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I don’t want to commit adultery? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:35 AM
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I’d have to question the source. Because I do relationship counseling, with a five month waiting list. So I’m doubting why I keep making money off gen z if they’re all alone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:27 AM
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I think telling anyone “you’re below average” would offend them, don’t you? And most women I know would answer “10” if asked to rate themselves. Not because they believe it. But because they hate that type of male-centered rating system.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:24 AM
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I don’t hate anyone, dude. Except for one ex. And they deserve it. I think you need to love before you can hate. That said: I don’t know how to answer your question. I don’t rate people on a scale, so I can’t give you a number. Since joining this sub, I often wonder if the one single gay man, who’s 5’6 and Filipino, is single because of that…but gay men be slutty most of the time, and he has a higher n count than all of us. Just not a partner. I totally admit I live in Seattle, and my clients ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:22 AM
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It is nice. And if you aren’t hearing that, that’s honestly sad. I always go out of the way and go way over the top to congratulate colleagues and coworkers for their work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:16 AM
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Yeah. And that’s sad. I had lots of casual sex in my 20s. Didn’t add anything of value to my life. And a few of the men and women I slept with I feel bad for because I just was lonely and wanted to get laid. I get not joy on those memories.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:15 AM
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Ok. Let’s say that’s true. Whose fault is that? Because I’d argue it’s no one’s fault, and men who can’t have women lust over them need to stop blaming women. Let’s say, even though I don’t believe this, it’s women’s fault. Blaming women won’t do anything about it. It won’t add happiness or joy. So why blame them? If women only want the top 20% of males…then that’s their choice. And if the women who can’t get them would rather have cats and scroll IG, so what? There’s literally nothing to be don…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:13 AM
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Cuddles can absolutely be better than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:09 AM
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40s have been good to me. I’m with someone and have been, and staying in shape is harder, and my hair is thinning. But making friends is still easy, being kind is easy, and I know I wouldn’t struggle if I were single. It’s the same wink and smile, just with more grey hair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:05 AM
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Cocaine’s a helluva drug
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:02 AM
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Exactly. If you speed up and cut me off in traffic you technically did nothing illegal. But I’m still gonna cuss you out. I’m not going to call the cops. But I’m going to judge your choices. Same here. And I’m 40, and if one of my friends started dating a 21 year old…well, first of all that wouldn’t happen, but if it did, I’d be grossed out and cut off contact. Not call the police. Not write my congressman. Just be grossed out. And cut off contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 08:00 AM
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This is what I’m saying. I am not trying to make it illegal. But I’ll raise an eyebrow and judge. No one gets to say, “I’m beyond judgement because it’s legal!”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:56 AM
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Not sure I understand. Unappreciated for what? Like if I offer advice or something I might get a hug, but if I’m just doing my job no one is going to pat me on the back for it. Not saying that’s what you meant, which is why asking for clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:49 AM
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Naw. Fuck anyone that wants to keep my dna on file. Private or gov.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:36 AM
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I don’t want a private corporation that owns a hospital having access to my DNA to test against others, and then use for their own purposes. Better now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:29 AM
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Sigh. Sadly, true.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:28 AM
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I’m a man, and I agree. Paternity testing is just a non-starter, for my own reasons, in addition to not sleeping with a woman without protection. If I was single and didn’t want to worry about kids, I wouldn’t have sex. If I’m in a relationship, it’s because I’m with someone I trust. I’ll leave the rage bait to virgins arguing about alimony when they’ll never be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:24 AM
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Sex is literally always an exchange, unless they’re literally prostitutes. I’ve chosen all the women I’ve slept with, and they’ve chosen me. And it wasn’t a free meal or bs like that. That’s a meme. Sex is mutual. If not, it’s rape or prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:17 AM
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Local reddits can help. When I first moved here I only knew one person and posted in the local sub about used book stores and met two totally platonic friends that way, in a safe, public space. I know as a woman it’s harder often times. But yeah. Maybe an option. DM, be sure you’re not being catfished with other social media accounts, and then something in public. But I feel for you, and I hated feeling isolated the first time a move happened with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:15 AM
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Sooo many single dads here in Seattle. My older women friends comment on it, but don’t shit on it. They just notice it wasn’t like this in places outside of here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:12 AM
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My dad was in med school and my mom was in nursing school. He got to dissect a body for class, and he invited her to watch, because she was fascinated. Together like 47 years. They both just love science and the human body as topics. And fight well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:09 AM
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Who are these “most men”? Statistically, still, majority of men are still finding sex and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 07:02 AM
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Can’t imagine having sex with someone under my league. I’d rather be single and play with my cat and puppy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:57 AM
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“Women are prostitutes” Imagine living your life believing this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:52 AM
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Honestly. The delusion of denial in denying this is outstanding The idea women are after some 6’ cut Chad is so ridiculous to those of us in the real world. I know two people who are single in my group of gen z coworkers. One is gay, and still gets laid. The other is trying for a trad life. The other, almost 20, employees are dating and playing the field. None of them know these “incel” men complained about here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:50 AM
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And if the man is honest and up front, that’s fair. They both knew it was a pump and dump situation. But if he led her on and his profile said he was only looking for Ltr, then he’s the scum bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:44 AM
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I don’t know if “large” is accurate. Last I read when I was in school was that average age gap was men over women by 2-3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:00 AM
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As a man about to be 41, I work with a lot of people starting out in medicine, and they’re all around 21-25. I literally could not be attracted to them, even if I can be a human and say, “yes, they’re attractive people.” Like, I could literally be all of their dads, biologically speaking. That gives me the creeps, and overrules anything else. I don’t think age gap relationships should be illegal or anything. But they give me ick. And it’s a free country. I’ll express that. And I haven’t met one …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:52 AM
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Yeah, I would be more like, “that’s so awful you had a bad experience with xyz sexual activity. That must’ve been awful for you.” Not, “I’m so mad I don’t get to traumatize you myself 😤”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:35 PM
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Yeah, I don’t buy that 😂 I mean I know people can be jealous of people’s pasts, and maybe that makes their partners less desirable? But for everyone I know who’s jealous I know someone else that doesn’t care about the past (sexually).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:32 PM
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Please do, and please stop complaining when you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:17 PM
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La (and NY, and Chicago, and a couple other cities) are different beasts. They just are. You have literally millions of women compared to thousands.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:34 AM
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Back in my day it was this site called “hotornot” and it was super awkward seeing people you’ve rated. Still can’t believe that was real life. Oh early 2000’s
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:42 AM
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Incels don’t deserve love. Because of how they treat women. If they were involuntarily celibate and still good men, maybe. But incels deserve nothing except to be alone for their whining over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:01 AM
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As in dad jokes. I’M FUNNY! lol but also, yeah, I never knew how to open on dating apps. But I’m older and glad I didn’t need to. I met my current partner on social media, but she is an artist and I opened with a legit comment on a piece she was working on, and didn’t “make a move” for months, because all I knew was I was attracted to her physically, but still knew emotionally she could be trash. Not gonna hit on potential trash just because her genes were/are good. Thankfully she turned out to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:37 AM
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Damn. That’s dad
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:34 AM
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“Hey, so I’m so glad we matched, you were and are definitely someone I was hoping would match me back. I was worried I’d hog you all to myself. And be shellfish. But I’m sure you’re not. You’d probably call the cods. And baby when I’m done with you, you’re gonna need a sturgeon. Love, Bob.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:32 AM
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I find the “spike” is also real. I’m 40 now and any man or women I’ve dated did the spike in their 20s, and then calmed down. Spike is probably the same shape, but different number for most people. Get bored with the scene. Or focus on career and exclusive relationships. Or both. And maybe you had sex once in high school then four in college, then chilled out. Or four in high school and twenty in college. Spike is the same. Number is different. (Again, for some people. Not all.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:29 AM
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You’ve clearly never met a high libido woman. Maybe they’re more rare (I have no data, so won’t say), but they absolutely exist. I have a high libido and have still been worn out by some women. Some of them absolutely love sex. Some of them don’t. I have evidence of both, but no evidence of which is more common. I’m personally only drawn to male and female partners with libidos who match mine. Im legit curious what data you’re using
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:23 AM
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Who doesn’t love being called a good girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:40 AM
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Yeah, I mean I would never be offended if a friend eventually fell for me. But I would need them to respect that I’m in a relationship, and I’m not going to change how I feel about them as just friends. We’re not going to flirt or break boundaries of my relationship just because feelings of romance developed for them. And it would break my heart if any of them decided they’d rather not be able to “just be friends” after that, because I’d be losing a friend that I just wanted to be friends with. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:43 AM
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I literally have no response to something this insane
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:33 PM
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Wat
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:10 PM
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Propaganda by who? Big Rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:03 PM
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One of, if not THE things I don’t understand from all these “debates” are the men who just want SOMEONE OR ANYONE and are willing to have such low standards to get that. I’d rather be alone than lower my standards. And I don’t even think mine are that high. Be attractive (to me, not on some lame 1-10 scale). Be smart. Make me laugh. Play-flirt. Equal division of labor. Shared political values Those are basically it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:10 AM
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Just play it cool. Let her know it didn’t bother you, even though it did. She’ll see you’re an adult and capable of facing rejection, and respect you for it. But. At the same time, don’t show interest. Just be friendly and..:cool
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:09 AM
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At my 20th I got told I looked the same, but man I feel older every day. Aging sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:06 AM
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He’s super cute. Dang
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 02:00 AM
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At least you didn’t get strung along longer. But I know that’s not a good comfort. What’s next?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 01:41 AM
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I think that’s probably true. I’m not a big fan of uncircumcised men, but I think that’s just because of porn I watched growing up. Lame that that’s the case, and I don’t like that about myself
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 01:18 AM
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Not this denying this crap again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:51 PM
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How should I back them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:52 PM
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I assure you my body count is high enough, if not higher, than mean guys. What I am is confident. Not cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:48 PM
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I’m a pacifist, and she is too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:46 PM
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It’s the weekend, and I have time. You keep trying to wound me or get a rise. It won’t happen. Do you get that? There’s literally nothing you could say that will upset me. But if you want to DM me and actually discuss your issues, you can. Even after your jerk behavior. Take care, either way bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:32 PM
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I’ve “laid” plenty of times, and I’m a “nice guy.” I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:25 PM
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Stop blaming your genes and work on your attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:20 PM
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I’m in a relationship, and have been for years. Sigh, honey. Try again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:18 PM
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In my 20s it was good. Then I grew up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:55 PM
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So DM me. Let’s talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:53 PM
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Your comments mean nothing to me, dear. I have women friends and a woman as a partner. You don’t get under my skin. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:49 PM
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Are you a bad person?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:45 PM
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I don’t downvote, but I see you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:34 PM
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That’s probably safe. If they’re still thinking of them they aren’t ready to move on
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:27 PM
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I get this. There’s a line that sticks with me from the movie “Munich” “Why should cut my nails, they’ll just grow again?”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:24 PM
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I “cold approached” someone once, but fucked it up by drinking and letting the “L” word slip after three dates. Great woman, and still hope she’s doing well. I just shouldn’t have had that last beer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:22 PM
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Did you watch the Tetris movie? Loved that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:17 PM
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Baby it’s ok. You think I flex over people I’ve slept with? It’s a number. It literally doesn’t matter. And I help people everyday, and am enriched by my work. Your comment only builds me up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:11 PM
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Proverbs 13:5 The righteous hate what is false, but the wicked make themselves a stench and bring shame on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:08 PM
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I guess over 40 women and 29 men and a grad degree in therapy should mean I’ve learned something. But I’ll take your word for it baby
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:05 PM
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You genuinely seem inelegant. So how don’t you get that there isn’t a “theory” or pill to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:01 PM
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I’m 40 and my n count is about equal to age. Never met a woman like that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:59 AM
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Actually, yeah. She would never tolerate a gun or weapon in the household. Is this strange to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:57 AM
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Here’s what I’ll tell you. If you’re honest, Dm me. I’m a relationship counselor. And I can’t fix you. But I’ll gladly offer free advice. As long as you’re honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:56 AM
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I have a high n count, and don’t have those traits. Sorry to burst your bubble
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:53 AM
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I’m happy in my relationship of almost 7 years
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:52 AM
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Do you think it’s possible to find someone attractive outside of their bodily appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:49 AM
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If that’s his looksmatch
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:47 AM
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I only date bi women because I’m bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:37 AM
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Then work on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:33 AM
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And? What does this line of thinking get you? Are you in a relationship? Or are you blaming outside forces?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:32 AM
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I hope they do
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:28 AM
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If men had standards instead of being thirsty
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:20 AM
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So it’s been a while, but “are you in the industry?” ring a bell? God, everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:00 AM
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I lived just LA and people literally don’t understand the traffic. I couldn’t ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:57 AM
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Why would you want someone who is legally responsible to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:28 AM
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Be a good man?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:25 AM
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I think you’re my favorite person on this sub. And I don’t care if people think I’m simping, and you and me both know we don’t talk outside this sub. But love your takes, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:12 AM
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I’ll upvote you for being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:07 AM
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What is “Chad” to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:06 AM
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How long was you longest relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:05 AM
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I think there’s a vast difference between making a mutual decision (aka asking her/him approval) and just doing want you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:01 AM
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If I saw a man cry in public I’d come up and ask him if he’s ok. Same as a woman. Who are these people who just walk past?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:35 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:19 AM
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I’m 40. We have regular sex multiple times a week. And have been together forever. Try again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:17 AM
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Yes. Women never want good men 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:15 AM
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Exactly this. They want a man who can take care of them IF THEY NEED IT. And I want the same. If I were to lose my job I would want my partner to be able to pick up the slack and make ends meet. We’re literally equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:13 AM
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That’s not how that works, mate. Wanting your partner to be there for you if you come on hard times is literally being a partner. Where does this sexism come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:10 AM
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Only met one woman in my life who fits this description. But I live in a liberal city, so maybe in the fly-over states?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 09:08 AM
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lol what? Woman: “I’m attracted to x y and z!” Man: “nope”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:54 AM
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No. He has to be 6’ and make 6 figures and and and other Internet memes!!!! 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:53 AM
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Nope. Absolutely not. I am not responsible for my partner. She is responsible for herself. She’s an adult. I don’t understand this line of thinking. I’m not dating a child who needs protection, I’m dating an adult who (hopefully) managed their own life for years. Where are you getting your information?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:42 AM
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How is your current relationship going?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 08:18 AM
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Yeah. That’s the key. Working through issues. Jealousy. We communicate well, and I think that’s why we work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 10:39 PM
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Aww, are you ok? Does being empathetic for people make you angry, baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 10:33 PM
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That’s fine. If you want to talk about it, I’m here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 09:45 AM
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Keep voicing your opinions. Keep being you. You literally don’t need any man or woman to keep it happening. Thanks for being you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:11 AM
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Sorry if that sounded derogatory or disrespectful. I legit wanted to know your answer and opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:02 AM
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Ok, respect. I’ve mentioned before I respect you you, and that stands. Thank you for always being an honest person and answer. I don’t always agree with you, but thank you for being a good human and honest person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:58 AM
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Can I ask you a legit question? And you’re obviously free to say otherwise, but (hopefully you know know I’m legit.) What’s your reason for being celibate? And I ask this not as a “gotcha” or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:45 AM
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Totally feel this. I do t know (and for the sake of the argument, don’t care) how old you are, but I had a slutty phase as a man. That man was 20 years ago. I don’t even recognize him. I have have a high n count, but that’s because of many different reasons, homeschool and remind being the majority. I wanted to rebel, and did. But I don’t want that now. Edit: I suck at editing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:07 AM
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I don’t necessarily “want” a high n count, but that’s because I’m indifferent. I have no problem with it because I had a phase in college where I was slutty. And I refuse to be a hypocrite. Me and my current partner made lists of people we slept with and then shared, and it was actually a good bonding thing for us. And we both admitted to feeling a little jealous, but then we were so glad we got it all out of the way and there wasn’t anything more to hide. It was all out there. I get that’s not …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:10 AM
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If it takes toys or fingering or oral, why wouldn’t you do everything to make your partner feel good and be prince or princess cummies? Like wtf? I’m legit confused
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:56 AM
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Assuming this Westworld scenario could even be possible, it would mean that they’re as smart as humans, but have some software that is forcing them to be attached to me. They don’t get to choose me. They don’t get to stay with me because they can’t imagine being anywhere else. That knowledge would eat at me and I would never be able to feel anything for something like that, and because of that, even if it’s some super hot android woman/man, I would quickly, if not instantly lose sexual desire. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 12:05 AM
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I agree with this. I understand if my feelings, and the way I express them are a turn off to some women. But I don’t want to be with those women. Or be friends with them. I have a partner that loves me, and female friends I trust wholly, and none of them have ever been “turned off” by my expressing and talking about my feelings. I know women who have, but I cut them out pretty quickly. They aren’t people I want to know. They can go have their stoic man, and that’s their right. I just won’t play …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:40 PM
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This sounds like an awful idea for anyone. I can’t see any benefits to both partners, only benefits to the one with no experience. Relationships should have benefits to both. And being used by someone that couldn’t pull in their youth, just so they can learn how to do basic relationship shit, is disgustingly selfish behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 09:12 PM
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She absolutely doesn’t. Sometimes when we’re away we tell each other stories about things we did while one of us watches. And I don’t think every relationship is capable of this. Be we are. Because we’re our people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:01 AM
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Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:26 AM
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Mate, I’ve never been rejected in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:18 AM
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Then they failed at being a partner. I didn’t fail. That’s wholly on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:17 AM
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Nope. I either trust her/him or I don’t. Only cheaters cheat. And I don’t date them. And “cuck” literally means nothing to me. I’m friends with multiple exes and she is too. I understand the insecurity. But some of us break up and it’s mutual, and we realize we just didn’t work out, but we valued the time together. I’m not jealous of exes who fucked my partner. They are literally a part of her past. I’m her current, and hopefully her future. At no point in time will I care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:16 AM
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But that would be insecure. She’s with him. I’ve had a few mutual breakups, and they’re some of my closest friends. Why would I ditch them for a partner’s insecurities?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:11 AM
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I know you mean figurative child, but fucking 13 year olds will tear you apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:45 AM
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I don’t care if people make fun of this, but I’ll tell you a true thing. “Field of Dreams” “Rocky II” “Requiem for a Dream” I sob like a baby at the end of all of them. And sometimes I go searching for the specific moments. I want to feel those things. Sometimes I want a good cry. And ugly cry. It’s cathartic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:43 AM
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I make close to 90k and my partner makes 80k. We live in Seattle, both with masters degrees and working in our desired fields. It’s not near enough to afford a lifestyle where one could quit their job. But we have amazing school districts, culture, and we aren’t giving it up. Now if I were back in Missouri, making the same, I could probably pull it off. But neither of us likes being in a red state and land locked. We agree on the life choices we make and made together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:29 AM
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Family Ties was a good TV take on this if you’re not familiar. Michael J Fox was the rebellious youth, who embraced conservatism when he had hippy parents. Edit: wrong title
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:20 AM
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Omg I remember fondly these fights on MySpace in their like group threads (I forget what they were called, similar to a Reddit thread). Had so much fun arguing with fundies in the early 2000s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:19 AM
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I love Christopher Guest movies so much
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:46 PM
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I don’t know how people can shower in the morning. Warm water puts me right to sleep
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:32 PM
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She’s outnumbered 3:1 on Tinder. She has far more options
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:52 PM
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I remember my Tinder days a decade ago. I met many men and women who had used photos from a decade ago at best. You’re probably too young to remember HotorNot but we used to rate each other. Nothing will change. And meeting face to face will always call it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:46 AM
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I don’t agree with some of your points, but thank you for saying this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:40 AM
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If your boundaries try to include other people they aren’t you boundaries. I’ve said this many times before, but you can’t build a fence around a neighbor’s yard and be pissed when they cross it. Values? Yes. Boundaries: absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:37 AM
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Yes. This a great post. Because you used the word “values” instead of “boundaries.” Which are very different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:20 AM
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I mean that’s fair. Most of my staff are in their 20s and fresh out of college. I’m about to be 41. I have zero interest in people who I could have fathered. That’s seriously gross to me. And that can’t be helped. It is literally revolting thinking about being with men or women (I’m bi) that young. I don’t want to change laws or do anything close to that. But I absolutely will judge and shame. And people like you are free to carry on. I won’t ever be envious of people my age and older dating you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:34 AM
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I would be disgusted in myself if I hit on someone 10+ years younger. Like I would have to really self reflect on why I think that’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:42 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 09:51 AM
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I absolutely do. For those who believe in it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:25 AM
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Thinking they will is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:36 AM
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It’s ok. Literally don’t care if you believe, bb
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:36 AM
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Meh, if they’re getting laid while red pill and black pill men get nothing that’s fine with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:04 AM
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Welcome! 🥰 Again, you can’t get to me. Like ever. It’s ok bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:58 AM
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Oh. That’s very different than what I imagined, and I want to apologize. Not that I think she’ll be tempted, but because that’s a highly stressful emotional situation. For both of you. It sounds like she could use therapy, too. To find out what her need for outside validation is for. The reasons for it are probably obvious but buried. And I would encourage you to politely and kindly address them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:56 AM
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It’s sad, honestly, you think we’re enemies. Your slurs don’t offend or bother me. So let’s say I’m a simp: I’m a simp that’s had a fuckboi phase and gotten around. Let’s say I’m wounded: yeah. Past partners have absolutely wounded me. Soldier: yup, served right before and during 9/11. You literally cannot verbally damage me, so if you want to actually talk, do so. If not…cool. 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:52 AM
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Rather than berate you, let me say this: It’s ok. You’re both so fucking young. I’m 40, and could be your dad. And you seem smart. Like legitimately, emotionally smart. But you have to trust her to come come, and come home to you. Me and my partner have a rule where we can unlock phones at any time. But I think in six years we’ve used it like three times, and all of those following drinking. I’m a relationship therapist now, and I can tell you at max only 20% of people cheat. And of those, it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:46 AM
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Good for you, my lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:40 AM
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I am a therapist. A couples ones. Values are something you share. Boundaries are exclusive to you. They get tied together too often. If we share values we’ll dress modestly, not flirt with others, even if it’s “innocent,” etc But I cannot set a boundary around my partner. The therapeutic boundary is personal. And the hijacking of it is extremely problematic. “It’s against my values for you to dress this way” is acceptable. “It’s breaking my boundaries for you to dress this way,” is not. Words ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:33 AM
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Absolutely! I have (sadly) encouraged many couples to break up because of differences in values. But values and boundaries are vastly different things to me, and people in my profession
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:25 AM
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It is absolutely a sign of insecurity if you think your “boundaries” extend to someone else and how they dress. And I don’t care if you or anyone thinks I’m a simp. I’m 40 years old with an N count higher than you can fathom. It’s easy to get laid if you’re confident. You take care now bb 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:24 AM
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From my experience, RP men aren’t interested in relationships. At least not healthy ones. I’ve professionally dealt with three who wanted a trad life and were able to provide that (taking care of all bills while wife is stay at home). The rest I’ve met have wanted control of their partners, and wanted them to change from the women they were while they were dating, into the women they wanted them to be after. And that doesn’t work. Trad wives exist. But don’t date someone posting thirst traps and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:21 AM
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Whenever anyone says they’re autistic I ask them the name of the doc that diagnosed them. Mind you this is in a professional, therapist setting. Most say they self-diagnosed. Not all. But literally most. Which isn’t how it works. You don’t get to be a computer engineer and then self-diagnose a serious mental condition. Not even I get to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:13 AM
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My random internet person, she wants to look good and feel good. And maybe she wants to feel validated. But only cheaters cheat. Women and men who don’t cheat won’t cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:05 AM
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You can’t set boundaries around other people. No therapist will tell you otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:02 AM
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Because she’s 17. And wants to be noticed. This isn’t difficult to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:02 AM
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Your boundaries can’t fence in a partner. You can only put boundaries around yourself. If she wants to do this, she has wanted to do this before OP and her met. It’s absolutely a sign of insecurity, and no modern relationship will survive it. She’ll ask for therapy. OP will either go and change or stay the same and lose her. And she’ll find someone less insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:00 AM
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You’ll understand eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:11 AM
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She doesn’t. No woman does
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:05 AM
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This is true. But it’s also funny how some men worry about their partners being dressed in clubbing clothes and fucking strangers. The majority of affairs happen at work. And almost always have since coed work places. Just like serial killers usually kill who they know or watch long first, cheaters cheat with who they see every day. And no, murder and sex aren’t the same. At all. But we covet most what we see every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:19 AM
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I saw a normal woman dressed comfortably and at times flattering. She never wore anything even close to “risqué” and even if she did, who cares? She probably did before and bro is mad that she still does.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:06 AM
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Bruh. You can’t be the clueless. The woman you’ve been mostly replying to is a virgin, and doesn’t need me standing up for her, but if you knew her at all by reading her posts you know she isn’t some skanky person putting out and flaunting. She’s stating a point. And I don’t know how you can’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:02 AM
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Bro, you can doubt me all you want. I have nothing to prove. Just a smile on my face
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 09:00 AM
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Mate, my n count is almost triple digits. Your opinion doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:08 AM
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Why is this complicated? You know if you’re hot early on. Im hot but still got put in the friend zone multiple times. Because we just didn’t click. And that’s fine. I have more female friends that men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:43 AM
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I don’t many men get how socially inept they are. They watch videos of PUA and other people and try to imitate them and it just comes across the way it is: sad and desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:39 AM
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Where are your statistics about women cheating this frequently coming from? Or even that they cheat higher?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:11 AM
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This is so cringe 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:04 AM
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Men who date down are pathetic and have no self respect or value. I have standards, and have and would turn down sex or a relationship if she/he doesn’t meet my standards. What an awful life to rather be with someone you’re not attracted to, rather than have standards and be alone. That’s why women (largely) are content being alone. They won’t lower standards. And men shouldn’t either. Why would men do this to themselves. This is why /r/deadbedrooms is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:03 AM
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Most couples now meet through online interactions. Not just OLD. Make friends on instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and then shoot your shot after you know them, their interests, and can carry a conversation. I’ve met so many friends online that led to irl relationships and friendships. It’s literally not hard at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:56 AM
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Never heard this from any woman. Not sure where you’re seeing this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:47 AM
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Exactly. Rejection doesn’t have to be a big deal. Take your ego out of it. If she/he doesn’t want you, that’s on them. The main reason many women don’t want to be cold approached is because of how men deal with rejection. The other reason is, as you said, many women won’t be interested regardless of attraction, because that’s not how they want to meet their partner or someone they date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:41 AM
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If you don’t have friends, that’s on you. You had chances in life. College. Trade schools. Etc. unless you’re autistic, you had chances. And if you didn’t make and hold onto them, that’s on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:38 AM
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I mean, I’ll take all my hookups and ONS and FWB situations over just being sad, mad and lonely. They had value to me. They made me feel better. Feel attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:00 AM
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Saw that subtle Mitch Hedberg quote
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 11:46 PM
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You should consider being Amish, based on some of your other posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 08:47 PM
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Lying isn’t going to work for any reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 08:43 PM
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Then it’s probably an incel larping
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 08:18 AM
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I hooked up when I was single because I wasn’t lonely and because I could. I imagine most women do the same. I don’t see the big difference, if any, in behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:55 AM
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Comparing casual sex with murder. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:19 PM
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It’s only embarrassing to insecure people. Where that insecurity comes from is a better question you should address. Perhaps in therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:05 PM
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It was either Jesus or Meatloaf who said, “I would forgive anything for love. But I won’t forgive that.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:58 PM
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Friend zone was in the 90s. I remember hearing about it when I was 16 and that would’ve been 1999. The movie Slackers (2002) said “treat a girl like dirt, and she’ll stick to you like mud.” I remember thinking both those things were bs then, just as I do now. New grift, different name.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:06 AM
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Meh, sounds pretty accurate honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:02 AM
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*only Zuul
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:00 AM
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I keep getting paid. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:15 AM
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Fully aware. If there’s one thing I’m fully aware of, it’s how US politics works.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:15 AM
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Our system doesn’t allow for three parties literally never has. Even when a new party has emerged it becomes one of two, or disappears. You and me may not agree on a lot. But hopefully we can agree fptp is the worst system we could have. Theres no reason Mitt Romney and Trump should be in the same party, just like AOC and Biden.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:58 AM
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Yeah. Theres a reason they have zero members in Congress or senate. But it get the joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:44 AM
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Naw. Bodily autonomy is of higher importance than fetuses being developed and born.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:27 AM
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Yeah as long as she bears 100% of the physical burden, men don’t get a say. That’s how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:16 AM
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We can’t enforce that. And no political party is going to have starving kids on the ballot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:15 AM
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As soon as men have to bear 50% of the pregnancy they can talk about a woman only being responsible for 50% of the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:11 AM
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I love living here. Best women by far. And I never liked shaved pits on women anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:10 AM
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Not if he opens doors for men equally as women. I respect you want a trad lifestyle. But I’d never date a woman who didn’t want to be equal partners. Like I get you. But isn’t for me. Or my partner. We want equality. I love the fact she currently makes more than me, and she loves that I’m a pacifist and would never own a weapon. Different strokes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:53 AM
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Then they can have those men 😂 Just stand up for yourself. And discuss it beforehand. Talk about “we split first date, and then take turns paying after that.” That’s literally what me and my partner did. And yeah, I got her some small gifts (very small, like $20 or less) in-between, but she did the same for me. We saw cute thing when we first started dating and just bought them and gave them. She also makes more than me. Weird how hypergamy doesn’t always fit. Because I ain’t Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:42 AM
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As a therapist…that’s just flat wrong. Men just tend to deny the benefits of being listened to and want a therapist to offer solutions instead, and then are likely to say therapy failed them when us therapists do what we do, instead of what some men want us to do. Biggest struggle in relationship therapy are the men, so much of the time. Their female partners (assuming cis het) just want to be heard, and the men who “flunk out” for lack of a better phrase, are the ones who want a list of solutio…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 03:57 PM
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Some people aren’t destined for romance or romantic love. Why is that anyone’s fault or problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 03:12 PM
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You said it doesn’t satiate your desire. Literally what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:51 PM
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Seems like a personal issue, not a men’s issue. If you’re not satisfied being yourself and around friends, you’re not going to be satisfied with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:46 PM
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Majority of women can’t. I have literally zero worry about it, dude. I have no problem using toys or oral sex to get a female partner off. My ego is literally zero attached to someone else’s orgasm. What a weird thing to be hung up about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:15 PM
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You: “Would you hold my hand?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:06 PM
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Weird that some cultures hate females having orgasms 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:03 PM
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Being held is the most manly you can get
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:01 PM
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Over 50% of women can’t orgasm due to just PIV sex. So I don’t understand anyone who would look down on giving a woman an orgasm. If that wasn’t your point, go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:59 PM
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Making your female partner orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:55 PM
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Probably their parents, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:53 PM
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Because eating pussy is literally amazing? Wtf is wrong with you? “I hate my partner orgasming” Like…what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:50 PM
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Yikes. This doesn’t end well, my friend. Lying never does. She will find out. You’ll leave your phone open or one of your mates will message and she will find out. You might think you have a perfect plan. But you don’t. Liars are always found out. Literally always.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:49 PM
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Man after my own heart
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:34 AM
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That’s interesting. Us bi people aren’t sluts. But we’re more open. I think us bi people are more willing to try. But that doesn’t make us all poly, or all sluts. That said, the only threesomes I’ve had have been with “straight” couples. But even then, was either one or the other who wanted it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:32 AM
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Amazing show
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:26 AM
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I loved the way Hancock flied in his movie
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:20 AM
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That’s Filipino, Balut. Unless you’re thinking of something else. And it’s awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:19 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:18 PM
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Feminism absolutely doesn’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 02:02 PM
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Yeah, I don’t know much about him, but everything I’ve seen is him saying most people can’t do poly. Which, in my experience, professionally either couples, I have know two couples who have been poly and can make it work. Their issues that need therapy are interpersonal, not issues with them seeing other people. That said, outside of those two couples, I’d never recommend opening up the marriage, because it fails unless you’re both poly and know so from the start that’s what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:25 AM
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Yeah, this is how I see it too. I give my all to my partner, and pick up the slack when she’s had a rough week or is sick, and I take care of her when she’s sick or injured, etc. And then she does the same for me. I don’t think of either of us being submissive or dominant to one another though. We’re equal partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 11:13 AM
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Yeah, I don’t get how, “if you got beaten in the face once in a past relationship, and only left after the second time, I deserve to get to beat you in the face once, too! Consistency!” That’s lunatic mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:00 PM
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Bro, you need to talk? DMs open if so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 09:01 AM
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Us bi people have to stick together. Or else the straights and lesbians/gays so we can’t have any friends
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:10 AM
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I met my last partner online. But it wasn’t dating apps. She was on insta and I “slid into” her DMs. It wasn’t thirst traps, but she occasionally posts those. It was her art.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 04:36 AM
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Explain reasons you didn’t t message. Doubt? Game? Etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:49 AM
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Yeah I’d have to see the comment chain. And see and know the relationship status of the women commenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:44 AM
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Think about yourself. And imagine your gf/wife needs either foreplay or oral/finger manipulation of her clit to orgasm. And now imagine it can take a bit of time. It’s worth it. But it takes a little time. Now imagine you’ve just had the worst day at work. And you’re feeling self conscious. Wounded. Whatever. Now imagine you’re in a good mental space, and so horny you would do her in every way in every position. That’s what it’s like in a LTR. And sometimes you still go down when you’ve had a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:43 AM
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🧢
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 01:36 AM
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We should have standards. That’s the biggest issue I disagree with on red pill mentality (not necessarily the theory, but the mentality that comes with it) When I did Tinder like a decade ago, and it was still like all hookups, I didn’t swipe on every woman or man (Grindr for that, don’t think same sex was allowed back then). I still had looks standards. And if we matched, even for a hookup, I needed some indication they were a human with a sense of humor, similar political philosophy, etc. yes,…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:46 AM
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Teasing and foreplay always work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:40 AM
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Statistics say it’s 1/3 who will cheat. But if it’s any consolation, that’s 2/3 that don’t. I get relationships are scary. I remember being 23, lord, 17 years ago. We all grow and learn. And you’re not done learning yet. Not saying you’re stupid, because your posts and comments show you have depth. But you have so much to experience. And I got the joy of being 23 before YouTube, Facebook, and everything else existed. So I know your experiences are different, and unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:39 AM
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And I absolutely agree. And wish I could help them better. The solace I get is helping men listen to their partners more. That’s an “action” or solution I can offer. But I couldn’t do one-on-one with males. I would have so little to offer. Working on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:33 AM
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Ahh gotcha. Kk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:31 AM
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In my therapy sessions a lot of it comes back to conversations. “Well X did this with an ex, and I can’t.” Or, “Well X did this and I never got to.” It mostly boils down to comparison, imo. I have a high body count. My partner does too. We loved see when we were in our 20s. People think it’s odd I prefer a woman with a higher n count, but that’s because I do, and I want an equal who gets my life experience. Would be hypocritical to have my high count and expect less
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:29 AM
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Literally just curious what you mean? How does a woman +1 you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:25 AM
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Just the tip is the best game men can play, brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:24 AM
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And I get that. I do. It’s what I struggle, professionally, the most when it comes to what I do, which is couples therapy. When couples come in the majority of women want to be heard, and the majority of men want solutions. I excel at the first. And struggle with the second. My field isn’t really tailored for that. Which is why I think so many males say therapy is a joke. It’s just not tailored for a lot of men. And I work on that. But I also don’t think like a lot of males. And that’s, again, n…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:23 AM
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Yeah. “Yes, I’ve thought about quitting! I’ve thought about talking to to HR!!” Just. Listen. Please…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:20 AM
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I ain’t a cuck. I have a goal 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:18 AM
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Well, I’m a licensed therapist. And I don’t DM people first, but if you want to unload I would listen. That said: I’m sorry that’s your life experience. Some people would rather talk than listen. Thinking they’re helping. Fight Club had a good line about it, regarding self help groups: “When people are dying they really, really listen to you —“ “Instead of just waiting their turn to speak?” And the fact she cuts him off nails the point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:17 AM
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My tiny (in age) brother. Literally everyone fantasizes. Even the people who say they don’t, do. That doesn’t mean they’ll cheat. An author or screenwriter can concoct a perfect novel or movie with literally ideal people. Most women (and men) know it’s fiction. But sometimes they like the fiction. And it doesn’t mean they resent the reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:12 AM
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I actually have an answer for that: nurses cheat so much because they have a shit job and work with people who understand them. Teachers are up there, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:09 AM
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That’s kind of what I’m getting at. I don’t want a pat on the back. I want acknowledgment of my feelings and experiences. Just LISTEN
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:07 AM
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Because so many of us don’t want others to solve our problems. We want you to understand them. Hear them. And just say, “that sucks.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:06 AM
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I have a “work wife” who is my best friend outside my partner. But I’m also dear friends now with her husband. When we first started talking I encouraged her to make our talking known so it wasn’t a secret, and told her that our bond is sacred, but I’d never tell her anything she would be embarrassed about. Communication is literally everything
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:05 AM
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Both me and my partner fantasize about others. We also fantasize about kinks the other isn’t into. You’re going to have to accept 90% in order to get 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 12:02 AM
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I get the lulz in this. But if a woman told me she cheated for a billion dollars, that would be an instant nope. Maybe it’s age or ignorance, but I’d rather find someone who doesn’t cheat. I’d probably date her until I got a car, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:56 PM
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Only cheaters cheat. That’s the hardest lesson I’ve learned over the 40 years I’ve been alive. The ones who will do it for a billion dollars, as per your other comment, will do it for nothing as well. And most women cheat at work. Statistically. With peers making the same amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:50 PM
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So, what’s your body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:47 PM
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This isn’t a male “pick me” comment, but I really don’t get the issue with many men I know or see (professionally) trying to solve problems rather than just fucking listening to problems. I don’t want you to solve my problem and tell me solutions. I want you to hear me and say you understand. Ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:46 PM
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Some women absolutely should. Not all women. Some women (and men) are trapped in abusive relationships. Surely you’d agree they shouldn’t care about being loyal, outside of further abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:43 PM
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I got a ‘97 Integra Type R. I paid the down payment in cash and I miss that car to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:40 PM
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Ainsley, I can’t blow this twice-baked potato! “Not with that attitude” Fuck you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:37 PM
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Room temp meat. And a hot skillet before the oven. Honestly top posts on /r/steak can help you better. And they would love to overload you with advice 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:36 PM
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No. They wouldn’t. If they’re in love. And if they would cheat for a billion dollars, they’d cheat with their coworker making the same money. Cheaters cheat. No one else. Only reason I could think of to stick my dick anywhere else is if my family or partner was having their life threatened.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:35 PM
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I think that probably speaks to the quality of men out there, rather than the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:32 PM
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Same. Stuff your billion dollars. I found mine. And she’s making 82k a year. She’ll be worth a billion in money eventually. She’s worth more now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:30 PM
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Especially if it’s Crack
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:28 PM
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Lol didn’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:27 PM
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Reason I can’t eat meat right there. They’re so freaking cute, ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:23 PM
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Yeah, I would feel the failure as a parent that they resorted to that. If they’re autistic or have down syndrome, and they’re choosing that, and I’m helping them in every way, I’d feel less bad. But if they’re a “normal” kid, I would feel I failed as a parent to get them into activities and kept involved with other kids. As an atheist, I definitely felt part of this struggle with my ex’s son, because I just went to youth group twice a week, even homeschooled, and got social interaction. But with…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:22 PM
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Welcome. And have the best Wednesday.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:18 PM
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Fair. I honestly don’t even know what it means, I just see it thrown about. Also: I enjoy your comments, and your insight across threads. Just fyi.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:11 PM
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Like I don’t buy into HMV or SMV, so was just curious about that. I honestly have no idea what many red pill men mean by it, but I see it all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 11:09 PM
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I ask this as a blue pill man, is it more important that he is constantly trying to improve his “status”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:35 PM
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What do you mean? Sincerely.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:33 PM
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Fair. Most of them can’t be bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:18 PM
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I flirt by fighting. Literally every time. I’ll fight them and they’ll fight back and if they don’t they aren’t for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:16 PM
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Do you work in the industry? I met so many celebrities doing accounting. But that’s because I handed out per diem
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:14 PM
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Truth is subjective. Always has been. Some 16 year old is walking around talking about being black pilled when he’s 16 and has been laid and has a gf. Sorry, just keeps me more blue pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:12 PM
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Texting and being genuine is so easy. And I mean legit genuine. There’s this great episode of Parks and Rec, where Chris (like the nicest and most supportive guy ever) can’t figure out why his pregnant girlfriend is getting so frustrated with him. And of all people Tom (probably typical red pill man, but who also had a heart of gold) told him, “sometimes women need to hear two words from you: that. Sucks.” And yes, it’s a show, and not real life. But sometimes we don’t want our problems solved. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:28 AM
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Same. And women. Whoever I’m into is my priority. And hopefully I’m there’s. Mutually wanting the other to feel so, so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:59 AM
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I have a female friend that used to respond to this type of line with, “my favorite breakfast food is eggs. Unfertilized.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 12:55 AM
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Definitely. We rented an old firehouse complete with a pole slide. Miss those days, but also glad they’re behind me. Hope you’re having the best Sunday, Ainsley!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 02:47 AM
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The theater kids have their own “frat” It’s just not recognized. But we definitely had our own place and people who lived there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:13 AM
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😘😘😘
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 09:26 PM
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That sentiment alone is probably why the men don’t get it. Desperation gives almost all people the ick
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:33 PM
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Lol love this for you both
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:30 PM
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Lol I knew it was gonna happen and still angry 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:42 PM
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Bruh, we’re human beings. You think we can control being turned on by others? Adults who have any morals just don’t act on them, outside masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:27 PM
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Anyone who uses the thumbs up emoji is an asshole. Don’t you dare send that to me 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 06:25 PM
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Where’s the facts on this claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:18 AM
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Are you currently dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:08 AM
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Definitely about the doormat. I think even us blue pill people find those uncomfortable and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 11:02 PM
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Then give up? What do you want me to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 11:00 PM
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Ok. But I would disagree. And it’s ok if we disagree. I couldn’t love my partner half as much as I do if I didn’t love myself first. I let myself be torn down and disrespected by male and female partners, because I didn’t love myself. And if I would’ve done that, I wouldn’t have “loved” them either. I don’t think it’s impossible. But I fear for any man or woman being used, abused, or a doormat
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:25 PM
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That’s not the point. I didn’t respect them and used them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:21 PM
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I was in multi relationships while I still hated myself. In fact most of my n count was during that period. Probably because I was in that period. I hated myself. And used women and men for sex to try and fill a gap, when instead I just filled a literal hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:18 PM
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Let me guess. Therapy doesn’t work and is just for chumps?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:15 PM
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lol knew it So many out door brunches next to people just snoozing. But that’s a whole other topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 09:14 PM
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I don’t know where you are, but I read this and got homesick for LA
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:42 PM
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I agree. You can’t love anyone else until you love yourself. Otherwise you can’t know love. You’ll be needy. Dependent. And a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 08:41 PM
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RemindMe! 1 month
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 12:54 AM
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1) Social Media 2) Took them to a bookstore and we talked about our favorites. Then had coffee and watched the rainfall out the big window. 3) A few hours later 4) I got sloppy drunk and said a whole bunch of shit 5) still going 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:47 PM
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Based on your comment history, I don’t believe anything you say here. But I’ll let you keep pretending.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:05 AM
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There is no way to “act like a man.” That’s purely subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:47 AM
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Literally not true, if you’re worth a woman’s time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:13 AM
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My gf said this to me recently. Jason. Johnny. James. I’m fine with it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:29 AM
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Celebrities are worth more because they bring more. Taylor Swidt and all other celebrities make music and movies that bring in billions every year. The people they employ, and the people who help them with concerts, movie production, etc… The industry, as it’s called here in California, employs millions of people. And they’re dependent on stars making money and people paying to see them. A teacher’s worth is probably invaluable, because we don’t track what happens after school, and how much valu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:23 AM
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Some women might. If they want a trad life especially. My partner literally doesn’t care. Because combined we can travel, take vacations, eat out when we want, etc. We just pool resources. How is this hard to understand? Like literally all my friends and our friends are like this. The 6/6/6 conspiracy is a meme and a joke. And one perpetuated by men who have never dated, or probably even had a female friend. In fact most of them probably would mock men who have female friends as “cucks.” They ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 01:28 AM
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This is why most reviewers leave either 5 stars or 1. If they love or hate something they are super vocal. The people in “3-star” relationships, where everything is just average and fine don’t leave a lot of “reviews” on social media. They’re content, and don’t feel the need to be vocal in a positive or negative way about their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 11:32 PM
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Noticed this with religious people more than anyone else. The religious people I know at work had pressure to get married by mid 20s. I never had that pressure myself, so the idea was completely foreign
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:20 AM
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Maybe for some men/women. Both me and my gf enjoy anal a lot though, wether that be a finger or pegging or PIA
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 11:07 PM
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What you consider boundaries probably aren’t boundaries. At least not what is considered therapeutic boundaries. Which is for ourselves. Not boundaries we can place on our partners. If you think your gf having male friends she regularly talks to, or dressing up and getting dolled up for a night out with friends is a boundary, you’re lost. You don’t get to build a fence around your neighbors house and then get pissed when they cross a line that was never yours to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 10:22 AM
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This is pure victim blaming, and it’s disgusting. The women in all of the scenarios — literally every one — did not deserve to be raped. Precautions be damned.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 10:17 AM
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Trust me. When one relationship or marriage ends in your mid-30s or later, you accept that the majority are single moms or have been married before. You’re not meeting low n count single women at that age. And statistically, you’re going to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:51 AM
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Literally not true. Outside of OLD work is secondary to meeting a partner or spouse
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:46 AM
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You don’t think 25% is significant or “far more”?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:52 PM
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I think this is less of an issue for Gen z. Almost all my employees are in that Gen and are always taking pics for IG and snap, males included
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:34 AM
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Sometimes they’re just friends we take home for the holidays 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 09:00 PM
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Taking away women’s rights won’t go over well. If anything they’ll just stop getting married at all. They aren’t going back on the closet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:11 PM
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I’m not at all threatened by more physically attractive men. Now, men who are funnier than me…absolutely. They go to hell 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:22 PM
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It’s probably the number one kink of women, just to varying degrees. The number who want to be locked up in a Cage and spat on is low, but the number who want to be called a good girl while held down is very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 05:16 PM
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Is that what you truly think? Do you really think women even think about men, let alone rejoice when they “suffer”?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:02 AM
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So? Men and women age. Most people who marry young will date older. Divorce rates show this. And most men in their older ages are not going to be pulling women in their late teens. And even if they could, it would be disgusting. 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:15 PM
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Then he has nothing to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:05 PM
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Not what she said. She said a 30 year old when she was younger was controlling and gaslighting. Stop lying and putting words in peoples mouths to win arguments that aren’t being made.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:34 AM
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So, since garbage men like to say, “height isn’t something men can control,” they should extend the same courtesy to women they want extended to them, since age isn’t something women can control. Right? Or are people being hypocritical again?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:33 AM
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She didn’t say she was single or unmarried. She says she gets hit on. Your insinuation is revealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:28 AM
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Women don’t actively seek out these men. That’s red pill fantasy land, only backed up by selective YouTube videos and cherry picked studies based only on surveys
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:27 AM
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