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Go and get a decent lawyer. Shouldnt cost you more than a few grand to get an opinion and some water tight advice about protecting your assets. It’s a small price to pay for ensuring you are not taken to the cleaners. To get a decent lawyer, ask around for referrals. Don’t go to page 1 on google, you will just get the firms that spend a lot on marketing, and cheap shiny suits. Don’t fall for the charlatans. If you get a family lawyer with 10 years experience, from a top university with a relativ…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 07:57 PM
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She’s a complete c*nt, she fucked another guy then blames justifies it on you looking at porn. Mate she fucking with your head, zoom out. It’s gas lighting 101. She has done the classic narc trick of twisting it and turning it on you
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 09:41 PM
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Being divorced is sad and monkey, ror me the only other option is staying married to someone I cannot stand….shirt tempers spooky brat she is. So the reality is I had kids with the wrong person, and now it’s can’t be undone. Even divorced I still need some semblance of a relationship with her because of the kids. I regularly feel like I have no hope. I love my kids and they are the only thing keeping me alive. Sometimes I feel they would be better off without me, it would be neater. No shuffling…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 06:02 PM
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I’ve been here and got the t-shirt: you cannot live in a sex starved relationship, you will simply end up fighting each other, then one of you will cheat. DONT DO THIS - From experience bad idea as long as you are open and honest, a relationship can weather these storms trust is the bedrock of your lives together set boundaries and expectation for what you need in a relationship. If these issues aren’t being resolved then with her willingly, then you have clear reasons to ask for open relationsh…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 10:53 AM
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I think the problem is, you think she thinks like you, has the same caring nature as you, same moral values as you. So how can she not have feelings for you after sharing so many important milestones and experiences together. But there is something you need to get your head around, and it’s hard to grasp. She may not have been in love with you like you were in love with her. We all turn a blind eye to bad behaviour from someone we love, because we see mainly the good aspects of them instead. The…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 07:12 PM
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Your life is precious, you marriage was dead. If she cared so much about the marriage she would not have let it fall into such disrepair. Her pride is hurt, she’s bitter for lots of things, probably at herself for also staying in a relationship out of some notion of loyalty. You would not fall in love with someone else if you were in a loving caring relationship. Break ups are hard, and she will need time to understand her emotions and feelings, so do give her some leeway to allow her emotions t…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 08:04 PM
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Hey, I’m actually really lonely! And it’s a bad place to be because when you do meet a nice lady, you become quite reliant on her for company, and it can put too much pressure on your relationship early on. Someone that has lots of friend and a good social life, tend not to be as needy, and bring better energy to the situation. Just my two pence. This is my concern , I have kids so it’s super hard to actualise without paying a fortune for child care
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 08:43 PM
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Ultimatum!! Then Run!!! Seriously, you don’t have kids, this marriage is easy to unwind. Just explain the marriage in its current state isn’t working for you. You aren’t asking her to change, but if she wasn’t to choose the way of life, you will no longer be a part of hers. Your life is short, be in a relationship where somebody wants to spend time with you and respect the integrity of your marriage. Honestly mate, from the outside it’s soooo obvious this is a bad situation to stay in
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 10:45 AM
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I think acknowledging who you are and your emotions is a healthy thing. Living in denial and mascarading as some sort of pseudo alpha wannabe is kind of sad. I am who I am, and I’ve got to a point in life where I don’t feel the need to apologise for that. I will take a look and see if it convinced me otherwise
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 08:19 AM
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Such a binary thinker - ok
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 05:27 PM
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It’s true I’m lonely, and just being at home with the kids is comforting. STBXW and I are relatively civil, don’t really speak but to cooperate over kids duties etc. I’m worried of being a lonely guy in a crummy flat, with the “cheater” label around my neck. Maybe an open relationship would work? Ie professional parent arrangement with freedom to see other people
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:35 PM
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Appreciate your direct approach - kids are my world, love them and have a great relationship with them. Many friends, including her friends and mum have supported me, because they see how difficult my STBXw can be, and how supportive I’ve been to the kids. I’m an effing good dad, I will stand by that. I tried for a long time to please an unpleasable woman…it sucked me dry, broke my self esteem and confidence. Withholding affection and sex, treating someone with deference and contempt is a silent…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:20 PM
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Wrong and reductionist
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:16 PM
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This is true, as a decent human being, you probably feel a bit sorry for her and see her for the lost soul she is. What’s really nice is this means your heart isn’t full of hate, and actually shows a really healthy level of self esteem and self awareness. Your ego doesn’t need someone to loose for you to win. A damaged ego would relish the idea of the perpetrator failing - but a healed or healthy heart can understand someone else’s actions are just that, their actions, their issues, their proble…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 05:45 PM
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This is very true. Separation is either because she has feeling for someone else or she is sending a warning shot across the bows to scare you into change. Take time to work out what you want. You matter - what you want matters Get your shit together - stop your bad habits Ask her to sit down and tell you exactly what the problem is - shit your mouth and listen intently. Without judgement, if you want the truth - just shut the fuck up and listen
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:43 PM
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This is a really good question. Very poignant. I would say DO NOT rush! Take your time, enjoy the landscape of life and doing things for yourself. Think deeply about what YOU want from your life. Write them down. Enter relationships that support that outcome. Be very honest about expectations and boundaries with new partners. I think you may be surprised about how understanding the right people can be. They probably have their own shit too. Not all relationships need to look the same. As long as…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 09:18 AM
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I know you are annoyed and upset. Honestly those emotions are generated by a toxic thought loop you need to take time to reset. Go away for 3-4 days by yourself - in a yurt or something, no tech. Paper and pens and just write down what you know to be true. Go for walks. Think deeply, find clarity in what’s important to you, in the bigger picture of things. You may hate her now. But remember lying and cheating is a failure on that persons part. Not yours. Let me repeat, it’s their own failing, no…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 01:33 PM
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I was in the same boat, I metaphorically self flagellated myself for 6 months - reflecting, having a cry, being stoic and a bit miserable tbh… then I read something “don’t forget to smell the flowers” and for some reason this quote just spoke to me…I’m about your age, you have a limited window of being genuinely attractive to the opposite sex. I decided to go for a few dates and just see how I went. I really enjoyed the person I met, I went back to hers and had mind blowing sex…we’ve since dated…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:31 PM
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Like any contract or agreement you should do the research, look at the consequences of it going wrong. There is a whole industry built around people getting married and divorced. Just like christmas, there is a lovely idea behind it, but the reality is it’s hideously commercialised. I am in fact a romantic, and I like the idea of a life partner. The problem is people spend more time organising a wedding than actually researching the real meaning of marriage and what that entails. Like you are si…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 12:41 PM
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Go and get laid
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:58 PM
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If I was a betting man, I would bet she had known him before the split. But there is nothing to prove she had intimate relations with him. The sad truth is, people are allowed to change their minds. The heart doesn’t lie either. It’s fucking soul destroying for the other person. Your immediate goal should not be proving who did what what. It should be accepting your situation, and putting yourself in the best possible position to move forward. Over time the truth comes out. Please remember she i…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 09:32 AM
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Well, if you need anything ping me a message. Pain + reflection = growth If you hold on through the pain, take a real deep dive into yourself, why you do what you do, you will see the wounded person you are, and perhaps have compassion for yourself. The drugs, they cover up and soothe the pain, so we never end up addressing it. Have some courage and I hate to sound misogynistic man up for your kids. You are their role model. There is nothing wrong with fucking up, that is to be human, it’s how w…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 08:51 AM
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Mate, listen - you are suffering from guilt and a whole host of emotions. You need to look after yourself and 100% do not sign any paperwork when you are feeling like this. I get you feel guilty and don’t want to hurt your partner any more, and in a way I’m guessing you want to punish yourself for forgiveness. The most important thing is making sure in the long run you are in a position the be a fantastic dad. So you must think of how and divorce package and settlement will leave you - whether y…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 01:34 PM
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