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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Disengaging approach in closed public places. The real issue is that you're probably calling her cute and asking for her number before you know how she's going to react to you; it's too many steps at once which you can't then calibrate for. All you should be doing is opening a conversation to see how she reacts to it and work with the girl. If she's open to talking to you then you can take it further and you can have a proper interaction which can then escalate over time. It's not an issue at all that you started a conversation with someone…	/r/seduction	20/08/17 09:53 AM
1	Does being too kind and nice always kill attraction? I'm getting destroyed Being "nice" isn't an issue, the issue is that it's very one-dimentional and predictable if you're solely trying to impress the girl. The more emotions you make a girl feel, the more she'll be attracted and engaged; by saying that you're only going to be "nice", you're limiting the experience you can give the girl. The solution isn't to be an "asshole", you should totally be aware and calibrated although you should be more diverse in your expression. You should be positive, negative, silly, seri…	/r/seduction	20/08/17 09:25 AM
3	Depression is killing me, Need advice. You're very welcome. I mean, frankly, there isn't going to be "a day" is what I'm saying. It's constant, consistent effort. It moves from "effort" to "habit" over time and you develop a healthier way of dealing with negativity but there isn't a situation where you can just ignore negativity altogether. Pain is a part of life and is an important part of life which allows you to grow. Suffering is optional. Again, it's making the choice that even though there is pain, I'm not going to dwell on it.…	/r/seduction	19/08/17 10:30 PM
1	Help in changing mindset You have to trust that you don't have to think in terms of a mental dialogue. Your brain isn't off, in fact it's clearer if you aren't "thinking"; you're trying to be "aware", not "think".	/r/seduction	19/08/17 08:42 PM
1	Getting into a relationship advice The biggest thing is to take full responsibility for your situation. If you don't do anything, nothing will happen. You have to be willing to put yourself out there, lead and create opportunities for yourself. At the same time, you have to develop some resilience. It's about shifting from being on the back-foot, being in reaction to the girl, the environment, the social pressure and instead of that you concentrate on a pure outflow of your expression. You should spend less time trying to manage …	/r/seduction	19/08/17 08:32 PM
1	Depression is killing me, Need advice. Time is everything. It's absolutely impossible to spend time engaging in negative attitudes and come away from it with self-esteem; as obvious as that sounds, the problem is consistency. "Even though" you got friend zoned, you learnt from your mistakes. "Even though" you have issues, you do have things going for you. "Even though" you're slightly overweight, you're making a serious effort to turn that around. "Even though" you don't have a girl, what about the relationships you do have? Energy e…	/r/seduction	19/08/17 08:13 PM

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