IcyBjorn84 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
12	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation	Debate	IcyBjorn84	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 07:04 PM

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–	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation You claim to be analytical and strategic, and yet, for someone so confident in their logic, your entire worldview rests upon a single dimension of truth—biology. How quaint. You wear your PhD like armor, assuming it makes you untouchable. But knowledge without introspection is arrogance in disguise. You think love is merely a neurochemical sequence designed for reproduction? That’s not a revelation, that’s a textbook. Biology explains the machinery of connection. But it does not, and cannot, exp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 05:45 PM
1	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation Wow.........you truly are a cold and calculating person aren't you? This is not an argument for the existence of souls. Tell that to a parent holding their dying child in their arms. And I am a PhD research scientist in biology. And that gives you what foot to stand on in this debate? You having a PhD in a science field? Oh........nice flex. I majored in genetic engineering for cross species genetics hoping to be a part of medical advancement............this is where you either have wide eyes wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 01:35 AM
1	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation No, this was written by me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 04:25 PM
0	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation And you are just spouting out what little comes to mind because you have no more ammunition left to defend what you powerfully believe. You are desperately trying to find a scientific explanation that ONLY correlates with the chemical and biological. You aren't interested in the debate or the conversation, you are just desperately trying to defend the cage you mistook for the universe. "There are no soul"? You have never held someone dying in your arms, you have never wept with someone in their …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 07:28 PM
2	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation You're confusing reaction with origin. Yes, the brain has systems that respond to love—just like a fireplace glows after the match is struck. But you’ve mistaken the warmth for the spark. To say “the heart cannot choose anything” is to mistake poetry for programming. The word heart is a metaphor for where we feel, not a literal organ making decisions. You're not arguing against love—you’re arguing against language. You claim love is only sustained while “conditions are met”—but the very essence …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/25 05:54 AM
1	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation Thank you, I appreciate that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 05:21 AM
0	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation Power can be taken away in the blink of an eye. Control is an illusion. Instead of looking at it from the view point of having power and control, look at it from the viewpoint of having balance and mutual respect for your partner. Understand that when you are in a relationship with someone, you are with someone that has their own views, intelligence and talents. You can not control them or how they think nor can they do the same to you. It's two people in a relationship hence one hand per person…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 12:44 AM
1	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation The red pill also asserts full submission of women and spread the narrative that men can sleep with as many women as they want and women have to put up with it. And yet they demand that the women they would choose to be with must either be virgins or have only been with a few men. Consider that when you bring in your comment of relationships carrying risks of betrayal/infidelity. You are right that there are risks of infidelity in a relationship, but it also goes both ways. Majority of the time …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 12:25 AM
1	Love Isn’t a Transaction—It’s a Transformation You’re mistaking love’s echoes for its source. I respect neuroscience and evolutionary psychology—both help explain reactions to love, not love itself. What you're describing isn’t love—it’s the bio-feedback loop triggered after love is acted upon. It’s how the body responds to what the heart has already chosen. If love were truly transactional, it would disappear the moment value isn’t returned. But ask anyone who’s stayed with a partner through illness, aging, poverty, or failure—where’s the t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 12:05 AM
1	Would you guys date a high body count woman? The question you ask is a valid one. With the context you provided in this I would say no honestly. Now a couple people here would probably crucify me because of what I said but here is what I am looking at. It's not the fact of high body count that would have me say no. Because a high body count doesn't necessarily account for personality and or emotional character of the woman. I have met a few young women who have been with a certain number of men, but they were relationships. And in a womans…	/r/seduction	07/05/24 06:09 PM
-1	How many guys here actually approach? So what are you implementing? Are you suggesting other men get their game on and persist to get hookups and make out sessions with other women playing games with them to show that any man can get any woman based on appearance and showing off? Or are you suggesting the long run be an actual relationship with a good woman because these are real men who are good men wanting something real in their lives? Because what you say is true, taking action is what gets results. But what kind of results are …	/r/seduction	06/05/24 09:18 PM
1	Kissed a girl and now crickets I give help where I see an opportunity.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 03:37 AM
1	Kissed a girl and now crickets Oh, that I can't help you with. This is your apology and explanation. Meaning it has to come from you and your heart. I'm not you. You are you. Dig deep and do your best. Just take a step back, take a knee and take a breath. Calm and clear. Ok?	/r/seduction	01/05/24 03:37 AM
1	Kissed a girl and now crickets See if she will respond to one or the other.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 01:59 AM
-2	Kissed a girl and now crickets On FB this time.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 01:47 AM
-1	Kissed a girl and now crickets Then send it again apologizing and explaining in a more sensitive, understanding and heartfelt manner.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 01:47 AM
1	Kissed a girl and now crickets Which one did you send it to the first time? If you sent it via facebook then I think you might be able to delete it to where both sides can't see it anymore. And send again after you revise it, send it via text. Much better that way. And if you are successful in deleting the message where she can't see it, then awesome. If that can't be done then further explain that you were trying to do something to cheer her up but you realized how big of an idiot you were in doing so. If you were being an i…	/r/seduction	01/05/24 01:19 AM
16	Kissed a girl and now crickets And that's ok. It really is. In life we stumble sometimes and are thrown off balance. But if we just left it as that, would we be able to get back up? Nope, we would stay on the ground after falling. You have a chance to make it right and pursue something worth while. Don't do it in a joking manner, do it again explaining in a more sensitive and understanding manner.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 12:56 AM
1	Kissed a girl and now crickets Thanks. I just hate it when people think that something like this is unsaveable. As long as you're honest and explain, there's still a chance. As a man who has been around a while seeing this sort of thing I felt the need to make sure he still has a chance.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 12:49 AM
6	Kissed a girl and now crickets I'm a life coach with a brain, observation, and a heart. It's what I do.	/r/seduction	01/05/24 12:47 AM
114	Kissed a girl and now crickets Really hope I'm not too late to stop you from doing something stupid. DON'T listen to these other guys. Apparently they skipped over the part where you wrote how she said she was abused a lot and guys always expected sex on the first date and she said she wanted to cuddle with you. You did good mostly but a few things you could have done. You have a heart, and that's GOOD. You took into consideration the things that happened to her in the past and didn't want to make her feel that way again. You…	/r/seduction	30/04/24 07:44 PM
1	How do you keep a girl interested? Not relationship but just hooking up. That may be true but if you are going off of statistical studies based on that subject of who catches feelings first, I wouldn't rely on that as actual truth and fact at all. This is a subjective kind of thing that varies from person to person. And that is a problem in this world that some women are doing that. But us as men also started that and should take responsibility in ending it.	/r/seduction	30/04/24 07:24 PM
2	How do you keep a girl interested? Not relationship but just hooking up. Perhaps you actually pursue a relationship rather than just hookups. If you continue to see this girl, one of you are eventually going to catch feelings for the other. Happens a lot.	/r/seduction	30/04/24 06:46 PM
0	Does anyone go through fail/successful dating streaks?? You're coming at this from the perspective that you are every woman's cup of tea. Not how it works in reality. You may be lucky in having a first date with women period, but it doesn't mean they are all the same in how they would look at you. Everyone is an individual. Different women look for different things in a man. There is more but I feel I should ask these questions first to get a better perspective. Where are you seeing these women to secure dates? Where are you taking these women on fir…	/r/seduction	30/04/24 06:10 PM
1	I give up, idk what to do anymore. Who is to say it was her idea to unadd you from snap? You said her friend said it was not ok to crash at her place because it is her place right? What if the friend is the one who either unadded you or convinced the girl you were into to unadd you. Unless you have more context to give based on what was said, no need for the girls body language to be described because if you two are making out, no need lol.	/r/seduction	27/04/24 05:29 PM
1	Getting jaded from so much rejection Going to need a lot more context here. How do you talk to these women and what happens when you fumble? As in what do you say or do right before they change their mind? Also, you hit sometimes? What you just hook up and leave? That could be another problem you are having because maybe some of these women are talking to each other about you and change their minds on that alone. Before you draw back, give some more context of how you are talking to these women, where you are finding these women, w…	/r/seduction	26/04/24 05:33 PM
0	Pretend she paid you $8000 to act like you’re her boyfriend Start to, not go all in on the first date.	/r/seduction	26/04/24 12:05 AM
-2	Women’s interest just die out You've been studying and exercising game for years? I'm curious as to where you have been studying this "game". What have you been reading or watching? I ask because dating and relationships aren't games to be played if you are looking for something serious. And from the look of this post, you aren't in it for a serious relationship if you are going to cast this WIDE net. I think a better source of teaching you is called for.	/r/seduction	25/04/24 10:12 PM
-11	Pretend she paid you $8000 to act like you’re her boyfriend That is terrible advice to give to nervous men. That would give them the constant mindset that they are either a gigalo or male escort. Someone there who was paid to be there and not stat to get emotionally invested. Absolutely terrible idea.	/r/seduction	25/04/24 09:55 PM
17	How many dates you should wait before sleeping with a guy? Judging from what you wrote I suggest you find another man. If he likes playing mental games, chasing and losing interest after sleeping with someone then he's not a catch. Why would you subject yourself to being another notch in his belt if he has that pattern? You should feel more worthy than that and find a man who actually LIKES you and not with you on the chance of a hook up and dipping out the first chance he gets. But in the spirit of the main question of the post I will say this. There i…	/r/seduction	25/04/24 08:57 PM
-9	How to approach this girl?? Ever thought of typing out a letter introducing yourself and tell her that you would really like to get to know her, fold it up and approach her and ask her to read it when she has a chance?	/r/seduction	23/04/24 10:25 PM
-4	How to approach this girl?? If you only see her for a couple of seconds in transition to class (high school or college?) then there is a way to talk to have a full conversation with her. Go ahead and ask me how.	/r/seduction	23/04/24 10:19 PM
1	Should I do it? Ok, you don't like hanging out with her but you want to sleep with her. That would make you a scumbag kind of guy that just wants to sleep with a woman to get your rocks off. You want to tempt her to look at your dick instead of money. That would be quid pro quo and honestly she could have you arrested for sexual harassment and indecent exposure. Shall I continue?	/r/seduction	23/04/24 08:41 PM
2	Feel like I wasted the perfect opportunity, what to do next time? Hey, you're welcome. I'm a life coach and this is what I do. I'd really be happy to help you more if you'd like. But I will say this, don't put off to tomorrow of what you can do today. At least I think that's how the saying goes lol. If you would like some real help on this then you can message me.	/r/seduction	23/04/24 08:24 PM
5	Should I do it? BAD IDEA! Dude, don't do that. It would be truly a stupid idea to do.	/r/seduction	23/04/24 08:18 PM
1	Feel like I wasted the perfect opportunity, what to do next time? You didn't screw anything up. You just delayed it. Here is what you should do. If you still have her number, call her. Apologize for calling her out of the blue, ask how she is doing and if she says something along the lines of things are going ok and such then take that as the opportunity to tell her how you feel. Better to let her know while you have control of the circumstance and nothing getting in the way. If she was fine with it at the Halloween party and dropped the fact she was thinking …	/r/seduction	23/04/24 07:52 PM