? Is there some validity to it or is this just more nostalgia blindness and bias on the behalf of living in the internet age?That's basically what they're saying. Only large accounts tend to not post their male partners. Personal accounts usually have the women posting pictures constantly, even including the weird paragraph stuff where they publicly share the love they have for their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 01:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: encouraging financial freedom for woman is an excellent solution to a struggling consumerist economy.first the facts: woman hold twice as much debt as men, they also spend more and save less Proof of fact..? According to bankrate.com... "among men and women of similar ages, men and women have nearly identical credit scores, but the average man’s score is slightly higher." "Experian compared debt balances among men and women and found that, on average: Men have 2% more credit card debt than women Men have 20% more personal loan debt than women Men have 16.3% more auto loan debt than women Men ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 10:06 AM |
| 1 | The way men get porn brain, can women get “attractive guy they had sex with” brain when it comes to sex with future partners?Porn conditions a person to only get off to being cucked; watching another man have sex with an attractive woman while the viewer watches from a distance. Even watching a woman have fun by herself, the viewer will never be involved. He will never be invited to touch her; she is protected by a screen. It wires the brain in such a way that the most arousing experiences are created without the person being part of it. Sex turns into an alien concept when the emotions and hormones related to it have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 09:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider.I don't know, dude. Nowadays, it's kind of pushed onto women to do both. It is for me, anyways. My goal is to get a master's, but financially it's impossible to do so unless I work full-time for at least a year. I kind of feel like I'm working my ass off to get to where I want to be, but that's okay. I spend hours every day grooming myself, though. While I'm busy with one thing, I'm taking care of my hair or my skin at the same time. I am not fat, unfortunately. I look far better when I'm overwe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/23 09:14 AM |
| 8 | Why aren't men's bodies lusted and desired as much as women's bodies are lusted and desired?This would only end up making one sex feel less desirable and resentful due to the imbalance in sexual attraction. The feeling is mutual. I remember the first time I got groped. It was summer, and I walked through the city towards a friend's school in shorts when an old, foreign man came to me to ask for a picture. I thought he was on holiday, so I awkwardly said yes. In the middle of the street, he put his arm around my waist to take a photo, and when he was done, his hand slid down and squeeze… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Saying you 'shouldn't do X' to improve your dating life because 'chad doesn't have to do X', is like saying you shouldn't take a higher paying job because billionaires exist.''Chad doesn't has to dress well'', ''Chad doesn't has to have social skills'', or ''chad doesn't has to have friends or a social circle'', or ''chad doesn't have too put in effort''. The thing is, Chad won't be a Chad if he neglects all of this. If a guy has ugly clothes, no social skills, no friends, no ambition... well, what does he have then? No bitches, I can guarantee you. There are certain things Chad cannot possess at the same time. If Chad is rude, he has to have friends to make up for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.I doubt there is any research done on nevermind, I Googled. "And in 2008, women purchased 74% of books sold in the relationship and family category, according to book consumer trends tracker R.R. Bowker... ...“A man thinks he should be able to solve problems on his own,” "According to Goodreads, while three-quarters of overall readers are women, 62.5% of self-help books readers are also women."* Now, I will add that the second source doesn't focus solely on dating, but also on finances, career, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 02:40 AM |
| 11 | "Don't fuck a man on the first date because he will ghost you" is terrible advice. And here is why.If a man is shitty enough to ghost you after fucking you for the first time, he will do it no matter if it's the 1st or the 10th date. This is the point, though. If a guy is enough of a dickhead to ghost someone after sleeping with them, then he'll likely also be the kind of dickhead who disappears when he realizes it's not getting any anytime soon. It's a cost-reward kind of thing. The cost is time, the reward is sex. The general consensus is that as a woman, it is important to wait with having… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 01:07 AM |
| 9 | What does ‘feminine’ mean to you?Didn't OP ask about how others define femininity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:26 PM |
| 5 | Honest question. Women who are in relationships, what do you bring to your relationship?I love cleaning and am very thorough. There is something satisfying about wiping the floor with a wet rag enough times to finally squeeze out the water and have it be crystal clear. My boyfriend actually told me he didn't like the way I cleaned because it looked so stressful, but when I told him I prefer things to BE clean instead of LOOK clean, he couldn't argue that. I am empathetic. When he cries, I cry; when he feels bad, I am always there to listen. He still has trouble with emotions, like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:09 AM |
| 1 | Do men need to be needed in a relationship?Yeah, definitely true. What I mean with "needed" is more about the little things. Reaching the top shelf, getting rid of bugs, carrying the heaviest shopping bag etc. My boyfriend often does these things for me even if I could find ways to do it myself. I'm often asked to do more delicate/intricate tasks that require patience, like fixing watch bands, wrapping gifts, sewing. Even though his wrapping skills are far from perfect, he won't die from giving a wrinkling and over-taping the paper. I gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 11:07 PM |
| 7 | Do men need to be needed in a relationship?I think we all like feeling needed, regardless of gender. It is a sign that your partner respects and/or looks up to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 10:09 AM |
| 1 | “Women are emotional and men are logical” - how much of this is explained by biological factors?There is an inherent difference between the brain of a man and of a woman. It is a well-known fact that the brain structures between men and women are different. However, I do want to add that a trans man noticing significant differences after taking testosterone does not say anything about the brain differences between men and women. More than 95% of a man's testosterone is produced in the balls. It's like a man and woman taking the same substance and having the same result. They didn’t have th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | “Women are emotional and men are logical” - how much of this is explained by biological factors?There is an inherent difference between the brain of a man and of a woman. It is a well-known fact that the brain structures between men and women are different. However, I do want to add that a trans man noticing significant differences after taking testosterone does not say anything about the brain differences between men and women. More than 95% of a man's testosterone is produced in the balls. It's like a man and woman taking the same substance and having the same result. They didn’t have th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Why do men watch porn?F: I used to be okay with porn until my current relationship. My boyfriend declined sex and sent me out of the bedroom to sleep, only for him to watch porn instead. The whole situation really messed me up sexually, emotionally and romantically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 09:25 AM |
| 3 | Is a man a user for being in transactional relationships with women?100 miles away, apparently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 09:05 AM |
| 8 | Let's extrapolate this out together.Do you mean this filter? If I may, I'd like to rephrase your bullet points. I'm on mobile though, so the formatting will be bad. Apologies. • The filter removes blemishes, enhances features via makeup visuals, bleaches the skin, and alters the overall structure of the face. • The filter adjusts seemingly perfectly to movement and won't show up on objects that block parts of the face. This makes it so that it is difficult to detect the presence of this filter. • Because it changes bone structure … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Dating is just a waste of time and money these days.good guess. My mom is especially big with her humbleness, though sometimes to her own detriment, unfortunately... I didn't even really think about the relationship between gratitude and economic status, but I do believe you're right. I went to a high school that mainly had rich kids walking around. A conversation I remember was about people sitting in lawn chairs on the sidewalk at their front door. The person I talked to said it was unacceptable and that they should just go to their backyard. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 02:28 AM |
| 4 | Dating is just a waste of time and money these days.The only thing they got from me were some mean breakfasts. Ayo, that's actually a W. I remember at the start of my relationship, my boyfriend prepared me some killer instant noodles. I kept praising him for it, and whenever we eat noodles now, he smacks my hand away when I try to stir my own bowl. He's the noodle master now. My mom taught me to appreciate all that is given to me, no matter how simple. Being humble and grateful gets you very far in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 12:00 PM |
| 1 | It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both gendersSo you agree that women are literally promoting male body positivity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?Wisdom and knowledge. Masculinity talk aside, I feel a person's true value comes from their brains. I love debating people on topics and learning new things, and from the options you gave, it seems that only the second category matches those traits. All three types possess an ambitious drive for "more." More money, more physical strength... more knowledge. However, knowledge is extremely diverse and slightly vague. We don't know what we don't know. So finding someone with a similar will to learn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 11:58 AM |
| 1 | How to resolve the Madonna-whore paradox.Well, that's the thing. He thought I was bluffing when I basically just said I enjoyed sex. He assumed that that was a lie. Not because he assumed the worst, but because to him, me not enjoying sex was the best. Even if I had a history with others, it didn't matter so long as I didn't like doing it. He got mad at me for wanting hugs afterwards and shamed me for wanting foreplay. Those things didn't make sense, and he believed men didn't do stuff like that. They do, but he just didn't. You wouldn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 07:54 AM |
| 1 | How to resolve the Madonna-whore paradox.there is a contradiction between men simultaneously wanting sex fast and wanting women to have a low body count or be virgins. This was just the thing that threw me off in the context of the paradox, honestly. Surprisingly, my boyfriend never made an issue out of my sexual history, even with the whole "sex = whore" mindset. I was far from a virgin when we got together, and we've had talks about our own experiences back when we were friends. I'm now remembering something he told me when we were a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 02:00 AM |
| 4 | How to resolve the Madonna-whore paradox.That's not the Madonna-Whore complex. My boyfriend used to have that thought process. He had spend a year chasing me before I finally felt ready for a relationship; in that time, I did not have sex with anyone. He knew that, too. Even though he spent so long crushing on me, he didn't want to look at me during sex. He had to fantasize about actual sex workers to get off, he later admitted. Some time into the relationship, he had a moment after sex where he looked at me and felt I was a whore. He … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Q4A What are some challenges/things to consider that your gender has while dating that the other gender doesn’t, and what are things that are generally attractive to your gender but not the other?A difference is in regards to hooking up. Pregnancy is far less stressful for men because it's not their body to be responsible about. Women have to consider contraception like the pill, even if condoms are used. Because of this, sex becomes riskier for the woman. They're also more prone to general infections and STD's. I also think that while appearance is important for both genders, women still tend to have more pressure put on them. I've grown up ugly as hell and finally put in the work to lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 12:44 AM |
| 4 | What is the point of debating the pills when nobody will change their minds?No woman is going to change cause you throw facts and statistics at her. I doubt men will either. I hate to break it to you, but you're not throwing them at "her." The shallow, greedy and braindead women that care more about social media than finding a house are not going to spend their time on Reddit, skimming over post after post of opinion-based theories, loose assumptions and endless layers of bias to find that one gem that says: "Women should be good people." They're "out there fucking Chad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 11:41 AM |
| 2 | CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequentlySir, where did I ever say women were not responsible for any of these things? Women can be bad. Men can be bad. Want to guess what gender commits 60% of child abuse, including neglect? Neglect is a difficult concept to play the blame game with considering unwanted children usually end up under the mother's care. She's neglecting the child, but if the father was not neglectful as well, the child would not be neglected... Aside from that, emotional abuse is also mainly on the fathers. Physical abu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 11:19 AM |
| 18 | CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequentlyMillions of women in each category. These are all disorders that are male-dominated..? As for convenience abortions, a beautiful way women can prevent needing it is by... not having sex. Sorry dude; you can't have your cake and eat it too. Women abuse and murder their children more than men. Only physical abuse is more prevalent in women, though it can be argued that this is simply because mothers are around the child most. When it comes to severity of abuse, fathers take the cake by a long shot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 09:50 AM |
| 15 | CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequentlyIs there a more entitled belief than assuming the gender you are attracted to is 100% responsible for initiating a relationship with you? Yes. Rape, abuse, child abuse, sexual assault, murder. Is there anything cheaper than assuming you deserve free meals, trips, treats and jewelery simply because you are a member of one gender and not another? Yes. Owning slaves, rape, child brides, child parentification. Is there anything more insecure than measuring your femininity by the distance between the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 09:33 AM |
| 22 | CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequentlyIs there anything more emotionally volatile than a person who becomes unhinged a few days each month like clockwork? Yes. Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, abusive people, murderers. Is there anything more controlling and emotionally abusive than lying about your past and pretending to be attracted to men you aren't to lock down resources? Yes. Human trafficking, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, child abuse, murder. Is there anything lazier than a person who doesn't lift a fing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Does lack of male role models lead to men liking masculinity in women?I can give some evolutionary insight... Humans don't really evolve for survival anymore. With hospitals, people with genetic defects will still be able to produce offspring. Muscles don't matter as much in a species that prioritizes brains. A baby's head being too big for childbirth doesn't matter in a world where healthcare exists. And since evolution doesn't have to put all its focus on not dying before new babies can be born, it gets creative. Evolution loves diversity. Each unique person is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/23 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Promiscuity should be frowned upon by both sexesNo need to make notches on your belt after every partner. This is also why the point of "men with more partners are more attractive" isn't generally true either. Men with high numbers often only really cared about the social status surrounding it and are often terrible lovers. Putting a man who had sex with a woman 100 times next to a man who had sex with 100 woman once, I don't think we'd have to debate who's better in bed. I absolutely agree with your message, though. Humans are animals; procr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.Then may I ask, why does she feel unheard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.how can I help her feel better when she doesn't know what she'd need to address , You're the one who has to find that out, sir. You have to ask your body what causes this distress. You cannot find a solution if you don't know the problem. Your body knows, but unless you ask, she will not tell you. To stop the analogy stuff, I'll chew it out for you. Your SO doesn't feel heard. You ask her how you can fix it, and that in itself shows her you're incapable of doing so. You cannot fix an issue if yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 03:26 AM |
| 4 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.Imagine this: You're sick. You've been feeling unwell for weeks and show no signs of getting better. Finally, you go to the doctor. At the appointment, your doctor asks you what's wrong. You look at him and say, "doc, I have this problem... I've been feeling terrible for over a month now. I don't feel good at all." The doctor looks at you a little puzzled and asks again: "What is the issue?" "The issue is that I feel sick. I don't feel good and I need you to fix it. I want to feel healthy again.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 02:38 AM |
| 4 | When you look at the world and see everything of value was created by men, does it make you feel equal?Nope, I don't feel inferior at all. I have personally never made anything of true, objective value, but most people here haven't either. Whether it's created by a man or a woman, it's not created by any of us specifically. In my head, it's simply created by a human. I don't feel the need to live vicariously through the accomplishments of those who match my sex. I think if I did, it's only because deep down I know I'll never amount to anything myself and I am incapable of accepting it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 12:04 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do girls need to have 'game'?It's nice to feel like someone cares enough about you to not only listen, but to show active interest. In the psychology of attraction, one of the building blocks of forming connections is familiarity. Validating and encouraging someone by indirectly saying you like what they like and you want to hear more about it build similar rapport. In a way, it is definitely a form of manipulation, but it's beneficial for both parties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:54 AM |
| 3 | I looked at the profiles of lonely women. Here are my findingsthe majority of incels aren't fat and legitimately have no dating experience but as you can see, it's very difficult to actually find a woman to just match that. With a sample size of 130, over half of 60% (>39) was fat. [130 × .60 = 78] [78 × 0.5 = 39] Considering you're comparing incels and women in regards to BMI and dating experience, the other factors you used to cross women off the list should not count. and around 25% were black. Of the 60%, a quarter were black. This is simple preference… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:43 AM |
| 5 | Do most men really find slightly overweight women unattractive by default?It's honestly about how your fat is distributed. When I was slightly overweight, my stomach only had a bit of fat on it because I'm pear-shaped. Most of it was stored in the lower half of my body, and people definitely liked my thicc body more than they like my nearly underweight body now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:18 AM |
| 7 | Q4W: Do girls need to have 'game'?I find it difficult to answer, so I'll go with D. I've made a lot of personal changes that improved me and my ability to attract others. It wasn't for the sole purpose of being sexually/romantically attractive, but rather socially as a whole. Looking people in the eye, spending a lot of resources on taking care of my appearance, asking people more in-depth and personal questions to show interest, expanding my general knowledge base so I could talk to others about the stuff they liked... I never … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 11:12 AM |
| 2 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?Of course. Right now, our situation is a bit difficult since I'm 21 and he's 26. We are currently living with his dad because the house we moved into together turned out to be infested with bedbugs and we had to move out immediately. He already has a "real" job while I'm still working on getting back to uni. My goal for the future is getting a degree and a good job, and we both agreed that ideally, I'd be the one who will support us financially later. I grew up with frugal parents while he loves… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/23 02:37 PM |
| 3 | Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than womenWait, what? You're just emphasizing the point that men are generally dangerous. If a fox eats more rabbits than it eats chickens, does that mean the chickens are safe with the fox? No. It just means that the fox attacks multiple prey. The chickens have been chased by foxes, hurt by foxes- it cares not about how dangerous the fox is towards rabbits. It does not make their situation safer. It just makes it more messed up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/22 03:39 AM |
| 4 | Which sex provides more sexual satisfaction to the other?Well... Which sex provides more sexual satisfaction to the other? This is your question. You question which sex is more successful in pleasuring the other. In your scenario: - The woman (F) has a 40% satisfaction rate in regards to intercourse. - The man (M) has a 100% satisfaction rate in regards to intercourse. - F does not masturbate. - M masturbates 9/10 times he orgasms. There is another way you can look at it: Counting every sexual encounter, solo or partnered, M has a perfect satisfaction… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Those who don’t agree with the red pill. What advice that isn’t red pilled would you give to those who struggle with dating?I'm a woman, so my experience might be gender-based. I grew up ugly (bullied, shunned etc.) but made a lot of conscious changes to become attractive in my late teens. “speak to her about her interests” This is a great push in the right direction, but I want to elaborate a bit more on it. Small talk. Start a conversation about a topic regarding the current context. If you're at school, ask something school related. If it's work, ask something about work. The weather, public transport- anything. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 01:08 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of Jordan Petersons claim that “marriage is for children”?I'm very generic when it comes to marriage. That is, I really want to get married. It's an overpriced process so I only want to do it when there's money to spend, but it's a beautiful and sentimental expression of love. However, I also told my boyfriend that in terms of legality, I don't care for any of it. Only if it were beneficial to both of us would it be worth considering, but otherwise, I'd love to just be married anywhere but on paper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/22 08:48 AM |
| 4 | "I'm single because there are not enough good guys for me" is just narcissismI mean, what makes them a psychopath is quite literally the fact that they don't care. Unless it's to benefit them, they don't want anything else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 01:38 PM |
| 6 | How do people feel about people who only approach them because they are attractive?I gather you think I stayed in contact with the female friends from the group? I can't do that. If there are get-togethers or outings, it would be difficult to go, considering the guys will be there. It would also take an hour of traveling with public transport to even see them in the first place. I haven't talked to my friends in months. I moved out of my parents' house to live with my boyfriend in another city, but due to circumstances, we are currently living with his father instead. I'm not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What type of men do you tend to attract?Yup, this. A lot of comments talk about being approached by nerdy/geeky guys, but I just get the stoners or the weird ones. Had a guy approach me recently and when I gave him the heads-up that I was already taken, he said, "ahww, c'mon. I didn't mean it like that. I already have a girlfriend and a child, so it's probably not going to work out between us anyways." Yeah, what? In what way could it ever work out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 08:06 AM |
| 10 | How do people feel about people who only approach them because they are attractive?The approaching itself is fine. Shoot your shot, so long as you're respectful of the answer. For me, the existential crisis comes from the idea that most men only want to be friends with me because they're sexually attracted to me. When I got together with my boyfriend, he made it clear that he didn't want me to stay in contact with the people that at one point or another confessed their attraction to me. And so I cut off an entire friendgroup. Aside from the three girls, only one guy in the gro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 07:56 AM |
| 0 | Are the women who get approached constantly ~in person~ (not just online) a more accurate representation of what men actually want physically?There might be some truth to this. I get approached quite frequently, though it used to be more often than it is now. I've had this conversation with others though, who have said it's not just about "attractiveness" but also about "approachability." From my own experience, I'd say this is right. I think there are two types of attractive people: the ones that look like they'll bite your head off, and the ones that look like they won't. They're both beautiful in their own right, but the latter see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 07:32 AM |
| 3 | TRP Dramatically Over Thinks Human NatureIronically, I both do and don't agree with you. I love psychology, and there's nothing more thrilling than thinking of questions and trying to find the answers. However, I found that a lot of the people on this sub do not share the same genuine interest. There is no actual analysation when all information goes through filter upon filter of bias. Confirmation bias, actor-observer bias, attentional bias... I've spoken to many men on here who were respectful, and even when we disagreed on certain m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 01:42 AM |
| 3 | I think you are all too angry and this anger makes you misrepresent what the other person is sayingNo, they're right. Biology tells us that healthy people have a higher chance of creating healthy offspring. If you're tall, it indicates you have a healthy genetic desposition. Symmetrical faces indicate good health since it indicates your genes are very good at doing what they're supposed to do. Fat people aren't often seen as attractive because being fat indicates an underlying health disorder or a lack of self-control. For women, pear-shaped bodies are seen as attractive even when she has som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | There's Nothing Immoral About Valuing Physical Appearance In A PartnerI mean I could make an evolutionary argument for why appearance is valued and especially by men, In a psychology course about attraction, it's stated that men focus primarily on appearance while women focus on a man's ability to provide. It's somewhat outdated, but evolution doesn't progress the way our culture does. We live to create life. Our children have to be as good as we can make them. Of course appearance will play a major role in attraction; it's the business card of our health. All thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Is confidence really tied to dick size?Why would it be hypocrisy if I literally say it's not a good way to describe someone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | What personality traits are important to you when it comes to dating?Funny, likes to debate random topics, intelligent, into gaming. Someone who likes to learn and who doesn't mind talking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Is confidence really tied to dick size?Oh shit, I'm thinking about my own experiences and viewpoints now. "Big dick energy" isn't about dicksize so much as it is about presence. If a man is confident and dominant, I'd say he has BDE. However, if it turns out his package isn't oversized, then I guess in my head, it still probably is. If his energy says he has a good dingdong, well, who am I to deny it? I will say, it is definitely a bad way to describe someone. If I were a man with a below average sized penis and people were to joke a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 12:45 PM |
| 8 | What is your opinion on "Don't Ask a fish how to fish?"This reminds me of a Reddit story where a woman's boyfriend kept telling her she smelled bad. She got absolutely paranoid and tried everything she could to make sure she didn't stink, but he kept saying it. Everyone else that she asked would say she smelled great. The boyfriend later admitted that it was his father who told him this. If he could make his girlfriend believe she always smelled foul, she wouldn't leave him because she'd be too insecure. She left him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Should there be an institution to develop mens emotional intelligence?The man will figure it out by the fact that women don't want to deal with them. Developing emotionally shouldn't be done with another person in the picture. The growing is far more difficult to do when romance is involved because of the urge to act on instinct instead of rationale. This is because it's a relationship with a lot of vulnerability and comfort. I didn't behave that nasty to my friends, but I did to my mother. I justified it because she is just like me, only different. When angry, sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 07:56 AM |
| 5 | What does a modern woman bring to a relationship?I feel like I'm pretty modern, even though my boyfriend is leaning a bit to the traditional side. When we got together, he started pushing me to move in with him almost immediately. I didn't have a job and was busy preparing for uni, but since he provided monetarily, I did all the chores. For me, this dynamic created a lot of resentment. Since taking care of my partner's needs was my "job," I only felt off the clock when he was asleep. We've grown a lot in the following months, and we now have a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Should there be an institution to develop mens emotional intelligence?I will say, it sure takes a whole lot more to be emotionally stable than most. In the earlier stages of development, your brain picks up a lot of information from how your caretakers treat each other, as well as yourself. This information gets turned into blueprints. How your parents treat one other is how you will instinctively treat your partner; how they treated you is how you will instinctively treat your own children. It makes sense, evolutionary-wise. Generational cycles come from evolutio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 01:35 AM |
| 4 | How do you feel about guys wearing shoe lifts?Original comments got deleted so I don't know what was said, but I still want to give another woman's insight. If it's for medical reasons, I don't see any issue at all. If it's out of insecurity... I still don't see an issue. I also feel like we shouldn't see having insecurity as something entirely bad. For me, the whole concept of insecurity has become kind of fuzzy after reading so much about it on here. If I don't brush my hair, I know I won't look as good as I would if I DID brush my hair. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 01:19 AM |
| 7 | How do you feel about guys wearing shoe lifts?The examples you gave are really common, honestly. I work in retail, and the first two items have whole dedicated racks. I might get hate for it, but I'll admit I usually wear push-ups. My chest has never been my greatest asset, but I wouldn't say I used to be insecure about it. I just felt it looked better with some extra shape. I'll also say I never tried to hide the fact that I was wearing one, and I didn't care if anyone knew since it wasn't a secret. Unfortunately I lost a lot of weight, so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 01:03 AM |
| 9 | How do you feel about guys wearing shoe lifts?Oooh I love those! I've always had a thing for bulky shoes, especially so when the whole outfit matches the style. And to stay on topic: even if you did wear them out of insecurity, it's not like you/the shoes are hiding the fact that they make you taller. Just like with heels, you're not going to think, "my date's lied to me!" when they come off and there is a difference in height. Plus, at the end of the day, there's no significant height difference with these types of shoes anyways. That is t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Q4W Is there anything you like about men?When our house turned out to be infested with bedbugs, I had a difficult time going inside and grabbing/throwing away the stuff we had because I was scared I'd see them crawling around. My boyfriend was usually the one going inside the house. He didn't seem phased at the time, but he later told me he was also freaking out. He pretended to be calm so he could go in without me feeling bad; all so I didn't have to. I love the bickering back and forth about who gets to carry the grocery bag. The per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 12:06 PM |
| – | Girl doesn’t believe in contributing to a household other than cooking cleaning , pitching business ideas and being “supportive” and man pays ALL the bills and expenses with the household and going out . Is this a fair exchange?Never expected to say this on this sub, but you're being too soft. I feel uneasy about this but realize that household work does have economic value. So i maybe it is fair? I fully agree with the fact that household work does have economic value, and I appreciate you taking it into consideration as well. However, in this situation, it doesn't make this fair. She's got an income. I'm from Europe so there might be a difference in value, but 55k is a fairly decent amount. She's in debt, but conside… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 11:38 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Guys on Reddit love to claim that only an incredibly low amount of women can cum from penetration because they don't want to blame themselves."If women had clits in their vagina..." WE DO. The clitoris isn't the size of the tiny bean that pokes out on top. It's like an iceberg that hugs around the vaginal walls. A lot of women can get off without external stimulation. Inside the woman's vagina, you can find the G-spot, the C-spot, AND the vaginal walls that are directly linked to the clitoris. Grinding a pubic bone sounds painful, and grinding on top does nothing for the external part of the clitoris. Getting scratched by stubble isn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 11:26 AM |
| 2 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of.The Disney myth doesn't make a lot of sense as a justification for men having the wrong idea of love. The 7 dwarves took Snow White in out of kindness. They loved her to the point that when she died, they mourned her and tried giving her the best resting place they could manage. Then, a prince comes by and kisses her corpse, which is questionable as hell. We all know who she ended up going for. Disney followed a similar thread for Sleeping Beauty. Cinderella could be a good argument for some men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 11:18 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Guys on Reddit love to claim that only an incredibly low amount of women can cum from penetration because they don't want to blame themselves.Nah, the orgasm gap is because women and men DON'T expect women to be helped. If the majority of women don't orgasm while men do (the gap), why would women even have sex in the first place? After a few times of not coming, women aren't gonna think, "ahw yeah, this time I WILL cum!!" They think, "it feels nice, and I know he always expects me to give my body so he can put his goop inside." The man pleasures himself via the woman, and so, it wouldn't be strange to expect the same in return. We don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 10:52 AM |
| 2 | CMV, Do you ever recognize that many men don't understand venting the same way that women do?You're 100% right, and it's also definitely a matter of boundaries and communication. Like you said: relationships are a two-way street. The way you described previous relationships feel somewhat relatable to me, only vice versa. There came a point in time where I used to dread my partner coming home from work because I knew how exhausting it would be to listen to an hour+ of venting each day. He'll get so caught up in the story that he'd raise his voice when telling it. By the end, if he was ki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 10:44 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Guys on Reddit love to claim that only an incredibly low amount of women can cum from penetration because they don't want to blame themselves.It's hard to realize you're someone's child. People really fed you, bathed you, helped you grow up... only for you to go on the internet and say you don't care about the person you have sex with, so long as you can dance the Worm on them with your worm inside them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 02:22 AM |
| 1 | CMV, Do you ever recognize that many men don't understand venting the same way that women do?Woman here. I definitely agree with the general thread. My closest friend group mainly consists of "feminine" men. They don't follow the cultural rule of being a "strong, unemotional manly man." They listen and vent about whatever it is that bothers them. My boyfriend is the opposite. He believes sadness is weakness, and you'll always see him angry long before you'd ever see him sad. He reminds me of the men people often talk about in these scenarios. What I've noticed however, is that he does s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 01:59 AM |
| 1 | “Pick better men” is a cop out to not hold men accountable100% agreed. Sure, there are situations where a woman chooses a guy that's known to be a player/cheater. Some have the, "but I can change him" mentality. Others choose a guy because he's funny, kind, humble and sweet. Everybody thinks he's an amazing guy, and you haven't been given a reason to think differently. Then, after a month or two, he distances himself from you. You're still in love and try making it work; he also said the same after all. You're in it for the long haul. It's small things… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Women who have a height standard - at what point does it become marginally insignificant & what can possibly make you drop it?Aii that's sad. There is no shame in the man being shorter than the woman, but if they decide what you can and can't wear because of their insecurity that has nothing to do with you, it's really off-putting. It's like a bald man getting pissed at his girlfriend because she dyed her hair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Men of all ages prefer 20 year olds. Knowing this, why do women still get into relationships with men?Men 10, 20, 30 years older would still choose a 20 year old to pursue a relationship with. I think I understand the logic behind the analytics. If you're single as a man and you had to choose, why not choose the "best" option? Of course, younger is the best option on paper, but that's all it really is. If women were asked about their preference in regards to income, believe you me I'd prefer a billionaire over someone without a job. Who wouldn't? I'd also prefer a 10 over a 1. Is it shallow? I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 12:56 AM |
| 8 | Do you think men with autism are doomed in the current dating world?when I go on dates I find myself talking about hobbies or silly things This in itself isn't bad at all. However, I do want to ask what the dynamic is between you and the person you're on a date with. Are you asking them questions or do you mainly let them jump in freely? Are you the one talking most of the time, or do they tell stories, too? I have ADHD, so it's a bit different, but I also struggled a lot socially at first. Then I started thinking about what other people want from me, and I conc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Why do women put up with abusive relationships?I know it sounds stupid, but I don't think I really focus on red flags when I'm looking for a partner. Of course, there are typical things like being rude to waiters, littering, low empathy towards animals etc. that obviously make me lose attraction fast. However, I'm not quickly romantically attracted to/interested in a person. After the breakups I've had, it took me 1.5 years each before I finally fell in love again. Because of this, once I fall, I often try my best to keep the spark alive. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 10:12 PM |
| 11 | Why do women put up with abusive relationships?Why do women put up with abuse over picking someone nice? How do you know someone is nice? People who are in abusive relationships often come from abusive households. I come from a family where my father had intense angry outbursts where he'd physically attack my mother. Every fight, me and my brother would stand at our doors, listening to their screams to make sure we didn't have to step in yet. No matter how often they threatened divorce, it never happened. It was abusive. It was my first exam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 09:42 AM |
| 2 | What is the actual evidence for hypergamyI believe so, yes. To take appearance as an example again and focusing on evolution, because women were often chosen for their appearance, looks rapidly became a vital component for survival and procreation. Throughout most (if not all) cultures, all throughout time, women were the sex that followed the most extensive and intense beauty trends. Tapeworms, footbinding, corsets, blood draining... While men also had their own trends going, I'd say they were often not nearly as dangerous and harmful… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 09:20 AM |
| 1 | What is the actual evidence for hypergamyBoth sexes generally try dating up in their respective ways. Men are often focused on physical appearance while women focus on status and/or dominance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 01:40 AM |
| 5 | Most men ignore the women they claim to wantJesus, that's disgusting. I hope you're not embarrassed about his actions now though. You're not responsible in any way for what he did. I'm glad you're not mad at the woman who sent you proof. Here's to a bright future and present for you and the kids! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 12:22 PM |
| 9 | What is the actual evidence for hypergamyHypergamy: the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background. For me, it sounds like a pretty logical concept. We all want the best we can get, so the more you have to offer, the more people will be interested. Throughout most of history, romance was a bit less romantic. A man's value was dictated by what he could provide. The more he could provide, the more options he had. Women had less of a say in courtships and were usu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Ahh... You got me there. Ohno. Rose-colored glasses really do suck sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 05:38 PM |
| 1 | It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically.I'm somewhat a neat-freak when it comes to cleaning. Instead of mopping the floor, I like using a cloth to "manually" get rid of the dirt. I don't blame my boyfriend for not having the same mindset. However, there are times where I do the dishes, dry them and put them away. After that, I immediately cook, set the table, and plate the food. When we're done eating, he does bring his plate to the kitchen. I am the one on dish and dry duty afterwards, though. When I brought this up, he did change. H… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/22 09:16 PM |
| 2 | This sub is toxic for women (as well as men)How do you keep on dating after reading these posts? In this situation, I separate men into two categories. Those who go to this sub and echo that which has been repeated a hundred times on here already, or those who don't. The guys in my closest circle are amazing in that regard. Not all of them are successful when it comes to love, not all of them try, yet none of them hold the same beliefs that are shared on here. Some guys play games, sure. Some women do, too. Trust yourself in the ability t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/22 07:44 PM |
| 1 | If you aren’t successful in dating, then you’re simply not attractiveand the only thing preventing most of us is our body fat. Yes and no. I believe it all comes down to self-care and improvement. Personal hygiene, flattering clothing, nice hairstyles etc. are all fundamental for attraction. It doesn't matter how ripped or skinny a guy is if he has greasy hair, ill-fitting clothing and a no-shower streak. Even the most physically attractive man can fall down to a non-passing grade if he's ill-mannered, socially inept and/or unambitious. Weight is important, but t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Do men want uglier or more attractive/beautiful/hot women in long term relationships or in casual one’s?Don't we all want the best we can get, no matter the situation? I think any guy would prefer that which they find attractive over that which they find not, regardless of whether it's long-term or casual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | What's the difference between men and women who do enjoy dating, and those who don't?I do agree that ironically, it works both ways. I know a guy with a huge ego. The type of person who has a lot of insecurities lying underneath a fake, glistening layer of pride. Most women don't see this in him when they first meet him, and so he has no trouble starting relationships. It's maintaining a relationship that doesn't work out well for him. I'm guessing humility has the opposite issue. Maintaining a relationship with someone who's humble could be great, but most don't fall for someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 07:08 PM |
| 10 | How Much Is Too Much: N-Count Baseline Answer?For me it's somewhat the other way around. If they've got a high n-count because they used to sleep around I don't care too much about it. If their count is that high because they've had a lot of romantic relationships, I see it as a bigger issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | cheating while drunk is WORSE than cheating while sober.I don't think the analogy really holds up. Crashing your car and killing someone is an accident (in the given context). Drunk driving, crashing and killing someone is an accident that could have likely been avoided if the driver did not choose to intoxicate themselves beforehand. Cheating with a sober mind is not an accident. You don't slip and fall into doggy style. Instead of drunk/sober driving, cheating could better be compared to murder instead. A drunk person is far more likely to have thr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?So, this way he could get you as a 4 that would hopefully get back to being an 8 at some point. Hmm, maybe. He might have a bit of a savior-complex; who knows? The fact that he knew me when I was an 8 definitely helped with his feelings when I was a 4. Still though, he gave up pursuing me a solid while back. I don't think he concocted a whole scheme just to bone my bony ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Women should stop trying to give men dating advice“Have you tried using tinder? Go to a party! Get a hobby to meet people!” Lmao, this is literally the kind of advice I give to certain types of guys that ask me. It's not a matter of, "I'm a woman, I'm used to being passive." Rather, I just genuinely don't know how to help you. Most people have a social network. They meet people through school, work, friends of friends. When it comes to dating, I've always had an active stance. I don't think someone can be attractive if they behave like a lethar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 10:05 AM |
| 5 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......There was also another reason that women usually care more about having an open casket. For me personally, I can also see the appeal of having remains that are in one piece. I imagine an intact yet lifeless body to be at peace, while a visibly damaged body feels more... disturbed? Who knows? Maybe women focus on the peace that follows the end of life while men focus on simply ending their life. I'm only hypothesizing right now, but it would also somewhat explain how men choose more desperate, ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 06:21 AM |
| 6 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......Ah, my bad for bringing it that way. I'm really into psychology, so I can sort of get carried away sometimes. My point was that regardless of who kills themselves more or who wants to kill themselves more, the fact remains that men aren't getting enough emotional supportive resources. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 05:38 AM |
| 8 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......Please cite your sources. I can't find what you're referring to. According to this study: "The rank of the lethality for different methods remained relatively stable across study setting, sex and age group. Method-specific CFRs for males and females were similar for most suicide methods, while method-CFRs were specifically higher in older adults." (CFR: case fatality rates) From another study: "In HK, gender difference in choosing jumping as the method in suicide acts explained 44.5% of the gend… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 05:11 AM |
| 11 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......There is no facts in here, just speculation Correct. When it comes to psychology, a lot of it is "just speculation." to suit a narrative where it's mens fault for whatever bad happens. ... but this I don't follow. How would this narrative blame men in any way? Please explain. If anything, I'm defending men. Did you not read the rest of my comment..? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 03:46 AM |
| 2 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......and if we're in doubt, we often tend to assume it was just a casual glance. That makes total sense. Rejection, no matter the circumstances, is a painful thing to go through. A lot of men, especially on here, haven't received a lot of validation to compensate for it. Growing up as the ugly duckling, even just the thought of rejection would make me avoid the possibility entirely. It was only after improving myself and getting a lot of positive feedback that I dared approach others. I've never been… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 12:59 AM |
| 21 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......Basically, in some areas women have advantages, and in other areas men have advantages. 100% agreed. Women tend to attempt in ways that allow them to be found, or so that they themselves can alert someone to their suicide attempt. Hmm, not quite. Women often choose a less disfiguring approach. While men are more likely to use firearms, vehicle crashes etc., women usually overdose. It's still up for debate why the difference is there, but there's a high chance it's because women desire for their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 12:39 AM |
| 0 | As a man, I think the men here greatly underestimate the fundamental advantages of being a man in society......[Warning: Bible ahead] 1) Freedom and security I definitely agree with this one. My boyfriend doesn't understand that I don't appreciate it when he invites men I don't know to our house last-minute. When I told him about how I'm scared to go out alone in our neighborhood (the times I've done so, I've always gotten catcalled) he tried to dismiss it by saying that once the guys here knew I was taken, they'd lay off. They don't. 2) As a man, I control when encounters happen with women This is both … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/22 12:11 AM |
| 3 | CMV: women do not "set up" male friends with other women unless he meets a certain attraction thresholdIt actually happened to me once. A friend put me and a random guy in a Whatsapp groupchat and texted something along the lines of, "[X] is single, [Y] is single, I think you guys fit together. Have fun!" And then she left. The dude was attractive, but being set up without any form of a heads-up definitely sucked. It puts you on the spot, and I wasn't looking for anything at all. I guess it does happen, but fortunately, it doesn't happen too often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Would you take a bcp for men if it was on the market ?How likely is it that a man does it perfectly every time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Men (and women if applicable) who became successful with the opposite sex after being unsuccessful in their young to adult life, did it make you bitter, cynical, or spiteful towards the opposite sex?Sorry for the late reply! Took some time away from my PC. As for why I hate myself: I can list dozens of "this" and "that"s that could justify it. Some are things I can't change like my small lips; others are things I can change like my hair. I've come to learn, however, that no matter how I change any of those things, they're just not going to be good enough in my eyes. So you're spot on about it being a mental thing. I guess we can't like ourselves if we don't want to like ourselves. As for wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Would you take a bcp for men if it was on the market ?Are you really saying it's extremely unlikely to get pregnant from the pull-out method? Here's one of many studies about the subject of contraceptives. Figure 3, 4 and 5 show the probability of pregnancy within a 12, 24 and 36 month timeframe, respectively. For withdrawal, the cumulative probability of pregnancy per 100 episodes of method use is 13,4 for the first year. The second year has a median of 27,4 and the third year has one of 35,7. Most other sources (like WebMD) speculate the risk bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Would you take a bcp for men if it was on the market ?You know you can still get a woman pregnant without finishing inside her, right? If you have a secure partner, without contraceptives, there is no "safer place" to finish. Currently, if she's not pumping herself full with hormones and you're not wearing a condom, you're literally fucking for pregnancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Men (and women if applicable) who became successful with the opposite sex after being unsuccessful in their young to adult life, did it make you bitter, cynical, or spiteful towards the opposite sex?I don't want to necessarily blame it on one specific gender. While I wasn't successful with the opposite sex, I also wasn't successful with the same sex, even if just on a platonic front. Until I changed myself, of course. Success in one area came hand in hand with the other, and the less I was me, the more people liked me. I could've gone on an anger streak about how the men that fell for me were shallow pigs that only wanted this or that, but it would make no sense for me. Humans are inherentl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 02:39 PM |
| 3 | The "80-20" rule claim is incorrectI mean genuine, loving relationship ... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Don't worry about stressing me. I studied psychology for a while in uni and am still big into learning about it. I didn't know (much) about visceral fat, to be honest. For visible fat, I do know it's unhealthy to have a lot around your stomach area since it's also coating the organs. My guess is that back when I was 140 lb, even with a BMI of around 27, I didn't really look overweight at all since my waist was still small. Unfortunately due to my height, I've always felt like I had a somewhat wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?To be completely fair, it wasn't as bad as it sounds. I'm 5 ft, so 88 pounds isn't too far out of the norm, I think. I also didn't move a lot. My guess is that the weight loss played a part in the lethargic apathy I ended up with, and vice versa. Because of that though, I didn't experience a lot of issues in terms of fainting or muscle weakness. It honestly baffled me how fast I started losing pounds at first. I think it took me around 2 months to get rid of the first 40. After that, the flow so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Nah, they're normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 01:38 AM |
| 5 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?"You just say it's bullying because the guy isn't Chad. Otherwise you'd go on your knees for him right there. You're shopping above your price range, but the clock is ticking!" I have so many guy friends that are just... normal. It's weird to realize not everyone has two halves of a brain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Okay, I skimmed through your comments and I want to join in. not just through look, although it's probably the most important one since it's the first to apply. We had an entire course solely focused on attraction back when I studied psychology. Though the material is perhaps already somewhat outdated, it stated that men prioritize appearance over any other attribute, while women prioritize a man's ability to provide. Unlike women, men are honest about what they do to attract the other sex and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?“But women live for compliments and love catcalling; it makes their day!!” Dear god, no Lmaooo, it's bizarre that some people actually believe that. The pep in their step after yelling a variant of, "damn! I want my head between those legs" isn't because she's feeling confident and proud. And just because she's not looking at you, doesn't mean you have to repeat yourself. These comments are so bizarre... Because it's like playing the lottery to them. They're scratching a paper napkin with a coin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 10:25 AM |
| 7 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Unfortunately, professional help isn't really in the stars for me. However, when it comes to psychology, I'm always looking for ways to improve myself and become more knowledgeable on the subject. However, I don't feel like I'm relying on my partner to fix me. As far as I know, and I have asked him about it, he feels the same. We do still use one another as motivation, though. When you're alone, it's easier to take a more apathetic stance in life since the only one that has to deal with the cons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 10:08 AM |
| 14 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Pfffftttt. Comments like these always sort of crack me up. Please explain why you felt the need to say that, and why you believe it in the first place. Is it because I'm a woman? Because there's not much else you know about me up to this point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 09:54 AM |
| 4 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Thanks for understanding without misinterpreting or assuming! You're right about the recovery having to be for myself, but it's somewhat complicated. The reason why I started losing so much weight was because I was just sort of done with the attention. I changed my wardrobe from alternative but feminine to baggy techwear. Layers upon layers without a single curve in sight. My core issue -I believe- is that the switch I made when I was 17 wasn't exactly for me. I tried everything in my power to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 09:52 AM |
| 5 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?Nah, I doubt that. I met him 1.5 years ago and he did make it clear from the start that he was interested in me. Because I had no feelings for him back then, I turned him down. We met through some mutual "friends" and went through a short period of hanging out and drinking on Saturdays as a group. During that period, those friends threw a party and told me I just had to come. I was dealing with the aftermath of a (sort of) breakup, so it was nice to try and take my mind off of that. One of the "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 09:01 AM |
| 36 | Beautiful women, do you really doubt that most men want to f*ck you or is it just a front to seem humble?I grew up as the ugly weird kid and had a massive glow-up after turning 17. What a person learns in their youth is hard to change in adulthood, and so I've never considered myself as someone who's attractive. There have been people who tried convincing me by using the argument, "look how many guys are after you," but I believed that so long as I had a vagina, that's all it took. I still believe that to a certain extend. seems to have learned nothing from it, ready to assume any man has platonic … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Why do women believe they get to decide on what constitutes a real man?This is something that goes both ways, you know. "Real women wear classy, conservative clothing." I found an amazingly hilarious article about what differentiates a lady from a "regular girl." A true lady knows that if there’s a napkin on the table, she has to put it on her lap. And the napkin has to be folded so that the upper layer is shorter than the lower one. There have been many debates about if it’s okay to wear sunglasses on one’s head. Some women are convinced they can do it. But etique… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?You just don't like that... ...you're going to have to compete with around 5 other women for him. Why wouldn't I like that idea? I'm not scared one of the other ladies is going to swoop in and steal the dude away. If it happens, so be it: GG WP. for me, a "5" can be more attractive than a "7". There's still a chance I'd be romantically attracted to a 4, while I reject the 5 and 7. The reason why I say this is because -from my experience- it's true. After my first breakup, it took me 1.5 years be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?It's a need for me, lmao. I'd die otherwise ngl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?Aaah, late reply. My bad- I'm in the middle of a move. There's a difference between what percentage I find attractive, and what percentage I'd date. Regardless, attraction isn't completely linear. By society's standards: for me, a "5" can be more attractive than a "7". There's still a chance I'd be romantically attracted to a 4, while I reject the 5 and 7. So as for what percentage I find attractive: I don't know. I gotta see them before I make a judgement. But by just seeing someone, I'm never … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 02:04 AM |
| 4 | Unattractive WomenI used to be objectively unattractive until a few years back. Fortunately, I had my ugly duckling glow-up, and the difference was night and day. I was insecure to the point where online dating was a big no, but in the real world, I was absolutely invisible. This was in my childhood/teens, so it's a different world, I'll admit. Bullying was obviously a thing. People asking me out on a dare, getting shipped with popular guys as an "ew wtf" joke. The first time someone confessed to me in a genuine … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 01:58 AM |
| 0 | What do you think of women who post sexy pictures on social media while in a relationship?Ayo, cucking is a thing. Some guys are into that. On a serious note, I don't care about it so long as their partner is completely fine with it. I wouldn't want my partner doing stuff like that, nor do I want my partner to be okay with me doing that stuff. To each their own, though. If everyone involved is happy, it's all fine and dandy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Would long term relationships flourish more if each person in the long term relationship deleted all their social media?I wouldn't want to delete my social media, even though I barely use it. My Insta has a handful of pictures with the last one dating back to jan 1 2021. In my mind, if social media tempts someone into cheating, they were a bad apple to begin with. I don't want to put restrictions on my partner's life if it means they'd otherwise be tempted by someone else. Loyalty shouldn't be forced upon one another; it should be expected. It's not my partner's job to ensure I don't stray, nor vice versa. If it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?I'd have a lot to think about them if you could give me the source. Many variables could be at play, after all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/22 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?Then I'd wonder why you're taking those observations and relying on them as though they are absolute. The commenter shared their experience in life, saying she's invisible to men. Assuming you're a man, it's sort of ironically impossible to use your own observations as a reliable source. It's like me saying the vast majority of men are only invisible to the women they want. Are there truly invisible men? Sure, but they represent a very small percentage of the men that say this. Whether it's actu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 06:56 AM |
| 10 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?I'm confused. *invisible to men she wants You try to correct the original comment, so I explain that your correction is untrue. OK? So sorry you had to live the life of 99 percent of men for a couple years? So you go on to throw sarcastic pity at me, tied with an untrue statement about men..? Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 12:45 AM |
| 11 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?Nah, I used to be ugly until a few years ago. Difference is night and day. The only time I wasn't invisible was when people wanted to remind me of the fact that I was ugly, lmao. It took a guy from my class three years before he realized we had all our classes together. Everyone had the same subjects for the first three years of school, so it was the same 20 people every day, 8 hours a day, for three years. When you're not attractive, you'll just be invisible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/22 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Women of PPD. How many of you are single?She said she's invisible to most men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/22 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Thought Experiment: Build Your Fighter (Dater)If everyone else gets it but you don't, other people aren't the issue. Curb your cockiness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Why Don't Women Seem To Understand That Sex Is Important For Men?Although it bit me in the ass a time or two, I'm still glad I never took part in that "trend." My friend (a dude) has a completely different view on it and often told me I should wait more before having sex with someone I want to be serious with. The way I see it: I want to smash, my partner wants to smash, so why not smash? If the dude wants to wait, there's nothing stopping him from doing so. The more you make it a game, the more problems you'll have once the game's inevitably over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:22 PM |
| 2 | A woman is never too busy to text back. If she doesn't, take the sign.Nahhh, it must mean you're not interested in him anymore and left to go to Chad's house. It's the only logical conclusion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 1 | A woman is never too busy to text back. If she doesn't, take the sign.... you've been on stimulants for years... ...Or even if you're on something like a 12hour slow-release stimulant. Why mention the extended-release medication separately? What would the supposed difference be..? You still have time in your day to respond. You can still have time in your day to ignore people. I mean, yeah? There are 24 hours in a day to do and not do things. Is it that much of a stretch to say that women overwhelmingly won't text if they're not interested in you? No, yeah, that m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 12:09 PM |
| 10 | Should feminine men become more masculine?This. Even when it comes to attraction, it's much more attractive to be "feminine" and confident than to force "masculinity." Forcing yourself to be someone you're not is only caused by insecurity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 02:48 AM |
| 38 | A woman is never too busy to text back. If she doesn't, take the sign.Lol I just have ADHD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/22 01:50 AM |
| 10 | Women do not have an inherently deep or complex sexualityWhat is far more plausible is simply that abundance leads to desensitization which leads to novelty-seeking and since the number of men that look 'good' and novel at the same time is quite low, women seek out that novelty from behavior/reputation. But... These women haven't "eaten so much traditionally good-tasting food" that they're seeking out something more "exotic" for that kick. Thinking about it, the women who've had the least "food" are the most picky. The more food a woman has eaten, the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 01:54 PM |
| 2 | Is the height preference mostly societal?Lady claims it's a ok to ask about height but not weight cause weight is societal Lmao she's not making a lot of sense to me here. Regardless, she's also wrong and I'm pretty sure she knows she's making excuses. The reason why it's "okay" to ask for height is because it's something you can't really control. Nobody decides how tall they're going to be; you can't blame or (validly) judge someone for their height. Weight, however, is "not okay" to ask because the number is (at least to a certain ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 08:33 AM |
| 3 | [CMV] "Love isn't everything"I had a somewhat similar situation a year back. Flunked out of uni, no job (wanted to focus on uni lol), and Covid restrictions made it so that my world became as small as the 3x2 meter room I slept in. Life is pretty terrible sometimes. As cheesy as it may sound, it won't be this terrible forever. It might get worse before it gets better, but it will get better. In 10 years, so many of our current problems will be things that all work out in the end. I'm sorry times are so messed up right now, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 07:51 AM |
| 2 | How valid is Psychology?I went to uni for psychology and personally feel like it's very useful and valid. The main reason why psychology is so difficult to accept as a concrete science is due to the fact that it's simply impossible to be truly absolute. However, it's objective enough to recognize patterns and connections. (E.g. You hit someone -> They feel bad -> They react accordingly.) Psychology related to attraction is very valid. The difference between true psychology and the dismissive people on this sub is that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/22 06:40 PM |
| 11 | Do you believe in love?Every emotion is the result of hormones. Humans aren't magical creatures; they're over-developed animals. Animals are just biological, over-developed machines. If he died you would find a new dude by the end of the month This in itself is a crude and bitter assumption. You're not basing it on anything (studies, personal connection to commenter etc.) Regardless, even if you were right, it would still not really hold any weight as an argument. It's hypothetical; it hasn't happened. If it does, it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/22 11:10 PM |
| 12 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?But Todd, if you're so awkward and introverted that you lack a social life and resort to following women around grocery stores and break a sweat pretending to be gregarious and outgoing, she will find out inside a month that you are actually a homebody who resents women. This has me dying. You're absolutely spot-on as well. Even if the pick-up tricks work, getting a person to stay is much more difficult. If said person fell for someone who turned out to not be real, chances are they're gonna dip… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 02:35 PM |
| 10 | Do women feel they are getting any benefit from average Joe's desperation?Isn't it often voiced on this sub that the majority of women are nearly asexual in nature? More often than not, a woman's motive to interact with men isn't based on sex. Regardless of whether a woman can sleep with a chad, she wouldn't want to hang around with the unfavorable, desperate Joe. Chad isn't the reason Joe's unfavorable. Joe is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Do Recent Events Involving a Certain Court Case Strengthen Views BPD Women MUST Be Avoided? A Potential Solution Against the Dangers of BPD WomenHmmm... I think a very important distinction between mental disorders and personality disorders is that PD's cannot technically be cured. While something like depression or anxiety is able to "come and go" as time passes, once someone has a personality disorder, that's that. Treatment can only do so much to ease the symptoms, but it can never actually treat the disorder. Ironically, especially with something like BPD, most people with the disorder wouldn't necessarily want to hide the fact they'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Women how does your sexual attraction work?Usually, I immediately know whether I'm attracted to someone or not. For me, that special butterfly flies past me once every 1.5 years. There's nothing specific about the ones I've fallen for in this way. One was tall, the other was short. Rich, poor, educated or not; they were all different. However, last year, a guy fell in love with me. I turned him down since I didn't feel the same. His love got worse and then dimmed, and we ended up staying friends. Oddly enough, I began developing feelings… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Do Recent Events Involving a Certain Court Case Strengthen Views BPD Women MUST Be Avoided? A Potential Solution Against the Dangers of BPD WomenIn my late teens, I showed a lot of signs related to BPD. I've changed a lot and am still working on myself, but it turns out my symptoms were related to other disorders. Anyways... Would it help if men could would know which women have these personality disorders so they can make an informed choice to play with fire or avoid them like the plague or run for the hills if they want to get serious? Certainly. As is the case for just about any mental/personality disorder. Especially the Cluster B pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks.Agreed. I used to work in sales and a pretty face can only get you so far. It's like eating a cake with Styrofoam filling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks.I used to work in sales. Though I'm a woman, I'd still like to put in my own two cents. People are followers. It's something a lot of people on this sub preach as well: If woman A likes a man, Woman B, C and D will follow. If A doesn't like someone, the others will dislike him, too. This goes for men as well. It's a universal concept. Biologically, it makes sense. If one person deems someone "unsafe," it's best to steer clear just in case. This is why insecurity is such a deal-breaker/cockblock.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 11:21 PM |
| 17 | Q4W: If you discovered a man wore a hair piece after having sex with him, how would you feel?I don't think I'd really care? Apparently it doesn't look fake, so it's not really an issue for me. It's not like he absolutely has to disclose something like that before we hook up; it's obviously something he's embarrassed about. I don't talk about my bacne on the first date either. My first reaction would probably be to ask him questions, but I'd also tell him he doesn't have to talk about it if he doesn't want to. My opinion about it is the same with plastic surgery or any other appearance a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDYeah, you're honestly right. I remember my (and my ex's) first time. Candles, roses, chocolates; it was a complete surprise. We were both inexperienced kids, and he couldn't even get it in completely before we had to stop because I was on the verge of crying. It hurt like a bitch. Sex-wise, it was (obviously) the worst of my life, and I hope for him he hasn't had worse after that either. And yet I wouldn't change it. I hope your first time will be a bit more successful, but I also hope it will b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 03:36 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDI never implied male virgins are going to cheat. I just find what happened ironic, is all. It wasn't an assumption either. That's why I said "The ones I've been with..." rather than a generalized "they." You just asked if I could commit to someone with no sexual experience, and my response was my own experience on the matter. I meant to say that virgins aren't always the "yucky" clingy ones. Men and women can cheat, virgin or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 02:28 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFor me personally, I think it's an absolute turn-on if he cares about his appearance. In one of my friendgroup, there's only one guy who actively gets girl after girl. He's also the only one who actively looks after his appearance. We joked about it once and he said that it makes sense why he's getting the most attention from women. Most guys either neglect their appearance, or they're gay. He's basically like a rare gem. I agreed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:45 AM |
| 5 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDOh definitely not. A lot of my male friends are virgins, and I doubt they'd be cruel enough to ever do something like that. I'm just stating my experience. I'm more than willing to commit to a virgin. The ones I've been with just didn't want to commit to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:39 AM |
| 7 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDWhat? Of course not. My first relationship was a "mutual deflowering," so I'm not sure that counts. My third relationship was with a virgin, too. My second boyfriend already lost his virginity to a hookup, but I was his first relationship with sex (and his overall 2nd). The irony of it all? 2 of the relationships ended with them cheating on me. I'll let you guess who the cheaters were. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:36 AM |
| 3 | Humans Aren't Monogamous And Relationships Let Women Have Their Cake And Eat It So Men Should Stop Entering Into ThemThe fact that I've never had a boyfriend who matched my sex drive makes me laugh at this post. It makes so many of these statements seem so wonky for me. When women say they want building something together, but then are not interested in sex However, men and women should exist on an equal plane, and if a woman isn't as interesting to a man as his male friends, she shouldn't deserve to be his friend. Agreed. I don't want to spend my life with someone I'm not friends with, and I don't want someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:30 AM |
| 13 | Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPDI think it's actually an honor to be a guy's (or anyone's) first. It does give me some extra pressure to make sure he's having an amazing time, but it's really special tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:19 AM |
| 10 | What are some apparently contradicting claims espoused by the same people, that you want to point out?There was this Youtube video I watched today where a woman accidentally posted a picture that showed her exposed breasts. She took it down less than five minutes later, but screens had already been made. The Youtuber is the type of person who's all about empowerment. There is nothing wrong with exposed body parts and she cheers the women in the sex industry on. But she did not want that. A couple of people went out of their way to send the picture to as many people as they could. Fanpages, follo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:13 AM |
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