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| 3 | Divorce and PensionJust a thought for you, to concede cash now from elsewhere if it’s a possibility to avoid ever splitting the pension. For your own peace of mind. I’m a state employee, similar government retirement plan … when it came to pension they actually brought up the idea of her getting half, or her liquidating half of it now … I got her side to agree to just letting her keep my half of the home sale (minus a about $9k to pay a debt) and she never touches my pension. Which sucked a bit, obviously, but I n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 04:34 PM |
| – | Alimony & BitternessI should be bitter but I’m not yet. Our moderator went over the numbers of what I’d pay in alimony and for how long (as well as child support), we sold our house and I forked over $79k up front. It was my entire half + $3300. To avoid alimony. I still pay like 1700/month child support, which I’m content with bc they’re my kids and that’s what dads do. I actually agreed to pay for their birthdays and christmases in full in case she wastes the money (she will). It sucked at first. But after a few … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/25 06:26 AM |
| 3 | I was cool until it got real, real fast. The move out. The mediator. Talking to friends helps a lot.Yeah I wanted to use a therapist so I could keep it hush hush, but also don’t really think much of them. Maybe I’ll try it out, the one thing I won’t say to friends is what she did wrong. I don’t want people to think the mother of my kids is a fool. But even a shitty therapist just has to sit there and listen to that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/24 05:07 AM |
| 3 | AlimonyGet a lawyer. The term to use is “more than fair.” Come up with a number that is 5% more than fair, add a few bucks to that, make it unreasonable for her to continue arguing for anything so her lawyer can’t rack up billable hours and she has to agree to your terms. Get it written in stone. When it’s done the deal is done, there will be no concessions. Move on with life and write it off as a loss. Don’t fight over nickels and dimes, just give her a dollar and be done. Or the lawyers will nickel a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/24 05:02 AM |
| 1 | A heads up to you older fellas wanting to dip your toes in the online dating poolSame. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/24 04:54 PM |
| 7 | Can I be a dick with her lawyer ?This is golden advice for any deposition. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 02:13 PM |
| -1 | Should I stop going to the gym where my wife had her affair?This. Bro, go in there and peacock. So everyone is reminded what a trashy decision she made. Nobody’s going to look at you wrong, they’re going to say he’s a dirtbag and she’s trash. They’ll be outcasts immediately. And bodybuilder types usually have high ego / low self esteem, they crave constant positive feedback, so that will crush him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 06:58 PM |
| 2 | How do you reconcile the lying?Bingo | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 04:29 PM |
| 7 | How do you reconcile the lying?It really is a mindfuck, man. My stbx brought up infidelity as a reason. All I could think is what the hell could she be referring to?? … the week we starting dating (years before we got married) I was still texting an ex-gf. THAT was my infidelity 😂 … I’m like ok so you married me anyways??? Idk dude, they’ll cling to anything they can if it serves their purpose. So this WHOLE time you were lying to everyone including yourself? No, think the answer is you want out, and now you’re a bullshit art… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 04:26 PM |
| 12 | Half a fucking million.I hear you brother. All I can say is, in talking to friends that have gone through it, the freedom and unentanglment seems to be invaluable. If you’ve got the job/business and it’s earning - trust yourself that you can keep earning, and look at the money it takes to get rid of her compared to how much you value your own health and sanity. No amount of money is worth the stress and health problems that come with built up stress. I’m signing over a $1mil house with a $400k profit if she decides to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 04:56 AM |
| 9 | What are our worth without our jobs and assetsWe are totally judged by our career and our ability to provide. And also by how much that money makes your lady happy … I’ve got a great job in terms of career respect. It’s an enviable position, that took a real long time to earn. I make good money. I’ll never own my own private jet lol, but my family will never have to want or go without. Literally everyone I know is like “man, I’m really proud of what you’ve become. You’re doing amazing.” …. Except my STBX that manages to spend ALL of it on n… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/24 04:41 AM |
| 3 | In your opinions - Is it absolutely necessary to get lawyers and courts involved if we’re mutually agreeing to end it, and amicable?Yeah I hear you on that. I feel like it’s all going too smoothly, I just want to believe it’ll stay that way. Which is pretty naive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 07:08 PM |
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