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| 2 | The "female gaze" vs "male gaze" and why as a guy I get so annoyed at the explanationsIs your point here to say that my expectations are too high or something? Genuinely asking. If I’m understanding correctly, I disagree with that. If every woman on earth whom I’m not attracted to found me to be a smoke show and told me that, I’d feel pretty good. And I don't need a model to validate my insecurities. How do you feel about FDS types? The amount of times I’ve seen “why are all guys like this, they just ghost and use me for sex and have big egos” when they’re talking about like the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 03:02 AM |
| 1 | The "female gaze" vs "male gaze" and why as a guy I get so annoyed at the explanationsDid you say that correctly? I’m confused. My post was about ignoring the whole “the gym doesn’t matter at all” idea. I am absolutely hitting the gym. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 02:10 AM |
| 2 | The "female gaze" vs "male gaze" and why as a guy I get so annoyed at the explanationsAh yes. After the million gajillion examples of tall white fit man being king, the one white man who most women still find ugly topples down all of history, social media, and body standards. My body dysmorphia and crippling insecurities are cured! Thank you. The irony is that it sounds like you’re the one not listening. My feelings are invalid, I’m just an evil person who wants to assert my dominance, rather than a human being who wants to get over his body issues. If you want to have a reasonab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 11:24 PM |
| 5 | The "female gaze" vs "male gaze" and why as a guy I get so annoyed at the explanationsI saw the Kevin one, and it was the very first ever where the guy wasn’t conventionally attractive. That said, it spawned a ton of other women saying “the fuck are you talking about? I’m not even remotely attracted to this man.” Like, enough that women made videos saying “stop telling me what I’m attracted to.” Also that they love Chris Hemsworth. So make of that what you will. Months of “female gaze” videos and no woman cared until the Kevin thing, then suddenly it pissed everyone off. As for t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 07:49 PM |
| 0 | The "female gaze" vs "male gaze" and why as a guy I get so annoyed at the explanationsI think there are some women who genuinely like that look. But I always see it's still on a taller white guy. Also, I think the "strong dad bod" is more popular, so like muscle with a bit of fat on top. My point is that at the end of the day, if we were to choose what women most commonly prefer, it's pretty obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t shoot your shot to escalate, can they lose interest? Or were they never interested in the first place?Only in the past 30 years has the world become so vastly interconnected. Evolution didn't train us for that, especially with our massive 7+ billion population. Hell, dating was probably far easier for your parents and their parents. It's a relatively new thing. | /r/seduction | 07/11/22 06:11 AM |
| 1 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksThanks man 👍 good luck | /r/seduction | 04/11/22 05:26 AM |
| 2 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksCould you try to understand where I’m coming from? I’ve experienced plenty of objectively bad advice that is so contradictory from women. One example is the advice I’d get from a coworker. She told me all about how she was all about personality instead of looks. “Didn’t care” about height. Went on a date with her exact type, and she didn’t feel chemistry. Took her some time to admit it was his height. So not only did she lie to herself, she lied to me. But you think I should have just believed h… | /r/seduction | 02/11/22 03:07 PM |
| 1 | My first time ACTUALLY approaching at a club/bar. Two Ls.What would you say you’ve improved most on since your first FR? | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 11:24 AM |
| 8 | Some women on TikTok are now thinking pickup artists are sex traffickersThey sound exactly like awkward guys who bought into some shitty boot camp. | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Would you fuck a girl who likes guys barebacking her, but is on prEp?Condoms aren’t that bad if you buy the right ones. Skyn Elites are decent. Japan has pretty good ones, just might be small if you’re packing. | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 05:21 AM |
| 1 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksYou’re misunderstanding. I didn’t say all women, and I’m not saying they want tall men. Generalizations are just statistics, and frankly a large majority of women I’ve known have a strong height preference, usually just at least as tall as they are. And that’s totally ok. A coworker of mine talked about how she didn’t care for height and looks at all, and then she went on a date with exactly her type but she just “wasn’t feeling it” and then eventually admitted she didn’t like that she was talle… | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 08:37 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t shoot your shot to escalate, can they lose interest? Or were they never interested in the first place?Happens man, feels bad but we move past it and bounce back. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 08:25 AM |
| 3 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksAlso I care a lot about women and other people in general, far more than you do. You just hold beliefs that aren’t grounded in reality, and it’s funny how upset you are about it. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 08:21 AM |
| 3 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksThis is the yikes behavior that won't lead you anywhere good. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 08:18 AM |
| 2 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksIt has to be difficult for you as an autistic man, but it would definitely help to interact with women a lot more. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 07:55 AM |
| 2 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksYour entire post reeks of condescension, although the common thread here is that you don't think women are human - or like you, or at your "level", that is. I’ve always thought it was bullshit when women talked about the “female gaze” because, I mean, just look at who’s the most attractive to women - the same type of guy: tall, white, handsome, athletic looking, etc. It would feel like women were lying about how they “don’t care about looks” because we have eyes and can see what women respond to… | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 07:53 AM |
| 2 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksThe whole point of the post was saying what you’re saying, that it’s feeling and intuition. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksWish I had your energy. I can be very funny, but I’m awkward and lack energy. Bringing that out is hard. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 03:57 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t shoot your shot to escalate, can they lose interest? Or were they never interested in the first place?You did better than me at least. And there’s always something to learn from it. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 03:51 AM |
| 7 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looksI’m gonna be real, the narrative came from women. The insecurity of height didn’t just pop up out of nowhere. Men feel insecure about height because of what women say and do. My insecurity stems from constantly reading women on dating apps say that guys under 6 feet or short guys are worthless, or unmatching guys and throwing them away as soon as she figures out their height. Same with my own real life experience, seeing guys who are tall and athletic just experience easy mode attractiveness. I … | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 03:46 AM |
| 7 | I think I’ve made a realization about the “female gaze” and why it seems like women tend to underestimate the importance of looks…ok, you’re right, the saying said so. | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Does anybody else feel sick when they don’t approach a woman that they see as attractive?I often feel sick from the fear of missing out. I also feel sick that the Japanese girl I was trying to get at is probably choosing a guy from The Netherlands instead of me. Fuck my life. I’ll get over it. | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 02:35 AM |
| 4 | How do I pull at a party/club?How’d you sleep with the other of the 60 women if not bar/club? Dating apps? | /r/seduction | 30/10/22 02:32 AM |
| 1 | Had date with cute Japanese girl, she looked at her Tinder/IG DMs towards the end. Not sure how to feel about this.Yeah I would agree with that point. I’m gonna not care so much. She actually just kinda did a needy text while I didn’t respond for a while, which is an okay sign, but I’m gonna focus on my trip. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Had date with cute Japanese girl, she looked at her Tinder/IG DMs towards the end. Not sure how to feel about this.I think she did actually make an effort to meet up. She had only 2 hours between her jobs and managed to make time. We hardly even had a convo at all on Tinder, and she seemed easily interested then. That said, she’s clearly not too busy to not reply to me on time or at all, so yeah I think after the date there seems to be little interest now. Something went wrong on the date, not sure what, but whatever. | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 08:11 AM |
| 2 | Matched with a girl on bumble. It expired. Any ideas on how I can get best results with a cold DM on Instagram?IMO not really worth it. If you want I guess you can. Doesn’t hurt, but she probably has a billion IG DMs too. | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Should I be patient with my texts to set up this hookup? The “I’ll let you know” textYeah I did tell her that, but Japanese work culture and all. By tonight she might let me know her schedule. | /r/seduction | 25/10/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Face and body dysmorphiaThere's not really a difference bro, below average is below average. And you're not actually a 4/10. In person, it really doesn't matter as much. There are plenty of girls who would give you a chance, assuming you act your genuine self and are somewhat interesting. | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Face and body dysmorphiaBro, as a guy who's had body dysmorphia in the same way, you look great. Trust me, I noticed all the dumb shit like my mouth being crooked (I have TMJ disorder), my slightly recessed jawline, my smile being weird, etc. I'd look at the mirror, see a selfie and complain that my flipped image looks terrible, keep trying different angles to justify that I'm not ugly, etc. I'd feel alright some days, then the next week suddenly I'd want to cry looking in the mirror. I ranged from a 4-5/10 on /r/Ratem… | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 12:00 AM |
| – | Guys of r/seduction, what is your rejection ratio?What do you look like? What would you rate yourself outta 10? | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 01:10 AM |
| – | Where can I find smart (or nerdy) women?This isn’t r/dating_advice or something. I totally get why you’d feel the need to preface that, but this subreddit is pretty male dominated and no one’s gonna take offense here. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 11:51 PM |
| – | Why getting a better body gets you attention?Well, that's the part that gets complicated. Women do care about personality. But looks get your foot in the door. It absolutely improves your chances to be fit and lean, but obviously it doesn't solve all your problems. Additionally, women tend to care more about looks when it comes to hookups and short-term things. Long relationships, absolutely, women care a lot about personality, but there needs to be some attraction. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 02:27 AM |
| – | Why getting a better body gets you attention?It's not complicated. It literally just adds to your physical attraction. Same reason men find boobs and ass attractive, women tend to find a fit body attractive. It's nothing they have control over. Why it's physically attractive? You can only really speculate. It's likely to do with competence. Women tend to be attracted to competent men. Men used to be required to do a lot of physical things, and it's not difficult to see why men had to be strong. Just biological wiring. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 01:50 AM |
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