I_Do_Not_Exist Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
200	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme?		I_Do_Not_Exist	/r/MensRights	20/10/12 08:56 PM

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7	Mary P. Koss thinks that it is "inappropriate" to consider men who have been raped by women as rape victims, because "their penetration experience is not similar to what women are reporting". She calls it "unwanted contact". I don't know... I don't think rape is traumatic because of penetration. I think it's traumatic because of violation. In that respect, there's no difference between a man being raped and a woman, even if the man wasn't penetrated. Not to mention the social stigma that comes along with male rape victims, which are almost entirely either ignored, belittled, or even applauded.	/r/MensRights	27/12/15 08:11 PM
15	Mary P. Koss thinks that it is "inappropriate" to consider men who have been raped by women as rape victims, because "their penetration experience is not similar to what women are reporting". She calls it "unwanted contact". I don't think it's overall true that women "have it worse", but that statement needs to be defined. I think that women's experiences are far disparate from men's in ways that are sometimes alienating and difficult to convey. It's easy for me to say, "Well, women don't have it any worse, and all this sexism stuff is overblown", but then spending time with female friends and seeing them get targeted by this strangely passive aggressive mode of communication that some men have... I can see how that…	/r/MensRights	27/12/15 07:10 PM
7	Mary P. Koss thinks that it is "inappropriate" to consider men who have been raped by women as rape victims, because "their penetration experience is not similar to what women are reporting". She calls it "unwanted contact". This is really despicable. I hope that /r/mensrights knows this is not in any way a typical attitude for women to hold, particularly not those who have been affected by sexual assault. The implication here is that rape has to be violent and involve submission through physical force, and if this were the case, it would invalidate millions of women who were drugged, coerced, or otherwise subdued (i.e. sleeping) during the time of their assault. This attitude is shameful and the belief that men can…	/r/MensRights	27/12/15 07:01 PM
97	[Study] Men who treat women the same as they treat other men, without benevolent sexism/female privilege, are seen as overwhelmingly sexist by both men and women. I wanted to comment on this because I believe I have some unique perspective on gender issues. I'll preface this by clarifying that, for the sake of context, I am a female, and a huge supporter of men's rights. I consider myself to be immensely lucky to have been raised in a family with three older brothers and parents who imposed no gender oriented expectations on me. I was encouraged to be a good person, never to be a "good woman". As I aged, I realized that one of the most salient differences…	/r/MensRights	15/01/15 06:23 PM
4	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? Unfortunately the laws regarding rape are about 20 years behind their time. Many states are only just now recognizing male to male rape, and it's going to be a while before female to male rape is considered "valid" in the eyes of the law. I know your comment was sarcastic, but I'm commenting from a general point of view on the topic of female to male rape.	/r/MensRights	21/10/12 03:03 AM
10	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? Well part of the reason I posted this is that it is actually not doing a courtesy to either gender. It conveys this idea that a drunk man is a rapist and a drunk woman is a victim. How is this equality? Why is it that a man can consent while inebriated and a woman can't? What is it about our society that we demand equality but treat men like criminals just waiting to snap and women just waiting to be assaulted because they don't even have the LEGAL right to consent while drunk? It's absurd, and …	/r/MensRights	21/10/12 03:00 AM
8	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? I mentioned this in another comment, but I actually know a startling amount of men who have been raped. I spent several years in residential treatment centers for kids who had emotional or behavioral problems, and the rate of sexual assault among men (victims) was very high. I know this isn't a gender specific issue, which is part of the reason I find the poster so offensive.	/r/MensRights	20/10/12 11:51 PM
6	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? Actually, many crimes don't require intent. Ignorance of the law is not criminality, but it isn't a viable legal defense. Manslaughter and negligence (varied), for example, are not intent-driven crimes. I do see your point though.	/r/MensRights	20/10/12 10:10 PM
12	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? I think it's a strange dichotomy to make women the unequivocal victims because it doesn't put them in the position of power, it perpetuates the idea that, like you said, women are incapable of making their own decisions regarding sex. It doesn't help their cause, it only belittles and victimizes them. There is so much rape-fear in this country and I think at times it pollutes people into thinking they really have been taken advantage of when in actuality it was a consenting decision they made, a…	/r/MensRights	20/10/12 09:52 PM
33	This poster is up all around town today. Does anyone else find the insinuation that alcohol turns you into an unknowing rapist a bit extreme? Yes, exactly. I think this double standard is terrifying. Is this to say that any woman could press sexual assault charges on any man simply because she had a small amount of alcohol in her? Why does intoxication at even a minor level make consent invalid in women and not in men? Furthermore, I find it disturbing that this poster insinuates that rape is not a choice, but could be influences SO EASILY by intoxication. When have you ever thought to yourself, "I'm not a raping man, but I'm so drunk…	/r/MensRights	20/10/12 09:29 PM