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I don't know much about online dating, what happens if you just don't mention your height? Will the majority of women really ask for it before meeting up?
/r/seduction07/04/20 06:57 PM
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Good point
/r/seduction14/07/19 04:04 AM
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Why ask and not just try?
/r/seduction14/07/19 01:38 AM
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We don’t want kids slipping on them tomorrow when we open, do we? That sounds so condescending
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:00 PM
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Aw. In an attempt to uplift one man, another was brought down. I tend to stay far away from men who claim to be good in bed . My best sexual experiences have been with humble men. They don't claim to have the key to women's pleasure, but they know how to look for physical cues, they know how to listen, and how to use that to improve very quickly. Of course, if you're looking for a quick fuck, you can easily fool many people with confidence. I don't think you'll fool quality people though.
/r/seduction25/05/19 09:14 PM
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I agree with what you're saying here, I just don't think it has anything to do with seduction. As for what I'd do, it depends on the context. Who is the person, what are they doing, where is this happening, etc. I always try to solve my business myself and so far that has always worked out. It's rare that I get disrespected, even by someone who disrespects my peers. I'm not sure why. But if a situation were to escalate to a serious level and solving it between that person and myself didn't work,…
/r/seduction18/05/19 11:43 AM
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Let me get this right. You expressed to one person that you disliked being called "you" so they stopped, and you told another person to lower their voice and they did. Two people decided to accommodate you... and you believe you are training these people, that they are attracted to you and submissive to you. Pro tip: if someone is doing something that bothers you and you tell them about it, if it's something inconsequential to that person they will most likely change their behaviour. Because mos…
/r/seduction18/05/19 01:33 AM
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Everything
/r/seduction18/05/19 01:23 AM
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One was saying "hey you" and the other was speaking a bit too loud. Oh the disrespect.
/r/seduction18/05/19 01:22 AM
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Your advice goes the opposite of that quote
/r/seduction09/05/19 06:35 PM
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That's a really good idea. It could become a sort of automatism. Thank you!
/r/seduction20/04/19 10:31 PM
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Idk, personally I find that's a bad one. You're basically telling her that it's true you have a small dick but you're willing to make it up to her. Add the fact that men who beg about their bedroom performance usually are the worst, that 50% chance of getting her to bed with that line is way overestimated. Also the fact that women don't moan in labor, they scream. Giving birth is extremely painful, so basically saying she'll scream as if she's in the worst pain of her life.
/r/seduction19/04/19 11:54 PM
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You went and proved that guy wrong and yet you're still the one getting downvoted while he gets upvoted. Don't take it personally. Just as K3wp said, the problem isn't friendzone, it's oneitis. If a guy can't deal with his feelings for his friend and needs to break the friendship, that's his prerogative. But in the end, it's not the girl's fault, it's not the friendzone's fault, it's his oneitis. ​
/r/seduction17/02/19 10:40 PM
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I enjoyed it.
/r/seduction18/11/18 02:39 AM
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By that definition, every conversation anyone has ever had was flirting
/r/seduction11/11/18 01:57 PM
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At this point I'd rather just be honest and say I forgot to write down her name the first time we talked.
/r/seduction07/11/18 12:04 AM
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"I was named after my grandmother." "Goddamn it"
/r/seduction06/11/18 11:08 PM
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I've never had a free drink, I must be doing something wrong haha ​ I'm at a good weight but I notice a big difference when I dress nice and put on makeup and when I don't. I'm not ugly without makeup, but I still notice that difference. It made me realize that some men don't know what they're talking about when they say they don't like makeup. Perhaps they mean they don't like the overdone look of blue eyeshadow with the fuchsia blush and spider lashes. However, nice looking makeup with natural…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:34 PM
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I think it varies from one situation to another. OP seems to say that the conversation flowed into that subject very naturally. Generally speaking, it takes longer to see if there's chemistry rather than seeing if long term goals are similar (that's fairly straight forward). Sure first dates are fun, but it gets draining to do these multiple times only to have it fail because of something that could've been discussed on the first date.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 04:18 PM
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Of course, I'd say there are plenty. partner is abusive partner is a drug addict and won't seek treatment actually, any addiction without seeking treatment partner has a severe mental illness and won't seek treatment partner has very different life goals (example: he wants kids and she doesn't) if partner doesn't want to salvage the relationship. It takes two to fix and work on the relationship I could keep going. Basically a lot of those boil down to vetting your partner carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 02:19 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnFTF8-4FNM ​ Here's a video on how to reduce the appearance of broad shoulders and to maximize the look of your curves. ​ Similarly, I went to check WNBA players. Here's Candice Wiggins for example, first on the playing field: ​ https://media4.s-nbcnews.com/j/newscms/2017_08/1912376/170223-candice-wiggins-wnba-206p_786df57255bafb76c698a757d3ff0462.fit-2000w.jpg ​ And then with a more ''feminine attire'': https://terezowens.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/agagagag-…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 01:42 AM
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I'm the same. We're perfectionists. Or rather, we have very high standards for ourselves. We demand the best of us, to the point where we put a lot of pressure in all aspects of our lives. Be kind to yourself. That's what I tell myself. Be kind. I used to punish myself mentally if I didn't work on my studies all day. Now I tell myself ''it's okay. You were tired/not feeling it/whatever else. It happens. Take the time you need and get back to it when you're ready'' Or if I ate some chocolate or c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 11:51 PM
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You've put it in words better than I have man. If you need to see escorts again to "normalize" the experience that's totally fine and an option to consider. One of the reasons some guys can't get laid is they put women on a pedestal or see them as completely different species. They can't talk to them because they don't know what to say, as if there was something special to say (there isn't). I've read on this sub about guys losing their virginity to escorts, which helped them realize it wasn't s…
/r/seduction14/10/18 08:13 PM
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It's easy to say that when you are in the dark side. I lost mine a couple of years ago but it's easy to feel insecure about it. People talk about sex all the time, so does the media, etc. For those who haven't experienced it, how can they not feel like they're missing out. I was waiting for someone special. I can't imagine someone willing to do it with almost anyone. They know they could just go to a bar and pick someone up but they don't know how, and that probably generates anxiety for some. T…
/r/seduction14/10/18 01:43 PM
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Agreed! This sounded like some "if you can't handle me at my worst..." bs
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 01:35 PM
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That's a really interesting turn of events, thanks for telling us the story.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:24 PM
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Why assume that her definition of talking is unloading/venting/complaining?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 07:18 PM
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I'm 23 now and I can tell you I have much more success now with men than I ever have in the past. There's so much fearmongering here about women hitting the wall as soon as they pass 21 and other ridiculous claims. Work on yourself and you'll get back tenfolds.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 03:05 AM
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I would be very interested to read it as I've felt similar for a long time!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 12:26 AM
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That's a really interesting parallel between beta guys and hot girls!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 03:37 PM
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In her case I do find her mean. Of course you won't be everyone's type. There's a classier way to reject someone than the way she did it.
/r/seduction03/07/18 04:02 PM
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To be fair there's also a lot of toxicity in TRP, that's mostly why TRP is not recommended in this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 03:59 PM
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Agreed with /u/enoughtugawar. The book is about self respect, not about being rude (aka, a bitch). I absolutely agree with it. If a man wants a pushover, that means he's controlling. A good man wants a partner. All the high value men I've known wanted a partner who had a life of their own too, a good balance, not someone who would obsess over their man. This book teaches that balance. I definitely think any girl could benefit from it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 11:23 AM
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Is there a similar book for women? I'm asking for a friend.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 12:28 AM
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But it is fair, you girls force me to have to play these games. No we don't. Plenty of guys can pull while remaining 100% honest. if I pulled this on you would you be upset or would you just find in entertaining Words are one part of the equation. A big part is how you say it and how you come across. If it's done well, meaning that I think it's a genuine compliment with no ill intent, that the guy remains playful and teases me 5 min later if I fell for it, then I'd find it entertaining. If I fin…
/r/seduction28/05/18 12:41 AM
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I'm a girl and damn, that's clever. Right away the girl lowers her defenses because she doesn't think you'll try to play her, only for you to play on that advantage and make her feel like she's slowly changing your mind in some way. Evil. Now I can't even trust if a guy says he's gay lol That being said, it is a lie, no matter how you try to spin it. ''If I wasn't gay'' would mean that you are gay but are talking of a hypothetical opposite scenario.
/r/seduction27/05/18 09:49 PM
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These are really good! I wish I could use them all but as a girl, some of these won't work as well with reversed genders (mostly the buying a drink one, it could come off as demanding/entitled even if I say it jokingly). It's nice to see some concrete advice instead of the usual "be confident, approach, what you say isn't important, etc."
/r/seduction19/04/18 07:53 PM
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This is a very good answer, especially for such a difficult thing to explain.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/18 05:13 AM
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then there goes my wife and proves to me that the rest of the world IS actually better than me. Your wife cheating doesn't reflect on you, it reflects on her. Even amazing people get cheated on. The fact that your wife was so quick to cheat shows that SHE is weak, SHE has problems. The good news is you can only go up from here. Maybe you need some time on your own before working on your skills with women. Work on self-love. Be there for your kids. Once you feel ready to put yourself out there, w…
/r/seduction04/01/18 02:12 AM
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This is an amazing answer, exactly what I wanted and even more. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 09:18 PM
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Thanks, I do need to be careful with oversharing. I don't fear their anger. I want to be smart with my money. I pay my own schooling and work hard to stay out of debt. Any extra money I have I try to invest it. The first rule you'll always hear in finance is "spend less than you earn" and if I were to have my own place, I would definitely spend more. Nothing in life is free. I may not pay rent but I definitely pay in some other ways by staying home. I realize that and it's a choice I'm making co…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 01:20 AM
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Ah I see, very good. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 01:52 AM
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be honest and direct about why you decided not to engage in sex anymore How do you do that without doing any of the DEER? What you’re proposing sounds at the very least like explaining something
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 03:08 PM
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You should know a few things about those YouTube videos. Most of the times it’s fake and if it’s not, there’s a huge selection bias since they show the 1 girl who said yes instead of the 99 who said no or ignored the guy. Try to dig into your thoughts. You have approach anxiety. Why? Because you’re scared of being rejected. Why? And so on. At some point you might realize your fear or your worst case scenario really isn’t that bad.
/r/seduction05/12/17 05:05 PM
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That's sweet, you're quite lucky :) I could see myself changing my mind on marriage if I ever love someone that much.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 01:12 AM
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Three months seems like such a long time if I have a good connection with someone. It's an arbitrary number that doesn't necessarily fit for everyone. I'd have a hard time justifying this to a guy if I really like him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 04:24 PM
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Yeah you're right. It's much nicer when you don't think in the back of your head that it could never work out. I do live in a big city and it's probably why I still have hope. I know childfree is becoming a more common lifestyle but it's still pretty rare.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 04:20 PM
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Yes, I understand and I agree. I don't regret this last experience but I didn't find that it was something I would want to maintain (that is, a casual relationship) once I saw that we weren't compatible. To prevent that from happening again I'll simply keep vetting better like I was used to doing before.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 04:00 AM
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I do want a LTR. I just don't see the added value of marriage. It's a cost vs benefit situation to me. I didn't see any factual reason to get married since it doesn't help a relationship, but the costs are very high if things don't work out. Almostsurrendered's comment did help me see a new perspective on it though, but I don't think most people get married for the reasons she gave. As for not wanting children, here are a few reasons below. I want you to know though that I don't think it's wrong…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/17 03:58 AM
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I'm very glad to have gotten such positive answers to my question. I was looking for new perspectives and your comment definitely offers one when it comes to marriage. I think this is something I could see myself changing my mind over if the right person came along. I'm surprised you wouldn't terminate a pregnancy since you seem very opposed to having children, rather than just being on the fence. Why is that if you don't mind me asking?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 10:33 PM
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To be honest it's what I've been doing. It sucks not going further than one or two dates with someone you get along well with. I know I need to keep doing it. Sometimes I just want to hide it so I can enjoy a little bit the courting phase.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 10:13 PM
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Yeah I think this is the perfect balance, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:31 PM
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I do want something that will last the rest of my life. Perhaps it's just hard to imagine it since I've never felt this way towards anyone yet. I understand your point that if I seek someone who doesn't want marriage, chances are they don't want one relationship for the rest of their life. I wish things weren't so black and white. Thanks for your input :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:12 PM
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I can't tell if you're joking or this is an actual question... but I'll bite. It was an actual question. The purpose of marriage is indefinite [...] The theoretical purpose of a marriage should actually be definite, which is the rest of your life. A ltr is indefinite security and commitment. security and commitment There's not much security in marriage these days when divorce is so widespread. I would've understood your point a few decades ago but marriage vows aren't respected like they used to…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 04:27 PM
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the goal of a LTR is marriage Then what is the goal of marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 03:55 PM
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Will do, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 03:54 AM
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I wish I would meet some of those men. I've only ever met one childfree man but I wasn't attracted to him. And alright, I'll keep that in mind. It wasn't my intention to sleep around, but I'll keep being selective.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 03:47 AM
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I understand. Very good answer, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 01:43 AM
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I am similar to you. In my opinion, you shouldn't settle on a guy if you're unsure about him. It's what I did in my past two relationships and they could sense that I had my reservations about them (even though I treated them very well, I was hesitant to go further), which ultimately ruined the relationship. You said you usually realize in 1-2 dates whether you want things to go further or not. I am the same. If a man has some red flags, I'll see them very quickly and won't waste further time wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 03:32 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, what made you change your mind about breaking up with him?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 09:55 PM
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That's definitely true and I think it's the main reason behind all the girls complaining that they can't find a good man.
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:54 PM
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how do you justify calling them quality guys Perhaps you're right, maybe they weren't. Here's my underlying reasoning about the situation. I don't have some pre-established notion of when I should sleep with a man. I don't tell myself "I will on the 7th date, or on the third month". I do it when I feel comfortable, which is when I've judged that the man has good character and that we have chemistry. Chemistry is established early but character takes time. You need to see someone through differen…
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:50 PM
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Yes, I date now almost exclusively in the 24-29 range (I'm 22). It has worked out better, I just haven't found that special someone yet :) I enjoy being single so I'm in no rush
/r/seduction27/10/17 05:48 AM
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That's the spirit! Don't be afraid to tease them as well
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:53 AM
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I get what you're saying but early fireworks seldom appear. Great things take time. In the past year I can think of three guys that I got along really well with and I could tell they were interested too. The thing was that they'd all want sex pretty early on and had a mentality of ''we'll see where this leads'' without any sort of commitment. So it's a form of ''first we'll do casual sex and then we'll see if this develops into a relationship''. But then there's this implicit rule that a quality…
/r/seduction27/10/17 01:51 AM
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Girl here and I have the same issue with men my age. Either they don't have much of a backbone (ex:agree with everything that I say) or they are only looking for something casual. I can't really blame either category. One hasn't had the time to develop their confidence in talking to women and the other don't want to worry about relationships yet. So I just learned instead to enjoy being on my own, to enjoy meeting new people without setting any sort of expectations and to welcome a relationship …
/r/seduction26/10/17 10:27 PM
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That is so interesting, I had a boyfriend just like this when I was 18 too but I simply concluded he must not care. I couldn't understand though how he was so amazing when we were together. Thanks for this new perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 01:43 PM
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I thought this debate had been settled a century ago
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:00 PM
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I think teasing is fine as long as it isn't hurtful of course and doesn't attack his masculinity. If you tried to push a heavy door for example and he said in a teasing way "aw you're so weak. Look at those little arms trying so hard" that would be fine. But if the genders were reversed, he most likely wouldn't feel too good about it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 11:40 PM
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That's a pretty funny twist. I would read it but I don't have a kindle. The way things are today, if that were to exist we would work towards fixing the robot instead of fixing ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 05:12 PM
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Why not?
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:00 PM
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I almost wanted this to be real, it would've been quite the shitshow.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 02:12 PM
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How does it show in her personality and technique? For example I have an n count of 1 but I'm not afraid of my sexuality at all so I was adventurous with my partner and I'm not really shy with men (although I don't openly expose my sexuality, I think it should be kept private). Since I'm so comfortable in myself does it mean men would think I'm more experienced?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 01:03 AM
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It's very hard to find good friends. Even these girls I mentioned. I have no issues of them being rude or flaking or being late, but we aren't very close, we see each other only a few times a year, we're very different so I can't be too open to them about many aspects of my life, there are some awkward silences when we hang out, etc. I've never had that feeling of having best friends (or even one), the kind of person you tell everything and laugh like crazy when you go out with them and see all …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 08:05 PM
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I have a group of girl friends from high school and in the 6-7 years that I've known them, they have never acted bitchy towards me or towards each other. I'm telling you this so you know that women like this do exist, and you shouldn't waste your time on people who aren't nice to you. Keep going to places you want to go, talk to people, and you'll end up finding a better social circle than the current one :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 11:20 AM
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You're right on all points and it's true that I needlessly escalated a situation. Just like Owned probably won't change Kara's mind about having kids now, I probably won't change Owned's mind about how to approach certain discussions. Like you said we have little influence on an Internet board, it's very often not worth it to escalate anything.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:34 PM
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The risk of down syndrome goes from 0.2% at 30 years old to 0.5% at 35 years old. At this point it's better for Kara to just be ready than to rush into it and possibly be stressed, which can lead to other problems. Kara thanked her for the information but Owned insisted on shoving her point and telling her to start getting busy NOW. I get the biological realities, I do. But live and let live a little. I'm sure Kara is a smart woman and is doing what is best for her and future child. It's nobody …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 03:21 PM
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Who are you to tell her when to have kids? Even her doctor said it's fine, let her live
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 02:39 PM
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OP please read this! There's this very common misconception that staying together in an unhealthy relationship is better than leaving. Your daughter will grow up thinking this is how men should be. If you leave, you can teach her valuable lessons about men and what she should not settle for.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:10 PM
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Good point!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 02:07 AM
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This is kind of how I see it but I've heard so often the opposite view that it got me wondering if I was missing something. In the case of a lease I understand there's some risk. If you've been with someone for 3 months and signing a lease is pretty much guessing you'll still be with the same person for a year. But in this situation it's a house that the girlfriend owns so he could leave at any time. Thanks for your input.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 09:15 PM
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Why do you want children?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 08:42 PM
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I believe I could do better. If a guy says that, I don't think it means he really wants to. He just has no other option at the moment.
/r/seduction12/06/17 01:21 PM
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I don't think it's crazy. We're a very individualistic society though. People don't talk to each other often just for a conversation, there's always an end goal. So these women who are bothered by approaches might be wary because they think the guy approaching wants something out of them. It might be why some are very quick to say they have a boyfriend. Women who are more receptive will just take the approach at face value and enjoy an unexpected conversation. So oftentimes they wouldn't be both…
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:16 AM
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Girl here and I like being approached, even if I'm not attracted to the guy. I know it takes guts and I appreciate the effort, plus it's a compliment to me. You'll always find girls who are receptive or who aren't. Same thing whether it's day game or night game. I'd only suggest picking appropriate "targets". If a woman is wearing headphones, maybe don't disturb her. If you're at the gym, etc. Otherwise if she looms receptive to being approached, go for it. Worse case scenario she turns you down…
/r/seduction09/06/17 03:58 PM
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men are more disposable than women What do you mean by this?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:29 PM
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You should be able to tell the difference between a shy girl and a disinterested one.
/r/seduction16/05/17 03:31 AM
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Yeah because guys would never judge on appearance or prefer to talk to the attractive girl over the ugly friends /s
/r/seduction30/04/17 02:39 AM
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As long as you're enthusiastic I think that's plenty. You learn to read the cues of your partner and see what he likes with time. You can always read some guides online on blowjobs and different positions if you don't want to feel clueless when it comes to it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 09:59 PM
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Let me know! It'd be really interesting if light can play an effect on sexual gratification.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 03:04 AM
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Maybe try to make it darker in the house? Shut the blinds, cover any area of light coming in with towels, etc. I had a partner do this once, and while I don't mind the light, it made the whole thing a lot more intimate and enticing for some reason.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 06:02 PM
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Thanks, I'll do some research. Do they fade evenly or do you notice patches sometimes?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 08:27 PM
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How do you prevent from going orange? Legit question, it's why I'm scared of fake tanning.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 08:14 PM
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Any advice you would give to that first type of woman to become a better partner?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 09:47 PM
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How ridiculous. First of all those graphs make no sense. The x axis represents the number of non-marital partners and the y axis represents the percentage of sexually active women. That, by itself, means nothing. Is it saying that those with more non-marital women tend to be more sexually active? That isn't even necessarily true since being sexually active is whether you have a present partner, not how many partners you've had. Then the titles bring in completely new information about depression…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:45 PM
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Especially with modern dating, it's much more prevalent to do a lot of shopping around before becoming exclusive with someone. Glad everything worked out for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/17 06:32 PM
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Of course it's possible. I think redpill theory sometimes puts too much emphasis on n count. While I agree that it's important, it's not a deal breaker for life. So you've partied for 3-4 years. Now you think that means you won't ever find a quality partner for the next several decades of your life? You realize that's ridiculous, right? If you perceive yourself as low value, others will too. That is a certainty. You can put a front, but people see through it eventually. The best thing you can do…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/17 05:24 AM
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It's true and probably one of the reasons I don't really trust him.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 12:15 PM
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This was very informative and it finally put into words what I've been thinking about for a while now. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 12:57 AM
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I was trying to ask for more general advice and to give one example, but I understand it might be person-specific. In the end you're right, it's best that I just follow my gut feeling. Even if I felt some sort of guarantee that this man would become more attached after sex, I still wouldn't have felt comfortable enough to do it. Thanks for your comment :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 12:00 AM
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If she was bragging about how attractive her parents were, was she trying to say that they weren't faithful either? That could explain some things...
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/17 06:43 PM
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A lot of guys have no game either and will ask these same mundane questions. You just need to search through the pile and find the interesting piece.
/r/seduction17/03/17 02:17 AM
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Do we really?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 10:19 PM
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I remember reading a story on here about a man who didn't want to have sex for similar reasons you stated about your ex. Don't know if it was you or someone else. Either way, I wish that you do find someone. In the meantime, it's good to work on being happy by yourself. It's a difficult thing to do, but it prevents you from settling for less than you deserve. I think it's good that you're being selective. Keep working on yourself and you'll be justified in having high standards.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 04:28 AM
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I agree with you but that reflects my inability to trust someone else 100%, which I think is a little sad. If I ever get married, I'd hope to trust my partner enough to be able to do this. Who knows though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 01:46 PM
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Isn't it bad to leave him to re-initiate contact each time? I know many men are bothered that women don't seem to make as much effort to reach out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 09:01 PM
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Either I wasn't attracted to them, the conversation was bland or they just wanted a one night thing. To be fair I live about an hour away from the city, I wasn't willing to travel that for someone I wasn't that interested in to begin with. I'm sure I've missed out on great dates. Perhaps I was judgemental too quickly. It's easy to dismiss someone when there are 200 more online.
/r/seduction26/12/16 03:25 PM
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I'd most likely lose motivation if I tried doing too much at once. I think my energy would be put to better use if I focus on improving one thing, rather than dabbing into a little of everything. Maybe with time I could incorporate both. I see it like asking a fitness beginner to start off by training 5x/week. Might be overkill and that person would get sick of it quickly.
/r/seduction26/12/16 03:54 AM
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I've always been reticent about telling the truth because what might not please one woman might please another. I remember a few months ago going on a date with a guy, towards the end it was obvious things weren't going anywhere and he kept asking me what about him made me uninterested. I just remained vague and said I didn't feel a connection. Would it have been better to say that I didn't find him attractive and his personality bored me?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 02:17 AM
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Well yeah but that's true of both men and women. What's interesting is trying to differentiate both.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 02:12 AM
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Not necessarily. I can be looking at a guy from the other side of the room and not find him particularly attractive. He could come up to me and introduce himself. After a while I see he has status, confidence, charm, ambition, passion, etc. My opinion of him is better than it was initially. There are limits to this of course. But all things considered, I think a woman's looks is more important than a man's looks.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 01:57 AM
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The way I see it, if a woman is not attracted to a guy solely on his looks, that guy can compensate with many other things. Attraction for a woman can be built with time. If a man isn't attracted to a woman, that woman pretty much has no chance with him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 01:46 AM
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I remember with my first boyfriend, I would text him and he'd answer hours later. Yet when we were together, he was always on his phone. Dumped him when I realized through more signs that he didn't care about me. Be observant of his behavior, that's the best advice I can give you in this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 01:18 AM
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"It's been fun but I think we should part ways. Take care"
/r/seduction17/12/16 07:41 PM
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It's true that if OP wants an end text for personal motives, he can do as he pleases. If he thinks he must to do it out of obligation, I was simply pointing out that it's not necessary.
/r/seduction17/12/16 06:11 PM
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From a female perspective I agree with the other comments that you don't need to say anything. You will come off as desperate and probably even bitter ("you don't want to hang out with me? Ok bye!"). It's borderline childish, in the way kids say "you're not my friend anymore!" If she doesn't respect your time and can't communicate, why do you owe her anything? If a girl is flaky, she does not care. She will not care if you disappear without saying anything. Starting a conversation to say that yo…
/r/seduction17/12/16 02:58 PM
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Oh, I'm not saying it's a bad technique. I do agree with it. All I'm saying is, I haven't seen it being so prevalent in my daily life. People will definitely judge whether a girl appears slutty, that's always been the case, but actually asking the number is seen as rude.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 03:00 PM
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Thank you! This is so prevalent in TRP/RPW but I can't say in my life that I've ever seen this much emphasis put on a number. I've never heard of a guy rejecting a woman for having an n>3, but I've seen that countless times online.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 06:26 AM
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It's not so important where you go on the date as what you do/say. When you connect with someone, you can have fun with them no matter what you do. For that to happen, you have to be able to have fun by yourself as well. Do you take yourself too seriously? It might be something worth looking into. Let's say you visit an art gallery on a date. That can be extremely boring if you take it at face value. Lots of rooms, paintings of people and places, more paintings of people and places, an occasiona…
/r/seduction11/12/16 03:07 AM
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To be fair even if I'd gotten many answers saying that guys like women with a bit of an attitude, I don't think I would've been able to change my personality. It's a terrible thing as well to force yourself to be standoffish when you just feel like being nice. These answers made me realize that whatever works better, the best thing to do is just act the way I want to, which will attract the right type of people for me. Thank you!
/r/seduction10/12/16 04:13 AM
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I'm a person, just like you. Don't alter your behaviour just because you're talking to a girl :P
/r/seduction10/12/16 12:57 AM
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"Eh, this was too easy. I feel I would've been happier if I had to work a little for it". But jokes aside, in the context OP stated it, it makes sense. If a stranger knocked on your door and gave you a cheque for 1M, you wouldn't jump in the air. You'd be suspicious and apprehensive. If you participated in a game show of some sort, you'd have worked for it and would know it's legit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/16 07:19 PM
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On the other hand, what do you have to offer to keep such a man interested? Not attacking, just curious
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/16 09:13 AM
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I understand. I'll start to consider more how I'm contributing to a situation rather than focus on personality traits. I guess a large majority of people can go there when pushed over the edge, so it's also on me to prevent that from happening. Thank you again :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/16 12:56 AM
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Before I had my first relationship, I thought cheating was disgusting and people who did it were despicable. During my first relationship, I realized at some point, when a guy was talking to me, how incredibly easy it is to cheat. I was baffled because I realized I could very easily kiss that guy right then and there. I understood the excitement. There was no invisible force that would push me back. On the opposite, biology probably makes it even easier. That being said, it's still a matter of d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 11:53 PM
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It's funny because I grew up with the conception that men were the direct ones and women were the ones who never bluntly say what's wrong and you have to guess. I'm not sure what to think now, I guess things are never so black and white, but what I've lived and seem to be seeing is actually the opposite. What I've learned from this relationship is definitely to be more attentive to my partner. Not just what he says but how he acts. I feel like with my future boyfriend I'll do some weekly check u…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 06:07 AM
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Have you tried to move on since then? How so? We still talk regularly which probably isn't good. I feel like I've moved on emotionally, I could date again if I wanted to. I'd say I'm in monk mode now though. Right there is his honest answer, but you obviously don't like that answer. You don't need to like the answer but you do need to contemplate this answer and determine whether it may be even a tiny bit true. If it is, you have some personal work to do. I think it definitely has truth to it bu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 03:21 AM
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A person can come off as great but still have some bad traits that didn't catch my attention. Like Bad_advice_for_free mentioned, insecure people are weak against flattery and are easy to convince to cheat. I think this is what happened. He was insecure but it never struck me as a dealbreaker. He didn't seek attention elsewhere, at some point a woman came onto him and he gave in. That was still internal, it was due to his insecurity. I'm open to changing my beliefs though, this is why I ask ques…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 02:08 AM
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Nowhere in my post did I ask why I got cheated on, or why people get cheated on. Yes, I can understand it and in the scenario you described, it is possible. Does that mean it's excusable? No. I am an analytical and serious person, that doesn't mean I'm cold hearted. The vetting process is indeed different between men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 01:30 AM
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You did great! And to be fair there's nothing stopping you from talking to her or simply saying hey whenever you see her again. One first awkward-ish conversation doesn't ruin everything forever. And worst case scenario, if you keep talking to her and it doesn't work out, she can always introduce you to friends, give you opportunities to meet new people you wouldn't have met otherwise. Keep it up!
/r/seduction05/11/16 05:32 AM
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Seriously, move on. If he lies about something as simple as a name, imagine what other things he will lie about in the future. Also, "serious" and "no rush, seeing where things go" are two different things. This man isn't serious, definitely not about you. After three months of dating, a man should know whether he wants to be with someone or not. If he hasn't said yes yet, then you know your answer. Move on, you can find better.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/16 07:13 PM
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To be fair I think it has started to disappear. More emphasis now is put on sunscreen, skincare, staying out of the sun, etc. I see less orange girls now than I did a few years ago.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/16 01:54 AM
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Show up only a few minutes before lesson starts when most seats are taken.
/r/seduction05/09/16 08:08 PM
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Yup, that's why I mentioned it. With your comments I understand better the perspective of my ex, he was very much so against plastic surgery. This is some good food for thought, thanks for your replies! :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 03:40 AM
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I didn't mean it could be vain to prefer natural instead of fake. That seems only normal, the vast majority of people could agree. I wasn't talking simply about a preference, but rather a necessity. I understand a dislike for things like lip fillers and implants, because those things need to be redone. So there's a sort of "dependency" on surgery and that becomes more unnatural. Other things like nose jobs are permanent, so it seems excessive to me that a person would consider it a deal breaker.…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 03:32 AM
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I think this is pretty much the answer OP was looking for, it's an interesting perspective. Isn't it more vein though to demand only natural beauty? Say I had a nose job, was dating someone for a while, they find out I had a nose job and it's a deal breaker to them? That would be disappointing. I am childfree though so I take what I see at face value.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 10:54 PM
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That's a good question and something I wondered a little when I wrote my response. This sub is about finding a high quality partner so it would be pointless to talk about what low quality men want. My conclusion was that I'd seen high quality men in each category. Those who weren't bothered by it made great partners. They supported their gf in what she wanted. They weren't thirsty because they didn't submit to everything their partner wanted. Those who expect it I'd say have the most prominent a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 01:04 AM
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I've met men who aren't bothered the slightest by it. Others who almost expect women to get surgery to maintain their looks. Others who would hate it if their partner got any form of surgery. This is more on a case by case basis, so you'd be better off considering other factors in your decision. A more common rpw idea is to look natural. Lip fillers are tricky because it's very easy to go overboard and have the bruised/duck lip look. Stay realistic towards your goal and think whether it would ma…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 02:53 AM
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Some men get very persistent when faced with rejection and may even become aggressive. Maybe these women feel safer from just giving out a fake number and being on their way. Or maybe she did say no at first but when the guy kept insisting, she wasn't able to stand her ground. There are multiple reasons a woman could give out a fake number and calling her out on it is unnecessary.
/r/seduction29/07/16 11:41 AM
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What's the point of busting her?
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:38 AM
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This is a great question and something I've struggled with in the past (and probably will with future partners, though I'm working on it). Women are now taught to be independent, so showing your weaknesses, imperfections and needs can be difficult. Here are a few things you can do: Whenever you feel something, start to question it. If you are afraid, apprehensive, etc., take a moment to think about it. Acknowledge that feeling and tell your partner about it without making any demands. For exampl…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 08:12 PM
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A guy can love you and be a piece of shit at the same time. Yet it isn't love when your partner is ok with hurting you again and again. So he's only a POS. You are only wasting time with that trash. I understand loneliness trust me, but you can fight through it. Go out of your comfort zone and meet new people. It's much better than staying with someone who can't even be true to you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/16 01:07 AM
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You've gotten a lot of great comments so I have no advice to add. I'd just like to say personally I found your joke about being 32 thus killing yourself to be hilarious. I completely understand what you mean about the difference between RPW and TRP, the latter being very focused on "women are only good at 18, after they're trash". I try to avoid that subreddit, it doesn't have any good advice. Are you a cultivated person? Sometimes it's not just hobbies that is important. Maybe your SO enjoys ta…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/16 01:06 AM
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You can excuse yourself and go to the bathroom. Or turn away from the people you are with and do your thing, it's slightly more private that way.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/16 06:33 AM
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I think the ending was a stretch. These women were manipulated. It doesn't have anything to do with gender roles. I do agree that a certain switch has happened. Women are now the assertive ones. I used to have tinder a while back and all the bios I'd see from men were "message me if you want to know more" or "why use tinder if you're not going to message me" or "I love when a woman messages first". Lots of them being lazy, expecting me to control the direction of the conversation. That's been my…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/16 05:03 AM
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Well they probably feel competitive, you're probably attractive or interesting or have your life together or all of the above. It sucks, and you're right there's probably not much to do but lose a friend. You can try to let the wife know in some way that you're not interested in her husband but in the end, jealousy/insecurity doesn't vanish that easily.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 08:42 PM
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I have a similar work schedule, I understand the struggle to find time. I like that I don't work 5-6 days a week but at the same time it makes it difficult to work out. Running errands surely doesn't take all day? Or if it does, it shouldn't be 3-4 days a week. Maybe there are ways to reorganize your time in a way that gives you 1-2hrs free? Is it an option to work out with your SO? It'd be more fun, he would keep you motivated and he could tell you which exercises are best to do, the best bang …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 02:53 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 02:42 PM
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What is the meaning on AWALT? I know what it stands for, but whenever I see it used in a certain context I don't understand its purpose. Is it to differentiate whether a certain behaviour is common or it's particular to a woman in a scenario?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 06:07 AM
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Thank you! That was the conclusion I'd drawn from this thread but I was wondering if I was being too judgemental. You're right though, we should follow our gut feeling. Each time I did, I never regretted it. I'm glad you found someone right for you. Best of luck and happiness to you and your SO in the future 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 11:09 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to write such a thorough comment, no matter how late to the party 😊 This thread has helped me define better what I am looking for in a man and to understand the things I'd been doing wrong/why I am feeling a certain way towards men. In your opinion, is it worth giving a guy a second chance if you feel he isn't what you're looking for and see where it goes, or should you trust your gut feeling from the beginning?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 10:23 PM
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No, if you try to explain yourself you could come off as desperate. Just let it go, I think she saw that it was simply a misunderstanding.
/r/seduction21/04/16 04:45 PM
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To me it seemed like a legitimate excuse. You made an effort to show you're interested, if she is as well she'll reciprocate. I think you have the right approach on it, wait until she initiates this time. If she wants to see you, she will. Although finals is a good reason to delay things as well. If she doesn't contact you by the end of April, you could send her message, ask her out to celebrate end of classes. If she doesn't reciprocate at that point, cut your losses.
/r/seduction21/04/16 03:07 AM
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Your husband might or might not be right, it really depends on the way you come off as but also the type of women you become friends with. There were some friendships I had where it seemed like the women were trying to bring me down, in any subtle way. On the opposite, if something good happened to me and I shared it, they didn't seem genuine in their reaction or they were trying to one-up me. But, I've had and still have wonderful friendships with women that I see are secure with themselves, or…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/16 03:37 AM
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Well, contempt is a big word, I wouldn't go that far. To answer your question though, I think it's important in a relationship to always work on keeping the romance alive. To surprise your partner with a date, with a gift, to flirt with your partner even though they're already yours, to give them a random passionate kiss once in a while, etc. It prevents laziness and boredom from settling in. Granted, I've never had a relationship that lasted years, but that's the type of mentality I tried to ad…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/16 04:28 AM
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This was very insightful and I'll work my best to put this into practice! All a mix of understanding what I have to offer and how to better myself, decide what I'm looking for in a man and taking the necessary steps to meet people. It's exactly the type of advice I needed. Thank you again for your comments!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/16 03:33 AM
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Thank you for your comment! I think I read up a bit too much on TRP articles the other day and it got to my head. I definitely don't put that much importance on my appearance, and I wouldn't want someone who wants me only for that. You can see those men from 5 miles away and I've steered clear of them. If you don't mind me asking, how did you meet those men and how did you pique their interest since you say attraction isn't everything? You seem to do very well and have it all figured out. As for…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/16 02:54 AM
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Very interesting perspective. I've noticed with this that my problem in relationships is actually holding back too much, even though I'm really into the guy. This came with its sets of problems, where even months later I end up showing my love in every way I can, the guy doesn't entirely believe it. I'm looking forward to part 2!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 07:29 PM
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This very subreddit is about women bettering themselves. It's unfortunate some people perceived me as entitled, that's not the way I was trying to come off as. Every woman is aiming for the best man they can find, there isn't anything inherently wrong about that. Of course one shouldn't be unrealistic. Now when it comes to value, I think there are many things I can bring to a relationship. I didn't develop on it too much in my post because it was beyond the point. I wasn't asking how to attract …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 03:50 PM
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I'm actually surprised by how you make it seem like being hit on happens so often in the gym. I've been going for almost a year and have only ever seen one girl being hit on. I've had people come up to me and offer advice. I'm very receptive and grateful for it, I don't see it as flirting though. I train as hard as I can so the gym is not the best place to meet people, I get all sweaty and red in the face. I will definitely try to use my headphones less often in campus, and try to focus more on …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 03:40 PM
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Haha yeah I guess you're right. Working to preserve my health and appearance, that's all I can do (physically wise of course. I am working on improving all other aspects of my life). Thanks for your comment 😊
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 11:10 AM
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Is that really true though? I've heard so many times from women in the ''Top 100 hottest of the year'' saying they rarely get hit on. I wouldn't say I have a low opinion of guys. I think we're in a society where it's frowned upon to approach strangers, the guys would most likely receive dirty looks, get laughed at, etc. so they don't approach that often. Another factor is approachability. When I'm out most of the time I'm either listening to music, studying, or in class.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 04:39 AM
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I think your post is actually how I stumbled on this subreddit! You sound very mature and I felt like I could relate to you in some ways. There's an analogy I read a while back: Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don’t want to reach the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren’t as good, but are easier to reach. So the apples at the top think something is wrong…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 02:24 AM
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I get what you're saying. I've never been one to push for a relationship though (To me it's the same as the woman asking the man in marriage). I guess I try to be proactive because I don't like the idea of waiting, the ''damsel in distress'' kind of thing. If I hadn't been proactive, I probably would've never had a relationship by now and never had even my first kiss. I'll try to keep your advice in mind, and focus on meeting people in general instead of potential prospectives. Thanks for your a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/16 12:04 AM
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There is no "one size fits all" or absolute formula for human interaction. In this case, it's different subreddits having different approaches. I don't know anything about r/getsuave so I'll talk about r/socialskills. In that subreddit, it's people who have trouble being themselves, being comfortable and confident with who they are. The first step is to give them that confidence. Once they have that baseline, they can move on to techniques in winning people over, basically more advanced stuff th…
/r/seduction28/03/16 12:35 AM
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IMO opening up with "how's it going" will make the girls feel confused and maybe awkward. They don't know if one of the girls know you so they'll wait for someone else to talk and they won't know what's your objective. I'm sure it could vary from group to group but asking a direct question might hold better results for this particular scenario.
/r/seduction26/03/16 08:31 PM
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I think the point is, you mentioned that you checked if the girl was into you before doing it. If she's feeling you, there's countless ways to go about it. Women love confidence, initiative and a bit of boldness which are all things you demonstrate in your technique. You make it lighthearted and fun instead of it being a big deal or intense moment, which would make her doubt.
/r/seduction26/03/16 08:20 PM
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This is also bad advice. First, many women can't handle the situation of having to reject a guy. Oftentimes they will get uncomfortable or will not want to be direct with the guy because they don't want any confrontation. If she notices that you went to talk to other people while she is there trying to handle this guy, she'll either feel abandoned, or feel that you didn't care to help her out or that you weren't man enough to stand your ground when another man comes in the scenario. I don't see …
/r/seduction24/03/16 11:11 PM
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This is a trick many people have heard of, and as soon as someone is aware of it, it will most likely become aversive. I know it is for me and a bunch of my girl friends when this subject came up. It feels so unnatural to me that I automatically feel like the guy is trying to manipulate me. In some rare cases it's alright, but ''using their name as often as possible'', that's a risky thing to do.
/r/seduction05/03/16 08:10 PM
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