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You make a lot of excellent points here in your post. But I have a question about your line of thinking. If relationships are 95% work and effort, at what point does the effort become... not worth it? I mean, at what point does it go from being a relationship to being roommates who have sex? If 95% of your interactions with him are effort based that means only 5% are genuine we-like-each-other fun/happy moments. When does being happy and having fun together stop to matter? Surely having happy mo…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 10:53 AM
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But... how do you know what to wear? Like, what if you get ready for a night on the town but his plan was fishing so now you're cold and covered in mosquito bites, hahaha.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 01:00 AM
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Oh no, I hate initiating and pursuing. Preferably I'd have a guy where I never had to, but maybe he liked it if I did once or twice a month. And masturbation isn't a substitute for sex because sex isn't about getting off. I'm good on orgasms, I need the connection... You may be right that it's time to next, but I hate breaking up over "it's just not working", but you may be right...
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 06:24 PM
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No, and I don't think of it as pestering, more like subtly trying to inspire. I know that's still controlling and I should knock it off, but is dressing in his favorite outfit really such a terrible thing? He used to say things like, "You know I love the way that looks on the floor" and just mmm... ya'know?
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 05:41 PM
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I do, as I said I've basically stopped pestering him about it. And now I haven't had sex in 3 weeks, which to me is a huge problem. The only way I really connect with a partner is through sex, so I basically feel like his super productive roommate at this point in time.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 04:56 PM
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I have asked him and he claims not to have noticed. I have had to tone down my affection because he kept accusing me of wanting something from him or 'hanging all over him' In our last fight he had a lot to say about sex though, namely that I was unreasonable for wanting so much and saying there's no reason to sleep with me at all.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 04:05 PM
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Yes, and nothing is wrong.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 04:01 PM
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These are all great questions! He is eagerly waiting to get called back into work. Being a roofer in the Midwest he has a seasonal layoff. No one in his union has been called back except a handful of foremen. So he's definitely restless until further noticd. I actually thought of this! And tried it to no avail... Just zero reaction or change, sometimes he will glare at me or roll his eyes and tell me to knock it off. In the past he has, but it's always been different then this. He honestly seems…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 12:15 PM
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True, but again, if your man is either unwilling or unable to return the favor... You can accept it or you can next it
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 10:47 PM
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It's the way the gender roles work, women are gatekeepers to sex, men are gatekeepers to commitment. There's also the issue of the physical differences. Not being aroused does not make it physically impossible for a woman to have sex, but the lack of an erections causes different issues. My apologies for being a bit crude but have you ever tried to stuff a soft pens into your lady bits? It doesn't really work... You could absolutely suggest he see a doctor, you could also tell him you're not ful…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 05:48 PM
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AskReddit, it came up in a comment so I checked it out. Hell no!!! I found TRP through an AskReddit thread shortly after it came to light my ex had cheated on me many many times. I was outraged and hated it, but I loved to read it because I was stuck in a hateful frame of mind. I read it specifically because it gave my anger a direction. Then Purple pill debate... Then I checked out rpw, hated that to. Then, through many debates I crossed over. Mostly, I hate the sense of powerlessness though. I…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 05:30 PM
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Gernerally, yeah, if you're in that situation you sit around and wait. And it really sucks, your only options are accept him as he is or leave. You cannot change your man and staying with him hoping/assuming he will change isn't fair to anybody. Though I am always hopeful we'll see a post eventually that reveals some "super secret" method to getting your man to want you again. Besides staying fit, looking good and being a good girlfiend...
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 05:12 PM
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Ehh... after reading through all of the comments here I guess I understand what you're getting at. Only ever try to date guys in group A. Right? Since group A is already hyper selective your count will never get high even by having sex before commitment, basically, right? I partially agree with the women here who say this is a recipe for an alpha widow. While this could very well work as a potential sexual strategy for women it is very risky in that regard. Now my main objection is... Does this …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/16 06:38 PM
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Such a long list with no numbers... some are true to an extent and some are not. -Women are not born to be mothers. Some are and some aren't. I am most certainly not born to be a mother. I honestly don't understand the women who are. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a mother just like there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be. It really has very little to do with RPW. -RPM are evil. Etc. Etc. Ehh... They do advocate for gaslighting which is textbook emotional abuse. They will pump an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/16 05:28 PM
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At least you admit you're basically prostituting yourself. Trading sex and being arm candy for material pleasures.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 02:36 AM
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Reddit or for 1 day, definitely a troll post, lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 02:33 AM
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I am definitely saving this to go through later. On a time crunch right now. Thanks for taking the time to organize this post!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 10:16 PM
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This is one of those things that there is really nothing you can actively do to help. It really sucks. But I'm going to assume you've already pursued r/deadbedrooms and have seen how sexual incompatibilities can absolutely poison otherwise good or great relationships. It's possible this could be temporary, but it's also possible this could be permanent. But for the sake of the relationship you should consider this to be permanent and seriously consider how important frequent sex is for you in a …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 09:41 PM
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Is there any chance he has low testonsterone? Outside of that have you considered a return to sex where he doesn't have to get you off? Have you tried manually stimulating yourself during intercourse to basically take the issue into your own hands? Do you have a vibrator? Secondly, are you the primary initiator of sex? If so have you tried simply not initiating and stfu about it? With any anxiety induced issue pressure makes it worse. Remember to not take your solution to your man, take your pro…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 06:48 PM
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I agree with /u/littleknownfacts here. Regardless if marraige is the highest form of commitment a basic tenet of rpw is allowing the man to lead. If you're in a long term committed relationship and the man wants to get married it's not the woman's job to tell him it's a bad idea. It seems to me like OP has some baggage and doesn't fully trust her captain. If marraige is important to him it's not fair for her to deny him that and tell him it's because she knows what's best for him. On the topic o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 06:26 PM
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I would agree with there aren't enough women with the drive to pursue those types of successes. I for one, have no idea why I would possibly want anything like that. If I don't want it I obviously won't have the discipline to achieve it because it seems pointless. I think saying women lack discipline in general is false. I think most people are probably disciplined in general. But being disciplined in a particular pursuit requires that one desires the end result which generates the drive to achi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/16 06:39 AM
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I am Physical Touch all the way, A is Acts of Service and Quality time.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:39 AM
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I think this is an area with a lot of room for discussion. I think if you marry a man who is seen as conventionally attractive the risk of loss of attraction through marraige is minimized. Why? Because other women will still look at them and flirt with them. They still have plenty of options. Marraige is not a garauntee; it's a promise, and promises are fragile things that get broken constantly. Why would marraige be any different? I think if you're incapable of maintaining attraction within mar…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 02:35 AM
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You and Phantom have this thread wrapped up in a bow. After reading through the responses there's nothing left to add.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:23 AM
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You guys are already doing a great job! Redpillwomen is already declining :( Several irrelevant posts and posts that are not rpw-minded in the least...
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 09:40 PM
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This post doesn't make sense to me... the advice of wait until you're exclusive to have sex is founded. No one is going to say "he only left you because you had sex with him" because that's plain stupid. But if he won't commit before sex he would have probably pumped and dumped you anyways so it's a valid to keep your n-count low. Why waste one of your most valuable assets on a guy who isn't going to be around long term? The point of this entire sub is self improvement to be a more valuable for …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 08:35 PM
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Shameless /r/Strongcurves plug in. Some other women I've read liked their aesthetics better doing strong curves but liked that they got stronger using strong lifts. It depends on your goals, do you want to get stronger plain and simple? Keep on keeping on, are you in it mostly for aesthetics? Check out strong curves, it's specifically designed to further develop curves where guys actually want them. Pole dancing is fantastic and I would love to take a class but time and money won't allow for it …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 03:27 AM
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Yeah, my car is disgraceful. Just inexcusable. I used to have really "good" excuses for it, now I just admit that I don't care. I have major issues giving a shit about if my car is clean or not. I keep it relatively picked up, toss trash out of it and whatnot, but 2 of my dogs made it halfway to town the other day so I had to go grab them and my car is now covered in muddy paw prints. My trunk is stuffed with dirty horse blankets that I need to get my booty to the laundromat and clean, plus a ba…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 06:00 PM
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A little bit off topic, but how do you know what will make you happiest in the long run? I'm at a point in my life where I have some choices to make regarding my career and education, but I have absolutely zero idea what would be best. I honestly have no clue what would best facilitate the life I think I want. I don't even know if I still want the life I thought I wanted. I'm basically in the midst of an existential crisis... It's just that I know once I make a decision it'll close the door for …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 07:23 AM
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I really like the general message of the article, but I'm not overly fond of the analogy. I'm sure others feel differently and the analogy works for them. It's just... Guests are exhausting, I do not prefer to have guests in my home. I can't come up with a single human being who would be a "welcomed guest" as she describes in her article. Always having to fully clothed, coming up with vapid small talk, taking care of them like they're a toddler, making sure they're entertained... Also, guests ar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 11:40 PM
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But... what do you talk about? My relationship is very quiet outside of transaction communication and I love yous... What do people who are in long term relationships talk about?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/16 11:09 PM
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Sex "addiction" can be very real, but it is more often used as an excuse in public scandals. The whole "oh, it's not my fault, I'm a victim" schtick is absolute bullshit. If you're a sex addict you probably know you're a sex addict, and you shouldn't be making lifelong monogamous vows you know you can't keep. If you know or suspect maintaining monogamy isn't possible for you, then don't promise monogamy to someone, there is no excuse for that. Would I stand by my man? This depends on a lot of fa…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 04:20 PM
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Wow, from your post I would say it sounds like he's mocking you... but I'm not in your relationship and can't really know. But, A and I had a similar issue at the beginning of our relationship. I was raised to be hyper aware of time and exact in approximations of arrival times. When he says "soon" it means sometime in the next week or so. Obviously this created some friction early on when I was judging his words by how I would mean them e.g. soon is 15 minutes or less, not several hours from now…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/16 08:15 AM
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I love that book!! I think it could make good required reading for women who get caught up in "relationships" that outsiders can clearly see aren't going anywhere.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 09:18 PM
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His mom is not crazy, but she is insanely unreliable. Or rather... reliably unreliable. If she says we'll all have dinner together at 8 you can count on her to be at least an hour late at the earliest. If she says she's going to help you with something there's an 80% chance it just won't happen. Outside of being chronically late and a total flake she is a nice woman. His whole family is very kind and accepting to me. They already treat me as a daughter, but I don't particularly look up to his mo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 07:31 PM
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I am not quite fully into acceptance yet, I'm getting better at it, but sometimes I still slip. Thanks for taking time to chat with me for a bit!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 07:23 PM
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Thanks! The more I'm typing the more I realize the reason I haven't been handling this like any other transgression is because part of me is hoping I could reason with her and somehow convince her to think of him how I do. I know I can't so I need to put up another boundary and stop being present when she wants to bash on A.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:32 PM
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Thanks for the advice. With A's support I've made massive improvements in setting boundaries and enforcing them with her. I guess I never really thought about being able to set a boundary as to how I'll allow her to speak about A. I know that seems silly, and I feel like an idiot now because that's exactly how I handle a lot of other issues with her. I guess I never thought about it because compared to a lot of her other behaviors it's very subtle.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:27 PM
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I have gotten very good at letting things not get to me so much. She has always been over the top insane. Dealing with my family is a lot like living inside of a Jerry Springer episode... Think knives being thrown at you for getting a B+ on your report card while your brother got a new car for not getting any D's. He knocked up a prostitute and she bought him a house... She saw my bf driving my car once so she had it towed and tried to extort me to get it back... it's just... Yeah. I know pointe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:21 PM
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Unfortunately, we live less than 2 blocks away from her right now. We jointly decided (well, mostly A decided) it would cause more strain/stress/drama to cut ties right now than to simply deal with her on a limited basis. She no longer barges into our home uninvited, and rarely stops by randomly anymore. After that incident I stood up to her for myself for the first time, it was terrifying. But A was confident it would be for the best, I trusted in that and it really worked out well. Mom is stil…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:10 PM
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I read some of your blog, and the one around video gaming might have just made my relationship even better. We used to game together earlier in our relationships but it always ended up in a stupid fight, and now I understand why.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 05:44 AM
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Thanks for the advice, unfortunately I'm already on a zinc supplement for just that purpose :( I've never had a regular period and hormonal birth control is the only way I don't absolutely hate having a uterus. Before I started any bc my periods were very intense, heavy, and excruciatingly painful. We're talking uncontrollable vomiting for the first three days of bleeding from intensecramping. Initially I was given Robaxin, which helped a bit, but hormonal birth control is the only thing that ha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 03:13 AM
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No form of birth control I have ever used has had side effects worse than a pregnancy at this stage in my life would be. I can't do oral bc because I don't trust myself to take it religiously enough for it to be fully effective for me. I have the nexplanon implant but am switching to Mirena soon. Nexplanon for me has been a god send, except I feel like I'm bleeding to death out of my cooch. On five straight weeks of going through 8-10 heavy flow tampons per 24 hours. Some other women completely …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 01:57 AM
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Should I use my toner after or before cleansing? I usually exfoliate, cleanse, tone, then moisturize
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 06:39 PM
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He works harder than me - This is huge for me. This is something I didn't realize I wanted, let alone needed in a man, when I was younger and very much a SJW feminist. I was raised on the farm, diving grain trucks, using the forklift, bucking bails better than the cattle ranchers sons from down the lane. Fr the first time in my life I'm dating a man who is "man enough" to make me feel like a woman. It's fantastic! His hands are rough and callused, and I find that sexy as hell! Nothing like a man…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 06:18 AM
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Hahaha, I loved this video... Then I realized I've met these women before, and that's kind of sad. Where I initially see caricatures of females behaving poorly, are actually real people. Smh
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 05:51 AM
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