Ichikarayarinaosu Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Seducing women who say they want to "settle down". When women try to put you on the spot and be "honest".		Ichikarayarinaosu	/r/seduction	03/06/17 09:51 AM

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1	Why we like MILF's ? Absolutely. 100% agree. I’ll add from my experience: • The MILFs I had the good fortune to be with were available because they had experienced a committed relationship that produced children which failed, and then a break-up.m They thought they’d ’made it’, and could ‘retire’. And Life came along and said, “Nope.” • The MILFs I have been with for medium- and long-term relationships were strikingly refreshing to be around. (I KNOW there are innumerable awful single mothers/MILFs out there that we…	/r/seduction	03/07/24 06:19 PM
2	any time a person with options makes a choice they are "Settling" Mate, I’m with you. Very much identify with your journey. I know ‘journey’ sounds flakey in print, but I’m serious. I genuinely think it resembled the hero’s journey. And what we need to remember is that when you go on the hero’s journey, you confront chaos, you defeat the ‘dragon’, you return to your ordinary world with wisdom, ‘gold’ . . . But we HAVE to come back with SCARS. It’s unavoidable. And that means we’ve been ‘damaged’. But we’re stronger, better versions of ourselves. What people wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/19 11:18 PM
5	How to get into a mindset where I need less affection? I agree with this guy, OP. The way I addressed it might be different; it sounds like he was much more patient about it: I woke up in the fourth relationship where I was being needy for affection, where I always initiated. I could finally understand she was treating me poorly because I was being needy. That fucking hurt my ego. I can't say I "accepted" it, like our friend above, but rather had a anxiety-fuelled "Fuck this! No, no, no, no - I'm not being treated like this / doing this to myself an…	/r/seduction	11/08/19 12:02 PM
0	Would you sleep with a married woman? Until last year I would have said no. Then I hooked up with a girl who had a boyfriend. Now we’re a couple, but I ask about her experiences of affairs. (I’m fully aware she may ‘cheat’ on me. I’ve established clearly for her she can fuck who she wants, and so can I, if she’s prepared to take responsibility for the consequences. I hold no illusions about the issue of fidelity here) The more and more I hear, the more I realise that she was going to cheat anyway. If not me, some other cock. My girl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/19 10:15 AM
9	Have you ever been unwilling/unable to improve for a current partner, but applied those improvements they recommended in your next relationship? That’s the eternal problem of human motivation - we frequently won’t take action until we hit some sort of “rock-bottom”. Something that threatens to damage us physically/mentally/financially/socially/etc. It’s “stupid” but it’s true. It could be any change. “I know I should work out, I know I should work out, I’ll get around to working out, there’s still time to work out, just not yet . . . . . [weigh-self and discover you’re 90kg/ see self in photograph from unflattering angle/ overhear commen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/19 07:05 AM
6	What’s the easiest part of the dating process? I'm pleased to see guys here saying what my experience is, too: The easiest part - so easy that it made me understand women so much better - is going from sex to them wanting to be in a relationship with me. The hardest part is everything up until I make a woman genuinely laugh and start physical escalation. Up until then it's like defusing a bomb. After that you're just disassembling it. Since sex-to-relationship is so easy for me, I took it for granted, I understand that for women - meeting-to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/19 03:07 PM
1	Older women, do you think you can afford to be as picky as you could be when you were younger? It seems to me that the women here saying "I'm pickier" or "I'm as picky as I ever was", can afford to be because they're exceptional. Seriously. The women saying this are also saying "I worked on myself, I've built a career, I've raised children, I've gotten in great shape, cultivated hobbies, and built a life that makes me someone worth being with. Someone who can be picky." And that's awesome, it really is. I love these women. But the exceptions prove the rule. I know some women like them. On…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/19 08:26 PM
1	Q4Men: Do you conceal any “boyfriend/husband material” traits in the first stages of dating? Uggh, I hear you, man. Not feeling engaged with women who are interested in me. The ones that like me without me doing much - sweet, nerdy but unattractive girls, or shaken, bewildered women late thirties early forties. The more I've balanced out my husband-traits with fuckable-man-traits the wider my appeal has spread.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 05:31 PM
1	Q4Men: Do you conceal any “boyfriend/husband material” traits in the first stages of dating? I hear you, dude. My earlier relationships were a fucking shitshow - slowly being turned into a house-pet they resent, time and again. I'm still rocking a low number of women. But their quality has skyrocketed. Those early shitshow relationships were invaluable for me to learn from. I would not be who I am today without them. Learn from them. Wear those scars like a fucking warrior, mate!	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 05:27 PM
1	Q4Men: Do you conceal any “boyfriend/husband material” traits in the first stages of dating? That's a really good comparison, man. To follow-up I'm going to reference Patrice O'Neal's thinking (which is essential, by the way. Just start watching Patrice O'Neal and women clips on youtube. It's a goldmine. I'm using his meaning of Love when it comes to men): Women are the gatekeepers for sex. Men are the gatekeepers for Love. When a woman is talking to us initially and there's any chemistry - we are auditioning for the pussy. We have already brought our Love (the thing they're looking for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/19 05:18 PM
9	Q4Men: Do you conceal any “boyfriend/husband material” traits in the first stages of dating? I've learned from hard experience I am top-shelf 'husband material'. Luckily never became one. I've gradually become more and more successful with the quick-to-sex game. It is because I have learned to exhibit traits that ellicit "Fuck me!" out of women instead of "oooh, a boyfriend maybe?". Teasing. Leading. Being a little cocky. Being self-directed. Deciding. Being more open and comfortable with conflict. Telling her off, if necessary. And then reverting right back to kind and composed. Taking…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/19 12:30 PM
2	Younger women who desire genuine platonic friendships should seek this in Chads Gay men have this covered. Next.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/19 11:00 PM
2	CMV: Women still want to be led by men in relationships "hunting, camping, sports" So hobbies that signal when the shit goes down the man has some capability for survival and drive. These activities are not problems. They signal value.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/19 11:07 PM
3	Slut walks are as stupid as if men had virgin walks Sure sure. And the number of cigarettes a person smokes does not necessarily inform whether it caused their lung cancer. You're right - "Who knows??"	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/19 07:46 AM
4	Guys that were completely ignored in your 20's by girls when you wanted friendship and dating Dude, LISTEN TO THIS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEWZymFQBKs Patrice O'Neal NAILED these issues. He's given me so so so much wisdom. And on the issue of "forgiving" women. He covers that, too. Listen to as much of his stuff as you can. I know twats in this thread will be like "sounds like you're being passive . . . why are you blaming them, bro??" They're telling a drowning man it's easy to breath air, as someone brilliantly said in this thread. As Patrice says in this clip about forgiving …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/19 11:28 PM
3	Guys that were completely ignored in your 20's by girls when you wanted friendship and dating 日本語を習おうかなと考えたことある？ Seriously, good luck. A friendly word of warning: YES, your plan is a decent and effective one, both for having an adventurous life and the increased sexual market value that comes with it (speaking from personal experience but not nearly as much as I would like). BUT, be aware of a) the East Asian women who marry a westerner and either move to his native country and divorce him/start fucking around once they're settled, and b) how very hard it is for Westerners to find true a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/19 11:15 PM
2	Guys that were completely ignored in your 20's by girls when you wanted friendship and dating > my ex-wife actually said she wanted a divorce the day I was diagnosed JESUS, dude. Well I'm glad it wasn't too serious, and holy shit - talk about using anger constructively. Seriously, that's amazing. You've inspired me. Thank you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/19 11:05 PM
7	Slut walks are as stupid as if men had virgin walks The more partners a woman (or I’m sure a person) has the more likely they are to get divorced. So they may be able to ‘get’ a hubby. Much less likely to find one they want to stay with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/19 10:41 PM
1	Do girls ever make a move for guys, or do guys have to do ALL the work while woman sit back and do nothing? Dude, for real - you're right. The gal I'm seeing at the moment, the night we met she was drunk and high. After five minutes of conversation she said, "Do you want to have sex with me?" Fell ass-backwards into a night of sex, and being seeing her since. But this exception prooves the rule. I talk to her alot about game, and I've established it as a non-monogamous relationship. She even admits that "guys have to do a lot of work to get laid . . . it's easier for women to find sex." But since we…	/r/seduction	07/02/19 01:32 AM
2	Witholding Sex In a Relationship You nailed it. Certainly inadequate men often feel entitled to sex, and that creates a lot of problems. The corresponding issue in inadequate women is feeling entitled to a relationship. An awesome lady I know said to me this week, "I'm looking at some of my friends who are talking about getting married someday, and I'm thinking, 'No! You haven't done anything to deserve that. Why would you think that's something you are in line for?"	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/18 06:26 AM
5	Witholding Sex In a Relationship "Work through" and "withhold sex" are not in the same category of action. "Withhold sex" is in the same category as "divorce", though. It means you've given up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/18 06:17 AM
2	Is there any common TRP advice that would hurt a guys chance of getting laid? After stating emphatically I am not a fan of TRP . . . . my understanding of what they mean is: To calibrate what you what you want to do, what you're going to do, and how far you're prepared to compromise, the same way you would if you were in the company of a 'child'. Ew. How about we say, "Somebody who was younger and less experienced than you, and looking to you for some sort of direction if you are able to qualify" instead. So for example, I work with people in mental health settings very o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/18 06:15 PM
1	Q4BP: Is the inverse of female sexuality problematic? Just want to say first, I'm very impressed with how civil you's guys kept the discussion, seriously. So good to see people explore these ideas involving honest disagreement and making their case with the other paying sincere attention. Second, it strikes me that there's a corollary here where people talk about mental health. The research is showing time and time again that in general the following are good things to pay attention to and manage to optimise one's mental health: Sleep Diet Exercise…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/18 11:18 PM
1	Q4BP: Is the inverse of female sexuality problematic? It's not "my boyfriend protects me" that does it for straight women. It's that "my boyfriend can".	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/18 10:51 PM
1	Why is making a guy wait longer than a month a bad thing to some? Right, what is the usual argument on this sub?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/18 06:52 PM
1	Why is making a guy wait longer than a month a bad thing to some? Sorry, dude, you were saying what is the usual reason? I've missed what the primary reason you're referring to is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/18 12:12 AM
1	Why is making a guy wait longer than a month a bad thing to some? Oh I'm not saying standards and priorities don't differ and vary wildly within the populations of men and women. I'm saying that there also important differences between men and women when it comes to attraction, bonding, and the relative prioritisation of each. And that these differences manifest with the kind of situations we're seeing here. In this case, people asking questions about why men being 'made to wait' for sex is met with disapproval by some people. That's the connection. And I wish…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/18 10:57 PM
6	Why is making a guy wait longer than a month a bad thing to some? As men we have to front load with our personalities in the audition for women to have sex with us. This takes time. If a man finds you physically attractive he can have sex with you right away. Nothing wrong with this situation, it is what it is. As women you have to grow on men for them to really like you. This takes time. A man needs to know if he has sexual chemistry with you before he will let you grow on him. If a woman finds a man romantically attractive she can have loving feelings for hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/18 12:30 PM
1	Men who sleep with a plethora of women, are they ever negatively affected by sleeping around, or is it always a win-win? It depends on your temperament. Some people are great at being in relationships (attentive, supportive, able remain interesting and dynamic over the long-term) but struggle to make a quick hookup happen. Other people are great at making a quick hookup happen (present, challenging, open) but struggle to manage the relational issues that require management for a fulfilling LTR.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/18 09:29 AM
33	Men who sleep with a plethora of women, are they ever negatively affected by sleeping around, or is it always a win-win? Yes. You can see it when you meet an aging, immature player who wants a relationship but doesn't know how to be an interesting partner. I've met a few of these guys - absolute destroyers in their youth, doing well throughout their thirties into their fourties and then they hit their 'wall'. (I'm going to pre-empt the usual bitch-boys' response: "Durrr, Men don't have a wall! Only plates do when they hit thirty". No, men have a wall, behold.) These guys have been ladykillers for casual sex until …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/18 01:58 PM
1	RSD Todd Fired From RSD?! Oh awesome. So you went from never being able to open to "pretty good"? Cool, thanks. I'll buy one of his programs when I've got the cash.	/r/seduction	17/08/17 09:59 AM
1	RSD Todd Fired From RSD?! How are you at opening now?	/r/seduction	17/08/17 12:19 AM
4	Thoughts in my head preventing me from approaching If you want to feel better about yourself, watch Todd Valentine clips from RSD. If that opie, dead-eyed freak can make it happen, we can.	/r/seduction	15/06/17 11:35 AM
1	5 first date tips to attract her and take her home The hand gestures were so overboard in this video this is all I could think of. I appreciate the work, though.	/r/seduction	12/06/17 11:43 PM
1	Rate my opener? Also share some of your openers! First of all, fuck all these people giving you shit, OP. You're trying to improve and that's the most important thing. We all are. Second, I do agree with the feedback that "openers" are the wrong thing to focus on. As someone else pointed out on here. Watch the RSD infield videos. Notice - no openers, no pick up lines. It's people being in the moment and keeping it light. All the best.	/r/seduction	07/06/17 09:30 PM
1	Seducing women who say they want to "settle down". When women try to put you on the spot and be "honest". You're right, man. I really do respect the forthrightness of women who are open about their goals. At the same time I feel conflicted because these women are always giving this laundry list of things they want their LTR guy to be (mentally stable, financially secure, supportive, etc) and yet the things that get the emotions going, that get the sexual tension building have NOTHING to do with those things. I find the more I let out my inner maniac authentically the more they get excited in an emot…	/r/seduction	04/06/17 05:34 PM
2	Seducing women who say they want to "settle down". When women try to put you on the spot and be "honest". Good stuff, man, thank you. Much appreciated.	/r/seduction	04/06/17 05:30 PM
1	Seducing women who say they want to "settle down". When women try to put you on the spot and be "honest". Thanks, man, I appreciate it, seriously. You're right.	/r/seduction	04/06/17 05:28 PM
1	Seducing women who say they want to "settle down". When women try to put you on the spot and be "honest". Fair point, I'll try and clarify. I think I'm asking how do you redirect interactions with women towards more sexual, fucking around territory when they try and set the agenda for the interaction to be more logical, LTR territory. I'm aware that I could just go nucleur and say, "I want to fuck. Deal with it." And be prepared to take the L. It's just I know these women see me as a safe option so they don't want to get physical too quickly. Tyler talked about it in The Blueprint Decoded, actually,…	/r/seduction	03/06/17 08:06 PM
-3	More Amy Schumer! Blames "subreddits" for her bad reviews of her Netflix Special. Hey man, I'm interested - who's done bits about "identifying as straight/gay/bi/an attack helicopter"? I'm wracking my brain but I can't think of anyone. I mean sure, every gay guy or lesbian dude has the whole, "You guessed it, I'm a dyke. I guess that means that flamma-flam-flam . . . " But the identifying as trans/gender queer/attack chopper, haven't come across that yet. Could you send me a clip? Edit: Genuinely confused by the downvotes. No intention to upset anyone. Which comedians have do…	/r/PussyPassDenied	16/03/17 10:45 AM
1	Father who beat man to death for raping his five year old daughter faces no charges in Texas: Fathers have a natural right to defend their children. I understand it makes people uncomfortable to ponder these things. People dislike complexity and extenuation. Life is really complicated and we want it to be straightforward. I understand why you've reacted with a passive-aggressive tone. I think you were reading a snark into my original comment that was actually absent. My question was about whether "temporary insanity" would excuse a case of mistaken identity and that still hasn't been answered. It's ok. All the best.	/r/MensRights	16/03/17 01:22 AM
1	Father who beat man to death for raping his five year old daughter faces no charges in Texas: Fathers have a natural right to defend their children. The scenario I laid out could occur whilst a person is still in beserker-mode. You're avoiding the question I posed.	/r/MensRights	16/03/17 01:00 AM
2	Father who beat man to death for raping his five year old daughter faces no charges in Texas: Fathers have a natural right to defend their children. It has everything to do with what you're talking about. You're saying, "If they know". Well that gets really slippery, really quickly. "I know that guy raped my daughter." Did you see him? "No, but I saw him fleeing from my property and my daughter had clearly been sexually assaulted, so I chased him down and beat him to death. I was seeing red. Any father would do the same." How do you know the man you caught up with was the man you saw escaping your property. "He was a bald white guy wearing a…	/r/MensRights	16/03/17 12:32 AM
1	Father who beat man to death for raping his five year old daughter faces no charges in Texas: Fathers have a natural right to defend their children. I'd be interested to know to from all the armchair-bezerkers here: If we're saying blind rage would cause you to see to this person's death no matter what happened, and that you couldn't be stopped or reasoned with because you've got your dad-rage on; and that in these circumstances you shouldn't face jail time because god damn it it was your little girl and you were seeing red . . . What if it was a case of mistaken identity? You catch a bald white guy raping your daughter in the backyard, you …	/r/MensRights	16/03/17 12:10 AM
2	Father who beat man to death for raping his five year old daughter faces no charges in Texas: Fathers have a natural right to defend their children. Remember this case every time someone says, "They hurt kids, they deserve what they get."	/r/MensRights	15/03/17 11:57 PM