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Iamovert/r/seduction10/02/21 12:59 PM
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You’ll be just fine, breathe, know that height doesn’t make you a good person. After all the girl is just another person on the earth just like you. She ain’t an alien
/r/seduction23/05/24 04:32 PM
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Your life doesn’t magically “get better” when you have a romantic GF in your life. I’ve had the best year of my life so far. Travel by yourself, learn more about what you suck at and are really good at by putting yourself in uncomfortable situations. Do anything by yourself and then when other people come into your life they will notice you have so much to offer.
/r/seduction20/05/24 05:44 PM
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Luckily I have a good head of hair on me, but styling it the right way for you made a huge difference for me.
/r/seduction16/05/24 02:41 AM
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It’s not the self control part I think, it’s the REALLY enjoying the moments you have with that person you enjoy seeing. And telling them in the moment to make sure they know. That way you get the satisfaction of letting them know without being “needy” wanting to see them a lot.
/r/seduction13/05/24 09:28 PM
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That statement is you just trying to find an excuse.
/r/seduction15/08/22 05:56 PM
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Bro what the hell were you thinking responding to her
/r/seduction28/02/22 02:42 AM
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I hear what you’re saying but humans have trouble with communication And being clear. Some people also don’t like to clearly reject someone because they might think it’s harsh. Just look at it like it’s her loss, you won by not being involved with someone who couldn’t communicate clearly. Also this is just my two cents on the letter part, yeah they are easier to do and it prevents a awkward situation. But it shows immense confidence by just saying what you wanted in person.
/r/seduction21/02/22 12:49 AM
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See that’s where you went wrong, and what Junkie was trying to say you said it again in that response. You have to have a positive attitude towards this type of interaction. If you’re constantly going out into the dating scene saying I doubt I’ll ever find that again isn’t a good start. Attitude is important for the way your mind thinks, and important for how you will interact with others.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:41 PM
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It seems like you’re getting frustrated with women not being clear. Try something different, don’t even give the woman the time of day your interacting with unless she’s showing some kind of interest. You have to judge when/ if that’s happening but what this will do is show her that you don’t BS and beat around the bush.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:35 PM
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You’re 100% right couldn’t have said it better. And if someone makes an excuse on why they can’t make it at that time, when that time comes it better be a good one.
/r/seduction04/10/21 04:04 AM
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Yeah I know what your saying. OP Should have established a time but this is a common thing to do. If no call, I’ll usually send out a text, saying “we still good for ___ at x,y,z time?”
/r/seduction03/10/21 11:14 AM
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I will mention dating can be a challenging process. You almost have to judge/ sense how into you the girl is. I had had several times where I knew the girl was into me when I was with her but days would go by with her not responding on text “Bc she was a bad texter” which is BS nobody forgets to check their messages for 2 days. Dating is almost a game, which is again stupid. If she takes 3 hours to respond take 5-6. This shows you’re a busy person and have priorities. I wouldn’t say to do this i…
/r/seduction24/06/21 09:38 PM
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Yes this is great advice to the situation, just don’t do things for her at work to try and impress her. Which I’m sure you won’t, I’m just trying to reinforce it. It could be even something as small as agreeing with her on something you hear her say.
/r/seduction07/06/21 10:38 PM
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I agree with everything here! 1 and 3 are incredibly important. With number 5 I would say don’t ask to kiss her (and Ik you didn’t say that) obviously but tell her. Now do i do that as much no but most girls like that. It’s also very attractive if you know that connection is there in attraction to just confidently just kiss her too.
/r/seduction07/06/21 02:45 AM
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Sorry I must have read the make out part wrong. Instagram is a great way to gain connections, not in a dating way. I’ve heard multiple coaches say if she declines her number and says oh here’s my Instagram then your response should be. Listen this isn’t my first rodeo, this is a one time offer to plan something (out like drinks) if that is what you want to do for a date. And make the date, dinner, sporting event clear.
/r/seduction30/05/21 08:33 PM
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Your mindset is what’s holding you back, dating apps are a great way of just practicing. If you aren’t getting matches on them it’s most likely the pictures you have that aren’t as good.
/r/seduction30/05/21 08:24 PM
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First off I want you to remember it’s not always your fault for plans falling through. I’ve seen serious improvement with social interactions by not watching porn anymore. From what I’ve been reading you are coming off as a needy type by saying we should meet up for drinks and “make out” it should be left at we should get drinks! And that’s it, also something very big is you are using Instagram to talk to women, which is good and all but this shouldn’t be your primary way of contact. Think of ho…
/r/seduction30/05/21 08:16 PM
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I can understand what you are saying, you have look at it another way. If you go up and talk to them and get rejected, ok yes that’s not the greatest but you will never see that girl again in your life. Most of the time you will not get told something rude it’s just a kind rejection.
/r/seduction19/05/21 11:58 AM
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Good for you man! That was 10000% a sign, she just felt if you didn’t respond ( if she messaged you first obviously) then I’m sure she didn’t want to be rejected
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:31 PM
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This might seem like a crazy thing and outlandish piece of advice. But stop watching porn/ nsfw content, not saying you do but it’s such a “norm nowadays” and it’s been the biggest reason why I don’t put women on a pedestal, or let talking to them scare me.
/r/seduction27/04/21 12:32 AM
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This is something that I always try and think of from a different POV and most of the time that’s what makes me approach. If a girl approaches me I find it very attractive unless they seem cocky at the beginning. I know it’s not easy on either side to do it but rejection should be a natural thing in our society but people look at it in a bad way. Realistically it builds confidence over time if you get rejected enough. I’ve never had a BAD rejection like being called names or looked at in a bad w…
/r/seduction05/03/21 05:04 AM
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It’s really messes with people mentally, it’s definitely something that was stopping me getting results and I wish more people knew.
/r/seduction28/02/21 05:36 PM
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I want to add something that helped me tremendously, this is from a dating coach and it’s incredibly true. First is to talk to PEOPLE in general and have a real conversation. It will transfer over to women (you find attractive)and become natural. Second thing this coach listed is stop watching porn. OMG did it change my life, hundreds of hours saved, don’t look at sex in a terrible way, I don’t put women on a pedestal. Even if you can limit it to one time a week and slowly stop once a week after…
/r/seduction28/02/21 05:21 PM
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I hear you, everything that you’ve mentioned in an fortunate to not have happen yet other then a break up but nothing compared to you. If you need anything PM me I can also give you some of my coaches dating advice if you need anything specific.
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:48 PM
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Yes and she needs to find an emotional connection with the conversation.
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:37 PM
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First off I want to start off saying you’ve been though much more in life then I have but there’s no stopping you now. You’ve clearly fought to become the best person possible. For me (23) I’ve stopped watching porn this past year and it’s improved my mental state infinitely. This is something people overlook and see it as normal but many people are affected in bad ways. I’ve been reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck by mark manson it’s changed my mindset on life.
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:35 PM
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The thing is when you go “out” with her as in the time with you two it’s probably not going to be with her friends. So with all that being said if you want to make her bring her friends tell her you are at a bar/ restaurant with you’re friends and then tell her to bring hers. And then you two meet up in a social setting then.
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:29 PM
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I don’t think you realize what porn does to you’re brain mentally. I want you to try it for 1-2 months and see how much you change in that period of time. When other people start saying wow you’ve changed as a person you begin to realize how much it affected you. I’ve been enrolled in a dating course and he’s a no BS coach, he starts the course off by mentioning you need to change as a man physically mentally and spiritually ( if you believe in you’re god). The very next thing is to stop watchin…
/r/seduction15/02/21 03:08 PM
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Just watch her YouTube content there’s no need to buy the coaching course. There are other better coaches out there that are men, that have had success.not saying women aren’t good coaches but they try and make you the man think like the women, which isn’t always helpful. You should be thinking masculine and not feminine.
/r/seduction15/02/21 12:44 PM
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First off I don’t want you to constantly be over thinking these little tiny situations. Women can see that very clearly when men do that. You made the decision to leave after work. Thats it there’s no other questions or parts that need to be considered on her end, you said it was quite busy on the other end of the bar and you didn’t want to go over.( always go with your gut feeling) the worst thing you could have done is linger around and just have not done anything. Now for the part between bot…
/r/seduction15/02/21 12:42 PM
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I hear what you are saying but there is always the option of going out to the grocery store, malls ect. There is never an excuse for meeting new people.
/r/seduction15/02/21 12:07 PM
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This might sound obvious but not a lot of men realize it, stop watching porn. It seriously holds you back from interacting with women on a daily basis.
/r/seduction15/02/21 12:02 AM
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Yeah I was looking for this one but it’s incredibly true. People don’t realize if you don’t let the things that bother an everyday person get to you then you are different and that’s very attractive.
/r/seduction12/02/21 01:15 PM
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This is well said, I truly thank you for explaining in depth. I will have a conversation about it with her because it’s easy to get to deep conversations with her which I think is very good. I will have to examine how she reacts when I bring it up. I can tell it was more of her trying to open up and see if we had past experiences and I think that’s ok, not the first kind of date topic I’d bring up but it’s still something worth talking about if you feel comfortable/ know if the other person will…
/r/seduction11/02/21 12:08 PM
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Holy shit this could not have came at more of a perfect time. First off I’ve been talking to this girl for just under a week now. And had a great first “date” aka driving around and then just talking for several hours and a quick make out ect ect. But while we were talking on our first date she mentioned her ex through a deeper question I had that was what’s the number one thing that turns you off/ you don’t like with a guy. She then mentioned a Frat guy and said basically my ex and she explaine…
/r/seduction11/02/21 04:42 AM
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Glad to hear I think it’s the most important thing to change to start having more confidence in yourself. The thing I learned from the dating course I’m in is. Start off approaching the same level of attractiveness ( that you think you are of the other gender and begin to build that foundation and have a natural conversation) he explained it as starting off on training wheels and then eventually when skilled enough you can take them off to go for what you want confidently. Then he mentioned when…
/r/seduction10/02/21 08:46 PM
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The first thing I will mention is you start looking at women in an over sexualized way everyday. You begin to catch yourself looking at everything but their face and eyes. Next when watching Porn you trick you’re mind that you are having sex which isn’t healthy. Not wasting time watching it also gives you more energy and you can have clearer thoughts through the day instead of a foggy mind after choking one out.
/r/seduction10/02/21 08:30 PM
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Glad you agree, I noticed I was socially awkward with women and not men. When I would just talk to people more and not look for anything from the conversation I would begin to become more comfortable taking to women as I learned how to have a real conversation. Then I could move onto dating and taking the conversation to other levels.
/r/seduction10/02/21 08:11 PM
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Pm me if that’s easier, I can give you a list of things that have helped me.
/r/seduction10/02/21 02:55 PM
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Good way of looking at it, unless they put you in the friend zone first.
/r/seduction10/02/21 01:16 PM
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Wanting a positive experience is a negative experience. Learning from a negative experience/ interaction, is a positive experience.
/r/seduction01/02/21 11:06 PM
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I would say don’t view it if possible when fapping. It’s just mentally messing with you “thinking you are having sex with a girl”. I would say a healthy amount of watching porn is like 1 time a week, if you end up watching it( for me I don’t watch it). But not looking at IG models/ nsfw content at all will help as a small start.
/r/seduction29/01/21 11:34 PM
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I know it’s really hard and you get urges. But even if you cut down on it severely it will really improve the way you talk to women.
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:18 PM
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Yes I mean he did the right thing by not staying friends just because she wanted to. He stuck to his opinion and let her know that.
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:15 PM
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It sounds simple and many people think of it but when you are actually talking with another women after you just saw NSFW content the conversation is just foggy.
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:22 AM
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Congrats man, way to stay strong telling her what you want and not caving in to being friends for her sake.
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:14 AM
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If you watch NSFW content then stop that. It will fully stop you from Putting woman on a pedestal
/r/seduction29/01/21 05:12 AM
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First start off slow, talk to people (not just women) Make an actual conversation and be playful when having that conversation don’t make it just some bland interaction. When you get natural talking to those people ( it’s natural when you look into their eyes, listen to when they are talking, ask questions that aren’t just about them.) after that is when you can do those same things when talking to a girl. When you look into their eyes while they are talking and then they look into your eyes. Af…
/r/seduction27/01/21 10:15 PM
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I think the biggest thing is, starting off approaching is a natural skill you learn over time. It’s not going to come to you in one day from talking to 15 people. The more interactions you have with PEOPLE not just women will in return gain you success. I’ve learned this from a mentor and it’s 100% true. Yes talking about things like directions, good places to eat/ get coffee ect are all great conversation starters. Also don’t freeze when there is a pause in a conversation that is natural. They …
/r/seduction27/01/21 09:16 PM
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I agree with this fully, I wanted to add to the not taking to friends about hooking up with girls. I never mention when/if I hooked up with a girl, unless asked. That’s the natural way of talking about it.
/r/seduction26/01/21 06:07 PM
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Right and this may seem odd to think about but what if it was just for the better. Also there is someone out there that is a completely better person for you and that will be even better then what could have been.
/r/seduction25/01/21 04:18 AM
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I know this might not seem it helps but approach anyone and just start having conversations with them. Even if you don’t even find them remotely attractive/ or a guy. Approaching people will only increase you’re social skills when it comes to women and the ones you WANT to approach. This is something be learned and it makes it incredibly easy talking to women that I know are attractive because they are simply just another person.
/r/seduction24/01/21 01:05 AM
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I want to add if you think the date/dates went perfectly well. And even the girl says “had a great time ect” then you have done you’re job and she will continue to chase after you have done you’re part. This is a perfect way of screening dates to see if that girl is worth your time for a 2ed, 3rd date.
/r/seduction20/01/21 03:33 AM
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This is an awesome story, I would recommend not even thinking of it like “getting the dream girl I’ve always wanted” that mindset is they are the prize and you put the women on a Pedestal and not you. If you have hat mindset you will be calmer in the situation of talking to women. This doesn’t put the pressure on you to attract her.
/r/seduction17/01/21 10:24 PM
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