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FundamentalsIamRocksteady/r/seduction03/12/21 02:30 PM
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I also have a friend who's about 1,9m very handsome, while I'm 1,77m. He also has game. I can't remember how many times I saw him get blown out of sets in matter of seconds.
/r/seduction22/06/26 10:39 AM
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As painful as it is, this will happen on your journey and for reasons you may never find out. Heck, you will even get ghosted after sleeping with them or seeing each other for a few months. Chalk it up to experience, detach and keep talking to women wherever you are. There's no better antidote than having an abundance mindset in my opinion.
/r/seduction22/06/26 10:35 AM
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Don't date married women dude. You never now how the husband might react if he found out, and it's also unethical. Plenty of single and attractive women out there to meet. Risking your health just because of some fantasy, isn't worth it. Start learning to meet and approach women wherever you are.
/r/seduction10/03/26 11:26 AM
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Being fit, besides making you more attractive, energetic and confident, it can also make you appear more charismatic, since muscles are often associated with power and competence. The HALO effect shouldn't be ignored. But I understand your overall point and I agree with that. Just getting more fit, won't get you more girls, if you don't know how to seduce them. It's a tool, that you need to learn how to use properly for maximum effect.
/r/seduction16/02/26 09:15 PM
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Couldn't disagree more on the fitness point. It's very important to get proper coaching to learn form and execution. It's the difference between getting injured and not progressing for years, versus shortening the time, how fast you can get results. 5-6 months to learn the basic can set you up for life.
/r/seduction16/02/26 07:23 PM
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Yes it is. Because real life interactions can't be taken over by AI or by filters.
/r/seduction02/02/26 09:25 PM
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Those who say they don't get rejected are liars. Plain and simple.
/r/seduction30/01/26 10:23 AM
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Until you haven't done several hundred approaches and constantly tried to improve and learn from each interaction, you don't really have enough data to make any judgments on whether if it's worth it or not.
/r/seduction30/01/26 10:22 AM
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Stop believing everything people say and go watch what they do instead. Plenty of younger women date older guys. Also, are you taking care of yourself in terms of style, hygiene and the BIG one, your body? Do you have a timeless elegance because you follow the 3 F's of style (Fit, Form, Function) and match colors accordingly, or do you dress like a slob, like many guy in their 30's do, who already let themselves go? Are you in good shape, that makes you look younger and more vibrant, or you don'…
/r/seduction19/12/25 09:20 AM
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2 steps forward and one step back usually works. As you build more trust and tension and go just 1 step forward, it should be easy in most cases to seal the deal.
/r/seduction02/12/25 03:44 PM
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Knowing how to dance will do nothing for you in the club. Women won't just magically start approaching you, just because you have some moves. I don't know where people got this idea in the first place.
/r/seduction14/11/25 11:25 AM
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Disagree. That book is great, if you start applying it, regardless if you have social anxiety or not.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:50 PM
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It's the worst book on the subject. Nothing but gimmicks and fake openers in it. Teaches you absolutely nothing, about real inner work and how to become a better man, where you don't have to fake everything.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:49 PM
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You think that the issue is the fear itself. No. The issue is the fact that you base your whole identity and happiness on the outcome of the approach. Don't try to get rid of the fear. Embrace it instead and reframe it as excitement (both exctiement and anxiety have the exact same physiological response in the body). Feel the fear and do it anyway! After you have done several hundred approaches, the fear will almost go away completely.
/r/seduction04/03/25 08:13 PM
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You might want to check out the below discussion between David Eagleman (neuroscientist) and Dr. Jonathan Downar, a psychiatrist specialising in clinical depression. Ep 48: Why do brains become depressed? | INNER COSMOS WITH DAVID EAGLEMAN
/r/seduction28/12/24 03:53 PM
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Why in games name would you go out with your manager of all people...? What were you thinking...?
/r/seduction13/11/24 07:14 PM
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No one can help a person, who doesn't want to help himself.
/r/seduction17/09/24 01:35 PM
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Nothing works. I've done everything. Please expand on what you mean that nothing works and you have done everything. What have you done exactly?
/r/seduction14/09/24 08:41 AM
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Regarding cold approaching, most women will reject you, especially when you are a beginner. Even at the top level, you will close (have sex) 1-2 women from every phone number/contact info you will get. These are the stats that experts like Paul Janka, James Marshall or James Tusk say. Regarding your personality, it's hard to give feedback when none of us know you as a person. A good starting point would be for you to read the following books and most importantly, go and apply what you learn: The…
/r/seduction13/08/24 10:48 AM
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Nothing could be further from the truth.
/r/seduction18/06/24 02:25 PM
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Those are all just excuses for not doing something. You (meaning guys who use these excuses you just listed) can not develop confidence unless you become competent. And you won't become competent until you start growing as a person and start taking action.
/r/seduction01/06/24 12:56 PM
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A good point here would also be to notice in which directions are the legs and specifically the feets are facing. If they are pointed toward you, it shows usually interest. If they are looking away from you, they are just trying to get away.
/r/seduction14/04/23 09:39 PM
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Just keep moving. Keep meeting women wherever you go. You want to make it part of your identity and not just something you occasionally do.
/r/seduction25/01/22 05:43 PM
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The only way you will ever get over your fear of cold approaching, is by doing it. You can start small, by complementing women or using indirect openers, like asking for time, directions, opinions etc.
/r/seduction16/01/22 08:14 PM
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The Natural Lifestyle ( James Marshall) and James Tusk.
/r/seduction16/01/22 08:00 PM
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How did you meet most of the women you dated? Bars, clubs, cold approaches during the day, online dating?
/r/seduction10/01/22 09:08 AM
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The comparison was just a base comparison of using other people's experience versus trial and error. That's where my point lies and not how dangerous driving is. Why do you think people pay for professional help be that driving, skateboarding, dating, learning a language or anything else instead of trying to learn by themselves by investing thousands of hours in it? If you have so much time and mental resilience that you would rather learn all the steps of a successful seduction and you don't mi…
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:17 AM
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Honestly, that's one of the worst advice you can give. If you wanted to learn how to drive, would you rather do it by yourself or actually learn from an instructor or a rally driver, who was already been where you want to go?
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:39 PM
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Good job! Keep doing it so you don't lose your momentum.
/r/seduction05/01/22 10:57 AM
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The reasons don't matter in my opinion. The fact remains the same: she is withholding sex for whatever reason, and your needs aren't being met. Those 2 months you are wasting on this girl just to get laid, could easily be invested in meeting other women, who are actually open to intimacy. I was in your situation 4 years ago and I just broke it off with that girl over text. She didn't even deserve a face to face conversation cause she was never straight up with me, why she doesn't want to sleep w…
/r/seduction04/01/22 12:06 PM
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You should give more details. At which part of the interaction are you getting rejected? When you open they shut you down? Do they reject you when you ask for their contact info, or at which phase? You should be more specific.
/r/seduction04/01/22 12:01 PM
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You might want to learn about the London Game model. That's what I am using usually. There are plenty of YouTube videos about it.
/r/seduction03/01/22 05:02 PM
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Have you studied any seduction material, or are you approaching the whole thing by trial and error? Do you keep a journal about your interactions with women? Maybe it would be worth it for you to hire a dating coach (an authentic one like Correy Wayne or James Tusk) and/or see a therapist. Someone who can look at you and give you an informed feedback.
/r/seduction03/01/22 05:37 AM
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It sounds like you were too compliant and predictable. How often do you take the lead with women? Meaning that you make the plans, lead the interaction etc.
/r/seduction01/01/22 11:37 AM
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How to be a 3% Man. The Game is trash. It's filled with gimmicks and stupid techniques that don't work. It completely lacks principles and doesn't discuss anything about how to actually become a seductive guy, probably because Misery and all the other idiots had no idea about it.
/r/seduction26/12/21 09:30 PM
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What have helped me tremendously was watching and learning from the Natural Lifestyles and James Tusk's videos. They have tones of actual cold approach footages with themselves and students, and you can see live what works and what doesn't. It also helps to see pro's getting blown out. This helps with reframing the rejections you inevitably get most of the time and to not take it personally. Good luck.
/r/seduction24/12/21 11:20 AM
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Than you would need new friends. When my friends saw me cold approaching women they were just shocked in the sense that somebody has the balls to do that. They never told me not to do it, or that I'm creapy.
/r/seduction24/12/21 11:16 AM
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What would be odd about going out specifically to meet women? That's what I do when i'm cold approaching. It only comes of as odd if you make it, and if you have that mental state, that this is odd, it will surely give off the wrong vibes for women.
/r/seduction24/12/21 11:15 AM
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2 steps forward, one step back. Light touches and massages. Deep eye contacts. When the signs are there, just make a move. If she stops you at any point don't get offended or lose your cool. Just lean back and try again later. Have fun!
/r/seduction23/12/21 04:20 PM
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I would suggest you to start learning about attachment styles. This is something that the seduction community completely overlooks, even though it's paramount to learn it in my opinion. It will open your eyes.
/r/seduction17/12/21 12:42 PM
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You know what you should be doing, you even stated it yourself, yet here you are complaining and making excuses. Judging from your post, you don't actually want advice. You just want people to agree with your way of thinking and give a free pass for you to remain in your comfort zone.
/r/seduction17/12/21 08:32 AM
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Positive Intelligence. That book gives some great tools for developing a good mindset which you can use daily in all situations of life. Also, People Skills by Robert Bolton.
/r/seduction16/12/21 08:11 AM
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First of all: Happy Birthday. Second: having good communication abilities is a skill, and not something that you're born with. This means that you can develop it. I'm telling this as an introvert, who was also a "loser" at your age in social skills. But for in order to develop it you will need to enroll in to some courses and read a few books about it. Then go and implement what you have learned. Some books i'd recommend in getting for starters: People Skills by Robert Bolton Mindset by Carol Dw…
/r/seduction15/12/21 08:22 AM
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For me, this goes hand hand in hand with seduction. I don't really feel happy and contempt, if I am not getting intimacy on a regular basis.
/r/seduction14/12/21 02:13 PM
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Did you get a firm confirmation from her, meaning she agreed for Friday, or was it just kind of a "maybe" or "call me later so I can confirm" kind of situation? If you don't have a firm commitment from her, I wouldn't contact her for at least another week or two.
/r/seduction13/12/21 12:04 PM
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You think it's your looks, your game, a combination of both, life circumstances or something else that doesn't get you the kind of success you would want?
/r/seduction09/12/21 11:19 AM
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Learn to do cold approaching and talking with women wherever you go. That's what I do mostly. But lockdown's have screwed things up a bit.
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:54 AM
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This was out of 120 approaches approximately: 7 dates and 2 lays. Can't remember the number of contact information I got. So there's plenty of room for improvement on my side.
/r/seduction03/12/21 08:57 PM
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I had about 2 lays and several other dates which went nowhere. I've noticed that it's easier for me to get contact information but only a few convert to dates. Right now in my country I can't even go on dates cause bars are closed for the unvaccinated. Don't put it off mate, cause the fear and the pain of not taking action will only get worse. Just start even in small steps if that's what works for you.
/r/seduction03/12/21 06:09 PM
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