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ADVICEIcy_Principle2577/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:07 AM
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I am definitely no authority figure on this as I occasionally still struggle with the same thing myself, but when I worry that a guy I am talking to is talking to other women too, I just tell myself they aren't me. Of course there are going to be women who are hotter and more intelligent than me—it would be insanely narcissistic and delusional to believe there weren't—but he's interested in me anyway. That's got to mean something. And really, chances are he does not even notice or care that your…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 05:36 PM
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Totally agree! It has to be lighthearted and fun
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 12:28 AM
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A bit of both! Most of the time though I prefer researching online as opposed to reading a full book because it's easier for me to focus on haha. I also like to watch YouTube videos on specific houseplants or interior designers when I don't feel like reading. I like to keep a notebook on my laptop for different plants/designers as well to keep my thoughts organized.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 01:06 AM
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I like studying houseplants and interior design/architecture :) I'd love to start studying more about perfume too
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 08:27 PM
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I love this! So thoughtfully written. As a recent college grad, I still gravitate toward athletic wear that probably does make me look a little immature, so thank you for pointing that out. Hoodies and sweatshirts are a mainstay for me and I don't know if I'd ever be able to part with them, but I find they can be 'dressed up' a little if I wear a peacoat/trench coat over them with jeans and knee-length boots. Also athletic wear like leggings and sneakers can look good if they are quality brands …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 05:55 PM
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I've done a bit of introspection since posting this and have decided to suspend looking for anyone until I have my own ducks in a row, thanks for the concern though
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 05:30 PM
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Does this guy really have high value potential or is he all you think you are worth? Like my mom says, you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear. You shouldn't have to ask a HVM to be a HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 03:02 PM
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Depending on the guy, yes it very well could affect his perception of you. Some guys really like pixie-style cuts, but if you feel insecure/unsure about it then you should grow it out some. In the meantime though, you can do other small things to make yourself look/feel more feminine like painting and taking good care of your nails, experimenting with skincare and makeup, making sure your eyebrows are well-groomed, and so on. Also, if you just can't give up loose-fitting clothes, check out Pinte…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 04:20 PM
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Excellent point, thank you for bringing this up. I should have elaborated on this point more as both of my parents are narcissistic and emotionally abusive and staying in contact with that is very toxic. In this particular context though, I was intending the quality of communication w/ parents to be aimed toward people who have decent parents but are still extremely disrespectful toward them or are overly dependent on them. Moochers, mama's boys, etc. Also, good for you for no longer communicati…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 12:13 PM
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Guilt tripping! Depending on you for their happiness How well they communicate with their parents How they treat waiters Being unwilling to work through issues—big and small Takes everything personally Insists on being right 100% of the time Gets seriously upset if 100% of your time/attention is not spent on them This is something that personally really turns me off—being unable to take the occasional lighthearted, affectionate joke. I was on a pizza date with a guy once where I jokingly suggest…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 05:45 PM
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I personally like browsing r/RoomPorn, r/CozyPlaces, and r/InteriorDesign to get some inspiration! r/houseplants is also a nice place to look at different plants you may like—in my opinion having a plant or two around always makes a place feel more homey. Like another commenter has suggested, Pinterest is also a great place to get started. You can put together boards for kitchens, bathrooms, and the like to sort out ideas you like. Or you could even put boards together to collect different style…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 02:35 AM
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Thank you for this! So detailed and informative. I personally have never been on birth control because, well, I haven't needed to be on it haha. In the past I have conducted sporadic research on it because the way it impacts women (and men!) is both intriguing and disconcerting. Would you by chance have any links for the research you included? I'd love to read more on your findings! Thanks again
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 02:40 AM
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You're welcome! It's okay to be confused. What's not okay is accepting this any longer. Of course he's gonna tell you the fear will go away, that's how abusers rope you back in. They love-bomb you so you feel guilty about leaving. Don't fall for it! Tell yourself you're smarter than that. And also, I would like to advise that you do not tell him about the encounter with the other guy, under any circumstance. Don't give him that ammo. Just back away.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 05:04 PM
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He's an abuser, 100%. No redpilled or HVM man would ever even think of treating you the way he has. Not even for a second. The way abusers work is by getting under your skin and manipulating you into thinking they are the best you'll ever get. And they are completely, totally wrong. You will find a man someday who is knowledgeable, handsome, driven, and so much more—and you will laugh at the thought of the sad excuse for a man you're with now being anywhere near that. I know it can be hard to co…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:54 PM
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Please, don't go back. When you're in an abusive relationship, your brain will do whatever it can to justify why you should continue staying in it. I know. Remember why you left: the fights, the OF girl, everything. Remember the constant dread you felt just being around him. And the fact that you are terrified of telling him about your encounter with this other man when he had been flirting with this other girl for months really shows how abusive he is. Don't go back to that. Don't get comfortab…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 04:42 PM
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To go along with the second one, having a pet she really adores may be another sign. Being good with animals could mean she is good w/ kids as well :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 01:56 PM
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"well, except for predators, that behavior looks delicious to them." THIS. I may as well have written OP's post 3-4 years ago. You can get in a lot of sticky situations when your self-esteem is lacking because you simply want to feel validated. Manipulators can smell insecurity from miles away. OP, if you haven't already, make sure you know the tactics manipulators try to use on you, like love-bombing and gaslighting and so on—it can save a lot of strife later on. No attention/affection will alw…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/21 03:59 PM
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Thank you! More great points. I appreciated this chat, take care.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 01:25 AM
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Yes! I've been having trouble articulating this exact point and you nailed it perfectly lol. I would feel absolutely terrible if my partner felt he had to hide something like this from me because he was scared of how I would react or if I would still love him. Your partner is the one person who should know you completely inside and out and hesitancy to reveal such an important part of oneself implies a major lack of trust.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:52 PM
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Exactly, using past trauma as an excuse for present behavior is absolutely shameful. It's displaced anger and resentment really. It reminds me of something I'd heard a little while ago—there are two types of people who come from trauma: those who never want anybody to ever feel the way they did and those who find it unfair that more people have not been treated the way they have because they just don't want to feel that pain alone. Sharing deeply painful parts of oneself with somebody they love …
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:08 AM
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Great point. If anything I was wondering if it was possible to actually do this too late because thrusting this upon a potential partner and expecting them to just deal with it is horrible and the absolute last thing I want to do. And I don't want to be pitied or coddled by them either; I don't want my childhood to be center stage in my relationship with him at all. It's not his fault it happened to me lol. I want to bring it up once it's safe, talk about it a little, and then work on forgetting…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 02:47 AM
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This is really sound advice, thank you. In the future I would like to limit my contact with them as much as possible (if not entirely) so that my husband, my children and my in-laws do not have to put up them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 07:07 PM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. Your advice means a lot. To answer your question—I do unfortunately still live with them as Covid has dampened my plans of moving out a year ago when I had the opportunity. I would like to be out by the beginning of the year though. Once I move out, I don't know if I will go permanent no-contact with them or just keep it to an absolute minimum; only time will tell. I can relate to your third point well—something I have been working on is sort …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:45 PM
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This is such wonderful advice, thank you. I am SO looking forward to working this out with a therapist and feeling more comfortable with myself and honestly I would not want to get into a relationship without having been to therapy beforehand. My partner deserves my full presence and nothing less.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:25 PM
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I understand where you're coming from. Trust me—this isn't something I would ever like telling somebody. But if it were somebody I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, it would only be fair if I was transparent. It would be up to him how much he knows about it though—I will talk about it if/when he wants but other than that I would prefer to leave it in the past. No use re-living it over and over. I'd like to distance myself from my past as far as possible and his understanding of what happ…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 05:58 PM
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Haha no, I'm trying my best to be as different from my parents as possible. Thanks for your advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 05:21 PM
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Thank you so much for your advice. I feel the same way you did. Even if I do not end up in a relationship with this guy in particular, broaching this subject with any future partner makes me feel a bit squeamish. I've never told anybody about it so I'd be a bit hesitant to just foist this upon somebody unless I felt 100% safe with them. Another commenter said it will come out naturally when it's the right time and that brings me a bit of solace at least. :) I have put some thought into future fa…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 04:16 AM
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Thank you for your honesty. I know this is not something I should be worrying until quite awhile down the road (or at all) but it crosses my mind more than I would like.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:47 AM
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Thank you! Lovely advice
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:41 AM
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