| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsExactly. So if I project good body language then I don’t know how people pick this up | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:18 PM |
| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI have friends. I go clubbing. I go to bars. I try be around women. My point is that women give off an aura to me like "fuck off" or "dont talk to me." And its destroyed my confidence being so tall but also so invisible especially considering i actually have siblings who actually GET attention | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:12 PM |
| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI have friends. I go clubbing. I go to bars. I try be around women. My point is that women give off an aura to me like "fuck off" or "dont talk to me." And its destroyed my confidence being so tall but also so invisible especially considering i actually have siblings who actually GET attention | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:12 PM |
| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI have friends. I go clubbing. I go to bars. I try be around women. My point is that women give off an aura to me like "fuck off" or "dont talk to me." And its destroyed my confidence being so tall but also so invisible especially considering i actually have siblings who actually GET attention | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:11 PM |
| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortschildhood trauma (growing up skinny and unathletic), all boys school, having better looking siblings, etc. Its all absolutely fucked up my game and mindset (no idea to this day as a 31 yo how to talk to women i dont know in a sexual manner/flirt - any success i had in the past was luck which eludes me now). | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:06 PM |
| -1 | I can’t stop seeing escortschildhood trauma (growing up skinny and unathletic), all boys school, having better looking siblings, etc. Its all absolutely fucked up my game and mindset (no idea to this day as a 31 yo how to talk to women i dont know in a sexual manner/flirt - any success i had in the past was luck which eludes me now). | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:05 PM |
| 0 | I can’t stop seeing escortschildhood trauma (growing up skinny and unathletic), all boys school, having better looking siblings, etc. Its all absolutely fucked up my game and mindset (no idea to this day as a 31 yo how to talk to women i dont know in a sexual manner/flirt - any success i had in the past was luck which eludes me now). | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 09:02 PM |
| 0 | I can’t stop seeing escortshonestly - you're probably right. but im very consciously aware of projecting powerful body language and have been for years. Never look at the ground, shoulders back, chin up. Nobody cares. | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 08:12 PM |
| -1 | I can’t stop seeing escortschildhood trauma (growing up skinny and unathletic), all boys school, having better looking siblings, etc. Its all absolutely fucked up my game and mindset (no idea to this day as a 31 yo how to talk to women i dont know in a sexual manner/flirt - any success i had in the past was luck which eludes me now). I wonder how much the confidence comes from receipt of positive reinforcement. | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 08:07 PM |
| 6 | I can’t stop seeing escortsalready have done that but the devil has a leash on me :( | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 08:02 PM |
| -1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsIll confess. Many days i do nothing but hang wit my better looking siblings. So I get to see first-hand over last year or 2 especially the different in treatment and looks especially from women. Im talking me blatantly ignored sometimes. Can you maybe see how that would lead me to make these type of conclusions? | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 08:00 PM |
| 1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI get it. Its not my race or height or looks. Its just me. I cant explain it and ive tried getting through to people both here and even to a therapist or 2. It feels like i might give off an invisible negative aura even when pretending to be happy or genuinely happy - but in the absence of woo woo i end up blaming my face (receding hairline, bad beard genetics, etc.) | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 07:58 PM |
| -1 | I can’t stop seeing escortsWhen im out clubbing or at bars these days most women give me "fuck off" or bad negative energy aura. Especially being a tall guy (albeit a minority) this has completely destroyed any confidence I might have with women especially being someone with siblings who lets say actually get attention and i see it with my own eyes while i stay invisible. Honestly makes me wanna curl up and stop going out. | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 07:50 PM |
| 5 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI have friends. I go clubbing. I go to bars. I try be around women. My point is that women give off an aura to me like "fuck off" or "dont talk to me." And its destroyed my confidence being so tall but also so invisible especially considering i actually have siblings who actually GET attention | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 07:49 PM |
| -10 | I can’t stop seeing escortsI told you before my problem is it feels like being average simply dont cut it | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 07:37 PM |
| 16 | I can’t stop seeing escortsdeleting and remaking my account for noob boost | /r/seduction | 16/08/26 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?I really wanna change that. How can I? | /r/seduction | 10/08/26 01:27 PM |
| 0 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Then we in the realm of metaphysical shit now cuz I go out trying to maintain a good vibe and feeling like a million bucks and then as soon as I feel good boom - some woman brings me down. Because my vibe seems to be something about me they see which turns them off completley | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Thats the vibe I get based on my life experience and what I see with other dudes I know getting that attention | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Cuz it’s not about height it’s about face in 2026. I try be a confident man but when I go out and see how women look at me — man a nigga gets down | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Has not been my experience being tall. I get zero leeway to screw up or make mistakes in convo. I really struggle with what to say especially because I don’t get those invite signals and basically have I to in cold so much of the time - and the negative aura vibe I get just leads me to think there’s something wrong with my face | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Maybe cuz it was nightgame but I got so in my head. All I could manage was a compliment and the girl saying thank you and that’s it. Literally in the moment I just have no clue what women wanna talk about. Especially if I don’t meet their looks standard. | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Day game I get too in my head like “would this woman want a below average dude talking to her” | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 01:49 PM |
| 1 | I keep seeing this smoking hot girl from my gym everywhere lately and it’s making me realize the problem with mescared of rejection and humiliation since im there daily | /r/seduction | 09/08/26 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Deleting and remaking my account too much | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?I deleted all dating apps. Tinder banned me and the others get me nothing. | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?I shaved a few months back did not like how I looked ahahh | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Introvert and feeling women find me physically unattractive | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?So what kinda vibe do I need? I try go up to women respectfully but they just blow me off within a few seconds. And yes I dress well and take care of my hygiene and go to the gym. | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?Idk how to do this. I try talk to women just get brushed off within 30 seconds. Last night was first time in a while I went out to do nightgame wit a pal. I feel shitty that the women I want don’t want me. | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Tall black dude struggling with dating anxiety, rejection sensitivity, and feeling behind. How do I rebuild?It seems in 2026 looks is all that matters. I approach these women and get nowhere | /r/seduction | 08/08/26 04:02 PM |
| 4 | I keep seeing this smoking hot girl from my gym everywhere lately and it’s making me realize the problem with meYa I’m just a pussy scared of potential consequences is all | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 08:16 PM |
| 2 | I keep seeing this smoking hot girl from my gym everywhere lately and it’s making me realize the problem with meYes I could have but I’m too in my head | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceYa not for me. Only attracting women I’m not into. | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 05:53 PM |
| 4 | I keep seeing this smoking hot girl from my gym everywhere lately and it’s making me realize the problem with meI literally am signed up to coach Kyle’s skool right now haha | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceI feel you bro. Guess I’m too stuck in my head | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceBanned from tinder and don’t get shit on the other ones | /r/seduction | 04/08/26 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidencebrings down my self-esteem and removes me from my desire for a family one day | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 09:13 PM |
| -1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceI would notice. I guess being tall and black dont work unless you a rapper or athlete (im neither) | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceIdk man lots of black men in Toronto and a ton of em I see having success. But overall I feel if ur not a rapper or athlete it’s muuuuch harder. | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceNeeded to hear this. No clue where I stand on that scale but I guess I give off bitch energy. Rationale is always “they’ll make it obvious if they want me chatting em up” | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceLack of IOIs from women I’ll say is #1 thing that’s destroyed my confidence | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceDating apps are fucking useless for me. Borderline unusable I get fucking nothing | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceIdk tbh. I’ve gotten the main character from everybody hates Chris before | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceSee this is the #1 reason above all others why I have zero confidence or esteem with women. I would have no problem introducing myself to a woman if she gave an IOI. Never happens. Hence I think I’m unattractive. | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceDo you approach random women and get dates that way? Dating apps are unusable for me now | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceMy brain is extremely rejection avoidant. Just needs confirmation a woman would be interested in me talking to them before I do. I do not have this problem with men. | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 03:57 PM |
| 0 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceEven this kinda shit I find hard to commit to given my current life setup but I’ll check it out | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceTrying to but it’s hard cuz my mind tricks me into thinking “go see an escort these women clearly don’t want you” | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidenceInteresting man cuz my experience wit escorts has been opposite - I just feel shitier. Also dating apps are no bueno for me rn as I’m shadowbanned/banned from most. So they give me very low volume of likes or matches and usually women I’m not interested in. Guess I need more of a zero fucks given attitude | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidencebeen going to one but not helping as my body physically cant take action | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31-year-old Black guy in Toronto — fear of approaching women has contributed to a crippling addiction to escorts and it's destroying my life and confidencehey just turned them on - messaged u | /r/seduction | 03/08/26 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31yo black dude from Canada struggling with women - dating apps have been useless lately. Can I DM someone for some looks advice?Ya man. These apps r rough im mainly attracting women im not into | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31yo black dude from Canada struggling with women - dating apps have been useless lately. Can I DM someone for some looks advice?I feel better bro just needed 2nd opinion | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Tall 31yo black dude from Canada struggling with women - dating apps have been useless lately. Can I DM someone for some looks advice?Yee just feel I can’t rely on apps no more | /r/seduction | 30/07/26 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantBrutal | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantCaribbean | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI even try smile at women sometimes they just stare back blank. In 2026 being facially non-handsome hurts man. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI wouldn’t do that. I’m scared of being labelled a harasser. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantYa I think I’m a bit pain avoidant. I know I’m generally kinda ugly so I avoid the pain of female rejection. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantEvery 2 weeks haircut (but my hairline is receding which has destroyed my confidence). Just upgraded my wardrobe. Saw a dermatologist who put me on some serious shit. Nothing has made a difference. I’m just the invisible tall guy solely due to having a subpar face. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantDiff situation. He has an objectively handsome face. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantLack of choosing signals. I’ve been with dudes who get stares and eye fucks from girls. Doesn’t happen to me. So I’m pissed and jaded. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantAt least with ones I find even semi-attractive - Yes. There’s just too much competition from rich guys and male models. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantInteresting. So would you say my biggest problem is just the fact that I don’t approach women at all? | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantNo clue where to find em | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantGood stuff. Should have rephrased - in addition to intimidation there seems to be an element where women don’t find me facially attractive (they seem to want pretty boys now) | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI’ll dm u | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantIt’s my face then clearly | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:56 PM |
| -1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantIt’s more I get the sense women aren’t attracted to my face. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI feel that. I just got tired of bulky looks and wanted something more lean and athletic as I hear thats more for the female gaze. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI already watch my posture and keep my head held high. Has made zero difference - still get zero choosing signals from women. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantHard gainer here. Got up to almost 200 wit gainer shakes but problem is made my face bloated. And facial aesthetics seem to be eveything. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantWas 195 but I’m obsessed with getting abs and a lean face so cut down to 182ish (still no abs or lean face) | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:35 PM |
| 0 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI get you just felt there’s something wrong with me if I can’t meet women the way everyone my age is | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantHuh interesting. So bad vibes women throw my way might just be how they treat everyone? | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:29 PM |
| 0 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantAll my friends met their SO on dating apps. So without that avenue I’ve just been frustrated. If women find me ugly on apps I just don’t wanna bother irl | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:14 PM |
| 0 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantYa I’m telling you I don’t like initiating with women because I’ve seen in action how women make it obvious to men they actually want to talk to that they interested in talking. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI can dm you. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantThe problem is I have seen women approach men or make it very obvious. So it’s left me jaded feeling like they find me unattractive. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantEvidently in Toronto. I’ve seen things about how women generally only want a black man who’s rich or an athlete. I’m neither hence my league seems to be obese women. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantNot really. I mean my standards aren’t sky high. As a lifestyle thing I’d like a partner who is at the least a tiny bit active. I can’t see myself with an overweight woman who doesn’t gym. But if that’s my looksmatch then I’d rather just be single for life despite wanting kids and family one day. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 02:41 PM |
| 0 | Feel like women view me as a tall, black, scary giantI’m so in my head. I just hate the vibe women throw me. Like at the gym I do see dudes chatting up the (very few) women there - when I know if it was ME chatting up those women I’d be banned or get the police called on me. Because women make it clear they don’t want me talking to them. | /r/seduction | 29/07/26 02:37 PM |
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