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I'll ask you and u/Cam_Winston21 who mentioned it below; either of you try magnesium threonate? I recently tried Valerian Root but that seemed to cause more harm than good. Just started a cycle of 2g Mg thr.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 06:02 PM
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No disagreement. I think there is some rebellion here, I'll admit; that people I don't know tell me this is necessary to take care of my family. In truth, it makes me vulnerable. What do I do when everyone has the same issues, e.g., COVID? It's a major hole.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 10:33 AM
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Time to address my current weakness: career. u/Blarg_Risen and I have been discussing this a little in recent days. I agree with his last comment that there's still something to resolve or, at least, identify. My last OYS largely details the current career issue. I've had my resume built professionally twice. I alternate each depending on the position. I do not see where one provides a clear advantage over the other. On average, I see one job per week that I would be qualified if you include ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 02:30 PM
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I bet if you put in the work and became social, and then CHOSE to not be social, the anxiety you feel about being social would completely dissolve. I think we're having some type of miscommunication. I know people. It's not as if I wanted to go talk to someone I'd be SOL. I can think of 20 people off the top of my head I can call today and we'd be getting together within the week, if not today, to have drinks. Last year during the shutdown we had people over, hang outside, smoke some ribs or but…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/21 05:05 PM
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I understand the ego aspect. I've given that considerable thought. My history is that I have let good friendships go stale because I chose to. It wasn't out of protection, that I can tell. At a minimum, you could certainly say laziness. You have a military background if I recall so you might get this. I grew up in that household. I was making friends and losing friends every six months from ten years old. It got to the point where I just accepted I had to be my point of origin. It might be fucke…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 10:27 PM
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If me being fake to get a job or just make conversation is required to be a part of this community I'll happily leave or take a ban. I understand the value people place in it. I'm saying it's something I don't need to have in my life. I've accepted I'm happier when I couldn't care less about this issue. Guys come up in here all the time with idea they should be able to replace their woman when she no longer is a fit. Me? I don't have to. My wife knows I could leave her and be perfectly content f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 10:02 PM
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It's not. I just don't care enough. If that makes me unattractive, so be it. I will be happy. That's all I care about.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 08:31 PM
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It's a cross-road in my life. This from you above kind of lit me up: For you then, the same applies socially. Play the game, or dont. Or recreate it according to who it is you want to be and the rules you want to play by. Learn to be social or accept that you arent. But BE OK with the consequences of that. I'm aware of the vulnerability. I wish to extinguish it. I choose to bend the rules I care about to my benefit. To do that, I'm going to have to get into some things I used to do but gave up t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 08:28 PM
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I can’t go back now, as ImNotSlash said last week, so forward it is. I didn't say that. Not sure what you're referencing here. You want to go back, then go back. As I said last week, you only have to answer to yourself. Your shit's becoming redundant. It's great you see areas to improve. But, what have you done? I don't see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:56 AM
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I'll first state that I would hope by now you don't have to explain something to me. I didn't see your response as any type of lecture. And, any time you and I can have any debate, I'm game. If you didn't know before, know now. Regarding Horns' comment above, I have this vision in my head of him doing the disaster girl meme with this topic. It seems to be redundant. I very well may actually agree and just don't realize it yet but like a linear algebra solution it's just not clicking in my head r…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 07:35 PM
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I still fail to see the nuance. Blarg, you and I had this discussion last year in regards to friendships. If I recall correctly, it was basically me saying that I didn't value them. You asked if I was ok with that. I responded quickly yes. Then I responded later that I was not. The fact is, my first answer was the correct one. I was okay with it specifically because I did not do what was necessary to live otherwise. Being social is not a part of me. I have no internal need to go talk to someone …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 03:03 PM
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I was never told that. When I quit the doc basically said my levels would gradually lower back to normal and I'd have to go through the entire process again.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 02:40 PM
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First, there is no questioning whether or not you want to become your own captain. You must. This is non-negotiable. No man lives happily ever after following other people's rules. The trick, metaphorically speaking, is identifying the boat you wish to captain (dingy or yacht) and where you want to go (the frozen Arctic or the Caribbean). Every man will have his own choice. But, it will be his and no one else's. You've been doing this for quite some time and I've kept my mouth shut but it's clea…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 01:47 PM
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That's the first part, yes. You can choose option A or option B. You think you want to choose option B. But, you haven't yet sold yourself on the benefits of option B. So, you revert to option A. Option A is safe. Option A is known. In fact, I wrote this response just last week which is very similar: Abrupt change is fear (hence, STFU, 1,000-foot rope, etc.). No one wants to be told what to do. In those situations, they'll rebel. I would, too. In this example, you are the first mate. Or, you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 12:21 AM
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Read back over my question and reconsider your answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 06:28 PM
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Why would you cry for doing something you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 03:05 PM
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Is his holding onto that edge really much different than you holding on to the triad/tetra edge?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/21 11:19 AM
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I would encourage everyone to read up on human biases. It helps you personally identify weaknesses and have compassion for others.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 09:37 PM
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Yea, I didn't ask for your numbers. DNGAF and STFU are similar; MRP for Dummies. It's great to apply at the beginning. You're objective should be to move beyond that at some point. One thing that isn't discussed often here is human bias. Yes, there are the obvious (confirmation bias) but then some not-so-obvious. One of those is human baseline syndrome or shifting baseline. What is HBS? It's basically comparing a change to a previous change. One basic example would be a stock. Bitcoin, for insta…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 02:57 PM
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This is some really weak faggot shit. What part of you thinks any of what you wrote is the trait of an attractive man?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 01:26 PM
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I am still morning for my nice view of women. Elaborate
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 12:15 PM
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It’s valuable to find these and eliminate them. The anger comes from you giving way too many fucks about things beyond your control. There's nothing to find. You decide either you care or you don't care and go from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 12:07 PM
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Negative means check your approach This is a good way of putting it but don't be afraid to ride that fucker out and see what happens rather than trying to suffocate it. Who knows what may bloom.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 01:13 AM
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I'll give you a quick example. My career has been my biggest weak spot for a long fucking time. Most would argue - rightfully - too long. I wouldn't disagree. After the shutdown, I decided, fuck it all. I'm not going to worry about it anymore. Whatever happens, happens. I could either try to control the situation and fight it. Or, just let the chips fall where they may and ride it out. I chose the latter. It ended up taking me on a path that rekindled my youth - a past me I had forgotten about. …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/21 04:11 PM
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Let me put it this way: if you consider growth a negative, but you learn something from it, does it still remain a negative? Is it possible that, what you deem as "negative growth" actually forces you to realize something about yourself you weren't aware of? A blind spot? making your actual self what you desire to be. This is based on what you currently know. It is impossible to be based on what you don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/21 03:47 PM
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But growth can be negative or positive. I'm going to call you out on this as well. And, here's why: So, careful and sober observation is required to channel it and adjust. Why observe growth?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/21 12:01 PM
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EDM sucks bro. Come at me!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/21 11:46 AM
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This comment and your response to /u/surfthrowaway are exactly your problem. Think about why you're so fucking worried about what everyone else is doing and instead focus on you. You don't get rewards for OYSing you little bitch.
/r/askMRP02/07/21 05:02 PM
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I don't know how you can be certain of disagreement, but uncertain of what you're disagreeing with. Written poorly, yes; meaning, I haven't heard his argument other than "It's bullshit".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 10:57 AM
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I understand "flawed" to mean a fundamental defect that prevents a thing from actualizing its potential. This is your basic problem. You're trying to play with words without a full grasp of what they mean. By your definition a defect would be bad brakes on my car. It certainly does prevent my car from reaching it's full potential if that potential were to include stopping. Maybe I don't want to stop. Maybe I just want to drive until I run out of gas? That also doesn't mean I have to get rid of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 10:51 PM
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Figure out why you're so devoted to debating/convincing me or Horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 09:57 PM
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I figured something got lost in the translation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 05:25 PM
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Look man, I get it. You're trying to figure shit out, navigate this pathetic place you've found yourself. Maybe you saw an image of someone else and think, "That's what I want". So, you go after it. I'm comfortable enough to know I am flawed. I'm comfortable enough to know that's perfectly fine with me. I'm comfortable enough to know who I am, what my strengths and weaknesses are and address them as I see fit. Maybe some day you'll recognize the difference between pretending you're "complete" an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 04:49 PM
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What a huge crock of shit. I don't know who told you what in the past here but every person is flawed. That's why you're here. Saying you're not itself is a flaw.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 01:35 PM
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There are many high-protein alternatives to shakes. Mix it up a bit before you start looking for the easy way. Last night, I lay in bed and thought about how I'm complete and unflawed, but still unskilled and unrealized. What the fuck does this even mean? What if she matches me in kink and thinks I'm boring? What if I push her too far too fast? "What if's" can make a good time or kill a good time. The last two sentences I quoted are big contradictions to the first sentence. Seems you'd notice th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 11:40 AM
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It's bullshit only if someone knows what they want. In my son's case, I just want him to develop the habit of lifting. I don't want him overthinking. OP is overthinking. When you spend more time thinking than doing it's a problem. Once the doing is underway, then you can focus on setting goals. It's like these faggots that come in here thinking they can do some super-duper program that'll give them gainz in dayz. When they don't, they get discouraged and quit. I've been reading OP's comments the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 11:43 AM
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Maybe an end goal number is futile, and I should be in lose mode until I'm happy with what I see This is effectively the advice I gave my son. He was telling me he didn't want to get too big (he's pencil thin right now). I told him to just eat right and lift until he likes what he sees in the mirror and then go maintenance. None of this shit has to be so god damn complicated. Stop overthinking things. Decide what you want, deal with the repercussions later, and do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 05:23 PM
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Genuine questio : you want to fuck your girl do you lick her pussy M/Th this week, M/F next week then kiss her left nipple the week after, or do you just fuck her? I suspect I know the answer but humor me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 01:32 PM
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This is the most retarded lifting plan I've seen here. Demand better or go away.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 11:01 AM
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I went down this rabbit hole recently of Anthony Bourdain, Steven Rinella, and Georges Escoffier. It was, more or less, a "fuck you" to traditions. You may find it of interest. In "The Scavenger's Guide to Haute Cuisine" Rinella talks about the first time he tried to eat turtle (snapping) and the disgusting, choking odor the animal permeated throughout the room. Roughly a year later, he wants to cook turtle again for a Thanksgiving feast. But, he can't shake the smell of that odor. He writes how…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 07:58 PM
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And with my wrists getting better and me getting stronger I might actually approach this in august. Sportbike here I come. "Your body is not a temple, it's an amusement park. Enjoy the ride."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 03:31 PM
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Mine
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 05:05 PM
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Or maybe he sees your passive aggressive behavior, Mr. Nice Guy's it off because it's Dad, and goes about his life.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 04:50 PM
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Agree w/ u/Rpeeing. "Talk is cheap. Mother fucker if you're really feeling froggish, leap." When was the last time you jumped off a cliff? Explored a cave? Skydive? Hot air balloon ride? Just go for a long drive, find some shithole joint with an appetizing odor emanating and grab a bite? Make memories or become one.
/r/askMRP21/06/21 11:07 AM
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Here
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/21 03:15 PM
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Planning is everything Meh, flying by the seat of your pants is a valid option and keeps everyone including yourself on their toes. As Iron Mike said, "everyone has a plan till they get punched in the face." If you don’t have a solid plan, you’ll end up in some weird situation I think there's a word in the dictionary that resolves this problem. Let me think. Oh, yea. "No."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/21 12:53 PM
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Your response to her is telling of how much a bitch you are. For which I replied "The most I can get you is a coffee in Starbucks" Interesting, your thought was buying something for her rather than the opposite: "So what are you going to buy for me?"
/r/askMRP19/06/21 12:41 PM
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/u/ehsan720, I was trying to think of a perfect example of this and my mind was completely blank. Upham from Saving Private Ryan. I think he's a fantastic character even though I wanted him to fucking die when I first saw the movie. Why? It's easy for people to say from the safety of their environment what they would do. "I'd go rescue a child from a burning building." "I'd give a kidney for her." Whatever. Until you're in the situation though, you really don't know. It's easy to hate Upham. Fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/21 09:54 PM
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Is there any other films you’d recommend that helped you? God this is such a stupid simple question that I really don't know how to answer this in a stupid simple way that you may be prepared to understand, if that makes sense, only because you asked, "helped you", i.e., me. I don't watch, listen, or read anything to "help me". I used to ::verb:: as a form of entertainment. I still do, but I pay enormous attention to the characters rather than the story. To be honest, I don't give a fuck about p…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/21 09:26 PM
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I couldn't care less. He spells "gym" ten different ways, in addition to "sotial", "phisically", "beacj", "regualrly". That's not a language issue, it's a laziness issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/21 11:59 AM
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You need to figure out what you want more: strength, or physique. If you sacrifice diet to cut then don't expect much gains. If you want gains, eat more. You want to switch routines, go ahead. But all you're doing is fucking around wasting time. Then when you hit a stall in that program you'll blame the program and move on to something else. What I haven't seen from you is one legitimate task you've done to break the plateau other than reading some shit. Yes, IBPs and whatever else can help. But…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 09:29 PM
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And what else have you done to break the plateau?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 07:31 PM
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One pound of lean mass per month at your age is about average. Oh, well. When you first benched six months ago, what were your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 06:58 PM
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If you can't take the time to proof your shit don't be surprised if no one takes the time to respond.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:45 PM
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I was reading that first paragraph thinking, "Damn, this mother fucker's setting himself up nasty." Then you immediately addressed it in the 2nd. Good on you. Keep your eye on it at all times. Why are you wanting to change your program? Your numbers aren't bad but they're still beginner numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:37 PM
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You wear a belt? Got a foam roller? Lacrosse balls? IMO you should've immediately started rehabbing the strain. A foam roller works well but lacrosse balls are great to get at the little knots within the muscle. You'll know you hit; believe me. If you don't have a belt, get one. I was probably around your lift when I started wearing a belt regularly for my squats and deadlifts. Drop the weights a little and keep DLing, adding sets. There may be some variations you can do to really focus on the p…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:29 PM
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Is there anything, in addition to putting the kids to sleep, that you can delegate to your wife? Think about what goes on during the day and eliminate the unneeded; Google Eisenhower Matrix. I'm a firm believer adequate sleep is just as important as lifting iron; directly dependent. What can you sacrifice to hit goals in both?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:15 PM
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Here's an assignment that may help you. It worked well for me. Hopefully, you, too. Think of one instance in your life that you feel changed you, for better or worse. Start at the beginning. Identify the root. Then outline each event as it transpired from there. Don't be shy. Write it all down. Once you have the full outline, go back to each instance. Think of two alternative paths you could have chosen. Then, go back to each of the scenarios you just created and create two alternative paths fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 12:29 PM
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STFU isn't a weapon, it's a shield to be used while you develop weapons. I’m just mad to be the only one accountable. You should be. Can you do anything about it? No. So, redirect the anger to positive energy and fix your shit. Stop worrying about shit you can't control or what happened in the past. All that matters is today. I saw some of your comments in Discord and didn't really know what was going on, thought you'd address it here but I'm still unclear. I've withheld commenting but I'll go a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 11:28 AM
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Not worried about aesthetics right now. At my best I was doing SL and rowing 6 days a week. OP's goals are different, i get that. But I don't think he'll be prone to injury as stated
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 07:52 PM
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Damn you are old. You should not be flat benching or back squatting or conventional deadlifting or doing meme programs like 5x5 starting out at that age. By the time you learn to squat properly you will be a fucking pensioner with fucked up joints and no upper body development wittering on about “deloading to work on form”. You are going to fuck your shit up or even worse: not get jacked Going to disagree with all this (except the BP). I was around his age when I started lifting. Before, I'd nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 07:21 PM
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Maybe the other fatties are wondering what the fat perv is starting at?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 04:45 PM
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Like I told another guy couple weeks ago, fear of loneliness implies neediness.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 03:06 PM
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Being stoic does not mean taking shit from your woman under any and all circumstances. You have no boundaries and she has no fear of pushing you as far as she desires. She's likely realizing she's digging herself into a hole with a man who refuses to stand up for himself or draw a line. And now she's got baby #2 on the way which makes her feel like she got into a deeper hole with a weak ass bitch. But, hell, soon as #2 is born go ahead and start on #3. Maybe that'll show her...
/r/askMRP07/06/21 01:45 PM
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You're going through what I think most, if not all of us had gone through during our journeys. Using the Fight club analogy from a couple weeks ago, it's a battle for the soul. Jack wrote the original post. Tyler wrote the edit. Jack can win very easily. He almost did, and still may. I wish I could tell you that battle will eventually end. I just don't have that answer. You have to accept you may never know, either. Why do you chose to avoid fucking your wife? Do you think it may be better to tu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/21 12:19 PM
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You can decide if I misunderstood. Something about the "will be normally initiating" thing just stood out as awkward. Like you put her on the calendar.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 08:54 PM
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The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is today.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 08:51 PM
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Why do you not trust your judgement? You have a glaring issue clearly stated in your OYS. You recognize it. So, what's missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 04:12 PM
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STFU. I believe I am doing it correctly This is...incredible. And by incredible, I mean pathetic. Do you really want to fuck your girl? Or are you wanting to use it as a measuring stick? Because this: Will be normally initiating in the upcoming days, pretending like nothing has happened. Planning to fuck and then planning to fail...is as incredible as not knowing what STFU is. And by incredible, I mean pathetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 03:53 PM
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was faced with either a closed attitude (her staying on the computer until 1 AM) I'll ask with a suspicion that you're actually now going to try this shit. Which sucks because you need to be thinking it for yourself. But, did you every contemplate picking her lazy ass up, carrying her into the bedroom and throwing her down? You let a fucking computer cock-block you. You should be annoyed. Edit: the other morning I fucked my wife while I was making my eggs and she was making her oat meal. IOW, st…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 03:40 PM
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Did you do 235x3x5 like you were trying a couple weeks ago? I'm glad you're getting results but you didn't specify - or I didn't understand - that you actually made progress. BP wrists - look at wrist wraps. Crank them tight around your wrists and lower palm right before you bench your heaviest sets. It'll help keep your wrists straight. You may also want to look into getting elbow and knee sleeves. These will help keep your joints warm reducing the risk of injury. Not something needed right awa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 03:29 PM
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you're a fucking idiot. Of course we are. That's how we ended up here to begin with. What have you learned since you first came here that you haven't thought, "no shit!"' Because, for me, a lot of this has been common sense. Practicing it, however, is another issue. Realizing it is the key to the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/21 04:01 PM
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You're warped by stereotypes.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 11:45 AM
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The thing about attempting suicide that we usually don't consider is that you're already surviving the shit that's beating you down. There is an inner-strength you didn't know you had. Your options, of course, are to work on improving things one at a time. Or, just pull the trigger. The latter is easiest. But, damn, the other side of that fence does look nice. "Maybe," you think, "I can cross it." Cut off ties with the ex. You've moved out. It's done. Now is the time to put your energy into your…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 11:40 AM
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Reminds me of a comment SorcererKing gave me when I started.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 03:57 PM
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It's amazing how noobs are more concerned with looking bad rather than reaching out for advice. Like anyone who's passionate about something, most will love to talk about their routines and history and give advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 01:17 PM
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Solid. Well done! Having these structures and routines in place will stop me falling for the voice in my head that rationalises fucking everything off and giving up. I'll give you something else you'll want to hold onto for later. It's great to recognize this and implement this right now. But you really want to master both routine and spontaneity. It doesn't have to be true spontaneity. But every now and then just surprise the family, say fuck-all to whatever you had planned that day, and lead t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 08:52 PM
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Getting 2.5lb weights will help until you start failing again. Then you'll want to start buying microweights, etc. Get the 2 1/2 pounders - but stop letting that be an excuse. Instead of loading up +10, just do more at the current weight; say, amrap +5 reps then try to add 10lbs. There are ways to getting around that issue. Sleep: the average person needs 8-9 hours of sleep. This means 9-10 hours actually in bed. Some people sleep more. Some, but few, can get away with less. Sleep is a very fasc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 04:06 PM
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Now I think you're here to waste time. This is the second week you've come in complaining about your lifts. Yet your only answer is to change your program. You're going to fail that one, too. Serious question: what have you done to determine why you're failing lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 02:56 PM
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I'm always sketchy about people uncomfortable or afraid of loneliness. Think about loneliness and neediness and how they relate.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 10:44 AM
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Cash's version is better but nostalgia's a curse.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 10:02 PM
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I've never been a huge fan of the whole "abundance mentality" model. So, you don't have it. Which means you don't want to be alone. Which begs the question: why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 08:30 PM
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"We just had a near life experience." As I said, your history sounds very familiar with my own - to an extent. To me, self-mutilation was a gift. "I hurt myself today to see if I still feel." That song came out just a couple years after I spent a month in a mental hospital on suicide precaution. Apparently constantly cutting yourself up can make your shitty parents worry. I learned two things: I thrive on structure, and two, there are things I can control and the things I can't. The problem with…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 01:15 PM
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You got an hour to down a gallon of milk. Let me know how it works for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 08:45 PM
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Now I squat 225 for 3 sets without failure but then the 4th and 5th are irregular, I'm considering deloading again. It's normal for the last set to be fucked. That's what you want - means you're pushing it. I assume by "irregular" you mean shitty form. Your 4th set should be tough, but at the end you should feel like you can give it one more. How long is your rest in between? If less than five minutes, increase it. But, no more than eight as the recovery becomes nearly linear at that point. I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 06:46 PM
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If, however, the path you choose leads you somewhere else, then it was a mistake. Will correct myself here: this suggests wherever you arrived wasn't better than your intended destination. It's still a mistake. Just not necessarily a bad one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 02:26 PM
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::cracks knuckles:: Ok...I'm going back over your previous OYSs, I remember talking to you about the weightlifting. I see a lot of similarities in my own history so I'll give you my thoughts. But I'd strongly advise you not to follow my path. Make your own. Hopefully this will get your brain moving. Forgive myself instead of beating myself up. This is a very difficult thing to do. I went down this path and I don't regret it one bit. The problem comes in how you go about it. I always think of tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 02:10 PM
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Where are you with the advice Chuck gave you? You acknowledge you realize it but no mention of how you've considered addressing it. I’m still waiting for an appointment to have my testosterone checked...I’m hoping the results can shed some light on this? Low T can cause issues, for sure. But, do you really think increasing it is going to solve your problems? How else can you grapple with all of this without getting shots? I’ve gone back to my routine of In bed by 10pm Up at 5.30am and Meditate f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 09:43 AM
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I like u/weakandsensitive's idea of, "it's not the cheating, it's the lying." You didn't trip on a nuke; you tripped on your ego ("intending to clear away all evidence by the time she got back"). You're a bitch one year into this and still fumbling around with basics. Stop trying to play big-boy games. You ain't ready.
/r/askMRP16/05/21 10:39 AM
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I am not a personal trainer nor do I know you're history. On you to do your work. That said, I will still claim more than bad form for my back issues such as neglecting my core, neglecting flexibility, and a genetic predisposition. BECAUSE YOU FUCKING USE MORE ENERGY ON LEG PRESSES THAN SQUATS! Strenuous work taxes the fuck out of the body; particulary squats and deadlifts. You know what DOESN'T tax the body? Leg presses. You're literally just laying there. With LP you're exercising one muscle. …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 06:45 PM
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interwebztuguyjesusfuckingchristthatsabitchtotype said what I was thinking. I saw your post last week and Horns response and your response; "Yes, sir!". But Horns and Cloudy are right this week: it's just whiny mental masturbation. All of us get some type of input that serves as validation. It's what we do with it that is the difference. Note the below and remember it when you email Horns begging for forgiveness: if I look back at a workout, can I honestly say that at no point did a comment from…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 05:46 PM
2

There were two or three instances in the past week of my wife making some comment or suggestion. These weren't necessarily shit tests (or any test), she was just trying to be helpful. I recall one particular was her suggesting I drive 30 minutes to get my son the covid vaccine. I told her I wasn't driving that far. She walked away mumbling something under her breath - a favorite tactic of hers. After a few of these "mumbling under her breath" deals I finally told her to cut her shit; it was chil…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 12:49 PM
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Just a couple things that look to me like conflicts: Nothing more I can do but be a source of emotional strength for those around me. ... Your shit is not mine to own. And In the past I used that mental model to seek validation. ... However, I've been getting a few compliments on my bulk by several people.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/21 12:31 PM
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So I'll assume you have no idea your tdee, your actual intake, etc. Do a clean bulk and eat more.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/21 01:18 PM
1

If you do end up getting shoes I'd be curious to know how much you gain on your lifts right away. I may try this too once I get some other things worked out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 02:54 PM
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I think you're an idiot looking for a way to protect his ego instead of taking small wins.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 02:33 PM
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It's honestly something I've never considered, therefore, can't say. But, think about it from another angle. What enables one to lie on a bed of nails? The weight is spread across a greater area. In my mind, barefoot prevents this simply because of the arch (though two points of contact is still better than one). Wearing shoes helps spread the weight across a greater plane. I may be completely wrong on this. I just don't see any powerlifters going barefoot. Edit: Another example: the casual jogg…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 02:30 PM
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The past year I've come to a mentality close to yours or perhaps closer to IZ (not familiar with his history). I think it's interesting to me your post comes on the heels of these gas shortages. Last year it was pandemic and toilet paper and grocery limits; today, gas. The common denominator is people making moves based on what other people do. Which begs the question: who's living your life? In chess, the simple objective is to capture the opponents king. It sounds easy enough. But as you learn…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:32 PM
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Leg presses are designed to primarily work the quadriceps, the same muscles used in performing squats. If you're performing LPs the day after squats/DLs, do you suppose it's possible your muscles aren't getting enough time to recover? And, if your muscles aren't getting enough time to recover is it possible when you're performing squats/DLs that they are still weakened and therefore help make your lifts weaker and your form shittier?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 11:50 AM
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But I think the first thing I need to open up is my self-sabotaging behavior. Start here: 100 days straight no fuck ups. Fucked up? The 100 days start over. This is stupid. You can't go a few weeks without achieving a goal and you want to now try for 3 1/2 months? How in your mind is this helpful?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 10:06 PM
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Shit, I like that
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:48 PM
1

If only OP's post was about competitive power lifting you'd have totally owned me.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:44 PM
1

Side note, "white lights and big lifts", that a Gary Clark reference?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:39 PM
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I don't know of any pros and cons of DLing barefoot other than one, dropping 55lb weight on your toes and/or two, walking barefoot on dirty-ass floor. I don't even walk bare-foot in my home. Both DL and squats should be centered over your mid-foot. If you're flat and barefoot you're likely to pull the bar back towards your heel which uses unnecessary energy. Same if you're too forward. So, I would assume proper shoes help keep the pull more neutral.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:55 PM
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Keep me updated. I had a meet scheduled a week into the shutdown and haven't looked since. I still want to but haven't looked for a date just yet - maybe late summer, early fall. Prior to the first meet I did three circuits of one of Candito's programs which I felt was really challenging. I enjoyed it. But I started stalling once I got my own gear and gave Madcow a try. It was going well at first but I'm wondering if maybe I'm starting to stall there, as well. But, until I eliminate other variab…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:03 PM
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If you don't mind I'd love for you to go into any flaw. Whenever I fail a set I'm always trying to figure out why. I work solo in my garage so I have to rely more on feel. Yesterday my elbows were flaring out also on my BP but I couldn't correct it so fail-safed out. But I've had a couple days in recent weeks were I couldn't even start a DL set that I've barely struggled with prior. Don't know why. This last week was fine. Tomorrow we'll see how it goes. What kind of notes do you take? I sometim…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:49 PM
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So, you have this injury. You acknowledged your form sucked. You state you don't know how you got injured but could be any number of things. What would be those things?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:26 PM
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Someone's OYS reminded me of something I do often but I guess I've come to assume everyone does it: RPE. You may be aware RPE is a method of gauging your strength for that particular day. Generally, on a scale of 1 to 10 - 1 being you can do many more reps and 10 being at faillure - you rank your last set. When you say, "leaving reps on the table", I didn't address it because I know I don't and I'm not interested in proving it. But, I did want to share that this is my method and one I believe in…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:12 PM
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I literally didn’t know it was in me. Ever googled "lifting rpe"?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:00 PM
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I'm not saying you did anything wrong cause I wasn't there. One of the things that happens a lot (including me) is trying to show your big dick to your wife over stupid simple shit - things that are 100% innocent. Problem with that is it leads to a downhill path. You have to figure out what is truth for you. Just be aware and honest. You'll be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 05:14 PM
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I see. TIL.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 04:48 PM
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In my mind it's not even about the traffic but maybe that's just me. Was her response appropriate? No. It was passive aggressive bullshit. So, what? My point being, let her be a first mate. It doesn't matter if you were right. It doesn't matter if you were wrong. And neither you nor she should be keeping score. It just seems so trivial to me. So, my better question would be would you feel more emboldened to ignore her for something not-as-trivial because you were right about this?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 04:27 PM
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Help me, here. How do these shoes help with ankle issues?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 04:18 PM
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Yes. At the risk of turning this into a Seinfeld episode, what isn't known is if there was indeed traffic.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:51 PM
2

Got my first client - one of the friends I spent time with over the weekend. They're either a friend or client. Can't be both. If you got a hot 24f wanting to marry you so fast I'd be looking for a criminal record. Or, just bail. I'd choose the latter. But that may depend on your standards.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:42 PM
2

What's an average diet throughout the day?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:36 PM
2

Squat has stalled due to my shit ankle flexibility, so I've added a lot of passive stretches and PNF to fix this rather than buying heeled shoes or raising my heels. This doesn't make sense to me. What kind of flexibility issues? I can literally bend my right ankle 90-degrees; years of basketball and multiple sprains. If I recall correctly, the doctor said I have no ligament or cartilage (one or the other/both???). This frightened me as I had this image in my head of my ankle giving way while li…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:28 PM
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Her controlling the route you were going sounds the same. Was it, though? We went to pick up catering and was instructed to take another way home, because we would have turn left onto a road with more traffic. The phrasing, u/Grounded_spark, is interesting; i.e., "instructed". Was it an instruction? My wife is always stating I should go this or that route. Sometimes, if it makes sense, I will. Not everything is a shit, comfort, or compliance test. Sometimes it's just good advice from the first m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:06 PM
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I mean, you pretty much validated my original reply, so...thanks?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 03:00 PM
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I don't understand the whole "mediating over it" thing. Can you explain that?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 02:51 PM
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It's in my last oys couple weeks ago
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 02:13 PM
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Which would come down to experience which I addressed: To be cognizant of all and have the ability to make adjustments It felt different. It sounded different. I've had days where I go to start lifting and I just don't feel it; like, something's missing. But I'm able to hit all targets. I've had days where I feel just fine but I can't even do one set in my last rep. You told me in another post that the post was directed towards the noob. So I read this as being directed towards the noob. So, if …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 02:12 PM
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I also wanted to point this out: If he changes programs every few months he is pretty wishy washy and can’t make up his mind. Possibly. Could also be because he's bored. If everyone takes the same path no one discovers new land.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:56 PM
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Based on his post he's lifting more than I.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:52 PM
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You're not just in the ballpark, you're at home plate. Here's a great example: yesterday I was setting tree stakes. I had one that, at a few inches depth, stopped. It felt different. It sounded different. Experience told me immediately there was a rock or brick below. A noob would keep trying. A noob would get exhausted and not have energy to keep setting stakes. I finished. That's not ego, it's humility: I'm not capable of hammering through this rock.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:48 PM
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I strained my left Lateral Dorseai or just lat muscle...My form sucked but I made it happen. My PL mentor has always told me the only cause of injury is poor form. I have no reason not to believe him. I've only dealt with one setback injury and that was very early on doing BPs. I never got it diagnosed but I suspect it was just a minor tear. In powerlifting you are always hurting, always injured. Again, I don't buy this. If you are hurting or injured you are doing something wrong. I'll concede y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 12:21 PM
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Canvassing does this, too. My crew and I were taking a dinner break and this girl had come in for her order. As I remember (+20 years later), she was fucking gorgeous. My team kept ragging on me for not making a move. Finally, one guy asked, You ever going to see her again? You've had 100 doors slammed in your face, guys yelling at you threatening to call the police, and mothers mad you're interrupting bath time. You really think you'll get worse from this chic? Eye opener.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/21 11:04 AM
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My mother died earlier this year. It was rather sudden and unexpected though we still had time to prepare. She was in bad shape and I didn't want to see her that way. She got much better for a short time but uncontrollable events kept me from visiting her. As her time got closer I wondered if I'd regret my decisions. My dad I'm sure I couldn't care less. My mom, though, despite her flaws, really busted her ass to take care of me and my brothers. We weren't super-close. But she's my mother. This …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 10:09 AM
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Look, I get it. I'm going to try to share a brief story with you. Some years ago, I was new to the area. There happened to be a woman in my office I knew was DTF. She had a BF but I didn't care. They were shit and someday I'd get my chance. I can't tell you how much I spent on this girl. How many "dates" we had. Often she'd ask me out. And often I'd be picking up the tab. I remember one day her BF had showed up. They got into an argument in the bar. And I watched for five minutes while she liter…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 01:30 PM
2

Have you read any sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 01:21 PM
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Don't worry bro, I'll take care of your wife house for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 10:52 AM
3

The entendres are ::chef's kiss::
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 10:46 AM
2

When you're ready, you will. In the meantime you really need to focus on yourself. Edit: You sound like you want a hooker, not a companion. I'm sure you give off that vibe on your dates, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 09:45 AM
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You can fix ugly.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 01:23 PM
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I've been fucking this girl named Melinda. She's bought me all kinds of shit; yacht, helicopter. She said she'd be busy the next few days but when things settle she's getting me a mansion in Washington state. Can't wait!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 12:17 PM
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I hold my ejaculation. Is this some of you guys do? Like much of anything it takes a ton of practice. The painful balls is normal but for some it's a pleasure. Some women like to have that type of control where they can make their man nut whenever she wants - a power move. Think of when you had to take a piss really bad. It's the same muscle group. When you figure that out then you can work on having an orgasm without an erection.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 11:00 AM
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I had a plan which was not overly adventurous (COVID) but something I and my daughter would have enjoyed. She kept rejecting the ideas. I then went to the gym for 2 hours, this of course did not go down well. So I assume you and your daughter did not go on this not overly adventurous trip?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:51 AM
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I think the MRP philosophy kind of twists people up in here. Like most men, I came in here because my wife wouldn't fuck me. For me, this journey became about everything but that. Maybe most would disagree but, to each his own. Ironically, I guess, the sex like the woman followed along eventually (1,000 foot rope). Let it go.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:45 AM
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Taking your ring off is childish tit-for-tat. How long before you put it back on? cleaned up the glass shards... A friend's wife came home drunk AF and for whatever reason took a shit on the living room floor. Guess who was cleaning it the next morning? I told her - as I usually do - I will not initiate a divorce No wonder she does what she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:28 AM
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I need to have a conversation with her explaining that the current arrangement where I always pay the bill isn’t sustainable if we are to continue seeing each other. If you do this you should be banned. You seem to recognize you're having issues with these girls. What I don't see is how you plan to address it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:18 AM
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Red can say whatever he wants and now readers have two sides. It's on them the path they choose.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 02:50 PM
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Is this satire? Seriously, what the fuck is this? She wants the drip of stranger validation back in her life. Bye. Go to the gym at night to build separation. I'm in her frame? You better think long and hard about your actions over this time. I'm in her frame? Affairs people want to get back to. Go. If your woman was at risk before, she is gone this time. Bye. But you, you might have time to save yourself. From? You need to get in front of this. No, thank you. My dancing days are done.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 12:41 PM
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YNAB is a fantastic site though I didn't spend much time exploring other options. My only gripe is I find the syncing doesn't work. They changed the source last year and it's completely sucked since. But, YNAB states it is not a priority and you should be manually entering and reconciling anyway. Ok, fine. The entire idea behind it is you only budget the cash you have. So, for the month if you haven't budgeted anything and only have $1,000 cash, you have to work out where that money is going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 11:24 AM
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Hey man, long time no see. Getting it up isn't the issue. In the mornings I can be perfectly fine and have stamina. It's having the energy in the evenings. I'm exhausted. I've tried some energy supplements but then it fucks with my sleep. Why'd you change your username?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 07:46 PM
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It's been over a year since I last did an OYS, just around the shutdown. I decided to step away from it to organize my thoughts without the influence of others; basically, to decide and figure out what I really wanted. Up to that point the major issues I was having were primarily my relationship with my son. I was also confronted about my mental models; primarily having an idea of what people should be doing and allowing it to control me if they didn't meet expectations. I was also confronted wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 02:58 PM
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Read up on dealing with lactic acid in the muscles after workouts
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/21 09:19 PM
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I'm going to disagree with /u/Blarg_Risen here but only because I see one thing missing : your program. You just say your lifting. Ok, fine. If you're doing bodybuilding then doing 4 to 6 days a week is normal. Fuck, some of these guys do 4 or 5 hours a day 4 to 6 times a week. But if you're just trying to build strength right now then 4 days is max. Most these beginner programs are some variation of 5x5. As you lift heavier your body will need more time to recover. But even at the beginning sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/21 12:07 PM
1

My step son and I talked recently about hunting and fishing. I grew up fishing and hunting. Hell, I was born in the woods. He, on the other hand, is city. Like me, every winter he started getting the urge to hunt. It just seemingly came from nowhere. His idea, and I agree, is that it was instinct. Thousands of years of evolution have taught us to be hunter/gatherers. Only recently have we become dependent on the supply chain (see Shutdown 2020). Which begs the question : if/when the shit really …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 02:05 PM
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It is if you set it as a daily objective instead of just some random goal. There is a tendency among some of us to think we're rolling then we hit a brick wall. We think we've totaled but really it's just a fender bender. You said in your OYS you're reading the DoD's and comparing yourself to that. IMO that's not the way to go about it. The first step is fuck what everyone else is doing. You're not them. You're the equivalent of the couch faggot cruising social media admiring what everyone else …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 02:19 PM
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I'd recommend no mirror. It'll actually hurt your form not keeping your neck aligned, head straight, etc. Plus you want to train yourself to recognize by feel - not sight - when your form is off. Edit: to elaborate on that a bit, of your three major lifts (squats, dl, bp) none of those require nor should you be staring straight ahead. Your neck and head are always inline with your back. This keeps tension of your neck avoiding strains. At best, it will only be a brief moment you're staring strai…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 04:33 PM
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Still too much porn. Rationalizing that changing my diet and workout habits is enough for my mind to accept all at once, and I should wait to change another habit until that one is changed. Not sure if that is the right approach with this or not, yet. It's not. You just develop a habit of making excuses not to do something. Get out of your comfort zone.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 02:13 PM
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How are you gauging your form?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 02:06 PM
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Horns touched on it a bit but I'll add my own $0.02. I was exposed to the show Meat Eater last year. That one of the episodes was in my backyard, I gave it a shot. I don't usually watch hunting/fishing shows. But immediately it brought me back my past; a connection separated by years of things of no relevance. I decided to pick it back up. As I told my son, I was getting back to my roots. He's come with me some. My wife comes with me more often. And I'll get my own solo time when I want. I even …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 02:13 PM
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5x5's and concentrating on form are discriminate especially at 40kg. Unless you're stupid weak you unlikely break a sweat. And I'm not sure how the dumbbell will help but your call. If you want to work on form and build strength do 3x10's and if that's not enough do 5x10's. If that's not enough do 8x10's. Increase sets until you're on the verge of failing your very last rep. Why? Do golfers only practice in the middle of a round? Form is built out of repetition. Do you even know proper form? May…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 03:51 PM
2

What's your plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 02:29 PM
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Simply, you're adjusting based on her actions. Which Johnny and Horns called you out on. Not sure how else to phrase it.
/r/askMRP30/03/20 11:28 AM
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Shit, that night I think I took 20 Advil, went through a tube of Neosporin and made the wife carry me to bed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/20 07:47 PM
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This year has been about lawn renovation for me. Our yard has always been decent. I wanted better. One of those tasks involved running a core aerator.. Shit looks simple in the pictures. The fucker I had was like taming a wild horse. Came in two speeds: idle and warp speed. Weight probably between 250-300lbs. I did my yard and my neighbor's whose lazy faggot husband had no interest touching. Another task was uprooting and relocating a ten-year-old tree. Sounded simple when planning. Far from it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/20 10:27 AM
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Learned about TRP 6 years ago. You didn't learn shit else none of this would have occurred... She was having doubts. I was devastated, I can’t lie. internally I was combusting I had lost a sharpness to throughout my relationship the fact that I was doubted like that rubs a bone in my body the wrong way Edit: In addition, seeking validation by posting pics. Reestablish the focus where it belongs.
/r/askMRP27/03/20 10:01 AM
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Maybe work on that rather than what vibrator to use.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 01:55 PM
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For some reason I never trusted them either to hold my fat ass so I bought some 1000lb straps and hung from ceiling in my garage; bought a bar to attach. I used the straps for multiple workouts so the bar needed to be quickly removed. One day I jump up to the bar to start my pull-ups, the bar comes loose and I jerked the bar down on top of my face almost breaking my fucking nose, getting a black eye and some cuts. Sometimes we just think too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/20 12:50 PM
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You're not clear the path you're on which makes her unclear where she's going. You're like a pinball machine.
/r/askMRP21/03/20 12:45 PM
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My neighbor has some dumbbells, a bench, bar and 80lbs weight they're going to let me borrow. So at least that part is resolved.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 11:51 PM
1

May be easier to remove expectations of others.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 10:25 AM
2

I'm really debating options here. My mentor's on vacation right now. Hoping he'll know someone with a home setup. I can go get my own equipment. But I do like the social aspects of going to the gym even though I try to keep the socializing to a minimum (plus my garage walls ain't as appealing as asses in Lulu's). Today's my last day in gym. Meet was cancelled. May just cut and do BW shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 10:20 AM
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Not going to lie, two years ago I'd hate fuckers like you. I think I couldn't care less now. Only being in that situation again would I know for sure but if I am I know I got other things to worry about. I do know if my wife left me today I could have her replaced by sundown. I have no desire to. But, I know. At a minimum it's just a reminder you can't control anything but yourself. So why worry about the rest? C'est la vie.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 05:47 PM
2

Those aren't wrist wraps. Wraps to keep your wrists straight. Those gloves won't do that. Buy some wraps. These were the first I bought that seemed decent. Good deal on the weed shit. Bad habits are a mother fucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 01:09 PM
2

Do you know what passive-aggressive is? She's looking for leadership and decision-making. Wife: You’re still going to the gym? Don’t you think that’s a bad idea? You: We're going to be cautious and live life as normal as possible. This irritation stuff you're going through is normal. You're still weak. That's fine. Learn to accept it, welcome it, and embrace it. It'll intensify over the coming weeks and months assuming you're progressing. If you wanted to show her how physically strong you are y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 12:25 PM
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If only there were a way you could get her to stop talking...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 10:10 AM
2

Good luck w/ your PMP. I know that shit is a PITA. I tried Fogging my wife yesterday. The replies aren't bad but this comes off to me as more concern which just needed I did tell her I’d do things differently like clean the equipment down before I use it. Nothing more.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 10:08 AM
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I failed to post last week. No excuses. Cool... I could have found the time and didn't. I find it odd that I care at all about the judgement of Randos on the internet. Bruh... OYS's are for you. You're not obligated to post here. Time off might actually help you figure shit out on your own. Ever heard of an Eisenhower Matrix?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 10:03 AM
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Recurring pain in both wrists slowed me down on my BP and OHP this week. Look into wrist wraps I fell off the wagon with smoking weed last week, and with it went my diet. Can you identify the trigger that leads to this?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 09:56 AM
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It's the excuses I'm keying on. If it's not a priority, so be it. But don't say cost of food is the reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 09:45 AM
1

I don't live in HI. I was just able to do in 5 minutes what you haven't been wanting to. Thus, You don't want it. At least admit it. You're not fooling anyone except yourself. If you want to fix your problem, you'll find a solution. If not, accept you don't want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 09:15 AM
1

Closure is bullshit. Record, if need be, to protect your ass. First may want to look into state law's if you can record without the other party's acknowledgement.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 09:11 AM
1

The one off Pi'ikea in Kihei. I don't eat tilapia. I smoke 25lbs chicken every Sunday. Here
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 10:37 PM
2

This is why I wrote my earlier comment. You can get whole chicken at Safeway for $1.89/lb. You get tilapia for $0.32/oz. Excuses, excuses...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 08:28 PM
1

You don't want it. At least admit it. You're not fooling anyone except yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 05:47 PM
1

Back in the gym. Note to self, 1 week break ok, 2 weeks without consistent lifting is too long. Having to do a mini deload because starting at the weights I was at was too much. Came close to injury on SQ. I've been in a faggot version "Bulk" mode - ie a shitty diet. This is not a good handle on things. A quick story. At one time I couldn't BP a full set over 150. For the life of me, I couldn't figure it out. I'd go in. Warm up. Load up. Get going. And, at some point, I'd stall. I'd be in a BP s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 05:41 PM
3

If she opens it, I follow LEAD, God damn it! All of this is the same shit you wrote about a couple weeks ago. I told you then, You gotta let this go. I'm not going to say your wife is not interested in you being a better man. What I am saying is it's something you have to do on your own. Get a fucking hobby, get out of the house, live your life dude. You're so wrapped up in her you're allowing no room for you. Internally, I am afraid of myself, of being an empty shell. I cannot come with any int…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 12:21 PM
3

There's a reason lifting is a high priority here. It's about building confidence. 60 DOD identifies additional confidence-boosters; hygiene, style, social, etc. You're lack of confidence is because you're failing some of these. Your career seems solid so you go that going for you (assuming you don't delay too long and lose the opportunity). Your lifts are ok but as long as you're making progress that will also help. But you negate the positives with a shitty diet. Fix that. This comment indicate…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 12:05 PM
1

I do TA so my focus is more on price action than fundamentals. I'm not trying to catch falling knives but rather looking for charts that favor my type of trading/investing. For example, I wouldn't touch AMZN right now but I'm watching NFLX. Ironically IMO you'd think a company like 3M would be doing really good right now but it's been shit for years (at least for buy/hold strategies). It's just about having a style, finding what fits your style, developing a plan and executing if/when the time i…
/r/askMRP15/03/20 10:40 AM
3

Downside - set back all my life plans by roughly 2 years. Upside - am with a WAY better woman, living my best life as a father/husband/scientist/gymnast/millionaire. Best revenge is a good life.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/20 01:52 AM
2

Why not tell her calmly you're trying to focus on something and ask her to take it elsewhere?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 03:01 PM
2

Then don't
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 08:10 PM
1

Fuck I still don't know what the hell my mission is. Other than to wake up tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 07:49 PM
2

Be the man who's wife's friend tells her "I wish my husband were more like yours."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 07:48 PM
2

You don't get a crack head sober by giving him heroin.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 08:32 PM
1

Do you have a leg day or leg month? Have you looked into YNAB for budgeting?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 07:18 PM
2

So I started writing a reply and had a couple links gathered. But then i realized I wouldn't do my son's homework for him. Why would I do yours? So, take a breath. Find one thing to focus on (and if it's your fucking wife I'll kick you in the nuts with steel-toed boots). And do it. Read in your spare time. Find one thing to focus on, come back next week and tell us what it was and how it went. All other things you keep normal.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:42 PM
2

Mother do you think she's good enough? For me? Mother do you think she's dangerous, To me? Mother will she tear your little boy apart? Ooh ah, Mother will she break my heart?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:14 PM
1

Serious question: why are you going to go back to being affectionate?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 06:10 PM
2

I could tell you a story. But it won't matter. You have to live it to see it. The hard truth that I'm facing is that maybe I shouldn't have married my wife. Said every faggot that posted here. You're nothing special. And when you realize that your questions will disappear without answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 05:53 PM
2

In fairness he did say compared to his friends. Even the Big Bang Theory nerds had an AMOG
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:09 PM
2

Since drastically reducing my pot usage I realize that I am not happy with my wife I’m STFU more often – sometimes to the point where she accuses me of ignoring her. I don’t hug and kiss her when she gets home from work anymore. The sex has declined, and she never initiates a hug and kiss when she gets home, so I don’t think I should reward her with a hug and a kiss every time she walks in thru the door (I hope this makes sense). [My note: it does. You're a "woe-is-me" bitch] We had sex this wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:05 PM
2

Bad advice
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 02:35 PM
1

If you have thoughts of what I’m doing, thinking an so on please provide me with feedback, I’d appreciate it. If you have thoughts about the structure or topics mentions, or lack of them, in my OYS pattern/template, please let me know. Never do this again Captain Save-a-ho. Half your shit is not about you. Fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 01:48 PM
2

This is something I'm dealing with as well. I just don't seek it. I'm so fucking busy with other shit. Wife will jump into shower with me and we'll fool around. But try and continue after and little man's down for the count. He ain't coming out. If you're distracted then either wait it out or clear your plate. Sleep, stress, diet could all be factors too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 01:35 PM
2

I looked at her email to try and alleviate my anxiety, I didn’t see anything that confirmed of disconfirmed my thoughts but I saw other things which I didn’t want to see. Obviously I shouldn’t have looked at her email, I shouldn’t have needed to. .... I’m scared of being alone and I think I can’t handle the pain of life. Also linked to this is the letting go of the bluepill fantasy, it has left me with a kind of nillhism where there isn’t anything nice in the world, just the cold hard reality. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 10:54 AM
8

"If they can't solve your problem they don't need to hear it." Don't know the source.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 09:31 PM
1

When my wife began this discussion I pointed her to Megan Squats, commented I thought she was hot and told my wife to see what program she does. Besides opening the front door for her that's been my only involvement. We rarely talk inside.
/r/askMRP05/03/20 06:41 PM
2

Occam's Razor
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 11:39 AM
5

My type was petite Latinas until I decided it wasn't. Live and learn.
/r/askMRP04/03/20 08:09 PM
15

Note my wife is not my son's mother. My woman's been by my side doing all kinds of shit; yard work, running errands for me, doing basically anything I ask her. The most important value she brings is helping bridge my relationship with my son which as I've documented in MRP has struggled. She's taken us out to dinner. She's organized family dinners and game nights. Most importantly she's been an ear he can use. I've learned a lot about him he wouldn't tell me. Our relationship (with son) has gott…
/r/askMRP04/03/20 11:38 AM
2

Still, a week is long and I could not STFU in the sense that I want/need to clarify where we are and what was going on, and I initiated these conversations too often. I want to understand, and sometimes I think this helps me to be better at it. You gotta let this go. I'm not going to say your wife is not interested in you being a better man. What I am saying is it's something you have to do on your own. Only as you get experience can you differentiate the advice that is legitimate and the advice…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 06:26 PM
2

Waited, you posted this 8 hours ago The relationship will not change no matter what we talk. Again, I need to STFU more and act more NORMAL And now this I just did it a few minutes ago again What the fuck? Edit: I've read your previous posts and guess the first quote was from earlier. Still, you've been saying a month to stfu yet you continue. What do you have to gain by these conversations?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 04:49 PM
3

IF there was a god...do you think it would please him more that you followed his way and did well in life because his priests told you to? Or because you took ownership of your life and CHOSE to live a life he gave you? I'm agnostic. My counter to the "live by His rule" has been, if he exists, he made me the way I am. Who am I to argue?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 02:37 PM
2

Your plates are trying to win you. Your wife already has.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 02:39 PM
3

TLDR I don't need to brag about my shit but I did this and this and this. lol, fuck off
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/20 10:38 AM
1

So sometimes i have no idea what to text after its etc. Nah, really?
/r/askMRP27/02/20 01:28 PM
1

Usually, the good advice is to focus on yourself and be patient understanding it takes a long time to unfuck yourself. Sometimes, though, it's okay to drill a hole in the boat and see what happens. You have to figure out which one you're comfortable with. Hint: don't do that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 12:04 PM
3

I think you're trying to do too much at once. You list your mental work then the things you're doing to combat that. It's like a bunch of if/else statements. Blarg said it well and concise but let me put it another way. Throughout an average day how much of that has some seed of anger? Versus content? Versus happiness? Ideally we want that ratio to go from, say, 70/15/15 to 0/0/100 but that doesn't happen overnight. And for you possibly for quite some time. So, for me when I started practicing m…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 06:58 PM
1

Abundance - Failing to achieve this is why some good measure of hate remains. It is difficult to push this beyond superficial interactions with women. It is fundamental shift and rethink that I'm curious your goal here. Continue to practice simple mindfulness. How?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 02:08 PM
2

Reddit enhancement suite, I believe it was
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 02:04 PM
1

Maybe don't pick fights you can't win? And for God's sake your lifts fucking suck. I'm a few years younger and well past that in just over a year. Focus on shit you can control.
/r/askMRP24/02/20 06:47 PM
3

Reading all of his responses is enough for me to nope the fuck out of this one. Y'all enjoy :)
/r/askMRP23/02/20 11:12 AM
4

The thing is, you're admitting to a basic covert contract. You give little comfort and expect not to be destroyed. You believe you give too much, you will. So change your mindset (easier said than done, i get it). Giving comfort is an unlimited supply. I choose to give it to my wife whenever she wants it or whenever I want to. She can do whatever she wants with it. But she can't hurt you with it. You have an abundance of it to share with the world. Should that day come you kill the puppy you hav…
/r/askMRP22/02/20 11:52 AM
4

Why do you need a book on oi? It's literally not giving a shit.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 03:13 PM
7

It's all in the reflexes
/r/askMRP04/02/20 06:30 PM
17

The fuck you do. You're insecure over a piece of plastic.
/r/askMRP04/02/20 11:50 AM
7

Years ago I decided my son would be better off with separated parents than parents constantly fighting and arguing. I made damn sure every minute of visitation the state or she gave me I took. My relationship with him is struggling right now. But I assure you it is not because of that decision. Think of what (s)he won't see should you leave.
/r/askMRP02/02/20 01:26 PM
1

I suck at content. I've read your original comment several times and I still don't know what the fuck you're getting at. But seriously that's ok. Maybe I'm not on the right path. But I'm happy with my path. I'll leave it at that. Appreciate your time. Good luck on your book.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:14 PM
1

Always happy to discuss with respected community members. If you were DTC_3638 I'd tell you to stick your dick in a grinder.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 07:49 PM
1

Everything I've done in my OYS is my choice. I chose to give my son the ability to take are of his feeding needs and the tools he needs to succeed. It is on him how he goes about it. I chose to let her know, in short, her offering to cook for him violated my boundaries, explained why, and asked her not to do it again. She agreed to comply. I chose not to fuck my wife. It is on her how she handles that. I chose to tell my wife her and I are in a good place. But I want my independence with the liv…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 07:30 PM
1

So, you and /u/Blarg_Risen have both mentioned this. Foresight and calibration in what manner? I've been clear that her and I have been good. And if I feel like straying she will have advanced notice. Nights like last night will lead to me straying.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 06:53 PM
1

I find it weird how you constantly detach the household rules from you Can you elaborate please? This goes back months. We were throwing food away we saved for him because he wouldn't eat for whatever reason. So we told him then, we don't know your schedule. We will not cook for you. If you want something too eat add it to the grocery list. If you need help cooking it we all teach you how. He always has a minimum of ramen, pbj, etc. Ask me how long that's been in the pantry....
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:19 PM
1

If you're thinking of what I'm thinking of it's not ego protection but self protection. A lot of history here I'm not going into which is why I chose to say it the way I did, to be clear with her I'm not starting shit but this is what I'm doing. When it comes to living I will not be at the mercy of someone else. Never again. The bed behavior? She wanted comfort. She wanted me to fuck her. I didn't. I wanted to sleep. For the first five minutes we laid there separate, nothing unusual. She rolled …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:16 PM
1

Can you read more than 10 words at a time faggot?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:47 PM
1

Appreciate the link and responses but I'm not going beyond that. Perhaps I could've written it better but I'm good with my action and whatever outcomes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:45 PM
-1

lol, I'd say no. That's a very loose paraphrase.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:13 PM
1

After the deal Friday night with Son things calmed down a bit. He was out most all day Sat and Sun. Sun morning I pulled him aside to address a few things. Let him know his attitude and behavior was unacceptable. I replaced his power supply; it would be arriving that day. He is not grounded from the Xbox. However, because of his attitude the driver's permit is put on hold until he finds a job. A year-round job is now expected. He kept getting hung up on details and at some point I stopped repeat…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 02:43 PM
1

I've been fortunate to only have one very minor injury since I started lifting. My lifts are respectable. I always found it curious till a friend said he believes all injuries are from bad form. I buy it.
/r/askMRP27/01/20 02:57 PM
2

Guess I have an entry for this week. I'll keep it raw as it's fresh. Tonight Son went off. It was ... pretty fucking bad. I supposed you could say it started a couple of nights ago. He was on his xbox after curfew and I had told him time to get off. He kept arguing back but I stood firm. "You know the rules," blah blah blah. I told him to turn it off or I'd turn it off. "Go ahead mother fucker." So, I did. He went straight to his room but ran his mouth a bit along the way. I let it go. Today soo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/20 12:31 AM
1

This is your sixth OYS. You say you've read a lot of books. Your goal is 2/month. I bet if you took a quiz on any of them you'd fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 03:04 PM
1

This shit trips me out. I don't know how many times I feel like shit before a work out. "Shit, I really don't think I'm going to hit my targets today." And then I do. I know largely it's mental. But sometimes I swear it's physical. Like, I just don't have the power today. But there I go... I still fail here and there. Just not nearly as often as I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 07:23 PM
5

Dude just make a fucking decision and own it whatever the outcome. You're the only one here who has to deal with the consequences.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 03:36 PM
1

What is harm reduction? When I first read this and the small bottle I thought you were an uncommitted faggot making excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 01:18 AM
4

Good riddance
/r/askMRP21/01/20 11:20 PM
2

We talking about his protege that's been following him "for years" or someone else?
/r/askMRP21/01/20 11:06 PM
2

Aww, looks like we found OP's besty or other account
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:01 PM
3

You can care about your sister and be detached from the consequences of her actions. My dad's in the hospital. We have no relationship. I still care about him and hope he's well. Don't be a retard.
/r/askMRP20/01/20 12:00 PM
1

How do you not give a fuck about your sister? Let her live her life but try to be a role model for what a good man should be. Meaning, fix your own shit. If you proofed your shit, you'd have also caught this: I like the guy as he knows his shit, and I believe he's on the positive side of masculinity, even though I hated how fag he was on his first divorce. I don't know if he's cured from oneitis, but not that I care. We had a call to discuss the prenup, but her actual intention was to complain a…
/r/askMRP19/01/20 11:43 AM
2

This is definitely something I would've posted.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 11:34 AM
1

He said maybe he was scared. If true, fuck him. But his response was, I said in a nutshell. "yep, took money for the business." Done. She had issues with it? "Ok, I'll keep that in mind should I consider doing it again." This "i fucked up. I'm sorry." shit is just that.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 05:23 PM
1

The issue isn't that he told her. The issue is she threw a fit and he caved like he did something wrong. And this, Should have let her know, you were afraid of her reaction because of her tight fist with money (a good thing). Is fucking retarded. "You scared me honey so I'm trying to behave. Please love me!" Fuck outta here with that bullshit.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 05:07 PM
3

But if "cheating is a line I have always drawn" what more advice you need? Perhaps it's a conditional boundary? Which means it's not a boundary at all. BTW, I think Johnny nailed it
/r/askMRP17/01/20 02:02 AM
2

This: Just figured other perspectives might broaden mine And this: cheating is a line I have always drawn. Are not congruent. If you want legal advice, call a lawyer.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:39 AM
8

Why do you care if she had a problem with it? Its your house. It's your business. She bullied you into caving which assuredly has helped lead to this accusation of cheating.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:15 AM
1

Or just a Tuesday?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 01:15 AM
1

You're likely to find your plateaus are more form than weight. I almost did the same. Then I hired a PT to fine tune my form. Almost immediately I broke through and launched like a fucking rocket.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:59 PM
1

This short bitch told me once, "Its nice cause we're the last to get wet when it rains." I replied, "You're also the first to drown when it floods."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 02:51 PM
2

Don't follow me. Write your own story.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 12:58 AM
5

I'll take a shot not sure this post will stay up long here. At least it's not whiny. In my situation, it was me taking charge in everything; finances, household decisions, being firm, etc. We used to argue at least once a month. We haven't had an argument like that in quite some time. She did pour on a massive shit test a couple of weeks ago. We were fucking by evening. It's been a battle to be - to use the term so often used around here - congruent with myself. That means a number of things to …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 11:13 PM
1

Long as you know what the pitfalls are, yes. I was going to do a sky diving analogy: you wouldn't pack your own chute based on a couple books and forum posts you read. Some of this shit's just harder to click. Those "aha" moments are what I looked for.
/r/askMRP13/01/20 06:42 PM
2

Here's the thing though, taking that time for deep thought only helps if you understand what it is you are thinking about. Your post demonstrates clearly you don't. OYS can be a guide to keep you on path. Wander in the proper direction and you may go unnoticed. Stray afar and quite likely get called a faggot and then-some. It is your responsibility to put in the work. Your lifts strongly suggest you have not. That's fine. But I nor few others here will waste their time on you if you continue to …
/r/askMRP13/01/20 06:16 PM
5

The tow rope doesn't seem to be tightening Because The info here is amazing ... Took time to marinade You're walking. Which is fine. Set your own pace. But, all this... It seems that the more progress I make, the more my wife resents me. She likes me less, seems less attracted. The shit tests are bitchy and often shitty/comfort. I pass (A&A, AM, kiss on the head, short hug, STFU) but a lot of themes are recurring each time. I see her giving others her best, but it's never given to me. Its delayi…
/r/askMRP13/01/20 02:56 PM
2

My common law understanding was you had to say you were married. Otherwise, doesn't matter. No?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 10:27 PM
1

I mean, she's used those Listerine strips before and that wasn't bad. A cookie would be a turn I didn't see cumming.
/r/askMRP08/01/20 08:22 PM
7

I mean, if my girl was blowing me and she stopped and made a comment about "chocolate chips", I think I wouldn't even notice because my girl's blowing me.... Did she stop to get a cookie?
/r/askMRP08/01/20 06:33 PM
1

IMO this is not ideal. Being a robot does not fix shit. If this is what you need for now, use it for now. Learn and welcome spontaneity. Edit: and I don't recall Clear being this detailed. I recall putting a guitar in middle of living room if you wanted to develop the habit of practice. Not what you wrote above.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 06:39 PM
1

Who cares if I believe you or not. correlation does not imply causation. Remember this as you go about your journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 05:54 PM
1

whenever she talks/threatens it now,which is more and more rarely, I literally just laugh I'm not calling you a liar. But based on your recent OYS's...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 05:06 PM
1

I use Ten Percent but it's a one year commitment. I took it. But I don't anticipate renewing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 05:01 PM
1

Not for you. Not until this: But, straight up, I don't have the balls for your options here. Becomes congruent with this: There's really only one thing to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:25 PM
2

I'm not going to do anything. It's not my place. In regards to teaching him, I've tried. He doesn't care. When he cares he can come find me I'll be there. Not going to force the issue. Appreciate all the responses.
/r/askMRP07/01/20 12:47 AM
1

Well you don't have DTC around, thought you could use some entertainment
/r/askMRP06/01/20 11:13 PM
2

Impressed af you remember all this. But it wasn't a hot dog stand. It would've been the best God damn stand in the zip code though 😂
/r/askMRP06/01/20 10:13 PM
1

That hasn't escaped me. I'm ok with that for now.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 09:06 PM
2

What's passive aggressive in the comment?
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:10 PM
9

That was two years ago. It's better. Taking a while. But better. Fuck that. It happened. Live and learn.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:08 PM
4

Agreed
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:07 PM
1

The gf's father scenario doesn't bother me. It's not often. It does bother me a little he immediately took her to some jewelry store and bought her a ring. But I did the same shit too so who am I to complain. He earned it. It's the mother....I don't care that she can't afford it. Not my problem. She's always wanted to be his friend though. Coddle him. That's what bugs me. But it's also outside of my control. At a minimum I can ask her to stop. But I doubt she will. And either way, I can't let my…
/r/askMRP06/01/20 08:06 PM
2

I'm saying therapy isn't necessary in my experience. YMMV
/r/askMRP06/01/20 07:48 PM
8

Work in progress.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 07:46 PM
5

This mostly makes sense except, Use the mother as an example Out of the question. He is insanely defensive of her and anyone criticizing her in any way. We've almost came to blows over this a while back.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 07:41 PM
1

There is some history I'm trying to push through, yes.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 07:39 PM
4

TRT nor ERT required in my experience.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 06:53 PM
5

As Steel says, you're doing it wrong. BTW, you're wrong. Figure it out.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 05:20 PM
1

lol, my neighbor's son is overweight in bmi standards and he's a skinny fuck. So you're skinny and ugly, big fucking deal...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 05:17 PM
1

I use wrist wraps on bench. On squats, I have an open hand pushing the bar onto my back right above the hypothenar eminence area. I've even considered possible nerve damage in my shoulders from OHP's; who knows? I'll let the doctor figure it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/20 10:43 AM
2

she stops being the problem Wait until the day you realize she never was the problem. Hope the kid(s) are good. Happy New Year!
/r/askMRP03/01/20 09:49 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2xUynRdzzsM
/r/askMRP03/01/20 08:22 PM
5

Sex God Method is one.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 07:38 PM
3

I don't miss many fuckers around here but I've missed you! Still dodging frying pans?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 05:44 PM
1

Yes he is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 05:27 PM
3

How'd you end up in mrp?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 02:01 PM
1

I'm doing what I can to maintain as many changes/gains as I can This is the problem. You're trying to learn how to juggle 10 balls; why not start with two? Know what this leads to? I'm exhausted Yea, it sucks bro. Rip the door of a house and you have to replace the door. Destroy the foundation and you have to replace the house. You have a weak foundation. Nothing to get mad about. Be thankful. You got shit to do and the rest of your life to do it! This is why I've been giving you so much shit ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/20 12:42 PM
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I tried but she said no
/r/askMRP03/01/20 10:51 AM
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No he got banned last week
/r/askMRP03/01/20 02:50 AM
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Even if it's the man crying? Edit: asking for a friend...
/r/askMRP02/01/20 11:04 PM
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Says the guy with a 365 ERM. Really dude?
/r/askMRP02/01/20 07:07 PM
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I though it was funny when I was reading, I think 44, it sounded very similar to shit you hear here and the other subs about withholding ejaculation. Guys here do it to fuck with their women's heads but in TWOSTM that's not what Deida's saying at all. Maybe it comes from another source, I don't now...
/r/askMRP02/01/20 07:02 PM
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Exactly. OP still trying to make her understand. She doesn't give a fuck.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 04:33 PM
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She doesn't want control she wants to know you're in control and every time she tests you you fail which pisses her off even more. She married a military boy thinking strength but got stuck with Jello Pudding. You want to reassure her? Be in control. This is all in the material dude. When it finally clicks, you'll see. Trust me (or don't). But you're not there yet. You don't trust yourself enough.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 04:17 PM
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I honestly don't think I care what most guys will do with it. I fully expected to get roasted, called a faggot, etc. I saw it as a counterweight to going Rambo that might help someone else. Maybe I will think it's stupid one or two years from now. But if it gets me through today without blowing a gasket with my family, does it really matter? Demons don't disappear soon as we confess our sins. Appreciate the responses, as always.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 12:29 PM
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Two years, you've read all the books. Yet you still DEER and reward bad behavior life a mother fucker. Even though i am aware of dynamics now "I still don't give a shit and need her to understand me better."
/r/askMRP02/01/20 11:46 AM
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So the issue isn't so much the topic but either I came off a whiny bitch or the content was coddling? I'm not trying to stir shit or make mrp a safe space. Just thought it was something maybe some guys could use. Or not. It works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/20 10:56 AM
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I know the post was removed but I'll respond anyway. This isn't entirely directed at your comment, Over60. If the complaint is the test mentioned was too Cosmopolitan, fine. I found it insightful but that's me. If the complaint is the test was presumably created by a woman, that is such a fucking retarded statement to make. Are we to ignore any science from women because women? She has a PhD which, to my knowledge, means she has some degree of expertise. At a minimum it can be debated. I'm not f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 09:11 PM
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That's ok.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 06:57 PM
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Yes but I think there's a limit on the self improvement without self compassion. I've had tremendous success but only because I was relentless. I didn't not have SC which helped lead to the loss of my success. It perhaps could've created a more solid foundation.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 05:09 PM
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I'm curious if you can even have the latter without the former. The more I've delved into this area the more I think it's impossible. At least highly improbable.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:54 PM
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WAS commented in his YT OYS series... +1 on the YouTube OYS, /u/weakandsensitive
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 01:55 PM
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I told him he got off lucky. The account I set him up with allows one overdraft per month. Even if he went -$0.01 he'd be hit with $39 and repeatedly for additional purchases. What would you charge the 10% against? Daily or monthly balance average?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 12:19 PM
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This is just today: I've been in a slump If I have a routine I slipped back I think that I don't want to see if I could I'm wasting my life I'm rotting at my core When I was watching TV instead of engaging my 3yo I don't go play with her like I should More or less I'm sure my inviting him to do something will happen pretty organically. planned failure After the 1st I will she isn't tired enough to go to bed Maybe this time next year I haven't even been consistent myself It's excuse after excuse …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 09:22 PM
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This is all a pile of horse shit. When you get further along maybe you'll see why. Hint: has nothing to do with going Rambo
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 08:26 PM
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Big challenge in finances and frame in general in my home is that my wife outearns me. It ultimately doesn't It's either a big challenge or it isn't. Which is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 05:03 PM
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Appreciate the time (and debate). Much of this has been said repeatedly by WAS, Chuck, Perseus; it's really just a matter of me internalizing it and accepting it which I'm working on. I fully agree. In meditating, we're taught not to pass judgments on thoughts. I've worked on internalizing this with him as well, not passing judgments on his thoughts. So, hopefully when he comes to me that someone in his school doesn't like him, I won't pass judgement that he shouldn't have those thoughts, but ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 04:53 PM
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Yes, still competing but to avoid the risk of being doxed I won't be talking about it anymore. It's public info which I knew but didn't really connect the dots. Whatever's already out there, it is what it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 03:57 PM
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I like how you made the 20-something year old a granny. Ageist! I think I see what you're getting at though. I have no expectation of anyone wasting their time on my shit. It'd be appreciated; any input that involves my son I take very seriously. I spend a lot of time rereading my shit and trying to pick it apart. In assessing this situation I honestly felt (and feel) I handled it just fine. Again, fresh eyes may disagree. Your original comment, paraphrased, was: if you were confident in your ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 03:50 PM
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lol, you're butt-hurt af. I've been in bed at ~9pm four of the last 7 nights. One I missed the target. The other 2 of those wife was working an extra night shift so I had the kids, and they are on winter break, going to bed past 10pm with wife. She finds out about those shifts the day of, so it's not like I get to plan this shit out. 14yo I can leave unsupervised but 3yo I cannot, and she isn't tired enough to go to bed for the night 2-3 hours early. So I was responsible and watched my toddler i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 03:09 PM
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Yesterday, I saw a blind woman being walked down the sidewalk by a guide. They were fixing to cross the busy street. She had a walking cane. I thought, if she has the cane, why is she holding onto him? Then, it seemed to me that perhaps she just wanted guidance to cross the street. You can put me in her place. MRP's the guide. The street in this specific instance is my relationship with my son. Can I cross the street alone? Of course; there are plenty of aids available if I choose. Maybe I make …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:46 PM
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Suicide - A - no longer a consideration Good to still have you around man.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:05 PM
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my wife outearns me Why does this matter to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 02:02 PM
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We all get there at some point if we choose.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 01:39 PM
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That's precisely the point. Show me what I'm not seeing. I'm not seeking approval. I'm looking for you assholes to pick it apart. Then I'll decide. Why live in ignorance?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 01:00 PM
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On the contrary, it's me handling situations I haven't been too good with in the past. Maybe more backstory than necessary, but entirely about me. We'll know for sure when /u/weakandsensitive arrives 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 12:42 PM
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As to deloading: I see this recommended a lot but personally I never got stronger by lifting less weight. I'm mixed here. I used to feel the same and felt deloading moved me backwards. But, my new program started off with doing less than my previous program. But, in three weeks I had far exceeded where I could've been on the previous program by 5-10%. I think it also has to do with beginners not understanding how to gauge the other factors involved. So many other variables can affect lifts; not …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:41 AM
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Should I deload and stay for a while with a weight where I'm able to maintain correct form, or stay at 210 lbs until I'm able to execute that perfectly? If your form sucks you can keep pushing but my PT has reiterated to me consistently he firmly believes lifting injuries come from nothing other than improper form. It makes sense to me (plus, he benches 600; who the fuck am I to argue?) My personal recommendation would be to record yourself if possible but develop body awareness so you know what…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:34 AM
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After the New Year I will be looking to tighten this down to 100%. There you go again. Six weeks in a row. You're not going to do shit, just complain about it. Let it go. I've been eating carbs to start growing muscle. That's not quite how it works. Protein helps build and preserve muscle. Carbs and fat are secondary and long as your calories are hit the ratio doesn't matter. Just do what you stick to. If I have a routine, I'm generally good at sticking to it Then it's not a routine, it's someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:21 AM
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Career I went over this a couple of weeks ago. As I've given it thought, I've decided to spend this year really focusing on coding. If I don't commit to this as planned, then I just have to accept the desire is not there. I feel in my current frame of mind, I will know for sure now, rather than trusting me way-back-then to make that decision. In the book Ultralearning, Scott Young writes about how he did a MIT Challenge in one year. I am going to give this a shot focusing specifically on program…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:11 AM
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Yearly OYS I want to take time to identify gains over the past year and areas that continue to need improvement. First OYS October 2, 2018 Week #11, January 8, 2019 Lifting Stats: - Age: 42y - Weight: 200lbs - BF: Fat and DGAF Of all the pieces, this is my gold star. Estimated gains (1RM) in lifts: - Squats: +180lbs - BP: +40lbs - DL: +130lbs While I understand my lifts one year ago where largely beginner gains and strenghtening muscle that already existed, I physically can see fat has been repl…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:10 AM
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OYS "Why did you put my golf bag in the middle of the garage?" I was doing finishing touches in the garage. She and Step-Son had just returned from NOLA and the shit-tests began immediately. This is routine. "I thought it might look better there." "Well, then I'm moving your bag over there, too." "I'd put it at the end of the driveway," I responded for whatever reason. So, she did. She came back and continued going on about something but I went into STFU-mode. I had little room to work with and …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 10:05 AM
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Still sounds needy. A woman will do what she can to pull you out of your mission. It's not the mission women find attractive. Its your relentless desire to prevent others from modifying it, including her. She will fuck with you forever to seek assurance your mission is solid regardless what she or others do. If she wants to fuck before you leave for work but you're running late, think she'd be happier with a quickie or you leaving with nothing?
/r/askMRP30/12/19 09:24 PM
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When he figures it out an angel gets its wings.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 08:43 PM
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So, what are you going to do about it?
/r/askMRP30/12/19 08:35 PM
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How the fuck you been following him for years if he's only been here 10 months?
/r/askMRP30/12/19 07:06 PM
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He'll have his own show on TLC soon. That ain't a compliment.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 07:03 PM
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That you think any of this means a damn thing says more about you.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 07:01 PM
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OP's been a train wreck forever demonstrating no desire to put in the effort. He's the guy others look to and think, "I thought I had it bad, but this mother fucker..." I'd rather watch the drama shit my wife watches.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 06:51 PM
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GPS, faggot. Get that shit implanted
/r/askMRP30/12/19 06:44 PM
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It bothers you because you're weak. Work on that first.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 01:46 PM
2

This is the advice I cum for.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 02:15 PM
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lol, I've seen the massage table porn. I might be down if I can get it to height. Kitchen counter and bed really works the calves. Couch hits those quads solid. If the table can hit glutes and hammies I'll have leg day covered.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 10:11 AM
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You caught me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 02:21 AM
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http://reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/eeyl35/own_your_shit_weekly_december_24_2019/fbxq3da
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 10:34 PM
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Ok, cereal is just being retarded. Check out Thinking in Bets. Really helped me think through decision-making better and being confident with the results regardless the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:14 PM
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You're pointing out you think too much then say you're going to give it more thought. Just make a decision and do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:01 PM
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I was thinking I need to know exactly what’s wrong with me before I take action to fix it, I’m usually that way, I have a need to figure things out and I like to know the reasons behind things. That can be a form of procrastination. Im going to give this a lot more thought... Do you see this?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 06:42 PM
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All you're doing is modifying a habit. Not being committed is the habit you currently have. Get 8 hours but be in bed for 9 hours. It takes time to fall asleep but it will become easier as you develop the habit. So, if you go to bed at 10, prepare to fall asleep around 11. Wake up at 7. If you need to wake up earlier, go to bed earlier. Do this consistently every single night. Friends want to go out? Cool, go out until a couple hours before bedtime. After a while you can make exceptions; one nig…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 04:38 PM
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Five weeks ago: Go to bed, no phone, by 9pm every night. (Hard) Fail 3 nights, plus 2 nights I got home too late from work. Four weeks ago: Go to bed, no phone, by 9pm every night. {Pass 1 night, fail the rest} Three weeks ago: Go to bed, no phone, by 9pm every night. {Pass 4 nights, Fail 3 nights} Two weeks ago: Going to bed, no phone, by 9pm every night is proving very difficult for me to execute consistently. I'm contemplating pushing the "hard time" back to 10pm, with a daily preference for …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 04:01 PM
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What is your nightly routine before bed? Phone, tv use, winding down, etc...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 02:17 PM
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After mentioning in my last OYS how I wasn't challenged in my job, I was given payback and then-some. Getting financials in order before end of year and we had numerous issues. Some were created by me via ignorance. Some issues were created by others not paying attention to details. Add to that we were working with people halfway across the world and many of our people were on vacation, it's been a hectic EOY. Still not finished but hoping for final resolution tomorrow. This gives me a great opp…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/19 04:38 PM
2

Yea, every Tuesday you're Willie while MRP is Craig and Smokey
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 01:30 PM
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My mind was burning to get into the old "Why do you have to take control of fucking everything?" but I didn't do it. Yea but she still may have seen it; little lip curl, cocked eyebrow, clinched jaw, standing up straighter, etc. Instead, think baseball or ravaging her pussy. "God, I could fuck the shit out of you right now." DO NOT EVER criticize me or belittle me in front of my children again This doesn't mean shit. Think of relevant consequences then enact without warnings. If you've been doin…
/r/askMRP21/12/19 03:51 PM
1

Look into RPE1 and autoregulation. 1 That link uses a 6-20 scale but can be simplified
/r/askMRP21/12/19 10:51 AM
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Assuming you got the Kindle version, you can highlight then go to read.amazon.com/notebook and export your highlights. There's a Chrome plugin available to import to evernote though I didn't like it and it's not free
/r/askMRP20/12/19 07:55 PM
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Noob gains will take you well into a year. Zero need to change your program unless you're bored. When you find recovery starts taking a bit longer and its not sleep, diet, stress related, then start considering a new program. No need to overthink right now.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 07:49 PM
1

Legit thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 10:24 AM
1

Well, bestiality is certainly a new one around these parts
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 05:08 PM
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We already knew you had special needs but why bring your kid into this?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 04:43 PM
1

Gosh, I mean, if it'll really help me get my dick sucked...thanks, mister!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 04:20 PM
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Lol, you're right, it keeps me up at night. How shall I go on...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 01:00 PM
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The hard ones are only that way because you are still a faggot give zero fucks about pushing them.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 12:51 PM
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Damn good point, sir. Maybe I need to just accept it as a hobby.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 07:19 PM
1

The only thing my wife has been adamantly against is cumming on her face. Well, and I guess ATM as well. Pushing her boundaries has been fun as long as I respect the hard ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 07:13 PM
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Well done! It'll take longer than a few days and still occasionally you're gong to have to get up. Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't pressure yourself and just accept it's part of the process. The hard part will be waking up on schedule and wondering if that hard-on is because you want to fuck or you have to piss really bad. Decisions, decisions...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:00 PM
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A concern here should be how much the job weighs on improving other areas. As I mention, i get several positive aspects out of my negative (or, neutral) job. The job doesn't weigh on me doing other things. If you're not getting this it can be a disadvantage. Imagine lifting on poor sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 12:06 PM
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Yes, I should've written it better. The best way...
/r/askMRP18/12/19 10:52 AM
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Look up Peter Attia. He's into this shit. Short answer, seems so
/r/askMRP18/12/19 10:51 AM
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I'm afraid of getting divorced Ok cool despite being single without a girlfriend ... get pre-marital counseling You do this and you deserve divorce rape. The only way to reduce risk is to not take it. So, enjoy being single. A prenup will reduce but you better have strong game and frame else she'll suck you right out of it. So ima say that's a no for you dog. Why do you care right now anyway? You're preparing for the NFL draft and you don't even play. Get to college first then swing by.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 01:26 AM
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I’ve been able to maintain a pretty lean physique without doing any cardio at all whatsoever for the last 2 years. However, even if I can do 10x3, for example, I don’t want to be hindered by cardio as opposed to muscle fatigue similar to how I want to improve my grip strength so I’m not failing due to shit grip instead of muscle fatigue. All I’m doing is adding in a mile of running to my routine a few days a week. I can’t even run a mile non-stop right now, and I’d like to fix that. Once I can g…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:10 PM
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Damn. That's a bit close. I think my big fear right now is walking away wondering if I really gave it my all. I don't feel I have otherwise I wouldn't hesitate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:08 PM
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But how did/do you know you're done with this mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:22 PM
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Yea walking that treadmill for an hour can help you... What are you doing that's killing you? As a smoker for near 30 years I just recently belted out 10x3's (edit: with 1 minutes rests) for 80% erm. Gassed, yes. But finished. Are you saying you can't breath? I'll leave to you to figure which comment is sarcasm...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 10:11 PM
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"Why do you need to walk him to the bus stop every morning?" Why not try to give his more thought and instead of attacking her (you did), start a conversation and lead her to this conclusion. She thinks it's her idea, you get what you want, no issues. She wasn't hamstering, she was defensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 06:49 PM
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Hit send too early on the other. I feel like I could have Ramboed and just left, but what kind of first impression is that? Do you not have boundaries? Besides being Nice Guy, what possible reason was there for you to stay and satisfy these people? I am very self-aware that I don’t want to fall into her frame. But you did anyway. Don't be ashamed to be Mr. Goes To Bed at 8 pm Saturday. Fuck anyone who takes issue with it. You make exceptions on your own terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 06:28 PM
2

I need to prioritize getting my back better. When you going to stop talking and start doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 06:25 PM
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That's fine. I'd imagine you have rest periods in between. If the opportunity presents itself, take advantage. When the rest is up, say, "let me go hammer this set, catch ya later." Do what you need to do. Don't force shit. But don't let fear force it either. Be patient and it'll be good. You got this.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:23 PM
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How do you make friends? By interacting with people. Don't be a retard and deliberately seek friendship out of everyone you talk to. At some point you're bound to come across someone though that really clicks. You never know. Don't neglect opportunities. In my gym alone there's 3 guys I could chill with for beers outside. And I got a small ass gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:11 PM
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There's back story I've missed apparently so to clarify my other comment I'll give an example. My wife likes laying her head in my lap. This is fine. I don't expect her to suck me off or fuck me after. She finds it comforting and it doesn't stop me from doing whatever the hell I'm doing. I don't sit down and say or motion for her to put her head on my lap. Even if I think she wants to. This seems to be the issue you're struggling with distinguishing. If I'm wrong about that feel free to correct …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 03:04 PM
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Dude, you just fucking said, I go to the gym in the morning before work, but don't have any significant time to socialize there or I'll be unable to complete my workout and make it to work on time Stop fucking making excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 02:53 PM
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I think you're going about this all wrong. You're never out of play socially unless you choose to be. You can choose to work it into any part of your life; elevator, walking down street, waiting to be sat at a restaurant. There are dozens of opportunities every day to be social. But my wife doesn't know about any of that This has ZERO to do with our topic. There's 3 or 4 she's in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 02:48 PM
1

Ultimately it's your life and you have to decide, act and adjust based on the feedback as you see fit. If your current path is benefiting you, fuck what I say. You decide.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 12:56 PM
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I've neglected to post much about career largely because there have been no changes. As I feel other more important areas of my life are coming into agreement, I do need to start bringing more focus here. I haven't completely ignored it and this is something I've found myself struggling with. My current position does not give me a sense of purpose. Despite making good money, anyone could do it. That makes me vulnerable. There is no challenge. I've sucked it up because it's not really a source of…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 12:51 PM
1

If you want to give comfort, give it. If you expect anything in return, remove your expectations. Comfort is security many women, and obviously your wife, enjoys. If she misbehaves, remove it. Otherwise, be generous.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 12:25 PM
1

Part of that won't be solved as it's me waking to urinate - at least two times a night Much of this is habit. Been there. Previous routines have your brain set to recognize that feeling triggering an alert to wake up and deal with it. What worked for me was just ignoring it. If I had a bad day, I.e., chugging water at the gym, I might wake up once now. Generally though it'll be around my normal wake up time. Just try to ignore it when you can, tell your body its okay to wait, and fall back aslee…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:59 AM
1

shop showing comfort Explain
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:51 AM
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does anyone have any suggestions for a 4 day a week program to kick off my gains next year? I'm sure you can find plenty in the fitness reddit. Powerliftingtowin.com did a series analyzing various programs but with an emphasis on pl. Still, some programs should be beneficial. Do the program you'll stick to. Modify it as you wish.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:49 AM
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I'm not there yet in Dread levels while actually being around the wife. She wouldn't feel it as a loss yet to cut the rope (divorce). I need more time to build my body and my frame for active Dread to be effective. What does any of this have to do with social? And here's a little hint: active dread is counterproductive nor requires you building your body. Dread is a seed of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 11:41 AM
1

Just look for men's t clinics. In my area they're all over the place
/r/askMRP16/12/19 09:21 PM
5

The tren may be chilling it. Be careful what you ask for.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:47 PM
2

Idiots: if I prevent my wife from flirting with this guy for sure she'll never cheat. Wife: I'm fucking this dude soon as my husband isn't around. Take the L. Move on.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 03:00 PM
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Even if you wanted, you couldn't 100% of the time. It's a waste of energy better spent on bringing value that can't be easily replaced. If it is, accept it and move on.
/r/askMRP15/12/19 06:58 PM
8

/u/RedRanger207 was on it, you're autistic af. Embrace it.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 02:22 PM
12

You are a shitty communicator
/r/askMRP14/12/19 02:59 AM
1

Still implies she sees value in him, no? Edit: I get the caution of the wording.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 07:57 PM
1

I like your style. I knew that alter bridge link would go to blackbird. Beautiful fucking song
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 10:14 PM
1

Welcome to marriage. At some point you need to suck it up, accept it, take your life into your own hands, stop being treated like a hostage and move on. Until you demonstrate you can do that nothing will change and she knows it.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 02:17 PM
1

Then what are you doing here? Other than wasting everyone's time?
/r/askMRP11/12/19 12:27 PM
1

Last night my wife took him to hobby lobby to get school supplies. He asked me but I thought the opportunity would be better if she go and they may talk. He didn't bring it up, which of course is fine. The entire night he was in good spirits. Great, actually. I've been teaching him how to cook, he did his chores, no issues. His mood changed considerably when she called. I gave him a hug, "good night. Love you." Went to bed. That was that. I'll be patient. I can do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 11:57 AM
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My wife pulled this shit till one day I signed the papers giving everything to her. She never saw it through.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 02:25 AM
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Thanks Chuck. I'll read over this again
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 07:38 PM
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Meaning, he can't (or doesn't) trust me. But you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:31 PM
1

Probably cause everyone else was dying off
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:21 PM
1

I remember a while back /u/weakandsensitive suggested /u/rocknrollchuck take some time away. He was posting regularly like you are if I recall. It can lead to negative energy if you're not careful. Most things in life are more enjoyable. Absence often allows things to become clear.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:18 PM
1

RATM became every fucking band since.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:04 PM
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I'm scared. I did the self mutilating, attempted suicide bit. I lost friends over suicide. It took a month in a mental hospital for me to realize how fucking good I had it. I don't want that for him. All I want to do is tell him everything will be fine and he trust me. I can't. Like I said, I don't disagree. I know I can't change the past. That it's on me makes it 10x worse. I don't do well with things I can't control. I used to discard it. That's not an option obviously.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 05:03 PM
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We are having to budget only $200/kid this Christmas My $0.02: fuck all that. I did a quiz with the family earlier this year: tell me what I bought you for Christmas last year. This was in response to something someone here told me last year. Their answers: they struggled to remember. Wife remembered the pans because at the time she saw it as a slight. She eventually remembered the running shoes. Shoes. We're not doing gifts this year. It was my request and after explanation, they bought in. Wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:14 PM
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I know you mean well. And I'm not disagreeing. Hearing my son hit himself does not seem like something I can just be patient with and "trust the process". Even if that is the best there is, I still demand more. That's a fault. So be it. Doesn't make it more or less hurtful.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 03:18 PM
2

Nothing More is a good band. They have a lot of good workout songs. Flaw, Chevelle, Danko Jones, Halestorm, Otherwise, Red Line Chemistry
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 02:51 PM
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I'm in agreement (except ffdp, fuck them)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 02:39 PM
1

FFDP and Slipknot might be on the heavier side, don't ya think?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 02:29 PM
1

Great, we've established for the thousandth time the "how we got here", still looking for the "how we get out of here."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 01:41 PM
1

I attended a powerlifting meet over the weekend. To be honest, as a spectator it was quite boring. However, I did learn some things I'll need to keep in mind. I really liked the overall atmosphere. My initial prejudice was most everyone would be young and relatively strong. The population was much more diverse in both age and strength than I expected. It seemed to be highly supportive as well. I'm sure every man or woman that was doing a lift was getting screams of encouragement when they would …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 01:17 PM
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I've never tried to give it that much thought. I just want to get that mother fucker up asap. I have noticed I tend to pull on the bar during my ascent, like in trying to lift myself up. It's so fucking weird and I don't catch it till after.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 09:56 PM
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I see no need for wraps on squats, and yes I have tried. I didn't get that either. And I always wear my plug during lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 08:58 PM
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Without even a low effort lifting post to fill in the time. I was going to then I got sidetracked. Fine...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 08:50 PM
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If she leaves over it, the quicker the better.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 11:39 PM
2

It's none of her business before she found out. Now, for whatever reason, she suspects or knows. I see no advantage not being straight forward.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 10:17 PM
0

She didn't ask you to abruptly leave work to buy her tampons. She opened the door to build a fountain of honesty and you made it dishonest. Now if you're at the store and she says, "you going to steal that?" or "steal that for me", slap that shit down. That's a boundary. Don't over complicate it.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 08:26 PM
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Possibly but in my wife's case she tested positive for the brca 1 gene. She had an oopherectomy to be proactive with she claimed killed her drive. As I've improved myself so has her drive. But she can't take hrt as multiple doctors have told her it'd negate the surgery.
/r/askMRP07/12/19 04:32 PM
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Why not just tell her?
/r/askMRP07/12/19 02:12 PM
1

Did all the retards break out of a hospital overnight?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 04:39 PM
1

She's wearing the plug or you? I like the wireless vibrators but the antenna tickles my balls
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 03:05 PM
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Dread isn't going to do shit right now with this fool. She doesn't give a fuck and probably would welcome someone taking him of her hands. The throwing shit is because he allows it to escalate. Yea, he can divorce her. But he's just going to end up making some other woman miserable. They have a kid together. Might as well stay together and fuck up the kid too.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 03:02 PM
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I doubt this post will stay up but because I have time to kill I'll respond. I could shorten this diatribe to one paragraph. "I'm a great fucking catch my Asian wife is a bitch. Tell me I'm awesome and she's an Asian psycho." I still look young for my mid 30s, stay in shape, don't drink or smoke, no real vices to speak of, straight arrow, I have a decent job that pays the bills and puts food on the table, no debt, and I'm an overall nice person that's easy to get along with. Welcome to MRP, Stua…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 02:36 PM
1

Makes sense. One of my friends issues is he was heavily invested in a small naval town. Then they closed the base... Stay strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 01:00 PM
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It’s more about what you are interested in and know how to do. This is no doubt the key and if you understand it and love it, more power to you. I had trouble managing emotions in a trade. I'd fucking have a heart attack if I couldn't get a piece of property rented. Gym friend recently opened a pet store in a new neighborhood. His third in that market (pet stores). If I recall correctly he's already $1M in debt, anticipated $8k in profits per month and so far only doing $1k. Stressing the fuck o…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 11:33 AM
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It's just a shit test dude. Stfu or tell her about pregnancy fucking and get her a porn hub account
/r/askMRP05/12/19 11:22 PM
1

This was a huge reason I learned trading over flipping. I had somewhat of a mentor doing this then he lost his shit, sold most what he had and moved away. Then i met a swing trader who wasn't killing it during the downturn, but managing to float. Agility saved his ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 03:03 PM
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This is actually a very similar conversation to the one I had with my wife a couple of weeks ago. She had commented that she had a fear I'd leave her for a younger woman. I didn't respond right away (thankfully she mentioned it as I was heading to work, literally walking out the door). Obviously I recognized the comfort test aspect but more importantly the need to be honest (which lead to other discussions). Effectively it was, "Yes, we're getting better. Things are improving. But we have a long…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 09:05 PM
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I know I can be slow so I've given this a day to reflect and I still don't get it...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 08:31 PM
1

Appreciate that. Doing it on my own is more valuable than the money. This last week being a great example. Since we went out of town I had to OD prior, so to speak, and got my next shot last night (I normally do weekly on Saturdays). Well, because of that I can't take my hcg until Fri. Except Dr is closed this Saturday for some reason meaning I have to get my shot Friday which means have to push hcg back another 3 days. Basically just a pain in the ass. I prefer doing things on my own schedule.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 05:06 PM
1

I do not do my own but happy to get more info if you don't mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 04:10 PM
1

So I ran the bench last night with dumbbell rows, lat pull downs and ohp. I was in a rush so figure I'd superset all of it. Lol, oops. Kicked my ass. BUT, I was still able to do it all. I found that interesting. Go get it!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:50 PM
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The guy that runs powerlifting to win did a big series evaluating programs. I wouldn't say this program was rated the best, but he did praise it. Then i started reading about Candito himself and, damn. Dude doesn't look like he can lift what he lifts. That's my objective. That the program seemed easy to understand was the deciding factor.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 12:00 PM
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E2 is 35.81 pg/ml
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 01:34 AM
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Hitting the Enter key would be a great fucking exercise to start
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 11:40 PM
2

So would you say everything is gay? I've seen that before. Cant quite place it....
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:24 PM
1

I'm running Candito's six week program in three cycles right up to meet. Basically that sixth week I'll take a few days off, test on Tues or Wed, take rest of week off and restart. For sure I don't want to do the meet without full rest so not doing anything then. Just try to set my targets versus what I think i can do and go from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:08 PM
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It's an option. That, rest, or deload for the week. Any reason why not? I did look at the schedule again and, if numbers hold, my total should be approximately 1,007lbs. Edit: the only week I was planning rest is the week of the meet.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:06 PM
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/u/crumpleduppapertowel, if these are your kids they're young enough to build a solid foundation. The older they get, the harder it becomes. If you wait to change, you see them doing all the stupid shit you used to do. And there won't be a damn thing you can do about it. What's more important?
/r/askMRP03/12/19 03:42 PM
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Don't need any of these outlandish devices. I have a nightly routine. I do it, i sleep well. In bed by 8, up usually around 4/4:30. I used to use blue light blockers but haven't needed them as I don't watch tv, play on phone much before bed, if any. I do sleep with ear plugs. Gun range plugs you can get a year supply (change them twice a week) for $10. No excuse for lack of sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 02:55 PM
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[x] Bought tickets to ballet. [x] Got membership to powerlifting federation [x] Registered for meet The final three things I had planned are done. Step-Son will be attending ballet with us so it will be a full family affair. Next weekend taking Wife and Son and his GF to go ice skating. Began new lifting program yesterday. My tested PR's 360 squats, 215 BP with a 2-second hold, and 365 deadlift. I'll be competing raw. I was losing motivation somewhat in my lifting, perhaps getting bored. Getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 12:47 PM
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What's to make peace with? You're insecure. Question is, why do you care?
/r/askMRP02/12/19 04:11 PM
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Seven months ago you posted... I responded to you with this... How the fuck did you remember this?
/r/askMRP28/11/19 02:55 PM
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There's nothing wrong with cardio. Cardio will burn muscle which is why lifters generally are against it. The best workout plan is the one you'll do. I'm not sure you'd get a lower heart rate lifting heavy for an hour versus cardio for 30 minutes.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 02:22 PM
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Read the link I posted.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 01:24 PM
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Lift update: Squats 325 Felt fine. May have bounced too soon. 350 Again felt good. Bounce felt very good. 360 A little struggle. Hit the bounce but rebound was tough. 370 Fail. Bench Press 200 Pass. At least a 2 second hold. Slight struggle coming up 205 Pass. Better than first. Certainly 2 second hold 215 Pass. Hold good. Small struggle going up but relatively smooth Dead lift 355 Struggle but good and controlled 365 Good but hard af. Form may have slightly caved back. 370 No attempt. Felt shar…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/19 01:14 AM
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I don't know who Matthews is nor have I read anything into his book other than comments from others around here. That said, I'd imagine Matthews is probably already pretty fucking built and into selling some shit. You're at 18% BF so I assume you probably want to get at least under 15%, correct? So you need to lose fat. Problem is your body is going to consume fat AND muscle. That's not good. What we want to do is lose fat and BUILD muscle. For that, we need to lift and give our body the protein…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:43 PM
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I think it's one of those sexual non-binary category things. I can't keep up.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:18 PM
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You're already fucking up your macro intake and you're worried about when to starve and when to eat? How about you focus on the basics first for a few months before tweaking? Edit: Look, your protein intake is not negotiable. You really need to be doing around 1.5g/lb. At 152 that's 228g. 1g of protein is 4 calories so that's 912 calories. You want a 2250 calorie diet? Fine. 2250 - 912 is 1338. So, of the remaining you want a carb-friendly diet? Fine, do 60/40. 1g of carb is 4 calories. 1g of fa…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 08:22 PM
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I didn't say I was angry. Just not going to argue. It was a calm adult conversation. I want to be open to things that may demonstrate anger because I have had a tendency of hiding it. I'll always listen.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 07:59 PM
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No, it was quarantined or something.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 06:41 PM
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There are two issues I know I need to address (in general). First is lack of congruence. At the risk of coming off like a bitch, I've felt like I had to change every fucking aspect of my life. All the "core" areas; lifts, social, career, game, financial, etc. Fine. Bring it. But, I can't give equal concentration to every thing. It went from career to family back to career and back to family with finances and lifting thrown in there because fuck me. Within these macro groups, the many micro group…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 06:39 PM
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I agree; in the future, not today. I'm guilty, too. I recognized it. She didn't. Today, we're aligned.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 05:54 PM
1

Juan Soto just celebrated his 21st birthday.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 05:40 PM
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But you didn't need to. Its already been done. Twice. Look in trp.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 05:37 PM
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She's on board. I'm not worried about that. I don't treat it as a success or failure. I see it as fucked up I've allowed it to get to this point. It was honestly one of the better conversations we've had in a long time. We got a shit ton - seemed like everything - out in the open. For that, it was a success. That it took all of this, it was a failure. I see it as me putting my foot down for myself and her and stating clearly where I'm going and what I want. Not in an aggressive manner. And, IMHO…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 04:27 PM
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If I recall correctly, it's the new reddit template. You can still use the old one (as I do). How do I know? I Googled it.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 03:58 PM
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Our entire discussion was with the purpose of me addressing my expectations. Should the scenario occur again, yes, I can address it as your example demonstrates. This was a, "these are things we do that we have to correct." If it was a shitty example in that scenario, so be it. In the moment I couldn't think of another example that would drive home the point. When she started tearing up is when I knew I had to cut it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 03:56 PM
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Shall I share my patreon?
/r/askMRP26/11/19 03:17 PM
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"I know what I'll say! I'll say this really hurtful thing as a disguise to hurt her! Oh shit it worked! Oh just kidding, bitch. Hahahahaha" This is not at all what was going through my mind. But your response to what I said would be another example of my original intent.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:37 PM
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Give me an example.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:35 PM
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How would you have attempted to make the point?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 02:08 PM
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That's about it. Good job. Thanks for coming!
/r/askMRP26/11/19 01:10 PM
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Lifts I've decided to run the Candito 6 week strength program which I'll run three times going into my April meet. I'm treating this week as a rest week with the exception of going in tonight and testing my maxes in a manner as close to a meet as possible. I'll test squats first, 350x3x1. I'll increase each rep based off how I feel the previous. I broke 200 on BP this week. My test tonight will start at 220. My DL will start at 360. The meet is still dependent on my registering within the federa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 12:56 PM
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You were fine until So in 6 months when I'm doing the same thing at 225lbs, IDGAF then either because I'm doing what I have to do to get strong. This may be the situation for advanced lifters. You're not. If I had to do it again I'd hire my PT sooner. I tried to figure it out on my own. I couldn't. Once he got involved I took off. In about a month two months I went from 135 to breaking 200 Friday. For intermediates and novices you should never stall for 6 months. I think even 3 is too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 11:26 AM
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But then it occurs to me that my parents need me. Yes, I too think of my parents when I'm down. Fuck the children, amirite!
/r/askMRP25/11/19 06:12 PM
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HAVE YOU BEEN PAYING ATTENTION!?!?! 😂 I just got my ass reamed for not being clear with my expectations (rightfully). Fuck beating around the bush. You might very well be right. But I'm not in that mindset right now. I've always seen NI as a way of playing games. I'd prefer just to be straight forward. We kind of went through the same when she found out I was talking to other women. Just get it out. Edit: I see its usefulness with shit tests. Still, I'd prefer stfu or AA.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 05:20 PM
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A lot to take in. Briefly, this wasn't the overt example I was thinking. That came later out of nowhere (during the argument) that I need to stop looking when I'm out with her or our friends, that it's disrespectful, etc. I didn't reply immediately but later would basically say yes, im going to look. "Do you fantasize about them?" Yes, sometimes I think, "man, she looks like she'd be a good fuck," but when I'm fucking you? No. There was also the, "I have a fear when I get older you're going to l…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 04:19 PM
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If I see a motherfucker in here that complains about anything and is not squatting 1x BW I will be coming for you. TFW you realize you had a target on your back and didn't know it. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 03:17 PM
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Ok, so maybe in a bit lost here. Can you elaborate more? The most recent example is, we were walking into the grocery store and there was a very cute woman ahead in yoga pants. Yes, I was checking her out. But I also changed direction (which happened to be the direction she was headed) because that's where I needed to go. Wife starts shit testing me right then and there, that I cut her off while walking, it's disrespectful, yada yada. I ignored it. What's to validate?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 03:07 PM
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I don't think it's quite like that. It's an easy assumption, sure. I'm giving it thought and hopefully I can address it better next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 01:20 PM
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I know this. I didn't want calm retorts. I wanted vengeance. I wanted pain. Now, tell me why and then we'll be making progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/19 11:47 AM
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I was certain you'd have that shit automated. Real men use AWS and Slack.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 09:56 PM
3

And who the fuck keeps track of who asks the most favors?
/r/askMRP20/11/19 08:50 PM
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When you want to and it's not an inconvenience. Do you really need a fucking book for this?
/r/askMRP20/11/19 08:48 PM
1

I do that it puts me a month out from the meet. What would the prep program be like?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 04:19 PM
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Last sets. DL: 335x3x5 -4 (only one rep in last set), est rm 377 BP: 190x3x5, 214 Squat: 325x3x5 -2, 366
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 03:32 PM
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Of the three main? 840lbs Edit: that's based on my lifts doing 3x5's so a true PR given the rules will vary.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:11 PM
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I consider none of this a victory. Just an unnecessary set back. I had a moment of clarity last night, i think. It wasn't about the bag. And I'm really not sure she did do it out of spite (she claims no). I think there may be some lingering resentment here that I've (consciously or not) ignored. There have been a lot of things she has said over the years about him that have pissed me off. That he'd never want to live with me. That he's a momma's boy. That he's mentally weak. If I remember correc…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:10 PM
1

I don't know where it comes from but I've always been like this. I still talk to an old boss but only on a professional level. I've never asked to just go out and get a beer. Something I need to get over, for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 11:47 AM
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So, credit to my son, he borrowed one from his gf. He can figure things out when he wants to.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 11:45 AM
1

I think it has a relevance to everything. Every decision we make is based on a habit. It's not as simple as just saying, "I want to stop smoking." How many times have we said that and not? (FYI, I smoked myself for over 25 years). It's about recognizing the signs - cues - that lead to that moment and changing course. It's about putting yourself in a position where when that moment approaches your default reaction is...whatever; meditate, gym, read, etc. I did an elementary introduction some time…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 11:40 AM
1

I would say we definitely in the overt stage but I haven't backed down. I haven't really comforted her either.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:06 AM
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Oh, and he suggested recording my lifts and studying every one. Sounds gay but fuck it. Got the tripod in today.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:02 AM
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He says in our "league" it's 2 seconds tops. I tried that at 155 and got my ass kicked. Granted I was doing 3x10's. This is definitely a concern.. Squat depth won't be an issue. I don't go atg but maybe split the difference. Regarding program, he only does BP so I'll be finding my own. He said the same about unloads. Sounds odd but I'm game. Any suggestions on a program? ...looks like you're getting flamed about a bag though. That sounds like it was pretty gay. Lol, come join the party pal!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:00 AM
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Honestly my gut is fuck it, not my problem. But I'll admit after the fight a few weeks ago I pulled the throttle back considerably so he can catch up; maybe too much. I want to push it but with caution. And I haven't figured out how yet. There's A concern of, "asshole dad is back."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 10:09 PM
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If we define fights as you have, been there. But been a while too. Micro-fights is good. Or, tantrums. What do you mean by nip that shit? How? She's giving me shit today about staring at women in public in her presence. This one's been going on quite some time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 10:03 PM
1

This was really the issue I was debating first. Generally I give him the "you're lack of planning doesn't constitute an emergency on my part. " speech. And, if he needed it to stay at a friend's house I'd tell him to use a grocery bag. But he's going out of town for several days. To me it was suck it up, fix it, let it go. I didn't expect wife to say no.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:29 PM
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Aren't you the guy who keeps making promises and then doesn't do jack shit about them? 🖐 That's me. I'm working on that. and repeatedly act like a fucking retard That too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:25 PM
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The fights have been going on for years. We really shouldn't have stayed together and I think we both know that. But I decided earlier this year I'd fix my shit and then see where she is/we are then and go from there. Largely things have been very good for quite some time whereas we used to fight once or twice a month. If I am keeping a score I don't feel like it or see it. I we disappointed she was unwilling to take on one simple task to make things a little easier. Just felt like a let down.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:21 PM
1

I've recommended this plenty before but will do so again: Atomic Habits by James Clear.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 07:01 PM
2

I agree. And further to /u/InChargeMan's comment, had I just gone and taken it it would've escalated the situation and she'd be throwing bigger fits in front of my son. Not worth it. But this has always been an issue in our marriage. She doesn't see things that way. And for reasons I understand and reasons I don't (nor care to). It just hasn't been enough for me to justify leaving. It's evidence. But not enough on its own. Not for now anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:57 PM
1

But the core issue is your son needed a bag. It really isn't, man. I'm not going to keep rehashing this shit. I acknowledge it could've been handle better. And maybe next time I'll treat a similar scenario different. This time, I knew what I was doing when I did it. And I accept it. If she forgot before she damn sure won't again. In my life, my family will take care of each other and support one another. My life. My rules. Don't like it? Bye.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:49 PM
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This is honestly how I feel. As I just commented elsewhere, she specifically did it because he waited until the last minute. Well, yea, that's what he does. And when appropriate I'll call him out when he does that. But he 's leaving tomorrow right after school. He needs a bag tonight. So now I have to not only deal with the actions of a son that didn't plan ahead but a wife that isn't accommodating over something so simple. If he loses or damages the bag I'll replace it. (And she's not worried b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:32 PM
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It's not about the damn bag. She did it out of spite because "he waited until the last minute". Well, so fucking what?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:24 PM
1

lol, yea, fair enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:13 PM
1

How did I demonstrate it was bullshit?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:09 PM
1

I've always been clear with this from the day we married. Of things I admittedly have been wobbly one, this has never been one.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:41 PM
3

Because he's family But he's not is he? This itself is a very good point. Thank you for bringing that to my attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:29 PM
1

Much of this is fair. I knew before that my either/or condition wasn't fair or right. Nonetheless, I was willing to make my point. I'm comfortable with that. My life, my rules.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:23 PM
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I'll acknowledge I overreacted. It was highly disappointing and honestly saddened. I did talk with him before the conversation with Wife, asked him to use his backpack (he can't because the trip leaves from school immediately after) and try to think off other alternatives. I'll take him to the store tonight and we'll get the bag. Like I told her, it's not that I needed her to do this. But it would've made my life and his a little easier. She just made it an unnecessary hassle. And really for not…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 12:25 PM
4

Stop vaping. DONE! Holy Shit You're not done. You'll never be done. You'll be tested again and again and again... Recognize this and prepare for it. Have a system in place to fight it so when the urge strikes, a good solid habit will be there to back you up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 10:37 AM
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Lifts I was far too late signing up for the powerlifting meet next month. Apparently these things are settled months in advance and I missed that part of the discussions with my PT. However, there is another meet in April he will be competing in. It's unlikely I'll be able to train with him as his schedule is different but he will be sharing his routine with me and be around if I have any questions. In the meantime, the two of us and some others will be heading to the December meet. This will be…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 10:27 AM
3

So which one are you? He already answered this: I fucked up He's a whiny bitch that wants to put his hands in the cookie jar but cry when he gets slapped.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 11:41 AM
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Don't be a bitch about it either asking to smell her breath every time she comes back from mom's. If you happen to smell it, do what you need to do.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 12:27 AM
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You set the boundary so if she crosses it, move on. If she's only smoking a few every couple weeks she's not addicted. She's just making shitty decisions to follow the crowd which says more than the act of smoking.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 12:15 AM
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Lifting does not mentally challenge me like it used to. I was having a conversation with my PT last night; I was saying somewhat the same, that I don't know my end result. He said at one meet he saw a 72-year-old DL +500. He says, "I want to be that mother fucker. It's not a PR I want. I want to be the strongest mother fucker at my age."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 08:40 PM
1

You're allowing your wife to dictate the terms for a sexual life and throwing fits like a fucking baby. How is that attractive? when I couldn't take more, I take my wife and fuck her well. Why do you wait so long? I am tired of starfish. Who doesn't? But your wife knows you'll either take it or mope like a bitch, running to jitsu class so you can wrestle sweaty men. Then a week to 10 days of nothing as if she does not want it. All of your answers are in your post. Now I do not want either. So...…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 11:44 AM
1

In seriousness, how old is the aggressive one and what methods did you use to train her? I really think she's beyond it, just stubborn in her ways. C'est la vie.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 05:48 PM
2

TIL I'm in my grandma dog's frame. That bitch...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 05:30 PM
13

It's also made me more determined to get in shape myself Based on recent OYS's, no one here
/r/askMRP13/11/19 05:26 PM
1

8 think it's more, we fuck around with them here and there; like, she'll hit me getting them riled up, fucking around. At least with mine (I have two, one couldn't give less a shit, the other is the alpha dog of the house). Hers though, a poodle, has always been super protective. Very old dog. There have been times she's snapped and I retaliate (yell "no", "bad", pop her, etc.). Now, if she acts like she's going to get aggressive I can just put my hand in front of her face. She'll back down whin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 05:15 PM
1

You know what really fucks with things? We have three dogs. Two of which go nuts when we "fight". The other night I picked her up and carried her to bed. I was naked. And I was more worried about her dog biting my dick off. She's snapped at me before just coming close to her mother. I'm curious about any ideas overcoming this. We have been outside bedroom plenty and, at least once in the kitchen when son would've been waking up soon. But, the dogs... Edit: yes, I can lock dogs away prior. But th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 04:20 PM
3

I'm rushing through all of this to get something up so may add more - social and financial - later. Lifts Hitting the gym Friday's has been tough. I work every other Fri from home. I try to keep to my normal gym time which is ~5PM. For some reason, when that time comes around I have some fatigue or mindset issue. Most of my failures comes on Fridays. I didn't even go this past Friday. Took the day as do-whatever-the-fuck-I-want which meant Netflix and chill, and not the sexy kind. I'm okay with …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 02:57 AM
2

Exactly what is your elbow injury? After BP, chin ups, and occasionally ohp my elbow would be tender for a day or two. A neoprene sleeve fixed that. I don't know if it was tennis elbow or what but keeping that region warm helped a ton. Might as well get knees too. Neoprene. Nothing less..
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 01:17 AM
1

Just stop. Know what you never tell a quarterback during a game-winning drive? "Don't throw an interception." Know why? Despite my occasional mental lapses, I never think of injuries. I trust my body. If it happens, fuck it. Easier said than done, I know. But necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 04:21 PM
1

Part is mental and part is how you've trained you're motor skills. I find often when I fail it's because for a split second I let my guard down; some girl caught my eye or some shit song just came on. Boom, I'm out. Sometimes you're just moving too fast. When you're starting a rep it's easy to move at a quick pace but that pace gradually will slow. If you don't adjust you'll find yourself in awkward positions. Hell the other day I found I was finishing a squat on my entire right side. But that g…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 03:25 PM
19

many of it is not where I want it to be Your life is exactly where you want it to be. Accept it.
/r/askMRP10/11/19 12:02 PM
1

My barber says my hair is much thicker than when I started. I'm even growing that shit on my back but my wife will shave it when I ask. My nuts did shrink and they did ask if I was done having kids tho. I'll take it
/r/askMRP06/11/19 05:04 PM
1

Let me add: in my oys I mentioned how I struggled with BP for a long time. Let me tell you something: nothing feels more fucking embarrassing than trying to lift 135 (or whatever), getting stuck and having to fail safely, dropping the bar, unloading and doing it all again. Day. After. Day. The thought certainly crossed my mind someone was watching and how embarrassing. But never did I let that stop me. Fuck it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 11:54 AM
1

Yea I've seen you recommend this before. He's trying to get me to a meet next month. I'm still not 100% committed for no legitimate reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 11:08 PM
2

👍 His excitement about the game got me excited he was sharing it with me. Overanalyzing shit instead of just enjoying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 10:07 PM
1

Yea I'm not complaining. He doesn't have that option that I know. why do you do 10 sets? My PT's a power lifter. He suggested rotating to break plateaus. Don't recall his exact reasoning. I was actually doing that last year as part of the gzcl program except in that program failure means reducing reps. So, 3x10 goes to 3x8, 3x6, etc. I think for me that screwed me up. It just became one setback after another. I didn't know at the time my failure could be poor sleep, diet, stress, or just a bad d…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:59 PM
1

Addendum: he's been blasting my phone the last hour over the soccer game. Like he's wanting to share his excitement with me. He's never done that before. Was the sex thing an actual breakthrough? Am I over-thinking it? Nevermind. I know how retarded it sounds
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:34 PM
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Therefore, I’ve decided that my time and energy (which is a gift) is better spent elsewhere I just saw a video by some dude, Tyler-something, he was discussing this exact same topic. Talked about how he'd keep doubling down on someone he was trying to help only to keep getting fucked. In tee end he tied it back to boundaries and avoiding becoming invested. I want to be 185# / 9.5% by December 2021 Why did you pick this number? I've been thinking lately myself how far I want to push my lifts. But…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 08:30 PM
1

I hope you realize how important it is to stay out of his head. Elaborate? I really hope that's not the example you're setting for your family. Cheat for his birthday. I do TRF, mornings. My diet is on point with Saturdays being a cheat day, i.e. Steak and baked potato or something like that. Eggs, chicken, fish and sardines, and protein shake Su-Fri. Now, that being said, I have no idea what wife eats. We've discussed TRF but she hasn't implemented. Usually son will get fast food with girlfrien…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 07:40 PM
2

There's no itinerary. I'm not saying divorce. I'm saying one has nothing to do with the other. You're saying fear is the reason, therefore, abundance it's just an excuse. So then, what overcomes the fear? Is there a milestone? I can't see STFU and lifting being great objectives for stay or go or overcoming fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:44 PM
3

I’d then justify my actions to myself if I had found something. That's what I was looking for. Least you recognize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:19 PM
2

Why do you need abundance for stay or go? Afraid of being alone?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:16 PM
1

Lots of things cause low t including being 39 years old.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:15 PM
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At one point I took her phone for about 30 minutes, went through it and of course found nothing. I knew I fucked up immediately. If you had found evidence, would you still consider it a fuck up?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 05:07 PM
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Son "Dad, can you keep a secret?" When I first began my journey my morning routine was to anticipate the narrative with the wife. If I was caught off guard, I'd flail. If I could anticipate the narrative and think through the conversation and the varoius paths it could take, I found I would be more prepared for whatever she would bring. It wasn't a miraculous discovery. I just decided to pay attention. Since the blowout between my son and I a couple of weeks ago I knew I needed to do the same he…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 02:31 PM
2

I have been using some mindfulness/meditation techniques with some limited success. If you go into it expecting something you'll get nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 01:42 PM
1

And if I'm really being honest, I'm just worried about looking like a twat at the gym. I've been in the gym just over a year now. Only once did I really watch someone else working out. It was a kid who I happened to notice his form was poor and worked with him on it. In other words, no one really cares what you're doing. Take the attitude of, "If you're watching me today, stay tuned to see what I do tomorrow." I'm not going to give you advice or shit on your diagnosis. You have to figure that ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 12:30 PM
1

What's wrong with your back? You can't lift but you can do jitsu?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 11:48 AM
1

Bad ass man! 👍
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 02:06 AM
1

Wife didn't want to go the only way she will go is if she comes with me See the conflict? Why you give a fuck what she does anyway? Stop babying her.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 08:56 PM
1

I'm not familiar with your story but I went from like 170lbs to a 350lb Serious? Where are you now?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 08:24 PM
1

This sounds like the behavior of a passive aggressive 10 year old Well, he got it from me. I really didn't even know what passive aggressive was until, I think /u/manintheworld called me out on it some time back. Then it became easy to see things I was doing that most assuredly were passive aggressive. I've certainly been a weak leader (if even?) since he moved in a couple of years ago. I'm trying to be a leader now. As I was telling /u/weakandsensitive last week, I don't think I ever really had…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 06:56 PM
1

16
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/19 01:58 PM
2

She did ask at one point of out was like a cult. I replied, "You do not talk about fight club." She gave me a weird look while I laughed. I did point her to RPW but made it clear I had no expectations. All this is for me. She's a beneficiare, if she chooses.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:57 AM
1

I accept one of my core issues in my current relationship with my son is lack of compassion. If there is a reason for it, I don't know yet. I'm beginning to see even I lack self-compassion which I'm sure makes me an even larger asshole to him when I don't need to be. As a child his mother was very consoling and forgiving and did not want to be seen as "the bad guy." I took the latter role willingly. I thought I was on the right path when last year he had told me on father's day he was glad I pus…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 12:55 PM
1

Have you tried various periods like 16/8, 20/4? Any thoughts?
/r/askMRP26/10/19 12:07 AM
2

You make it sound like it's a bad thing.
/r/askMRP26/10/19 12:00 AM
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Every situation is different. Keep this in mind. Years ago my wife (then gf) and I were in a nasty fight. In short, I shoved her to the ground flat on her ass. This was the first time I had ever been physical with a woman in anger. She didn't know that. I immediately left the apartment, found a park bench and let out my emotions. I knew the cops would show any minute. But they never did. I apologized profusely. She said if I ever did it again I'd be dead. I never had any interest trying her (tho…
/r/askMRP25/10/19 08:13 PM
3

But it's my dick. How else do we learn STFU?
/r/askMRP25/10/19 03:03 PM
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Why do you have an issue with guys sucking their own dicks? I spent two years getting my neck extended. That shit was hard af. But when I'm getting busy and I catch my dog staring at me, I see his pride in me. And I know it was worth it.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 11:33 AM
1

Do you proof?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 06:13 PM
2

I have nothing against therapists. I've been to plenty and they all had positives and negatives. But you didn't specify how you found yours (nor do you need to). In other words, do you and they share the same beliefs? You wouldn't ask a rabbi how to go through catechism. A therapist can't help if you don't believe in the system. Really, what it comes down to is you need to do the work to identify the path and then identify the mentors that can guide you along. Otherwise it's a waste of time.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:52 PM
1

I had and they were why I changed my approach originally.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:24 PM
1

My OYS last week lead to trying to brainstorm ideas and solutions with current issues I'm having with my 16yo. He doesn't trust me, at least enough to desire conversing about topics that truly bother him. He's more than happy to talk about his day and often even go into great detail. But, if him and his girlfriend are fighting or one of his friends is giving him shit, I'll never hear it. /u/weakandsensitive and /u/rockandrollchuck both opined, and for that I am very grateful. There is an issue w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 02:02 PM
1

Well I know he doesn't trust me regarding these type of topics. I'd have to really think of other reasons he wouldn't trust me. I'm sure I have some ideas.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 04:39 PM
1

For me it just became finding the best qualities in them and trying to incorporate that into my life. The first guy mentioned wouldn't hesitate to tell you off and back it up, regardless who you were. That was solidified by another guy I met later. That basically showed me it was ok to be confident and maybe even a bit arrogant, as long as you can back it up. Doing things and not being afraid of the consequences: I think back to when we'd go out if I saw an attractive woman I'd make it obvious a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 04:02 PM
1

I'm really trying to give it thought. Gut response: I would say two instances. The first was my best friend who would become my boss. He certainly exhibited AMOG qualities but I can look back now and recognize beta tendencies: jealousy, anger, etc. His leadership skills? While I think he was admirable and I loved the hell out of him, I don't know if I can say he was a good leader. Maybe my close relationship with him blinds me in that aspect. So, the next choice would be another boss. He effecti…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 02:56 PM
1

I understand the gist of what you're saying. I guess the best way I can describe it is, when we talk about being leaders, we want to project calm. My incident Saturday night (original oys) being the perfect example. I knew if I started freaking out panicking then his wife would follow. So I needed to keep calm and act as if I'd been there before. In that situation, am i not being congruent? Or am I bringing her into congruence? This is how I saw the conversation with my son. It wasn't that I did…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 12:54 PM
1

I'm 5-0
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 04:51 PM
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I'm sure I have but can't think of specific scenarios. This actually reminds me something he and I discussed recently. He showed me a meme and I let out a half smile. I liked it. It wasn't hilarious but I thought it was funny. "Oh, I guess you didn't like it." I recognized that because I didn't bust out in laughter or maybe smile bigger he saw that as some type of affront. When we're playing video games, he gets loud, talking shit, emotional, etc. I'll get emotional sometimes ("I swear to God I …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 03:59 PM
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There's a little comfort. Am I going to pretend nothing happened? Of course not. I picked him up from his gf, I asked him to be quiet and let me talk. Essentially, I don't understand what you're going through. I get the gist, but that's it. I never cared about socializing though I had plenty of friends. I grew up in a military family so making friends and losing them became a lifestyle. I get it's important to him. I betrayed my word. I said I'd listen, I didn't, and for that I apologize. I don'…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 11:09 AM
1

Yea that was a shit comment. I don't think there's projecting. It's me not wanting the threats. I can deal with the crying. I'm ok with that. Threats of self-harm, yea I get very defensive. Been there. Not sure what you mean fear of dependence. He's 16. Like I told him, his mother's job was to raise a child. My job is to raise a man. Anyway, we're good for now. We talked and cleared the air then he chatted my ear off about school and what not. I know what I need to do. Just need to execute.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 01:30 AM
1

I'll never understand this fad
/r/askMRP16/10/19 09:02 PM
1

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." Some dude
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 07:01 PM
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You know what though? The other day I went in early and saw this guy quarter squatting 675. First I'm thinking, the fuck are you doing? Then it dawns on me, he's got 14 45lb plates. Who the fuck am I to question him?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 06:58 PM
1

This is why I love our gym time. It's really been a great opportunity to encourage him, see him challenge himself and succeed. I'm not saying I've never been negative. But there've been tons of pat-on-the-backs and good-jobs. I've tried to compliment him regularly with good test grades, ignore the bad one's. But he and I are so so so different socially. He seeks it. I couldn't give a fuck less. He wants to be seen. Be heard. I want to be quiet and observe. I just can't relate.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 06:38 PM
1

That's two gifts he won't be getting for his birthday and Christmas now I did away with that a couple months ago anyway. Thinking about it just didn't make any sense to me anymore, getting shitty gifts for people when they're expecting it then going back to normal. Fuck that. I explained to them I wanted us to be more spontaneous and have tried to lead the way. They got on board. So, yes, to your response, it was generous. Because it's money he should have saved to do something he's not required…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 06:07 PM
1

If I have to bribe my son to want to live then I need to accept W&S is right, that I suck as a father and never should've done it. Lesson learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:50 PM
1

I get that. But I see nothing but him becoming dependent on me to give, otherwise he'll throw a fit. I've been around them people. Fuck that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:48 PM
1

What you CAN do, however... I'm down with the overall idea but not the details. I think trading money for good behavior is a bad idea and I'm honestly surprised to hear you suggest that. He's still bent at me but just like last time, he'll get over it and we'll be talking and shit like nothing happened. What I need to figure out is a way to get him to talk to me, give me a chance, and just listen. I like what you mentioned in your other comment: Instead of pointing out the inconsistency, this wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:27 PM
1

I don't now why he got kicked out. He wouldn't go into detail and begged me not to email the teacher. I haven't shut the Bank of Dad down entirely. I've given him one loan which he paid back. My rule has been school supplies and living expenses, I cover. Anything extra is him. I have taken him to a movie, out to eat, and he had to come up with $280 for a field trip. Originally this was going to be a loan but I told him last night prior to the fight it was an early birthday/Christmas gift. I've e…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 05:07 PM
1

Of course. You're trying to help him but he's basically hearing "You're doing it wrong, you're doing it wrong, you're doing it wrong..." When he's clearly contradicting himself, I need to let that go? And......here's where you need to take responsibility for your leadership up to this point. It was a fuck up, for sure. Before I heard him hitting himself I was just going in there to ask him to calm down. Hearing the hitting set me off. Obviously it had been building up in me at some point during …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:56 PM
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You're supposed to have a neutral spine. So if your back angle is more flat you'd be looking towards the ground. My son is more upright so I tell him to look about 10 feet ahead.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:16 PM
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I have a Chester at my gym but his issue is he wants to tell everyone the proper way to lift. He told my boy the other day to look at the ceiling when squatting. Don't pretend you know everything either. No matter your experience, new info is always available.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 04:07 PM
1

No. For most summer and September he had work, school, school activity and his girl. He was rarely home. He got kicked out of his activity couple weeks ago so that gave us some more time. But I've kept that rope very loose; enough to let him figure it out but not so much as to get lost. He has complained repeatedly he feels I should be taking care of all his shit, money-wise. He does compare himself to his friends who get shit given to them (his gf drives brand new low-end mustang). He's pissed …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:41 PM
1

I do know I need to get his trust to talk to me again. I'm disappointed in myself last night that I told him I'd listen and I should've completely shut the fuck up. I know at a minimum this I can do. I was going to bring it up lightly to him after our workout tonight, assuming he still goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:31 PM
1

Fair point but that's paraphrasing here, not how I was describing it to him. One example would be him saying he can't socialize in some of his classes then five minutes later saying he doesn't need to socialize. Another was him telling me I hadn't yet even tried to find out what was bothering him even though we spent the previous twenty minutes him walking through his day so I could try and identify what was bothering him. And yet another would be him claiming he doesn't need others to be happy …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 03:25 PM
1

Yes, I want my son to concentrate on fixing his shit rather than trying to fix others. I'm good with that. As far as belittling, no idea where you get that from. I'm always encouraging him. I don't focus on negative shit he does, at least what doesn't involve suicidal threats. He's been doing this his entire life, this notion he has to set aside his well being for that of others. I present him an alternative. He refuses to even consider it. I'm not ashamed for trying to get him to put himself fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 10:40 AM
2

OYS Part 2. There have been two occasions in recent weeks where my son has threatened to hurt himself. These threats were made in his bedroom while on the phone with his girlfriend. My wife overhead. I was asleep. I've been trying to figure out the best way to handle this. At a minimum, I went into his room and told him I loved him, he's my only son, and irreplaceable. He didn't know before that I knew. He has lost interest in discussing things with me. Before, when we would talk I would always …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 01:30 AM
1

To add to the meditation, the harder you try, the less likely it is to work. The idea is to let your mind do its thing, not force it. I don't use apps but I've tried 10% and Waking Up. Both focus on vipassana or mindfulness. Calm is another but I've never tried it. But as Johney said, they're not needed. It's really just allowing the mind to wander, acknowledging and thoughts that arise before returning focus to the breath. Hell, I've even meditated on the bus. 10 minutes a day is fine if you ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:22 PM
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Oh dear God. You've been whining about this for months and nothing's changed. Good job. Side note: this likely belongs in /r/askMRP. I'll go get my popcorn either way. This may be more fun than watching baseball.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 07:58 PM
1

Good to see you around
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 04:20 PM
2

I put myself into a situation that left me trying to prevent a grown-ass man from destroying property and potentially himself while his wife watched and cried. Every minute that passed over the hours-long ordeal had me making difficult decisions that, at best, could end their marriage and, at worst, end his life. Melodramatic a bit in hindsight. But, in the moment, I was fucking scared. I should also prelude with this: I'm skeptical the entire situation was legit. I'll never know. Nonetheless, i…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 11:40 AM
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But your post wasn't about "keep doing this and eventually she'll fuck me," was it? There are always options. Doing nothing is an option. Cheating is an option. As is divorce. The question is, do you have the confidence for those other options?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:35 AM
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See if /r/RedPillWomen has resources
/r/askMRP14/10/19 07:13 PM
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"When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that last blow that did it, but all that had gone before."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/19 06:53 PM
1

What's RPT?
/r/askMRP11/10/19 09:39 PM
1

Agreed.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 06:40 PM
1

But we’re all here to get more pussy, No we're not but have fun, Monkey
/r/askMRP11/10/19 04:18 PM
1

Women like muscles. This is why I hate the lifting mantra. People keep regurgitating "lifting is not an option" and fags dummies like you spew this bullshit. Who gives a fuck? Do you like having muscle? Then lift. Do you want to have a runner-bod? The fucking run. Do what you want. It's not about pleasing her. Cut this shit out. Edit: Even I get into the habit of regurgitating some of this shit.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 02:42 PM
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Why are you not posting OYS? To clarify I meant to say no date, just sex. So it’s not transactional. Keep the dates for the weekend. You're a real spontaneous Joe, aren't ya? She's bored and you're wondering why she doesn't want to fuck. Do you want to go on the date? If yes, go. If not, don't. Do you want to fuck? If so, try. If not, don't. done with covert contracts! Yea, sure you are. As for always initiating for sex, how do I do that while maintaining frame? If you two had just met, how woul…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 09:59 AM
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Science actually demonstrates Studies suggest you're far more productive with at least a solid 8 hours; < 7 and you're begging for long term health issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 04:31 PM
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The second mouse gets the cheese.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 02:09 PM
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So you'll give up kids for pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 09:29 PM
2

If there's already a compatibility issue with family, why you wasting time with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 08:15 PM
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Or....you can chill. Think. Contemplate. Assess. And act. Identify who you are, what sacrifices you're willing to make and to what extent, if any. And live. Let the chips fall where they may.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 04:20 PM
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By and large I've been absent from mrp. Lurking, but not really contributing. I did this because I felt I at least knew the foundational principals. I had an idea of the overall purpose. But I found it difficult to identify the signal through the noise. It's easy to come in here, get advice, try and fail. I didn't want that. I wanted to learn it. For me it meant thinking on my own. Not keeping a fucking journal until Tuesday mornings and waiting to see what the guys said. I don't fucking have ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 04:07 PM
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Yea, I can't imagine that imagining your wife fucking another dude while you're seeking peace would be a good idea but that's just my opinion. Do what works for you. Chuck had a good comment to Horns earlier about being focused and achieving one goal while ignoring others. Scroll back up and check it out. If you've been dominating business and neglecting family, it may be time to change your priorities.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 10:48 PM
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Well, I know it'll probably sound cliche as fuck but I've been angry as hell for years. I started doing meditation and just decided to let it go. Past is done. I can either make the best of today or not. My choice. Not saying my life's all roses. But I've definitely changed in that aspect.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 10:18 PM
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Interviewing, networking, all of it. Don't risk getting stranded
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:58 PM
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Bull fucking shit. You want a nun that'll suck your cock and only yours. Good luck with that. In all seriousness, I hope you figure out a way to deal with that anger. It's is a honey tip with a poisonous root. And you're germinating.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:57 PM
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Yes to both our just her?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:34 PM
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Is she your first?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:27 PM
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I found out the power I have and I can't even enjoy it. Now it's starting to make sense. You regret your wife? Maybe even kids?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:21 PM
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why the fuck am I friends with this guy.” Unless you go have beers together he's another dude in the gym. No idea why they'd throw fits about no shoes other than safety concerns. Regardless, get squat shoes for stability. so that is a win. 👍 I don’t go down on girls a lot. I just don’t genuinely enjoy it that much She did. Suck it up. I am having trouble setting small goals You have major goals. So, break them down. If the company goes under, what then? What are the chances of promotion. Can you…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:17 PM
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I'm curious why you place such a high value on fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:08 PM
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Oddly not surprised
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:04 PM
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How did she find out?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 08:58 PM
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Shitty crew. Shittier captain. Your animosity is transparent. With your charm I can't imagine she'd ever want to leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 06:54 PM
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lol, now you sound like my wife. "Well, my friend does this and their marriage is fine." I don't give a fuck. Do what you want, man. Do I tell my wife what she can and can't wear, where she can and can't go, and give her a curfew. No. I didn't marry a child. Want to know something funny? Her friend she always likes to use as an example; how'd she met her husband? She was cheating on her then-current husband with him. Then they got married and had their own kids. Rinse and repeat. I've literally …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 06:36 PM
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You still don't see the downward spiral. Too bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:53 PM
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Don't misconstrue me. I'm not saying my situation was better or worse. I'm saying, make a decision and do it. Stop fucking around. There are 5 lives involved. I only had 3. Either way, too God damn many. Make a decision then make the best of it, regardless the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:49 PM
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What exactly did you not like? Her going out without you dressed sexy as fuck? If that's the case, do you not realize how fucking stupid that sounds? If you can't deal with it, fine. But don't be offended when she lashes out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:34 PM
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When I kicked my son's mother out of our apartment I laid on the bed balling like a bitch holding my infant child. I had no idea what the future would bring. She was going back home, hundreds of miles away, and I had no clue what would come next. But I did it anyway. Because I knew what the future would hold if we stayed together. I didn't say, let me give it two years to man up then ditch the bitch. People will often refuse to make a change even if their miserable and believe they'd be happier …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:31 PM
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She was breaking rules and looking for me to discipline and I chose to ignore her. She was crying for attention and I gave her very little. I get RP says to not give attention for bad behavior but this can backfire if you have a girl who is actively looking for direction and rules. I think a lot of people get twisted up with this. You're defining bad behavior as, what exactly? Going to a concert dressed sexy af and staying at a hotel with her friend? I mean, if you want to control her like that,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 05:21 PM
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First off I know most TRP guys say women are all BPD, but this week I came to the realisation that my LTR is actual BPD. Then you're just as dumb as them. My wife is BPD. How do I know? She was diagnosed by doctors. Two. This isn't WebMD shit. /u/hornsofapathy did a post in this area in recent weeks. Go check it out. Had I known what I know now and vetted/had clear boundaries I wouldn’t be here now. So say we all. I’m taking a couple of years to fix myself I can’t fix her problems and keep my se…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 04:50 PM
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So, what are you doing here?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 04:37 PM
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Then accept it. Accept your role in the relationship. Or, be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:30 PM
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You commented to me something similar months ago I was having same issues with wife. I've done better with her, but not him. Fucked up. Needs to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:21 PM
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Diet: On point. Gym: Yes. Needless filler content.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:14 PM
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Don’t want to do anything with my wife because I am finding by her ugly and the threats of divorce are a major turn off. Know the last time my wife did this? Months ago when I printed them off the county website and signed, effectively giving everything to her. "Stop talking and do it. Or, shut the fuck up."
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:12 PM
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Missed one squat at 245 and dropped it forward--I was doing the walk of shame (taking off weights to put the barbell back up) Did you go for it again or just quit? Haircuts are every 8 weeks instead of 12. Is this normal? My son and I have to get cuts every month. There's a guy on my bus with neck hair as long as his head hair. That's not you, is it? If I feel attracted to my wife, I'll embrace the risk and game her, initiate. But if I don't want it, I don't want it. Reset everyday. Nothing wron…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 02:03 PM
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/r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 01:22 PM
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No, if you define instant as expecting results within days or even weeks. I have no issues putting work into something that may takes years to see results as long as I believe in the system. I think it may have something to do with a conversation wife and I recently had: I like structure. I crave it. Sunday's through Fri afternoon I'm very disciplined because of this. Otherwise, who the fuck knows. And he's not sitting around the house either; between his gf and school activities he's pretty bus…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 12:43 PM
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You're absolutely right, and I get it. I just don't know why I'm doing it. I don't now why when I got back from the gym and he's playing Xbox I didn't say, "Hey, let's go play catch." I wasn't busy. I was already hot and sweaty. Was I tired? A little, sure. But I could've gone at least 30 minutes throwing to him. When he bailed on me yesterday morning my initial reaction was to call him out. And I did. And then it completely dawned on me: I taught him that. I just don't know why I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 11:28 AM
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My mother used to always tell my absentee father to heed the words of Cat's in the Cradle. I learned the lyrics well and early. I recall them whenever I doubt my own decisions as a father. My son and I have been spending more quality time together; generally in the gym, but occasionally elsewhere. Sometimes I will put him off to do something else. Most recently, he wanted to play catch after my workout Friday. I told him we would. When I got home, I didn't follow up. Nor did he. I remembered. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/19 09:34 AM
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/u/dre4mslayer, take the advice above. I used to be the guy that if I saw an attractive woman on the street I wouldn't really look; didn't want to be creepy. Then I'd look but they wouldn't look back. Or, they might and I'd glance away. Then I'd look and if they looked back, I'd smile and quietly say "hi". Then I'd say "hi" even if they didn't look at me. Now on average once a week I'll stop one on the street. I'm heading out to a concert. Wife is out of town. I was going to watch baseball with …
/r/askMRP06/10/19 12:00 AM
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DUDE, STOP!!! you're just begging for a comment from someone saying, "yea, I met some chic last night at a concert and my bro's and I went back to her hotel and gang-banged her and her friend. Bitch was dripping with cum but we DGAF!!!"
/r/askMRP04/10/19 03:19 PM
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Now, I understand your flair better. Seems you take shit too literally. Do you sniff your wife's pussy when she gets back from a night out? Do you whine if she's "too loose" after hanging with the girls? I don't fear my wife cheating on me but I can't lie to you guys and say I didn't think about it. Because you're placing a higher value on her than you do on you. The question is, why do you think about it? I had a hot, and I mean, HOT - Nicagaruan - that would become the mother of my son. I neve…
/r/askMRP04/10/19 02:53 PM
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https://youtu.be/qhdqgwufuJ4
/r/askMRP04/10/19 11:51 AM
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My wife just left to NOLA for four days. If I were a lesser man you're post would give me trembles. Edit: and I woke her at 3 this morning to fuck. She didn't come. Neither did I. I'm so screwed...
/r/askMRP04/10/19 11:19 AM
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He's trying to convince himself by convincing us he did good.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 11:16 AM
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Glad you've committed. My only suggestion is to allow more than a week before modifying caloric goals; at least two. So many other factors affect weight such as sleep, stress, many things you may not even notice. Don't look for outliers, look for trends. Edit: I weigh mornings usually 16 hours after last meal, ideally after bm. Any other time is usually worthless. I'm trying to get over my blue pill guilt on this. Somewhere in here is a post about the beta shit goblin. Look for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 02:02 PM
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I still have no idea how the fuck I ended up here. Must've followed the trail of tears
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/19 06:04 PM
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One other thing, The MRP echo chamber lays the "Lift, faggot!" on so thick that I've sometimes wondered if there's something wrong with me for not enjoying it by this point. mrp isn't about doing what we tell you. It's doing what the fuck you want. Take the feedback and evaluate. Then make your own decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 06:46 PM
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Keep in mind any weight loss program you're going to lose fat and muscle. To minimize muscle loss you need more protein and lifting heavy. But you're still going to lose some muscle. That and, how are you going to look at 170? Skinny fat? Bag of bones? If you're good with that, cool. I'm older so I've lost elasticity. I saw it one night fucking my wife a flab of belly just hanging there. No fat. No muscle. Just skin. I needed to bulk. I'd also recommend not unloading. I went down this path and I…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 06:38 PM
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The issue is that I really just don't like it at all. I get this. I'd go through phases over time. Then it'd bore the fuck out out me. Then I'd find something more valuable - rewarding - to do. The trick is to find the reward in lifting. It's easy to think long term; six pack and all that shit. But that's months away. So, what immediate reward can you find? For me it's hitting a new PR. So if I just squat 200, awesome! Let's go get 205. If I fail 205, good. I just showed my body what to expect f…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/19 12:17 AM
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"I know what I want now. A separation. Let's start the separation and move on to divorce." "A bunch of dudes on the web told me what to do and I'm doing it so whee..." lol, this will be fun. Edit: not even telling you what to do, just be weary and you're ready to light the fuse. Still...cool
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 07:29 PM
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Lifting Squats: 290x5x3 BP: 145x5x3 OHP: 115X5X3 DL: 325x5x3 PC: 135x5x3 (introduced couple weeks ago) Obviously my BO and OHP numbers are pathetic. Hired a personal trainer to work on form which required me dropping to 135. Still not right so reduced to once a week and adding dips. PT wants me to do a power lifting meet with him in December. I haven't looked at the dues yet but I'll likely participate. I like the idea of doing this in a formal environment. Diet Current bw: 201. Gained 12lbs sin…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 03:51 PM
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My bad. Seeing a physical therapist for mental issues is the correct way to go...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/19 02:19 PM
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Heavy is out for now till I get my mind sorted about these exercises. I will max the reps. Don't do this. Don't fucking retreat. You need to keep fucking attacking. Probably the reason you're hurt is because you're not into it, letting your core loosen or knees slide in; who the fuck knows. But you've already lost the biggest battle. So, next workout, keep reinforcing you won't fail, not today. Get your warm-ups. And that first set, suck in every bit of air you can, grab that fucking bar, clench…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/19 12:23 AM
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Don't buy a stop smoking book. Read this and buy the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 11:48 PM
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Your hips are the pivot point. You should be dragging the bar up your shins across your knees. Your hips open as you stand and break as you lower.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/19 11:24 PM
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Have you read Thinking in Bets by Annie Duke?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 04:51 PM
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I'll drop these as well: https://www.vipassana.com/index.php https://peterattiamd.com/samharris/
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/19 01:56 PM
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Sleep: Getting minimum 7 hours a night. A little annoyed at myself though, it's better than the first go around, but there's literally no reason to not be getting 8 - 9. I'm not doing ANYTHING important when night rolls around. It's a deployed military base... there's nothing TO do. I just have a hard time putting down my book until shy of midnight, and when I do I end up rolling around lost in thought for an hour. Procrastinating sleep is a hard ingrained habit. I'm thinking about taking some m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/19 10:58 PM
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Achievements since last confession: - Paid off car today - took family for a one-day getaway to San Antonio. I enjoyed it. Beautiful area. - Expect to break squat plateau today at 240 - cold approach but no number Coming soon: - I'm 10lbs shy of breaking through both OHP and DL (should hit by next week) and feel solid enough to achieve it. Failures or setbacks: - BP continues to be a struggle. It's so fucking weird; I'll fail the 4th or 5th set at the 2nd or 3rd rep. After re-racking I'll take a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 02:09 PM
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Yea that's still a fucking issue. I touch NOTHING four hours prior and still waking up 2 or 3 times. Not sure if hydrating too much during day (trying to get that gallon mark) or maybe something worse like prostate. Trial and error I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 12:32 PM
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Hey Rpeed, what's up man. Have you tried any of the glasses?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/19 10:18 AM
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A couple of weeks ago I was listening to a Peter Attia podcast with Matthew Walker, a neuroscientist and author of "Why We Sleep?" Sleep has become an issue for me for quite some time and I was curious to his thoughts. That the teaser shared a link to Alzheimer's - a big fear of mine - didn't hurt. Of course, most of us know we need our sleep as part of our lift routine. And it's becoming clear to me the struggles I have in the gym are largely, if not entirely, related to the struggles I have in…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/19 12:39 AM
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35 Lifting Lifting stats haven't changed much from last OYS. Remain in plateau trying to work through it. Bailed on the shit I was doing for alternatives; dumbell presses (bench and OH), leg presses, basically just trying to hit every core muscle I could to shock the body. I did have a revelation; and I feel stupid in hindsight but fuck it. My routine was to do my T1, take my rest, do the T2, rest, and my T3's and rest. Guy at gym pointed out I was taking far more rest because of how I was rotat…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 09:48 AM
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My schedule has been M, Tu, Th, Fri. The idea for a rest week was locked up from a few online sources. A co-worker said he'll even do two weeks. This is to see if it helps. I'll be looking into TRT soon. If I can get a free test then this month; otherwise start next month. There's a few things it could be, no doubt. So now just try to isolate what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 05:54 PM
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34 Lifting has completley plateaud. Well, with the exception of squats which has been nicely linear (at 240 now, 6x2's). BP's have been around 180 to 185, right about where I was before my minor injury late last year. OHPs and DL's also stagnant at 120-125 and 280-285 respectively. Following the program hasn't helped. Taking this week off. Will get back to it next week where I left off adding drop sets, see if that shocks the system. Work has still been slow trying to figure out their process. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 10:59 PM
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33 In the gym, this was the best week I've had in quite some time. The only issues I had were with squats on both days. On both - the next to last set - I couldn't finish the last rep yet was able to finish the last set without issues and +1 on the T1 day. Diet has been disciplined and on point though weight is not dropping as of yet. Will give it another week before making more calorie reductions. I am considering putting some serious time back on the ERG but I really don't fucking want to. I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 10:17 AM
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On my way to work today. Recognizing this is my last big ride only if I allow it. So much to attack on this area and no time to fuck around. Good family weekend. Took wife downtown to do some exploring Friday; museums, historical shit, walking around. I had fun. Took family to see John wick last night. That was good. Elementary shit tests. Nothing I can't handle long as I'm not drunk. Gotta keep head on a swivel. Failed DL's and BP again. Squats and ohp progress fine so not diet related. Who the…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 10:34 AM
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I am tired of fatshaming and must rest. lazy
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 02:50 PM
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My T-numbers are low, can't recall exact details but whatever number they gave me was around 130. I found that out a couple months ago but put off treatment until the job situation is resolved. I should have an appointment scheduled in about a month. You haven't explained what you meant by, "As to energy levels: a fat, weak guy like you should breeze by on those calories." Are they too high? They're signficantly lower than the spreadsheet you offered.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:53 PM
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all her friend’s husbands are happy with 1-2x a month and never complain. I love when my wife pulls this shit. "Good, now I know never to try and fuck [so-and-so]." Am I fucked up for enjoying this and finding it entertaining and fun? No. I used to have a bad temper so doing this really helps me keep my cool. Amuse yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:12 PM
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Yes, you can. You lead by example. You left out that part of your quote: Like father like son. I can't stop it. I need to lead better here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 01:00 PM
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I did one of those InBody scans which put my lean mass at 174. I have little confidence the numbers it gave were accurate because it put my BF at 13% which I knew was bullshit. Nonetheless, I added 10% for the target 190 at least as a starting point. 190 is a better first milestone than 170. The Strongur link says I'm currently at 20% which is about inline with whatever Navy Method calculator I had used. So with a BF of 10% that'd be ~175. What I don't want to be is all bones. My legs have more …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 12:55 PM
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OYS 31 Vision Become a financial and emotional rock for my family. Become a fun man, one that creates memories. Be a leader that people look to for confidence, strength, and guidance. Mission Be true. Be reliable. Be indifferent. Be impactful. Be missed. Lifting Lifting sucked last week and I ended up putting only 3 days in rather than 4. Trying a new diet (below) and I think I was just far too low on everything. Mon was fine. Tues I felt like I was ready to pass out after my warmup sets. I just…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:20 AM
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Everything you've ever written has been about her. You just don't fucking get it. If it was just you and your wife I wouldn't even be writing this shit. I don't give a fuck about either of you. I think I give more fucks about your son than even you do. How fucking pathetic... You have zero confidence, no self-esteem, and a bucket of bullshit excuses. You come in here with the whining bullshit about how your wife's feelings are fake af; I don't blame her. Maybe if you realize your son is going to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/19 12:42 PM
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How did I not win? I'm not looking at it as a binary choice; there are some lessons learned, certainly. But, I kept my cool and stood my ground. For sure if you or any of the other MRPros had been watching you'd have a litany of fuck-ups. The only thing I can see regarding the vacations is I should've had better plans and options. Fair enough. As far as attitude or demeanor, I just don't know. I kept my head. I stood firm. I didn't waiver. I'll take it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 08:08 PM
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In addition, the reason I didn't have more savings to fall back on was because I was paying ALL living expenses the past year I was working so she could rebuild her shit. I'll call obvious bullshit on myself here; the reason isn't because of the last year; it's a lifetime of bad habits.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 10:01 AM
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Hi, Chuck. Interesting idea but I highly doubt it. It's always been her idea to keep our finances separate. At one point we shared accounts but only to have one location to pay bills. With the exception of gas, water, internet and mortgage, I pay all bills directly (giving her money to pay the aforementioned). She never trusted me with it before but I am demonstrating leadership paying all the cc's and electricity immediately myself. This is progress as before she insisted paying those herself, …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 09:59 AM
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Nevermind. I'm not obligated to spend time with her when she's being a bitch and I've told her as much. Whatever her issues, they're not mine and not worth my time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 10:49 PM
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Let's assume it's a comfort test. She wants to know I'll have her back if things go sour? I've already expressed as much, plenty of times. In addition, the reason I didn't have more savings to fall back on was because I was paying ALL living expenses the past year I was working so she could rebuild her shit. I've done enough to demonstrate I'd have her back. I need do no more. And won't. I'm drawing a blank here; no idea what other comfort she may be seeking. Shit test? It has absolutely nothing…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 09:49 PM
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Wife addendum. Fun. In short, she went back home over the weekend and came back in a bitchy mood. Again. I called her out on it yesterday and, briefly, it seemed to get better. It didn't last. This is becoming a pattern I really have no interest dealing with. Her claim to anger is when I mentioned doing a little vacation within about a month or so. I asked the family over dinner what type of ideas they might have and mentioned one I'm fond of. She was into it a little bit, but then asked if she …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 09:32 PM
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In all honesty, I just forgot to have them make cards because I don't value it. There was nothing passive aggressive, I just didn't care. When I woke up in the morning I forgot about it, just like I have on my own birthday. I just DGAF about "special days". 20 hours later... I did ask them if they wanted to make a card in the morning while I was making breakfast Man, there's a ton of bullshit going on here...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 03:30 PM
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I’m trying to handle this by pushing through and trusting the process. Anger is easy. Don't look at the past with regret. Try looking at the future with promise. Think of the power and control you will gain over your life. Recognize it will take some time, like lifting or becoming rich. Think about that every morning. Appreciate the down periods with a smile and recognition their time is limited. Change your point of view.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 10:34 AM
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What mobile reddit app you use?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 10:22 AM
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Within the appropriate context, perhaps. As the other commenter points out, he wants validation. Over time, I want her to fully embrace what I am doing That's where he goes astray. If he's giving away the game plan he gives her power to exert control over the relationship. My wife can be a manipulative bitch so I'm biased. I'd rather let her wonder.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 07:26 PM
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I think once you accept this it becomes much more amusing. When wife and I had our big fight a while ago I knew she was full of shit. And she knew I knew. It seemed like once we broke that barrier she changed considerably for the better. Not great, but considerable improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:42 PM
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I read your comment and thought, "why the fuck is he repeating what I already said?" Then read mine and realized I had removed that piece, apparently... lol Yes, will continue searching. My aim is one interview per month.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 03:33 PM
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I don’t plan on failing No one really "plans" on failing. But dropping little turds into your brain like "feel a plateau coming" makes it an acceptable option. Cut that shit out. If your program recommends bumping 2.5 then bump 2.5. I do gzclp so basically +5lbs to failure then modify the reps/sets and continue. Unloads come only after failure on the third cycle. Your struggles may not even be strength-related but nutrition or sleep or form or stress; wtf knows? Are you keeping any type of journ…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:38 PM
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I just wouldn't really talk about it at all. People change all the time for reasons known and unknown. Keep it at that. Talking about fight club is DEERing. Maggie: To my knowledge, she's never done any nude scenes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:30 PM
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My wife has made it a point to tell me she isn't attracted to skinny guys twice the last couple of days. I'd hear the same while she'd fawn over Anthony Bourdain. Shit...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:02 PM
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I am interested in the “why” Generally, you reveal yourself to be a fraud; pretending to be someone you're not. You showed your wife your a BP beta bitch. Then tell her you're trying to be a RP alpha cock. You're a fake. A phony. watch a few episodes of Billions Maggie Siff, damn...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:56 PM
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Lifts getting stronger, feel a plateau coming on BP and BR. Will increment with micro weights. You planning for failure? Interesting... Is this already part of your program or are you winging it? On my program I keep going to failure, then reduce reps. I don't change my progressions. There have been several times I felt like I was fixing to fail. I didn't change shit. Lo and behold, next time going at it, no issues. Change your mindset. Kick that iron's ass! you're not seeing the needle move May…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:19 PM
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Thanks, man. Sure as shit wasn't intentional but better late than never.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:56 AM
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OYS 30 Mission Be true. Be reliable. Be indifferent. Be impactful. Be missed. Career She asked me to take 24 hours to think about the job offer. I told her I didn't need to. I had a couple things within the next couple of weeks I would need to leave early to address but I'm ready to go. They're doing the contract now. I'll have to do a drug test; no issues. Target date is Monday. Interviewing, resumes, networking, all of it, I hate it. But it's part of the game I have to play. After over 10 year…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 10:46 AM
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You're 3 weeks in. Chill. If your focus is on time then your focus is not on you. Figure out your priorities.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 12:11 AM
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I still have progress to make on but I’m bothered by not getting any value out of my current relationship while I work on myself. What do you see wrong with this statement?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 09:50 PM
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I’ll wait until I’ve built my SMV and can hold frame before... You can't learn to swim standing on the shore. it stops now. blah blah blah Stop fucking around. Talk is cheap. I’m an animal. A beast. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 09:46 PM
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Then maybe the question isn't, "why can't you sell yourself", but, "why are you trying to sell something they don't want?"
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 03:22 PM
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Listen to Blue October. His path is The Path.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 01:36 PM
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Satisfy my curiosity, if you will; why did you see this as a negative or neutral statement? Or am I misinterpreting?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 01:12 PM
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I'm actually with WNS on this. He's on WP's servers - they can do whatever the fuck they want. The claim is it violated TOS, but which ones? Someone may have put a malicious script via plugin; WP sucks w/ security. Fuck him for using WP to begin with. Owner could get this site up in seconds on his own AWS for $5/month. He can't even by his own domain?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 12:45 PM
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But at what point... Just stop. Who cares? She doesn't see you as worth following right now so just keep your head down and do you. Let her play with her phone. I'm still terrified of talking to people and more so attractive women Your wife knows this. Understand that. Let's take a look at your last post... I can afford both. BJJ has been going good for about three months now. If things change I'll go on a hiatus (with purpose) and make sure the lifting gets done. Yet, no lifting stats. What's u…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 09:45 PM
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1 - 1 yr contract ended 1 month early when company sold project 2 - six month contract extended one year; "Company A" relocating some staff to site, outsourcing other work. This is the position referenced in the quote 3 - six months extended 3 months; project closed 4 - four months, on schedule, no hire due to disaster 5 - one year, on schedule at Company A; also outsourced Th job is at Company A. The outsourcing aspect will be brought up. But it has no end date.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 09:11 PM
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You're god damn right.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 08:19 PM
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One year ago I weighed 225. I dedicated myself to getting to 185 by the end of the year. I failed. lol But I did get to 200 within 3 months. I didn't do the fasting or any of that shit, just ate healthier and did the ERG for 45 minutes every day. Have you rowed? For 45 minutes? Holy fucking hell it is boring. It fucking sucks. I hate rowing. But I did it. Every day. 45 minutes a day. Suck it up so you won't have to suck it in.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 07:30 PM
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I get it. And thank you for reminding me of that article. Helps me better define how to tackle Monday. I got this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 04:20 PM
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Both, but mostly for you. It’s easy to write enormous walls of text that say very little, and this is a giant waste of time. I figure I’ll get better feedback if I am more concise. I’ll also spend less time if I’m only writing what actually matters. I just wrote a big wall of text. Want to know for who? Me. I don't give a fuck if you read it. I don't give a fuck if the person I was replying to reads it. Nor, if anyone else here reads it. Know why? Because I read it. And I'll read it a few days f…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 03:39 PM
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Okay, let's do this. What is your issue with SELLING yourself? Fuck... If I told you I'm a confident arrogant fuck in the office, would you believe me? Once I get in, I'm fine. There are two career Slashs; ImEmployedSlash is confident and knows what he's doing. This mother fucker can lead upon request. He can train upon request. He can create upon request. He can problem-solve upon request. There is very little he can do upon request. He's also content with doing mundane shit as long as it's a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 03:25 PM
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Dude, what's with the f***ing censorship? Leadership: Acceptable everywhere but home. How do you know this? Are you f***ing your boss or coworkers?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 11:11 AM
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This is entirely too much to read for the amount of actual content. For us or you? I still have to get in my squat session...I'm finally feeling like I can actually brace without...shitting myself again lol then I got sick Then I got sick. I've been sick I've been sick JFC you whine this much at home???
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 10:43 AM
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Was that just the newness of the relationship? She sold you a bill of goods but you didn't read the contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 10:34 AM
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I have a bad habit of over sharing fee fees I was just about to say you talk too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 10:28 AM
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I want to increase my work on the abs to get rid of any belly fat. lol My wife started freaking out... Told her I just wanted to improve myself ...That seemed to be good enough an explanation to her Emphasis added. Oh, and lol
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 11:50 PM
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am still having trouble distinguishing them from reasonable requests Who gives a shit if it was a reasonable request? You had made a decision then when she got mad you changed your mind. It's as simple as that. Don't overthink this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 06:53 PM
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Hiring manager replied back. We're going to do another interview Mon. Either the email worked or I wasn't as bad on the first interview as I thought. Regardless, I'm taking ownership of this mother fucker. I already know what they're looking for and how I can solve their problems. The task is large but not beyond anything I haven't done before. I need to fucking sell this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 12:17 PM
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I don’t feel as motivated or safe doing big lifts. Stop being a pussy. Learn how to safely fail lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 09:16 PM
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OYS 29 Career-wise, no changes. I have yet to hear from the primary position I'm seeking. With recruiters blessing I contacted the hiring manager via LinkedIn; an attempt to sell myself and keep my name on her mind. I know some here would advise against that. I'm in desperation mode and want this job. It's the best opportunity for me on the horizon. A couple of connections seem to be working to get me into other locations. That's a plus, sure, and I'm thankful. I'm staying positive but the most …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 03:38 PM
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To me, a legitimate vacation is several days to a week of just getting the fuck away from everything. My failure with my wife in this regard has been not going to Vegas. Her, I, my best friend and his wife talked about going back in 2011 but I never made it a priority. Major failure; yes. Loser, yes. Etc. My son isn't specific; only that he wants to leave the state. Continuing to think about my response to /u/man_in_the_world in this thread, I lean towards what do I want to do and how can I brin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 02:10 PM
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Most of what you say isn't wrong and I've detailed much of it in previous OYSs. Regarding weights, I'm glad you can lift more than I. I assume you've been lifting at least a couple of years if not longer. That'd be pretty sad if after all that time you couldn't even BP your own weight. I post 1RM for simplicity. Sure, I could list the details of my T1, T2 and T3 sets along with what reps I failed; perhaps even if my failure was during concentric or eccentric. But we both know you don't give a fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/19 11:42 AM
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OP doesn't want to play poker, he wants to play blackjack. Straight flush doesn't mean shit in his world. Maybe he'll get through this and maybe he won't. Neo spent so much time believing he wasn't - or fearful of being - The One. What if he wasn't? He wasn't even Morpheus' first choice. You either get it or you don't. I hope the best for OP, regardless what he chooses. But, RP isn't going to be for every man. And it sounds to me like he hasn't really answered that. C'est la vie.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 09:28 PM
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Larbi Alaoui and Christian Fons-Rosen also did a recent study on tenacity and grit; Know When to Fold Em: The Flip Side of Grit
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 05:52 PM
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There is an old motto that runs, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” This is nonsense. It ought to read—”If at first you don’t succeed, quit, quit at once.” Stephen Leacock You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, and know when to run Kenny Rogers
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 05:47 PM
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a shoulder injury so I haven’t been willing to push myself Bitch excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 11:39 AM
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a shoulder injury so I haven’t been willing to push myself Bitch excuses
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 11:39 AM
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I considered applying but the job requirements left a bad taste in my mouth
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 09:58 PM
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You've been my drug of choice these past couple weeks. Step it up next week. Do you have a babysitter?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 11:05 AM
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I don't see myself as trying to earn his affection. And admittedly I may have some blinders on here. In my mind it's more about the memories. Recently I was digging through pics looking for something and I kept seeing all these pics I had of him taking him golfing or playing video games, museums, zoos, etc. These were all reminders how I've failed since he's moved in. I wanted to create those memories then because our time was limited. So, why am I not now? Am I taking our time together for gran…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 10:58 AM
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I wondered if you'd return. Are you leaving out details cause you're on top of your shit or cause you don't want a repeat?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 09:58 PM
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Thanks but why you here and not banging your wife on a mountain top ?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 09:14 PM
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He does and we actually do have good talks when we get away from the wife. He's just not comfortable discussing very intimate shit around her though he is doing better. There's a place not too far away we can do river kayaking. I've been putting it off. We'll be doing it soon as I get back to work. I was wanting to bring him sky-diving with me which is also on my immediate todo list. Alas, he's too young (18 min age req).
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:12 PM
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I'm doing gzclp linear progression. I'm not smart enough in this area to modify it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:11 PM
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Before MRP, I thought one of my biggest gifts to this world was my ability to feel my way through it - communicate those feelings through intense art and writing, and I've had to (in some fucked up way) abandon that part of me because it was too much, or not alpha enough, or not what my wife and life required to be a better man. Maybe some dancing monkey in there too with shutting it all down. I think this is where a lot of (us) beginners go wrong in this journey; we think we have to give up shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:01 PM
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she's doing the opposite and as expected - trying to drag me down with her /u/resolutions316 already addressed this: your wife is recognizing your SMV is higher and trying to convince you it's not through this language. My wife pulls similar shit, too. You gotta keep your head down and focused on your path. Have you had your/a main event yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 06:40 PM
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I just don’t want to abandon something I know works for something new and unusual The fuck you here for then?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 06:31 PM
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OYS 28 Lifting OHP 1RM 127 lbs (+3) BP 1RM 175 lbs (+10) Squats 1RM 235 lbs (+13) DL 1RM 295 lbs (-19) Weight: 204.4 (+2.4) Failed DL's yet again; couldn't even get past 3x1 at 305; dropped to 295 and only able to finish 3 more. I was doing so good. I'll set my 1RM to 305 and restart at 90% this week. Failed OP as well doing 5x3's which will now go to 6x2. I've been fucking around with the diet cutting out my lunch which put me at a deficit. Not sure if this is the reason for the failures. I nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 12:14 PM
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Valid point. I would note saving $5 on a water bill in addition to other savings you implement would allow you to add more to your marketing budget which you would need to increase revenue. Same principals apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 05:05 PM
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l should delegate appropriate levels of responsibility to my wife and kids You'll find, if it is not already obvious, there is a positive relationship between the ability to delegate and the level of respect they have towards you. Do not see their failure to follow as a weakness on their end, but rather, yours. Each step you make along your path you'll find them inching closer.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 09:00 PM
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It's my nice guy saver fixer programming coming out. Yet, earlier, my priority is me and him One of these things is not like the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 03:57 PM
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Possibly. Except, She feels a lot of shame for not being able to deal with this by herself even more because she is a psychologist.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 03:32 PM
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What is it about this particular pussy that makes you determine it's ok to raise your son in this type of environment? And don't reply, "his mom". That's too easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 03:30 PM
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Well, shit, I love golf and I need more friends... hook me up!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:55 PM
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You're too fucking stupid to see she is hurting him. Your child sees that. He sees it and grows up thinking it's normal then the fucking cycle repeats. You shouldn't have brought her. Period! Make her ass stay home by herself and find someone else to go w/ you or go by yourself. You do not reward bad behaviour! You again showed her you have no fucking boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:45 PM
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Any man who allows his wife to abuse his own child will forever be a beta asshole. This is disturbing and sad. You should consider removing your son from her environment, whatever it takes.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:39 PM
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Tomorrow we go on a field trip and vacation (only the 2 of us), something that was planned and payed for a week ago. . I take her to zipline Why in the fuck would you allow her to throw her temper tantrums and then spend time with this psycho bitch? I leave my son with her Horns of Apathy got some shit for this and his situation isn't NEARLY as fucked up as yours. Holy fuck I fear and feel for your son. I don't know if it was you I commented to last week; I said I remembered my mom and dad and b…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:32 PM
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it's less than he spends for a round of golf where the fuck does he play? Augusta?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 02:19 PM
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Look, I've gone out of my way to not explicitly endorse the book. But buy the fucking book. It's a gold mine, IMO. If you can't afford the book, read his blog. Much of the information is there. The extra 15 to 30 minutes will No. Don't compound bad habits by building another bad habit. In Ch 4, he suggests writing down everything you do throughout a normal day. Then tag neutral (=), positive (+), or negative (-). For example, Wake Up = Brush teeth + Stare at self in mirror - The idea behind this…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 08:28 PM
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Damn Chuck, is there a topic you don't have a link? Your bookmarks file has to be in the MBs... I get the initial charge. It makes sense. I guess in my mind I was seeing it as, if you're going to try something might as well go balls to the wall. But I guess it works better for them this way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 08:07 PM
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I'm short eight but I do find it less confusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:58 PM
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I know
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:56 PM
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Making an addendum to career. I've had a SaaS idea for years but never tried to pursue it. In addition to trading (which ain't happening anytime soon), this seems like the only solid thing I have to fall back on. Or, at least put me on a better path. I want to develop a system similar to SharePoint based on the Django framework (I know no other better options in python). SharePoint is a POS for heavy data loads. Not to mention it's [fucking] MS. I'm not even going to try to analyze market condit…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:21 PM
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Eight plans? You're life's like a rubix cube. You should have one. Two tops.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 06:34 PM
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Oh, ok, by getting pissed at things we used to do means we can go back and correct it. I see...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 05:00 PM
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A while ago I had posted in my OYS about this woman at work that, if I remember correctly, I was chatting with in the elevator. It really felt like flirting. Hours later I saw her on my floor in the kitchen, as if she was "waiting for me". I got a nice ego boost from that. Then, I think it was Steel who mentioned something like, "Of course she's in your office. She fucking works there, dummy!" I thought he was full of shit; I just didn't properly convey the sequence. Whatever. I saw her occasion…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 04:03 PM
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One of my favorite quotes is, "Never take advice from someone who doesn't have to live with the consequences." You know what to do. But you're trying to rationalize it and let others make the decision for you. Why? There's not one fucking person here - I don't give a shit who they are or what they're flair is - that's going to give you the "wisdom" you need. Suggestions, sure. Ideas? Absolutely. But not wisdom. That comes through personal experience. That comes through trial and error. It comes …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:54 PM
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long story short she trapped me) ... Bullshit. ...nobody to blame but myself for that one Good recovery. I want to see how things are with a new RP mindset. So Im giving it six months Maybe find out if there's a money-back guarantee first? I do want to be sub 17.5 stone by the end of may though so hold me to that. You don't even know what your BF% is now, how can you set this goal? So, we hold you to it, you fail because of ignorance, and we blast you. See how this works?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:28 PM
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You think of it from the male POV. From the female's perspective, "Yes, the bastard should pay more along with the little bitch he ran away with. That poor sweet woman left all alone to care for their child..."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:11 PM
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got a lot of compliments from coworkers No one gives a fuck nor should you. We had to put down my oldest dog last week My sympathies. I got two, one in the last 1/3. My wife keeps saying he's old. I tell her to fuck off. I dread the day. This is related to my "fear" of gaming other women and maybe fucking them, need to get over it. Find a cute woman today, walk up to her, give her your name, ask for hers, get it, walk away. Make that your goal for today.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 03:07 PM
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Let me be blunt: if you can't keep your word to yourself, how the fuck you expect others to believe in you?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:48 PM
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Depends on OP's residence. In my state it is not considered at all but other states do take into account the fact the non-custodial parent would be sharing living expenses with a spouse, meaning they can pay more in support.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:45 PM
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If I just take a day to remind her that I too want to give her physical comfort that doesn’t lead to sex, things are much better. I can get eager and try to fuck her because of validation reasons and need to stop it This reminds me of something my wife used to say when I'd whine about the fact she didn't even hug me anymore. "Anytime I try to touch you you're always trying to put your dick inside me. That's all you want; sex, Sex, SEX." I even made the mistake when I started my journey of tellin…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:37 PM
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Right now there's like 3 or 4 votes for abortion and not that you give a shit in my opinion nor I about your choice but fuck it; have the child.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:15 PM
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Just waiting until their preferred candidate accepted (or they moved the chairs around internally). Standard practice. Possibly. If it wasn't for the red flags after the last interview I likely would've been more patient. I read their docs and prepped for this next interview and was ready. As time went on I just decided to move them on my terms. Whatever the consequences I'm good with my decision. Like the comments last week: pretty important to maintain the impression you're employed My resume …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:10 PM
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You don't "convert her" to your frame. Who gives a shit what she does?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:05 PM
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Have you tried a schedule? I'm at my best when I have shit scheduled. If I don't. I find myself lost and lacking motivation. When the schedule needs to be broken, I can adjust better as well. Maybe it's for you. Maybe not. Give it a shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:43 PM
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Wash the cars, manage the finances, plan trips, cook for the family, meal prep [read wife's emails] . I do a lot of shit. It’s when she’s gone to work and I’m left to my own devices that I’m not the greatest at getting shit done... I have my home and my shit in order If you proofread, contradictions like this become glaringly obvious. That being said, I doubt you're capable of managing anything with your wife. She may or may not fuck the other guy. But, because you're admittedly lost without her…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 01:39 PM
3

Do you take breaths in the middle of speeches?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:28 PM
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Why don't you just focus on getting 3. If you have an extra in the tank at the end, then do it. People fail when they raise their expectations too high. You can't even get 3 days in and now you're setting yourself up for failure again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:19 PM
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My primary goal in this space is to remain consistent but I only lifted 2 of 3 days last week. I used the sick kid and me generally feeling shitty (maybe fighting off something myself) to skip my lifting on Friday. This was weak and entirely my fault. I was not feeling shitty enough to skip lifting and used it as an excuse to be lazy. Didn't attempt Saturday or Sunday because I still felt shitty and I knew the kid would likely keep me up all night. But now I have to lift 4 days to make it up thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:02 PM
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When I got upstairs, I felt major anger, unlike I've felt in a long time. ... I'm amazed she could sense my frustration with literally no external signs You're a shitty actor that thinks you're Oscar worthy, it would seem. Since she wigs out when her pussy is touched, I do everything but that There's a word thrown around a lot in this subreddit...something about "frame"... So I'm all set. Got my plan. I'm DTF. Narrator: "He was in fact not DTF"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 11:55 AM
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You linked to a removed post
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 11:45 AM
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OYS 27 Lifting GZCLP OHP 1RM 124 lbs BP 1RM 165 lbs Squats 1RM 222 lbs DL 1RM 314 lbs Edit: Weight: 202 lbs For second straight week I failed my T1 DLs. Went from 5x3 to 6x2. This week will be 10x1 at 305. My son recorded me on my failed set; I had noticeable back bend. I'm looking at options to record all my workouts to analyze. Wife has been coming with me regularly to the gym. She just got herself some yoga pants but her self-conciousness may get in the way. I don't encourage or discourage he…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 11:37 AM
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A significant percentage of our sexual encounters end up with her being pissed off at me for not getting her off. At this point, I’m still so in my head about trying not to fuck up so I don’t have to deal with her bitching afterwards that it makes sex not fun for me. No fucking wonder that she isn’t interested in having sex with me. . I read the post last week about the veterans around here being sick of newer guys focusing so much on their wives. So, what the fuck do I want independent of any r…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 06:12 PM
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My wife pulls this shit. Maybe half the time I initiate she's like, "make it quick". Sometimes I try to get her in the mood. Of those times maybe half she gets into the mood and has a good orgasm. Occasionally they're one of her better one's. Also helps me gauge her mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 05:55 PM
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Well, full disclosure, we don't know whose it was. She had an abortion. Who the father was became a moot point.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 05:48 PM
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My HS sophomore year I was in a new school. This cute girl caught my attention but she was a bucket of bad shit I'd rather avoid. Sitting in the hallways reading the latest Details, walking home from school, no matter what, that girl found me. For the entire school year I ignored her. Not once did she give up. At the end of the year I decided I was tired of being a virgin and wanted to fuck. I knew she'd give it to me so I invited her over one day and fucked her while my parents were upstairs. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 03:01 PM
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If he was smart he'd take the offer, create a memory then move on. I suspect it's a big if.
/r/askMRP18/04/19 08:56 PM
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Take the offer and drill the other girl right into the fucking floor.
/r/askMRP18/04/19 08:54 PM
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Im feel like there must be a way for me to solve it first I'm honestly conflicted on this myself. I understand your desire. But, it's not your job. I left my son's mother who was a fucking saint compared to my current wife in terms of behavior and temper when he was an infant. Specifically because I refused to allow him to grow up in that type of environment. I felt it was healthier for him to have seperated parents - both a very active part of his life - than married parents always fighting and…
/r/askMRP17/04/19 04:50 PM
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Not necessarily true. Blood is different from a civil partner.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 04:44 PM
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I want have to break the pattern FTFY If you insist on managing this, this is the advice I'd give you. My wife is diagnosed BPD and had surgery that seriously fucked up her hormonal balance. So, while I am not a doctor, I do have some experience. This is what I've learned for my situation. YMMV First, understand you have no control over her. You can attempt various peaceful resolutions but ultimately she's either going to rage or not. Start being proactive. Identify her triggers and get ahead of…
/r/askMRP17/04/19 04:42 PM
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Yea, cause nothing calms a situation like restraining a raging woman. Good call!
/r/askMRP17/04/19 01:26 PM
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I'll leave my comment up but I should delete it. It's shit advice. OP: either leave or or raise your son to be a bitch like his dad asking internet strangers 30 years from now how to manage his psycho wife.
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:59 PM
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And stop doing that shit in the presence of the kid, asshole I remember my mom throwing a frying pan at my dad and the house we were living in. That was some time up to the age of five. You follow, OP?
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:49 PM
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How to address when she wants to break your STFU by physically attacking you? You fucking leave. What the fuck is wrong with you? I looked her in the eyes and told her : "If you hit me, be prepared to be hit back, I am a lot stronger than you, I will not put up with being hit by you." And so she tested your boundary and you failed like a bitch. Your woman sounds like a real fucking piece of work so on behalf of males everywhere, thank you for getting her out of our way. But, this shit is real si…
/r/askMRP17/04/19 12:28 PM
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I don't get this. How do you define alone? No kids? Why would they disappear? What exactly about being alone do you fear?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 12:01 AM
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I see the logging habit I want to create should look like this: Cue - want to eat food Craving - desire to lose weight Response - decide whether it fits it my calorie budget and if so, log it Reward - lose weight It is so simple to break this down into daily goals. Each day's goal is the same: log all food eaten and stay under the calorie budget. I like this mindset, it makes things more achievable. No. Not quite. The cue is what triggers the desire to eat and could be anything; hunger, anger, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 09:59 PM
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Regarding counting calories, read how I adjusted
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:43 PM
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Much better on the negativity. It's clear to me that my (continued) resistance to logging food is exactly the same way a drug addict might say that they don't have a problem. Have you read this? You need to change your system. That starts with your mindset. Are you a healthy man in control of his own destiny? Or are you a fat fuck wishing you could be a healthy man? I'm starting to get angry about things again, mostly about the balance of responsibilities around the house. I'll share what /u/roc…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:33 PM
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OYS 26 The biggest rabbit in my hole right now is failure to obtain work. I have to own this now. The opportunity I have been interviewing for remains in limbo. I went in for an interview that was only to be one hour but lasted three. I left with some disappointment and concerns I did not voice. First, the interview was abruptly moved up an hour due to poor scheduling on their part. I had to rush to get dressed and get out the door. I also had to pay for parking which was was not insignificant. …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 01:42 PM
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I'll add more detail to some of these as I get other larger priorities accomplished. Some are independent; some highly dependent. Lifting Get in gym 4 days per week. This is hardly ever an issue so the challenge will be maintaining that habit. OHP - ERM 116 lbs, goal 145 lbs BP - ERM 165 lbs, goal 200 lbs Squat - ERM 232 lbs, goal 260 lbs DL - ERM 323 lbs, goal 380 lbs Diet Cut out the sweets. This has become a habit I need to get back under control. Continue deficit to get weight between 190 an…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/19 09:37 PM
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/r/askMRP12/04/19 09:23 PM
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I'm in. There are only two previous DODs for finance and they skim over budgeting.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 07:25 PM
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/u/SorcererKing, are submissions closed? I can do something on establishing a budget and tackling debt; at least on a basic level.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 02:07 PM
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lol, I appreciate that. This and a couple of other ideas I've had but wanted to make sure I was ready. Then I just said fuck it. When the hell are we ever ready?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 11:47 PM
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It's also important to understand a distinction here. I may have given the impression that after a period of time a good habit will remain that way. This is not the case, and we all know this. Without due attention, it is easy for any good habit to turn into a bad habit. "Oh, I'm not going to the gym today. My back is sore." Next day: "Still sore". Day after: "Woe is me." This is you subconsciously turning a good habit into a bad habit, should it continue. Much like we always must be alert for s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:23 PM
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So you're suggesting the best way to break bad habits is to develop new (good) habits as a response, instead? No, not at all. The way to break a bad habit is to modify one or more of the four stages to turn a negative reward into a positive one. I assume you're holding frame well. It sounds like you're still in the "response" stage. The "reward" will come either when you break frame or she alters her mood and comes back into your frame. That in itself does not change the habit, but it does chang…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:20 PM
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They condition the brain to accept failure while ignoring the importance of goals and milestones in the first place. Worse, they enable sloth and laziness. This is an important distinction I didn't think of when writing. They don't just "enable" sloth and laziness, they value it. It is their reward. Sure, they may realize it is unhealthy and unattractive, but they value it much more than the work required to achieve the alternative. As long as that valuation system is in play, nothing changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 04:12 PM
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Yea, getting up early has never .... Wait, coffee and coconut oil???
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 03:53 PM
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Networking is another huge issue I've always dealt with. It's not that I don't talk to coworkers. Rather, my attitude at work has always been "I'm there to work", not socialize. I've been fortunate in the past to have friends - former coworkers - connect me to jobs. And I've seen it happening again, though with not much solid. The problem has been that in my industry which is so cyclical, and my positions (data management) which have been contract for years, I have put myself into positions I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 11:05 AM
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All of my current options are aware I'm not employed. My LI hasn't been updated but not for any specific reason (laziness, perhaps). I am most definitely trying to keep the ego in check, if there is one. I'm at the mercy of others and I fucking hate it. My gut says to kiss their ass and let's get this done. But this has been going on three weeks now and they're taking their time, which I get. But I don't think I've ever had an opportunity take this long. Edit: We're on for tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 07:39 PM
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When I was a child, approximately seven or eight years old, I lived in a small country house. It wasn't unusual for the city-dwellers to bring their unwanted animals into "our neck of the woods". I never shone a light into the woods at night; I just didn't want to know if it was a deer or a wild dog makin' that russlin'. There were cats, too. And my mother, the freshly-divorced lady she was, was all too eager to rescue a furry feline. There was one in particular that eventually had a litter; a P…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 07:32 PM
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Thanks Chuck and thank you for your guidance over all this (and all the RPers). This time I fully felt in control though not in an ideal situation. I know my life is in my hands. I trust myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:46 PM
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I sure as fuck hope - no I demand that during the interview process you are stating that YOU ARE EMPLOYEED Eh, that ship has sailed. In hindsight I should have but I wasn't thinking at the time. Funny enough, they had asked if anyone else was seeking me last week. I told them several, knowing what they were getting at. They called today wanting me to come in this afternoon but I told them I had another interview, but would be available tomorrow. I'm playing high stakes poker. Eesh. You have the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 06:45 PM
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Been there, done that. In the process of owning our shit, we expose ourselves in ways we don't see but others do. Only then can we fix what truly ails us, if we so choose.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 03:49 PM
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When I asked if you were sure about it, it was related to smoking. Either admit that, for the time being, you are a smoker. Or, you're not. But cut the shit. I've been there, bro. I know. It fucking sucks. It's who we are. Until it's not. Edit: I did a clinical study years ago with Chantix and Wellbutrin. The combination helped me quit. If vaping ain't your deal, try it. I failed because I chose to smoke again. But for months, I was free.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 03:20 PM
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It's going to hurt. Especially if you've spent the last 30 odd years sitting on our ass. I lift five days a week. By the time Saturday comes, I have pains in every joint, muscle and tendon. As long as I can walk, bend over and pick things up without dying of pain, it's not an injury. Relevant
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:35 PM
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I feel a plateau coming for OHP so am getting mentally prepared to fail my first set. Preparing to fail is so fucking awesome and attractive. Why wait; go fail it today and get it over with. I'm really disappointed that I can't own this. Because you're so good at failing. I am having trouble coming up with something more concrete. Losers gonna fail yo I just know that this is going to come back again Ok, my sarcastic whit is running dry here. Your failure is contagious. My son is extremely resis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:29 PM
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The bench scares the fuck out of me, always has, because 6 months ago I had never touched a barbell in my life. I’ve always had a phobia about it. I don't blame you; same here. But fuck that. Perhaps read Stafon Johnson's story and remember that mother fucker survived and continued. He asked me to quit smoking. I will now. It may be the last piece of “wake the fuck up” that I need on that subject. You told me last week, I'm a non-smoker that needs to quit smoking. So, twice now you've contradict…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 02:11 PM
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Kids now listen to me the majority of the time. They do not listen to my wife. You good with this? If not, what are you doing to address it?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 01:25 PM
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Still looking for work. Plenty of reason for optimism but those statements are getting redundant. I had my first interview for a new position last Tuesday and it went very well. The second interview came Friday and also went very well. The second person I spoke with seemed very pleased with my skills and wanted to set up an in-person interview with themself and two others early this week. Two recruiters have also submitted me for contract positions. And a former boss connected me to an agency th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:33 AM
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No disagreement. OP has kids so I'd imagine he's not quite ready for dissolution
/r/askMRP08/04/19 09:54 PM
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NO ONE should ever be afraid of a physical altercation with their SO lol WHAT? Glad you didn't get hit hard by false accusations but survivorship bias applies here.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 09:49 PM
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My wife is certainly a CB7, maybe an 8; I wouldn't go further as I'm sure it could be a lot worse. My wife is diagnosed BPD which is something else I've never had to deal with. Add to that an oopherectomy three years into our relationship (side affects include cognitive impairment or dementia, ..., decline in psychological well-being, and decline in sexual function) and, well, it's been...a ride. do you ever purposely make her bitchy? Not originally. I would just do what I wanted. She'd react, w…
/r/askMRP08/04/19 09:37 PM
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Man, I've read your posts and I absolutely don't fucking blame you. Maybe one day I'll be on that path. Time will tell.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 06:02 PM
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Any motherfucker who purposefully would try to keep me up would have been met with zero tolerance and kicked the fuck outta the bedroom Noble, but some women (aka, my wife) would escalate that shit even more. Maybe OP's wife is a pushover and he could get away with it. Maybe she's not and it turns physical. My wife just pulled this shit the other night. I accepted that's what I married, ignored her bullshit and five minutes later she was gone. To each his own.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 05:47 PM
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Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement. The same way that money multiplies through compound interest, the effects of your habits multiply as you repeat them. They seem to make little difference on any given day and yet the impact they deliver over the months and years can be enormous. It is only when looking back two, five, or perhaps ten years later that the value of good habits and the cost of bad ones becomes strikingly apparent. ... Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 03:54 PM
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all women can cheat. I'm going to go against the grain but I just hate comments like this. And "AWALT". No different than a woman saying "all men cheat". If that makes me sound like a feminist, so be it. It's too simple an excuse. I don't read much of Rollo's recent stuff. I'll glance over some things. I read the book. But, I think once you get to a certain point of MRP you (or at least, I) realize it's just common fucking sense: Take care of yourself first. Always. Next, your loved ones. Fuck e…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 11:27 AM
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I think part of being the oak of my family is doing what’s best for us despite any protest, and owning whatever the outcome might be. What fresh hell is this you bring into MRP??? Blasphemous!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 06:58 PM
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I get it. I do. I'm sure I sound like a helicopter parent of demented proportions; I just don't want to fuck him up. Like any normal father I'm just trying to give him advantages I didn't have. But, yes, I know he's his own being and in the end I can't control that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 04:07 PM
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you're having a really late start in actually being a father No. Been active in his life since day 1. you just suck at it Most assuredly or you don't suck but you're having trouble adjusting to teenager phase Absolutely At the risk of sounding like I'm making excuses, I didn't have a father figure. I'm just not as happy as I used to be. I'm working on it. Letting him fail is really really really fucking hard! When he was a kid I was much better with him. We danced and sang together, toys, watch …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 01:11 PM
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The beauty of thrift is that as our bodies change we can discard old for new relatively cheap. When I got my goals, then I'll splurge. Until then, I'm still going to look good as fuck. You'll figure out what's best for you. In the end none of this is complicated. We're just changing habits.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 10:17 AM
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I get your point. I didn't see it this way at the time and I'm still not sure I do. I was clear with him that this day was about going through the motions, concentrating on form and at least getting the basics down. Hell, we were still doing warmup sets but he's wanting BP 100lbs soon as we get there. "What's the most you've ever done?" "I think 90 a few weeks ago in PE." I'm not trying to be a drill sergeant. And I'll have to give this some thought as if I really came across this way. I saw mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:01 PM
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I'm a non-smoker. How about you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:29 PM
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I was going to post an update but will do so to your comment. Interview went well. She remembered me. She remembered why she didn't choose me last year. I approached the interview as if I had nothing to lose, applying some principals from The Way of the Wolf. When the conversation ended, she said she wasn't going to bring me on for the job she called for. Instead, they have another position in a similar location doing something much more technical, and no one to do it. And, much more $$$ than th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:26 PM
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Result, other people noticing my accomplishments is good and part of life. Stopped reading. This is where we go wrong. Jim Rome used to say, "no credit for doing what you're supposed to do." I like that. I never sought validation from work other than a paycheck. A bonus is nice. A job is nicer. If you get kudos for a job well done, fine. But I didn't need people to tell me I was good at something. I know I'm good at it. If we bust our ass to accomplish something WE want to desire, does it lessen…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:18 PM
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I see no problem with taking pride in being envied and desired. Two verbs that require a second party. Unless, I am missing something? RP fundamentals, it would seem.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:09 PM
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I think you're right. Edited. Good catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 04:27 PM
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Do you not still have your mod? I don't feel the need much to smoke. But, I know where my mods are. I did fall back to cigarettes for a few months about a year after I first stopped. But that smell. Fuck, I could tell when someone got on the elevator after smoking and every time I was so thankful I didn't smell like that anymore. Edit: I make my juices, too. Cause fuck if I'm spending $30 for one. It's quick to make, but to get the flavor it has to sit a while, sometimes weeks. It's easy to say …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 01:06 PM
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I need to quit smoking. Have you tried vaping? I went from cigarettes to vaping about five years ago. Once vaping, I started reducing my nicotine levels; I went from 12mg juices to 6, 3, then 0, then well, why the fuck am I still vaping? Done. Plus, you don't fucking stink. You don't need to read "how". Just fucking do it. But, if you really want to read, read Atomic Habits by James Clear. That's the root of all we're doing here.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 01:04 PM
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I counted macros while counting, but it was really time consuming, and wanted to spend more time with my kids then counting every gram of food I ate I'm with you, man. Here's how I changed it: every day I eat the same exact breakfast; 6 egg whites, 3 yolks with about a half-inch slice of hickory sausage. Lunch: tuna salad that I prepped over the weekend; Two cans of tuna, 12 whole eggs, 3 green onions and 2 celery sticks with a little bit of seasonsing and a tablespoon of mayo. Snack: protein sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:49 PM
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The problem is I still fuck up and DEER when my wife unexpectedly snaps. You're being reactive. Be proactive. I struggled as well in this area. What I began doing was taking the offensive and making her uncomfortable or angry. Why? One, it's good practice. It allows me to better keep my frame and develop the habit to counteract her bullshit. Two, it removes the negative energy. I always remember a comment Persaeus wrote a while ago, basically he'll "gag [his wife] with a spoon." When I notice my…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:15 PM
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One of my biggest regrets making my journey has been not reestablishing friendships lost over the years. Or, at least, not nurturing them. It's funny though how, I guess when you have true good friends, it doesn't really matter. One old contact reached out to me several weeks ago asking me about a company he started working. I told him I had interviewed with them twice last year but they eventually rejected me saying I was "too technical" for the job. This contact, I had developed websites for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 11:57 AM
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You're about my size now and I'm 30lbs off my peak. You're getting good advice. Just stick to it. When you start lifting, don't just focus on the weight you're losing. Focus on the iron you're adding. Sometimes my weight will bump up which can be discouraging. But when I add another 10lbs to my deadlifts, I'm high as fuck. At the end of November I was doing sets at 210. Now it's 300. Stay focused.
/r/askTRP02/04/19 12:02 AM
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Take my advice with a grain of salt but I do a program similar to SL and I loved that I was in and out quick. After going for months, it's become a solid habit. Tracking my progress and I'm happy with how far I've come. That program you posted looks stupid long and possibly boring. You don't want to deter yourself starting off. Keep it simple until it becomes a lifestyle. Then expand. My $0.02
/r/askTRP01/04/19 11:54 PM
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Aggressive? Perhaps. And I agree with your first sentence. Though their laws were created to protect minors from exploitation caused by others, states are prosecuting minors under child pornography statutes for sending nude or otherwise lurid self-portraits, even when the minors sent the selfies without coercion. The common quirk in the laws is that there is no exception for taking or distributing sexually explicit pictures of oneself. Thus, a high school student sending a racy selfie to a boyfr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 03:18 PM
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I was thinking of Krok while reading the post. I just saw his documentary a week or so ago and had the same thoughts op had; how? Why? Huh? All people are weird. Except me of course
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 02:24 PM
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I just had a similar talk with my son but only in advance; just in case. "Any girl sends you pics, and someone finds out, it can lead to you being charged with child pornography, get you sentenced to jail, and labeled a child molester the rest of your life for the public to see. Ask yourself, is any pussy worth that?"
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 01:22 PM
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I went to go talk to manager of a local smoke house last night but he wasn't there. I've been wanting to apply anyway cause I love smoking meats and think I'd enjoy it. He's supposed to be in tonight when I get off. Regarding her, I'm not justifying anything nor ever will again. She's been having who knows how much fun the first ten years of our relationship at my expense. My turn. I won't leave. I have two pit bulls and cheap living in a very expensive school district my son loves. Financially,…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 10:36 AM
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Ooh I know. Believe me, I get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 10:14 AM
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No worries
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 10:58 PM
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Good response, sure. But she's behaved similar before. And with her claims last year of cheating on me and accusing me of cheating, the writing's on the wall. Question is when will I stop being a pussy and actually enforce consequences. As I said, first things first.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:11 PM
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Data. I'm registered with three local temp agencies. This didn't work too well last time either so yea I should be applying at Wal-Mart or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:02 PM
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No mate guarding. No snooping. She used to use one of my old phones till she got a new one which arrived before her trip. We now use it as a remote. She didn't clean it. I went to turn on tv, saw dudes pic on home screen (apparently a Messenger thing for active chats), and I saw the conversation. She knows she fucked up and I really don't give a shit if she convinces herself another way. Noting to monitor. Obviously she'll be friendly with anyone that wants to fuck her. Yesterday was an unemploy…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 12:55 PM
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Keeping it short today. No need for advice. I know what to do. No news on job front. Have about 5 options out there but no interviews yet. Did one online assessment for a data position. Taking proposals on a resume writer. Not money I want to spend but not sure I can afford not to. Keeping positive, trying to think of alternatives. Had good weekend with son just watching basketball. Some talk here and there but overall just a relaxing fun weekend. Discovered wife been talking to someone who made…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 10:40 AM
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Because you're inundated with information and shit you need to change. The to-do list is long; information overload. Concentrate on one thing at a time. Make it a habit. Then move to next.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 07:37 PM
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Meh, I could've rephrased it better
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 07:35 PM
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The "ganging up" was in quotes to suggest sarcasm. They both are getting together and poking fun at how I do shit. Wife even saying I'm becoming anal in my old age. It's light hearted banter. All good.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 02:06 PM
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OYS Week #22 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 203.5 lbs (-5 lbs) Relationship: F, 52 (together 12, married 5, diagnosed bipolar); one step-son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Employed, contract through March, 2019 Current Lifts: Bench: 175 lbs (-11 lbs, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 307 lbs (+2 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 118 lbs (+5 lbs, Est 1RM) Squats: 226 lbs (+5 lbs, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190 lbs by end of year. BP's are completely fucked with lingering shoulde…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 01:50 PM
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OYS Week #21 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 208.5 lbs (+3 lbs) 23% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 12, married 5, diagnosed bipolar); one step-son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Employed, contract through March, 2019 Current Lifts: Bench: 186 lbs (+6 lbs, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 305 lbs (-9 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 113 lbs (-3 lbs, Est 1RM) Squats: 221 lbs (+19 lbs, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190 lbs by end of year. Took Thurs through Sun off to reh…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/19 09:49 AM
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I still feel the need for validation, though can identify it. Need suggestions on how to kill it. Need to work on day game/practice opening women. I still lack the confidence to do it, but I greet/talk more to strangers, and talk less/more carefully to people I know. I think these are contradictory. If you're still struggling with the validation it's too easy to use success in gaming as validation. Maybe put the latter off for a bit until you get the former under control. Not saying don't talk t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 08:15 PM
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Son He decided to stay here for spring break. I prepped him for some resistance from his mother, reminding him of the WISNIFG Bill of Assertive Rights: II. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior. X. You have the right to say "I don't care." He understood and I sensed he gained a little confidence after that chat. Surprisingly, the mother offered no resistance and just said she'd try to find a weekend to come up. His grades this new grading period are off t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 02:07 PM
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OYS Week #20 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 206.5 lbs (+1 lbs) BF: 13% caliper (2018-11-01), 23% Tanita (2019-01-11, +2%), 25% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 12, married 5, diagnosed bipolar); one step-son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Employed, contract through March, 2019 Current Lifts: Bench: 180 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 314 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) OHP: 116 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) Squats: 202 lbs (+11, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 02:07 PM
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OYS Week #19 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 205.5 lbs (-3.5 lbs) BF: 25% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 12, married 5, diagnosed bipolar) Children: M, 15y, from previous gf; one step-son, 26, not living with us Employed, contract through end of March Current Lifts: Bench: 180 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 314 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) OHP: 116 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) Squats: 191 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs by end of year. No gym last week as it's been closed fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:46 AM
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Why wait to read? I've gone over some of the recommendations but I don't think of any of that shit when I strike up a conversation. I just got off the elevator where this girl had jumped on last second. Never seen her before. "Distracted?", I asked. "It's a Monday." "And how's it going?" "Could be better." "Wrong answer. Correct response is, 'Fantastic!'" "Umm, I'm not there yet." We get out. "What's your name?" I follow up. "Stacy." We shake hands. "Stacy, next time I see you you better be havi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/19 07:07 PM
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How do you reconcile giving her support and abundance while killing the beta mentality and cultivating ones own mental point of origin? I think you'll know it when you see it. My wife and I had a big blowout maybe a month ago; she was keeping shit bottled up. This was failure on my part allowing her to do this. Since then, I've modified my approach to a probing. It used to be, "How was your day?" "Fine." "Good." Now it's, "What's been going on with 'Samantha'? She still being a bitch?" "Oh, let …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 01:41 AM
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Do you not understand what STFU means? and she has been calling me Bundy a lot recently. She didn't know if we were going to fuck in the car somewhere or if I would leave her in a dumpster I....I can't...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 11:42 PM
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Yea, I begrudgingly acknowledge.... Thanks for the recommendations. The Little Red Book of Selling was one I had seen recently I'm considering as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:49 PM
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I am asking if I need to end a long time relationship with my once good friend and "mentor". I don't want to include all of the details, but its a monumental shift away from my goals. Who gives a shit? My best friend's dead. Another in jail for murder. You are your own constant.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:46 PM
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Then stop making your wife your emotional punching bag and fix your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:42 PM
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It took a while for me to see resentment and anger in myself. It wasn't until I got called out here in one of my OYS's. You don't need to do the same here. That's your choice. But you need to figure out the root of this shit and address it. And stop fucking blaming others. It starts and ends with you. Original OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:33 PM
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wife has been trained JFC, you marry a dog?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:18 PM
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Hey Rambo, So, reading a post and then waking your wife to fight about it doesn't seem a good idea, imo. Maybe just read, digest, plan, then act? Not all advice here is going to apply to your situation. Be a man and judge for yourself. You were given advice to cut off the friendship but you invite the dude over for UFC fights? Or try to crash at his place? "I can control it." The fuck you can. You're not worried about him cause you're a bigger bad ass than he can possibly be but go issuing deman…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 05:16 PM
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This whole fucking thing is a contradiction. You talk a big game but your actions are just the opposite. I'm curious if anyone gave you advice if you'd listen or find a way to blast your wife or Ron. Get over yourself. You're not invincible.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 04:47 PM
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Wife The week started off very good; kino, communication, a couple of weak failed initations but overall really good. There were no plans for Vday but the day after we were going to dinner at our wedding night joint. I swung by the house after work to drop some shit off then go run some errands. She wanted to know where I was going but, for whatever reason, didn't feel I needed to go into details. So, I brushed her off and left. The texts started immediately; basically accusing me of cheating. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 11:42 AM
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OYS Week #18 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 209 lbs (-2) BF: 13% caliper (2018-11-01), 23% Tanita (2019-01-11, +2%), 25% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 12, married 5, diagnosed bipolar); one step-son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Employed, contract through April, 2019 Current Lifts: Bench: 180 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 314 lbs (+21 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 116 lbs (+1 lbs, Est 1RM) Squats: 191 lbs (nc, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 11:41 AM
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When I was maybe a freshman I had a friend, Steven. We turned on each other for some reason I can't even recall. Tension built for a few weeks or so. I wasn't a fighter. But one day he wanted to show off in front of his gf. So when we got off the bus he starts egging, pushing, all the shit. I mostly stood there, not backing down but not being the aggressor. Then he did something - I can't recall exactly - that made me just knock the shit out of him. And it was on. I don't remember much of the fi…
/r/askTRP16/02/19 12:25 AM
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Calm the fuck down. What are you going to do about yesterday? Not a God damn thing so very get over it. Your first priority is finding a lift program. Stronglifts is a good start. Read up on nutrition, balancing your macros, and concentrate their there first. It's a marathon, not a sprint. So get to it.
/r/askMRP14/02/19 07:45 PM
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Good enough. Don't forget it's also an opportunity to practice game. You'll need it regardless what happens with your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 11:19 PM
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Im trying to get my son into stem as well but he's more into arts and shit. I have a programming/data background and tried to show him all the different shit he could do; arduino, raspberry, make video games. He doesn't care. He likes expression. Ok then
/r/askMRP13/02/19 11:12 PM
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You replied to the wrong OYS but I got it. I'll look over what you said when I have more time. In my industry, recruiters are about the only way you get in the door. And the money's far better contract than direct hire, though you don't get the benefits (which I'm ok with for now but ideally would like a perm position).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 07:20 PM
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Financial: Still need to figure out a plan to reduce expenses and pay down CC debt 8K each. /u/rocknrollchuck pointed me to Dave Ramsey's advice. Looking further into it, I found this. There's your plan. I have completely stopped talking to her about our relationship, I only initiate conversations regarding the kids and household and maintain a positive attitude the entire time. Good. Yesterday, she came home from the gym as I was folding the kid’s clothes and said, “You’re doing laundry? That’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 05:59 PM
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I opened another credit card just for this week. I'm so getting laid
/r/askMRP13/02/19 12:43 PM
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You want to show her that you got this. You showed her you didn't. A personal example: I have a bad history of financial management. I'm fixing that. This weekend as my wife and I were talking, I mentioned I had a plan for the credit card debt. I knew her reaction would be either, "okay, show me", or "whatever, I don't trust you." Either way, I was communicating that I'm getting on top of this shit. I let her know I saw it as a priority. What I didn't tell her was, "this credit card debt is mass…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:19 PM
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OYS Week #17 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 211 lbs (nc) BF: 13% caliper (2018-11-01), 23% Tanita (2019-01-11, +2%), 25% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 10, married 5); one step son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Employed, contract through April, 2019 Current Lifts: Bench: 180 lbs (+5 lbs, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 293 lbs (+20 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 115 lbs (+3 lbs, Est 1RM) Squats: 191 lbs (+5 lbs, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs. Starting …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 12:11 PM
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Yea pretty much. I feel like I could be doing better progression. FOMO really. Wasting time on my current 3 day week schedule
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 05:48 PM
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Thanks. I've seen this graphic before but lost it. My problem is I only have 5 days of access to the gym (closed on weekends). So I need something that I can work out on like a Mon-Thu or Mon, Tue, Thu, Fri schedule. Enter way I construct the workouts still requires a day rest. That's the current obstacle.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/19 03:09 PM
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What you want should have nothing to do with her. If she leaves, so be it. You shouldn't care. Your mission is to take care of you and then your kids. If she chooses to tag alone, ok. If not, ok. But your mission doesn't change.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 10:37 PM
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Noble. But wrong answer. Sidebar and try again
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 10:24 PM
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Do you want her to file for divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 07:27 PM
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How many pounds to you need to lose to get there? About 25 should do it. I could crank that out in six weeks on the ERG but God that thing bores me. I stopped tracking macros as wife went on keto which threw me off. I haven't made time to recalculate. start with the card that has the lowest total amount and pay it off first while making minimum payments on the rest. Someone else recommended this as well. I'm trying to pay as little interest as possible but I could've analyzed other alternatives …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 07:18 PM
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my Dad's words of encouragement during that time (if not his actual advice) have stayed with me long past his death. This is what I keep trying to remember. Should something happen I'm not around, what will he remember? My goal is a sense of direction and focus versus a baseball game. Thank you for this. And glad I made you laugh! lol
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 07:10 PM
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I’ve started to question if my life will ever get better I wanted to comment on this as well. Like lifting, you're only going to get out of it what you put into it. Also like lifting, hitting the gym every day isn't gong to make you look like.... Whoever the fuck you're wanting to look like. Not everyone is destined to be millionaires. Not everyone is destined to be Ghandi. Kill the self doubt. You doubt yourself, then we all doubt you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 06:09 PM
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I don't have time to go through your post history but ima get you started here. Shut the fuck up. I don't mean to your wife. I mean to you. That little voice in your head, tell it to shut. The. Fuck. Up. You are your own worst enemy. I read a few from you and think, "I don't remember writing this." I'm not hard core like these other mother fuckers here. I'm not great at introspection. Nor are you. So I'll try some extrospection. You can do the same by reading my posts. I just couldn't STFU, I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 05:59 PM
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Wife I've been making it clear we all need to put our stuff up where it belongs. She'd been going along really well but lapsed often this week; coats hanging from chairs, shoes and socks on floor, laptop on end tables. Instead of bitching or ignoring, I'll pick it up, hoping this will eventually encourage her to be more disciplined. If anything, I'm keeping my house clean like I want it. I'll do it myself without complaint as a captain does. I'll lead by example. As I was doing the king cakes I …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:48 AM
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OYS Week #16 Stats: Age: 41 Height; 73in Weight: 211 lbs (+1.5 lbs) BF: 13% caliper (2018-11-01), 23% Tanita (2019-01-11, +2%), 25% navy method Relationship: F, 52 (together 10, married 5); one step son, 26, not living with us Children: M, 15y, from previous gf Current Lifts: Bench: 175 lbs (+5 lbs, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 273 lbs (+13 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 112 lbs (-1 lbs, Est 1RM), on verge of failing Squats: 185 lbs (-1 lbs, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs. Moved BP to 6x2. No f…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 11:48 AM
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you choose anger as your default response I agree. Has been my entire life. I need to work on DGAF mode. He's 16. Chances are he may tell you to go screw yourself if you mention summer school. What will you do if he drops out? Fuck, I hadn't thought of that. I highly doubt he would even consider it. Of course, that doesn't mean I shouldn't. Something tells me that this young man doesn't have a job. No. I bumped all the measurements in this OYS for some reason. I'll fix that next week. He's barel…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 07:56 PM
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I'm in a shitty spiral downwards: Anxious -> Can't sleep -> more anxious -> get pissed and let emotions rule me -> can't sleep -> etc. I really need to get unfucked this week, that's the goal. How?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 07:42 PM
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Wife Mixed bag here and very little to be proud of. Wednesday she mentions via text she's possibly stressed. I know she won't tell me. One of her complaints is she can't talk to me. This is largely true as I get very defensive easily and I hate whining. I tell her I know she's not comfortable opening up but hopefully someday she'll give it a shot, that I'll be around. Now, I know her feelings are not my problems. But I also know she bottles up like a firework. And she's been in a mood since holi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 10:59 AM
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OYS Week #15 Stats: Age: 42y (no bdays, just updating for the year) Height; 73in Weight: 209.5 lbs (+0.5) BF: 13% caliper (2018-11-01), 23% Tanita (2019-01-11, +2%) Relationship: F, 53y (11y, married 6y) Children: M, 16y Current Lifts: Bench: 170 lbs (-5 lbs, Est 1RM) Deadlift: 260 lbs (+6 lbs, Est 1RM) OHP: 113 lbs (+6lbs, Est 1RM) Squats: 186 lbs (no change, Est 1RM) GZCLP. Goal is <15%BF and around 190-200 lbs. Moved BP to 6x2. Squats getting tougher as the bar keeps getting over on me. Still…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 10:58 AM
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Kind of a buried lead here, dont'cha think? Yes, this is super important. You should look into it and see not only what she's taking, but look those meds up online and see what the effects and side-effects are. Then you would be wise to accompany her to her doctor's appointments for a while so you can have some input and talk with her doctor. She's your wife, help her get her stuff straightened out. She needs your help. She's taking Lamotrigine. I have no idea where the other one is...I guess sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 06:21 PM
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I absolutely appreciate your response. And I get what you're saying. Here is why I'm not ready to give in yet: I traded weeklies. That should be "nuff said". So, your "pot of gold" comment is spot on. I never planned. I'd have a watch list, see a setup and take it. If it quickly turned against me, I'd scare and bail. Then I'd watch it run, chase, repeat. But I'd never diagnose the failures; most of which were emotional. Never made rules. See #2 I always saw what I was doing initially as "tuition…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 03:11 PM
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I'm going to post an addendum to this. Obviously there are some things I need to make a primary focus over other shit that I either haven't recognized or chosen to ignore. I am really trying not to make this a victim puke. I need to come to grips with the palette I have to work with. I'm waffling back and forth but I am starting to see that I do have a lot of built-in anger with myself. Sometimes I think it's just the wife trying to get into my frame. But I'm allowing my frame to whirl even when…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 11:02 PM
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I do understand you're point and that of the piece. What I don't understand is what I did wrong. Was my language in the piece negative? Sure. Why? Because I have a wife that wants to be upset over stupid trivial shit. I don't argue back. I take away my time. But I don't tell her "fuck you." I STFU and ignore her. I'm doing more for us to spend time together outside of the house. I'm leading. She has enjoyed this. The first time was fine because she was in good spirits all week. The second time I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 07:41 PM
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Welcome. If you haven't yet, read Steel's post (and the comments). It's about as good an intro as you can get. And avoid getting the divorce my wife wants. This already is the wrong mindset. If she wants the divorce, she'll get it. The plan becomes minimizing the impact to the kids. Have you spoken to a lawyer? Remember, the stay plan is the go plan. You're path doesn't change regardless what she does. Going with the rule of not blaming others for your shit: the vast majority of our marital issu…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 10:24 PM
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Illimitable Men Maxim #59 Illimitable Men Maxim #57 What is this?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 03:55 PM
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Hey Chuck! I'm going to disagree. I'm not angry nor am I showing it. For the most part I just ignore her and do my thing. Even last night I was playing with the dogs and she's bitching telling me I should've done that before she got home. Besides the one decent week couple weeks ago, she's been like this since new years. I asked her at one time if she wanted talk, she said no and commented something like, "it may be you and your son." But she didn't want to elaborate. I'm not letting it affect m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 03:53 PM
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Haven't lifted since end of December. WTF? What's the second rule?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 02:22 PM
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I like the rowing idea. I used to row regularly to lose weight but stopped during bulking. Thinking of starting again on my off days to help remove body fat. I'll likely end up going this route as I feel if I don't get my form straightened and add complimentary exercises I'll fail much sooner than I should. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 02:19 PM
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I'm just not sure if I try to continue Monk mode or just go back to initiating. Problem I'm encountering is my past butthurts get brought up. Everything we do demands practice. This is no different. You're acknowledging lack of desire to initiate because of her. So, you're in her frame. Practice the rejections. Rehearse in the shower. She doesn't know when you're mad. Cause you ain't that blue pill faggot anymore. You're Para-mother-fucking-Xilo.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:48 AM
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Another thing I'm trying to focus on is something /u/man_in_the_world had mentioned last week about anticipating the narrative. Sometimes she catches me off guard but generally I know when she's going to be a bitch and what she's going to say. Doing that during some of these incidents has really helped me stay calm. It's all so fucking redundant.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:37 AM
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OYS Week #14 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 209 lbs (+3) BF: 13% caliper, 23% Tanita (2019-01-011, +2%) Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. I have been stuck on 1 and 2 for too long, IMO. I need to start 3 immediately. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Hab…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:24 AM
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Meant to also add, had my doctor check my t levels; I'm at 350 which she considers normal. I'll be examining local clinics within the month to explore options on increasing
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 01:31 PM
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OYS Week #13 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 206 lbs (-1) BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita (about a month old) Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 01:22 PM
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I deleted this accidentally while removing older history. Here is the text: OYS Week 1 My mission: I will become a financially independent data analyst and retail trader within one year. Stats: 41 year old male, 196lbs, 25-30% BF (estimate), married (financially independent F) 5 years, together 10. One son from another woman; 15. Lifts: NA; I row 4.5 miles (7200m) 3x/wk, bodyweight 3x/wk. Current Dread Level: I've been such a bitch just wandering around, pouring a lot of pressure on my wife fina…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/19 03:23 PM
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Week #11 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 207 lbs (+7) BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita (Nov, 2018 Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission on me. Fix my shit. I used to be a cocky arrogan…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 02:24 PM
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Maybe. If so, I don't give a fuck. The other band I want to go see if they come here - last time they came she was all like, "I don't want to." And I fucking let her dictate me not seeing them. So, given an opportunity to see another band I like, that she didn't, I said fuck her and did my thing. And if given a second chance with the second band I'll do it again. Faint indicators of me getting my balls back. I'll take it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 05:57 PM
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On close, back to the wife, guess who now wants to go to the fucking concert with me? That'll show her, you big bad beta bitch. I don't understand this comment. I didn't do anything. I wanted to go to a concert. She shit tested me. I bought my ticket anyway. Now she wants to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 04:38 PM
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I pick up dog shit twice weekly before trash day. He cleans litter box. The other stuff, yea I need a major reevaluation,I know
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/18 12:54 AM
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I upvoted rocknrollchuck and red-sfpplus cause they're both on point. My mother used to tell my dad often that song would be the relationship between he and I. She was on point. I'm even guilty occasionally of ignoring my son but I try to make efforts regularly to do something with him. This needs to be your priority or before you know it, you'll have children but they don't have a father. "I tried hard to have a father but instead I had a dad." Kurt Cobain
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 07:28 PM
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Week #10 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 200 lbs (-2) BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita (about a month old) Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission on …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 11:45 AM
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Really appreciate all of this. He doesn't want to do the work. Let him figure it out on his own. How can I be a captain and lead in this area? He knows I study with my job, he sees me working. I've already told him if he has summer school he's walking cause neither my wife or I will take him. I'm supposed to let him fail? This seems so ass backwards to me. This is disgusting. You should take pride in having a clean ship, Captain. I used to. I got tired of doing everything while she watched tv or…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 07:33 PM
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Week #9 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 202 lbs (+1) BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita (about a month old) Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission on m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 05:29 PM
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I did forget to add, she came with me grocery shopping. Since I'm fending for son and I while she's out I was planning the meals. She kept trying to tell me to get this and get that. "You buying that?" At first my responses were in the affirmative but then I started shutting up. She disappeared at some point. Think she finally started getting my hints. I don't need her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 12:07 AM
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Week #8 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 201 lbs BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: 1/2. I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission on me. Fix my shit. I used to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 11:52 PM
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I finally started logging my macros using myfitnesspal.com and making sure the nutrient info matched. Balanced my proportions and found I can basically eat eggs and sausage for breakfast, tuna salad for lunch, a fruit protein shake after work and hit my protein levels there. I still have gaps to fill in carbs and fat and I'm about 800 calories short; that's dinner. I don't mind eating the same shit every day (except dinner where family is involved). So now I know my minimum daily consumption I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 04:41 PM
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If you don't have any hobbies then just dabble in shit. You'll find it. I often find I'm not in the mood to do a lot of extra shit. I also find that if I negotiate to spend at least ten minutes on something, then generally I'll desire to keep going once I've started. If after ten minutes you're done, move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 09:51 PM
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For the past two, maybe three weeks, I can not delay climax, can’t use old tricks, even pulling out, even trying to refocus energy up my spine (trick from David Daide)… and even then… boom. I know there are several options including; blow load and keep going (which I do), have more sex to increase control, and finally, believe this is just part of the journey. Look into kegels. There seems to be mixed feelings on this but I've found them very helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 04:51 PM
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Week #8 Stats: Age: 41y Height; 73in Weight: 198lbs BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Current Dread Level: I am redeveloping my action plan and making good progress in the gym. Sidebar Reads: NMMNG (2x) MMSLP (2x) MAP Best of Rational Male Additional Reading: Quiet Thinking in Bets How to Win Friends and Influence People The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Think and Grow Rich Mission: Refocus my mission on me. I am an oak. I am the prize.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 02:52 PM
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So she cheated on you? It's probably guilt, that's why she gave you such a hard time. Are you just going to accept that she cheated on you? Or is your hamster going to convince you she just said that to piss you off? She's cheated before so would I put it past her? No. Do I think it matters? Of course. What am I going to do about it? Not a God damn thing until I fix my shit. I'll look into Ramsey's book. I hadn't heard good things about him but I'm familiar with his name. I'm comfortable with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 10:54 PM
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I don't know that I'm leaving. As u/JudgeDoom69 put it, the stay plan is the go plan. I got other shit to do first. Plates are nowhere on that list.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 10:48 PM
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Your OYS this week is vague, and I suspect the reason "I'm not going to get into details" is because you know the guys here will rip you a new one. LOL, hell yes I did and I knew it would be truthful. Every bit. I wasn't let down. Was the fight about finances? No. Well, I don't think so. It started when she wanted to put her car in garage when I wasn't done cleaning it out. I told her no. She threw fits. Then later it was some other shit. That's when I started failing. She started threatening di…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 06:57 PM
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Week: #7 DL 1. major setback Missed last week because not much was going on. Wife spent two weeks on business travel which gave me an opportunity to prove I could handle shit on my own. By and large I did well, cooking good healthy dinners every night, bonding with my son, enjoying alone time. We rarely spike while she was away. Before she left for the first week, I had initiated and succeeded. Second weekend was rejected. When she returned this last weekend all hell broke loose. I'm not going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 03:07 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with BMI 27. I am Happy, my BF is happy with my body. Respectively, then why do you care? Work out harder, smarter, watch your intake, fine-tune here and there, and be happy with what you get.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 07:27 PM
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I am working on updating my way-too-baggy-shirts, but I don’t want to spend too much money on new clothes as I know I will be losing a lot more weight. I'm broke as fuck so I took to Goodwill and learning sewing. Over time I've built a much larger wardrobe than I've ever had and some basic things to custom the fit to me. I've learned to identify clothing that I can work with (sleeves too long) and ignore what I don't know how to fix (waist pleats). Cheap to fuck up, easy to look better quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 02:28 PM
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Week: #6 Stats: Age: 41y Height: 73in Weight: 198lbs BF: 13% caliper, 21% Tanita Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Mission: Interact more with son Build my online brand Secure stable employment at no less than current wages Take direct control over finances. Lifts: GCZLP (latest sets): Bench 140 at 5x3+ Deadlift 165 5x3+ OHP 75 5x3+ Squat 125 5x3+ Current Dread Level: 1/2. I'm easily recognizing shit tests but not always responding best. Need to start doing more of my own s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 01:35 PM
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It may be all. But why do you care? Focus on your shit and look for people you vibe with. If you don't feel welcome then ignore them. If they want to chat they'll come find you. If not, fuck em.
/r/askTRP31/10/18 05:02 PM
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I appreciate this, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:36 AM
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In short, yes, I've been financially irresponsible. I'm managing the budget now and paying all bills. Those in her name, I give the money to her to pay. I know she's not skimming or shit like that as I have root access to all her cc accounts and I see the utility bills. The gym idea I was never comfortable with and shouldn't said as much. This very well may have been a test to see if I'd make the smart decision or not. Either way, I failed. I should've immediately said no. But I wanted her and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 04:34 PM
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Week: #5 Stats: Age: 41y Height: 73in Weight: 197lbs BF: 13% caliper, 21% (Tanita) (wtf?) Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Mission: Interact more with son Build my online brand Secure stable employment at no less than current wages Take direct control over finances. Lifts: GCZLP (latest sets) * Bench 140 at 3x10 * Deadlift 185 5x3+ * OHP 75 5x3+ * Squat 100 3x10 Current Dread Level: 1/2. I'm easily recognizing shit tests but not always responding best. Need to start doing …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 11:34 AM
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Seems like there's a huge backstory here. You and I have similar stories from what I've read on this post. My wife's issue is she's waiting for the first big test; in my case, losing my job and immediately rebounding. I don't expect significant progress until that happens. My history in this regard is a major fucking issue for her, and rightfully so. Is there a significant issue that has happened before but you've yet to experience since you took the pill?
/r/askMRP26/10/18 06:15 PM
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When you push it and she turns you down, then you undo her view of the new you, again. Can you elaborate? The comment suggests has shouldn't push. Of course, he should. But if he gets rejected, fuck it; go about your business. How does this undo her view of your changes? If he displays butt hurt; that, I get (and yes, he is). Is this what you're referring?
/r/askMRP26/10/18 06:11 PM
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Yea I'm still going to say it's not her job. A dog isn't a woman's best friend. If 1 mile isn't enough (it's not for mine), take it 2. Get a flirt pole. Get a Jolly Egg. Don't crate it when it misbehaves. Redirect it to something positive then reward with treats. Treats for every single thing it does well. Clickers work too. Train that dog!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 03:35 PM
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My family has 2 "our dogs". I walk them pretty regularly every other night to an area I can run them chasing rabbits. When we got back they're exhausted. Dead. I do this because I'm the only one who can; who's willing (wife will only walk them around the block occasionally. They're pits.) If I don't walk them and we go out one night, they'll tear their beds apart. If I'm walking them regularly, they're angels. Walk your fucking dog. Wear that mother fucker out.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 02:42 PM
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I read The Best Of, Year One online as time allows but focused on the "Course Prerequisites" section ATM
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 02:29 PM
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So you’re sensitive about how your wife interacts with your boy? You’re saying “this is becoming an issue to me”. I’d try to build and have more compelling, attractive things to do, that she may or may not want to be part of. Don’t get butthurt if she doesn’t. Remember OI? Attract her through the amazing things you’re doing and planning. Understood. Also sounds like you guys all watch a bit too much TV. Not at all. She does. The kitchen is open to living room so it's all kind of right there. But…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 12:53 PM
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Not failure in that I couldn't buy presents, but that I don't have a job again. The act of buying presents, I don't see that as buying affection or BB. To me that would be if it were something I did repeatedly at random, for example, buying my wife a $2k necklace today for absolutely no reason. Happy to hear why I'm wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 11:59 AM
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Week: #4 Stats: • Age: 41y • Height: 73in • Weight: 197lbs • BF: est. 21% (Tanita) • Lean Mass: est. 154lbs • Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) • Children: M, 15y Mission: • Interact more with son • Build my online brand • Secure stable employment at no less than current wages • Take direct control over finances. Lifts: Moved to GCZLP after some more research; no stats yet Current Dread Level: 2 Sidebar Read: • NMMNG (2) • MMSLP (2nd reading) Additional Reading: • Quiet • Thinking in Bets •…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 10:26 AM
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If she was naked in front of you, why not try to caveman fuck her right there? Flip that shit, I'd think
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 01:41 PM
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Don't shit where you eat. Leave coworkers alone. Just socializing, no flirting. I see some fantasy thinking here Can you clarify, please? What was your parental situation when you were a kid? Parents divorced early. No father figure. Mother has nasty temper.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 05:31 PM
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Same here as a matter of fact. I need to be more aggressive letting her know what the budget is as far as food and shit. She's frugal anyway so I've let her make that decision but, yes, I need to take more control. Plus, she does the motion of paying the bills. I give her the funds to do this. When I wanted control she said everything was already linked to her account. So maybe this needs to become a mission now...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 12:44 PM
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Split. I'm covering all living expenses as she did for me when I wasn't working for a couple of years. She covers her personal bills. Unnecessary house shit she covers unless I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 12:15 PM
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Week: #3 Stats: Age: 41y Height: 73in Weight: 196lbs BF: est. 21% (Tanita; awaiting a caliper exam) Lean Mass: est. 154lbs Relationship: F, 52y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Mission: Interact more with son Build my online brand Secure stable employment at no less than current wages Take direct control over finances. After talking with u/ParaXillo I realized I had to take this over. She's going to fight back on this because of my history of sucking at finances. Will be interesting. Lifts: St…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 11:02 AM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/18 12:31 AM
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Had it saved from last week!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 08:34 PM
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Thank you. I don't now for sure. I did some online navy calculator or some shit that asked for 3 or 4 measurements and spit out numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 06:01 PM
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Fair enough. I'm still lost though how that was a screw up.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:29 PM
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Aren't we all DEERing here though? I legit didn't want to fuck. I was half asleep. I put my arm around her, pulled her closer a bit, then we drifted off. What am I missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 05:17 PM
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Oh, and bought some $15 shit to start styling my hair. She didn't argue with me, just asked why. Told her I wanted to. Next check will be comfortable so cologne is next buy. Wanted to a few months ago and she said no. It won't go like that this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 03:28 PM
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Week: #2 Stats: Age: 41y Height: 73in Weight: 195lbs BF: est. 25-30% Lean Mass: est. 175lbs Relationship: F, 54y (10y, married 5y) Children: M, 15y Mission: Interact more with son Build my online brand Secure stable employment at no less than current wages Lifts: Examining gym options Current Dread Level (source): 1, working on 2. I've started putting a weekly and monthly plan together for career and financial concerns. I guess I'm closer to 2 than 1 but the shit tests still catching me. Sidebar…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 03:24 PM
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​ She cheated on you. Do you want to be with her? Or do you think this is the best you can do right now? Me personally, I would have left. ​ And then you married her after that? Yea, if I had to do this all over again I definitely would've made different decisions. All my life I've gone with the flow and this shit is a perfect encapsulation of that. Do I want to be with her? I don't know. If we met for the first time today I'd go a different route. So, I guess, no. And you're paying all the bill…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 11:50 PM
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OYS Week 1 My mission: I will become a financially independent data analyst and retail trader within one year. Stats: 41 year old male, 196lbs, 25-30% BF (estimate), married (financially independent F) 5 years, together 10. One son from another woman; 15. Lifts: NA; I row 4.5 miles (7200m) 3x/wk, bodyweight 3x/wk. Current Dread Level: I've been such a bitch just wandering around, pouring a lot of pressure on my wife financially, being an ok father but not great, and really shitty to myself. Let …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 05:49 PM
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