IamHereAndNow Archive

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2	Red Pillers idolize the wrong men You start talking about guys that promote casual sex and end up with relationship advise. Pick a lane. Morality is subjective. If you chose to live a virtous life, don't expect everyone around you to do the same. No one owes you respect or special treatment if you are virtous. You do it for your own sake. Men are in competition to get access to sex. Since the dawn of time. They will do everything they can to get that. Going outside the moral frame of the current culture is the way to win, which …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 09:51 PM
1	You're just not that guy. Its ok. There's nothing wrong that. We need more details. How old were you and your wife when you met, how long are you together. How hot is she and how hot were women that you had no problem getting etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 06:53 AM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. I'm saying that men listen to him for a different reason. Just like the first post you answered to. Men follow lies of morality and get opposite results and start looking for answers. Tate exposes the answers and then men make their own conclusions on their own based on a lot of factors. Tate is just a needle that bursts the bubble. If for your taste Tate is too much to swallow, I'm sorry. But apparently this is what it takes to get through the information to the modern men. Call us stupid or wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 02:24 AM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. It's not strategies that work on me. I'm talking about strategies men will apply to life. You imply that men need to "control" themselves. Which they should. That they have to accept that they won't get what they want. Some will, some will apply more aggressive and risky strategies to get what they want. Or from you POV - "radicalize"	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 11:45 PM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. You think that men are listening to Tate because he is saying that women shouldn't have any rights, but you are misunderstanding the root of what they're saying and presupposing their actions as being contrary when they've either changed their mind through growth or you actually know nothing about the intricacies of their decision since you aren't living their life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 11:42 PM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. No. You look around and devise a strategy to achive that, lol. Which pushes men into more radical strategies to get what they want. A lot of frustration men have is that they have to participate in stupid risky games to get with women, which can damage other aspects of their lives. Instead of women(since you wanted to be in control of who you sleep with) offering an acceptable etiquette on how to approach them for casual sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 11:02 PM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. If lying isn't crime he is not radicalized, he is smart...	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 10:54 PM
–	Alpha fux and beta bux is literally so hard to ignore. yeah. Because then you are bluepilled... As long as the circumstances of your life let you to continue the beaten path - you are going to do that. Like a fish in the water. That was my experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 10:52 PM
2	What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes? And she will pretend that she likes it. See the stories online on how wives are not getting orgasm with their husbands. I don’t know what to tell you. It is crazy, but it happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 07:10 PM
1	What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes? Absolutely wrong advice. You won’t know even 5 years into marriage when she divorces you. And the fact that you think that you know, when in reality you don’t, makes you and easy target.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/26 06:08 PM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Any tips on how to clearly communicate to women that I’m not a relationship material? For some reason this information often is ignored from my experience	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 05:44 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. It all starts with sex ofc. What else? I don’t know you yet. How is it men’s fault if woman orders some alcohol on a date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 05:33 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Since most people meet over apps the chain is: match on the app -> date -> get drunk on the date -> hook up. Plenty of points for women control.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 05:11 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Yes. What is your point?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:22 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. The worst option is slow decline to the point of no return	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:21 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Exactly. And as a result I don’t want to be the guy you will want to commit to. Win-win lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:20 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Exactly and the man should have clue when he is not that, when the girl is dragging her feet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:13 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Easy to avoid. Just don’t sleep before marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:04 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. We want you to wait till marriage and then be loyal to your husband. And have as much sex with your husband as your and his hearts desire. PS there is no winning this argument as women just want both - be sexually free and then have one guy to overlook all that and fall in love with them like they are virgins. Mooo point	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 04:02 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Simple way out - no sex before marriage. This option was always on the table to prevent you from making those mistakes	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 03:58 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Hookup is something that should happen naturally because of enthusiastic consent from both parties. It is not something that is negotiated over the phone before first meeting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 03:57 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. Okay. Then you end up with ALL the guys starting with “want hookup?” line. Would that work for you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 03:55 AM
–	“Choose better” until that means women wont fuck a stranger. It’s not about men. you’ve chosen men in the past to just go wild and enjoy sex with them, but with me you want provisioning and long term play, and you are not sure about all this, and you are not like this etc. This seems like a woman wants to talk herself to like you for wrong reasons as she needs something else from the guy and she is willing to trade sex with him for that. But she doesn’t want to tell him that straight of course, and she will play and pretend for years and decades. Only aft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/26 03:52 AM
1	The RedPill ruined my life and I’m attempting to pick up the pieces and rebuild my life… Great. I can see you are busy at work. May I suggest afterpill of different kind: FreeAgentLifestyle. Keep working, spend some of your hard earned money on girls that just want to have fund, safe some time and it will help you heal properly.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/26 03:47 AM
1	Escorts are the best option for undesirable men And I completely believe you. Would it be correct to say: You were paying a bit lower than 500$ per lay (a couple dates on average with women to get to sex + dates with women that went nowhere) + spent a ton more of your time on texting and vetting if the girl actually wants to have good sex with you or she is just bored and wants to waste everyone's time. The range of girls you would go out with would be between 5/10 - 9/10. You cuddled them with nice and warm atmosphere, didn't judge them, did…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 03:44 PM
1	Escorts are the best option for undesirable men Well. You need to get your RP, go through RP rage and come out the other side with firm boundaries. You pick up "The Book of Numbers" and check what you really want, the marketplace you are in and your chances of getting it in this market. (What OP suggests) If you think that you can get what you want the way you want it - do it. What OP is suggesting is that money is against the "rules" in a game where the "rules" never really existed. OP, just like many men(myself included) need moral approval…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 08:02 AM
1	Escorts are the best option for undesirable men How much did you spend per month on your previous gf?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 07:41 AM
1	Escorts are the best option for undesirable men How much money and time did you spend per your Tinder date? We need proofs of who did you get from dating apps at this rate. With escort you can count on a certain level of looks and performance. You are married now. How much do you spend on your wife per year? I want to maximise my bodycount with 8s, 9s and 10s. Not maximise my bodycount no matter what. You are based, just want to point out extra variables one need to account for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 07:31 AM
-2	Redpill they think the woman is their property, but at the same time they hate it So there is NO contradiction. There are just 2 ways of life that in modern times are equally accepted by society. Each individual has the right and freedom to choose the path for himself and live by it. RP only reveals that there is an alternative path to those people who due to various factors believe in a more idealistic or conservative world view. Given how easy it is for information to spread these days, a lot of people receive the message. The same as OP. OP believes that there is fairytale…	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/25 05:03 AM
-2	Redpill they think the woman is their property, but at the same time they hate it Hmm. It is because guys are expected to provide and care for them (in most cases) and take responsibility when a couple stumbles upon an obstacle or a problem (in most cases). Men also are expected to commit FOR LIFE to a woman, even though after some years he won't be getting the same benefits (having young fertile hot girl next to him) while girls keep getting full benefits (provision, protection etc.) Personally I don't want to own a woman. In fact I'm very happy that women are free, fulfille…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/25 11:05 AM
3	Ex-Red Pillers, what would you directly ask/say to Manosphere figures like Fresh & Fit and Rollo Tomassi if you had the chance? Why do they think that their short term tactics will translate well into long term relationship. Don't they think it is too much work to keep dominating and controlling another person in 10-20-30 year relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	14/05/25 01:32 AM
-4	Chad doesn’t exist This whole thread is about a SIGNAL or proof that men, generally referred as CHAD, exist. Online dating provides such a proof that at some level of attractiveness you become a CHAD. Now, my definition of CHAD would be a guy who, based on his appearance, is able to get attention, keep attention of women he wants and bed them in the quantities bigger than he can sustain. I remove fame, power or money from the definition of CHAD. These men exist. We can debate who they are, what are the factors tha…	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/25 05:17 AM
-13	Chad doesn’t exist Ok. Change dating apps to "Online". https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/18h7k9g/how_heterosexual_couples_met_oc/ And this is for couples. Correct metric would be for hookups, which is harder to measure.	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/25 05:02 AM
-14	Chad doesn’t exist Dating apps ARE reality. Also social media. That's how girls meet their lovers now in most cases.	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/25 04:47 AM
-14	Chad doesn’t exist Well. But he does. Check various experiments on dating apps with regular guy vs top 10% guy. The outcome is completely different, communication is a) initiated by girls more often b) even weird messages are overlooked or considered funny. So at some level of attractiveness rules indeed change and instead of men pursuing the gravity turns.	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/25 04:25 AM
4	Escorts are Men’s Best Option (Unless You Want Kids) My 5 cents: That's because you project your fantasies on sex. You think that women you interact with are "falling" for your charm and you are such a player and she got no way out but to sleep with you(you are projecting men's arousal pattern on women), while in realty more often then not, women want to get you for some reason i.e. you are valuable for them. If you need external validation from anything - that's an L in my book. More often then not women will have pleasure from delivering pleasur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/25 05:23 AM
1	I think a lot of men were lied to as kids about love and that's why they're bitter "Lies" you are talking about were engrained into Christian culture and were developed over centuries. On top of that similar beliefs can be seen in other cultures. We can dissect it using different tools, but for the sake of the argument I suggest to agree that humans have behaviors dictated by nature which we can't simply control by our minds. Now if we talk about these "lies". Do you think these "lies" were given to you in your best interest or to deceive you and take advantage of your ignoran…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/25 07:32 AM
1	Modern monogamy has become a system that relies on men not knowing they have options Great. What's your personal strategy in that case?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 01:29 PM
–	Modern Dating Woes are due to Technology Don't worry. Most of them will divorce by 30 and will be back to the pool.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 02:56 PM
–	Modern Dating Woes are due to Technology hallelujah	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 02:55 PM
-1	Women need to be choosier than men Exactly. Instead of using intelligence to overcome our biology and create "artificial" traditions or etiquette - create a balanced marketplace, we would succumb to our biological nature and follow instinct. Men will start using strategies that get them what they want using women biology triggers with modern spin. Regarding procreation - we can't follow just biology. We have technology, money and laws slapped on top of our biology, so the guys who find it too easy to get women, won't procreate in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 02:45 PM
–	Modern Dating Woes are due to Technology Have you heard about Instagram? DTF? The fact that now dating can happen behind closed doors opened a lot of possibilities for experiences which previously would have been prevented by adults being around and shame. But you do you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/25 01:51 PM
0	There is no point in telling women theyre not entitled to safety. Here is how logic goes: Correct observation. That's what a lot of men now do. Instead of interfering when shit hits the fan in our proximity(like the "true" man would do in previous generations), most men would wait for properly trained men to show up and help women/children/men in need of help or crime prevention. Something There is an instinct in us to protect weaker beings. We have it to protect our children. Women are weaker than men so when we see aggression towards them in our vicinity(unf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/25 07:49 PM
1	Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards. This is exactly about sex. When men are saying that you need to have a high standards it means to give access to sex only to guys that are potentially good long term partners and not only hedonistic short term pleasure partners. Because eventually women will arrive to the point of "high standards" and start demanding long term relationship commitment even though just a year ago she would be ready to go with the guy she just met at the bar. So the last guy pays the most and it feels like you are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/25 08:50 PM
1	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves That’s the parent’s point, right? Men have to work harder than women to get parity in this situation. Since women’s sex drive lower/you are more picky/you have to have right timing for it - pick whatever you like, at the end of the day, for a men to consistently get what he wants from women(I.e. start this burning desire) he has to work really hard and approach a lot. Women enjoy the privilege of men being constantly on fire and selecting if they want to fuck some of us or use our desire for som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 08:20 PM
1	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves You would be dead after a couple of weeks in this mode))	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 08:11 PM
1	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves Your goal “to get one” is not what most men want to get after years of work in the gym. I can get one fairly easily. I don’t want to get one. I want to get a new one every week for a couple years at least.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 08:04 PM
1	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves Sex is one of the most potent instincts in us. Why wouldn’t it motivate us to do hard things? If hot girls were queuing every morning at my doorstep to catch my morning wood - I would probably choose to spend the rest of my day playing games and sleeping.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 08:03 PM
1	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves You are saying as if “to fuck” is something that only men want and are able to enjoy. As far as I’m concerned if the girl isn’t there “to just fuck” in the first place - I’m not interested. It means that she wants to fuck for some other reason I.e. using sex as a manipulation tool. Genuine burning desire - that’s what i want(and most men here too) to see first before I provide and think about taking care of you and our children. Otherwise, you have to sell it to me as a virgin through some ideal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 07:51 PM
-9	So many redpill men constantly say this about western women That's true and I'm so happy that they are emancipated now. I don't need authority of women, fully enjoy responsibilities and accountability of children and let women have their benefits (but not at my expense). This makes me free and I fully enjoy and observe where this leads us... However, women for some reason are not that happy with 50/50 proposition or the fact that I don't want to take lifelong responsibility for another grown up human being. Curious to find a likeminded person, may be we …	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/25 07:18 PM
1	CMV: It's ok to end a marriage/family for your own happiness Agreed. It should be bi-weekly or something similar. However, usually this should be defended through court - expensive and unnecessary procedure usually used by lower income parent to get more child support from a provider parent. 50/50 time split custody with no child support which is activated by default would be a great middle ground to stop wasting resources of the family on legislation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/24 08:51 PM
1	CMV: It's ok to end a marriage/family for your own happiness She will be miserable no matter what since happiness comes from within and not from your circumstances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 01:02 PM
2	CMV: It's ok to end a marriage/family for your own happiness As a fellow feminist I hope you support default 50/50 custody. I hate seeing men being rejected their rights.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 01:00 PM
2	CMV: It's ok to end a marriage/family for your own happiness Is this woman entitled for 50% of his wealth, alimony and full custody with child support payments or if she is not "happy" he should leave the situation and not leverage legal system to get free cash flow to fun her new "happy" lifestyle?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/24 12:57 PM
1	The people who claim most women "like bad men" are lying to you. Ignore the liars' tiny sample size, American-bubble "studies" which "prove women like bad men" and just look at it from a women's self-interest perspective. Bad men will hurt them and make their lives worse. Perfect. Not really need them to stick around to be honest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/24 08:13 AM
1	If men spent more time working on themselves instead of chasing women and trying to get laid, they would be a lot better off. Nothing bad with it if you know what you are doing. It is a strategy and a good onez	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 05:44 AM
1	If men spent more time working on themselves instead of chasing women and trying to get laid, they would be a lot better off. Definitely. But if after letting go I still want to build a life the way I want and have resources that I need for that - I will do that. Lambo may as well be on my list as I understand what I want to get out of it	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 05:42 AM
1	If men spent more time working on themselves instead of chasing women and trying to get laid, they would be a lot better off. Women do get more education in USA as % of total while still being behind in STEM fields which actually make the world work. Since men are expected to play the role of provider - your university debt is his university debt and men should definitely take this into account when bonding with a woman. Your career plays a role for your preference of a mate - No matter how much you earn, the only males that are feasible options for a family from your point of view are the ones who make more, more succ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 05:38 AM
3	Wife says she has “Outgrown our Marriage” You will understand it in a year after divorce. Men have hard time to develop themselves inside relationships and women distract us. Hope it won't hit you too hard and you can recover. Remember: Divorce is priceless.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/23 02:27 AM
1	"MGTOW is disliked by women because the concept of men not putting up with them anymore scares them!" No, it's because you never shut up about how awful women are and how much you hate them. What to explore? Divorce rate is going down as is marriage rate. OK. So for US the rate is not 50% it is 41% LOL. Not much difference given that marriage is supposed to be FOR LIFE. 80% initiated by women... Red pill and MGTOW content wouldn't exist if women didn't put up their content online trying to find approval for their actions, which are completely dishonest or delusional. Why are you blaming men and not these women that ask for such treatment?	/r/ExRedPill	31/10/22 06:54 AM
1	"MGTOW is disliked by women because the concept of men not putting up with them anymore scares them!" No, it's because you never shut up about how awful women are and how much you hate them. In other words you saw reality, didn't like it and took a blue pill. I see all your points, but what to do with actual statistics of divorces, separations and dating apps?	/r/ExRedPill	29/10/22 07:08 PM