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Field ReportImaginary-Use-5929/r/seduction07/10/25 07:28 AM
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Its not an OCD-like spiral. Its an OCD spiral. I have the full blown disorder. OCD symptoms exist independently of rational thoughts and attitudes. Most people say I'm kind and easy to get along with and be around. I'm a very positive person in general. Being left on read is my Achilles heel because it triggers OCD symptoms. Ive been seeing a dating coach, they told me keep doing what I'm doing and that its a numbers game. I would add that I dont have OCD because I have a negative attitude. But …
/r/seduction08/10/25 07:20 PM
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This is an interesting perspective and I like what you have to say about the finite vs infinite game. I get that in theory. And Id say I show up in the world in that sort of way, and at the same time, I'm really for a fuckin date at this point.
/r/seduction08/10/25 06:07 AM
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Yes, I am. I wouldnt say I'm allowing it, its a product of my mental health condition. Its fucking torture. Rationally I know I locked the door too, but it doesnt mean I won't return to check it and lose quite a bit of time doing so. If I could turn it off at will, I would have done so by now.
/r/seduction08/10/25 06:01 AM
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Yeah that is a very valid point. I'd have no idea how to get advice on that though because its not like I have someone right next to me when I'm talking to her to give me feedback. And as I mentioned above, I didnt go into the interaction with a defeatist attitude. That exists now, as a result of the OCD spiral I've been stuck in from being left on read.
/r/seduction08/10/25 12:10 AM
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Ohhhhhh! Thank you for clarifying. That's very helpful actually. Honestly, I never considered that because my social battery is usually super drained after performing. That, and I had an early gig outta town the next morning and needed to get to sleep. However, in the future I can keep that in mind when I do have the opportunity to go out right after I meet someone, to try for that. Pretty interesting how getting advice from others can highlight what now seems like an obvious gap in one's thinki…
/r/seduction07/10/25 11:56 PM
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Thats a good question actually! As well as one of the responses below talking about how being a musician could serve as a disadvantage in some ways. Well, I think my frustration would probably be the same. And ultimately I dont want a woman to like me for my musical ability, I'd like her to like me for me. My hope was that being well known, having a skill that shows discipline and being liked in the community would help me get my foot in the door with a woman and then we could connect on real hu…
/r/seduction07/10/25 11:53 PM
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Thats a good question. The reason it shakes me so much is I have Oscessive Compulsive Disorder. Unreplied messages cause me to doubt my own perceptions, memory of the moment, and hyperanalyze trying to find fault. Simply put, its a specific trigger with my OCD. I probably wouldn't have felt a need to post if she had just said no when I asked her out. That would have stung, but I woulda brushed it off in an hour or two. The being left on read thing is what sends me into a spiral. I have the same …
/r/seduction07/10/25 09:45 AM
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At this point I've lost at least a few days of feeling functional. This stuff hits so frickin hard. I have OCD, so I literally cannot stop replaying the situation.
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:55 AM
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Also, what do you mean about the way I describe the interaction with the waitress? The fact that I'm now feeling frustrated, or was there something about that interaction? I ask that sincerely, not being argumentative.
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:54 AM
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I'm in a dry spell dating wise. I got laid the nigbt before. (Not a date, a hookup with a fwb who was visiting town) so I didnt approach asking this waitress out from a place of desperation.
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:52 AM
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How does writing music solve my problem of not getting a date? I play music all the time. I'm lonely af!
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:50 AM
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Because I'm now frustrated by my results I'm needy today. I was not in the moment. I love the mentality that a guy is never supposed to feel frustrated. Maybe some of you have an easier time of it. I struggle with ocd, so these things devastate me....after the fact. She doesnt see any of this. After a few rounds of therapy I'll build back up, and then eventually try again, and know Im gonna crash for 2 weeks when she rejects me. Its almost not worth it anymore.
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:50 AM
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The way I'm describing my interaction after the fact. I feel defeated and needy now. But in the moment I was speaking to her, I did not feel needy at all. I would say I was at an extremely high level of confidence and self assuredness. I'm in a different state today. That is true. As you said chicken and rhe egg. I don't think I came across as needy in thr interaction.
/r/seduction07/10/25 08:47 AM
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I'm locally famous. And was a featured star performer that night. Thats gotta count for something right?
/r/seduction07/10/25 07:59 AM
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What do you mean close on the spot? I asked her out, and for her number right after the show? What are you suggesting?
/r/seduction07/10/25 07:58 AM
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I think you misunderstood. I text her immediately after I got home. The followup double text was today 18 hours later.
/r/seduction07/10/25 07:57 AM
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