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1	How to hold frame when u’re tired? That's fantastic to hear that you've put in the time and effort to master your circumstances such that you've been able to affect such dramatic change. I guess it's an odds game whether or not the behavior is stemming from a personality disorder or it's a cultural manifestation. I still feel the odds favor a personality disorder in cases where the abuse is pronounced, though.	/r/askMRP	19/09/18 06:37 PM
3	How to hold frame when u’re tired? The book "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" outlines fogging and other useful techniques to employ. It has proven helpful to me so I'd recommend it if you're interested in arming yourself with some conversational munitions.	/r/askMRP	09/09/18 07:12 AM
4	How to hold frame when u’re tired? You're with an abuser with a personality disorder. Somebody like that has the homefield advantage since conflict stimulates them. Gray rock her if youre tired and use fogging exensively. These tactics carry a low energy cost and will let you rope-a-dope her when other avenues of resistence are too taxing to access. You don't deserve to wither under some cluster-b storm. You and your kids will prosper in direct proportion to the steps you take to reduce contact and engagement with your abuser. A …	/r/askMRP	08/09/18 06:41 PM